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Cat takes over lunchtime · Clydesdale Media Podcast

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Hello, hello.
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You got cat today.
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So Scott is traveling and
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I'm actually traveling this
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week for work.
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I'm going to be in
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Connecticut for a couple of
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days and not going to be
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able to do my normal Wednesday,
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five PM podcast.
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So I figured maybe I should
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just go on now and give you
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guys an update because I
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have a really funny story
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from Saturday night to tell you about.
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And I didn't want two weeks
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to go by before we talked about it.
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So, um,
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I'm struggling with this background.
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Should we do this or should we do this?
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I'm not really sure.
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I'm going to leave it with
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Lunch with Clydesdale
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because that's really the
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show that it's on.
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I am guest co-host for the day.
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So hopefully you guys will
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jump in and chat with me
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for a little bit and we'll
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get right into it.
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So I don't have a whole lot of time.
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I do have to go back to work.
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But let's see what happened.
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What happened?
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um elbow update I yes aaron
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um the christmas tree is
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gone I hope you're happy I
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was really getting tired of
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the bullying it would have
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been right there um now
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there's a lamp there so
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anyway yes progress um
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thursday would I talk to
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you guys friday night
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thursday I went to pt I am
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completely cleared to do whatever I want
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Um,
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so your girl is doing whatever she
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wants with that elbow.
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Let me tell you.
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Um,
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I still have a few more appointments to
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go to like once a week,
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they do some like deep tissue stuff.
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My bicep is still really bothering me.
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Um, so I'm trying to take care of that,
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but, um, all is well with that.
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And I'll weave in some workout stories too,
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as we go through the week.
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So Thursday night, um,
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let's see what I do Thursday night.
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I had a friend who retired
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from the bank I used to work at and he
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reached out to me to tell me
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that they were doing a
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happy hour for him at this
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local bar down the street.
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So I popped in there for a
2:00
drink and met some old
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people that I used to work with.
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It was super fun.
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And then we are going to get
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into the theme for this week.
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Aside from guys not being honest,
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my friends bailing on me.
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My girlfriends are usually pretty good
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co-pilots and hanging out
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and being available and doing things.
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And I try my best to
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accommodate my schedule for them.
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Some of my friends have some
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weird schedules where they
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work on Saturday or they work on Sunday,
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so they can't go out until Monday night.
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And I don't really have to
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get up early if I don't need to.
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And so I'm up for anything whenever.
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But Thursday night,
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I had planned to go to this
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fundraising happy hour with
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some girlfriends of mine.
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And that was the plan for my second stop.
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And by the time I got to my second stop,
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they all were like, nevermind.
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We're I'm sitting at home
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drinking a glass of wine or
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I'm doing this or doing that.
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So they bailed.
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No problem.
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I did not want to go to that
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fundraiser by myself.
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So I sort of circled back
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around and I was already there,
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but I drove back to closer
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to my house and I went to, um,
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this place called Nick's pizza,
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which is like newly opened.
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I don't know if I told you
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guys about my buddy, Eddie,
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who was the bartender at
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the Mexican restaurant.
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Um,
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underneath me um when I say
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underneath me I live on top
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of a mexican restaurant so
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um eddie's sort of my
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wingman he's a super fun
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guy but he doesn't work
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there anymore he works at
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this place called next so I
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know if I went to the bar
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and just ate my dinner
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there I'd have at least
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somebody to talk to um so I
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went there it was really
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crowded as I'm waiting for
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a bar show to open up this
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guy taps me on the shoulder
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and it's somebody that I've
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known for years and years
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he was actually a bartender
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at another place that my
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ex-husband and I used to go to
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for a long time,
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like every Saturday night for decades.
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Anyway,
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so he and I sit at the bar together
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and have dinner.
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Well,
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part of me was excited because I got
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to catch up with my friend.
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But the other part of me was like, damn,
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I'm like trying to go out,
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be by myself and meet people in real life,
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just like everyone's been
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telling me to do.
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And now it appears like I'm with this guy,
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which was not a date.
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He's engaged.
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Um, but Eddie comes up and says hi to me,
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introduces himself to my friend.
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And the first thing I say to
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Eddie is this is not a date.
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And my friend looks at Eddie and was like,
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wait, it's not a date.
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I thought this was a date
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and he was just joking around,
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but it was really kind of funny.
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So anyway,
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we're chit chatting and having a
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good time.
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And I purposely stay, um,
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until after my friend leaves again,
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because I was trying to go
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there and meet people.
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And, uh, you know,
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when you're sitting with a guy,
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it doesn't matter.
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Like, gosh,
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I think even if I go out like
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with my brother,
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to the mall or something.
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People are going to assume
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that we're a couple.
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It's just kind of
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interesting how that works.
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Um, but anyway, that was Thursday night.
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Had a good time.
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Obviously didn't meet
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anybody in real life.
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Friday, um, Friday morning, we did Diane,
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um, at the, at brainwine CrossFit.
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Um, they do mayhem programming.
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So if you guys follow mayhem,
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I guess a bunch of people did Diane,
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but for those of you that don't know,
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Diane is one of my favorite
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benchmark workouts and your
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girl is a handstand pushup wizard.
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Um,
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but I have not, um,
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I haven't done handstand
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pushups since before my surgery.
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So I went and pulling a
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barbell is probably not the
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best thing for me to do
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either because when my elbow locks out,
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that's when it gets sore and irritated.
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So, um,
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I went ninety five pounds on the
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deadlifts, which, you know,
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I know total was smooth,
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but that was really all I can handle.
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But your girl did twenty one
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unbroken handstand pushups in round one.
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I was so excited.
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Hi, Holly.
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Uh,
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Twenty one.
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And they were beautiful, like and no pain.
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And I think the coaches were like,
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what's going on?
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Because I don't think they expected that.
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But it was awesome.
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Now,
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did I fall apart in the round of
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fifteen in the round of nine?
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Yeah, pretty much.
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I did like five, five, three, two.
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And then I think on the round of nine,
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I did like three, three, two, one,
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because I was pretty much dead.
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But I was really excited about that.
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So that was a huge win for
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me on Friday morning.
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Friday lunchtime,
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I went and saw my therapist.
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She's amazing.
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I still love her very, very much.
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And I always feel better
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when I go to see her.
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I'm actually not seeing her
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for like another two weeks
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because I just think
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sometimes I just go there
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to talk to her about whatever.
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And she's probably just as
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entertained as you guys are
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about my crazy life.
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So I did that.
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And then I went and had a
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voice lesson with my friend Gus,
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who is like an opera singer
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and very accomplished.
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And that was super fun.
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He, he tested my range.
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Turns out I have actually a
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pretty good range I'm just
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not comfortable in those
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higher notes but I can
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actually hit them we
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practiced some songs he
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taught me how to breathe
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while I'm singing and how
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to warm up and protect my
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voice so that was like
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super super cool um and
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then I did my normal friday
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night thing with my
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girlfriends we went to um
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this place called the gap
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um had a few drinks then we
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went to this place called
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kirkwood country club
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because it had um this band there ronnie
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Dee and Mikey, Richie B or something.
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I'm going to get the names mixed up.
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It was two guys playing guitar,
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like nineties, you know,
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rock pop music stuff.
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Lots of dancing was happening.
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It was a lot of fun.
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And then we jumped around to
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a couple of other places.
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And I was the designated driver as usual.
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And my friend, one of my friends, you know,
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proceeded to get pretty,
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pretty liquored up.
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So I drove her home.
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Oh,
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one of the bartenders at one of the
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last places we went to
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This guy Butch, he's in a punk band.
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He's a drummer for a punk
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band and he wants to create a trio band,
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him, his son who plays guitar,
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and a female lead singer.
