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Episode #254: Reacting With Intention · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Oh we start. Welcome to Tea Time with Amy and Beb.
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  Speaker 2: It just said recording in progress on this site. So
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  Speaker 2: here we are.
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  Speaker 1: There was a slight pause. I'm like, are we doing
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  Speaker 1: anything okay? Anyway, Hi, everybody, Welcome to Tea Time with
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  Speaker 1: Amy and Beb.
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  Speaker 2: Good day, Good day sister. How what'd you say?
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  Speaker 1: I said, good day, sister, Oh, how are you doing well?
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  Speaker 1: As I mentioned before we start recording and I told
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  Speaker 1: you to shut your face.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: I had mentioned that my nose has been like I said,
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  Speaker 1: running but dripping, uh for like a week, And you said.
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  Speaker 3: I said, it's the path of least resistance. You're releasing.
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  Speaker 3: That's an easy way to release. So if we if
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  Speaker 3: we can release things from that kind of you know,
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  Speaker 3: we could do it from crying, we could do it
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  Speaker 3: from vomiting diarrhea.
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  Speaker 2: There's all what kinds of ways to release things.
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  Speaker 3: Laughing that's probably the best one, but maybe you haven't
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  Speaker 3: been laughing enough.
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  Speaker 2: But to me, a lot.
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  Speaker 3: About stuff happens, Like when I had a cop I
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  Speaker 3: knew I would remind myself I wanted to be heard,
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  Speaker 3: needed to be seen, you know, and clearing at the
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  Speaker 3: same time, and a running nose crying, it's like it's
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  Speaker 3: just releasing stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Well, we don't have to know.
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  Speaker 1: Also, if you've ever noticed this most people, you'll probably
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  Speaker 1: have that when you are suppressing your tears that it
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  Speaker 1: will your nose will run.
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  Speaker 2: So I would say.
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  Speaker 1: That there are some things I'm processing that I am
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  Speaker 1: suppressing and processing, so it's not like I'm just pushing
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  Speaker 1: it down and ignoring it. But it's still in there
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  Speaker 1: and I'm processing, so it's having its release with dripping
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  Speaker 1: down my nose.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so processing a little bit at a time. Right,
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  Speaker 3: we can't do it all at one time, but it's
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  Speaker 3: awesome but at the same time because it means you
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  Speaker 3: got all the stuff on the surface that's ready to go.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the great thing. I heard someone.
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  Speaker 3: Yesterday say something along the lines we have a tendency
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  Speaker 3: to react to things, right, but he says, from this
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  Speaker 3: moment on, only react to the things that you want
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  Speaker 3: in your life.
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  Speaker 2: There you go, only react to that.
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  Speaker 3: So you don't ever give your attention because you're creating that,
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  Speaker 3: You're bringing it into your experience. You're like saying, hey,
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  Speaker 3: I'm over here, come on in. And that's some of
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  Speaker 3: the stuff you don't want to come on in. So
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  Speaker 3: now it says on one of the things on my board,
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  Speaker 3: it says, react only to that which you want in
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  Speaker 3: your experience.
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  Speaker 2: And if we remember every time when we start to
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  Speaker 2: play those stories in our head.
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  Speaker 3: Because I've been doing this so I can speak from experience,
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  Speaker 3: i can hear of a story starts to come up
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  Speaker 3: and I'm like, no, that's my e go and we
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  Speaker 3: love you, but we're going to try to do it.
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  Speaker 2: This a little differently.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like I'm talking to my ego as it's
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  Speaker 3: a child and it doesn't need to have the constant
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  Speaker 3: attention because it already has the attention that it needs.
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  Speaker 2: I see it. I love it.
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  Speaker 3: But it's also recognizing that I want to I want
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  Speaker 3: to create the things that I want in my experience,
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  Speaker 3: and I have not been I've been creating willy nilly, right,
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  Speaker 3: I've been creating from a past traumas or or other
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  Speaker 3: you know, whatever whatever it is.
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  Speaker 2: And so I don't. I just am choosing to do differently.
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  Speaker 3: And it's funny when when we're ready to change, right,
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  Speaker 3: when when you want to teach, if a teacher appears,
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  Speaker 3: and the teacher can appear in so many different ways,
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  Speaker 3: of YouTube from us. It could be from you could
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  Speaker 3: be strolling through TikTok, you could be at the grocery store.
