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DLHS Hour 2 | Is it Good Discipline or Child Abuse · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: Skip.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think it's abuse?
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  Speaker 3: Ah, to me, it's on the boarder. She went a
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  Speaker 3: little a long with it. She was beating, beating the
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  Speaker 3: snot out of him.
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  Speaker 2: It's not the intensity.
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  Speaker 3: And then she kept going and going. It knocked him down,
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  Speaker 3: picked him up by his hair, dragged him andy, then
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  Speaker 3: beat him some on and then cuts him out like
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  Speaker 3: she was mad. You should never beat a child when
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  Speaker 3: you're angry.
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  Speaker 2: That's that's like not kicking somebody when they're down their
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  Speaker 2: faces right there. I'd have had a hard day and
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  Speaker 2: you got a bad report card. That's a perfect combination.
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  Speaker 3: Come on, now she was mad boy because so I
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  Speaker 3: don't know what he did, but woof man.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that's I do think that a lot of the
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  Speaker 2: way we got beat and we did get beat, were
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  Speaker 2: predicated on a couple. They were frustrated a lot, they
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  Speaker 2: were angry a lot like my moa. They didn't wait
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  Speaker 2: to calm down so that they weren't to whoop your ass.
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  Speaker 2: And I thought, I think that was crazy.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, but I would imagine if you want
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  Speaker 4: to whoop your kid, I mean, if you wait to
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  Speaker 4: calm down, you probably won't whoop them.
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  Speaker 2: That's probably that's probably a wise thing.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe maybe not.
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  Speaker 5: Then.
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  Speaker 2: I remember I had to whoop Ryan one time because
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  Speaker 2: she had I forgot what she had them. But we
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  Speaker 2: went to the park and hung out a McDonald's and
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  Speaker 2: came home a whoop.
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  Speaker 6: I whooped her.
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  Speaker 2: I whooped her. I probably only woop my kids, I'm sure,
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  Speaker 2: maybe all together cumutively seven times, and and Tyler probably
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  Speaker 2: got nine of um.
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  Speaker 1: No, it was it was mostly Ryan.
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  Speaker 2: I remember when I knew that I was gonna get
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  Speaker 2: a whooping, I used to put on extra underwear and
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  Speaker 2: I would put little tiles on the back of my
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  Speaker 2: legs and I would never.
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  Speaker 6: Move, you know, So wouldn't you just take all that off?
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  Speaker 2: No, when I was ten, and when I was in
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  Speaker 2: the tenth eleventh grade she did, or nineteen tenth grade.
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  Speaker 3: You were still getting school.
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  Speaker 2: And when she hit me, I'd just pretend I get hurt.
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  Speaker 2: Then I would go in the room and laugh.
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  Speaker 1: Take all that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I was just smarter than them.
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  Speaker 3: First of all, I never got whipped clothes. I got
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  Speaker 3: always got down to my underwear, and if it got
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  Speaker 3: really bad, oh man, you gotta take all that off.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 6: You let you keep your clothes on.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I was in ninety tenth grade. I remember
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  Speaker 2: I went to work, I went to school with a
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  Speaker 2: busy lift.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't I wasn't getting whopen to night.
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  Speaker 3: By the time high school I was over with that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think the last whooping I got from my mother
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  Speaker 2: I was probably in that eleventh grade. I'm sure, oh wow,
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  Speaker 2: but then y'all were fighting.
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  Speaker 1: Sure, No, it wasn't.
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  Speaker 2: I had all Yeah, I'm telling my mother, so even
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  Speaker 2: that minsious guy's well of telling her she ain't got
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  Speaker 2: to remember this stuff when you know, I can't let
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  Speaker 2: you remember all this tiff going to your calls.
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  Speaker 7: I think it's straight up abuse. If you asked me
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  Speaker 7: the way that child was screaming, I think that's abuse.
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  Speaker 7: And I think anybody that can hear that child screaming
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  Speaker 7: and hear that beating doesn't believe that its abuse should
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  Speaker 7: not be allowed to have children.
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  Speaker 6: I won't say hey to everybody d my listing out
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  Speaker 6: every day. I'm a boy that grew up there. I'm
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  Speaker 6: a grown man. I grew up in the globe, in
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  Speaker 6: the house man, and I can relate to du about
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  Speaker 6: getting out the shower and catching a whooping as so
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  Speaker 6: on as you get out. Now, my mom should take
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  Speaker 6: to read switches and bring them up and soak him
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  Speaker 6: in the tub.
