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May 5th, 2026 - Daddy Lance · The Big Gay Radio Show

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My name is Chris Corman. I'm your show twink here, joined
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by the electric Esme Russell, the trans Queen of radio.
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Good morning, Christopher. Good morning, Miss Esme.
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How are you doing? Christopher Hayes being called
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Christopher. It is such a nice name, such a
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solid name. I only was called Christopher
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when I was in trouble, so I do not.
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You're not in trouble today. Not in, Not today, not today on
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threads. I was a little bit.
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We're going to talk about we're. Going to talk about that you.
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You and your child nightmare. Yes, no, I.
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Have a new parent. I am a new parent.
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I gave birth. You did, yes, I sort of gave.
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Birth. No, I'm kidding.
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For those who do not know who those who don't follow me on
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Instagram because I've been I'm still banned Facebook I or
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excuse me. Sean found a five day old kitten
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in Fort Myers and so we've been taking care of him before
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anybody asks, yes, Sean is qualified to go ahead and take
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care of this kitten. He has gone ahead and taken care
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of many, many kittens and. People are so nosy.
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They are. People are so nosy.
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Why are people so nosy? They really are.
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But we're going to, I'm going to talk about the story behind this
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kitten. And I also, I need some help
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naming it. So I want some of the listeners
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at here at WMNF to go ahead and give me some suggestions.
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If you want to go over to the Big Gay Radio Show's Facebook
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page or the Big Gay Radio Show Instagram, because both of those
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are still up. Just go over there, check out
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the pictures. He's the cutest little thing
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he's been. He's, he's very well taken care
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of. And so, yeah.
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I told you he's the luckiest Kitty in the I mean that cat has
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got to have the best luck. But so blessed to have found you
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guys for a family. Well, we're also joined by a
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very special guest. We are joined by Daddy Lance.
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Welcome to the studio. Thank.
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You so much, it's good to be here.
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Welcome in. So for those who do not know who
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you are, can you give us a little brief bio of who you are?
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I will, yes. OK, So if we were meeting, if
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you were my Uber driver and you said what do you do for a
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living? And it was a short trip, I would
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say. I would say I'm a massage
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therapist and we would leave it at that.
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And that is very, very true. I am a massage therapist.
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I also, however, do sex work and I do sacred intimate work.
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I am certifying something called surrogate partner therapy, which
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we can discuss if you like. This has been my career for 17
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years and I absolutely love it. And hopefully over the course of
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these next 20 minutes or so, I can help everybody else
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understand why I love it, and also why there shouldn't be so
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many legal issues around it. Definitely.
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No, I completely agree. I would.
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I would actually I would. I would love to get into to
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surrogate. What was that again?
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Surrogate partner therapy. Yeah.
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Can you give us, I haven't heard of that before.
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That's why I'm like, yeah, I'm more interested.
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What is that? So it was originally called sex
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surrogate therapy and it was to some people will know who
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Masters in Johnson was. Perhaps they actually did a show
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on Showtime, I believe Masters of Sex.
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So they developed sex surrogate therapy as a way of helping at
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the time simply heterosexual couples who were having issues
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with intimacy and sex to address it.
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Up until then everything was talk therapy.
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And so they said, you know, there has to be a way that
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people can work with a surrogate partner.
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So somebody that is not their partner who can take them
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through exercises in touch, intimacy, and ultimately also
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sex in order to help them with whatever issues they might be
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having. So each person was paired with a
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surrogate partner, the opposite sex.
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So since then though, it's changed a lot and they've kind
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of rephrased it, renamed it as surrogate partner therapy, just
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because when you say sex surrogate, that's all people can
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think about is sex, sex, sex. And it's, it's so much more than
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that for some people who need it, It's just even down to just
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being touched is something that is can be very nerve wracking
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for them. So it's almost kind of like
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cognitive behavioral therapy mixed with sex therapy, if you
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will. No, I completely get that.
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I mean, you know, some people just can't put it down the way
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that they need it. So I, I completely, I get it.
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I get it. So what are some of the common
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problems that you go ahead and face during this process?
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Well, you know, it, it really, I mean it, it varies so greatly
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with surrogate partner therapy, often clients.
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And I'm going to also be very, very clear, I went through
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training eight years ago and in order for it to actually be
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surrogate partner therapy, the client also has to be seeing a
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licensed therapist who basically, you know, handles the
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talk therapy, handles the cognitive issues.
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And then I'm sort of handling the behavioral and through
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touch, I'm, I'm engaging them in a way that their therapist
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obviously is not legally allowed to, but it's essential.
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So often people, people in those situations are sometimes 40 year
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old virgins, a lot of time people who are on the, the
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spectrum, on the autism spectrum, sometimes to its
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people with other cognitive or physical disabilities or
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impairments. So like, for example, this is
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something that I felt so wonderful about just a month ago
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when I was in San Francisco working, I worked with a, a
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young man who I'd seen one time before.
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He is probably, I think he's 20 years old now, 20 and has what's
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called fragile X syndrome, which is a, a, a developmental genetic
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disorder that causes him to be developed developmentally
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delayed. So his cognitive is more like a
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1314 year old, but he's still, you know, biologically and, and
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hormonally very much 19 years old and had had never had an
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orgasm before. And so I was able to actually
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help him to have his first ever orgasm, which was just amazing
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and very emotional for him and for me, honestly.
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And then I got to talk to his therapist afterward, who he's,
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who's been seeing since he was a child and got to share that.
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And so everybody was just so excited.
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So like that, that's just, that's one of many, many
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examples. He was, he was 19 when I first
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met him. So I don't he's either 19 or 20
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now. So he was very young.
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He is young. He is.
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Young person so I could understand someone like it's
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possible that someone that age, but have you ever met someone
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older? They couldn't couldn't have
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couldn't have never had one. There's got to be.
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One, I mean, yeah, I mean, absolutely, I not, not that I
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can recall. I mean, certainly met people
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who've had issues, but in terms of just absolutely not being
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able to reach that, I feel like that's often a problem that
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that, you know, it's I feel like it's not totally uncommon for
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women for you to meet women who've experienced that.
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But it's like, you think like men, most, most young men of 19
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years old have had thousands of orgasms by the time they're 19
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years old, you know, I mean, I was, you know, we were a lot of
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us multi times a day. You know, it's teenagers.
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And so, yeah, for most people, it's, you know, it comes a
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little bit more naturally, I think.
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But I think with his cognitive, because he has a very hard time
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focusing, has a very hard time managing his his anxiety that it
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just, he just could not figure out how to get there.
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So. It's sex.
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Sex education is something that is very much lacking in the in
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in this country as a whole. Absolutely.