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  Speaker 3: You can hear a song, see a message on the
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  Speaker 3: back of a vehicle. A small child might say something
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  Speaker 3: to you. There's like so many limitless possibilities that information
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  Speaker 3: comes to us. But it's like, it's nice. It makes
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  Speaker 3: it more fun, especially when you have an awareness of
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  Speaker 3: all that going around to you. Then it makes it
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  Speaker 3: even more fun. Then you can start seeing the synchronistic
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  Speaker 3: events like listening to Maybe you're listening to or reading
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  Speaker 3: on YouTube and it says while you're on the highway
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  Speaker 3: and I'm like, I just turned on the highway, get
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  Speaker 3: out of my car. Or I'm sitting in front of
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  Speaker 3: the mirror doing some makeup and it says while you're looking.
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  Speaker 2: In the mirror and I'm like, shut her. They're like,
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  Speaker 2: get out.
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  Speaker 3: Because that's the fun stuff, right, that's the fun stuff
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  Speaker 3: we can have all the time when we slowed down
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  Speaker 3: to pay attention to it because the time we don't notice.
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  Speaker 1: I'll tell you real quick, since you just said those,
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  Speaker 1: my mom sent me a text and she said, my friends,
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  Speaker 1: my friend's mom just passed away and they got in
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  Speaker 1: their vehicle, or they went to the service and they
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  Speaker 1: got in their vehicle and Stairway to Heaven was on
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  Speaker 1: the radio.
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  Speaker 2: That's so awesome.
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  Speaker 3: Because if people don't realize that they can dismiss it.
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  Speaker 3: I have dismissed things too many times in my lifetime,
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  Speaker 3: and that's that's our intuition. You're dismissing your tuition. So
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  Speaker 3: then it's like you.
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  Speaker 2: Turn your back on it.
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  Speaker 3: You're walking away from it, and it's still talking to you,
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  Speaker 3: the same voice that you can hear louder and louder
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  Speaker 3: and louder, but you're walking away from You're like, no,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not going to listen to this right now for
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  Speaker 3: whatever reason, because because me and my ego have other
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  Speaker 3: plans and you don't. You don't know what we want,
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  Speaker 3: right you don't know what we need when it's not
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  Speaker 3: even a true story.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And so when you think about that, react I
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  Speaker 1: wrote it that, react to only those things you want,
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  Speaker 1: or there's other ways to word that. That's what I
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  Speaker 1: wrote down, react to only those things you want?
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  Speaker 2: What does that look like? What does that mean? What
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  Speaker 2: does that look like? If you if something like you
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  Speaker 2: see somebody else winning a bunch of money. It's like,
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  Speaker 2: get excited about it.
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  Speaker 3: React to that, You have a reaction, have a have
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  Speaker 3: a like, oh that's so good, that's so awesome, instead
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  Speaker 3: of being like, oh, I don't have that, you know,
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  Speaker 3: it's the opposite of that, or.
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  Speaker 2: Even thinking about I think about the kids.
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  Speaker 3: Coming over and just laughing and playing, and then that's
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  Speaker 3: the time for me to react. Is still laugh and play.
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  Speaker 3: That's my reaction to that or laugh and play. Reaction
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  Speaker 3: is not normal that we normally use in phrases like
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  Speaker 3: this because we've been using it for so long as
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  Speaker 3: a reaction to something, you know what I mean, instead
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  Speaker 3: of just being part of the conversation. Or I can't
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  Speaker 3: remember the other word right now, but react, react.
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  Speaker 2: To me was wasn't bad.
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  Speaker 3: But it's like it's just finding different things. It's it's
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  Speaker 3: allowing yourself to be your inner child and get excited
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  Speaker 3: about things. Get giddy, like be celebratory about things, you know,
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  Speaker 3: thinking about even the new house you're creating.
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  Speaker 2: Get excited about those things. Those are the things you
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  Speaker 2: want to react to.
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  Speaker 3: Or you're looking through and you're finding pictures of something,
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  Speaker 3: and you see a picture of something you like a lot,
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  Speaker 3: find that you're reacting to it from a space of
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  Speaker 3: I love this, It's beautiful. I can see myself walking
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  Speaker 3: through that door right now. I can see myself holding
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  Speaker 3: these keys in my hand, and I'm having this has happening.
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  Speaker 2: To me right now.
