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When you leave a Narcissist DURING the Love Bombing phase · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about what happens if you leave
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  a narcissist during the love bombing phase.
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  Not after, not before, but during the love bombing phase.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to a live edition of The
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  Narcissist. Boom boom, boom.
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  Welcome back folks, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back
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  Yes, yes, yes, the love bombing phase from a narcissist or a
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  toxic person. What's up y'all?
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  Hope y'all having a beautiful afternoon evening and I know I
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  normally don't do lives around this time, but we going Live
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  Today. I was just in the mood in the
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  mood as we've been having a beautiful day.
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  Yeah, the the topic at hand. Ryan, what's going on?
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  I'd love to seeing that. What's going on?
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  Glad to help you. Glad to help you.
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  God's faith. What's up?
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  The topic at hand today is when you leave a narcissist during
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  the love bombing phase. Like, how do they?
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  Yeah, how do you think they feel?
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  How do you think a narcissist feels when they are giving you
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  their all when they got when they got the manipulation knob
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  turned all the way up when a manipulate when a when that knob
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  when the all the gears on the manipulation do it the love by
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  my face. All the gears are turning.
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  They're just turning, turning, turning right.
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  How do you think they feel when you decide you know what?
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  No, I'm done. How do you like Naima?
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  It's like she said, it breaks them down.
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  Y'all, y'all, you got to feel me.
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  You got to feel me on here. You have to feel me on here.
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  It absolutely breaks them down. They hate it.
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  They hate it, hate it, hate it because especially if you get a
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  narcissist that feels like that, they are a master of
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  manipulation, right? You get the narcissist out here
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  that just feels like nobody can manipulate to the level that
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  they manipulate. Nobody can do this to the, to
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  the level that I can do this, right?
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  You get a narcissist on that level with that mindset and
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  they're look, they, they've been studying you.
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  They've been super analytical with you.
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  They then told you the, the, the most grandiose, believable lies
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  that they, the, the, the lies that they've been crafting for a
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  decade. They've been crafting this damn
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  lie for a decade. Like their whole life was a lie
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  and they've been crafting it for a decade on you, right?
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  They've been give you everything that you want.
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  They listen to you. Roses, flowers, PlayStation 5,
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  whatever it is, whatever kind of dude gives y'all give the good
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  dudes. You mean whatever it is you
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  giving them everything that they've been asking for,
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  everything that they've been looking for, everything.
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  I mean, you know they're giving you everything, right?
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  Who's going to Candace give you everything that you've been
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  looking for? And then you know what you dip
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  out, you go look, this is the worst.
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  If you ghost they ass. Oh, yo, you ever seen you?
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  I don't think I've ever seen a narcissist the ego smacked, but
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  that will smack the ego more than anything.
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  Yeah, because it like if you talk about you talk, you talk
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  about shame. You have no, you know how shame
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  is a great provocative for narcissist, right?
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  Shame is a great provocation for narcissist, right.
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  So you know how much shame it will bring into their lives if
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  you just took your ball and went home.
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  You see what I'm saying? You understand how much shame it
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  will bring into their minds. You know what I mean?
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  Well, thank appreciated you coming in, Stacy.
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  How much shame it will bring into their life, into their
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  minds. If you just ghosted their ass
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  without a word, without saying goodbye.
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  You didn't provide them any type of you didn't give them
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  anything. Just like Lana said, it causes a
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  narcissistic injury that they might not recover from from for
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  a long time. You want to make them feel like
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  they're not enough dip on their asses doing the love bombing
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  face not after. I know some people like well
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  Lee, what if I just start to let them devalue me?
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  Why the hell would you do that Lee?
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  What if I let what if I let them start treating me badly and
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  devalue me, then I left. They want you to.
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  They pretty much want you to leave, then they win Believe
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  they're giving me so much money and we're clapping cheeks every
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  single day, but I don't know if I can just I don't never have
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  the power to leave. All right then you going to
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  lose. You going to lose.