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It's so taboo for some, you know, for you know, the
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religious, it's all it all. All those taboos come from
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religion. Most OH.
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Absolutely. And I would say a great portion
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of it, yeah. And.
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If somebody's not going to know how to do it and somebody's not
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going to be taught how to do it, who's going to teach them?
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And. The crazy part of it it is, is
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that even though it's those taboos comes from religion,
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everybody's having sex. I mean, the world is filled with
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people. With people they don't show.
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Up unless somebody's having so sex is obviously being had.
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Oh yeah, yeah. You know.
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I mean a lot of. It and this, I mean this young
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man, I mean his his, his mother. I never, I never spoke with him.
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It was his mother who reached out to me, you know, And so I
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mean, his mother absolutely deserves like a Mother of the
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year award. I mean, for not only for
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advocating for his, his mental and physical health, but
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advocating for his pleasure. You know this.
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Is kind of like a confession, but I'm not embarrassed about it
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now, especially at my age. I don't care.
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But you know, when I was younger, I was embarrassed to
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tell people this, but I'm not now.
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But I didn't have sex until I was 19 years old and I, I didn't
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want to. I just didn't.
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It's not that I wasn't interested in it.
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I thought about it just, I just couldn't find anyone.
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And when I finally did it, I didn't like it.
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It was the wrong person. And so I really didn't have
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great sex until I was about 21 years old.
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You know, I met someone. It was like, Oh my God.
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Then I went, oh, so this is what this is.
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And then from then on, I was OK. But it was, I wasn't ever in a,
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you know, I guess because I was trans, you know, I started
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living as a woman at a very young age.
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So I saw myself as a female, you know, So I think that might have
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a lot to do with it. I just, it wasn't, you know,
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that's why I always get sad when people say trans people.
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It's like a sexual thing. It's not.
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I wasn't living as a girl to have sex.
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I was living as a girl because I wanted to be a girl.
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You know what I'm saying? Sex had nothing to do with it.
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If it was sex, I would have started having sex immediately.
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I had. By the time I had sex I had
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already been living as a girl six years, so it wasn't sad.
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I think I think very few of us had really good sex when we were
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young to be honest, like you. Know first experience was not
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good. And we talk about too, like a
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lot of time people talk about sexual peak, you know, when is a
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person at their sexual peak, you know, and I think what they
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often confuse with sexual peak is more like genital peak.
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You know, like some people say, oh, early 20s definitely.
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It's like, no, I mean, that's, that's definitely like when you
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know, everything happened easily.
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You could go multiple times a day, all that fun stuff.
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But like really it's, it's once you start to like know yourself
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better. So most people find this more
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like 40s, 50s, maybe even 60s before.
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Like you're having like your best, I mean, 40s.
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Yeah, I'm 45. So like I. 40s were crazy.
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Yeah. The 40s were, you know, from 40s
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on, it's been great. You know, I, I think that was
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the best time ever because then all the inhibitions are gone.
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Yeah. You know what I mean?
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Like you've, you've dealt with all your stuff.
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Yeah. Whatever that stuff is, you're
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just like, whatever, I'm just gonna have a good time.
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Yeah. So you mentioned the earlier the
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stigma behind the work that you do.
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What is some some stigma that you've faced least personally?
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So like, so let me actually, and I was, I just want to address
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this because on your Instagram post, just that I am not a
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licensed therapist in any way. So I'm just going to put that
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out there, OK? I, I, what I do is absolutely
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therapy. And my clients tell me like most
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of the, it's the best therapy they've ever had in their life,
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You know, whatever the nature of it might be, but, but it's not
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something that the state licenses.
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And in fact, like I, I have to say, like I, I posted in trying
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to promote my massage business, my therapeutic massage business,
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which I am exceptional at. I posted on a, a Facebook group
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we're all familiar with, but I won't say it because it doesn't
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matter. And just say, Hey, you know, I'm
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trying to build my massage business, blah, blah, blah.
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And it was explained like, Hey, you know, if you, you need to
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have an LMT license number on this or else it's illegal like
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on anywhere to be advertised massage.
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So it's just, it sucks. I'm, I'm consciously, I'm not
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licensed because by doing erotic work, I could lose my license
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for massage. And it's sad, it's unfortunate.
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So I mean, but that's part of that is kind of a, you know, I,
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I have limited opportunities to kind of build my business
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because of the, the stigma behind it, because of the
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legality behind it. We do, but it's, but even like
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in California, I had multiple friends who did massage work and
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also did erotic work that lost their licenses because the, the
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local board will like, they'll go through ads and they'll find
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examples, they'll match faces and go, OK, you know, you worked
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all this time, these years, this money, and now we're taking your
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license away. So, you know, but that's why I
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just, I, I realized like it, it, it's way too heavy and too hard
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to keep secrets. And that's why I just, I, I
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don't like, it's not, it's not hard to find out what my birth
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name is because I don't try to keep the two separated.
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My mom knows what I do. My dad now knows what I do.
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Like, it's just too hard to keep secrets.
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But like, yeah, I've had like, for example, this guy booked a
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massage with me and then didn't show up.
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And then when I kind of challenged him on it, he was
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like, well, he was like, my, my boyfriend saw the picture and he
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was like, oh, that's Daddy Lance.
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And I I was using a different name for my massage ad and he
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was like, he's like, yeah, he's like, he's like, yeah, that he's
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a, he's an escort. And and the guy was like, you
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know, that's not what I wanted. And I'm like, baby, that's not
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what you were going to get because that's like twice the
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price you booked me from massage.
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That's what you're going to get. And if you had an issue with it,
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then let me know or ask a question.
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But don't just not show up after I've set up my table, kicked my
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husband out of the house, gotten ready for you so.
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When you when you've dealt, when have you had the exact opposite
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where somebody does show up and they expect some additional
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services? Absolutely.
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Oh yeah, I mean and everybody. And that's why I actually, I
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stopped advertising for therapeutic massage for about 7
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years for that very reason. I just got tired of people not
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being direct with what they wanted, you know, or feeling
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like I was trying to upsell them.
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You know, it was time to be like, well, OK, we'll start off
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with that. And then you can just let me
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know if you want to make it more.
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But it's going to be more. And, you know, and I just, I
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hated that energy. I like.
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So now what I do is just when people reach out, I just give
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them permission to just be completely direct about what it
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is they're looking for and wanting so that I can, you know,
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send them to the right place so they can see, you know, what the
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rate's going to be and so forth. And I just thought I'm, I'm
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going to have to be the one who's direct because we live in
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this space where everything is, like, in innuendo, you know,
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wink, wink, nod, nod. What do I get?
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You know, it's like, well, you know, tell me.
