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Lessons - Your Subconscious Mind Creates Your Reality (It's Ridiculously Powerful) | Scott Clary · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  You might not realize it, but something besides yourself is running the show, often without
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  your permission.
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  And if you don't understand it, it can really mess with your success.
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  The subconscious mind works behind the scenes.
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  It shapes your thoughts, your habits, your reactions, it's powerful and it's sneaky.
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  So today I want to pull back the curtain to show what's really going on inside our
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  heads.
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  You're about to learn why your subconscious mind is the real boss of your actions.
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  How it can sabotage your success without you even noticing.
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  Why most self-help advice and mine hacks are total BS and what you can do to finally
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  take control and make it work for you.
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  Are you ready to take charge?
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  Let's get into it.
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  The first we have to ask, what is the subconscious mind?
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  Well, have you ever driven somewhere then realized you don't remember the trip?
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  That's your subconscious on autopilot.
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  It takes over and lets you zone out while it handles all the details without bothering
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  your conscious mind.
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  You can imagine your subconscious mind as an iceberg.
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  The small part above water is your conscious mind, the thoughts, the decisions you're
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  aware of.
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  But below the surface lies the massive unseen bulk, that's your subconscious.
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  But it's more practical to think of your subconscious as your silent business partner.
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  Sometimes it's super helpful and steers you in the right direction.
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  Other times it messes things up and leaves you to deal with the fallout.
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  Either way it's working behind the scenes 24-7.
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  It controls your habits, your fears, your reactions.
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  It stores all your past experiences, even the ones you don't consciously remember.
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  It's pretty wild, right?
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  Here's how it actually works.
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  So you touch a hot stove as a kid.
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  Your conscious mind thinks out, that hurts.
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  But your subconscious mind goes to work and files away the experience.
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  The next time you're near a stove, it sends a quick warning.
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  Don't touch that.
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  Now this can be great for survival.
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  But what if your subconscious is filled with outdated, negative or just plain wrong beliefs?
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  Then it can lead to subconscious behaviors like you flinch when someone raises their hand
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  quickly, or you feel nervous when speaking in public, even though there's no reason to
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  be.
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  Or you bite your nails when you're stressed without thinking about it.
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  These actions are driven by your subconscious mind, not your conscious choices.
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  It's acting on autopilot, trying to protect you based on past experiences.
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  Now you might not think flinching or biting your nails are serious issues, but if you
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  want to start and run a business, your subconscious mind can seriously mess everything up.
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  Your subconscious mind is powerful, but it's not perfect.
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  It needs guidance and occasional updates to serve you better.
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  And sure, it can work for you or against you.
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  On the bright side, it helps you form good habits.
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  Once you consciously decide to exercise, your subconscious starts to remind you to do it.
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  It keeps you safe by reacting quickly to danger, often faster, and your conscious mind can
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  process.
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  But then there's a dark side.
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  It can hold you back with limiting beliefs.
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  If you fail that something before, your subconscious might tell you you'll always fail.
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  It can make you react rationally.
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  Those quick judgments and fears aren't always accurate, but they feel very real.
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  Letting your subconscious habit drive your life is a very dangerous game.
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  You might think you're in control, but often you're not.
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  That can sabotage your success without you even noticing.
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  Some examples include when you avoid taking risk because you fear failure, or when you doubt
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  your abilities despite your past successes.
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  Or when you procrastinate on important tasks and sabotage your progress.
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  For example, let's say you hesitated to launch a new product because you feared it wouldn't
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  sell.
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  That's your subconscious playing tricks.
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  The market might be ready, but your outdated beliefs are holding you back.
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  So how do you make sure you don't fall into that trap?
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  Well, most advice on how to program your subconscious is BS.
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  Because there's no shortage of gurus dishing out advice on how to hack your mind.
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  And while some of the advice will work for some people, I personally found much of it
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  to be useless.
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  I want to look at some of the most common examples I've seen when I was researching for this
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  video.
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  The first thing I see a lot of is positive affirmations and auto-suggestions.
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  You've probably heard that positive affirmations are the key to success.
