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The $0 Cheat Codes That Will Change Your Life In 2026 · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigle Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey Chicks, I'm out and I'm
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Speaker 1: so and this is Two Boat Chicks, the show that
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Speaker 1: shares life lessons and tips to help make you rich
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Speaker 1: in life and happy Happy New Year Chickies. Twenty twenty
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Speaker 1: six for the Chicks. Let the new track I Know,
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Speaker 1: how are we feeling?
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Speaker 2: Did everyone had a good New ys? Everyone had a
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Speaker 2: good New Year's Wow?
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Speaker 1: Well, a little rusty on the tools a couple of
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Speaker 1: I didn't even do that right. Yeah, but it's good
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Speaker 1: to be back.
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Speaker 3: We've missed you, chicks, We've missed being behind the mix
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Speaker 3: and we're excited for another big year of two Broa Chicks.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've heard your requests of where are the new
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Speaker 1: episodes coming out?
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Speaker 2: And were he So we're getting back into our.
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Speaker 1: First episode of the year, which we did a similar
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Speaker 1: structure or format last year and New Chicks loved it.
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Speaker 1: So we're going to be sharing our cheat codes to
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Speaker 1: have your best year ever.
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Speaker 3: Twenty twenty six for the Chicks.
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Speaker 2: Let's go.
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Speaker 1: But before we get into the episode, of course, we
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Speaker 1: have to discuss our obsession of the week, So sour what.
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Speaker 2: Do you have for me?
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Speaker 3: My obsession of the week is actually an Instagram account
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Speaker 3: that you shared with me, al and it's.
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Speaker 2: Called hot Girl Walk God.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And this chick puts together curated playlists that you
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Speaker 3: can listen to when you're on the treadmill.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like a treadmill workout. Yeah, it's so good.
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Speaker 1: So she has different themed ones.
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Speaker 3: So Alex sent me the Britney Spears one naturally, but
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Speaker 3: she has like Zy Larson, Taylor Swift, all the pop divas.
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Speaker 1: She has also like Wicked. Yeah, like so many different things.
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Speaker 2: Greatest Showmen? What else is going to get you inspired
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Speaker 2: for your workout?
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, the Greatest Showman soundtrack. If you want to
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Speaker 1: become health and wealth, just fucking go for a round
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Speaker 1: listening to that.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, you don't even need playlist.
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Speaker 2: But hey, it's you. It's you. It's you.
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Speaker 1: But yeah.
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Speaker 3: In her post that she does on Instagram, she you know,
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Speaker 3: will have the list of the songs, and then she
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Speaker 3: also has the incline and then also the kilometers per
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Speaker 3: hour that you put it on, which I feel like
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Speaker 3: really mixes it up because sometimes when I go on
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Speaker 3: the treadmill at the gym.
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Speaker 1: It can be like really boring, or I don't really
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Speaker 1: know what I'm doing, or I end up just being
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Speaker 1: lazy and doing the same thing, or I like set
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Speaker 1: it too high and then I go, well, this is
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Speaker 1: too hard, I don't want to do it anymore exactly.
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Speaker 2: And then it's like two minutes relatable. Yeah, so that's
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Speaker 2: my wreck. Oh I like that.
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Speaker 1: What's yours? Okay? My obsession has like multiple facets to it.
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Speaker 1: My obsession of the wheat is Mecca Okay. Yeah, I
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Speaker 1: feel like we could not record this episode and not
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Speaker 1: discuss the multiple headlines that Mecca has at the moment,
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Speaker 1: Like it's not just one, there's lots.
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Speaker 2: So to start with, probably the.
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Speaker 1: Simplest one, has ended its seventeen year partnership with Maya.
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Speaker 1: So if you are unaware, Mecca would have like mini
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Speaker 1: stores within a lot of Maya stores that you could
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Speaker 1: shop Mecha products within Maya, Like there was one in
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Speaker 1: the Sydney CBD, and I'm sure there's ones in a
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Speaker 1: lot of those other larger Maya stores within like head
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Speaker 1: cities like Melbourne and brisbanam Memmong.
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Speaker 2: And yeah, so they've ended that partnership.
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Speaker 1: The second headline, which we've just seen come in this
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Speaker 1: morning of recording, is that Road is officially coming to Mecca.
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Speaker 1: Hailey Beaber's skincare brand will be coming to Mecca on.
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Speaker 2: The twelfth of February, but not all of it.
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Speaker 1: So Mecha have stated the world of Road is on
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Speaker 1: the way. We're so happy to announce that our lineup
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Speaker 1: of curated everyday essentials is coming to Australia and New
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Speaker 1: Zealand very soon. They've also stated that fans will also
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Speaker 1: be able to shop the complete collection from Rhodeskin dot
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Speaker 1: com as of February twelve, six am Australian Eastern Daylight
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Speaker 1: Savings TARFE. So it's not clear what we're actually getting.
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Speaker 1: My interpretation of that is that we're not getting the
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Speaker 1: entire collection.
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Speaker 2: Is yours the same?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? When I initially read it, that's what I thought.
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Speaker 3: Because the use of the word curated, I was like, Oh, okay,
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Speaker 3: so maybe they're just going to be stocking the best
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Speaker 3: sellers or some of their really sought after cult products
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Speaker 3: at Mecca.
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Speaker 2: But then I was like, or are they.
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Speaker 1: Using curated as a descriptor for their products? So I'll
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Speaker 1: be very interested to see and I'll also be very
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Speaker 1: interested to see regardless what the stock levels are going
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Speaker 1: to be like at Mecca, because we've seen that when
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Speaker 1: Road dropped at Sephora overseas, it's sold out very very quickly.
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Speaker 1: So I'm wondering how much stock they're going to get
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Speaker 1: and if they'll be able to keep up with the
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Speaker 1: demand in the Mecca stores. Well. The other thing that
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Speaker 1: I was wondering is how it's going to roll out
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Speaker 1: in terms of beauty loop, because I think there's been
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Speaker 1: a lot of feedback over the last couple of months
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Speaker 1: about those who spend more at Mecca. You know, they're
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Speaker 1: in higher.
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Speaker 2: Beauty loops of Beauty Loot Level four or Magic Circle buckles.
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Speaker 1: They get access to things first. They get access to
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Speaker 1: you know, the boxing day sales first, which we'll get
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Speaker 1: into that, and then they get access to new brand
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Speaker 1: drops like when a Flur I'm saying that bright Flur,
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Speaker 1: the Fragrance brand, the Fragrance brand, they got first access
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Speaker 1: to that first as well. So I wonder and potentially
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Speaker 1: if I had a little Crystal Ball for c I
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Speaker 1: hope that they'll ensure that if they do that, there
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Speaker 1: is enough stock for those who are interested in shopping
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Speaker 1: the brand regardless of whether or not they could afford
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Speaker 1: to spend thousands and thousands of dollars at the store.
