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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #99_HOST NATALIE HARVEY · DA CREW Podcast

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  woman living inside you. M good evening, good evening. Hello, Hello,
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  Hello, and welcome to a new episode of Let's Chat with Natt.
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  I am your host, Natalie Harvey. I know I've been missing for a
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  few weeks. I was away enjoying a little bit of the summer, having
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  a hot girl summer. It's well, I'm just saying, but we are
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  glad to have you here, Glad to have you join us at the Crew
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  podcast. It's so much going on, so much fun and exciting things,
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  and we just have so much to share with you. Hope everyone is doing
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  well on this Sunday night. It's a beautiful August day. I hope you
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  all are just doing good and being good and loving life and enjoying yourself and
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  just being being you, being human. That's the best way to put it.
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  Um. You know, life life has just been lifing. It's the
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  term that my friends, my stories and I we use this term all the
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  time. Life be life it and sometimes life be really life it and you
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  just have to sit back and take a moment, the brief unwind. Forget
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  about all the stress, forget about all the everything, the rat rate that
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  you have to deal with on an everyday a basis, and sometimes it's go
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  take a minute to reset, re recalibrate, think about, you know,
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  what you're got going on, and how you can do better and be better
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  and just be the best you possible. Tonight's topic is something that's gonna be
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  very special and it's gonna be it's gonna be a conversation about how do you
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  deal with life changes? You know, life is ever evolving, Life is
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  every present, sometimes it's too present, and we just have to figure out
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  how to deal with everything that we go through in life. You know,
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  sometimes the stuff that we know about, sometimes the stuff that we don't know
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  about. But you have to always think that there is a bigger picture and
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  there's, as we say, a rainbow or a light at the end of
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  the tunnel. So basically, how do you deal with these changes, whether
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  it's sudden, whether it's something that you can you know about, just how
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  do you cope with it? How do you deal with it? What do
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  you do? How do you internalize it? Do you keep it to yourself?
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  Do you share it with others? Do you have like a support group
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  that you go to and talk and just unhashed things with, or do you
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  go to you have counselers. You know, it's just so much that life
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  throws at us and sometimes we just we just don't know what to do.
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  So tonight, you know, I love a good chat, So this is
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  what we're going to chat about. What do you do when life throws you
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  these unexpected hurts? You know, I look at different people all around me,
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  and I look at some of the coping mechanisms that people use, and
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  it's interesting how as humans we just we process things in different ways, and
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  we use different avenues. We just do stuff different each one of us.
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  Our mindsets are different, our genetic makes up makeups are different. You know,
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  the way we process things. We may think that we should process it
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  one way, but other people are proctssing stuff another way. But how do
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  you merge the two together? Sometimes you can, sometimes you can't. It's
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  just balid and how you perceive things. Everybody's perception of life is different.
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  Everybody's perception of what one should do with life is different. What my perception
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  is maybe totally different than what your perception is. It all depends on the
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  time, the place, the situation, the atmosphere that you and to be
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  any today, you know, what do you do when it gets to that
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  point? How do you analyze it? What do you do? You know,
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  I'm just gonna say for me, I've noticed, especially as you get
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  older in life and as you deal with certain things, sometimes it's good to
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  write every thing down. And for me, writing has always been a wonderful
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  outlet to anything that I've dealt with, whether good or bad. You know,
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  it gaves me. It gives me the freedom to say the things that
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  I don't feel or sometimes I have to be conscious of what I say,
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  but when I write it, I have that freedom of saying what I feel
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  saying and what's in my heart, and it's in my mind, whether it's
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  good, whether it's bad, whether it's going to hurt someone's feeling, my
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  pen or my fingers. Because you know, now everything is done on your
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  phone or your tablet or your computer, wherever it is. You have that
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  freedom to express yourself in the way that you want to express yourself. And
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  it doesn't have to have anybody's approved, It doesn't have to have anybody's second
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  guess in it. This is strictly for you, how you want and which
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  way you want to handle things. You know, for me, that's just
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  how I deal with things in life. You know. I have friends that
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  sometimes they'll come to me and they'll talk and I don't say anything. I'll
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  just listen because maybe that's their way of venting and releasing whatever it is that
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  they feel. They could feel passionate about it, they can feel stressed about
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  it. Having someone just being that listening air makes a difference than some people.