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  Speaker 3: I'm talking to you, but I can see me putting
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  Speaker 3: my keys into my my front door and I open
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  Speaker 3: up that door, and it's like, what does it look like?
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  Speaker 2: Like? This is exciting?
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  Speaker 3: This is I'm reacting, having a reaction to what I'm creating.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna have a reaction to things that I see
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  Speaker 3: other people doing that I find joy in. If I
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  Speaker 3: see a mom and a daughter just like really like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, just so talking to each other so nicely,
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  Speaker 3: and they give each other hugs and stuff like that,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to react to that. Maybe I'm gonna have
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  Speaker 3: a tear, or maybe I'm just gonna sit there and smile.
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  Speaker 3: You know, comedy, you want to sit and laugh at that.
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  Speaker 3: That's my reaction to the comedy.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, So in my history, abandonment being abandonment and
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  Speaker 1: abuse with the significant men in my life. So I
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  Speaker 1: would struggle as I got older watching movies where there
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  Speaker 1: was a father daughter connection and it would just be
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  Speaker 1: that longing and that desire and that sadness. Right, and now,
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  Speaker 1: interesting enough, I've been doing what you're saying.
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  Speaker 2: Now, it's like.
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  Speaker 1: That's amazing they have that relationship. Isn't that a blessing
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  Speaker 1: that she gets to experience that with her father? So
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  Speaker 1: I've been doing that expressing the joy of what other
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  Speaker 1: people are experiencing. Yeah, and it's it goes along. Your
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  Speaker 1: words are react only those things that you want or
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  Speaker 1: what you want to attract you. The other words I've
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  Speaker 1: heard is bless that which you want to receive. Same thing,
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  Speaker 1: just worded differently. And typically what we are programmed to do,
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  Speaker 1: or our normal practice is is the longing, the desire,
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  Speaker 1: the jealousy, the envy, and those all bring our energy down.
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  Speaker 1: So you could be having a maybe you're just bumping
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  Speaker 1: around in life and somebody says, oh my gosh, my
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  Speaker 1: mom gave me five hundred dollars, and here you're struggling
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  Speaker 1: with your finances and you're just like, it's just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: ruopy ding dong, I don't give a shit.
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  Speaker 2: So the opposite.
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  Speaker 1: So when you're in that, then that type of energy,
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  Speaker 1: then of course you're going to continue getting matching that
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  Speaker 1: vibrational frequency, getting what you're focused on, which is the
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  Speaker 1: lack which not having enough and blessing that what you
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  Speaker 1: want or reacting to that to only what you want
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  Speaker 1: is that excitement, that joy, that exhilaration, all the things
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  Speaker 1: that lift you up. And it may be through watching
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  Speaker 1: somebody else, watching them receiving. If they're amazing at receiving goodness,
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  Speaker 1: learn from them, let them be your teacher in the
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  Speaker 1: sense of watch them, observe them, take notes, implement what
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  Speaker 1: they're doing. If they laugh more often than not, laugh more,
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  Speaker 1: if they're kind to other people, be kind. Obviously that's
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  Speaker 1: working for them, and it can work for you as
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  Speaker 1: well if you implement it. And the opposite is to
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  Speaker 1: sit back and play Woe is Me and victimhood and
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  Speaker 1: be in that heavy frequency of not having and.
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  Speaker 2: That's what we do.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's the focusing on our reality right now of
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  Speaker 1: not having enough. Well, in reality, you actually have enough
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  Speaker 1: and you are capable of getting more. Absolutely so for
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  Speaker 1: my my for me just this morning actually yesterday morning,
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  Speaker 1: yesterday morning, this morning, I'm like, okay, same with you.
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  Speaker 1: Like ego, I'm getting in my head focusing on what
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  Speaker 1: is I need to shift this.
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  Speaker 2: I gotta shift this now.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta get out of my head. I gotta I
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  Speaker 1: need to shift my mindset and my focus.
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  Speaker 2: What's my go to? Abrahams?
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  Speaker 1: Like? I turned their video on and listen while I'm
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  Speaker 1: getting ready for work, Listen as I'm going to work.
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  Speaker 2: And here's what happened yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: Just yesterday, I was realizing where my mindset was. Listen
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  Speaker 1: to Abrahams while I was getting ready for work, Listen
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  Speaker 1: to it on my way to work. I got to
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  Speaker 1: work and a co worker came to me and.
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  Speaker 2: She says, I have this gift card.