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Speaker 1: But at the end of the day you will still
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Speaker 1: be able to shop it from road directly. And the
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Speaker 1: reason why this is for those who don't know. When
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Speaker 1: brands launch into Mecca, a lot of the brands have
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Speaker 1: exclusivity contracts, so the brands actually can't sell to Australia,
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Speaker 1: they can only sell through. It's different with different brands like,
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Speaker 1: for example, Frank Body, they're stocked at a lot of
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Speaker 1: brands they're not exclusive to Mecca. But for previously hour
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Speaker 1: Glass you could only shop our glass through Mecca. They've
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Speaker 1: now left Mecca.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I know.
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Speaker 1: There's also been a couple of questions about the pricing
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Speaker 1: in sales, yes, which moves me to my third obsession
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Speaker 1: speaking of it in this story, what the fuck was
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Speaker 1: going on with the mecha Boxing Day tale?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm scoured. This is alleged.
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Speaker 1: This hasn't happened to Salary personally. This is just what
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Speaker 1: we've seen on the interwebs and from first hand dms
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Speaker 1: from people and videos and also brand statements. So we
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Speaker 1: did not shop the Boxing Day sale. We did not
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Speaker 1: receive any products that were less than the quality that
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Speaker 1: we're expecting, so I really want to preface with that.
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Speaker 1: So basically, Mecca is receiving quite a fair amount of
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Speaker 1: backlash on TikTok and Instagram because a lot of the
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Speaker 1: products that people have bought during the boxing day sales
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Speaker 1: have been a lower quality than what people are expecting.
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Speaker 1: And by that, I mean people have received products with mold,
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Speaker 1: they've received products with bugs. We had one chick send
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Speaker 1: us a DM that she had ants and like larvae
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Speaker 1: in her product that she received, and also expired products.
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Speaker 1: And the way that people have gone about checking this
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Speaker 1: is by looking at the batch codes. So on your
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Speaker 1: beauty products, you get like a serial number, and that
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Speaker 1: is the batch code of when the product was made.
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Speaker 1: It's important to note that there is not a way
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Speaker 1: to completely and one hundred percent accurately check a batch
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Speaker 1: code unless you go directly to the brand.
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Speaker 2: But that's what some people have done.
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Speaker 1: So some people have gone to the brands, such as
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Speaker 1: Laura Mercier and asked when the product was made, and
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Speaker 1: the Laura Mercier has come back and said that product
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Speaker 1: is expired. Go to Mecca and get a refund. So
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Speaker 1: I think absolutely a valid kind of argument that's happened
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Speaker 1: is like, you can't pull batch codes from third party
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Speaker 1: sites because they're not a brand, and you can't pull
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Speaker 1: that data that's not readily available.
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Speaker 2: And I think that's a fair point.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, to be honest, However, I think the fact that
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Speaker 1: people have gone to brands directly said when was this
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Speaker 1: made and they're finding products that are over four years old,
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Speaker 1: five years old and potentially upwards of that is pretty wild. Also,
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Speaker 1: if you look online, it does recommend that the shelf
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Speaker 1: life of an unopened product is three years. Okay, So
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Speaker 1: that's where this discrepancy is happening and where people are
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Speaker 1: getting annoyed. And I'm kind of like, fair enough when
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Speaker 1: it's a brand that notoriously never does sales and you
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Speaker 1: hype up this thing and people get.
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Speaker 2: So excited for it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know what, that's not something that I
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Speaker 3: would have expected from Mecca. Definitely, they can understand people's
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Speaker 3: frustrations because every time we cover a sale event, we
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Speaker 3: do the cheat sheet, we get lots of dms and
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Speaker 3: people asking is Mecha doing a sale?
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Speaker 1: Is Mecha doing a sale?
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Speaker 3: And people wait all year for their Boxing Day sale,
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Speaker 3: which really is their one sale of the year. It's like,
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Speaker 3: isn't anything particularly amazing, but still or competitive, I would say,
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Speaker 3: but people are still excited because they're loyal to Mecha,
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Speaker 3: and I think it's just a really bad look and like,
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Speaker 3: I'm actually really surprised that they've gone with that strategy,
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Speaker 3: knowing that they have been under the microscope for not
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Speaker 3: offering many sales and also, you know, some of the
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Speaker 3: critiques that they've been under fire for, like the beauty
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Speaker 3: loose so on TikTok.
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Speaker 1: Someone commented on the Mecha TikTok saying, Hey, you guys
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Speaker 1: going to address the thousands of customers receiving stock that's
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Speaker 1: expired from old batches, to which Mecha responded, we review
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Speaker 1: all products before sale to meet our quality and freshness standards.
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Speaker 1: For any questions, email our custom care team at Hello Twitch.
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Speaker 1: Then someone's replied from a customer care team from Westman Attilie,
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Speaker 1: to which they confirmed that a petal addition was produced
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Speaker 1: in September twenty twenty two and the shelf life is
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Speaker 1: thirty six months unopened.
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Speaker 2: It's expired. Yeah, there's no response to that, so I
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Speaker 2: think it's a little bit disappointing. I think it's fair
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Speaker 2: enough that people are disappointed.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do really feel for the staff that are
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Speaker 1: working in stores.
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Speaker 2: That's what I was just thinking too, are.
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Speaker 1: Probably copying it and the customers a decision that was
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Speaker 1: made from a lot higher of a level. And there's
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Speaker 1: these poor angels working in store and people are coming
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Speaker 1: in being like the FuG Yeah, and it's not their
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Speaker 1: fault at all. So if you do have a return,
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Speaker 1: and if you are going in store.
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Speaker 2: Bigconto the girlies.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, sure everyone is, but I do feel for them
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Speaker 1: because they would be like, for fuck's sake.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, And like I know, it is really frustrating and
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Speaker 3: like understandably so you're spending your hard earned money on
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Speaker 3: something and not getting the quality that you expect. But
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Speaker 3: even when you are making a complaint and it's valid,
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Speaker 3: you always catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,
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Speaker 3: so they're probably more likely to help you out.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you're confused, go on the h tripleC website.
