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Let’s Find This Girl A MAN! · I Do, Part 2

• 0:14
  Speaker 1: Hey, guys, it's Jana and I am back with my
• 0:16
  Speaker 1: bestie Pam, and we are going to talk all things
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: dating and how it's going.
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  Speaker 2: For my girl.
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  Speaker 1: All right, girl, let's dive back into our convo. So
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  Speaker 1: whenever I ever get someone that DMS me about them
• 0:29
  Speaker 1: going through divorce, I'm so sad for them because I
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  Speaker 1: know the feeling and we know how awful it is.
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  Speaker 1: But I always end it with and I'm so excited
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  Speaker 1: for you because there's going to be a brighter version,
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  Speaker 1: a lighter version of yourself. You get to fall in
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  Speaker 1: love again, you get to receive what you really deserve
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  Speaker 1: and not settle for less. But that doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 1: it's not hard in the process. And that is what
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  Speaker 1: we continue on with this conversation, and you know, in
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  Speaker 1: our walks and our talks, and that's why you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited talk to you about it because it is.
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  Speaker 1: Dating isn't easy, no, but it doesn't have to be
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  Speaker 1: horrible exactly. So I think there's the ebbs and the
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  Speaker 1: flows right, So for you now that you have because
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  Speaker 1: how many years now has it been too? Two years?
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  Speaker 1: So you're two years divorced. When do you think actually
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  Speaker 1: it's appropriate to start dating again. I never really follow timelines. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's like a feeling thing. But well, I
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  Speaker 1: think you have to be honest with yourself.
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  Speaker 3: I think, you know, like are we dating to mask
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  Speaker 3: feelings and not processing things?
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  Speaker 2: You know? Or maybe you know.
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  Speaker 3: Somebody truly that you would really you know, like really
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  Speaker 3: want to be in a relationship just happened to come
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  Speaker 3: into your life at you know, maybe the two month mark.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't think there's like I don't like
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  Speaker 3: to ever put timelines on it like that either. For me,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't even really think about it, like when I
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  Speaker 3: was getting divorced, and then like months and months after,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't even really.
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  Speaker 2: Again.
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  Speaker 3: I was just like so focused on my growing my
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  Speaker 3: company and my kids and traveling, like that's kind of
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  Speaker 3: that's what I did. I didn't jump into dating. I
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  Speaker 3: jumped into travel, right, that was my.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I did.
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  Speaker 3: And so I don't have an answer for that. For me,
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  Speaker 3: it was it was a while, I mean, my goodness,
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  Speaker 3: oh well eight months maybe or something. And it was
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  Speaker 3: because of you anyway that even prompted me to entertain anything,
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  Speaker 3: you know, So I probably wouldn't have like started until later.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I just because I think it's one of those things,
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  Speaker 1: like we said early on, it's it's a bit of
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  Speaker 1: a numbers game, but it's also go out there and
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  Speaker 1: feel the feelings of a big second. Like I when
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  Speaker 1: I started dating, I was like, oh wow, people think
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  Speaker 1: I'm actually I don't. Yeah, you know, I'm sure there's
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  Speaker 1: this well feeling you get post divorce.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, and sometimes you do need like a
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  Speaker 3: stroke of your ego. I guess right after you know,
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  Speaker 3: kind of a long you know, marriage or whatever. And
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  Speaker 3: I whenever I did kind of start dating, I was
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  Speaker 3: ready sure, like I felt good about it. I felt,
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  Speaker 3: you know, just in a positive light. And I was
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  Speaker 3: excited because for me, the type of energy I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to put into something is exactly what I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: get out of it. So I am never going to
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  Speaker 3: be like this sucks.
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  Speaker 2: Men are awful.
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  Speaker 3: My gosh, dating like that will never come out of
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  Speaker 3: my mouth. I actually love it. I love men. I
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  Speaker 3: think they're amazing. I think that I am learning something
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  Speaker 3: about myself every time I talk to or go on
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  Speaker 3: a date with somebody, and that is what I take
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  Speaker 3: away from it.
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  Speaker 1: So I I think it's fun and we have some
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  Speaker 1: loaves with it.