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  Speaker 1: And she would get at.
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  Speaker 6: Me if I get something wrong, because we represented her
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  Speaker 6: and that house when we left the house. Now as
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  Speaker 6: a grown man, but I would say listening today is
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  Speaker 6: very simple.
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  Speaker 1: If she is angry and she's.
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  Speaker 6: Whooping him out of anger, then in my life and
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  Speaker 6: the way I said, I cristicized that as abuse. Whether
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  Speaker 6: if she's calm enough and understanding the situation that she's
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  Speaker 6: not whooping him because she's angry at him, but more
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  Speaker 6: so it's whooping him trying to get him to understand something,
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  Speaker 6: then you can it's a broader, you know, broad of statement.
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  Speaker 6: I wouldn't so much as go out on the lamb
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  Speaker 6: and just say she's abusing him. But for that family
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  Speaker 6: member that recorded it, you need to be slapped in
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  Speaker 6: the face because I don't know why the hell you
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  Speaker 6: want somebody to see what Chokke's doing.
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  Speaker 8: I stop the video when they was floating around on Facebook,
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  Speaker 8: and in my opinion, it really.
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  Speaker 9: Was not of you.
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  Speaker 8: She hit him with a belt on his boot. She
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  Speaker 8: was not hitting him on his back. She was out
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  Speaker 8: here to come all his legs. She only hit him
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  Speaker 8: with the belt. Yeah, she not hit him a few
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  Speaker 8: more times that she should. But it to me it
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  Speaker 8: was not abuse.
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  Speaker 10: And what she was saying was she was tired of.
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  Speaker 8: Him getting in trouble in school, stilling things and the
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  Speaker 8: police showing up at her job.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't think it was so much abuse.
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  Speaker 9: She whooped to that. Now what did he do wrong?
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  Speaker 9: But he was a little dramatic in that yelling. I
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  Speaker 9: would say, you know, because some kids do that, sore,
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  Speaker 9: you will stop, he streamed to the top of his voice.
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  Speaker 9: She hadn't even got fire licks in yet, you know,
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  Speaker 9: but she whooped there. What did he do? We don't know?
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  Speaker 9: But why is it now when kids get a whooping,
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  Speaker 9: it oh it's shining abuse. But when we got whooping, Oh,
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  Speaker 9: he just got his ass whoop. Now everybody calling a
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  Speaker 9: fart that he's going to jail or whatever over ass
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  Speaker 9: who He probably was tearing up the class, but she
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  Speaker 9: whooped his ass for tearing up the class.
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  Speaker 11: No, no, no, no, somebody need to look in the room.
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  Speaker 11: My husband did that with my daughter, he hitting the wall.
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  Speaker 10: I went in there. She just hollered, how you have
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  Speaker 10: thought he.
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  Speaker 1: Was killing her.
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  Speaker 11: But no, no, no, somebody needs to look in the room.
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  Speaker 11: He's swinging at the wall. That child's just screaming. She
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  Speaker 11: ain't touched him yet, somebody.
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  Speaker 12: I need some proof.
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  Speaker 11: I need some proof he's actually being spink.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, man, I think these kids know what they are
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  Speaker 1: too soft.
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  Speaker 12: Man.
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  Speaker 1: If that is basically some type of abuse, my parents,
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  Speaker 1: my grandparents, my teacher, and my neighbors would all be
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  Speaker 1: locked up in jail, man, because we listened at our
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  Speaker 1: ass eaten by everybody, And this is nothing. Man. I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking about six and wires and everything, and you go
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  Speaker 1: to school and you're pretty much black and blue. So
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  Speaker 1: I believe they need to get them spanking. As long
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  Speaker 1: as you don't really have any pups and stuff on them,
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  Speaker 1: they're they're good.
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  Speaker 2: So the question we're asking, do you think that this
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  Speaker 2: is abuse listen to is.
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  Speaker 5: The video is clandestinely captured by another family member who
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  Speaker 5: has given us permission to show it to you. It
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  Speaker 5: appears to be a parent attempting to physically discipline her child.