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Speaker 1: It's all very straightforward on there, and they can also
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Speaker 1: help you with writing any emails that you need to. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: good shot, damn your seat. I'm excited for road though,
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Speaker 1: I'm excited for road. I'm excited to try it. I've
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Speaker 1: never tried it. Maybe I'll be beautiful, I know, maybe
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Speaker 1: I'll be helly Biber. You had that like sailor moon moment. Oh,
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Speaker 1: I come out and a halle beba.
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Speaker 2: Lave for that saying you're going to kick off with
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Speaker 2: our word of the year. We did this last year.
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Speaker 2: I really enjoyed it. Do you remember what yours was?
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Speaker 1: Do you? Yeah?
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Speaker 2: What mine was? Yours? Joy wasn't it? What was it?
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Speaker 1: It was less? That's right, it's all coming back. It's
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Speaker 1: a comember.
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Speaker 2: How'd that go?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Good roller types.
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Speaker 3: I think my word of the year last year was consistency. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: which again I think I think you nailed it.
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Speaker 1: I think so.
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Speaker 2: I think crushed it.
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Speaker 1: Probably had, you know a few moments where we fell off.
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Speaker 2: No no, no, no no, no, I am not was.
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Speaker 1: I am so proud of you because like last year
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Speaker 1: you said you want to start drunk journaling, and you
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Speaker 1: like have never necessarily like we fucking love a hobby.
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Speaker 1: We love like a dope meine hit of like a
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Speaker 1: new bing bong. Yeah right, And I was so proud
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Speaker 1: of how much you like stuck to it.
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Speaker 2: And really just leant in and enjoyed it.
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Speaker 1: Because you do so much for other people, that's just
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Speaker 1: like in your nature, and for you to just do
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Speaker 1: something that was like for yourself and so fun and
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Speaker 1: I just thought it was the best and also so
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Speaker 1: consistent with like your strength and your health.
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Speaker 2: I feel like you nailed it.
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Speaker 1: Ah, thank you. Also your meal prep like you crushed it.
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Speaker 2: Oh, thank you.
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Speaker 1: I appreciate it. The meal preps, They've been mighty delicious,
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Speaker 1: having teas instead of like, why am I like your
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Speaker 1: FBI agent.
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Speaker 2: That's everything that you're doing. I need to calm down.
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Speaker 1: You have actually done a progress. I'm like, this is
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Speaker 1: actually your performance reviews. Sally, thank you for joining us today.
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Speaker 3: But I do think that choosing a word of the
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Speaker 3: Year is a really good way to harness or anchor
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Speaker 3: your goals to something that you want more of in
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Speaker 3: your life. Yeah, because a lot of us map out
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Speaker 3: our goals or our resolutions based on maybe expectations or
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Speaker 3: things that we think that we should be doing. But
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Speaker 3: I do think that the word helped me at least
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Speaker 3: shape some of those goals to do things that.
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Speaker 2: I actually want to do.
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Speaker 1: I feel very differently about New Year's resolutions this year,
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Speaker 1: and I think as well, if you would listen to
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Speaker 1: like maybe an episode three years ago, I've always been
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Speaker 1: like a fucking love news revolutions. I love the best
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Speaker 1: of January and the like I'm drinking that goolo bitch
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Speaker 1: like I love it right, Whereas this year I feel
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Speaker 1: quite differently about it, and I don't actually feel like
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Speaker 1: I have a word of the year this year. I
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Speaker 1: have a mantra Okay, hit me okay, celebration of the
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Speaker 1: rules already.
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Speaker 2: That's okay.
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Speaker 3: I think mine is more of a phrase than a
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Speaker 3: one yea yeah, yeah, okay.
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Speaker 2: Phrase of the year.
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Speaker 1: Let's go rebrand, rebrand. So my mantra for twenty twenty
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Speaker 1: six is life happens from you, not to you. And
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Speaker 1: we have referenced this as a quote on the show before,
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Speaker 1: but this really has been something that I've already been
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Speaker 1: leaning on this year over the break, like there was just,
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Speaker 1: you know, the perfect storm, and it just is one
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Speaker 1: of those things. And I'm not complaining because at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day, shit happens, right, yeap. But it
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Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, calm down, like stop it, everyone,
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Speaker 1: come stop. My cat got fucking pneumonia in summer, which
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Speaker 1: like cool, get petiturance, everyone that's on your homework, but
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Speaker 1: just shit like that that. It was like, at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day, still so grateful, had my health,
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Speaker 1: had my friendships, had my family, have my partner, my
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Speaker 1: cat's Okay, it's fair enough to have those moments where
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Speaker 1: you're like, this is not ideal, like this sucked, Like
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Speaker 1: we didn't get to go on our camping trip that
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Speaker 1: we wanted to go on.
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Speaker 2: We had like eighteen thousand dollars worth.
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Speaker 1: Of vet bills peturance, And in that moment, I was like, Oh,
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Speaker 1: life happens from you, not to you.
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Speaker 2: And I'm such a reactive person right that it's so.
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Speaker 1: Easy to be like why is this happening to me?
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Speaker 1: Is this so annoying? I'm so annoying, I'm so sad,
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Speaker 1: And yeah, you do have to sit in those moments.
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Speaker 1: But I think for me, this mantra is like a Okay,
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Speaker 1: this is happening.
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Speaker 2: Maybe I can't.
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Speaker 1: Control that, but I can control what I do with that,
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Speaker 1: and like how I why navigate this and maybe what
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Speaker 1: I do next time? Creating situations where I feel like
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Speaker 1: empowered or I'm enjoying myself like if I'm feeling a
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Speaker 1: bit you know, when you feel like a bit of
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Speaker 1: a sandbag, and you're like, oh, yeah, you know, I
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Speaker 1: got to make something else happen. Life happens from you,
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Speaker 1: not to you. And I also need to be conscious
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Speaker 1: of making sure this doesn't mean I'm like.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to do a million fucking things. Yeah, so
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Speaker 2: I'm going to hack my entire life, blah blah blah blah.
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Speaker 2: It's not like that.
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Speaker 1: It's more like I get to create the universe that
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Speaker 1: surround me, and that is a clean space at home
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Speaker 1: and doing my fucking washing, and like, how do my
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Speaker 1: actions reflect in the universe that I'm creating. It's a
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Speaker 1: very good perspective to have.
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Speaker 3: And again, like something that can be linked to so
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Speaker 3: many different goals or projects or speed bumps or fuck
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Speaker 3: ups or whatever will inevitably happen. In twenty twenty six,
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Speaker 3: my word or phrase or mantra.
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Speaker 1: Of the year, I do think it is more of
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Speaker 1: an aspirational phrase is peace of mind, because I am
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Speaker 1: a very anxious person, as we all know, and I
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Speaker 1: do think that a lot of the time, like the
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Speaker 1: spirals that I'm having in my own head, like they
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Speaker 1: just they've like my own worst enemy.