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  Speaker 2: What are the lows?
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  Speaker 1: Do you think that I've said, I it's it's discouraging
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  Speaker 1: right at times, because it's.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, is it so the last
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  Speaker 2: date maybe.
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  Speaker 3: Oh hey, but discouraging discouraging. I mean that was an
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  Speaker 3: amazing date, sure shot. So you did send me a
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  Speaker 3: text that was like, I'm like this sucks. Yeah, well okay,
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  Speaker 3: but let me explain this to everybody. So I have
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  Speaker 3: not had any type of bad experience at all. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, any man that I've talked
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  Speaker 3: to or have been on a date with.
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  Speaker 2: Or jumped off boats, I mean that one. Oh lord, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: moving on. So I I think I can, you know,
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  Speaker 2: sniff them out pretty good. So I've I've.
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  Speaker 3: Only I've only had really interesting men that like are
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  Speaker 3: doing really cool things and I'm super intrigued by. So
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  Speaker 3: that's been great to like see that you know, this
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  Speaker 3: whole different world out there, because when you're married for
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  Speaker 3: ten years, you know, you don't you're not exploring that
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  Speaker 3: you don't know. And so that's been a blessing for me.
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  Speaker 3: Is just like whoa, you know, like this is super refreshing.
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  Speaker 3: This this can be fun and just kind of evolving,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and learning from each one of them, the
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  Speaker 3: little things I want to take away from each one
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  Speaker 3: of them. I mean, you know, try to write, You're
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  Speaker 3: trying to piece them all together to find like this
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  Speaker 3: magic person. I think that's where I'm at that I
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  Speaker 3: haven't had anything bad. It's just hasn't been like.
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  Speaker 2: The but die.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have moments where you wonder if you'll ever
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  Speaker 1: find love again?
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  Speaker 2: No? No, m so you believe that you will one.
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  Speaker 1: And what is because there's times when we walk and
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  Speaker 1: you're like, I don't want to have I don't need
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  Speaker 1: to have. I don't need to get married again. I
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  Speaker 1: don't need So it's like, well that's true.
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  Speaker 2: I mean that's.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly though, because when you're like the other day you
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  Speaker 1: just said, but what do I want?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, so what do you want? So here's the deal.
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  Speaker 3: I one thousand percent am so freaking happy in my life,
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  Speaker 3: Like I really.
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  Speaker 2: I could find a word for you. It's joyful. Feel
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  Speaker 2: like I hit the jackpot. I am.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I have this company that fills me with
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  Speaker 3: such joy and you know, inspiration, and that continues to grow.
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  Speaker 3: I have these beautiful children, I have the most amazing friendships.
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  Speaker 3: My family's so freaking great. You know, I get to travel,
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  Speaker 3: I get to have all of these beautiful experiences. So
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  Speaker 3: when I tell you I'm at a high, I'm really
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  Speaker 3: at a high. But that doesn't mean that I don't
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  Speaker 3: have space or that I don't necessarily want somebody to
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  Speaker 3: elevate me even higher, Like can I think? Do I
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  Speaker 3: think that I can be even that much happier with
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  Speaker 3: an amazing partner?
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  Speaker 2: I do?
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  Speaker 3: I want, I totally do, and I do want that. However,
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  Speaker 3: if it's not that I'm not doing it, I don't
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  Speaker 3: have to do it. I don't I don't need it.
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  Speaker 3: I want it, Yeah, but I really don't mean I'm
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  Speaker 3: I'm happy at my home on a Saturday night with
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  Speaker 3: music and the good book.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's important too, because there's no point in
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  Speaker 1: settling when it like I would have never settled again,
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  Speaker 1: because what is the point I have too beautiful, I
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  Speaker 1: had two beautiful children. I would rather be alone than
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  Speaker 1: be in an unhappy marriage again, because we know how
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  Speaker 1: that feels to be in an unhappy marriage, and then
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  Speaker 1: why go through that again if it's not the right
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  Speaker 1: person I know?