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  This is the type of stuff that's going to happen.
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  You want to win Understand what they doing Look where where to
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  go, where to go. Give me one second y'all.
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  When these start to pop up, when these damn red flags, when the
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  red flags start to fly, dip out. Wave the red flag and dip out.
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  Understand what the red flag is, and then take your ball and go
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  home. Bounce, bounce, bounce.
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  You need to go. It's time to go.
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  You need to go. There's like Candace said.
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  It's my mom's name. That's why I keep calling.
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  He can't be. My mom's name is Candace.
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  Yeah. Dip, baby.
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  Dip. Yeah, look, chill.
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  Say I left doing a love bombing face and he went to a girl and
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  got her pregnant. Yikes.
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  You know, lost his damn mind. He wanted to.
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  He wanted to. He wanted to really prove that
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  he was worthy of something. He really wanted to prove he was
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  worthy. You know what?
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  You broke my damn heart. He broke my heart, right?
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  I got something for you. You going to dip on me when I
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  was love bombing your ass? I got something.
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  I'm going to get this other girl prayed.
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  Watch me. Watch what?
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  I know. I don't know her.
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  I know. I don't know her last name.
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  You don't know my you don't know my real name.
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  She got my street name. She got my street name.
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  She don't even know me, but she only know me by Lee.
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  She know me is Pee Wee. My name is Pee Wee on the
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  streets. She know me as Pee Wee Long Way
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  or Pee Wee Highway and I got to pregnant.
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  Who's the man now? Who's the man who's ashamed?
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  Not me. I ain't ashamed.
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  I ain't embarrassing nothing. I ain't ashamed.
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  I got to pray. Look who the man is.
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  Look who it is not stupid. That sounds Oh, you, your name
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  is Candace too. Oh, wait, everybody's Candace.
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  Candace are here. If that's where it goes.
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  That's the mindset they go get. They, they have like they want
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  to try to, they want to try to get rid of the shame.
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  They want to try to baby people. They want to get rid of the
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  shame they want to get, they want to shake loose of it in
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  order to just try to feel you get to get rid of that shame of
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  you leaving during the love bombing face.
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  Because if you leave during the love bombing face, they feel
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  like they're not enough. They feel like they haven't done
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  enough. They feel inadequate.
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  They feel a lot of shame. Rejection time 15 They start
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  making excuses in their head to the why you did it.
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  Oh, they broke with me. They left me because because
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  they stay stupid, because they knew I thought they was ugly.
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  They knew. They just knew they didn't think
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  I was bad. It's because they I was.
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  They knew that I thought they was ugly and they cheeked their
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  booty stink. That's why.
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  Well, they knew I knew their booty stink, that old stinking.
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  But then I knew they knew it. That's why they left me or or
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  when you leave doing a love on my face.
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  They when they feel like they ain't got.
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  I mean, yeah, if they feel like this face.
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  Sorry, I'm writing comments too. Don't need love bombing face.
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  If you leave doing a love on the face, some of them will get so
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  angry that they start to stalk and harass your ass.
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  Imagine somebody stalking and harassing you because you
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  decided to leave because you just, you weren't feeling it.
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  Even if you give them a legitimate excuse, You see what
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  I'm saying? Even if you give them a
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  legitimate excuse as to why you're leaving, hey, the vibes,
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  the vibes between us are just not Immaculate.
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  It's just not going to work out for us.
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  I just don't see this going anywhere.
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  They might still lose their mouth.
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  Why lose you? How how do you look 'cause you
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  you don't see us going anywhere because you got your eyes closed
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  and your heart closed. Open your heart.
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  Open your eyes for me, and then we can go somewhere.
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  How? You know, if he ain't going to
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  be able to try? Yeah.
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  You get me crying. I don't ever cry.
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  I'm a I'm a street dude. I don't ever cry.
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  I ain't even crying right now. This ain't in tears.
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  This is this is Sprite. This Sprite coming from my eyes.