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  Well, you're just I'm gonna give my two cents. Sometimes we can
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  give our two cents. And I heard that sometimes I got a shot.
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  Be patient, be that support system that that person needs, because they just
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  want you to hear what they have. I don't want the comments they want
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  all of us, Oh you should have or this should be I ain't again
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  for me, sometimes I get like that, I don't want to hear the
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  water shugar Cutter or just being that listening air for a person can make the
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  world of difference, because again, life just has a way of throwing things
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  at us, and it can be off guards. We will not know where
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  it's coming from sometimes, but when it hits us, it's either gonna hit
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  us like a freight trade or gonna hit us and it's gonna take its time
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  and settle in and mellow out and then it comes boom. So you just
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  have to be able to prepare yourself and prepare those around you for you know,
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  whatever it is, however you feel, whatever it is that you have
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  on your heart to say, whatever it is that you're dealing with, be
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  able to be comfortable enough with any you to be that person, or be
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  able to say, I'm dealing with this. I don't need the extra comment,
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  Terry, I just need to listen to the ear or I'm dealing with
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  such and such. I want your opinion. It could be anything. We
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  are all different people. We're all different, so how I may react maybe
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  different than how you're going to react. So we're gonna take a little break
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  and then we're gonna come right back and get right back into our conversation.
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  And then we're gonna go, We're gonna just We're just gonna sat it tonight
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  tonight. It's all about express the heights, feel and deal with your situation
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  and we'll be back. I survived being shot point blank range with a sawed
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  go. I'm a run to flip the scene to retard with what with a
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  little touch of late chart ladies first said, so we are back, and
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  before we went to break, I've made mention of you know, sometimes we
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  deal with stuff unexpectedly and sometimes it just creeps in. Other times it just
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  hits us like a freight train. And you know, for me, I've
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  been dealing with some of that recently where I've I've been dealing with some life
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  changes that kind of crept in and crept up and just came out of nowhere.
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  But one thing that I've learned is that or that not even that I've
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  learned that I am learning, is that you have to be one with yourself.
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  You have to be one with your creator, and you have to be
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  one with your situation and When I say that, what I mean is you
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  have to be ready to deal with anything good or bad, and you you
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  have to be able to say I got Sometimes we don't know what's gonna happen
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  in life, but being able to say I got this, or I release
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  this into your hands. If you're a spiritual or if you're a Christian,
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  you know you'll be able to say, I release this into your hands.
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  You have to get to that point where you're able to say this is not
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  about me anymore. This has been and I've had to deal with that recently,
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  and it's been a challenge. When I tell y'all, it's been a
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  challenge. There has been a challenge. Um, you know, I'm pretty
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  good. If you and a lot of people that know me, they know
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  that I am hand ends on with just about everything in my life, whether
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  it's work, whether it's home, whether it's anything social, whether relationship wise,
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  you name it. I'm a busy body. I got my hands and
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  everything. I don't know how to sit. I don't know how to Sometimes
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  shut am I trash, But I'm learning to shut my traps now. This
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  is why I have this platform, and I love it because I get to
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  talk but you know it, sometimes I'm just always gonna go. And life
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  has been showing me recently that I need to stop, take a breath,
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  take a breathing, listen. And when I mean listen, I mean like
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  really listen, and I say, yeah, I'll listening, you know,
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  like stop, shut up, pause, listen, that kind of listen.
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  And for the last few months, I've realized that that's been the direction that
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  I've been dealing with and with life and with stuff, and it caused me
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  to figure out, like, well, what what is this? What am
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  I being prepared for? Because there's always there's always a pre lesson before the
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  lesson, you know, there's always For my writers, we always have like
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  the pre the interlude or the introduction, so there's always like an introduction before
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  the main story comes about. And I've noticed with me and with life that's
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  what's been happening. There's like an introduction and then here comes the main story.
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  And I've had to become within myself saying, you know what, all
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  right, what's going on. Let's let's take a minute, a minute,
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  let's pause, Let's see how this is going, Let's see where this is
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  going. And it's been a challenge. It's really been a challenge. It's
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  been a journey. And I've realized throughout my life, I've had quite a
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  few journeys that I have been on, and I'm about to go into another
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  journey that I didn't think I would be going into again, but I am.