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  Just tell yourself you're amazing and everything will fall into place.
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  Sound simple, right?
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  But the truth is that positive affirmations can mess you up, especially if you're struggling
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  with anxiety or depression.
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  Because why?
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  Positive affirmations are supposed to work by getting you to focus on your strengths.
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  They're meant to shift your mindset from, I can't to, I can't.
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  But what if you don't really believe what you're saying?
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  What if deep down those words feel like lies?
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  If you're already feeling low, repeating phrases like, I am worthy of success can actually
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  backfire.
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  Instead of lifting you up, they can make you feel even worse.
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  Now why?
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  Because your brain knows when something doesn't match your reality.
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  When you say I am confident, but you feel insecure, your mind starts arguing with itself.
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  This internal conflict creates stress and tension.
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  And if you're prone to anxiety or depression, it can trigger a self-defeating spiral.
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  The second thing I see a lot of is hypnosis and some gliminal audio.
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  Now you might have heard that hypnosis is a magical tool that can rewire your brain.
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  But if you're a natural skeptic like me, it's not going to do a thing for you.
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  That's because hypnosis doesn't work unless you believe in it.
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  It's pure placebo.
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  Let me give you an example.
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  I was actually at a hypnosis seminar and the instructor was guiding everyone through
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  the process.
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  He told the group to relax their eyes so much that he couldn't open them no matter how
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  hard they tried.
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  Most people followed along, but one guy didn't.
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  His eyes popped right open.
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  Why?
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  Because he didn't buy into it.
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  He wasn't convinced so it didn't work.
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  Here's the thing.
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  Your mind is very powerful.
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  If you're not on board with the idea of hypnosis, your brain will resist.
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  It's like a mental barrier that says, you can't make me.
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  That's especially true if you associate hypnosis with something negative like weakness
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  or loss of control.
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  It's not just hypnosis.
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  The same goes for subliminal audio.
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  Those recordings that claim to change your life while you sleep, they won't work unless
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  you already believe they will.
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  The third thing I see a lot of people recommending is to surround yourself with positivity.
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  Surrounding yourself with positivity sounds great, right?
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  But you're creating an echo chamber.
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  When you only allow positive voices, you shut out critical thinking.
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  Think about it.
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  Critically, if everyone around you is constantly telling you how great you are, where is the
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  room for growth?
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  You need to hear the hard truths, not just fluffy affirmations.
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  It isn't just me musing.
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  Look at kids who are showered with participation trophies and praised for just showing up.
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  Did they become confident winners?
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  No.
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  This positive environment just produces losers.
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  George Carlin nailed it when he said, there are no losers anymore.
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  Everybody wins.
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  Everybody gets a trophy.
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  But what happens when these kids grow up?
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  They step into the real world and they hear something new.
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  You lost Bobby, you're a loser.
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  Imagine that moment.
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  You've been told you're a winner your whole life, but suddenly reality hits.
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  Your boss won't give you a trophy for just showing up.
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  He'll tell you to clean out your desk if you don't perform.
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  This false positivity doesn't prepare you for the real challenges of life.
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  It sets you up for failure.
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  And the fourth thing I see people recommend is positive visualization.
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  Positive visualization is just wishful thinking.
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  It's day dreaming about your ideal life instead of actually working towards it.
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  Yeah, sure.
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  It feels great to imagine yourself living that dream.
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  You picture the perfect business, the freedom, the success, but here's the problem.
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  Visualization without action is a trap.
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  It tricks you into feeling like you've accomplished something when you haven't done anything.
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  Now, you might tell yourself that visualizing success will attract it to you, but the
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  truth is that no amount of mental imagery is going to replace hard work.
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  Studies have shown that sharing your goals gives you a quick dopamine hit, but it also
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  leads to complacency.
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  You start to believe success is inevitable just because you've imagined it.
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  That's very dangerous thinking.
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  You need to be grounded in reality.
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  Your business won't grow just because you spend a few minutes each morning imagining
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  that it will.
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  It grows because you make smart decisions and you put in the work every single day.
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  Consider this.
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  While you're sitting here day dreaming, someone else is out there grinding.
