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Resiliency · Just Be True ~ A Soul-Led Podcast

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Hello and welcome beautiful souls. I am so glad
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you can join me here today or just be true a
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soul -led podcast Podcast that is going to take
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us on amazing journeys and to be free to live
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our true authentic self of who we are and remembering
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who and what we are as we go along our journey
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of life. And so my name is Summer. I am your
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host and I'm so glad to have you. This is episode
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one and we are going to be talking about resiliency.
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You know, resiliency is having the motivation
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and the strength to continue to move forward
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as we go through life's challenges that come
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our way and you know I kind of just wanted to
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talk about that with you today you know there
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are moments in life that change us forever I
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mean they do they can be happy pleasant cheerful
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moments and then they can be challenging moments
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moments that push us in a direction that we would
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never ever push ourselves for our design or pick
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for ourselves, right? To go through things that
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can show us truly where our strength lies. You
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know, for me, one of those moments happened in
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2002. I was coming home and I lived in an apartment
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complex. And as I approached my apartment, I
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was on the backside of the apartment complex.
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And as I approached my apartment, there was someone
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outside of my apartment windows and they came
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moving towards me and they pulled a revolver
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out of their pocket. And they held me up at gunpoint.
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They tried to talk me into going into my apartment.
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And that did not happen. We ended up in a physical
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altercation in the breezeway of the apartment.
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And I ended up with a damaged vocal box, two
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broken ribs, and really just beat up and bruised
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from the whole situation. The assailant ended
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up running away and leaving the situation. but
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that experience oh that experience was rough
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and It sent me you know along a journey that
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I never Knew that that I could handle or that
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I could do with I remember very distinctly Probably
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is probably been like two years before that happened
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co -worker was telling me about an experience
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where she got mugged and I was just like oh my
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gosh I can't believe that that would be so hard
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to deal with and then two years later it happens
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to me and you know during those times you find
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the power within to be able to move forward you
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find the power within to continue to get back
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to the place where you need to be Right or even
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in a better place than you were beforehand and
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I will say I actually ended up in a better place
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Than I was before that You know, I that night
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I did fight back and it was a fight for my life
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You know, but the real battle wasn't that moment
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The real battle wasn't just that single incident
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you know, at that moment in which it happened,
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the real battle came afterwards. You know, it
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was the emotional, it was the spiritual challenge
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and it was the deeply personal challenge of all
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of that and what it all brought. You know, I
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could have sheltered myself and lived in fear.
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I could have become a victim of the situation,
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but I didn't. I rose past that and I moved past
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that. I actually Ended up It's very interesting.
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So I will say over the next few months and years
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have followed I had to learn how to feel safe
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again in my own body I had to learn to have a
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feel safe again being alone and I'll be honest
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with you. There are moments still today Where
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that PTSD sinks in, you know kind of sneaks up
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on me, but I have tools now to work through those
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right and so And I use those tools to work through
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When that PTSD comes start sneaking back in for
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this, you know, and that's just it I Push forward
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each time even if it's just baby steps to be
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able to push forward Continuing to push forward
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is what resiliency is. It's not dealing with
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just the one incident At the moment that it happens
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It's dealing with it as it reoccurs over time.
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You know how to breathe through the waves of
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fear that come without warning. How to reclaim
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your sense of power after it feels like it's
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been taken from you. You know those are the things
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that resiliency is all about. It's not about
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surviving the one event. It's about showing up
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for yourself every single day. Even when the
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memories resurface. And even when that anxiety
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whispers his doubts. The anxiety normally kicks
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in for me, like if I'm house sitting for someone
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and it's the first time that I've stayed there.
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That's usually when it kicks in because of the
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noises that the house makes, I guess, or just
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being in a place that's not my own for the first
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time, being in an unfamiliar space. That can
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do it for me. You know, I practice, so what do
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I do? So I reassure myself that I am safe and
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in a safe place. If the anxiety creeps in, I
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do the five, four, three, two, one. So using
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that with your senses. So for example, I would
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identify five things I can see, four things I
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can touch, three things I can hear, two things
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You know, I can feel and one thing I can taste
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or smell like two things I can smell and one
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thing I can taste. And so what that does is when
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you use these type of tools, it helps you come
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back to the moment and it helps quiet the mind
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and which can help settle down that anxiety or
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that fear that comes creeping in. So using those
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things are very powerful tools. I'm journaling
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about what you're feeling is really great, you
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know, and being able to when you're journaling,
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you can share your fear, but you're also at the
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same time, you can remind yourself of the reality
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of that fear of where it's coming from and being
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able to settle with that. There's nothing wrong.
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You know, you don't don't blame yourself. For
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being in a situation for being in that fearful
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state. It's more like taking control of that
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fearful state and owning it. So it doesn't control
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you. I mean, it's easy. It's easy to allow the
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fear to take over. It's easy to shelter yourself
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down and like be a hermit and to hide in a closet
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or hide from it. So you don't have to face it.
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You know, but that's not living. That's not life.
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Learning to move past it and move forward and
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to conquer it. That's life. That's living. You
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know. So it's like showing up for yourself every
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single day. It's the quiet and the strength.
