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When a Narcissist feels like they have you hooked · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammock,
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face or hearing my lovely voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into therapy and also
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  validate the victims, survivors and thrivers of said disorder,
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  said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about what do narcissists do
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  once they have you hooked. Once they have you reeled in and
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  hooked, how do narcissistic people treat you, what do they
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  do? And all the other good stuff.
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  So the link is in the description of every video and
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  podcast that I do. But yes.
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  Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep, y'all. Once they have you hooked, once
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  they have your fish hooked, it's just like it's kind of like,
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  yeah, as a matter of fact, I'm glad I said that because it's
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  kind of like narcissistic People go fishing and once you bite the
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  bait, once you bite the bait right here, they hook, they pull
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  you in, once they pull you in, they got you once.
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  A narcissistic person, as you hooked a lot of them.
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  Some people behave differently in the circumstance right here.
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  Y'all. But once a lot of narcissists
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  have you hooked and reeled in, that's when they start to
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  devalue you. That's when they start to treat
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  you differently. That's when they start to show
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  you who they really are. That's when the, I guess a lot
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  of people say the mask comes off.
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  This is when it happens. When that narcissistic person
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  is, once they feel like they have you hooked and they're
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  comfortable with you, then yes, they will absolutely start doing
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  things like this. They will start, they they will
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  start taking their, I don't even say taking their power back, but
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  they'll start doing things like that in order to empower
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  themselves, in order to strip power from you.
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  Like really? How do they, how do they know
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  when they have you hooked? Like when, when are we hooked?
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  How do you, you know, you, you know, when you're hooked to a
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  narcissist you. So you understand when a
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  narcissist has you hooked. You get it.
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  You understand the dynamic, You understand that space and
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  whatnot. But in a lot of these
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  situations, like once they feel like they have you head over
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  heels in love with them, once they feel like the love bombing
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  has pulled you in, has reeled you in, they tell, they start
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  taking it away. Y'all once they have you hooked,
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  the mask can come off and they can.
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  It's kind of like they can kick their feet up on the the toxic
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  narcissistic couch and be who they really want to be, be who
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  they really are. This happens a lot.
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  Y'all this absolutely happens a lot.
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  It just keep like they start to take the love away.
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  They start once the love bombing face ends, they start to devalue
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  you. They start to strip you of your
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  worth and value. They start to become, like I
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  said, they start to take it away and treat you badly.
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  They just, they really, really do.
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  Like in the beginning it seems like this here.
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  Y'all, It seems like a lot of people are chasing the
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  narcissists, right? Like, I mean, not chasing the
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  narcissists. Like the narcissistic person is
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  chasing after you. They're pursuing you.
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  They're giving you everything that you want and need.
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  They're saying that everything that they they need to say,
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  they're doing everything that they need to do.
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  They're becoming whoever they feel like they need to be,
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  whoever they need to become to get you right.
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  They're chasing you. But once.
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  It's kind of like they're playing y'all playing tag,
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  right? They're chasing you, chasing
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  you, chasing you. They tag you, get catch up with
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  you and then it's your turn to chase.
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  They start taking the stuff away.
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  You start chasing them. A lot of times you start
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  pursuing them, you start doing things.
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  Like I said, you start trying to get the love back.
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  You're chasing them. But the crazy thing is,
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  narcissistic people are fast and you can't.
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  Well, once you start at once, they start to run away from you.
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  It's them. They're impossible to catch them
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  again, you know? That's why in these
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  relationships, that's why it never goes back to the way it
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  used to be. Like when you're dealing with
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  the narcissistic person, y'all understand this.
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  It never goes back to how it used to be originally.
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  Like, y'all know that and it and it sucks when I tell people that
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  it's like, well, Lee, how do we get it back?
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  Y'all, it's not up for you to get it back.
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  That's just be realistic. You can't like, yeah, you can't
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  get it back. They start.