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We talked briefly about
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maybe that would be an
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opportunity for me as well,
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but I don't know how solid
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that idea is or if it's
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even going to work,
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but that was fun anyway.
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So that was Friday night,
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got in really late.
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Saturday morning,
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woke up and went to
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CrossFit again in the morning,
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had a really good partner
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workout with this girl, Jenny,
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who's a beast at my gym.
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My cousin had a baby shower.
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My daughter and I went to that.
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We had some mimosas, had some good food,
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got to see our family a
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little bit and celebrate my
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cousin who's having a baby in June,
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baby girl.
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And then...
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I was supposed to go, here's another,
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my friends are bailing story.
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I was supposed to go to this
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luau fundraiser for the
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green braid project.
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And if you guys know me, um,
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I've supported that
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organization for quite a while.
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Now they do a fundraising CrossFit event.
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That's been in Wilmington
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the last couple of years.
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And I've been like one of
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the event directors for that event.
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Scott has gone down and covered it, um,
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for Clydesdale media in the past as well.
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Um, you know,
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I've brought a lot of judges
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to that organization and done
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like some scoring stuff and
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some other admin work.
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But anyway,
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they were doing this fundraiser
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for pig roast.
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I bought four tickets, spent like,
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I don't know,
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almost three hundred dollars
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on these tickets.
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But the pig roast was like an hour away.
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And so, of course,
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I wanted friends to go with me.
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I had asked a in real life
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guy if he wanted to go and
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he had already made plans.
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So I asked any girlfriends
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that were willing.
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And of course, Friday night,
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when we went out, everyone was like, yeah,
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I'm going to go.
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It's going to be so much fun.
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And then on Saturday,
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everyone starts bailing on
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me at like noon or one
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o'clock and they're like, oh,
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I'm so hung over.
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You know,
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I think I'm going to just chill today.
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So I had a kind of a
9:28
decision to make whether I
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was going to go or not and
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decided not to go.
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I was actually talking to
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this guy on a dating app
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and we were trying to get together.
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We were going to get
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together next Thursday,
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like three days from now,
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because that was the last
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the next time I was available.
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And, uh, we talked on the phone, I guess,
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Friday afternoon,
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and then maybe again on Saturday.
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And I said, Hey, I'm free tonight.
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You know, last minute,
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why don't we get together tonight?
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And he was like, okay, cool.
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We can do that.
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And we sort of hemmed and
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hawed on where we were going to meet.
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He lives.
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Downtown Philadelphia area.
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And I didn't really want to
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go downtown Philadelphia.
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So I picked like a suburb
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that's sort of halfway for both of us.
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And, uh, we were going to,
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he was going to text me
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when he left and I was just
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going to leave.
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He was like, three minutes away.
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I was twenty-five minutes away.
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And we were going to meet and hang out.
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Kenneth, what's up?
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Welcome.
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So I get dressed, shower, do the hair,
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all the things.
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Oh, you can tell me, guys.
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People have very strong
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opinions about the hair.
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Let's talk about this for a second.
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Curly or straight or like curling iron?
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The last episode,
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I think my hair was curled
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with a curling iron.
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I want to know from a guy's
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opinion what you guys think.
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Because every time I ask a guy,
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they're like, oh, it doesn't matter,
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whatever you're comfortable with.
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But I know that's bullshit.
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And I know you have sort of, hi, Jeffrey,
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sort of an opinion on that.
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So let me know.
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I'll be curious to see if we
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like it kind of wild and crazy curly.
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Do we like it straight and refined?
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Or do we like it somewhere in between?
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And I guess, Kenneth,
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we're calling that wavy.
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So we'll see about that.
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Anyway.
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I think I look better with
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it sort of smooth and straight.
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I think it like evens out my
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complexion a little bit.
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I know that's like way too
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girly for everybody for all
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you boys out there.
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Um, but that's my opinion.
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So, uh,
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females weigh in as well because I
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kind of care what you think too.
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I think sometimes we have a better taste.
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Um, anyway, uh, what was I saying?
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Shit.
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Oh, so we were going to,
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I was going to meet this guy.
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So, um,
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He texted me and asked me
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what the dress code was,
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and I told him what I was wearing.
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I was wearing a black tank
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top and these kitten heels.
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I was being a little more
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dressed up than normal.
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I was not my normal skater
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boy outfit with vans and cargo pants.
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I wanted to get dressed up.
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And he was like, oh,
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I have to get dressed up.
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And I said, no, just wear.
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I don't care if you wear
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jeans if there's no real dress code.
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Andrew likes it more straight than curly.
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Thank you, Andrew.
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Thank you for being honest.
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I'm good with that too.
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Jay Birch likes some curl,
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but it matters how you feel in it.
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Yeah, I guess you're right.
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Like if you feel a little
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more confident one way or the other,
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it probably shows through.
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Holly's jealous of my curls.
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Yeah, you know what?
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This is going to make you really angry.
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This is hair from, what's today, Monday?
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This is hair from my date on
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Saturday night.
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And then I slept in it last
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Saturday night.
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I worked out in it Sunday
12:31
morning and did like a
12:35
forty minute high rocks
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workout with lots of running,
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lots of kettlebell swings
12:40
and like one hundred and ten burpees.
12:43
And then I lived my life yesterday,
12:45
slept in it last night and
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just kind of fluffed it this morning.
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So the curls are nice to like.
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For me, low maintenance,
12:52
I can sort of get away with
12:53
not washing it for a while.
12:54
Anyway, back to the story.
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So we're going to,
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we're supposed to meet and
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he sends me a picture of a
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tire with a nail in it.
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And he, I'm going to, we're going to,
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we're going to do a little
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play by play here.
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Cause I think I deleted his messages.
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Um, cause you know, this isn't ending well,
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but we had like almost
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three hundred text messages
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from each other talking
13:21
back and forth the last couple of weeks.
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Um, and it was nothing.
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know we're just kind of
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getting to know each other
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um and phone calls we
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talked on the phone um
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several times anyway so
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let's see he sends me he
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sends me this I don't know
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if you can see this can you
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see this right oh his name
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his name is not joe it's
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like his name is joe um
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anyway so he writes I'm
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gonna flip out and I said
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oh no he said I was running
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to cvs this is elaborate
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guys I was running to cvs
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I'm going to see if anyone
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is open to fix it real quick
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This is at five fifty five on a Saturday.
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And then he comes back in at
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like six fifteen.
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He's like, no, I'm screwed.
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No pun intended.
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No one is open.
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And I said, I'm just sitting here like,
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all right, you have a nail in your tire.
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He had said he had just came
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back from the beach.
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He probably drove two hours
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with him with this nail in his tire.
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Like, just keep driving on it, dude.
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You'll be fine.
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And if not, he has like some coverage.
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It wasn't AAA.
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It was something else.
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because he has like a fleet
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car because he's in sales.
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He said, so I can drive on it,
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but if it goes, but if it comes out,
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it's going to go flat.
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And then I'm thinking like,
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don't you know how to
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change a freaking tire?
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Like criteria number one for
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like an actual man that I
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would be dating would know
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how to do that.
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He said, no, I have BBL.
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It's a fleet vehicle.
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I called them already
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waiting for them to call me
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back to tell me how long.
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And I said, you're home, right?
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And he's like, yeah, why?
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I said,
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I was just making sure you weren't
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still at the beach because
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he was at the beach earlier
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during the day,
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like opening up his beach
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house or something.
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Assuming he even has a beach house,
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he probably doesn't.
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He said, no, I'm home.
15:00
He said, we can go out down here,
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but I feel bad if you have to drive.
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And I said,
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it's not what I had in mind for
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our first encounter.
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I didn't want to go all the way down to,
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he lives in like South Philly.
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I didn't want to do that.
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He said, I get it.
