Where Have All the Tops Gone? The Truth About Gay Sex’s Biggest “Shortage EP 789

Talk About Gay Sex TAGSPODCAST · Sep 1, 2026 · 56m

In this episode:

• Is the “top shortage” supported by real data?

• Why are younger gay men more likely to identify as bottoms?

• Do some men grow into topping as they gain confidence and experience?

• Are there no tops—or simply no tops who meet every requirement?

• The erection and performance pressure placed on tops

• Why topping a partner can feel easier than topping a stranger

• Porn, hookup apps, masculinity, and unrealistic sexual expectations

• Can a soft top still deliver a great sexual experience?

• Are top, bottom, and vers preferences—or identities?

• Why expanding our definition…