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  Once they start treating you a certain type of way, it's
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  because they view you a certain type of way and they will almost
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  always view you in this same light.
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  Once they feel like they've they've done enough work, right.
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  They sought to take the love away and then they get you.
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  That's how. Yeah, that's how it happens a
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  lot of times. Y'all know y'all you know it.
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  You absolutely know it. It's just like okay, it's okay.
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  I'm doing this, I'm doing that, I'm doing this, I'm doing that.
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  And they boom, they got you. If I just tell you, if you feel
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  like you're chasing after somebody, if you feel like
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  you're pursuing A narcissistic person, if you feel like you're
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  tolerating a lot of stuff, then you are.
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  They feel like they have you hooked and they start to take it
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  away again. They're fishing this, this is
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  the hook right here. Y'all.
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  And here you go. You like, let's stay right there
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  and they pull you away. You see what I mean?
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  They pull you away. It's just like a fish.
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  They get you, you like, oh bait and they get you.
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  They pull you away. But it happens all Nobody is
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  exempt from this y'all. Nobody is.
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  Nobody is exempt. This happens to every single
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  person. Once they have you hooked, they
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  start doing other things. Y'all And I said in other ways
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  that you can get hooked. Like you buy a house with this
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  person, you live with this person.
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  You mean you just don't have. You don't have to buy a house.
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  You move in with this person. You buy a house with this
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  person. You buy a car with this person.
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  You cosign for a car. You cosign on a loan, you get
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  pregnant, y'all get engaged, y'all get married, whatever.
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  Those are also hookings right there.
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  Y'all. It's not always.
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  Just like when you fall head over heels in love.
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  Those are part of it. But those are also hookings as
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  well. Those are those things right
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  there would hook you in too. Just like that person, I said.
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  Just like that person doing that right there, in that scenario,
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  doing it in that situation, they going to keep doing it.
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  Why y'all think about it? Why wouldn't they?
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  Why wouldn't they do the same thing over and over again?
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  You know, once they take the love away, they're going to be
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  who they are. Once they feel like they have
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  you hooked, you're pregnant and it's hard, It's harder for you
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  to leave. You know, once.
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  Once it's hard, once it becomes harder for you to leave and you
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  feel like you're stuck. That's when they feel like they
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  have you hooked the most. That's when they feel like that.
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  That's when they feel like they are.
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  They are in control. That's when they feel like they
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  are. The the power dynamic has
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  shifted to them and they will start treating you a certain
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  type of way. And there's no y'all in any type
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  of relationship. A lot of people don't like to
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  hear this, but there's no way to avoid that happening.
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  I know. Again, there's no way to avoid
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  that happening right there. You know, everybody, This is
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  going to happen to everybody. This is going to happen to every
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  single person who's dealt with the narcissist.
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  Once they have you hooked you, you end up chasing them, you
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  know and it and the toxicity doesn't get better.
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  Y'all. Typically the toxicity gets
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  worse. Typically you do with the
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  narcissistic person, the toxicity to the level of
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  toxicity is going to continuously get worse because
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  that person is going to feel like they are, you know, they
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  can do whatever they want to do to you, you know what I mean?
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  So once you feel like you're hooked to a narcissist, like a
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  lot of times this is when the trauma Bond has taken has taken
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  hold as well. Once you once they feel like
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  they have you hooked and it's hard for you to leave, they can
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  be who they are because it's harder for you to leave.
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  That's why I'm always telling people to slow down.
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  Take your time. Get to know this person.
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  Understand who you're dealing with.
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  You know what I mean? If you see the red flags leave,
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  you know. If you see red.
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  If you understand this person is throwing up red flag gang signs,
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  it's time to go, You know what I mean?
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  If they feel like they're trying to trap you, they feel like
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  they're trying to hook you. If they feel like they're doing
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  a whole bunch of future faking, they probably are.
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  They're faking the future. They're faking the funk.
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  A lot of narcissistic people will fake the funk on you.
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