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Trust me.
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I just feel bad.
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I must've gotten it in the
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tire on the way home from the shore.
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Again, elaborate story.
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He said, so are we calling it?
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And he said, if you want,
15:21
I'm not sure when they will
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get here to fix it.
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I don't want to hold you up
15:24
if you can make other plans.
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And then I thought to myself, I was like,
15:27
well,
15:27
can't you just have them come to the
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place where we're going to meet?
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Like you drive it the twenty
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minutes that you have to
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get to where we're meeting
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and then plan on having
15:36
them come there and change your tire.
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Like you're saving some time.
15:39
You still get to see me.
15:40
And again,
15:41
why I'm the dude making solutions here,
15:44
I do not know.
15:45
That's something I need to work on because
15:47
it backfires on me all the
15:48
time and it's not giving off like,
15:50
you know, damsel in distress,
15:53
feminine energy that guys like.
15:57
So anyway, meanwhile,
15:58
I'm like talking to one of
15:59
my girlfriends and she's saying, Oh,
16:02
when are you going out?
16:03
You know, what are you doing?
16:04
And I go to show her the
16:06
picture of the tire because
16:08
I thought like,
16:09
that's easier to say than
16:10
what's going on.
16:11
And so I had downloaded the
16:13
picture that he sent me.
16:14
And I think you probably see
16:15
where I'm going here, but
16:17
I went to pull up the photo
16:18
to send to my girlfriend in
16:20
my photo app and it wasn't there.
16:22
And I was like, oh, that's really weird.
16:24
But then I remembered when
16:26
you save a photo that
16:27
someone sends you and it's got the,
16:30
like all the data behind it
16:32
around when it was taken
16:33
and where it was taken and all that,
16:35
it puts it in your photo
16:36
album in chronological order.
16:39
So it didn't put it at the
16:41
bottom of my thing because
16:43
that's not when the picture was taken.
16:46
So now I'm in Sherlock
16:47
Holmes mode and I am not
16:49
responding to this guy,
16:50
but I am frantically going
16:51
through my phone,
16:52
scrolling the thirteen
16:54
thousand pictures I have
16:55
trying to find this fucking
16:56
tiger picture.
16:57
Of course,
16:57
I can't find it because it's
16:58
like finding a needle in a haystack.
17:00
So I go back to his text and
17:02
I download the picture like
17:04
eighteen times so that it becomes,
17:06
you know,
17:07
this big swath of pictures as
17:08
you're scrolling.
17:10
I finally found it.
17:12
May of twenty twenty four is
17:14
when this picture was taken.
17:17
So he sent me an old photo,
17:20
like purposely crafted this
17:22
whole crazy story about why
17:25
he couldn't meet me.
17:26
Even though he said like,
17:27
you could come down, like what,
17:28
what would we have done if I had said,
17:30
okay, I'll come down and see you.
17:31
Like, was he not going to show up?
17:35
I have no idea, but he kept saying like,
17:38
you know, if I get stuck on the highway,
17:39
I'm screwed.
17:40
Then I'm going to be sitting
17:41
on the side of the road.
17:42
And then he said, you aren't saying much,
17:43
my apologies.
17:44
Cause this is when I was in
17:45
like Sherlock Holmes mode
17:46
and I'm looking through and
17:47
I figured it out.
17:48
And I wrote, sorry,
17:50
not sure what I'm supposed to say.
17:52
And he said, I was just apologizing.
17:54
I feel bad.
17:54
Back it up, back it up.
17:57
A couple, maybe yesterday, day before,
18:00
like I always try to ask
18:02
guys when I'm talking to
18:03
them and I haven't met them yet.
18:04
Like,
18:04
what are some of your red flags or
18:06
what are you
18:06
You know, what are your icks?
18:08
Like,
18:08
I feel like getting to that point
18:10
over text is pretty easy
18:11
because if someone says like, oh,
18:12
I don't want a girl who
18:13
lifts weights or I don't want a girl who,
18:17
I don't know,
18:18
loves dogs or I'm allergic
18:19
to dogs or something,
18:20
all that stuff like matters
18:22
in the very beginning.
18:23
So I said something about, you know,
18:28
I made a joke like, oh,
18:29
we might as well just hold
18:30
our red flags until we meet.
18:31
And he's like, no, no,
18:32
let's talk about them now.
18:33
So he said like,
18:34
I can be stubborn and hardheaded.
18:35
And I was like,
18:36
that's not a red flag in my book,
18:37
but whatever.
18:38
He said, I'm extremely outgoing.
18:39
And sometimes people can be
18:40
intimidated by that.
18:41
And I was, I said, I said, well,
18:44
that's cool.
18:44
Like I want to date an extrovert.
18:46
You guys know, I've talked about that.
18:47
Like I've never dated
18:48
someone who's kind of outgoing.
18:50
I've always dated guys that
18:51
are sort of quiet and
18:52
introverted and that does
18:53
not work for me.
18:55
So we went into this whole
18:58
comment and I said, you know,
18:59
what are some things you
19:00
dislike in a partner?
19:01
He wrote,
19:02
I don't like a liar or
19:03
someone who can't be loyal.
19:05
I need someone who can hold
19:06
their own and doesn't make me there.
19:07
Didn't mean to be there at all times,
19:09
if that makes sense.
19:09
And I'm like, I got you.
19:10
Like, that's fine.
19:11
Honesty is one of my biggest, you know,
19:15
criticalities for someone's personality.
19:17
So anyway, back to, hold on.
19:20
We're going to go to some comments.
19:22
I love that my wife was like, right,
19:23
Corey?
19:24
Isn't that like so cool?
19:24
I love it.
19:27
All right.
19:28
So here we go.
19:29
I just wrote, I said,
19:30
I'm stunned that someone
19:30
that values honesty would
19:31
just wouldn't just say they
19:33
don't want to go out versus
19:34
sending me a picture from
19:35
twenty twenty four
19:36
pretending to have a nail in his tire.
19:38
My job.
19:39
I was like, I got you.
19:41
I should have called him
19:42
because that would have
19:42
been really fun to sort of
19:44
get his like verbal reaction.
19:47
But I didn't feel like
19:48
dealing with him or even
19:49
really talking to him at that point.
19:52
I was going to leave it at that.
19:53
But like he didn't respond.
19:54
And that sort of annoyed me
19:55
that I needed him to like
19:58
I don't know,
19:58
at least apologize or just
20:00
like I needed to know that
20:01
he got the message.
20:03
Right.
20:03
And so I said something.
20:04
I said, you, sir,
20:05
what's wrong with online dating?
20:06
Thanks for validating that for me.
20:08
Because like, come on.
20:11
And his only response was,
20:13
you will be fine.
20:16
Yes,
20:17
I will be fine and I am fine and I'm
20:19
so much finer, not not, you know,
20:22
wasting my Saturday night
20:24
to go out with you.
20:25
So.
20:26
You're like, wow, Saturday night, blown.
20:28
It's six thirty.
20:29
I have nothing to do.
20:30
I'm all dressed up.
20:32
So you know what I do?
20:34
And yes, Holly, isn't that crazy?
20:35
All that effort for a ridiculous story.
20:37
Either way looks bad.
20:38
Either you're a liar or you
20:39
can't solve basic problems.
20:41
Oh, that's like a double negative,
20:43
double negative.
20:45
Hey, Corey says, what a douche canoe.
20:48
Pretty much.
20:50
So so what did I do?
20:52
I decided to go to the place
20:54
where we were supposed to meet anyway,
20:55
because I was
20:56
looking forward to it.
20:57
And I already sort of had it
20:58
in my mind that that's what
20:59
we're going to do.
21:00
There was supposed to be live music there.