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Speaker 3: I'm sure a lot of people feel the same way.
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Speaker 3: So I'm like, what are the different things that I
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Speaker 3: can do to just make me feel more relaxed, more prepared,
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Speaker 3: like I'm more on top of things, and just setting
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Speaker 3: up some of those things in my life. Similar thing
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Speaker 3: like how you like do your washing, make sure your
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Speaker 3: face is clean, like stuff like that that I feel
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Speaker 3: like will make me feel a little bit more grounded
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Speaker 3: and less frazzled. So I was doing a lot of
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Speaker 3: that sort of stuff during the break, so you know,
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Speaker 3: like going back through the year and checking, like just
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Speaker 3: reviewing where some of my money is being going. Unsubscribing
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Speaker 3: from a bunch of subscriptions, but when I signed up,
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Speaker 3: I was using and now I'm not.
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Speaker 1: I felt like I was in the fucking Godfather's how
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Speaker 1: I was like.
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Speaker 2: My family, you don't give me my vote for money,
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Speaker 2: your good brother, I am.
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Speaker 1: Might have been all the Mafia smart books I was
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Speaker 1: reading as well potentially might have been up there.
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Speaker 2: Do you know what that makes sense? That makes sense?
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Speaker 3: Also, like decluttering all the spaces in my apartment that
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Speaker 3: I just don't have time to and I'm doing my
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Speaker 3: regular claim stuff like that booking in like the doctor's
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Speaker 3: appointments and things that I'm like, I really need to
18:34
Speaker 3: get on top of that. I think I said that
18:36
Speaker 3: at the end of last year, Like what are those
18:38
Speaker 3: things that.
18:38
Speaker 1: You're like, fuck, like I really need to do that.
18:41
Speaker 1: Those are the things that I want to get on
18:42
Speaker 1: top of. Yes, how can I prioritize peace of mind?
18:47
Speaker 1: You know how they say how you spend New Year's
18:50
Speaker 1: is how you're going to spend the year. So this
18:53
Speaker 1: year for New Years, there are a few things that
18:56
Speaker 1: you know, I could have done. I could have gone
18:57
Speaker 1: to but I was like, instead, I'm going to stay in,
19:01
Speaker 1: took a sleeping tablet at like ten o'clock, I'd gone
19:05
Speaker 1: to the gym, had.
19:07
Speaker 3: Like a yummy homemade dinner, and clean my sheets and
19:10
Speaker 3: made my bed and like did skincare and just like
19:12
Speaker 3: went to bed at ten thirty. And I was like,
19:16
Speaker 3: now I'm going to prioritize my peace of mind and
19:19
Speaker 3: I know I'm going to feel really good and fresh tomorrow.
19:21
Speaker 3: That's not everybody's cuff of tea, and it's not what
19:23
Speaker 3: you have to do every year, but it's just what
19:24
Speaker 3: I felt like doing.
19:25
Speaker 2: I think it's more and more people cup, I think, yeah,
19:29
Speaker 2: I think more, more and more of us it yeah, yeah,
19:36
Speaker 2: all right, shall we get into our cheat codes? All right?
19:38
Speaker 2: Kick us off sale?
19:39
Speaker 1: Okay?
19:40
Speaker 3: My first cheat code of twenty twenty six is use
19:44
Speaker 3: the fudge ratio.
19:46
Speaker 1: Have you heard of this?
19:47
Speaker 2: No?
19:47
Speaker 1: But I love fudge? Right? Who fucking doesn't? When setting goals,
19:53
Speaker 1: a lot of us fall victim to something that is
19:56
Speaker 1: called the planning fallacy. And essentially it's because a lot
20:00
Speaker 1: of us have a bias towards optimism. So when we're planning,
20:04
Speaker 1: we're planning based upon the best possible and best case scenarios. Right,
20:10
Speaker 1: So when we're planning out how much time or energy
20:13
Speaker 1: or resources you put towards something, you're not really factoring
20:17
Speaker 1: in the things that could go wrong or things that
20:19
Speaker 1: might take longer than what you think. And apparently that
20:22
Speaker 1: is a big part of why a lot of us
20:25
Speaker 1: don't reach our goals or don't reach our resolutions, because
20:28
Speaker 1: we're essentially not giving ourselves enough slack.
20:30
Speaker 3: During these planning moments. That's when the fudge ratio comes in.
20:35
Speaker 3: So if you do struggle to meet your deadlines or
20:39
Speaker 3: you're like, fuck, like, why don't I ever reach my
20:40
Speaker 3: goals or things always take me longer than I think.
20:43
Speaker 3: Here's how you can calculate your own or fudge ratio.
20:46
Speaker 3: So let's say that you're planning out.
20:49
Speaker 1: Like a project for work, for example, how you would
20:52
Speaker 1: figure out your fudge ratio is you list out each
20:56
Speaker 1: of the steps that you need to complete to meet
20:59
Speaker 1: your goals or to complete the task right. Then for
21:02
Speaker 1: each of these you would plan an estimate amount of
21:05
Speaker 1: time that you.
21:06
Speaker 2: Think that it will take.
21:07
Speaker 1: Then, as you're actually completing each of those steps, track
21:11
Speaker 1: down how much time it actually takes and see if
21:16
Speaker 1: there's a difference between how much you predicted and how
21:19
Speaker 1: much time it actually took, because sometimes it might take
21:22
Speaker 1: longer or it might have might take less.
21:24
Speaker 2: Then you add up all of.
21:26
Speaker 3: The estimates how long you thought it was going to take,
21:30
Speaker 3: and then you add up all the time it actually talk.
21:35
Speaker 3: Then divide the total actual time by the estimated time
21:40
Speaker 3: to calculate your fudge ratio. So let's say that you
21:44
Speaker 3: thought it was going to take you sixty minutes to
21:47
Speaker 3: complete a task and it actually took you ninety minutes
21:50
Speaker 3: to complete the task. That means that you are underestimating
21:55
Speaker 3: your time by fifty percent. And apparently if you do
21:59
Speaker 3: this a cross multiple tasks, a lot of people identify
22:03
Speaker 3: a pattern where they'll say that very commonly they underestimate
22:08
Speaker 3: how much time it's going to take them to complete
22:10
Speaker 3: different tasks. And then that way, you know, Okay, if
22:13
Speaker 3: I'm sitting down and I sort of estimate, oh, this
22:15
Speaker 3: is going to take me two hours to do based
22:18
Speaker 3: on previous data, I'm probably gonna need an extra hour
22:22
Speaker 3: on top of that because I know that I typically
22:25
Speaker 3: underestimate how much time that.