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  Speaker 3: And that's just where I feel so powerful and so
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  Speaker 3: like honestly in control of it, and I just think
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  Speaker 3: there's something to be said about It's this combination of
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  Speaker 3: divorced mom energy and perimounopausal type of situation that.
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  Speaker 2: Is like the most powerful thing I've ever experienced in
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  Speaker 2: my life. It's it causes you to.
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  Speaker 3: Ask for what you want, not give a sh what
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  Speaker 3: people think, and just kind of you're coming into your
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  Speaker 3: own honestly, and it's the best place to be. If
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  Speaker 3: I could bottle it up and sell this feeling that
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  Speaker 3: I have.
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  Speaker 2: Right now, it would be billionaires.
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  Speaker 1: What is your biggest when you now that you're in
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  Speaker 1: the dating world again? What is what do you love
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  Speaker 1: the most about it and what defeats you from it?
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  Speaker 2: Well? Is it that it's Rayahs the worst? Or no?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, oh my gosh it on that one. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: you did.
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  Speaker 3: And that's all that I've between, you know, friends introducing
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  Speaker 3: me to people and Raya And that's really all there is.
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  Speaker 3: I don't go out much, so I'm not meet somebody
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  Speaker 3: you know at a bar, so I think that's the
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  Speaker 3: thing right where. Okay, So now you're a mom, you
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  Speaker 3: know you're trying to run this you know, house by
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  Speaker 3: yourself and you're you know, working and doing all the things.
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  Speaker 3: It's challenging to find the time to put forth you know,
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  Speaker 3: the effort. So I think that's that's really hard. So
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  Speaker 3: that's what's discouraging a little bit, because we can just
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  Speaker 3: talk about what happened. I'm like, all right, when's your
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  Speaker 3: second day? You're like, I've got a volleyball game here,
• 10:32
  Speaker 3: a softball game there, and then I got the kids
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  Speaker 3: and then it's just like and then my business and
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  Speaker 3: it's like when you know, it's so that is super
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  Speaker 3: challenging and it's definitely a thing. But I have to
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  Speaker 3: believe that there are men out there with the exact
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  Speaker 3: same problem as me.
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  Speaker 2: And are you know, willing to maybe be.
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  Speaker 3: A little bit like non traditional in their approach to
• 11:00
  Speaker 3: I do Part two right right?
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  Speaker 2: What has been like? What gives you the most eck
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  Speaker 2: on a date? Oh? Lord? Dating in your forties? What
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  Speaker 2: is the eckiest thing?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 2: The funny thing about x or is that they can
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  Speaker 2: just come out of nowhere. I mean you are like,
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  Speaker 2: whoa what? I was totally.
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  Speaker 3: Vibing with you and you said one thing and I'm done.
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  Speaker 2: I'm out, Like.
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  Speaker 1: You said, you like it all inclusive, and I'm auty
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  Speaker 1: five hundred.
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  Speaker 2: It can happen that quick, and.
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  Speaker 3: So's it's a scary place sometimes because you're like, whoa
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  Speaker 3: where I'm like, from girl, I love it all inclusive.
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  Speaker 1: Let's do that.
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  Speaker 3: I am such a detailed, curated, experiential person, Like if
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  Speaker 3: I'm leaving my house and I'm traveling, it's going to
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  Speaker 3: be perfectly curated. And yeah, boutiky. But anyway, we digressed.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, So the biggest.
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  Speaker 3: Ick, Oh, I have a couple actually, so listen up.
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  Speaker 3: Dudes getting drunk are having more than like two glasses
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  Speaker 3: of wine or a cocktail. I mean, I remember I
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  Speaker 3: was on a date and we were I was there
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  Speaker 3: for fifty minutes because I couldn't stand the guy once
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  Speaker 3: I got there, and so I was, you know, trying
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  Speaker 3: to kind of like move it fast, and in fifty
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  Speaker 3: minutes he had three cocktails on a Tuesday night.
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  Speaker 2: It's just I'm just not about that.