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  Speaker 1: I don't eat at this place, you can have it.
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  Speaker 1: And then not two hours later, my boss comes in
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  Speaker 1: and says, we're invited to go over to so.
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  Speaker 2: And so's office.
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  Speaker 1: She's her birthday, she's having food delivered. So I got
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  Speaker 1: a gift card and I got a free lunch within
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  Speaker 1: hours of shift my energy.
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  Speaker 2: Nice.
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  Speaker 3: And that's really something to talk about too, is to
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  Speaker 3: so you already got your go to Abraham Hicks is
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  Speaker 3: your go to when you're when you're in that space.
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  Speaker 3: And that's good because I've listened to other people and
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  Speaker 3: it's like, really, anybody that's listening really kind of set
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  Speaker 3: yourself up. Don't wait till you're you know, like if
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  Speaker 3: if anybody's watched Caesar Malan, he talks about the red zone,
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  Speaker 3: and he talks about dogs getting into the red zone
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  Speaker 3: where they've attacked another dog or there. You know, there's
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  Speaker 3: no stopping him at this point. They've already passed that face.
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  Speaker 3: So it's to catch it ahead of time. And so
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  Speaker 3: you're catching it ahead of time. And so I've heard
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  Speaker 3: people set up. Maybe they'll have like a folder on
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  Speaker 3: their phone, or they might have kitten videos, puppy videos,
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  Speaker 3: babies laughing, you know, stuff like that. They might have
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  Speaker 3: a certain type of music that they listen to when
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  Speaker 3: they're in this stage, and then they'll have another sech
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  Speaker 3: type of music when they're in the next stage or
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  Speaker 3: the next stage. So it's kind of and and really
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  Speaker 3: you're getting to know yourself by by seeing how can
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  Speaker 3: I here's your Erubic's cube, go play with us for
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  Speaker 3: a few minutes, and you come back and play with
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  Speaker 3: everybody else. You know, But it's it's whatever works because
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  Speaker 3: it takes out of that space it gets that's I
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  Speaker 3: feel like that's the fastest way to get us out.
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  Speaker 2: Of those mindsets.
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  Speaker 3: So if you have like a ladder of stuff that
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  Speaker 3: you're listening to, it can take you from one space
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  Speaker 3: to the next. I've always heard you can't get there
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  Speaker 3: from here, you know what I mean. If you're in
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  Speaker 3: a shitty mood right this moment, you can't get to
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  Speaker 3: bliss in a couple of seconds, not typically, And if
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  Speaker 3: you guys figure it out, you better be letting us
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  Speaker 3: know because otherwise that's rude.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, right, But otherwise you typically don't.
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  Speaker 3: So it stages right, It steps up in a ladder.
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  Speaker 3: It runs on a ladder. So it's one thing at
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  Speaker 3: a time and the next thing you know, you're in
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  Speaker 3: a great space. But it's just recognizing those things. And
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  Speaker 3: we don't always. I don't always, And I know what
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  Speaker 3: helps me. For me, it's like go into a meditation,
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  Speaker 3: go sit and breathe. But sometimes I can't get into
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  Speaker 3: the meditation from there. So I'm the same thing I'm
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  Speaker 3: saying to everybody else, I've got to do for myself.
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  Speaker 3: So it's spining the things that are going to slowly
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  Speaker 3: get bring up my energy where I'm not because sometimes
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  Speaker 3: when you're in a creton or you're not in a
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  Speaker 3: great mood and you listen to something that sounds that
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  Speaker 3: you normally love and is positive, uplifting, It's like, this
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  Speaker 3: is bullshit right now, Like, I don't this is not
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  Speaker 3: resonating with me at all. Put on some Metallica and
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  Speaker 3: I'm solid, you know.
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  Speaker 2: What I mean. That's right.
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  Speaker 3: I'll step it up a little bit after that. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: I'll go to something else a little bit softer. I
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  Speaker 3: haven't listened to Metallica forever, but I'm just.
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  Speaker 2: Using those references. Yeah, yep, it.
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  Speaker 1: I actually I started off the other day. It was
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  Speaker 1: I saw a post on social and it said, sarcastically, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to the weekend so I can do
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  Speaker 1: all the things I didn't get to do during the week,
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  Speaker 1: like laundry and the dishes and the grocery shopping, and
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  Speaker 1: so it was all like a downer stuff because they're
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  Speaker 1: doing all those necessities instead of going out and playing
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  Speaker 1: and having fun. So on Sunday, I was kind of
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  Speaker 1: in a mood for certain reasons, and I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: I got to get out of this. So then I
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  Speaker 1: shifted it from being irritated to contemplating my life.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I can go there.