22:27
Speaker 1: I need by fifty percent.
22:29
Speaker 2: Yeah.
22:29
Speaker 1: I do also think that breaking down each step that
22:32
Speaker 1: it takes, you could potentially find like different steps in
22:36
Speaker 1: the process that a time leaks for you. Like maybe
22:39
Speaker 1: there's a step in the process that's taking you longer
22:41
Speaker 1: because you're not doing it as efficiently as you could,
22:43
Speaker 1: or isn't required, or like is a real time suck
22:46
Speaker 1: that you didn't really think about.
22:48
Speaker 2: So, if you were planning your New Year's resolutions.
22:51
Speaker 1: This year, right, and it's something that you haven't necessarily
22:55
Speaker 1: done before, how would you go into doing that because
22:58
Speaker 1: you haven't done it? Yeah, So I think that's the
23:01
Speaker 1: thing you have to start with an estimate. So that's
23:03
Speaker 1: why you just kind of have to go off your
23:06
Speaker 1: gut instinct, and that's why it's okay for it to
23:08
Speaker 1: be wrong. Yeah, and it's okay for you to change.
23:10
Speaker 1: I guess it's more of.
23:13
Speaker 2: A checking in, like at the end of the like
23:14
Speaker 2: at the end of January.
23:15
Speaker 1: If you're like, Okay, I thought it was going to
23:17
Speaker 1: take this long, but my fudge says this exactly. Yeah,
23:21
Speaker 1: my first sheet you go to twenty twenty six. Stop
23:23
Speaker 1: buying the sheet.
23:24
Speaker 2: You don't need this. Hurt my own feelings.
23:27
Speaker 1: Yep. I know that this is so obvious, but the
23:33
Speaker 1: way that I'm going to put it into perspective for
23:36
Speaker 1: you is going to break your mind. You're going to
23:38
Speaker 1: blow your mind.
23:39
Speaker 2: If you're twenty twenty five.
23:40
Speaker 1: Wardrobe clean out or declutter ended with multiple bin bags,
23:46
Speaker 1: this is for you because each one of those bin
23:51
Speaker 1: bags of clothes to donate, all things to throw out,
23:56
Speaker 1: was money that you've spent. You need to start looking
23:59
Speaker 1: at your declutters and your wardrobe donations and all of
24:03
Speaker 1: those things as every single one of those bin bags
24:06
Speaker 1: is your money. That's like taking it out of the ATM,
24:10
Speaker 1: put it in the bin and check it out.
24:13
Speaker 2: Hurt my feelings. Yeah, hurt my feelings. So welcome to
24:17
Speaker 2: the bin bag theory. Love it exactly.
24:22
Speaker 1: The volume of what you did clutter is a direct
24:24
Speaker 1: measurement of your impulse spending tax. According to r MIT's
24:30
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four consumer behavior research, Australians discard an average
24:35
Speaker 1: of twenty three kilograms of clothing per person annually AH,
24:38
Speaker 1: with most items being worn fewer than seven times before disposal.
24:44
Speaker 1: So not only is that financial self sabotage, but it's
24:47
Speaker 1: incredibly unsustainable. And A and z's Financial Wellbeing survey found
24:53
Speaker 1: that fifty percent of young Australians report financial stress linked
24:58
Speaker 1: to discretionary spending, including fashion and lifestyle first purchases. So
25:03
Speaker 1: we're like, I'm stressed about money, but here's my bin
25:06
Speaker 1: bags of shit that I didn't need to buy, and
25:09
Speaker 1: I don't have anywhere to put.
25:10
Speaker 2: It, and I don't want it.
25:11
Speaker 1: But I think it is a direct translation and wake
25:14
Speaker 1: up call to how we spend money and how to
25:18
Speaker 1: spend money in twenty twenty six. So I think to
25:21
Speaker 1: make your broke Chick twenty twenty six manifesto right is
25:26
Speaker 1: one fewer better intentional buys two Quality over quantity always three,
25:35
Speaker 1: sales are strategy, not permission to lose your mind.
25:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, heavy on that one.
25:43
Speaker 1: And then four is wardrobe value over wardrobe volume. I
25:48
Speaker 1: think in twenty twenty six, the real flex isn't like
25:50
Speaker 1: a packed fashion wardrobe like we've seen on Hannah Montana
25:53
Speaker 1: on Clueless.
25:54
Speaker 2: I know, but yeah, we get it. But it's a
25:57
Speaker 2: smart one. So learning things like.
26:00
Speaker 1: Fabrics work well in Australian weather, for example, how to
26:04
Speaker 1: spot fake discounts during sale events, or how to build
26:08
Speaker 1: a wardrobe that actually holds value and doesn't fall apart
26:11
Speaker 1: after one wash. Also how to take care of your clothes.
26:14
Speaker 1: So the tailoring your clothes, that's something that I.
26:19
Speaker 2: Want to do more.
26:20
Speaker 1: Maddie's going to come over and teach me how to
26:21
Speaker 1: use a sewing machine. Love that, Yeah, Maddie McCrae.
26:25
Speaker 2: Shout out, Mattie McRae. Or just take them to a
26:28
Speaker 2: tailor if you don't want buy a sewing machine, because
26:30
Speaker 2: that's the other thing that I'm also thinking of.
26:31
Speaker 1: Am I going to spend the money on a sewing
26:32
Speaker 1: machine and be like, oh, I can't be bothered? Yeah,
26:35
Speaker 1: So it's like okay, maybe not like when you also
26:39
Speaker 1: manually track your expenses, which is something that I've started
26:43
Speaker 1: doing and like physically putting the number into a spreadsheet
26:46
Speaker 1: every single time. You're like and then also when you
26:50
Speaker 1: do your budget, you won't feel bad. You'll have that
26:53
Speaker 1: spending allocated that it's like, Okay, do you know what
26:56
Speaker 1: I do want to buy this one thing and it's
26:58
Speaker 1: a bit expensive, and I want to buy this other thing,
27:00
Speaker 1: But you can buy the other thing in a couple
27:04
Speaker 1: of weeks when you have it in your budget and
27:06
Speaker 1: you know you want it, and not buying things because
27:08
Speaker 1: you've just seen it on Pinterest. We've just seen it
27:10
Speaker 1: pop up on your TikTok. I promise it feels really good.