21:02
And I went and sat at the bar,
21:07
maybe five minutes into me
21:08
sitting at the bar,
21:09
this older gentleman comes
21:11
and sits next to me.
21:13
We start chatting about soccer.
21:14
We were watching a soccer game on TV,
21:17
a football,
21:18
an international football game.
21:22
Um,
21:22
he had just come from the Philadelphia
21:24
union game, which is a,
21:25
which is a team soccer team.
21:28
I don't know.
21:29
MLS major league soccer.
21:30
Is that a thing?
21:31
Anyway, he was drinking.
21:33
I was drinking my diet Coke
21:34
cause I was by myself and I'm like,
21:35
I don't want to really drink.
21:36
And I just kind of want to
21:37
skip the vibe and see
21:38
what's going on anyway.
21:39
So he's sort of monopolizing
21:41
all my time at the bar.
21:43
Not somebody that I, you know,
21:44
was going to be like dating or,
21:46
or wanting other people to
21:48
think I was dating.
21:48
Cause again, we talked about.
21:50
If you see a man and a woman
21:51
sitting next to each other,
21:52
you sort of make an
21:52
assumption that they're together.
21:55
And again,
21:55
the whole point for me was to
21:57
get out there and to like
21:58
meet new people.
21:58
And I met him.
22:00
His name was Earl.
22:01
Very nice guy.
22:03
However,
22:04
in comes this woman and these three guys.
22:07
And they looked, you know,
22:09
they look to be like maybe my age,
22:11
maybe a little younger.
22:11
And I heard them talking about banking,
22:14
like Discover Bank or
22:15
something like that.
22:16
So I turned around and I
22:17
talked to the girl and I said,
22:18
how do you guys know each other?
22:20
And she said, oh, this is my husband.
22:21
This is my husband's boss.
22:22
And this is the godfather of our children,
22:24
blah, blah, blah.
22:25
And I really got to stop saying blah, blah,
22:27
blah.
22:27
I don't like that.
22:30
Anyway, they...
22:32
We started chatting.
22:33
I went to the restroom.
22:35
I came back and I really
22:36
wanted to go somewhere else
22:37
because it turns out there
22:38
was not live music at that place.
22:40
There was like a live DJ and
22:42
I really wanted to see some live music.
22:44
And she told me that she was
22:45
going they were going to
22:46
take their boss to a bunch
22:48
of places in that town
22:49
because he had just moved there.
22:50
And they were familiar with all the area,
22:53
all the different local bars.
22:54
And it's like this main
22:56
street of just restaurants
22:57
and bars the whole time.
22:59
Um, so I'm gonna sneeze.
23:02
I think maybe not.
23:06
Should I lost it?
23:06
Okay.
23:07
Um, anyway,
23:09
and I so I looked at her and I said,
23:10
Can I please go with you?
23:12
I just totally invited myself.
23:14
And it was kind of like,
23:16
it was kind of like girl
23:17
code for she knew I was
23:20
sitting next to this guy
23:21
that clearly we weren't like a match.
23:24
Um,
23:25
and I kind of wanted to get away from him,
23:26
not in a mean way,
23:28
not in a like rape whistle way.
23:30
I just,
23:31
it was not how I wanted to spend my time.
23:33
Um,
23:34
so I thanked Earl for the conversation.
23:36
I kindly got up and they
23:37
took me to three other bars
23:39
and we had a blast.
23:40
I have her cell phone number
23:41
and now we're friends.
23:43
Her name is Jennifer.
23:44
And she lives in a town
23:45
pretty close to me.
23:46
And, uh,
23:47
there was like a little bit of
23:48
chemistry between me and one of the guys,
23:50
but he was like, way too young.
23:52
Um, but we chatted a little bit.
23:54
It was funny.
23:55
I was talking to him and
23:56
then he went to the
23:57
bathroom and Jennifer comes
23:58
up to me and she's like,
23:59
so what do you think about so-and-so?
24:02
And I, you know,
24:02
and I just kind of giggled and I was like,
24:04
he's a really nice guy.
24:04
So I think he's too young for me.
24:06
And she's like, oh,
24:07
he's not too young for you.
24:08
And then she told me he was and I was like,
24:09
yeah, he probably is.
24:12
Um, anyway, so that was my Saturday night.
24:16
I thought it was pretty cool.
24:17
Um, just
24:18
crazy craziness about that
24:19
dude with the with the flat
24:21
tire thing that was kind of
24:22
annoying um so sunday
24:26
morning I got home I got
24:27
home early like eleven
24:28
o'clock maybe then just
24:29
like went to bed um sunday
24:32
I did a workout at my
24:33
crossfit gym it was
24:34
actually a hyrox workout it
24:37
was two four six eight ten
24:39
ascending ladder forty
24:41
minutes um burpees no it
24:45
didn't start with burpees
24:46
You had to start with burpees,
24:48
kettlebell swings,
24:49
American kettlebell swings, and V-ups.
24:51
And every four minutes, starting at zero,
24:53
we ran a four hundred.
24:55
So lots of running.
24:59
Like I said, one hundred and ten burpees,
25:00
one hundred ten kettlebell
25:01
swings with this guy.
25:04
And it was totally fine.
25:04
I didn't even have to adjust
25:06
my grip or make a fist on
25:07
the ground or anything else.
25:08
So I felt really good about that.
25:12
What else did I do on Sunday?
25:13
I went shopping.
25:14
Oh,
25:14
I took my mom out to dinner last night.
25:16
We went to this place called
25:18
Kid Chalene's.
25:18
It's a little bar down the road.
25:20
We sat at the bar.
25:22
I was telling her all about
25:23
my stories from the week.
25:24
She, you know, thinks I'm crazy.
25:28
What else?
25:29
I told her that I wanted to
25:30
do something on TikTok
25:31
where she scrolls for me.
25:33
Like she goes through some
25:34
of my dating apps and just
25:35
makes decisions on my behalf.
25:38
And she thought that was really funny.
25:39
So she's also getting...
25:42
She's getting very,
25:44
she used to be like super judgmental.
25:47
Like she hated tattoos.
25:48
She hated facial hair, all this stuff.
25:50
And we walk into this bar
25:52
last night and there's a
25:53
guy sitting by himself eating a burger.
25:56
Clearly he had just played a
25:57
round of golf and very attractive.
26:00
He had like a full beard, a hat on.
26:03
like a tailor-made hat and
26:05
like this vibrant tattoo sleeve.
26:07
And I'm thinking my mom's
26:08
going to look at him and be like,
26:09
oh my God, he's so gross.
26:11
Look at his hair.
26:11
It looks, you know,
26:12
unkempt and uneducated.
26:14
And she's very judgy about
26:15
that kind of stuff.
26:16
And she actually said to me, she's like,
26:18
that guy's attractive.
26:20
And I was like, mom, what are you doing?
26:23
So she's coming around or
26:25
maybe she's just starting to deal with,
26:27
you know, what my type is or whatever.
26:29
But anyway,
26:30
I thought that was really funny
26:31
that she did that.
26:32
Corey, what do you have to say here?
26:34
This is a lot, buddy.
26:35
Your problem, Kat,
26:36
is that you don't look
26:36
anywhere near thirty two.
26:37
So new people you meet don't
26:39
think that a guy who's thirty.
26:40
Yeah, I mean, I guess so.
26:42
I mean,
26:43
he he might not have thought that either.
26:45
But guess what?
26:45
Like when we left that night,
26:48
all four of us stood outside.
26:50
No, one, two, three, four,
26:51
all five of us stood
26:53
outside the bar and I had
26:55
like seven blocks to walk to my car.
26:57
And they were all going sort
26:58
of in the opposite direction.
26:59
And I like gave everyone a
27:00
hug and said like, so nice to meet you,
27:02
whatever.
27:02
Um, hi Jody.