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  Speaker 1: It felt a little lighter but still a little heavy.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, I'm in this space. That
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  Speaker 1: doesn't feel good. My mindset doesn't feel good. What I'm
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  Speaker 1: focused on doesn't feel good. So then adding and I
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  Speaker 1: was actually doing laundry, so I was like, okay, we're
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  Speaker 1: in the laundry and I appreciate the clothes and was
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  Speaker 1: just working myself through it. And that was the day
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  Speaker 1: that I recognized I need to shift my energy. So
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  Speaker 1: the next morning, Monday morning, was putting on Abraham like
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  Speaker 1: I was getting there, but not quick enough.
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  Speaker 2: I was still in the.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't mucky, but I was just in the energy
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  Speaker 1: that wasn't really uplifting.
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  Speaker 2: So it sound like you were already going through stages
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  Speaker 2: as it was.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just I knew I could do it quicker, and
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  Speaker 1: I knew listening to Abraham Hicks would get me there quicker.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what I put on by the bye during Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: I was feeling better by the end of the evening,
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  Speaker 1: so I did kind of work my waist through it.
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  Speaker 1: But I also knew there was more so Monday mornings
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  Speaker 1: starting my day out with that.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, it's not always knowledging it right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, why don't. Well, I'll go into it. Anyways,
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  Speaker 2: I was listening to Kyle C.
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  Speaker 3: Silver, I don't even know when this video was done,
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  Speaker 3: and he was talking to this girl that was extremely emotional,
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  Speaker 3: and I noticed that I was like wanting to turn
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  Speaker 3: it off because I don't want to listen to this. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: like put on your big girl pants. Don't judge me, guys,
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  Speaker 3: just listen to what I got to say, Yeah, because
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  Speaker 3: that's how I felt. Because I didn't I don't have
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  Speaker 3: the emotional capacity as of yet. I'm growing, but I
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  Speaker 3: don't didn't well, I didn't have the emotional capacity to
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  Speaker 3: listen to that when I was listening to it, and
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  Speaker 3: I had to stop and be like, well, I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to listen to this because I need to understand why
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: why do I feel this way? And I do believe
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: the reason that I felt that way in that moment
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: was from being a child. Because we're not we weren't
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: allowed to show or express our emotions, right, and it
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: gave just gave me goosebumps across the bosom. So to me,
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: that's like, so I'm recognizing some of these things. It's
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: like that's like a mother thing or a nurturing thing.
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: How it could have been and now it's no, it's
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: a story I can change. But it's like I recognized
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: where it was coming from, and I didn't because I
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: just had the conversation with one of my daughters today
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: about the same thing. She was talking about that, and
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: I said, it's because and she says, were you like
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: that with me? And I said, I don't think that
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: I was, but I could have been. But from my perspective,
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: I never thought about that. Probably you know, what do
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: we know? Mostly to the kids get a band aid,
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: Go get a band aid. Well, I'm telling you I
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: already put a band aid on it, like there's And
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: it was a reaction from a place of I didn't
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: know what else to do, So it was a reaction.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: My mom probably had the same reaction too, she didn't
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: know what else to do. But I picked up that
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: as a reaction as part of my template of how
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: I'm going to work and all the way up to
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: in my fifties, come on guys like seriously, So I
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: recognize that, and then I start listening to him because
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: I'm like, well, how does a person handle this? Because
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: I don't know, I honestly did not know. I didn't
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: know what to do with that, because I when I
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: have someone in front of me that's emotional like that,
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: I work with them and everything else, so it's different.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: But I was really it was just an opportune moment
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: for that to happen, so because I was like going
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: to turn it off, and I'm like, you are not
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: turning this off. We're going to find out what he's
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: going to say. Yeah, and he listened to her what
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: she was saying, and he was very nurturing and very loving.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: And then he also, you know, he said, let's stop
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: and fill that. Let's fill that in that part of
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: the body. Let's where's that at in that body part?