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  Speaker 5: The Sheriff's office now confirms the woman is the mother
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  Speaker 5: of the twelve year old son that is about to
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  Speaker 5: be struck with a strap or about twenty two times,
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  Speaker 5: the beating lasting about fifteen seconds, and it is difficult
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  Speaker 5: to watch. The woman then pulls a child up from
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  Speaker 5: the sofa by his hair, then unleashes a torrent of profanity.
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  Speaker 5: This video has also been viewed by investigators with the
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  Speaker 5: Mobile County Sheriff's Office, who identify her as forty four
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  Speaker 5: year old Randy Nicole Staples of Grand Bay, but some
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  Speaker 5: viewers may recognize her as Missus Nicole Staples, a second
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  Speaker 5: grade teacher at Cottage Hill Christian Academy.
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  Speaker 1: Want to your calls, Oh, well me myself.
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  Speaker 10: He ain't no tell him what he did and he
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  Speaker 10: probably needed his ass well because these kids now they's
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  Speaker 10: growing up, need good ass whoopings. And they shouldn't have
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  Speaker 10: never took that out no way. So hey, and whoever
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  Speaker 10: did the video, they should have whooped their ass for
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  Speaker 10: video on it.
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  Speaker 1: Man, I just gotta know all they crazy f s.
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  Speaker 1: Federrode full of child fifteen seconds. I got whoofed about
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  Speaker 1: fifteen minutes. It still had to go clean up after that.
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  Speaker 13: Mother.
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  Speaker 1: Then she's supposed to do. She better whoop them now
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  Speaker 1: so the police don't woop them later.
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  Speaker 13: Half person I like to say hello everybody, and I'm
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  Speaker 13: in charge the show. I think what hell and I
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  Speaker 13: used to get because my mom used to wake me up.
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  Speaker 13: She used to wake me up and she used to
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  Speaker 13: can't say when I'm coming out to tell her.
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  Speaker 1: I always task for all that.
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  Speaker 13: But I'm a better person party, and I think the
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  Speaker 13: police and the government they.
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  Speaker 9: Go too far.
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  Speaker 13: They'll tell you can't whoop their children, but then their
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  Speaker 13: chair around they'll kill them. So I don't think it's
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  Speaker 13: a piece of that all man.
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  Speaker 14: I feel that they don't want us to just look
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  Speaker 14: guy children because they won't have patrol over there too.
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  Speaker 14: I think that if a child needs the discipline, you
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  Speaker 14: need to be disciplined. The Bible said spell the rise
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  Speaker 14: or the child. That's what they want us to do
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  Speaker 14: because they want to take control of our keeping.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I'm a other generation where kids used to
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  Speaker 4: get beatens in the extension course and all those things,
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  Speaker 4: and it wasn't right now, and it's not right now.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, if you consider if a man were to
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  Speaker 4: take a belt and beat a woman it's like a
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  Speaker 4: woman like twenty something times, that would be domestic abuse,
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  Speaker 4: and so to me, it's the same thing when you
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  Speaker 4: do it to a child, So who protects a kid?
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  Speaker 4: And although I don't really necessarily agree with soft parenting,
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  Speaker 4: I think there's a way to discipline a kid without
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  Speaker 4: using corporal punishment. I just think it's just wrong.
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  Speaker 14: It's just wrong.
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  Speaker 4: So I know a lot of people will disagree and
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  Speaker 4: they'll probably say, well, it's based on whatever the kid did,
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  Speaker 4: but I think it's a different way to handle it.
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  Speaker 4: That just it broke my heart.
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  Speaker 1: It's the only abuse if the parent is a you or.
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  Speaker 14: Mad at the time, and it doesn't take twenty two lists,
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  Speaker 14: so it only becomes abused when the parent is angry
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  Speaker 14: or mad.
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  Speaker 12: Well, first of all, I was born in seventy four,
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  Speaker 12: so I'm definitely from that, you know, the era where
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  Speaker 12: you got beat and disciplined. And I have a successful
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  Speaker 12: twenty one year old and she has been disciplined, you know,
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  Speaker 12: to the extent necessary.
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  Speaker 4: That's absolutely ridiculous to me.
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  Speaker 12: You don't take, you know, your anger out on the child.
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  Speaker 12: It's about disciplining them and maybe five hits or four hits,
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  Speaker 12: but twenty two to me seems absolutely a bit excessive.