27:14
Speaker 1: It gets like addictive and no more bin bags, no
27:19
Speaker 1: more bin bags. Yeah, it's really good to you know,
27:22
Speaker 1: donate your clothes and sell them on deepop and deck clutter.
27:26
Speaker 2: I completely understand that that's you know.
27:28
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's like the worst thing in the world,
27:32
Speaker 1: but I think you know, that number from that survey
27:35
Speaker 1: is obviously incredibly high and one needs to be brought
27:40
Speaker 1: down for not only a wallet but the planet.
27:43
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my cheat code.
27:45
Speaker 1: No, that's a very very solid one.
27:47
Speaker 2: I back it that can be like our goal for
27:51
Speaker 2: no bin bag the end of the year.
27:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, significantly. It might mean that you have to do
27:57
Speaker 1: like a practic one to start, and I do really
28:01
Speaker 1: recommend trying to donate or sell or like rehome or
28:07
Speaker 1: upcycle what you do have.
28:09
Speaker 2: I'm not saying just go to the red bin and
28:11
Speaker 2: be like babee, but.
28:13
Speaker 1: Yeah, theme your week.
28:16
Speaker 2: Oh we love this.
28:17
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, So credit to Arissa Bua on TikTok for
28:21
Speaker 3: this one. I'll put a link in the show notes,
28:23
Speaker 3: but assign a theme to each day of the week,
28:28
Speaker 3: and this will help you remain more intentional.
28:30
Speaker 2: Throughout the year and fucking eating this. I know.
28:32
Speaker 1: I saw this and I was like, like, this is yes,
28:35
Speaker 1: this is a bit of Alex. Yeah, it's a bite.
28:37
Speaker 3: It's definitely So you can obviously customize this to suit
28:40
Speaker 3: your interests, your schedule, your needs, YadA, YadA, YadA. But
28:44
Speaker 3: here is how Arissa structures every single day of the
28:48
Speaker 3: week to be more intentional. In twenty twenty six, meal Mondays.
28:52
Speaker 3: Every single Monday, she makes a new recipe, She lights
28:56
Speaker 3: a candle, she puts on a beautiful playlist, and makes
28:59
Speaker 3: a delicious meal that she's never made before tidy Tuesdays,
29:04
Speaker 3: she does house admin washes the sheets, clothes, or does
29:07
Speaker 3: a house project like tidying her jewelry box or organizing
29:12
Speaker 3: the junk draw those little things that you often forget about.
29:15
Speaker 3: You'll like this one with someone Wednesdays.
29:18
Speaker 1: I do like this.
29:19
Speaker 3: Plan a date with a friend, do a group workout class,
29:23
Speaker 3: or go to a public space where there are just
29:26
Speaker 3: other people around trivia bingo, pub feed to the library,
29:31
Speaker 3: a coffee shop. Even if, like all your friends are
29:33
Speaker 3: busy during the week, just go out and like be
29:36
Speaker 3: around other people could be a good opportunity to make
29:39
Speaker 3: new friends that girl. Thursdays, wear a cute outfit that
29:44
Speaker 3: makes you feel confident and put a little bit of
29:46
Speaker 3: extra effort into your hair or your makeup to have
29:50
Speaker 3: that that girl energy. And then future life Fridays, spend
29:56
Speaker 3: intentional time learning something that takes care of your future yourself.
30:01
Speaker 3: So this could be working on your budget, or listening
30:04
Speaker 3: to an educational podcast or a book where you're going
30:07
Speaker 3: to learn something, or watching a documentary.
30:10
Speaker 1: But I love that she uses a literation Oh my god,
30:14
Speaker 1: yeah in because like I said.
30:16
Speaker 3: You obviously can customize it to whatever you want to
30:19
Speaker 3: do with your week. But I'm a basic bitch, and
30:23
Speaker 3: I feel like using alliteration or having fun titles for
30:27
Speaker 3: this it really scratches something in your brain and it's
30:30
Speaker 3: going to help you remember it. It's kind of like
30:32
Speaker 3: cheap Tuesday, Mad Monday, Like it's the sort of shit
30:35
Speaker 3: that you are going to remember and every Monday you're
30:38
Speaker 3: going to be like, Yeah, cool, it's my meal Monday.
30:40
Speaker 3: What exciting recipe am I going to be making this week?
30:43
Speaker 3: I just think that that's such an easy cheat code
30:45
Speaker 3: to live more intentionally beyond January, beyond the beginning of
30:49
Speaker 3: the year, and also add some excitement but also some
30:54
Speaker 3: routine to the week that is a little bit more
30:57
Speaker 3: fun and whimsical.
30:58
Speaker 1: I feel like you would love this. Have you seen
31:01
Speaker 1: the TikTok? I can't remember the creator that started it,
31:04
Speaker 1: but I'll find out. I'll put in the show not
31:06
Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five buttons. Oh my god.
31:12
Speaker 3: It actually doesn't have to make sense to anyone but me,
31:16
Speaker 3: so I don't have to explain myself whatever I paraphrase,
31:20
Speaker 3: I paraphrase.
31:21
Speaker 2: God. I love that.
31:22
Speaker 1: So for those who don't know and didn't just have
31:25
Speaker 1: an orgasm.
31:26
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're not chronically online.
31:28
Speaker 1: Yeah. Literally, So this creator to be more conscious of
31:32
Speaker 1: their time and more intentional in their days and kind
31:35
Speaker 1: of realize, you know, I get one day to enjoy myself.
31:38
Speaker 1: Created this like three hundred and sixty five buttons, and
31:41
Speaker 1: so she has two jars and she puts three hundred
31:43
Speaker 1: and sixty five buttons in one jar, and then she
31:45
Speaker 1: has an empty jar, and every day she picks up
31:48
Speaker 1: one button for that day and puts it in the
31:51
Speaker 1: jar to be.
31:52
Speaker 2: Like, this button is my day.
31:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get this one button to spend my day
31:58
Speaker 1: however I want to spend it.
32:00
Speaker 2: Do I want to spend it stressed or anxious or overwhelmed?
32:04
Speaker 1: No? I want this button is fucking button to be
32:10
Speaker 1: happy and joyful and experience the best that life has
32:13
Speaker 1: to offer and be intentional with my time and acknowledge
32:17
Speaker 1: that I get this one day to be alive. I
32:19
Speaker 1: was like, that's so up your alley. But I also
32:22
Speaker 1: love all of the content around out people being like,
32:25
Speaker 1: but what are you doing with the button where you're
32:28
Speaker 1: getting the button? Like you're fining a new button every day,
32:31
Speaker 1: And she was like, I don't have to explain myself.