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  This is Sprite, Chris. My thirst.
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  How you going to know they'll cry?
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  Yeah. They owe me a heart like
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  Madonna. Yeah, but that's the space right
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  there. Y'all.
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  Who's at that? Jones Petty.
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  I just left with no explanation. Yeah.
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  You don't have to explain. Yeah, you don't have to explain
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  yourself. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because if you explain yourself a lot of times what's going to
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  happen if they're going to talk you out of it.
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  Narcissists are good with their words.
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  Narcissistic people are typically amazing and
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  manipulating you into giving them another chance.
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  And guess what happens if you decide if you if you are
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  listening to, if you listening to your heart, right?
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  You listen to your heart, you listen to your mind, right?
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  And you leave. But then you come back.
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  Now they want to break up with your ass now.
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  Now they want to be the ones who let who leave you.
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  They want to be the ones who who break up with you because it
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  allows them to feel better now because you took them back.
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  Oh, Leah, I knew I should have left.
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  I took them back. They clapped the cheeks one more
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  time and then they sent me a Then they broke up with me.
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  I feel so dumb. It happens, y'all?
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  Yep, that's what happens. Just like they ever said.
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  Yep, they're so good at talking. Mom manipulates, manipulates me
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  every chance he gets. That's why you got to stand in
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  your truth. That's why you have to stand in
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  your truth. Stand on what you have going on
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  like we got. We got no more manipulation.
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  2024 wait 2024 no more manipulating.
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  You see what I'm saying? It's time to heal up and grow
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  up. It's just in this space right
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  here. If y'all, it's like y'all don't
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  know if y'all need extra healing, extra support.
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  I do have a support group called the mental Healers doing the
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  mental healers. We do a lot.
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  We do weekly live zoom sessions. There's a bunch of people in the
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  group that are talking, conversing.
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  It's on a private server. There's a lot of people that
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  understand what you went through.
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  You know, sometimes your friends and family don't get it, They
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  don't understand it and whatnot. I'm going to drop the, I'm going
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  to drop the link in the comments right now that will check out
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  its courses. Y'all see the link in his
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  comments? It's courses.mentalillness.net.
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  I have a course on there as well called Understanding the Seven
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  Stages of a Narcissistic Relationship.
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  Helps you understand what you went through.
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  I'm working on my course right now of leaving a thoughts
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  relationship and surviving and whatnot, but this is the type of
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  stuff right here. Their words keep you confused
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  about everything. Yes yes y'all.
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  Look, the more confused you are, the more the narcissist feels
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  like they winning. Confusion benefits the
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  narcissist. That's why I always talk about
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  clarity. Getting clear.
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  Understand what you went through, That helps you get
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  clearer. The clearer you are, the harder
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  it is to manipulate you. There you go right there.
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  What's going on Lily, how you doing?
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  Oh my God, your children's book is amazing for my little boy.
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  Thank you. Hey love that, love that, love
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  that. Y'all don't know have a kids
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  book It's got remember it's not your fault.
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  It's on Amazon right now. Remember it's not your fault.
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  It's a good conversation starter for your kids.
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  Let them know hey Mama or daddy, whoever the toxic narcissistic
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  person is in your life, that's not your fault.
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  I just drop the link in the comment section for that.
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  But it's got. Remember, it's not your fault.
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  Glad you're back on Facebook. Me too, Michael.
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  Me too, Michael. Me too.
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  Me too. This is the space that so many
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  people fall into, y'all. But like, if you leave doing the
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  love on me phase, you, you want to cause a massive narcissistic
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  injury, Of course you got to be careful.
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  Of course you have to be safe. Of course you have to protect
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  your peace. But you want to cause a
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  narcissistic injury dip during the love on me phase, it'll burn
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  their they burn their little dark, narcissistic soul to the
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  ground. They'd be mad.
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  Yeah. Yeah, I was deadly.
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  So damn mad. The earth will shake, the earth
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  be running like, hey, baby, it's an earthquake.