27:05
Um, no one offered to walk me to my car,
27:08
which I was kind of annoyed.
27:09
I would, I mean,
27:09
I didn't need the guy that
27:10
I thought was cute to walk me to the car,
27:12
but even like the couple,
27:13
if that were me and we
27:15
picked up this single woman
27:17
for the night and she had
27:18
seven blocks to walk,
27:19
I probably would have
27:21
offered to drive her to her car,
27:22
walk her to her car, whatever.
27:23
But anyway, not a big deal.
27:25
Um,
27:26
But you're probably right.
27:28
It's just funny because, again,
27:30
the attention that I get
27:31
when I'm out is mostly from older men.
27:35
And I don't know if they're
27:35
just like so damn confident
27:37
and they don't give a shit or what.
27:42
But yeah, Corey,
27:43
I know you would have offered me to walk.
27:44
And I've talked to other
27:46
people and they said the same thing.
27:47
So anyway.
27:48
Um, so Sunday was good.
27:51
We went out, like we did that.
27:52
I kind of explained to her, you know,
27:54
what I'm looking for and what I'm doing.
27:56
And, you know, she's like my biggest fan.
27:58
So that was really fun.
27:59
She did not wear her hearing aids though.
28:01
So it was kind of annoying
28:01
because I had to repeat
28:02
myself a million times and
28:04
I felt like I was yelling
28:05
and the whole bar could
28:06
probably hear what I was talking about.
28:08
Um, so that was kind of weird, but anyway,
28:11
um, we did, we did talk a little bit.
28:13
Um,
28:14
then what happened then last night I
28:16
spent like most of the
28:17
evening actually talking to, um,
28:18
a new guy that I matched
28:19
with on Facebook dating.
28:21
Um, we have a lot in common.
28:24
Um, we just texted back and forth.
28:26
We didn't talk on the phone,
28:27
but we were up until like,
28:30
like two thirty in the morning texting.
28:33
I had to sort of call it
28:34
because I was like, I was,
28:35
I was super tired,
28:36
but I was enjoying the conversation.
28:38
Um, he needs to ask me out though.
28:40
He has not asked me out yet.
28:41
And, um,
28:43
We're going to we're going
28:44
to not make any moves until that happens,
28:45
because like I've talked about,
28:47
I need to meet people in
28:48
person to see if there's
28:51
like that chemistry spark
28:52
physical attraction piece.
28:55
And I don't like to get too
28:57
attached to somebody over
28:58
text before then,
29:00
because then it makes it
29:00
even harder or more
29:03
complicated or complex when
29:04
you do meet in person.
29:06
I don't want the feelings to
29:10
like be caught before we actually meet.
29:13
because then I'm going to be
29:14
really disappointed.
29:16
Jody Lynn says, do not text anything.
29:19
Oh, you wouldn't say on the phone.
29:20
Yeah, no, I don't do that.
29:24
We definitely didn't do
29:26
anything like that.
29:27
Heidi, my baby.
29:29
Hi, I miss you.
29:31
Heidi met a guy once and his
29:32
voice was super high deal breaker.
29:33
Yeah, that's true.
29:35
The good thing, well, I mean, not for me.
29:37
I have no idea what this
29:38
guy's voice sounds like,
29:39
but I sent him all the
29:41
links to my YouTube shit
29:42
because I figure...
29:43
that person's going to find out anyway.
29:46
Um,
29:46
so I sent him my seven interview where
29:49
it talks about me being on TRT.
29:51
Um, and it talks about, you know,
29:52
when I was married and have my gym.
29:55
Um, and then, um,
29:58
I sent him the Clydes or I
30:00
sent him the dating,
30:01
one of the dating episodes or whatever.
30:03
So it kind of is helpful for guys.
30:05
Cause I, you really get to feel,
30:07
you get a feel for my
30:08
personality and what I'm
30:09
like on these videos.
30:13
Uh,
30:14
he said he was hot but I
30:16
couldn't do it yeah I mean
30:18
sometimes that's a
30:20
definitely a deal breaker
30:21
what does this mean judy
30:23
jody obligatory mother's
30:25
bag bag I don't know what
30:29
that means trish your
30:31
auntie yeah um the the
30:34
smallest possible dose five
30:35
units every five days
30:37
Um, it's like barely, I had to get like,
30:40
uh, half a milliliter vials or, um,
30:43
syringes just to administer it.
30:45
I just took it this morning, actually.
30:47
Um, every five days,
30:48
my levels are like hovering around to.
30:51
I think something like that.
30:54
Um, they were at,
30:55
they had actually at one
30:56
point been at a eight hundred,
30:59
which is super scary.
31:01
Um, but I swear to God,
31:02
you guys have seen me
31:04
through that eight hundred
31:05
uh spike and the dip and I
31:07
don't think you would have
31:08
noticed like I didn't you
31:10
know my voice didn't get
31:11
any lower I didn't uh you
31:14
know my body didn't change
31:15
very much the only thing
31:15
that the only thing that
31:16
testosterone that I notice
31:18
on my body is that like I
31:19
have to shave my legs
31:20
pretty much every day like
31:22
my hair growth is a real
31:23
thing um you know I get
31:25
like a random hair like on
31:26
my thigh that I've never
31:27
had before which I can't
31:28
stand um but my waxer is
31:30
like my best friend
31:32
But yes, I am on that.
31:33
I feel like it balances out
31:36
my hormones a lot.
31:37
I don't have, oh, you're funny.
31:44
I definitely don't have the
31:46
kind of female problems
31:49
that most women going
31:51
through menopause go through.
31:53
I'm trying to keep that PG,
31:55
but I don't have those
31:57
kinds of symptoms or issues.
31:59
And before I went, I actually,
32:02
it was funny.
32:03
I went on TRT with
32:04
California Hormones back
32:05
when Sivan was working with me,
32:09
or I was working with them.
32:10
And I think I was taking too much.
32:13
And that's when my levels
32:15
got kind of high.
32:16
And I sort of, instead of, I panicked.
32:18
Instead of like just reducing my dosage,
32:22
I just went off of it cold turkey.
32:23
And let me tell you,
32:24
when you go off of that shit cold turkey,
32:26
not fun.
32:28
I started developing the worst hot flashes,
32:30
the worst menopause symptoms,
32:32
not the not like the female part stuff,
32:36
but the hot flashes were like real.
32:38
I was getting like I was
32:38
getting them like every twenty minutes,
32:40
like full flop sweat, hot flashes.
32:44
And I definitely think that
32:45
stopping that testosterone
32:47
caused part of that.
32:48
But I went on.
32:49
I'm taking estrogen and
32:50
progesterone from my OBGYN
32:52
and I'm taking testosterone
32:53
kind of on my own.
32:55
Um,
32:55
I buy it online and I administer it
32:57
myself and my primary care
33:00
doctor knows that I'm on it
33:01
and she's very good at
33:03
monitoring my blood.
33:04
So, you know, she can't prescribe it.
33:06
She can't give it to me.
33:08
Um,
33:09
but she's very supportive of it and she
33:11
sees, you know,
33:12
how I'm feeling on it and how I'm looking,
33:14
uh, and behaving.
33:15
And she says, you know, more power to you.
33:18
So, um, CrossFit wants to know,
33:20
did I get super jacked at a hundred?
33:22
No, I wasn't.
33:24
I didn't notice anything.
33:25
Like I said,
33:26
you guys have seen me through
33:28
this whole journey.
33:29
I mean, I started it, gosh,
33:31
almost three years ago,
33:32
maybe two and a half years ago,
33:33
back right around the time
33:35
when I did my interview with Sevan.
33:36
And I don't remember when that was exactly,
33:38
but it was probably two years ago.
33:42
I started like two and a half years ago.
33:44
How do you find online?
