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Season 2 - Episode 328 - Listening to your pain · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today we're talking about
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  listening to your pain because first and foremost, when you
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  have an emotion, you've heard me say this a bazillion times.
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  Emotions are supposed to be giving us information, very much
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  like a rock in your shoe causes you to have, you know, a
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  situation and you have to stop, pause and think about it.
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  So. Listening to the pain is super
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  important, whether it's physical or it's emotional.
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  It's trying to communicate something to you.
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  And you know, it's funny enough that my son is in the truck the
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  other day and I'm driving him to work and he says to me, mind
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  you, he's 14, but you would think, you know, OK, he's got
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  this, you know, awareness going on.
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  But we all learn to tolerate things.
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  So he says to me, this boot is really hurting my foot.
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  And I said. Well, did your foot hurt when
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  you don't have the boot boot on? And he said, no, it's just it's
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  there's something weird about it.
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  And I said, well, it's weird about it.
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  What do you mean? He goes, I don't know.
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  It's just a strange thing. It's like it's rubbing me.
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  And I said, well, did you look inside the boot to see if
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  something was in there? And he's like, I stuck my hand
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  in but I couldn't feel anything And I said, OK, well take your
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  boot off now and try it again because we're on our way.
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  We're dropping him off. So he actually.
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  Stops and he takes the boot off and he puts his hand and he
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  goes, oh, there's a bump underneath the insert.
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  I said we'll pull the insert out.
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  So he pulls the insert out and then he starts laughing and he
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  tips the boot over in my truck and pours out what appears to be
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  about 1/2 a cup of sand and rock.
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  Now he works in a mulch market and they sell rock and mulch and
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  all kinds of things. So it's just a bunch of crap,
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  but it's underneath his. Insert And he says, wow, I can't
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  believe that was all in there. And I'm just looking at him and
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  I'm like, do you understand how uncomfortable that must have
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  been? That you've just ignored it?
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  And he's like, well, I just felt like, you know, if it's one of
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  those things, you just suck it up.
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  And it really got me thinking about putting it into the
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  podcast, because this is what we all do when we have these things
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  show up. We just.
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  Let them irritate us. We let them become part of what
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  we tolerate and we suck it up and we don't stop and pause and
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  say, wait, is there something more here Now he had a simple
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  solution. All he had to do was pull the
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  insert out, dump the sand out. But where does this come in to
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  us emotionally? Like we can see if solve that
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  quickly physically, but when these emotions are showing up
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  and they're talking to you. And you're not looking deeper.
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  You're not pulling the insert out.
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  You're not saying OK, what are you trying to teach me?
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  What am I supposed to be learning?
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  You don't need to understand where it all started, but you
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  need to understand. What it's trying to communicate
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  now in this moment, so you stop tolerating the sand that's under
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  the insert because that will drive you crazy and it will keep
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  rubbing. And we know what happens when
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  there's a rub. You get the irritation, you get
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  the problem, and it just keeps going and going and going.
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  So what's so important is to say, hey, wait, I've got to
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  pause here, I've got to hit the button and I've got to sit down
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  and write out. What do I think this is trying
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  to teach me? What can I learn from this?
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  What are the things that I feel are really present so that I can
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  look at it and say this is no longer working for me.
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  It's just a a matter of awareness.
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  It's a matter of stopping and saying OK, now why is this super
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  important end of year stuff, right?
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  You want to make sure you don't take the things you're
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  tolerating with you further on. You want to be able to say OK.
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  Nope, I'm not doing that. I'm going to put myself in a
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  much better position and go into the new year without any of
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  that. So you're you're in essence
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  cleaning house again coming back to that.
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  But you've got to start to listen to the pain.
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  You've got to listen to, you know what it's saying, ignoring
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  never works. So homework Simon.
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  Actually sit down and think about what are the things?
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  That you're being told that you're not listening to where
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  are these things showing up regularly, so you understand,
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  like, you know, if you have something that's a frustration
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  and the pain keeps showing up, like the sand in the boot,
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  there's a reason and it's telling you something.
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  So sit down, write it all out, put it on a piece of paper and
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  then you can actually, once you see it on paper, there's
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  something magical that happens because you can identify that.
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  Is this really ridiculous or is this something I want to pay
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  attention to? And most of the time when you
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  see it on the paper you can say this is this is easy, I can fix
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  this or you can say I can see a path to getting help for this.
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  I can see a path to going and talking to somebody about
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  something. I can see a path, you know,
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  Earlier in the year I had a huge pain around how my business
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  limits me in certain areas of reaching more people because of
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  what I do one-on-one, so. You know what?
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  I hired a different team of people to help me figure it out
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  because it was a blind spot for me.
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  So all those little things are being taken care of and things.
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  When you when you're able to start to do it and help it out,
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  and unfortunately for me, I'm able to do that, I can get some
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  people to help me, but most of us have people around us that do
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  want to help us, and most of us can find people that will help
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  us even if we don't know people. So think about first, what do
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  you, what do you need to listen to from your pain?
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  That's the first point. Write it all down and then you
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  can start to say, OK, what can I do?
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  To take this in a different direction.
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  But the first thing is identifying the pain.
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  OK, my friends, I'll see you tomorrow.
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  I hope you have a blessed day. Bye.