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  Speaker 3: I don't like it. It's a total ick to me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: like just getting drunk in general at this age. You know,
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  Speaker 3: I'm forty six years old, I'm you know, dating my
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  Speaker 3: age or older. I just it's just not something that
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  Speaker 3: I want to be in that environment. Totally cool if
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  Speaker 3: you do and that's what you love to do in
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  Speaker 3: your spare time, it's not. I mean, well, I enjoy
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  Speaker 3: like a you know, amazing glass of wine with somebody
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  Speaker 3: on a date, of course, but I don't like if
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  Speaker 3: alcohol is the driving force, yeah, or like their identity
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  Speaker 3: or something that has to be done all the time.
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  Speaker 2: I just do not like that. Is there height requirements? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: I feel so bad when I say stuff because it's just.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I do know, I mean, I definitely do,
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  Speaker 3: but I hate to hate to say it aloud.
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  Speaker 2: I think. I just think there's so many you know,
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  Speaker 2: I think.
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  Speaker 1: If you're gonna be again, you know, picking the one,
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  Speaker 1: it's I never liked dating shorter guys, and I couldn't.
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  Speaker 2: I tried.
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  Speaker 1: I totally tried, but I just I like a dude
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  Speaker 1: that's taller than me and I'm five four, so that's
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  Speaker 1: really not asking for a lot. But I did try,
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  Speaker 1: and someone was like he was like maybe maybe five four,
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  Speaker 1: maybe five five, five five, And I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: just can't.
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  Speaker 2: Do it, right. So I think though at this point,
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  Speaker 2: maybe that makes me shallow. No, I don't know, not
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  Speaker 2: at all.
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  Speaker 3: I mean my whole life, I've you know, it's been
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  Speaker 3: very tall men. But what I am learning, and.
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  Speaker 2: This is a this is a process.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I am learning what gets me going and
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  Speaker 3: what I like and you know, the type of feeling
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  Speaker 3: I want.
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  Speaker 2: And so.
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  Speaker 3: I think there's a world where I could totally you know,
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  Speaker 3: fall for somebody if they weren't you know, so tall,
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  Speaker 3: if like I had this amazing feeling and it was
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  Speaker 3: like supportive and there was beautiful communication, and you know
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  Speaker 3: I was attracted to you. I think it all comes
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  Speaker 3: down to attraction really, so but typically you know, I've
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  Speaker 3: dated like six foot and above. Yeah, just if we
• 15:02
  Speaker 3: were going off of charts of past relationships. I mean
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  Speaker 3: my ex husband was actually the smallest, I mean the smallest,
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  Speaker 3: the shortest person that I ever.
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  Speaker 2: He was six foot right.
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  Speaker 1: And again I think if as long as you have
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  Speaker 1: that attraction, yeah, it's the attraction for me, you know that,
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  Speaker 1: And I'd like to wear like a small hell yeah, no,
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  Speaker 1: I do people make it work. I mean there's I
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  Speaker 1: totally for our name, but I follow her on socials.
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  Speaker 1: I mean she's taller than her husband, you know, but again,
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  Speaker 1: they're attracted to each other and it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think any of it. It's like a
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  Speaker 2: hard no for me.
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  Speaker 1: Sure you mention older, like dating guys your age and
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  Speaker 1: then older, would you ever go younger?
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  Speaker 2: Everybody?
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  Speaker 3: You are quite the cougar whom I you could be. Well,
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  Speaker 3: everybody always asks me that, and they certainly are.
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  Speaker 2: They love Pam. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: The younger are bold. I mean they are bold. They
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  Speaker 3: are communicative, which I totally appreciate. I do love a
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  Speaker 3: good bold, you know, subtle, swaggy type of person. But
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  Speaker 3: I never dated younger ever, And I just I don't
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  Speaker 3: know why. I think maybe there's a couple like things
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  Speaker 3: that are happening in my brain where I'm like, they
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  Speaker 3: want kids?
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  Speaker 2: The kid train is l Yeah, so you've got two.
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  Speaker 3: Kids, two kids, right, so but you know, I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, do they want a child of their own?
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  Speaker 3: And then I kind of would feel, you know, like
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  Speaker 3: guilty about that. So I think there's a little bit
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  Speaker 3: of that. And I've just I really like an older sophistication.