32:33
Speaker 1: I was like I actually love that, even yeah, it psychonic.
32:37
Speaker 1: My final cheat code potentially a controversial one, And this
32:42
Speaker 1: is what I've kind of been like talking about at
32:45
Speaker 1: the start of the episode and where I'm kind of
32:47
Speaker 1: sitting with news resolutions, and my cheat code is that
32:50
Speaker 1: news resolutions won't make you happier, healthier, smarter, or richer.
32:55
Speaker 1: I was reading a substack from Celeste Davis who has
32:59
Speaker 1: an article that's news resolutions won't make you happier, and
33:03
Speaker 1: it referenced to nineteen thirty eight Harvard study and the
33:06
Speaker 1: study said, what is the most important contributor to human happiness?
33:10
Speaker 1: They interviewed hundreds of participants from all around the world
33:14
Speaker 1: and followed up with them every two years, recording their incomes,
33:18
Speaker 1: health records, relationship statuses, air quality, and dozens of other metrics.
33:23
Speaker 1: Eighty five years later, the same study is still ongoing.
33:28
Speaker 1: And what have they found to be the number one
33:31
Speaker 1: most important indicator in predicting someone's life long health and happiness.
33:37
Speaker 1: Is it diet, fitness, air quality, wealth, No, it's the
33:42
Speaker 1: strength of their relationships. Fuck. So I found this incredibly
33:46
Speaker 1: enlightening because when you look at the most popular news resolutions, right,
33:51
Speaker 1: it's save or make more money, improve fitness, eat healthier,
33:56
Speaker 1: potentially lose weight, sleep more. And yes, having goals is
34:00
Speaker 1: important and prioritizing your health is also important. Yet the
34:04
Speaker 1: number one indicator for lifelong health and happiness is strong
34:09
Speaker 1: relationships and doesn't make a feature in the top resolutions
34:13
Speaker 1: of the year. Yeah, she continues to say, Harvard's longest
34:18
Speaker 1: longitudinal study says that people who live the best lives,
34:22
Speaker 1: the most fulfilled lives, weren't the ones who made the
34:25
Speaker 1: most money. They weren't the ones that stayed the healthiest.
34:28
Speaker 1: They weren't the ones that exercised the most. They weren't
34:31
Speaker 1: the ones with the best jobs, the greatest social status.
34:34
Speaker 1: They were the ones that had a threadline of meaningful
34:37
Speaker 1: connection relationally throughout the tapestry of their life. So it
34:41
Speaker 1: just made me think about my priorities for the year
34:44
Speaker 1: that I was like, do I want to sit here
34:47
Speaker 1: and be like I'm going to exercise three times a
34:50
Speaker 1: week and I'm going to eat four apples, And I'm
34:53
Speaker 1: like it, you know, like I'm going to drink seven
34:55
Speaker 1: hundred liters of water.
34:57
Speaker 2: Do you know what that would actually probably be less
34:59
Speaker 2: than you're actually suppose ye drink that I just was like,
35:03
Speaker 2: I don't really care. I don't really care.
35:07
Speaker 3: Do you think we're shifting more towards this as a
35:10
Speaker 3: society as well? I think a lot of people are
35:13
Speaker 3: getting quite overwhelmed by the constant pressure to feel like
35:18
Speaker 3: we need to improve and that.
35:21
Speaker 2: We're all our own little black.
35:23
Speaker 3: School projects that we need to work on. And of
35:25
Speaker 3: course we want to be the best version of ourselves,
35:29
Speaker 3: but maybe that does mean putting more of a priority
35:32
Speaker 3: on the relationships with people in your life, but also
35:36
Speaker 3: with yourself.
35:37
Speaker 1: Yeah. In twenty twenty six, I wanted to also share
35:40
Speaker 1: another article I found, which you could say is maybe
35:43
Speaker 1: my third sheet code, And it's an article called the
35:46
Speaker 1: Regrets of Dying Oh God. So for many years the
35:51
Speaker 1: author worked in palliative care and she says that my
35:55
Speaker 1: patients were those who had gone home to die. Some
35:58
Speaker 1: incredibly special times were shared with them for the last
36:01
Speaker 1: three or twelve weeks of their lives. And she's written
36:05
Speaker 1: an article. She also has a book, and it's the
36:08
Speaker 1: top five regrets that people had when they were dying.
36:13
Speaker 1: Five I wish that I had let myself be happier.
36:17
Speaker 1: This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize
36:19
Speaker 1: until the end that happiness is a choice, and that
36:22
Speaker 1: they had stuck in old patterns and habits of so
36:25
Speaker 1: called comfort, and the fear of change had them pretending
36:28
Speaker 1: to others and to themselves that they were content. Number four,
36:33
Speaker 1: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
36:36
Speaker 1: Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of
36:39
Speaker 1: old friends until they're dying weeks, and it was not
36:41
Speaker 1: always possible to track them down. When you were faced
36:44
Speaker 1: with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away.
36:48
Speaker 1: People do want to get their financial affairs in order
36:50
Speaker 1: if possible, but it's not money or status that holds
36:53
Speaker 1: the true importance for them. They want to get things
36:56
Speaker 1: in order more for the benefit of those that they love,
37:00
Speaker 1: usually though they are too ill and weary to ever
37:02
Speaker 1: manage this task, and it all comes down to love
37:05
Speaker 1: and relationships in the end. Number three, I wish I
37:09
Speaker 1: had the courage to express my feelings. Number two I
37:14
Speaker 1: wish I hadn't worked so hard. By simplifying your lifestyle
37:19
Speaker 1: and making conscious choices along the way, it's possible to
37:22
Speaker 1: not need the income that you think you do, and
37:25
Speaker 1: by creating more space in your life, you become happier
37:28
Speaker 1: and more open to new opportunities, ones that suited your
37:32
Speaker 1: new lifestyle more. And number one, the number one regret
37:37
Speaker 1: that people had when they were dying.
37:39
Speaker 2: This is very morbid, but it's very powerful.
37:42
Speaker 1: Is I wish I'd had the courage to live a
37:45
Speaker 1: life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
37:50
Speaker 1: And she says this was the most common regret of all.