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So. Yeah.
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Yeah. Absolutely.
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I mean, it's not surprising. Unfortunately, we live in this
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society where people don't feel like they can speak frankly
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about it, you know? I feel like me we're we're
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listening to you, but at the same time we're listening to
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other things outside the studio and me and Chris are giving each
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other eye signals. Anyways, Esme, do you have any
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questions? Well, I was getting I do have a
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question I was getting asked. Do you ever do any women?
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I have, yeah, I have been and it's I, I would identify as gay,
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but I but I don't cling to labels.
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And so my very I've. So first of all, I would say
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I've only been with women professionally, but I've been
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with my what was wonderful, it was my very first female client,
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cisgendered female client was a previous sex worker herself.
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So, you know, she was just so wonderful at helping me to feel
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comfortable and answering any questions and just being very
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direct. She was like a teacher.
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It was wonderful. It was so wonderful.
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It was so perfect. So yeah, I mean, but I've also,
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you know, I've been with, I've been with, you know, quite a
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few, both clients and filming because I, I do make content for
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the, the streaming things, but that's a that's a minor part of
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my work. I, my work with my clients just
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means so much more to me than producing content.
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But so, yeah, I mean, I've been with multiple trans men, trans
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women, some, you know, some have had surgery hormones, some not.
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And then I've been with, I think I've been with two or two or
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three cisgendered women independently and then been with
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about 3 or 4 male female couples, either married or
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dating or, or otherwise, in cases where like the men are
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wanting to explore with a man as well as their women, you know,
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so, and I honestly, I, I many times have gotten very emotional
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in those just from just the, the good feeling of, you know, a
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wife just fully supporting her husband, exploring same sex,
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touch and sex and, and just being happy about it.
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Like no insecurities, no jealousy, No no, my husband's
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going. To run off the man in Latin
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people. No, I'm going to.
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Tell you too jealous. We are tall.
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God, are you kidding? We're listen Latinos, we get
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jealous of anything. Don't, don't.
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I don't. I'm trying to think.
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I don't think any of bin Laden, but.
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Yeah, I know. Our cultures are just.
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But this is wonderful. Yeah.
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And it's interesting. I mean, I think after because, I
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mean, I have literally, I've been with, you know, I've been
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with men from 19 to 94. I've been with men with all
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kinds of, you know, physical disability.
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I mean from from missing limbs to colostomy bags to to.
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So you are exactly what Chris told me yesterday on the phone
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when I called him last night. I said, he said, you know, we're
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going to have this person on. And I said, Oh no, what is this
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about? I said.
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Then I said to him, thanks for warning me so I don't ask a
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stupid question, right? But now that he said, remember
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the furry, do you remember the furry that we had?
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And it's true, we had a furry and I was like, Oh my God, these
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I was thinking, this is going to be so freaky.
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The furry was one of my favorite, yes, because he was
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just such a open and honest and humble.
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And you've really surprised me because I thought you were going
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to be completely different. You humanized this.
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Thank you. No, it's, I love it.
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It's I absolutely like it's I started when when Rentboy got
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shut down at the, at the, which was like 12 years ago.
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Gosh, we had a protest in San Francisco and I made a sign
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hashtag sex work is soul work because I know it's not for
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everybody. You know, this is this is
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absolutely a world that is for some people is, is, is work that
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they do out of out of desperation, out of survival.
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You know, there's survival is sex work.
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I mean, as a trans person, you can completely understand.
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Sure. You know, so many people that
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have felt, you know, compelled to go into sex work.
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You know, big part. Because of the fetishization.
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And not just the fetish. A lot of times, trans women
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can't get work. Yeah, absolutely.
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So they they go to, that's where they can survive and pay their
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bills. But I mean, you know, I mean,
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working at McDonald's is survivalist work, You know, it
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pays nothing, you know, So, you know, you see a full spectrum of
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people who go, you know what, I don't love this.
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I don't love doing this. But nothing else is can I make a
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couple 100 bucks in a night, you know, And then there's those who
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who are like, I love this. I mean, and truly like, if I
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want in the lottery, I could not stop doing my work because
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you've got to do something. 'Cause there's a payoff for.
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It that means, yeah, that's meaningful, that makes you walk
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away. And go if you like it, that
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means you're getting a payoff from it, whether it's emotional,
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financial or all of it. You know what I'm saying?
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So if you like it's because you're getting a payoff that's
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great you. Know, I distinctly remember when
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I was working at Bradley's as a, as a as a, as a go go dancer, I
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made substantially a large amount of money.
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I made more money than I even make now.
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And at that point I, I just didn't like it.
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Yeah, I just, I just didn't, I didn't appreciate the, I mean,
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I, I mean, I appreciated the, the money, but it's just not
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something that I liked doing. So it's something that, you
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know, it's not for everybody. And obviously also your service
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does not, not for everybody. There's always going to be those
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people who, you know, don't necessarily want that kind of
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thing. And you know, my opinion about
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my opinion doesn't change on that.
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If you don't like something you don't have to be involved with
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exactly. Just mind your own business.
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Absolutely. That's.
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What mind you, these these laws that people are doing this?
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Yeah, these people are doing this in private.
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It's none of your business. The only reason we're sharing it
19:36
is because we want to educate people on this so that we take
19:40
away the stigma from it. Yeah, you know what I mean?
19:42
Exactly, 'cause even I on the phone yesterday, I was being
19:45
judgmental. And Chris said don't be
19:47
judgmental. He said, remember the furry?
19:50
You did say that. I always do.
19:52
I always so. Remember the furry?
19:55
It's it's that's a story that I always like to tell you because
19:58
it's, it was a very, you know, I distinctly remember telling you
20:01
and you calling me and having that judgmental mindset.
20:05
Yeah. Yeah.
20:05
And I said have an open mind. Having an open mind is the most
20:09
important thing, especially when it comes to having to having a
20:11
show like this. Yeah.
20:13
Absolutely. But what you did do today, and I
20:14
feel my opinion is you really. You took away the stigma from
20:18
it, but you also you made it more sound, more medical than
20:24
sexual, you know what I mean? Because it could help people.
20:26
Yeah, well, I mean, it's every, you know, it's.
20:28
A vibe. It's.
20:29
Educational. I mean sex is important, but
20:31
honestly like I've in my sessions I I realize and my
20:33
clients realize like how much is being held?
20:35
And I'm and I don't mean medical medicine, I mean psychological.
20:39
Psychological. Is what I really and it's
20:41
healing to the. Mind, that's what I really.