33:46
Trish,
33:46
if you want to send me a DM on Instagram,
33:48
I can give you the link.
33:50
My son hooked me up with a place.
33:54
where you can get it.
33:55
It's different than the
33:57
place where I got my
33:57
peptides for my elbow,
33:58
which I'm also still taking.
34:01
And I take those every day,
34:03
but I have a vial.
34:04
It probably costs me maybe
34:06
two hundred and fifty
34:06
dollars and I've had it for
34:08
almost a year because I
34:09
take so little of it.
34:11
Really, it's not it's not a lot.
34:14
And Trisha, some states don't allow it.
34:16
Well,
34:17
I can order it for you and then I can
34:19
send it to you if you need
34:20
if you need me to for a small fee.
34:24
I'm going to start my own, uh,
34:26
my own TRT clinic here in a minute,
34:27
but yeah, um, I do buy it online and it's,
34:31
you know, I think it's, you know,
34:32
one of those places where they say like,
34:34
it's for research only.
34:34
It's probably not, um,
34:37
sanctioned by anybody, but, um,
34:42
you think PCPs can, yeah,
34:44
I think they can too,
34:45
but you have to be like clinically low,
34:48
like at zero.
34:49
And for guys you have to be
34:50
under two hundred and like,
34:52
know if a guy's at five
34:53
hundred and he feels like
34:54
crap um and he's having a
34:56
hard time you know building
34:57
muscle mass and he's over
34:58
fifty and he's starting to
34:59
look like a female um what
35:03
are you gonna do like your
35:04
doctor's not gonna give it
35:04
to you um and and a lot of
35:07
the doctors that do they
35:08
give you like pellets or
35:09
they give you cream and all
35:10
that stuff and like
35:11
injecting is really the
35:12
only way to go because you
35:13
can really control the
35:14
dosages and dial it up and
35:16
down you get that pellet
35:17
and it's like in your body
35:18
for a period of time until
35:20
it dissolves and the creams
35:21
don't really work
35:23
So, you know, I'm not a doctor,
35:26
but I know what works for me.
35:27
And I've had experience with
35:29
other people that are close
35:30
to me that have done it and
35:31
have had great results.
35:35
I wouldn't hesitate to do it.
35:36
You just have to have like a
35:37
primary care doctor who
35:41
really is understanding and is willing to,
35:43
you know,
35:43
write your script for that blood
35:44
work probably every six
35:45
months just to make sure
35:46
that some of your other
35:47
levels aren't out of whack.
35:49
You know,
35:49
you shouldn't have high blood pressure.
35:50
You shouldn't have sleep apnea.
35:51
You shouldn't have a heart condition.
35:53
Um, you have to kind of be, um, you know,
35:56
fairly, fairly healthy.
35:58
Otherwise CrossFit says,
35:59
I guess I can cancel my
36:00
natty or not bid for cat.
36:01
Yeah.
36:02
I mean, if that's what you want to call it,
36:04
I mean, if I got, if,
36:06
if I was in a competition
36:07
where they tested my testosterone levels,
36:08
I wouldn't fail the test in
36:11
terms of my levels, just because they're,
36:14
they're within the normal
36:15
ranges or maybe like slightly above,
36:17
but I'm not going to the CrossFit game.
36:19
So you don't have to worry about that.
36:22
Um,
36:23
And yeah, like I said, I mean,
36:24
it's probably helped me
36:25
keep my muscle mass over
36:27
the years when I have gone
36:29
through some peaks and valleys,
36:31
mostly valleys of not
36:32
working out because I'm
36:33
busy with the gym or I got
36:35
injured and things like that.
36:41
Yeah, Andrew,
36:42
I highly recommend just getting,
36:43
you want to get a couple of things.
36:45
You want to get your testosterone.
36:46
You want to get your free testosterone.
36:49
Sometimes that's a
36:49
calculation and you need to get your
36:52
Um, it's like a four letter, um,
36:56
acronym and it's like the
36:59
sexual hormone globulin,
37:02
something or other.
37:05
Um, I'll,
37:06
I'll look that up and let you
37:07
know what that is,
37:08
but those are sort of the
37:10
things you need to look at.
37:10
You also need to look at
37:11
your red blood cell count
37:13
and your hematocrit.
37:16
Um, yes.
37:17
Thank you, Trish.
37:21
Sexual hormone binding
37:22
globulin is what it's called.
37:24
S H B G. Sex hormone binding globulin.
37:27
Yep.
37:29
CrossFit's got it too.
37:30
Yeah.
37:30
That helps to calculate that
37:31
free testosterone because
37:33
my free testosterone is
37:35
completely normal for a female.
37:36
So it's kind of like when you eat food,
37:39
like I'm one hundred and
37:41
forty pounds and I could
37:44
eat a candy bar and my body could absorb,
37:47
you know,
37:47
three hundred calories of that candy bar.
37:50
could have another person
37:51
who also weighs a hundred
37:51
and forty pounds eat the
37:52
same snickers bar and their
37:54
body might consume or might
37:55
absorb you know x number of
37:58
calories like calories are
37:59
is just a generalization of
38:02
what your body needs to
38:03
expend to to digest that
38:05
food um and it's very you
38:08
know it varies person to
38:09
person there's really no
38:10
it's it's all sort of not
38:12
an exact science um and I
38:14
feel like that's the same
38:15
thing with testosterone
38:15
like guys could have
38:17
A twelve hundred testosterone level,
38:19
which you think, oh, my gosh,
38:21
like holy balls, that's crazy.
38:23
But.
38:25
But if they're free,
38:27
testosterone is like within
38:28
normal range or even lower
38:29
than normal range,
38:30
then that's what's like
38:31
bioavailable and in your
38:33
body that is able to be
38:34
used in a sort of.
38:37
What's the word?
38:38
It's not manifesting.
38:39
It's like what's existing,
38:41
what's like available to you,
38:43
bioavailable.
38:44
And so it's not a perfect science.
38:47
And it's, you know,
38:47
you can't just look at one thing.
38:48
And I think primary care
38:49
doctors will give you a test.
38:51
They'll look at your overall
38:52
testosterone levels and be like, oh,
38:53
you're within the, you know,
38:55
the limits that insurance
38:57
covers or whatever.
38:58
And that's that.
39:01
What are you saying here?
39:02
And CrossFit cat thinks a
39:03
thirty eight year old dude.
39:04
Just wants to bang,
39:05
doesn't want to be serious with her.
39:07
Oh,
39:07
someone asking me why I won't go out
39:09
with a thirty eight year old.
39:11
I mean, there's other reasons, too.
39:12
I just think like I've
39:14
experienced a lot more life
39:15
than a thirty eight year old,
39:16
and I think it would have
39:18
to be a very mature thirty
39:19
eight year old.
39:20
It would have to be someone
39:21
whose kids are maybe a
39:22
little bit older than your
39:24
average thirty eight year old.
39:29
What else?
39:30
Yeah,
39:31
they can't be just after me for one thing,
39:33
obviously,
39:33
because that's not what I'm
39:34
around here for.
39:39
Yeah, those levels are also important.
39:41
I don't understand them as much for men.
39:43
I know for women, that's a thing.
39:47
If you want to juice your numbers down,
39:48
drink and sleep terribly
39:49
the night before.
39:50
I actually, the last time I did get tested,
39:52
it was like a day after I
39:54
had taken my microdose.
39:56
So I'm pretty sure that I'm
39:58
in a good spot right now.
39:59
And I know when I got the
40:00
eight hundred level or whatever it was,
40:02
my doctor called me right
40:03
away and she's like, oh,
40:04
we need to do something.
40:05
And I immediately I think I
40:07
was doing I was doing five units,
40:10
maybe every.