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  Speaker 3: But I am telling you these younger men coming up,
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  Speaker 3: I mean they have some tools like with communication and
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  Speaker 3: awareness and evolving and you know, really kind of like
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  Speaker 3: tuning into a woman that is admirable and exciting, and so.
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  Speaker 2: I just.
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  Speaker 3: Really haven't gone there yet because I really do. I'm
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  Speaker 3: super intentional, and I probably think too much.
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  Speaker 2: Do you want to get married again? I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if I have to get married.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I am open to you know that, But
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  Speaker 3: I don't think that it's something that is like on
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  Speaker 3: the top of my of my list of feeling like
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  Speaker 3: I've found the one in order, you know, to marry them,
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have to do that. Do I want like this.
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  Speaker 3: Beautiful, long term, monogamous, exceptional relationship? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: Right, And listen, dudes, they don't have You don't have
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  Speaker 1: to live here in Nashville like she's she loves traveling.
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  Speaker 2: No, I've never.
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  Speaker 3: Like seriously dated anybody in Nashville. I actually maybe prefer not.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing wrong with that. Would you sign a brain up
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  Speaker 2: if you did get married? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like at our age, it's like, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: have my I'm good. Talk to us about your business.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Well, I have a health and wellness coaching company
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  Speaker 3: that is global. It can reach anybody because it is.
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  Speaker 2: Virtual.
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  Speaker 3: I have my own app, and I am really focused
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  Speaker 3: on transforming women's bodies minds and spirits really in the
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  Speaker 3: forty plus h group through weight training and nutrition and
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  Speaker 3: you know, got health and mindset and I am I
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  Speaker 3: mean I could cry thinking about how grateful I am
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  Speaker 3: that I'm in this space, that I was able to
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  Speaker 3: develop this company and grow it to where it is
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  Speaker 3: and now, you know, just continue to scale it. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know what I would have done without it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it was and hey, I went through
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  Speaker 1: the program. It's a great program. Helped me get my
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  Speaker 1: body back from yeah, from pregnancy or you know, from
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: being pregnant and everything. So but also what I learned
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  Speaker 1: too about foods.
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  Speaker 2: And sure and an education.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I think for you too, moving into your dating world,
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  Speaker 1: you need a man that supports your drive, lets you
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  Speaker 1: shine there because I don't know if you've had that.
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  Speaker 1: And then also that takes care of themselves, like you said,
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  Speaker 1: not drinking so much. Like you want someone that takes
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  Speaker 1: care of themselves.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I just want them to first and foremost, like
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  Speaker 3: acknowledge the importance of being you know, fit in their body,
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: mind and spirit. I mean, you know, you don't have
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: to be you know, some big buff guy you know
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: at all. And I'm not even really into that, but
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: I just yeah, I love the awareness and in people
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: having like the understanding of why that's so important and
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: how it's going to help with longevity and just making
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: your life, Like living your life as optimally as possible
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: is really my message, Like we don't want to just
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: feel okay, we wouldn't feel freaking amazing. And I want
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: somebody to be on that journey with me so that
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: when we're seventy eighty, like we can still be traveling
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: through Europe together.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Speaking of traveling through Europe, what is your hope on
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: this dating journey? Like, if you could go this is
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: this is what I'd love to see in the end.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I know you don't know if you want to get
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: married or not, but because I feel like travel obviously
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: is a huge piece of that. So you want someone
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: that can be worldly, can go travel with you?
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: Yes, I.