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  They're making calls or closing deals or pushing their business forward.
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  I know it sounds cliche, but dreams don't work unless you do.
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  Now the last thing that I see people speak about online that teach over that can sort
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  of help you get ahead in life is reframing challenges with euphemisms.
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  Soft euphemistic language is just a way to avoid the truth.
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  It doesn't change reality.
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  It just hides it and hiding the truth is always a dangerous game.
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  Let's pull out another George Carlin quote, poor people used to live in the slums.
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  Now the quote unquote economically disadvantaged occupy substandard housing in the inner cities.
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  And they're broke and they don't have a quote negative cash flow position.
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  They're broke because a lot of them were fired.
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  Management wanted to quote curtail redundancies in the human resources area.
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  So many people are no longer quote viable members of the workforce.
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  You get it.
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  The point is obvious.
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  When you dress up the truth with nice words, you're not helping anyone.
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  Infemisms spare us the discomfort, but at the cost of clarity.
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  If you're struggling with a failing product, don't call it market misalignment.
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  Call it what it is.
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  It's a flop.
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  Drop the soft language, get real with yourself and your business.
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  And it's the only way that you're going to make real progress.
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  Now I know you're asking Scott, if all that is BS, what should you do instead?
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  Great question.
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  Glad you asked.
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  I've torn down five of the most common pieces of advice you'll find.
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  It's only fair.
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  I equip you with five of my go-to methods.
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  They're not as glamorous, but they also don't require you to believe in any woo-woo.
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  The first thing you should always do is outwork yourself doubt.
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  We all have moments of self doubt.
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  That just makes us human.
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  And it's in those moments you should remind yourself of your past wins.
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  David Goggins calls it the cookie jar method.
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  The cookie jar is a mental collection of your toughest wins.
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  Sometimes when you push through pain and suffering and emerged victorious.
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  When Dell creeps in, reach into the jar, pull out a memory and remind yourself of what
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  you're capable of.
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  But you're going to ask, well, what if I don't have enough or any past wins?
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  Then you have to go out there and get them.
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  As James Clear puts in his book, every action you take is a vote for the type of person
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  you wish to become.
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  No single instance will transform your beliefs.
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  But as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.
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  In other words, small actions repeated consistently build undeniable proof of who you are.
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  This is the harsh truth about building confidence.
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  You have to work for it.
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  Alex Ramosi sums it up beautifully.
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  Confidence without evidence is delusion.
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  You don't become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having a stack of undeniable
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  proof that you are who you say you are.
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  Give yourself so much goddamn proof that you are the version of yourself you want to
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  be, and you'll become them, outwork, yourself, doubt.
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  So you put in the work day after day until the evidence of your success is undeniable.
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  It's not about wishing or hoping, it's about proving.
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  You must build that stack of undeniable proof to fill up your cookie jar until yourself
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  doubt doesn't stand a chance.
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  The second thing you have to do is to be process oriented instead of goal oriented, focusing
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  on big goals can easily make you feel inadequate.
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  The bigger the goal, the more overwhelming it seems.
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  It's very easy to get lost in the sheer size of what you want to achieve, and you end up
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  feeling like you're constantly falling short.
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  But here's the thing.
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  The magic doesn't happen in the goal itself.
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  It happens in the process.
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  Break down your massive goals into small manageable steps.
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  Completing each of those small steps gives you the same dopamine boost as hitting a big
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  milestone.
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  Again, James Clear explains this perfectly.
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  Making a goal only changes your life for the moment.
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  That's the counter-attuitive thing about improvement.
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  We think we need to change our results, but the results are not the problem.
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  What we really need to change are the systems that cause those results.
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  So let's say your goal is to build a million dollar business.
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  That could be huge, right?
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  But if you obsess over that number, you're going to feel like you're never making progress.
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  Instead, you want to focus on the systems that will get you there.
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  To daily tasks, the habits, the consistent actions, these are what will actually move
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  the needle.
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  Think of it this way.
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  If you love the process, the results will follow.
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  You're not chasing a finish line.
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  You're committing to a cycle of continuous improvement.