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: And then had her feel it and then had her explain,
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: you know, some things, and she would say something, and
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: I caught.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: The words as he was catching the words.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: You know, exactly where the next question or of the
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: next process was going to be to help elevate her,
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: to get her out of this place that she's been
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: in for years, do you know what I mean? And
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: so it was just it was wonderful and I got
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: to learn something. So when I say that, and I
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: know we've talked about this recently. When we have triggers,
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: they're always there for a reason. They're always there for
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: such a beautiful purpose, Because how if I felt that way,
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: but I didn't understand why I felt that way because
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: it doesn't seem normal. I wouldn't want anyone to ever
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: feel like that or treat me that way, like quit
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: being a puss, go put on some big girl pants
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: or something. You know what I mean. But that's the
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: way I've always had to be. I was always that girl.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: You know, are you crying? No, I'm not crying. You know,
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: that was that was always me. I never showed any
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: of that kind of stuff. I just didn't.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: I didn't do that with others, to anybody, But it
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: was like I learned a lot about myself in that
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: moment because it was an opportunity.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: It was a perfect opportunity. And otherwise I.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: Would have been like, I don't want to listen to
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: this because that's and and then turn it off and
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: not grow.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: I'll take the growing part, thank you.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Usually anything that's irritating you is something to move
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: through because there's a reason. And then listening to his
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: words on how he nurtured her and got her through
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: it and shifted.
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: I've done the same thing.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I've listened to things and I'm just like, in fact,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: there's a in my Mastermind group. The the sessions are
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: recorded so we can listen to him later if you
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: can't attend live, and so I'll listen to him. And
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: there's you know, there's a person that when they start talking,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh my god, just spit it out already,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: because it's it's so many fuller words before she gets
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: to her question, and I'm like, freaking say it.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: What is your question?
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: So? Yo, you can imagine me in the morning listening
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: to that.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: Ah, but I can imagine a parent or a teacher
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: or someone else doing the same thing.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Put you know, pushing you hurry up, we gotta do this.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Come on.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Times wasted and and then recognizing, okay, why are you
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: getting irritated by this person speaking and.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Attempting to articulate her words?
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Well, I used to be that way. I used to
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: stumble on my words. And it all has to do
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: with confidence and not knowing how to articulate your question
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: because your brain isn't. It's it's related to us not
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: being able to connect with what it is we want
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: because we've not had it before, so we don't know
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: how to describe it, or we don't know how to
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: but the words to formulate, the words to ask the question.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: And so I had to take a breath with that
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: and go, you've done that before too, So you just
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: need to chill the.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Fuck out, because it's okay for her to be like that. Yeah, oh,
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: look at her grow right. Yeah, but we don't. But
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: that's not the first reaction.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: But that reaction is so awesome, I honestly, especially after
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: I noticed that the other day, to me, it was
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: awesome because.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I just I just learned so much that from that moment.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: So it's a prime example.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: But the way we started, we were not blessing that
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: or reacting to that of which we want. We're reacting
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: to what we don't like. And as long as we
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: stay in that type of reaction mode, we're going to
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: get more of that that shows up in that type
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: of vibrational frequency. And when we shift our mindset and
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: often our response and learn from it. This is the
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: whole thing, is that the self awareness and acknowledging Wow,
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I'm really getting narritated by this person speaking, or I'm
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: getting irritated about this woman groveling and catching it in
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: the moment that takes such focused self awareness. I'm in
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: a leadership class and one of the things the instructors
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: said to us, one of the things she wanted us
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: to work on was communication through email. And she said,
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: go back and look at five emails that you sent
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: and read them and see if when you read it
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: now compared to when you did it, read it now
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: and see if you understand what you wrote. And I
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: sat there and I thought about thought about that. It's
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: something that I learned a while back.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: It's been a.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: While about thinking about, like if I'm sending you an email,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: how your emotions could get wrapped up into whatever I
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: say or whatever I send you, not being clear, being vague,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: anything that could.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: Misconstrue the communication.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: And I am very intentional because when she said that,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: I said, you know what I do that as I
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: do an email. I said, I'm very I didn't use intentional,
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I'm very aware, but I have sam very intentional when
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I do an email, because I now put myself in
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: a space of.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Acting as if I'm talking this.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Person, as if they don't know anything that I'm talking about,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: even though I'm responding to an email or just sending
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: an email, because even in general, when we talk, we
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: have a conversation going in on our head, and then
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: we start talking to the person in front of us,
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: and the person in front of us is looking at
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: us like we have two heads because I don't know.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: What we're talking about.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Although I'm having the conversation in my head, I've already
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: had half the conversation.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: And now I'm including you, and You're.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Like, I get this almost every day at work, so
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: I understand that process. So I'm very intentional when I
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: send an email. And the other thing was what started
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: this practice was to take take the ego out of
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: the email. So instead of saying I and me I
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: did this or I completed this, it's the process has
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: been completed four And I tell you sometimes that's tricky.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: But for most of the emails I send, I do
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: not take credit in that way. I don't say why
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: I did this, blah blah blah. I say this has
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: been done, or this is completed, or look at this,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: and I leave me out of it other than my signature.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Nice.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: You want to practice taking your ego out of something,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: practice it with your emails.