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  Speaker 3: You know, for me right now like what I visualize
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: and I'm open to different things, but for me currently
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: like what I'm capable of. Right we talk about what
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: everybody else is capable, well cable, but what I'm capable
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: of is maybe something that doesn't look so cut and dry,
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: like you know, people are used to where there can
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: be a beautiful relationship that doesn't have to be so
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: like in the same city. And so maybe like twenty
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: four to seven right where it can be where we
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: meet and we travel together and we support each other
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: and we can see each other like you know, when
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: we don't have our kids or whatever like timing that
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: looks like because that's the reality with co parenting. I
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: can't change that. You know, they have to be with
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: their dad. They want to be with their dad, he
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: wants to be with them. And then I have space to,
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: you know, either focus on my company or travel or
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: do whatever I want to do.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: And I take full advantage of that.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: And so I think there's a world where it could
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: be this amazing like non traditional view of partnership where
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: I don't have to live in the same home as
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: you twenty four to seven. I mean, could that overlap
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: and would that be cool? Absolutely? But I don't think that,
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: you know, it has to be so.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: So full on.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I too, like for the you know, for
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: people that are dating and I just did this little
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Google search here and I'm going to read in the
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: sec but not to be discouraged because a lot of
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: people are like, oh, this, you know, natural sucks for
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: men or it's so hard. There's not men here and
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: there are roughly google four billion men on Earth, slightly
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: more than half of the planet's total population. So four
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: billion men.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I think. And again I met my husband.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: He's was overseas, different different country, and so it's like
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: the reality of your soulmate being in your same state.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you can go to any state. Yeah, And
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: I know it's hard, right, So it's I love it.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: But it's like, maybe change your Googles or your dating
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: search to a different city.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: Just try it. Like I don't remember.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: I was like, girl, try Dallas or try like who cares,
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: you know, because I'm like, people will move if you
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: find the right Only people that I've dated, why just
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: are you? Why are you on a twenty five mile radius? Yeah,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: you're not going to find anybody twenty mi mal radius. No,
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: I had to go overseas.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, do you see what I mean though,
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: totally like, oh, that's what I do. I mean, that's
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: exactly what I do.
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: I'm you know in Yeah, I mean the only people
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: I've dated were La New York, you know, just not
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: not here.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: Not that I'm opposed to it.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: It's just I think for Nashville, if I will say,
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: it is more of a younger male demographic, sure, you know,
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: I mean I live in Franklin, Tennessee. You guys, it's
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: like the capital of beautiful families living in this dream
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: of all you know, these wonderful moms and dads and kids,
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: and so there's there's no I mean, there's no no
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: single men really, right, so you got to look elsewhere.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: Best tip for dating, don't take everything so personal. I mean,
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: who cares if somebody doesn't like you? Who cares if
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: they don't like you back? Who cares if they even
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: don't call you back or ghost you? Like I Am
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: never going to let somebody doing that affect like how
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: I think about myself or that, or make me feel
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: like I'm less than, are not worthy. I mean, there's
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: the chances of there being a connection are really slim.
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: I mean, that's why we have to keep trying and
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: never give up hope. But not letting you know, some
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: guy you barely know, dictate how you're going to feel
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: and then go about your life.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: It's it's just insane to me.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: Such a good tip, I would say, that a tip
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: that I've given you. Oh, I know, because we don't
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: have a lot of time. We are mom, so we
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: are busy girl FaceTime before you go on a date,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: because you will know pretty much if you're attracted on
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: a FaceTime and if there's any sort of connection over
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: a FaceTime and you're gonna not waste your time.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: No, you've helped me for that for sure. I've I've
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: definitely put that into my routine. You're awesome.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: I gotta FaceTime you first because it's just really I mean,
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: that's why I'm like, hmm, blind dates, You're just.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: No, I'm not interested in a blind date.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: I mean at this point, it's but what I think
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: we should be interested in. What we should do is
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: this summer we go to New York and we just
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: you know, because you got it. You gotta get out right,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: got to get out, gotta gotta meet people. Let's just
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: find little girls weekend and you know, to anyone listening pamelin,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: where can they find you? Flied into our DMS.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: House of Pamelin on Instagram.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Famelin, you are the best things for being on the pod,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: sharing your experience. I love you so much and I
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: know that you are going to get the ending that
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: you deserve and the love that you've always deserved to have.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you, friend, I appreciate you.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, so we're going to put some info up on
• 26:11
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• 26:13
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• 26:19
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• 26:22
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• 26:25
  Speaker 1: that is why we created this show. So let's help
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: my bestie find her true love.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I love you.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Thank you again for just being open to chatting about this.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I'm excited for your love journey and I'm glad you
• 26:40
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• 26:44
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• 26:47
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