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  Oh, no, just my sister just left her narcissistic boyfriend doing
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  the love on me face and he's just letting his anchor out.
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  Oh, so so the three on the Richter scale, isn't it?
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  Maybe pissed off? Maybe he's super pissed off.
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  But yeah, like I said, if you bring them a lot of shame and
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  embarrassment into their life, sometimes they will stalk you
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  out. They will try to stalk you and
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  harass you and beg and plead for another chance.
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  I promise I'll do better. I know we're just getting to
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  know each other. I know I I knew it was wrong.
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  I knew it was wrong to tell you that I loved you on the second
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  date. I knew it was wrong.
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  Something in me said don't tell her you love her.
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  Don't do it. But then it came from my heart.
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  My heart. You can't stop your heart.
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  When the heart that when your heart is beating, your heart
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  beating so loud it blocks out everything else.
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  So I couldn't hear nothing. I couldn't hear nothing.
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  The only thing I can say, I couldn't breathe.
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  I was having a panic attack. I love you.
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  And then it came out and then you said you didn't let me back,
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  so you left. I can't help my heart love you.
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  I know it's not logical to love you after 115 minute date, a
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  couple of text messages and me finding you on Instagram.
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  Even though you blocked me, even though you blocked me before the
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  first day. Why you blocked me?
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  Hey, why you blocked me on the 1st date?
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  Yes, I love you on the second date, 15 minutes in, I let you,
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  I let you so much. No contact yet going no contact
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  early on. Y'all like you trust your
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  intuition. Y'all, I promise you, the more
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  you trust your intuition, the better off you will be.
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  There's no debating that right there.
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  You mean there is no debating that right there.
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  The more you trust your intuition, the more you will
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  win. If your intuition is telling you
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  that this isn't right, if your intuition is telling you that
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  this isn't right, that this doesn't feel right, right, then
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  leave. Like your ability to just not
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  take any chances when people rub you the wrong way or you feel
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  you don't, it doesn't feel right.
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  Your ability to protect yourself will, you know, will keep you
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  happy. It will keep, it will keep you
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  protected and whatnot. You know what I'm saying?
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  It will keep you, absolutely keep you protected.
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  Yeah. If you think, if you get a
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  narcissistic person to think that they are the prize and that
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  you dip on them doing the love by me face, they're going to be
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  angry yourself because it's going to make them question that
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  prize. You're going to make them
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  question that mindset about being a prize.
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  Am I really surprised? As I took this girl on a trip,
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  she didn't give me no buns and she came back and she goes to me
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  soon. Soon we touched down at the
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  airport at at the at the airport in Atlanta.
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  Soon we touched down. I went to get my bag out the
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  overhead compartment and she was gone.
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  But I'm the prize though. I'm the prize.
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  She left her trophy in Atlanta on the in the airport.
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  She left her trophy in the airport.
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  Me, me, she left me. That's how stupid that sounds.
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  That's how ridiculous the mindset goes.
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  But that's how it goes. Like Pampy la Bute.
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  Yes yes, yes, she said the stalking is real, even with her
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  pregnant next to him in bed. Yeah, I'm just telling you they
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  think you belong to him. It just it is it just is.
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  It just doesn't. They think you belong to him,
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  y'all. Anyways, y'all, I do need to hop
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  off this live. I don't like this.
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  I don't let them run too long. I'm starting my live show back
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  up here pretty soon, y'all. So make sure you subscribe to
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  doing the love on the faces, it's going to be different.
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  I do the video on that. Yo, thank you.
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  This is dope. Appreciate you joining in.
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  Appreciate you joining in y'all thank y'all for being here.
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  I appreciate every single one of y'all.
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  Thank you for subscribing, I'll put you every single one of
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  y'all. Y'all be safe, take care of
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  yourselves. Hello y'all for the bottom of my
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  little narcissistic heart. Be safe as always.
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  Y'all been to him? This is out.