20:42
Want it's, I love so what's called surrogate partner there
20:46
or I'm sorry, not surrogate partner therapy, but it's all
20:48
about the term sacred intimate or sacred intimacy, which is
20:51
born out of the body electric movement, which I'm not going to
20:54
get into it. You can look that up.
20:57
This amazing movement in the 80s, though, as a reaction to
20:59
AIDS, as a way of giving gay men a way to connect and touch
21:02
without it, without the risk of AIDS and all that stuff.
21:05
So from that, this whole idea of sacred intimates, training
21:08
people to be sacred intimates, which sort of a good way to
21:12
understand a sacred intimate is, is a like a triad.
21:14
You are one part therapist, one part priest and one part horror.
21:21
And I actually, I love the term horror.
21:22
I loved actually the term sacred horror because there was a time
21:25
like in the temples where like the sacred horrors, they they
21:27
held this knowledge about sex and intimacy and that was that
21:31
was valued. That made me think of Deuce
21:32
Bigalow male jiggle. Remember that where he called
21:34
himself a man whore? But they too like.
21:38
And like you were saying, I love that the phrase that the problem
21:41
with stereotypes is not that they're inaccurate, but that
21:43
they're incomplete. Yeah, stereotypes exist for a
21:46
reason. You know, there are people that
21:47
are doing desperate sex work that don't want to be doing it,
21:51
you know? And I'll say they say people
21:53
that have a healthy sex life, how it can express it however
21:57
they need to, are happy people. Yeah, but you also, you have to
22:01
have, I do think like in order to do because I, you know, I
22:04
know people who do this and they go, I just had to leave it.
22:06
I felt, I felt like I was just being used.
22:08
I felt, you know, and I was like, that's the thing.
22:10
Like you got to have an abundance of that energy to give
22:14
out or else you are going to feel depleted and used.
22:17
You know, I'm very glad I have a wonderful husband.
22:19
We've been together for 15 years.
22:21
So yes, you can have. You can have both.
22:23
It's a very, very, very. Some people think it's easy.
22:27
Some people think it's easy. It's not.
22:28
I mean, I've, I did only fans when I was 19.
22:31
I, it was not easy to do stuff like that.
22:34
It's not easy to make content like that.
22:36
It's not easy to, you know, and your words whore yourself out
22:41
that way. So I, I get it, Esme, we're
22:45
going to go into the news, but what are we going to talk about
22:47
when we come back? You know, the guy that went into
22:50
the White House Correspondents Dinner and tried to shoot up
22:53
everybody in there? Well, the judge yesterday
22:56
apologized to him in court. I was shocked too.
23:01
And I'll tell you what what the judge, the female judge said.
23:05
Also, Spirit Airlines has closed permanently.
23:07
I'll tell you what's going on. Dolly Parton makes a very
23:10
serious announcement about her health.
23:13
And I gotta talk about my experience at the Apple Store.
23:17
I had a very dramatic experience.
23:20
I have a message for Apple. I want to say it in a nice way.
23:23
And it's not against her employees because we're God, the
23:25
employees are great. But we got to talk about, we got
23:28
to talk about Apple. And Jimmy Kimmel's in the news
23:31
again under fire from Donald Trump.
23:35
We also have a a new Christian phone network that aims to block
23:40
certain things. And then we also got a bunch of
23:43
different Supreme Court cases to go ahead and and give you all
23:46
the gay opinion on. And don't forget the duck lady.
23:49
And the duck lady, we'll come. We'll come back with that.
23:52
But first, let's go ahead and throw it over to Claire Leeson
23:55
from Project No Labels for our big gay news.
23:57
And then over to Joe on No, it's going to be Vin today.
24:00
Vin for his little segment on Vin on the go.
24:03
We'll be right back. I'm Claire Leeson from Project
24:10
No Labels and this is your LGBTQ plus news from around the
24:13
country and right here in Tampa Bay.
24:15
In Idaho from KUTV, 6 transgender residents are suing
24:19
the state and federal court over a strict new bathroom law set to
24:22
take effect in July. The law would make it a crime to
24:25
use a restroom or locker room that doesn't match a person's
24:28
sex assigned at birth, even in privately owned businesses.
24:31
A first offense could carry up to a year in jail, with repeat
24:34
violations rising to a felony. The plaintiffs, represented by
24:37
ACLU and Lambda Legal, argued the law forces them to choose
24:41
between staying home or risking harassment, arrests or violence
24:44
in public spaces. Supporters of the law say it's
24:47
intended to protect women and children, but those challenging
24:50
it say there are often no alternative facilities
24:52
available. In national news from the
24:54
Washington Blade, Republicans in Congress are pushing to include
24:58
five anti LGBTQ provisions in must pass federal funding bill.
25:02
These writers would restrict pride flags at federal
25:04
buildings, limit diplomatic roles tied to human rights and
25:08
block funding for organizations that provide or even acknowledge
25:11
gender affirming care. Others would expand global gag
25:14
rules affecting international aid programs.
25:16
Advocates warn the measures could significantly limit both
25:19
domestic protection and US influence on LGBTQ plus rights
25:23
abroad. If included in the final budget
25:25
In Orlando from Watermark Out News, four major Central Florida
25:29
organizations are joining forces to award more than $100,000 in
25:32
scholarships to LGBTQ plus students and allies.
25:36
The effort includes the LGBT Plus Center Orlando, the Central
25:39
Florida Foundation, the Drew Project and the Singhouse
25:42
Scholarship for Performing Arts. The scholarship supports
25:45
students pursuing higher education, vocational training,
25:48
and careers in the arts. A joint reception honoring
25:50
recipients is scheduled for July 22nd, and several application
25:54
deadlines are approaching in the coming months.
25:56
And finally, in Sarasota, Project Pride has named Justin
25:59
Hunter Cerruti as interim executive Director through at
26:02
least the end of 2026. Hunter Cerruti, currently the
26:05
organization's board president, will step into the role as
26:08
leadership transitions following the departure of the previous
26:11
executive director earlier this year.
26:13
Project Pride says the move is aimed at maintaining continuity
26:17
and continuing its work in the community during the transition.
26:20
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27:45
Welcome back to the Big Gay Radio Show.
27:48
My name is Chris Gorman. I'm your show twink here, joined
27:50
by the trans queen of radio, Miss Esme Russell and Daddy
27:54
Lance. Welcome to the studio, my
27:55
friends. Thank you.
27:57
Don't burp on the air, Chris. I won't.
27:59
I won't. I won't.
28:00
I got a mute button I. Got that you?
28:02
Got that Celsius in you. How many of those a day do you
28:05
think you drink? So OK.
28:07
Be honest because you're going to scare me. 5.
28:11
That's so bad though. There's been times where I've
28:14
hit five in a day. I'm.