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You know, that gets you through. remembering
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that you know you may have fallen but you've
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gotten back up you may have been bent and bruised
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and battered but you stood up and you move through
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it it's the courage of keep moving forward even
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when the path isn't clear there will be times
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where the path will not be clear for what you
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need to do what you need to go through The continuing
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to move forward and discovering that path each
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step of the way is a brilliant, brilliant way
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of resiliency. You know, it's the grace that
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allows the healing to unfold layer by layer without
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judgment. You can't judge yourself in these times.
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You got to continue to move forward and give
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yourself grace. Learn to forgive, not only forgiving
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others, but forgiving yourself. You know, when
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I went through that experience in 2002, there
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came a point during my healing process that I
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had to forgive my salient, you know, and the
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forgiveness was not for that person. I don't
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know who they were. As far as I know, I've never
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seen them since then and I'll probably never
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see them again. But I had to give forgiveness
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to that young man for what he had done. He didn't
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know any better. You know, he thought that, you
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know, I don't know what he thought. Honestly,
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I don't know what he thought. I don't know what
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his purpose was or was for that. Whatever his
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purpose was, it didn't happen. You know, because
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I wasn't going to allow him to let it happen.
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You know, because I fought. I fought. You know,
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so. I had to give forgiveness for what took place
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and what happened. And a part of that was me,
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you know, asking the universe to provide him
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guidance on where he needs to go on his life
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to have a loving, fulfilling journey ahead of
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him, you know, without hurting people or hurting
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others. and for him to realize the pain that
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he inflicts on others through his actions and
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for him to have the ability to forgive himself
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as well. When you give forgiveness to others,
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it's not for them. That forgiveness is truly
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just for you. When you can forgive and let go,
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that's a part of the healing as well. And it's
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not it sometimes it's not easy You know and you
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may have to try to do that forgiveness over and
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over and over again Before it really kind of
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resonates and sticks with you and that's okay,
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right? This is a journey. It's a journey of moving
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forward step by step and even when those Little
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steps, you know happen is still a step forward
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and guess what if we take a step back It's okay.
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You know why? Because we're gonna pick ourselves
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up. We're gonna dust it off. We're gonna move
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forward again. Right? I made a choice to be a
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survivor and not a victim. It was my choice.
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It was my desire and it was my purpose. To turn
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the pain into purpose. Become the hero in your
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own story. One of the ways that I turned from,
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one of the ways I stepped into that survivor
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thing is I went and I learned how, so I went
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and I took personal protection courses, refused
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to be a victim courses and I took like, I took
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courses to teach these things as well. So to
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teach refuse to be a victim, to teach self -defense
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and to teach other women about handguns and how
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to use them and how to protect themselves. Now,
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I'm not here to promote the use of that, but
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I'm here to say you have to do what's needed
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for you to feel safe and be protected. guess
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it was probably at least two or three years I
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traveled around the metro area and held classes
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just for women to empower them to give them the
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strength to protect themselves and do for them
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because I had to do it for me and I was thankful
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that I knew the basics at that time to be able
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to protect myself. And I wanted to empower other
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women with the ability to do that for themselves.
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So that's what I did. It was healing. It was
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empowering. And I am thankful that I could do
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that. I'm thankful that I could give other women
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their power to be able to take care of themselves
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so no matter what storm you're walking through
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whether it's calm whether it's rough and and
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and turbulent regardless of what it is it is
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calm on the other side And when you get to that
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other side, you're gonna be so proud of yourself.
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And it's gonna give you a strength that you can
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carry forward with you from here on out. And
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there's nothing that can break that because you
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did it yourself and you were powerful enough
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to go through it. So just always remember that.
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Resiliency doesn't always look like strength.
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Sometimes it looks like tears. Sometimes it looks
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like rest. Many times it's taking one small step
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at a time. But each step that you take moving
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forward. Each step that you take. I don't care
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how teeny tiny it is. I don't care how long it
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takes you to take that step. Each step is a step
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forward and each step is a step healing. And
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each step takes you to that place of resiliency
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that you deserve. Find a strength within. Find
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people around you that can support you along
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your way. And find it within yourself. Find it
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in your heart. Find it in your soul. Because
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it's there. It's just waiting for you to wake
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it up. So find it for you. If you're watching
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this today, this is what I want you to know.
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You are stronger than you realize. You are healing
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even when it doesn't feel like it. And you are
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never, can't say this enough, you are never alone.
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there will be times where you may feel very lonely
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the only thing you have to do is reach out to
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your higher self your higher power the divine
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the universe your god whatever you want to call
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it only thing you have to do is reach out to
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that universal energy that's there that's within
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us all and ask for it to wrap this loving loving
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energy around you so that you can feel it. To
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give you the strength to move forward and be
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powerful in your own self. Is this there for
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you? You just have to open up to receive it.
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You have to open up to feel it and to own it.
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But it is there. And you are never ever alone.
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But let this be a reminder, resiliency isn't
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about never falling. It's about always rising.
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It's always about picking yourself up, dusting
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yourself off, and moving forward. There's no
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right or wrong way to do it, just doing it, right?
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Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so
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much for being here. This has been a true pleasure.
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If this message resonated with you I'd like to
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invite you to subscribe and share your own story
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of resiliency in the comments below and together
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we will rise. So also we will have our next episode
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we'll drop on Thursday, so our episodes will
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drop on Thursdays of each week, so hope that
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you'll come back and visit me again. Thank you
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so much. Thank you so much for giving me your
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time, for being here. Continue to move forward,
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stay strong, and be resilient in everything that
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you do.