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What's The Impact that narcissists have on your mental health? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about the impact that narcissist
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  can have on your mental health. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist, and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Yes, narcissistic people, toxic people absolutely have an impact
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  on your mental health. Yours.
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  Yes y'all yours. Before we hop deep into today's
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  episode y'all make sure if you haven't already to check out my
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  available on there. Check it out.
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  Have a support group called the mental healers that I run as
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  well. Go live 2 three times a week.
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  Private zoom calls and things like that.
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  Mental illness.net. Now let's get to the meat.
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  Let's get to the meat and potatoes.
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  The meaty look, the meaty potato, let's get to that.
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  Narcissistic people, right? Can and do have an effect on, I
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  think like, yeah, let's be real, I don't normally speak in
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  absolutes, but I absolutely do believe that narcissists do can
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  and do have an impact, a direct impact on your, on everybody who
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  encounters it encounters them. Mental health.
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  I, I, I feel like everybody depending on, depending on your
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  closeness, right? Everybody that's close to a
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  Darcist or in their general vicinity, if you're just a Co
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  worker and y'all just, y'all work in the same building and
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  you know who they are, it might not have that, that, that much
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  of an impact on your mental health.
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  But if you were their boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, wife,
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  spouse, partner, parent, child, it can have a direct effect on
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  you, their employee or you know, they are, they might be your
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  employee, something like that, right?
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  This can be, this can absolutely have a direct effect on your
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  mental health. And this was just, This is why I
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  was trying to convey to people that narcissistic people are
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  not, you know, they're not on your side, right?
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  They're on your side as long as they feel like they can get
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  something from you, they're on your side.
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  As long as they're, there is a direct benefit in it for them,
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  they're on your side. As long as they can get
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  something from you or claim that they can get something from you,
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  that's when they're on your side the most, right?
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  I feel like everybody can understand that like, well, Lee,
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  you hit the damn nail. You hit the nail on the head and
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  split it down the middle with how how real it was right there,
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  brother. I tell you what, brother, you
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  hit, you hit it all on point right there.
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  You know what I mean? But this is how people, this is
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  how how it affects people. And it's true.
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  But like I said, most narcissists, most toxic people
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  out there are going to have this effect.
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  They're going they're going to do this.
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  They're going to have this effect on people.
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  They're going to mess with you. You're going to be messed with
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  while you're dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  Like it affects your physical health, right?
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  We'll do another video on that, a deeper in depth video.
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  But it can absolutely make you develop.
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  Yeah. You could have like imagine like
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  some people go to war, actual war and get PTSD.
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  Go to actual war, they see people getting blown up, they
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  see people getting hurt and harmed and unalived.
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  They see all of this stuff and you can get PTSD or see PTSD
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  from being in a toxic relationship or being raised by
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  a toxic. That's, that's insane.
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  I talked to one woman she had she had CPTSD because she worked
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  in a toxic environment. Like her boss was a
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  manipulative, horrible human being and made her life a living
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  hell for years until she finally decided that she can get, she
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  finally got got the power to go ahead and quit their job.
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  Like really had a negative effect on her.
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  She was truly negatively impacted by that and it hurt and
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  it sucked for her for so long until she decided to take her
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  power back. She's like, you know what?
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  I got to put me first. I got to put me first.
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  I got to put me first. I got to put me first.
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  And she put herself 1st. And now she's she's living a
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  better life. Like her is her existence.
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  Has her existence got better? Yeah, because she's in therapy.
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  She's working on herself. She's happier right now because
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  you got to actually got a chance to get out of that job.
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  And I think she actually ended up possibly following a lawsuit.
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  I'm not sure. Haven't talked to this, been
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  years ago. But yeah, it can absolutely make
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  you get like it's going to war. Your relationship with a
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  narcissist is is literally war. Think about it like that.
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  It's war, y'all, it's war. It's crazy.
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  That's insane. Think y'all think about it from
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  that perspective, right? That people go to the war
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  perfectly health, mentally healthy people go to war, go to
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  a go to that type of environment and they get PTSD and then you
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  are in a relationship with an abusive person and you can damn
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  near get this damn near get the same disorder from being in a
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  relationship with this person that is that is literally insane
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  how that works and I hate it for so many people because so many
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  people experience this right. So many people have this
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  experience with these abusive people.
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  It's crazy. Not only can he make you get
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  CPCPTSD or PTSD, like some of these can make you like actually
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  go them ever feel like you go and say they can lead to you
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  being clinically, clinically depressed, getting diagnosed
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  with depression, post traumatic stress disorder or depression
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  that you can develop anxiety in these relationship spaces.
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  This Yeah, it is wild. So I have to ask you right here.
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  This is me to you lead to you lead to you.
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  Is this relationship worth your mental health?
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  Because like not not Look, this is not me questioning your love
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  for your children. I know you love your kids.
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  But ask yourself this question right here.