40:12
Maybe twice a week,
40:13
maybe even like every three
40:15
days and just kind of doing that,
40:17
so I went to like every four days.
40:20
and never got tested.
40:21
And then I just balanced out
40:22
at every five days.
40:23
I thought that would, you know,
40:24
less is more.
40:25
And so, um,
40:27
that's kind of my sweet spot right now.
40:28
And I'll, I'll,
40:29
I just got it checked maybe a month ago.
40:33
Um,
40:33
so I'll get it checked again in another
40:34
six months and make sure
40:35
that that's the right dosage for me.
40:36
But so far it's been,
40:37
it's been really good.
40:38
No complaints whatsoever.
40:41
Um, yeah.
40:42
And here's my theory on that.
40:43
I feel like, and again, not a doctor, just,
40:46
just like to think about things.
40:48
I feel like we were meant to
40:52
live like four years, forty, fifty years.
40:56
And modern medicine,
40:58
thanks to modern medicine,
40:59
we're living longer lives because,
41:01
you know, don't come after me on vaccines,
41:03
but, you know, we have vaccines, we have,
41:05
you know, antibiotics that can, you know,
41:07
we don't die from pneumonia anymore.
41:09
We don't die from viruses.
41:11
We have medicines that can
41:12
can fix that for us.
41:13
So our lifespan.
41:14
has increased because of modern medicine,
41:17
which is great.
41:17
And because, you know,
41:18
our healthy lifestyles or whatever,
41:20
but your body,
41:21
like the biology in your body,
41:23
you probably were only
41:24
meant to live to be forty or fifty.
41:27
And that evolution of what
41:29
your body can produce and do, I think,
41:31
takes a lot longer than, you know,
41:33
the thousands and thousands
41:34
of years that we've been
41:35
around tracking this kind of stuff.
41:39
So what I think is
41:42
your hormones, you know,
41:44
that your body's producing
41:46
stop around that forty to fifty mark,
41:48
because that's all it was
41:50
ever engineered to cover in
41:52
terms of lifespan.
41:54
And so we need to go in and reproduce it.
41:58
And if it means you have to reproduce it,
42:00
you know, synthetically or even naturally,
42:03
but just we have to add
42:05
things to our bodies to make it
42:07
like that so that we sort of
42:08
maintain that vitality now
42:09
it doesn't mean that we
42:10
should be having babies
42:11
later and I'm not like I
42:12
don't need to grow eggs
42:13
again or anything like that
42:15
um but yeah that's kind of
42:18
a thing hold on wait I want
42:20
to go back to this aaron my
42:21
natural t is total t number
42:26
isn't everything exactly
42:27
like your free is probably
42:28
kind of low and then
42:29
there's things that you can
42:30
do to dial down some of
42:31
those different numbers um
42:33
to get you in a spot where
42:34
you're in a better place
42:36
No wonder those useful
42:37
levels are attracting.
42:40
Yeah.
42:42
But I'm a huge fan of it.
42:43
And like I said,
42:44
I just think it's because
42:45
we weren't meant to live as
42:46
long as we did.
42:47
And if everyone were like to
42:48
get on the bandwagon of
42:50
hormone replacement,
42:51
where it's safe again,
42:52
because I know you hear
42:53
about things like people have, you know,
42:56
certain cancers that are
42:58
hormone sensitive or things like that.
43:00
You probably, you know,
43:01
maybe want to talk to someone about that,
43:03
but I don't know.
43:04
I'm just rolling the dice.
43:05
This is how I want to live.
43:06
This is what I'm doing.
43:09
Sorry.
43:10
Yeah.
43:10
People are dying of cancer or COVID.
43:17
Any life over thirty five is a win.
43:19
Seriously,
43:20
like go back to whatever days
43:22
we're talking about.
43:23
And people did not live this long, guys,
43:25
at all.
43:25
We were not meant to do so.
43:27
Anyway,
43:30
That's all I had, guys.
43:32
I head to Connecticut tomorrow.
43:33
I'll be there Tuesday, Wednesday,
43:34
Thursday.
43:37
I'm really hoping that this
43:38
guy that I'm talking to asks me out.
43:41
What else?
43:42
I band practice tonight.
43:44
Band rehearsal.
43:44
I'm calling it practice.
43:45
It should be rehearsal.
43:46
It's band rehearsal.
43:48
I think I get my tambourine tonight.
43:50
Tim forgot it last week.
43:51
I was very disappointed.
43:53
So...
43:55
We'll see.
43:57
Yeah.
43:57
Just don't get steroid voice.
44:00
I mean,
44:01
the funny thing is my voice is
44:02
already really low anyway.
44:05
So I'm hoping it's not like,
44:06
I hope it doesn't sound too manly,
44:08
but I've gotten that feedback.
44:09
I've posted,
44:11
I post TikTok videos and
44:13
there's so many guys in it.
44:14
They're like, you,
44:15
you kind of sound like a
44:16
drill sergeant or you seem
44:18
really masculine or really, you know, not,
44:21
not feminine or like a mom
44:23
or something like that.
44:24
And I think that's
44:25
more like my coaching voice.
44:28
And again,
44:29
I'm working on all that to sound
44:31
a little softer and look a little softer.
44:32
But Jodi, I'm going to Stanford,
44:35
Connecticut.
44:36
I actually,
44:37
I did have really good pizza
44:38
last time I was there.
44:41
I forget where we were,
44:42
but it was like a famous
44:43
pizza place and it was delicious.
44:45
Hold on.
44:49
People still want to talk about this.
44:51
Maybe you think I need to
44:52
get onto your tube and not yet.
44:54
I still do okay when I'm consistent.
44:57
Yeah, I mean, eleven fifty is great.
44:59
You know,
44:59
most guys that are going on it
45:00
are more like in like the five hundred,
45:03
six hundred, four hundred range.
45:08
Do I feel like it makes you
45:09
better at work?
45:09
No, I have total ADHD.
45:11
It doesn't help with my ADHD whatsoever.
45:14
And because I work from home,
45:16
that's really tough for me.
45:18
I mean,
45:18
I get things done when I need to
45:20
get them done, but
45:21
Um,
45:22
I could definitely focus a little more
45:23
now brain fog.
45:24
It helps with brain fog for sure.
45:26
I've noticed a big difference there.
45:28
Um, yeah, Jody, let me know.
45:31
Hook me up.
45:32
We went to, I think that's where we went.
45:33
I think we went to Sally's.
45:35
Um, cause you remember you guys,
45:37
I talked to you about that
45:38
CrossFit gym I went to too.
45:39
I forget what it was called, but, um,
45:41
that was like right on the
45:42
main drag there in Stanford
45:44
where Sally's is.
45:50
Concert is this huge radiation.
45:51
Yeah.
45:51
I don't,
45:52
I don't know that I want to take it.
45:53
My daughter has ADHD too.
45:55
And she took medicine when
45:57
she was like maybe in
45:58
junior in high school,
45:59
she's in college now.
46:00
And she took it for like
46:01
half a year and she hated it.
46:03
She said it made her like a zombie.
46:04
She hated the way it made me feel.
46:07
Um,
46:07
it's actually given her like some
46:08
anxiety about medicines before.
46:09
Now I don't, I'll take meds all day long.
46:13
Um,
46:17
Jay Burch, never had it tested.
46:19
I am fifty six.
46:20
Yeah.
46:20
I mean,
46:20
if your doctor is willing to test it,
46:22
you should you should do it.
46:25
Not me, the guy there, I'm betting.
46:28
I mean, you don't know until you know.
46:31
So so do that.
46:33
I have heard that the new meds are better.
46:35
I don't I don't find that my ADHD is.
46:37
Well, first of all,
46:38
it's never been diagnosed,
46:39
although I mentioned to my
46:41
therapist last Friday we
46:42
were talking about my daughter.