28:15
Telling you that's so bad. I I there is the.
28:18
I probably shouldn't be alive right now, but it's OK.
28:22
I don't know, Have you ever? Can you drink coffee?
28:25
No. Yeah, well, coffee's got
28:28
caffeine too. Yeah.
28:32
I I don't know. I just.
28:33
You better be careful with those.
28:34
You know a lot of people. I don't.
28:36
I'm not gonna say it 'cause I don't wanna put the juju on you,
28:38
'cause I love you. I don't wanna.
28:39
I don't. But just be careful.
28:41
You want any? Time that you go ahead and see
28:44
an article that is energy drink based and somebody going to the
28:47
hospital. For it or something you think
28:49
about it. No, my mom sends it to me so
28:52
I'm. Sure that she's concerned.
28:54
Well, you I can't. Oh, by the way, happy birthday,
28:56
mom. Yeah, happy birthday to my mom.
28:58
Yeah, birthday. She celebrated her birthday.
29:02
Yeah, sweet. I had to take a bunch of exams
29:05
that day and. You know, I tell straight people
29:08
all the time that in the gay community, if you have a gay son
29:12
or daughter and you show up at the club with your gay son or
29:16
daughter, you become everybody's mom.
29:18
My mom, that's my mother. She's been to every.
29:20
Drag show yeah you are so everybody calls you mom you know
29:24
that's just a normal you know the gay community loves the moms
29:28
right they. There's a lot of parents out
29:32
there that aren't supportive and honestly, the one way that
29:35
people somebody asked me who was a a radio personality over on
29:39
102.5 the bone. He said that one of his, one of
29:42
the kids that he's coaching on his football team, he's gay.
29:46
And he was wondering how to be supportive of him.
29:49
And honestly, the best way that the best advice that I, I could
29:52
have given him was to just show up, be supportive, you know,
29:56
have conversations with him, just treat him like every other
29:59
person out there. Listen, gay kids just want an.
30:03
Acceptance. Acceptance from the especially
30:04
from heterosexuals. Exactly.
30:06
To, to have a male coach be supportive of his male young
30:12
man. That's, you know, that's coming
30:13
out that that support is really important because even though
30:17
he's gay, still a boy, you know what I'm saying?
30:20
It's not like that's a girl, that's a boy that needs, you
30:22
know, support from another man. And I don't not talking about
30:25
sexually. That's not what I'm talking
30:26
about. Support emotionally, you know,
30:28
Be there for him, Listen to him, you know, because friends.
30:31
I mean, the conversations might be a little bit different, might
30:34
be about boys and stuff like that, but you know, at the end
30:36
of the day, the best way to go ahead and, you know, support
30:39
somebody is just to be there. When are we going to get past?
30:41
So you know, it's been this has been going on for so long.
30:44
When I I remember when when I was in the 70s and I came out, I
30:48
thought about, I said sometime in the future, what I'm going
30:52
through right now, it won't happen anymore.
30:55
Like it'll be normal, you know, but it's not things.
30:58
I mean, it's gotten better. It has definitely gotten better.
31:01
And the reason is because of education, Yeah, but an exposure
31:05
and. Exposure.
31:06
Yeah. The more you know somebody's
31:07
trans. Yeah, 'cause listen, back in the
31:08
1970s, you couldn't have had someone like me doing a radio
31:11
show. It would have been unheard of
31:13
and to just, you know, and you know, and just be out there and
31:16
to admit it, someone like me, even if she was out there doing
31:20
this, she would never have publicly admitted that she was
31:23
transgender, that that would be unheard of.
31:26
So but I just wish people would just, again, if you just mind
31:30
your own business, it's so easy to mind your own business and
31:34
let let people live their life. I really want to live them, you
31:37
know, it's just, it's not complicated.
31:38
And if and if you and if you are going to get in their business,
31:41
be supportive, be kind, you know.
31:44
Well, let's get into some hot topics.
31:46
So I'm going to start with the the, the, the guy from the
31:49
correspondence dinner, the one that went into the
31:51
correspondence dinner running in their guns a blazing.
31:56
He apparently shot a Secret Service agent, didn't hurt him,
32:00
but you know, shot at him. Eventually they were able to pin
32:03
him down, arrest him and he went to jail.
32:05
Supposedly in his manifesto, you said that he said he was going
32:08
to go after the the Trump administration.
32:11
He was mad at their racism. Whatever.
32:13
I don't whatever he said. I'm not even sure what the
32:15
manifesto said. I don't.
32:17
But anyway, the judge in the case, he finally saw the judge.
32:20
He went before a judge and the judge said to him, listen, I her
32:24
name is Zia Fagua Fargui. Zia Fargui faced Cole Allen, 31
32:32
years old. He said, by the way, he's a
32:34
teacher, never been in trouble with the law.
32:37
She said you've never ever in your whole life had one problem
32:41
with the law. You you haven't even gotten a
32:42
parking ticket. And so you're in front of me and
32:45
I am not happy with what I'm reading.
32:48
I see here that you have made some complaints to this court.
32:51
You are being kept in solitary confinement.
32:54
You are no longer a threat to killing yourself.
32:57
You say that you. Yeah, he was placed on suicide.
32:59
He's not, he's no longer in that, so they don't understand
33:02
why he's hasn't been put in with other people.
33:04
She says that he is being denied communication with his family
33:10
and friends and very limited conversation with his lawyer and
33:16
she told the court and he said. The other thing, One more thing.
33:20
Yeah, denied access to a Bible. Denied access to a Bible.
33:24
He's been asking for a Bible since he got there.
33:26
And so she said, I am, I am very sorry for the way that this,
33:31
this, you know, the system has treated you.
33:34
Regardless of what you're being accused of in this country,
33:38
everyone should be treated fairly.
33:41
And you deserve to be treated fairly.
33:42
Even if you you committed a crime.
33:45
It doesn't matter. This is not how we operate in
33:47
the United States. We are still a civil nation.
33:50
So she expects to get a report back that he's been put in
33:54
population, that he's receiving three meals a day, that he got
33:58
his Bible and that he has access not only to his lawyers, but to
34:01
his family. So I thought that was really
34:04
good of her to do that. I mean, I realized that what he
34:07
did obviously is not good. And, and I, and I'm going to
34:10
tell you and I'm going to keep repeating it.
34:13
Hurting people or even saying you are is not the way to
34:16
resolve these things. This is why we vote in the
34:19
United States of America. If you have issues with your
34:21
politicians, you vote. Absolutely.
34:24
But on the completely separate issue of, you know, the prison
34:27
system and how everything is, is treated in there.
