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Season 4 - Episode 211 -Who’s responsibility is it? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good Morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day. To record a podcast to.
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  Teach distinctions, possibilities, new ways of
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  thinking, and just bring some joy.
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  Into the. World.
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  So welcome to the coop and let's start your day off in a
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  fantastic way. Hey everybody, good morning from
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  the chicken coop. Yes, I still have the funk, but
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  we're we're ignoring the sound of my voice.
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  So I have a domestic question for all of you to ask yourself.
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  Now this is a big challenge that I come up with with a lot of my
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  clients. It's domestic chores.
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  Who's doing the domestic chores in the house 'cause we all know
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  we all have to do laundry and dishes and whatever it is,
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  changing the beds. We all have these things we have
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  to do. Some of us have more than
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  others. Like me with the farm, I have a
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  lot more of chores to do, but I actually like chores and I feel
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  like there's a lot of gifts in doing that because I've
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  conditioned myself to understand that there are huge, huge things
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  that come to you from as lessons, as mindfulness.
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  Lots of stuff that that centers us and grounds us comes from the
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  mundane, so to speak, doing the mundane chores.
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  So let's go to the main one and recently this just came up with
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  a client and it's laundry. Now the situation was as
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  follows. Person one is doing laundry and
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  typically does the laundry all the time.
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  Person one puts the laundry in as white clothes, only white
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  clothes going in, takes them out at the end of the laundry
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  running cycle and sees that there is something blue on a
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  pair of white jeans and doesn't understand how because there was
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  nothing else in there that could have done this.
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  It was like right on the top near the pocket.
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  It was a blue stain. So goes to person B and says
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  I'm, you know, I don't know what happened.
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  This is here. I'm sorry, I don't know what
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  happened. There was nothing else in there,
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  but your clothes are stained. Person B examines pants and
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  finds that there was a key chain in there like A tag you would
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  put on. You know, like a key chain
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  holder that was a leather 1 blue and it was in the pocket.
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  Left it in there and was immediately upset beyond reason
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  about the fact that that the pockets had not been checked.
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  And said to person A, it is the person's responsibility who does
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  the laundry to check the laundry to make sure that there is
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  nothing in the pockets. And that ensues.
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  And tremendous argument about the fact that whose
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  responsibility is it? Who's taking responsibility?
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  So in my world, in my model of the world, if I'm doing the
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  laundry, which I do in my house, I do the laundry and for the
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  children, I have always checked the pockets because I understand
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  kids. I talk about it I and then I
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  will say, hey, you need to do this.
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  This is the the issue. Now I have bins in my laundry
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  room. I purposefully bought a bin that
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  has four sections, a laundry like cart, one of those old
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  school laundry carts which I love.
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  And so everything can be sorted and they can sort it into where
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  it go they want it to go and then I can put it in there.
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  Now, when it comes to my husband, I don't check his
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  pockets because he's an adult and he knows.
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  Now, does the situation happen where he leaves stuff in his
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  pockets? Yes, absolutely, 100%.
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  He leaves tissue in his pockets. And let me tell you, it is a
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  pain in the butt when it happens and it goes everywhere.
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  It sticks to everything. It is awful when it sticks to
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  Velcro. It's all over the place.
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  You then have to shake it all out.
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  You have to pick it all out. It drives me insane.
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  However, I am not responsible for the fact that this happens.
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  He is responsible for the fact that it happens because it's his
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  clothing. He put it in there.
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  So in Full disclosure, like when it get happens and it gets all
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  over the place, I, I take those clothes out of the washer, I put
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  them right in the dryer. Whatever comes off in the dryer,
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  that's it. And I fold his clothes and I
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  leave it stuck to him and I take care of mine.
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  If my clothes have stuff on it, I go, I shake them out, I do it.
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  And then he can deal with his own because I'm not doing and I
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  have overtime. That may sound stupid and petty,
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  but it's not because it was his responsibility to check the
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  pockets. And over time I have recognized
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  that. If I see him with a cold, if
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  he's got allergies going on, I'll say to him, please make
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  sure you check your pockets. Like I remind him about it.
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  Now, ironically, what's so funny is that my son is super, super,
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  well, my daughter like, you know, it's a non issue.
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  She just sorts laundry, did it all herself.
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  Like very, very efficient with that stuff.
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  My son over time has learned he doesn't even leave his clothes
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  anymore in his bathroom. He just actually picks them all
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  up, comes into the laundry room, puts them into the right bin,
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  shakes them out, takes his belt off, turns his socks inside out.
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  Because I have said it enough times and I said, listen, I'm
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  not doing this to be a pain in your butt.
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  I'm doing this to train you to be a a good partner to somebody.
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  This who, if you're going to be the person that does the laundry
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  or your person is going to be the person that does the
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  laundry, I'm training you to be a good partner to that person.
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  And he gets it. He's like, no, that's, that's
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  okay. I don't mind doing that.
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  It's I don't have to do the laundry.
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  That's good. So in your opinion, whose
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  responsibility is it right in your house?
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  Do you argue about this? Is it?
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  Whose responsibility is it to check the pockets?
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  And if you have never thought about this or any of the other
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  domestic things that you do that require an understanding of
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  this, this may be a good time to do it.
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  Because it's always best to deal with things before they become a
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  hot button because then they become an inferno.
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  And for me, I just think discussing it ahead of time is
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  always good. So go figure it out.
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  And who's in charge of those pockets?
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll
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  see you tomorrow. Bye.