46:44
And I made like a funny comment, like,
46:46
you know, she probably gets that from me.
46:48
And my therapist just kind
46:49
of like did one of these.
46:51
She didn't say anything,
46:52
but she kind of validated it for me.
46:54
I'm like, oh, shit.
46:55
Is that me?
46:56
Do I have it?
46:57
Probably.
47:00
But it hasn't.
47:01
It's part of my charming personality.
47:02
It's not I don't think it's
47:03
a bad thing right now.
47:05
Am I going to share new pictures today?
47:07
So I don't have my extra screen set up.
47:09
If you guys don't mind
47:12
hanging out for a second, I can.
47:14
Let's see.
47:15
I can hook up this monitor.
47:17
Oh, I don't know.
47:21
Are we doing what kind of
47:22
new pictures are you wanting to see?
47:24
Are we wanting to look at
47:25
dating profile pictures?
47:27
Because I don't really have many of those.
47:29
Oh, no, it happened.
47:33
Okay, there I am.
47:35
Or are we talking about... Wait, wait,
47:38
wait.
47:38
I don't know how this is gonna work.
47:39
Shit.
47:42
I have to go around here to
47:42
look what I'm doing.
47:44
Do you wanna look at... I can't see.
47:48
Hold on.
47:48
Where's my mouse?
47:56
Oh, there it is.
47:58
Lots of them,
47:58
I get told they have anxiety.
47:59
Do you want feet pics?
48:06
Tell me what, Jason,
48:06
tell me what kind of
48:07
pictures you want to look at.
48:11
What I can do, see if I move this camera.
48:14
We'll do it anyway.
48:16
Now you guys are going to
48:17
see the other side of my apartment.
48:19
All right, don't go crazy.
48:27
I'm going to share.
48:29
This is so unprofessional.
48:30
Usually I have my other camera on.
48:35
I think we can do image file.
48:40
And we'll go photos.
48:44
I don't know what you guys want to see.
48:47
I will show you the picture
48:48
of me pregnant because it's hysterical.
48:52
You're going to die.
48:54
We showed short hair pictures before,
48:56
right?
48:57
Dude, look at this.
48:59
Look at that.
49:00
I'm going to sit over here.
49:01
You're not going to be able
49:01
to see me for a second.
49:03
That is your girl.
49:05
Thirty-six weeks pregnant with my son,
49:07
Braden.
49:08
I mean, seriously.
49:10
First of all,
49:10
can we have a moment for the red kitchen?
49:18
And yes,
49:18
I don't feel bad for sharing this.
49:20
My nose was fat, guys.
49:21
That's what my lovely mom told me,
49:23
that your nose was fat.
49:25
I was so big.
49:27
And I don't know if you can see right here,
49:29
fun fact,
49:30
I had a mole inside of my navel.
49:36
like inside my belly button.
49:37
And I had to go get it surgically removed.
49:42
I got it done.
49:45
like two,
49:46
maybe a week before I gave birth
49:49
because it was out there
49:50
and they wanted to do it.
49:50
So I went to the surgical center.
49:51
They, they took my weight down.
49:54
Obviously it was like almost
49:55
two hundred pounds and they
49:56
took out the mole and I left and they had,
49:58
I had like a stereo strip on my belly.
49:59
It was the most painful
50:01
recovery ever because my
50:02
skin was so stretched.
50:05
Um,
50:06
and I had stitches and everything else.
50:08
Seven days later I gave
50:09
birth to Braden and I had a
50:10
C emergency C-section.
50:12
Um,
50:13
I go into recovery.
50:15
He's in the NICU.
50:16
It was like a horrible birth story.
50:17
His APGAR score was like one.
50:19
He was blue, not breathing.
50:21
And I go into recovery with
50:23
no baby and this like
50:24
deflated belly and this
50:25
dairy strip on my belly.
50:27
And the nurse comes in and she's like, oh,
50:28
you got your tubes tied.
50:30
And I was like, what?
50:33
No, I just had a baby.
50:34
Like it freaked me out.
50:35
The fact that I couldn't get
50:37
pregnant right away after
50:38
Brayden was born,
50:39
I was convinced they
50:40
accidentally tied my tubes that day.
50:43
Um, but anyway, maybe two weeks later,
50:46
I got a call back from the
50:47
dermatologist that it was
50:49
suspicious for like
50:50
pre-cancer cells and they
50:51
didn't get all the margins.
50:52
So they had to go back in and do it again.
50:54
And I went back to the
50:56
surgical center and they
50:59
had to like check my ID.
51:00
They were so confused
51:01
because I weighed like
51:02
forty five pounds less than
51:03
I did two weeks prior.
51:05
And they weren't sure I was
51:06
like the same person
51:07
because I didn't look the same.
51:09
It was really kind of funny.
51:10
But yeah, that was my that's my fun.
51:13
My fun story.
51:14
All right.
51:17
How do we do this?
51:22
Okay.
51:22
All right.
51:22
We're back.
51:22
I'm going to unplug this
51:23
monitor too because it
51:24
really screws me up.
51:24
I'm sorry, guys.
51:25
I will do better next time.
51:26
This was like a last minute thing.
51:29
I talked to Scott.
51:31
I talked to Scott and he was like,
51:33
I'm not going on camera
51:35
today because he's on an airplane.
51:36
And so I decided to do this for us today.
51:39
What do we got here?
51:44
What is that?
51:44
That's a lot of signs for a new hospital.
51:46
I don't know what that means.
51:49
Yes, JB.
51:51
Pregnancy nose.
51:52
I had it.
51:52
It was so fat.
51:54
And you know what's funny?
51:55
I'm so self-conscious about
51:56
my nose anyway.
51:57
Ever since I was a kid,
51:58
I wanted a nose job so bad.
52:02
This bone right here that forms your nose,
52:05
this bone on my body is flat.
52:09
You could land a penny on it.
52:10
It's so flat.
52:11
And so it shapes the rest of my nose.
52:13
And I'm Italian, right?
52:13
I've got this like broad
52:15
Italian ethnic nose,
52:18
but it also like turns down
52:19
because my mom has like a Roman nose.
52:22
She's not Italian,
52:24
but she's got this like
52:25
thin English nose that sort
52:27
of points down.
52:27
So it's wide and it points down.
52:29
And I used to sit in front
52:30
of the mirror when I was a
52:31
kid and I would just go like this.
52:33
I'll be like, oh my gosh,
52:35
I just want it like up just
52:37
a little bit and like a
52:38
little bit narrower.
52:39
And I would put, I still do this.
52:41
I put like contour and all
52:42
kinds of stuff on my nose
52:43
because I'm super
52:43
self-conscious about my nose.
52:46
So yeah, that was not fun.
52:49
But yeah, I'll do better next time, guys.
52:50
This will be two weeks, right?
52:52
So not this week, not this Wednesday,
52:53
next Wednesday, um, five PM.
52:56
I should be around.
52:57
Hopefully I'll have some
52:58
more stories for you.
52:59
I'm hoping again,
53:00
the goal is to not be
53:01
talking about dating, right?
53:03
That is the goal of this
53:04
podcast eventually.
53:06
And we have obviously other
53:07
things to talk about like CrossFit and,
53:09
you know, parenthood and relationships,
53:12
hormone replacement therapy
53:13
and all that good stuff.
53:15
So I want to thank you guys for joining.
53:17
We're almost at the hour.
53:19
I do have to go back to work.
53:20
I'm sorry I didn't throw a dart.
53:21
I'm not going to tell you
53:22
hooligans to get back to work.
53:25
That is Scott's deal.
53:26
But I love you and reach out anytime.
53:29
All right.
53:30
Take care, guys.
53:31
Have a great, great Monday.