34:31
I mean, we, we've get letters from, from inmates all the time
34:34
who have told us about, you know, some of the treatment that
34:37
they've received in, in some of the jails that have been around
34:40
here. But something that always has
34:43
striked me every single time that I've read the Constitution,
34:47
specifically within the 13th Amendment, was the fact that
34:50
slavery or and in voluntary servitude is legal as punishment
34:57
for a crime. So you can be a slave if you are
35:02
convicted of a crime. That has always striked me in
35:07
terms of how we treat inmate populations in this country.
35:13
Don't they put them in fields sometimes to work they put them
35:16
out on the streets like to do like trash pickup as.
35:19
Far as I understand, it's how they justify going ahead and
35:22
giving them very little wages. Well, this is the other thing
35:25
too, is in, in fact, I, I, it's not every state, but I'm, I'm
35:28
pretty sure it's Florida that you actually have to pay a
35:31
certain amount per day that you are in prison.
35:34
So when people come out of prison, they have a debt.
35:37
They have a debt that they have to pay back to the state, often
35:40
in the thousands and thousands of dollars for their time in
35:43
prison. I just don't.
35:44
Come out unemployable and actually owing money back to the
35:47
state. How can somebody be
35:48
rehabilitated if we're just going ahead and not giving them
35:53
the proper resources and not giving the proper tools to
35:56
succeed, especially after they've served their crime?
36:00
After you. After you've done and served
36:03
your time, you shouldn't have. Honestly, the whole background
36:06
check situation has always bothered me because granted, you
36:11
know if you have a ton of crimes, 150,000 crimes, yeah you
36:15
probably shouldn't be working at a place like a bank.
36:18
However, if somebody gets a DUI, makes a mistake, that shouldn't
36:23
disqualify them from almost every single job out there.
36:27
Yeah, it's a. It's a.
36:29
And you and you should have your right to vote back as well.
36:31
I mean, absolutely. Like once you've served your
36:33
time, you should have a clean slate.
36:34
You should be given permission. But they're also like you said,
36:37
though there there needs to be our entire prison system is just
36:40
messed up. There needs to be a focus on
36:42
education, rehabilitation. Like, I don't know if you
36:44
watched the series unlocked and it's unlocked where they
36:47
experiment with like taking a pod and just giving them the
36:49
opportunity to not have to be behind locked up, you know, and
36:54
it's an experiment to see how it goes.
36:55
And there was issues. But ultimately you realize that
36:57
by giving people trust, by giving them autonomy, by giving
37:02
them the ability to create a little community within their
37:04
community and, and work through all the racial things and all
37:07
the other things that keep them separate, that people can, can
37:11
learn to, to function versus just putting them in a place
37:14
where there's where they're just seeing all the same problems
37:16
they have on the outside. They leave, they're the exact
37:18
same. So the judge got a lot of
37:19
outrage, you know, obviously from the right for the, for the
37:23
comment that she made for the apology.
37:24
But I, I, I support her apology. I think we are a civil country,
37:29
at least we have been up to up to this point.
37:31
Let's see what happens. But all right, Chris.
37:34
I I disagree up until this, Up until this point, maybe.
37:39
Maybe. That was, that's always, always
37:40
been the goal. The goal there?
37:43
Never had. Never been achieved but the goal
37:46
is there. But I know.
37:47
But I get what she's saying, you know?
37:48
The theory is there. I mean, deny somebody a Bible?
37:51
Come on man, that's. Terrible.
37:52
Anyways, there's a new Christian phone network which aims to
37:57
block porn and LGBTQ content. It'll be Jesus centric.
38:03
A new US mobile phone service called Radiant Mobile plans to
38:06
block all of those content. It says the the goal is to
38:10
create a Jesus centric digital environment free of the those
38:15
categories. It uses filtering technology
38:19
from an Israeli cybersecurity firm to categorize and block
38:23
content across more than 100 different categories.
38:27
Esme what's your will? You go ahead and have your your
38:30
your Jesus centric phone plan. No, I wouldn't because I
38:33
occasionally like to dip in the porn.
38:37
No, I mean, I'm being honest, you know, it's it's
38:38
entertaining. But here's what I'm going to
38:40
say. I do think it is for some
38:42
people, and I have no problem with that.
38:45
You know what I have? No, you know.
38:47
Everybody's got to have their own niche.
38:48
Right. And and that doesn't bother me
38:49
if somebody wants that, you know, those people aren't
38:51
bothering me. They're bothering me when they
38:53
get in my business. They bother me when they tell
38:55
me, when they. Start going ahead and blocking
38:58
the pornography and blocked by LGBTQ content for.
39:02
But I don't mind it being blocked from children or from
39:05
children having. Access on that one, I think
39:07
everybody can. I don't have any problem with
39:09
children. Anyone under the age of 18 are
39:11
having difficulty having access to it.
39:13
I don't have a problem with I, I, I completely understand that
39:16
so. Esme, What's the T about Spirit
39:19
Airlines? So Spirit Airlines is no more.
39:21
They're done. But I'm going to tell you it's
39:23
a, they said it was a combination of high prices, the
39:26
gas, you know, the gas guzzling planes.
39:30
So they just couldn't take it anymore.
39:32
You know, they've been, they've been in service since 1983, I
39:35
believe. So this company has it like new.
39:38
They're the only airline that has never had a plane crash, so
39:45
that's kind of cool. That's actually interesting,
39:47
considering how the stereotype is that Spirit Airlines is a
39:52
little bit more raunchy. It's a little on the cheaper
39:55
side, yeah. It's on, it's on the cheaper
39:57
side. And like the, the, the, the
39:59
theory like is always that, you know, you might be getting into
40:02
a fight. So it's just very sad.
40:04
And now Delta Airlines is cancelling a bunch of flights
40:07
saying it's kind of kind of, I guess they're getting
40:09
overwhelmed with people jumping over to them.
40:11
So they're having to, can't I, I, it's just be, this looks to
40:15
me like a cascading effect that I think this is going to be not
40:19
the only airline that's going to close.
40:20
I hope I'm wrong, but I hope that in the in the future months
40:24
as this evolves and we don't end up having trouble flying
40:27
somewhere. Daddy Lance, have you flown
40:29
Spirit? I have not.
40:32
I also have. I've never, I haven't been on
40:34
most of the low, the low budget. Well, I think I.
40:39
Oh, I'm sorry. So that pricing, yeah.
40:42
So that brings. So that brings me me to the
40:46
movie that I saw last night. Was it deep water?
40:50
It was about a plane crash. And wow, that was the best plane
40:54
crash I think I've ever seen on film in my life.
40:58
It was so believable. God, it was so good.