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: Wow, what it's it's some.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: There's sometimes it's a little challenging, but I figure it out.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: Nice.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: I don't do that when I'm talking, but I can
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: do it in the email.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: But I think that we both do though, because we've
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: kind of learned along the way. It's I can share
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: stories with someone, or I can say, oh that I
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: heard this, or or I can you know, there's just
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: different ways that you kind of present things to a person,
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: so you know not to trigger them, right, because that
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: those are those A lot of that stuff it can
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: be triggers.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's interesting communication. It's interesting. It totally is well
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: and it totally is.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: And it's not even you know, it's we use all
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: this this language and stuff like that that's not even
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: a natural state for us.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I learned. I've learned. I don't even know which book,
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: Oh I'm learning.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: I was reading about channeling or something, and she's talking
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: about this mother is talking about how she's communicating with
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: her child that has never communicated, has never said I
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: love you until she started channeling her, going into her
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: energy and stuff like that, and then her daughter will
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: tell her I love you. She tells her stuff all
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: the time, so they have a great communication now, so
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: it's learning outside those places. So yeah, it kind of
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: went a little bit off on the off topic a
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: little bit kind of yeah, yeah, just another aspect there.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: You go so many forms. So we'll just come back
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: around and remind you of what we start talking about,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: not you bet, but audience that. Let me remind you
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: what we were talking about.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Well I might need that, I don't know.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: So as we started out, it's about blessing that which
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: you want to receive or reacting to only that which
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: you want or want to attract to yourself and make
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: that a practice. That is also a form of communication.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: That is a huge form of communication with yourself because
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: your body is going to be the indicator of the
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: desire or the longing for or the jealousy or the
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: excitement or the empathy, the compassion. So listen to your body,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: notice your body when you are observing something that you
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: want or would like to have, and have that self
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: awareness of practicing sending love to somebody else who is
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: receiving something that you would like to have. So so practice, practice, practice,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: that's what we're here to do. That's what we're all doing.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: And the more you practice something or implement something that's
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: going to help you feel better or be and do better,
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: then the more you practice it, it just becomes a habit,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: it becomes part of your being.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: And then you really know when you're doing.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: Something that doesn't feel good or that lowers your energy
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: level or lowers your vibrational level.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: So practice, practice, practice is my ending to this. Do
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: you have any final words?
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: I say, celebrate, So celebrate every moment, right and then
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: when you're saying all that stuff, recognize how much better
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: you feel when you're only reacting or blessing, you know,
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: sending out blessings, only paying attention to the things that
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: make you feel good.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Pay attention to how your body feels.
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because the illness is the back pain that all
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: the stuff is going to start going away.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is. It totally changes everything.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: If we're celebrating everything instead of being about everything, angst
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: our bodies are gonna they're gonna let us know it
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: immediately that things are going right or that things aren't
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: going very good.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Right now, absolutely cool. This is tea time with Amy
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: and Bev.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Be sure to have these courageous conversations with other people
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: and or be the example and or be resourceful with
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: the information you're getting. So share the links, share the content,
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: share the wherever you're getting your information, the book, the podcasts,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: a post. So people are out there longing for information
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: like this, they're asking the questions internally for the guidance,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: and you could be that bridge between them and content
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: like this that is resonating with you or feels.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Good to you.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: You can find us on many different platforms, so we're
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, iHeartRadio, Google Podcasts, podcast Attic, Speaker,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: and Spotify. So connect with us, share, share your comments
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: and questions, and we'll come back to them when we can.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: But that's about what I got for now. Tea time
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: with Amy and Bev. Thanks for hanging out with us.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: And yeah, we'll see you next time. That's right,