37:54
Speaker 1: When people realize that their life is almost over and
37:56
Speaker 1: look back clearly on it, it's easy to see how
37:59
Speaker 1: many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored
38:03
Speaker 1: even half of their dreams and had to die knowing
38:05
Speaker 1: that it was due to choices they had made or
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Speaker 1: not made. It's very important to try and honor at
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Speaker 1: least some of your dreams along the way from the
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Speaker 1: moment that you lose your health, it's too late. Health
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Speaker 1: brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer
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Speaker 1: have it. And I was like, oh my god, yeah,
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Speaker 1: that like hurt my feelings, but also is so enlightening
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Speaker 1: and empowering and like a fucking stick of gratitude dynamite
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Speaker 1: up the ass to be like, come on, girl, like
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Speaker 1: I've read that, And I went, oh, my god, you
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Speaker 1: don't care about half of this shit that I'm supposed
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Speaker 1: to fucking care about. Like I'm supposed to care about
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Speaker 1: all this crap.
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Speaker 2: That I'm like, I'll just drink a glass of water.
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Speaker 1: I don't need to put it on a board, Like
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Speaker 1: I don't need to track my progress with Like if
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Speaker 1: I want to go for a walk, I'll go for
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Speaker 1: a walk because I feel good and it makes me happy,
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Speaker 1: but not because I'm supposed to be doing it or
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Speaker 1: I should be doing it.
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Speaker 2: What do I want to do?
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Speaker 1: So last year I shared a cheat code that I
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Speaker 1: think I'll be carrying into this year again, but maybe
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Speaker 1: a little bit differently. And it's the one hundred hour
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Speaker 1: rule or the rule of one hundred and that simply
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Speaker 1: eighteen minutes a day of one thing is one hundred
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Speaker 1: hours a year, and you'll outperform ninety five percent of
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Speaker 1: the world in any skill you choose. So you could
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Speaker 1: look at that as like, I want to learn piano,
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Speaker 1: and I'm going to do eighteen minutes a day of piano,
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Speaker 1: or I'm going to learn French. But my goal this
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Speaker 1: year is to spend eighteen minutes a day just doing
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Speaker 1: something I wanted to do and literally intentionally having that
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Speaker 1: time and putting a timer on and saying, Okay, for
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Speaker 1: eighteen minutes, I want to read my book, or for
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Speaker 1: eighteen minutes.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to go for a walk. And my goal,
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Speaker 2: my one goal.
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Speaker 1: Is to get to the end of the year and
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Speaker 1: look back, and I'm going to write it down in
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Speaker 1: my little notes app.
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Speaker 2: I'm thinking of putting a little thing on.
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Speaker 1: My fridge and be like, Okay, I spent one hundred
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Speaker 1: hours this year having fun or doing something I wanted
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Speaker 1: to do, and that's my goal. Because I'm like, I
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Speaker 1: don't fucking care about how many squats I did, yeah,
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Speaker 1: or if I ate enough sweet potato or like.
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Speaker 2: Whatever, I feel like it just gets two in the weeds.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just like Bobes, I think that's important. So
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Speaker 1: it is important. Yeah. And also, if your goals are structured,
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Speaker 1: if your goals are five set goals with absolute yes
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Speaker 1: or no values to them, that is beautiful. That is
40:48
Speaker 1: so fine because that is what you want to do.
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Speaker 1: But that is where my brain is at this year.
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Speaker 2: That I'm like, do you know what I'm good? I
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Speaker 2: feel like as well.
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Speaker 1: I have never necessarily achieved a New Year's resolution, and
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Speaker 1: I think that can get in your head of like, well,
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Speaker 1: what's the point?
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Speaker 2: And so I'm kind of leaning a little bit into.
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Speaker 1: Myself and my habits of like, Okay, well, why do
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Speaker 1: I keep setting these things that I never achieve? Maybe
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Speaker 1: I just need to be myself and enjoy that and
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Speaker 1: take little baby steps of eighteen minutes of doing things
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Speaker 1: that I think at the end of the day you
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Speaker 1: know will make you feel good. You know, going for
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Speaker 1: a walk will make me feel good. I don't need
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Speaker 1: to put rules on it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, take away some of that pressure that a lot
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Speaker 3: of us feel at the beginning of the new year
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Speaker 3: to set those goals, which, as we said, if you
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Speaker 3: do like them, to be in that sort of format
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Speaker 3: where you have like this is my goal, this is
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Speaker 3: the outcome, this is how I track it. That's incredible
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Speaker 3: and of course we love that. But it reminds me
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Speaker 3: of a quote that I saw, and it's actually from
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Speaker 3: Virginia Wolf and in nine eighteen thirty one, she wrote
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Speaker 3: in her diary, my New Year's resolution is to have none,
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Speaker 3: not to be tied, to be free and kindly with
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Speaker 3: myself sometimes, to read, sometimes to not read, To go out, yes,
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Speaker 3: but stay at home in spite of being asked. And
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Speaker 3: as for clothes, I think to buy good ones. So
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Speaker 3: just do what you want.
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Speaker 1: I feel like that's the entire paaring of this episode. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so yeah, I think lean into your freedom of choice.
42:30
Speaker 2: Free will is sexy.
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Speaker 1: It is, you know, the best cheat code of all.
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Speaker 2: The best cheat code of all, free fucking will.
42:38
Speaker 1: Now if you did listen to that and kind of
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Speaker 1: felt a little bit overwhelmed because maybe you don't feel
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Speaker 1: like you have community yet very emphasis, strong emphasis on yet,
42:49
Speaker 1: or you don't feel like you have that connection all
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Speaker 1: those friendships. I want to recommend the one book you
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Speaker 1: should read in twenty twenty six to build community and friendships,
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Speaker 1: and it is Finding Your Peace People.
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Speaker 2: We wrote this book purely for this purpose.
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Speaker 1: So if you want to build strong community in twenty
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Speaker 1: twenty six, you need to read Finding Your People because
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Speaker 1: this book is the bible to prioritizing your own happiness,
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Speaker 1: to identifying the friendships that don't support that, and also
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Speaker 1: to finding the community that does. So I may be biased,
43:23
Speaker 1: but I wish I had this book when I was
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Speaker 1: twenty because it is every piece of hardship and joy
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Speaker 1: and fruitfulness in gaining community and friendship that we've experienced,
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Speaker 1: and it makes you truly realize how much time you
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Speaker 1: have wasted on the wrong things in life, but.
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Speaker 2: Also helps you feel joy and excitement for the right
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Speaker 2: things too, So we'll link that in the show notes.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, love it, love it.
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Speaker 2: Whoo. I feel so pumped, I feel so excited.
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Speaker 1: The check Sorry, sorry that was that was probably a.
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Speaker 2: Lot for anyone listening. The go ahead phones twenty twenty
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Speaker 2: six for the Chicks Chi Fudge. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well, on that note, thanks for having some holes. We
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Speaker 1: love to be here and we'll see you next time.
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Speaker 1: Yeah well do wait back bye bye