41:02
So yeah. So hopefully no one's in a plane
41:04
crash anytime soon. And sorry about Spirit Airlines.
41:09
I hope I they're, they're not coming back, by the way.
41:11
There's no recovery from this. Yeah, they tried Chapter 11, I
41:15
guess, or whatever. That didn't work.
41:16
I don't know. So.
41:17
Well, only one application for the so-called Trump Gold Card
41:22
Visa has been approved so far. Despite being pitched as a major
41:27
revenue solution. The program was originally
41:30
designed to let wealthy foreigners pay $5,000,000 for US
41:34
residency and a path it was a path to citizenship.
41:38
Trump suggested that the idea could generate trillions,
41:41
claiming 1,000,000 buyers could bring in $5 trillion.
41:46
But more than a year after the launch, the price has been
41:49
reportedly cut to 1,000,000 demand or $1 million.
41:52
But demand continues to be limited and they only have one
41:55
application approved. Was it Nicki Minaj?
41:59
No. So Nicki Minaj was, she got an
42:02
honorary gold card. So she didn't, she didn't go
42:06
through the application process, so.
42:08
People don't want to come here. I'm just going to tell you all
42:10
right now things are very bad. I have Canadian friends that do
42:14
not want to come here. Well the article even says that
42:17
the potential buyer pool is is small, saying that there's only
42:21
about 626,000 ultra wealthy individual individuals global
42:26
globally with $30 million plus in assets.
42:30
I mean, we're not, we're not exactly making it appetizing to
42:33
come here. And the economy is in very bad
42:36
shape. Anyone that says that it's
42:38
improving or getting better is a liar.
42:41
Things are getting worse and things are hard for people down
42:44
here where Americans are going through a very, very difficult
42:48
time. And I don't see any end insight.
42:50
I don't. As long as this war continues
42:53
especially, I just don't see anything getting better.
42:55
So the the the the end insight that I see November.
42:59
Oh yeah. Yeah, that's the end of sight.
43:01
That's that when when they go ahead and start swearing in
43:04
those people that that win elections in November, then then
43:07
we're we're definitely going to see a a massive shift.
43:10
So the Trump administration cuts 4.3 million people from SNAP
43:16
benefits saying that it's claiming fraud.
43:19
Now listen, I'm all for that. If you are, you can work and you
43:23
are able to pay your, you know, pay money, you should, you
43:25
should not be getting SNAP. SNAP benefits has always been a
43:28
supplemental thing for people that can't afford to buy food
43:32
until they can get back on their feet.
43:34
That's what it's for. So I kind of agree with the
43:38
Trumpet administration on something.
43:40
They have stopped allowing people on Snap to buy cookies
43:45
and candy and power drinks and sodas and all that.
43:49
And I agree with that. I don't want my taxpayer money
43:54
filling your stomach with your goodies.
43:56
You should. It should be for food so so you
43:59
don't starve. I disagree and the reason why I
44:02
disagree and I'll let you finish Daddy Lance in a second, but I
44:06
disagree primarily because there are autistic children, children
44:11
on the spectrum that simply refuse to eat any other foods
44:17
other than that. You can go ahead and show them
44:20
the brand name cereal and the store brand cereal and they will
44:25
say that there's a difference in taste just because Tony the
44:28
Tiger's not on it. So.
44:30
Well, then you would have to get a.
44:31
Maybe you could get something special?
44:33
But that doesn't that doesn't exist.
44:35
That doesn't exist. But banning this out right goes
44:38
ahead and in my opinion hinders those those families.
44:42
Daddy Lentz, what's your? Perspective.
44:43
I see your perspective and I'm glad.
44:46
I think I just saw that they actually finally approved
44:47
rotisserie chickens. Just they often say you can't
44:50
have prepared foods like this is a perfect anyway.
44:52
But I, I do feel like worrying about the, the small bits of
44:56
fraud that perhaps are being perpetuated by poor people.
45:00
We're ignoring the fraud that really is making the impact.
45:03
And that's the fraud of the billionaires.
45:05
That's the fraud of the wealthy. Like people are so concerned.
45:07
About like the. Young people that you know that,
45:09
that you know, poor people or maybe not so poor people are
45:12
taking money that they shouldn't be.
45:13
It's like that's not, that's not the money.
45:15
We should be worried. I don't think that snap should
45:17
be cut out, right. I think that a lot of people
45:19
need those. Better.
45:21
I need people need to eat. I mean, that is, it is cruel.
45:24
It was cruel when we had 200 million tons of food here that
45:29
was supposed to go to Africa and it just died in the warehouse.
45:32
He just didn't want to ship it. So all those children didn't get
45:36
that food. I I don't understand what, but
45:38
they people keep saying the cruelty is the point.
45:41
No, it is. That is the I keep hearing that
45:43
from different people. The cruelty is the point.
45:46
If it sounds cruel, that's because that's what the plan.
45:48
Is you keep hearing it from people because you're saying it
45:51
to yourself. You you've said that for the
45:53
last two. Years but I but I but I hear it
45:56
from other people as well, you know?
45:57
I know of course, but I do want to go ahead and say we did get a
46:01
a nice little text message. If you want to go out and send
46:03
us a message 813-433-0885 or send us an e-mail at
46:07
dj@wmnf.org. Ellen over in Gulfport said that
46:12
the best comment or advice, Mind your own business.
46:16
Let everyone be themselves. I say it all the time, if you
46:20
just mind your own business, my living as a woman, everyday walk
46:23
around in the world isn't going to affect you at all.
46:26
I'm just telling you, I'm going to go home now and take care of
46:28
my elderly mom. I got a life.
46:30
I go to work. I got, you know, I got things
46:32
going on. I'm a very busy person.
46:33
My living as a woman isn't going to affect you at all.
46:36
Not even a little bit. Not even a tiny little bit.
46:38
It's just weird that people are so obsessed, but it's not going
46:41
ahead and looking at people and judging them.
46:44
I mean, Sean found a five day old kitten on the side of the
46:49
road for. Example.
46:51
People commented negative crap about it.
46:54
What were they saying? They were saying essentially
46:56
that we're not qualified to take care of that animal, that we
47:02
need to go ahead and send it to a shelter.
47:03
Who, mind you, would go ahead and just put volunteers who have
47:06
5 minutes of training to to feed these animals.
47:10
And so let's go ahead and give the back story a little bit.
47:15
So Sean was over in Fort Myers. He works as a forensic
47:18
architecture project manager. And so he was on site or not on
47:24
site. He was at the hotel for one of
47:27
his projects. And he's walking to the corner
47:30
store and on his way back, he finds a kitten screaming and
47:35
then hobbling its way towards him.