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  And you know, I think my last show, it was talking about
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  you know, family medical history and stuff like that. But again with the
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  always being on on the goal and always running and always putting everybody first,
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  sometimes you don't stop and take warning coming. And for me, that was
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  what was happening. I wasn't I was still going. I would get into
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  warning, then stop, then go, and I'll keep going. And I
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  was running that cycle for a while. But now i have to stop,
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  take a moment, take a breather, and reassess everything. So I'm gonna
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  share a little story with your guys, and it's it's quick. So about
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  maybe, um, what are we in August? So maybe around mark February
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  at March April, I started to realize started I started feeling stuff in my
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  legs and stuff like that. And I'm always on my feet, always on
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  the golf. My back was hurting me. It was just a lot,
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  and I'm like, okay, I'm at work. I'm on my feet all
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  day, so I'm thinking maybe it could be weight, because sometimes you know,
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  we go up and down and our weight. I'm thinking, okay,
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  if it's not that, then it's me always being on my feet at work,
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  just whatever. Whatever. I didn't realize until one day, like I'm
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  at work and my coworkers are looking at at me being like, man,
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  why are you walking like disrespect to the old people. But like I was
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  walking like I couldn't walk. So I went how when my doctors shut me
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  out? And she said, well, we got some curbage on your side.
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  Whatever, We're gonna see how that goes and everything. So then I
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  would take the medication they put me off some ads. Take the medication.
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  Then started to feel better, but then it will come back. So I
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  wanted to see another doctor and she was like, well, let's give you
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  some changing back work perfectly fine, all right. Then now that started,
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  you know, feeling much better from that. Took a few days where I
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  needed to rast, and I'm like, all right, I'm gonna rast.
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  I was side to everybody telling me you need to rash, you need to
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  stop. Yeah, I can get stubborn like that. Then I started going
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  back on my regular routine and ripping and running doing what I do, because
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  that's just me ripping, running, do what I do. So now fast
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  forward and we're going into the summer months, and I had already told everybody
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  this summer was gonna be a hot girl summer. I was gonna live it
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  up. I was gonna do everything I do this summer. In between me
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  trying to have a hot girl summer, I felt something and I'm like,
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  hmm, what is this? And I said, okay, well, let
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  me let me talk to one of the doctors that I work with, see
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  what's going on and see maybe it's just a little something or whatever. Because
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  you know, I'm in pre metaphors. I'm just that in the third so
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  it could be anything. So I said, all right, no problems.
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  When she sent me for my MAMMO sent me to have my ultratown went and
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  did that. I'm at the ultrasound and they say, well, we're gonna
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  need you to have a bios. So I'm like, okay, whom what's
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  going on. It's like, well, we see something and we then need
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  it. All right, no problems, I'm with this. Sorry, there's
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  gonna be nothing whatever. But in the back of my mind something was like,
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  is this something something? They right? My mind is starting. The
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  wheels in my mind are starting to turn, and I'm like, all right,
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  let me pay it's myself. Let me see what's going on. So
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  I went had my bobs, he done, went on a little another little
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  first little made vacation five black, and boom, I get hit with you
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  have breast cancer. And I'm like, huh what say what do? They're
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  like, yes, you have breast cancer. And I'm like, okay,
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  here we go. Was this what the prelud or the intro wait back in
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  the earlier months was assigned to tell me to slow them? So now you
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  know, I'm going going to my doctor's appointments and they confirmed everything and I'm
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  like, God, really we're going through this like we're doing this And I'm
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  like, you know what, Sometimes we get that warning to make us realize
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  what's going on. And for me, it took that warning for me to
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  say, Okay, I need to chill, I need to pay attention.
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  And this is where I go back to say, life hits us in such
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  a un it's such a way that it's mind blowing and it's hard to father
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  them at times. But then when you get over all of the and I
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  call it theatrics, because we're human were dramatic at times, especially us black
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  women, we could be extra dramatic at x, just extra So once we
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  get over the extraent and we get over ourselves and we get over the thoughts
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  of what is this, why, what, then we get back to reality
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  and we say, Okay, well, I've been laying this show before.
