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- Blake Holman: Welcome to Lead with Clarity. This is a space for leaders who want to grow without losing themselves in the process. Each episode is a short reflection on leadership, influence, and the inner work that shapes how we show up for others. It's not hype, not noise, just clear thinking for the journey of leading well. Today's episode is entitled Presence Before Words: What Amy Cuddy Got Right About Leadership. Here we go. There's a moment every leader knows. You're about to walk into a room that matters. A tough negotiation, a layoff conversation, a pitch you cannot afford to fumble. And in that moment, before you say a single word, something is already happening. Your body is speaking first. Amy Cuddy spent years studying this. She's best known for a simple, striking line. Our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves. Not just how others see us, how we see ourselves. That distinction matters more than it sounds like it should. A lot of leadership advice about body language treats it as performance. Stand up straight so you look confident to the board. Make eye contact so the client trusts you. It's aimed outward toward the audience. Cuddy's research pointed somewhere else. The posture you hold before you walk into the room shapes the internal state you carry into it. Confidence isn't only a broadcast, it's built to Physically from the inside. Think about a leader you've watched handle a crisis well. Not loud, not performative, grounded, steady. There's usually a physical quality to that steadiness, something that shows up before the words do. And think about the opposite. A leader who's collapsed inward, arms crossed, shoulders curled, trying to project authority through sheer verbal effort. It rarely lands the same way. Because the body is telling a different story than the mouth. Here's where a lot of leadership thinking gets wrong. The common misread is that confidence and judgment are purely mental events. Gather information, weigh the options, decide. Clean, rational, disembodied. But that's not how people actually operate. Decisions get made inside a body that's either tense or settled, defensive or open. And that physical state colors what gets weighed and how. A leader walking into a hard budget conversation while physically braced for conflict will see more threats in that room than one who enters upright and unhurried. Same facts, different read. The body is not a bystander to judgment, it's an input. So here's the reframe. Presence isn't something you perform for other people once you've already decided how you feel. Presence is something you build. Deliberately, before the moment that requires it. That two minutes alone before the hard conversation, where you stand up, plant your feet, roll your shoulders back. That's not vanity, and it's not a trick. It's preparation, the same way you'd prepare your talking points. You're not managing how you look, you're managing how you think. This holds regardless of the environment a leader is working in. It held true for executives a generation before video calls existed, and it holds true now. But there's a specific relevance to it today. When so much leadership happens through a screen, it's tempting to think presence matters less when the room is virtual, when a camera flattens everything to a small rectangle. It actually matters more, because the temptation on video is to slump into a chair and let the words carry everything. The tools available now can draft the email, summarize the meeting, even generate the talking points for a hard conversation. None of them can walk into the room for you. None of them can settle your posture before you deliver difficult news. That part is still entirely yours. So the carry forward here isn't complicated, but it does take some intention. Before something matters, whether it's a meeting, a hard conversation, a decision you've been avoiding, notice your body first. Not to fake confidence you don't feel, to actually build it physically before you need it. A leader who does this consistently isn't performing calm, they're manufacturing it on purpose ahead of time. Amy Cuddy's line is worth sitting with because it reverses the usual order of operations. We tend to think feeling confident comes first and posture follows. Her research suggests it often runs the other way. The posture comes first and And the feeling follows behind it. For anyone leading people, leading decisions, leading through hard rooms, that's not a minor detail. It's close to the whole game. Judgment, character, and leadership have never been purely mental exercises. They live in a body that walks into rooms, sits across tables, and carries itself one way or another before a single word gets said. Pay attention to that, and a lot of what looks like natural confidence. turns out to be something far more useful, something you can actually build.