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  And that's where real long-term success comes from.
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  The third thing I want you to do, negative visualization.
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  Life isn't always rainbows and sunshine.
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  Sometimes things go wrong.
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  Really wrong.
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  But you can prepare for it.
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  Instead of pretending everything will be perfect, try to use negative visualization to imagine
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  the worst case scenario.
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  Why?
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  Because it helps you practice indifference to the chaos that life can throw at you.
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  I'm not telling you to be a pessimist, just be a realist.
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  The stoics, some of the wisest thinkers in history, they mastered this technique.
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  They would vividly picture their worst fears coming true.
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  Not to scare themselves, but to prepare.
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  By imagining the worst, they made it less terrifying.
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  And when you do this, you realize that most of your fears are just that.
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  They're fears.
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  I want you to think of this as mental training.
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  When the worst actually happens, you won't be caught off guard.
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  You'll be ready.
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  You'll be calm.
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  You'll be in control.
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  You'll find that your worst fears often aren't as bad as you imagined.
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  And even if they are, you've already faced them in your mind.
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  Negative visualization is your shield against anxiety.
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  It's your tool to face whatever life throws your way without losing your cool.
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  The fourth strategy I want you to adopt is mindfulness.
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  Now you've probably experienced at some point in your life, your mind constantly racing.
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  You're thinking about that missed opportunity from last week or stressing over tomorrow's
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  big pitch.
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  But here's the truth.
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  Living in the past or future robs you of the present, which is all you truly have.
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  You have to train your mind to focus on the present moment.
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  This simple practice can reduce regret for the past and ease worry about the future.
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  But most people don't do it because they're too busy being trapped in their thoughts.
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  Eckhart toll explains it well in the power of now.
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  All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present.
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  On ease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry, all forms of fear are caused by too much future
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  and not enough presence.
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  Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non forgiveness
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  are caused by too much past and not enough presence.
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  When you're stuck in your head, you're not fully alive.
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  You're either reliving what's already gone or you're worrying about what's yet to
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  come.
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  When you train your mind to say present, you regain control.
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  You see things clearly.
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  You make better decisions and you experience life fully.
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  And the last thing I want you to do is to journal.
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  Now maybe you're already keeping a journal, but if not, I really suggest you start one
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  immediately.
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  Every way to collect your thoughts and track your progress.
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  But I've recently come up with a radical approach to journaling.
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  I want you to start by keeping a rage journal.
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  This is where you let loose.
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  I want you to write down all your unfiltered negative thoughts, every frustration, every
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  anger, every moment that makes you want to scream.
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  Don't hold back.
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  This is your space to get it all out without judgment.
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  Why?
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  Because bottling up those emotions doesn't make them disappear.
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  It just lets them fester.
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  By putting them on paper, you release that pent-up energy and you understand what's really
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  bothering you.
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  Now after you started a rage journal, add a gratitude journal.
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  Here you do the opposite.
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  Detail everything positive you enjoy about life no matter how small.
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  Shift your focus to what's going right.
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  Gratitude has actually been shown to boost your mood and increase overall happiness.
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  So writing down what you're thankful for helps you appreciate the good things and it
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  really keeps you grounded.
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  Finally, compare the two journals.
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  You'll often find that the negative thoughts in your rage journal are just fiction, blown
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  out of proportion by stress or fear.
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  The gratitude journal, on the other hand, reflects the reality of what's good in your life.
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  The comparison gives you an accurate picture of your world.
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  Remember, your subconscious mind is either your best friend or your worst enemy.
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  It is time to take control with these five steps.
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  It's time to stop letting it run the show.
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  It's not easy, but it's worth it.
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  After wrapping things up, here's what I need you to remember.
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  Your subconscious can be a bull in a china shop if it's left unchecked.
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  Most mind hacks just feel good fluff.
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  Don't fall for them.
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  True change comes from consistent action, not wishful thinking, and please stay grounded
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  in reality.
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  Face your fears, don't hide from them.
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  You've got the tools, now it's up to you to use them.
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  Take charge of your mind, don't let it take charge of you.