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  I'm gonna back down to row again. And I just I did it one,
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  I'm gonna do it again. So that's the where I'm at. Life
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  has thrown me an unexpected curse, but I'm going in with it full thronging.
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  I beat it one. And you know, sometimes I talk to many
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  people around me and and and they're like, nah, you're just so calm.
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  And it's not so much that I'm calm, just like and I'm gonna
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  be honest. There has been days where it's been like, I'm I get
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  back to myself and I say, girl, you ain't no punk, You're
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  not a bunk one of the ultimate fighters in this world. So for me,
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  I had to the last few days, I had to remind myself of
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  who I am and who who I'm supposed to be, and know that I've
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  impacted a lot of people's lives. And by showing who you are and your
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  tenacity and your gratitude for life and everything that comes with life, it makes
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  you stronger. Now, don't say I'm not gonna say that it's not a
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  struggle, because it will be at times, and it is. But this
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  is what it is. This is life, This is what we have to
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  deal with. These are we're humans. Once we're on this earth, we
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  are going to deal with testing, trials and all kinds kind of different craziness
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  or just anything. So I bring that to you today. So if you
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  see me soon and I may rock a turban, or I may have a
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  hat on, or I may even have a ball ahead, let me tell
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  you because when I went through the first time, I was keeping my ball
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  ahead. I'm just trying to say it was just on EPOPT. You may
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  see me in different different forms, you may see me in different ways,
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  but just no, let's chat with that. We'll be here while I'm going
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  through my process, and this is just another step and walk in my path
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  because this is another pray mott to another book that is gonna come. So
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  you know, life is just funny, Life is strange, life is crazy,
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  But she got wrong with the punches. You gotta do it, and
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  you gotta do it well. You gotta do it with a smile, land
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  and face. Sometimes I may not want to smile. Sometimes I may be
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  aggravated as all hell. But there's a light at the end of the tunnel,
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  and there's a goal that I have to reach, and there's a whole
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  lot of life that I have to live. So I say this to any
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  person, any man, woman, boy, girl, women, we are
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  strong and we are currazes, single mothers, we are extremely strong. I'm
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  doing this twice. When I did this the first time, my sons were
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  ten and eight. Now my sons are twenty one and about to be eighteen.
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  And you know, it's it's a challenge, but we got this.
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  You know it's it's it's it's weird. It's definitely word This time around,
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  I will say this, it is weird, but I got it. I
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  got it, and I'm gonna do it. And like I said, I'm
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  still gonna be here with less shatlan that if I'm not, then you just
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  know I'm probably relaxing, which I have had to learn that I have to
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  relax because I don't know that word. And there's a lot of people that's
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  already or my caves talk about that you have to relax. So that it's
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  gonna be a big challenge for me. But as long as I can sit
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  in front of this computer screen and I can talk with you guys and let
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  me tell you something, because I don't want y'all to think that it's gonna
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  be groom and whatnot. Oh trust me, the fun conversations are going to
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  be coming because we're gonna be in rear form. We're gonna cut it up.
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  Listen. We don't have a time. We're gonna have a time.
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  We're gonna have a time. So this Tuesday I go and I get my
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  port put in, and then this Thursday I start my first treatment and it
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  would be six rounds of the chemo once every three weeks, and then I
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  have three weeks after and uh, yeah, this is this is This is
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  gonna be a journey, and I'm gonna make sure that I bring you guys
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  on this journey with me. I'll give you guys all the updates. Like
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  I said, it's gonna be it's it's gonna be fine because let me tell
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  you something. I got some topics too that I'm gonna have to talk about
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  because let me tell y'all, let me let me just say this for y'all
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  right now, because you see y'all ment folk. Yeah, it's hot now
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  getting good. See the men folks. Sometimes y'all, y'all need to realize
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  who be in your corner. And that's gonna be a topic for my next
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  show. So on that note, I love all of y'all for me like
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  I'm afraid for y'all. I'll keep y'all updated. I will see you on
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  my next show. And we got this all right, good night, Learn
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  my story is true. Don't forget about the little dog. You don't matter
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  what you're going through, they're still super Woman living inside you.