47:40
And obviously Sean did what any sensible person would do, which
47:44
was, you know, pick it up and try and find its mother.
47:48
And so he said that he, he looked for an hour searching the
47:51
entire area and the entire block, trying to find either the
47:55
mother, a litter maid or some sign that there was other cats
47:59
in the area to take care of this kitten.
48:02
And there was nothing. So Sean went ahead and picked up
48:05
the cat, brought him inside, brought him to the hotel and he
48:09
he's been taking care of him ever since.
48:12
The kitten is absolutely beautiful.
48:14
It's it is the cutest little thing on the planet.
48:17
If you want to go out and check out pictures, it's on the big
48:19
gay radio shows, Instagram just under the big gay radio show.
48:23
And like I said that there were people who were commenting
48:28
asking for qualifications for us to take care of the cat, which
48:31
is fine and all, but I shouldn't have to explain it to every
48:35
single person that comes up on my feed that I'm that, that,
48:39
that Sean is qualified 'cause I'm not qualified.
48:41
I know that if I were to have found this cat, I wouldn't have
48:45
been qualified to take care of it.
48:46
But Sean absolutely is he he managed A managed care over at
48:53
the Dunedin Animal Hospital for several years.
48:56
He raised his own pups from birth and he also another fun
49:03
fact, we have five other kittens that we had took an end during
49:07
Hurricane Milton. So honestly, people just need to
49:12
mind their damn business. I.
49:15
I've got that on my it's like from the from the remember the
49:18
Harris Waltz, Tim Waltz was like, mind your own damn
49:20
business. So we buy that sticker on the
49:22
back of our. Yeah, she really is.
49:24
Because. It's like seriously, but it's
49:25
interesting like especially in terms of like trans rights, they
49:28
try to make it their business by saying, well, bathroom bills
49:31
like we're going to create a problem that doesn't exist in
49:33
order to make it our business. Can't stop using the woman's
49:37
bathroom. OK, I look like a female when I
49:40
go into the world. If I go into the men's room,
49:43
it's going to be a massive problems.
49:45
Going to be a problem. Men are going to freak out when
49:47
I walk in. I've gone into, I've told this
49:49
story before. I've gone into the men's room by
49:52
accident. Once at Disney World, I went
49:54
into the wrong bag. You know, those bathrooms split
49:56
up into different sections. And when you heard the men
49:59
screaming, my friend, that was outside, Oh my God, that you
50:02
thought there was a robbery in there.
50:04
I said what happened? I said I went in the wrong
50:06
bathroom and they all freaked out.
50:08
They, you know, so this is the thing you can't when you've got
50:12
someone that's very far advanced in their transition, they can't
50:15
use that bathroom that they would that supposedly you think
50:18
they're supposed to be in. You know what I mean?
50:20
It's just and, and the same thing goes up.
50:22
Some of my trans men friends they have no business in a
50:25
woman's bathroom looking. Beards.
50:27
And I mean, it's just beards. It's not normal, you know, and
50:32
we're not going to stop doing it.
50:33
I, you know, I'm not going to, I'm, I know, I don't care about
50:35
the law. I'm just telling you that
50:37
there's a judge is going to have to explain to me what I'm
50:39
supposed to do with all this equipment that I've added to my
50:41
chest when I walk into a men's bathroom because it's just not
50:45
normal. You know, it's normal for me,
50:47
but it's not normal for them. So yeah, just, it's just, if you
50:51
just mind your own business, nobody.
50:55
Yeah, I've just, it's no big deal to me.
50:58
I, I I don't even pay attention to those, that silliness.
51:00
But Dolly Parton cancels her Vegas residency.
51:05
Oh, did she? Due to health issues again.
51:07
No this. Is the second cancellation.
51:09
She says that she's still got some healing to do.
51:12
She looks good though. Well, that's good.
51:14
She does look good, but she says she's still not ready.
51:16
Well, anyways, I kind of want to go ahead and throw it back to
51:19
Daddy Lance real quick. Daddy Lance, thank you so much
51:22
for for joining us on the main show today.
51:25
So for for people to have more information about you, where can
51:30
people find your your social media and everything?
51:32
Let's see here I am on Instagram, Daddy Lance SP also
51:37
on Twitter, Daddy Lance SF that's X Twitter X blue sky on
51:41
there as well. I think Daddy Lance on there.
51:44
I also have my website, my website isdaddylance.com if you
51:49
want to check it out. It is adult.
51:50
So just given that, that warning there, yeah, you can review
51:56
stuff on there as well. Awesome.
51:57
Well, thank you again for joining us, Miss Esme.
52:00
What are we going to talk about on the after show?
52:03
So there's an update on the murdered student.
52:07
That was that they were looking for a table.
52:09
Yes. And also the school, the USF,
52:13
the university is offering something for the families.
52:16
It's kind of nice what they're offering.
52:19
Also, a woman is arrested for doing something very bad for
52:24
animals. When I tell you what she did,
52:26
it's just we call her the duck lady.
52:28
She's just a very bad person. I'm very bad.
52:31
I'm glad that they I. Call her other names but.
52:33
Yeah, she deserves every. Find out what those names are on
52:36
the after show. On the after show, I'm going to
52:38
tell you what I think of her. Thank God we can cuss on that
52:41
show because I've got I'm going to.
52:43
I got a few choice words for her and also I want to see what what
52:48
else we got. Oh, and the Apple Store drama, I
52:51
want to talk about that, that my Apple Store drama, it's I have a
52:55
lot of things to tell Apple that I want to talk about with them.
53:00
I got a list of things really. And it's not about their
53:03
employees, by the way, because their employees are great.
53:05
Well, we also got the Supreme Court that has ruled on a bunch
53:09
of different cases, including redistricting, and there's
53:13
people who are upset about it and black individuals who are
53:17
concerned about the Voting Right Act and everything.
53:22
We also got DeSantis arguing that the recent rulings make Ron
53:28
Desantis's new redistricting allowed.
53:31
We'll talk about that after on the after show.
53:35
We also didn't get to Jimmy Kimmel.
53:36
So we're going to go out and talk about Jimmy Kimmel.
53:39
And so we got another message real quick.
53:43
He said Daddy Lance put it perfectly.
53:45
The broke arguing with the broke over fraud when the rich who are
53:48
committing more fraud than ever laugh at us.
53:51
Thank you, Jerome, for your comment.
53:53
I think I think that is a perfect way to end the show.
53:57
So thank you again, Daddy lands for for all of for for for
54:00
hanging out with us. Esme, thank you for all that you
54:03
do. Thanks for for for making the
54:05
the joy. Thank you.
54:08
And you know, I, I want to go ahead and say thank you to the
54:11
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54:16
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