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  Can you fully be present in your children's lives when you're
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  dealing with this line? Manipulative toxic ass person,
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  right? Can you fully be present in
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  their life? Can you fully give your all your
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  100%? Is it no matter what you're
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  going through in this relationship, it doesn't affect
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  your parenting? Yeah.
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  And I'm not trying to call you a bad parent.
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  I promise I'm not. I'm just trying to wake you up
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  to the realization that it can absolutely have this negative
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  effect on you because of the relationship dynamic, right?
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  It absolutely can. So that's why I'm just trying to
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  let you know it absolutely can't have that effect on you,
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  regardless of how much work you're putting in.
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  Likely. I'm protecting my baby.
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  I'm not saying you're not protecting your baby, and I said
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  I'm not saying you're not protecting your children, but
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  this is something you have to consider when you're dealing
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  with an abuser, when you're dealing with a manipulator, when
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  you're dealing with somebody who doesn't care for anything other
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  than themselves outside of themselves.
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  This is what you have to wake up to right here.
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  Like seriously, this is the type of stuff that you have to wake
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  up to. This is the type of stuff that
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  you have to realize. This is the type of stuff you
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  have to fight for. Your freedom is worth fighting
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  for. Your mental health is worth
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  fighting for. That's why you're watching these
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  videos. This is why you come.
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  You come over here when you think about breaking no contact,
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  when you're in that pain, when your stomach is hurting, when
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  your head is hurting, when you're depressed and you can't,
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  if you're feeling like you've lost it, you feel like you can't
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  damn breathe because this person is not with you.
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  You feel like you're missing a part of yourself.
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  That's why you couldn't watch these videos because I have wake
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  you up. I have to snap you out of it.
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  It's wake up season. It's healing season.
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  You don't deserve to be depressed because of some toxic,
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  manipulative bastard in your life.
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  Fuck them, you know what I'm saying?
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  They're not worth your mental health.
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  I know you might love them or care for them, or you might have
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  loved them and cared for them and you might still be feeling
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  the residual effects of a trauma bond, but the end of the day,
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  you have to heal. You have to grow.
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  You have to be the best version of you possible because that's
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  what healing season is all about.
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  That's what the healing and growth is all about.
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  That's what being better. That's what thriving and
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  surviving it's all about. This is what it's all about.
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  Life, love, happiness, peace, all of it because they can make
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  you depressed. Imagine them take they drain
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  your energy. You just wake up every day down.
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  You wake up every day not recognizing who the hell you are
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  anymore because you're in a toxic, abusive relationship.
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  Like, damn, I I used to be happy.
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  I didn't used to be like this. And this, Yeah, it's sad as
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  hell. I hear this story from so many
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  people. I didn't used to be like this,
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  Lee. I know you didn't.
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  I used to be bubbly. It changes your personality when
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  you look at yourself in the mirror and don't recognize
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  yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, it change.
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  It can change who you are internally.
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  You might look, you might look in the mirror, recognize
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  yourself. You're like, oh, I've still got,
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  you know what? I've been, I've been in tax
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  relations for a while, but you know, I'm still pretty.
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  I'm still pretty inherently. It ain't got my looks, but it
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  got here. It might not catch your looks,
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  but it got a piece of you. You know what I mean?
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  But this is the type of stuff, y'all, I harp it, I harp on it
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  now I know just like believe you sound like a broken record.
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  I have to, I have to because sometimes you got to wait.
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  I try to wake so many people up at the same time.
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  You have to shock people's system.
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  They're shocking your system, y'all.
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  Going to therapy can absolutely help you heal from toxic
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  narcissistic relationships. This is why a lot of times the
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  narcissist, the toxic person, the person who claims to care
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  about you, this is a lot of times why they don't want you to
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  go get help. A lot of times why they don't
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  want you to seek assistance and why they want you to just sit
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  right there and deal with them as opposed to going out here and
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  getting better or feeling better about yourself.
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  This is why they would rather have you deal with them.
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  Hey, why don't you? Why can't we just handle this in
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  house? Why we got to talk breaks about
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  this and do it, blah blah blah blah blah.
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  Why can't we just do the bicep? That's why they want you to
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  themselves. That's why they want you alone.
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  They want you like this because it benefits them directly.
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  It just does anything to benefit them.
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  They're going to try to take advantage of and I feel like by
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  by this time right now, y'all understand that anything that's
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  going to benefit them directly, they're going to do, you know,
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  whether whether or not whether it makes you happy or not.
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  They don't really care about that.
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  They care about making themselves happy.
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  They care about giving to themselves, They care about
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  being, they care, they care about growing for themselves.
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  They care about that type of stuff right there.
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  And it can just have this negative draining effect on you
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  when you're depressed and your kids can sense it, your family
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  members can sense it, everybody around you can sense it, but it
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  doesn't mean that you're going to make any changes because
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  you're because you're unhappy. You just feel like you're so
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  bonded to this person. It can really change up the
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  chemical makeup of your of your damn brain.
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  Brain. It's crazy.
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  It not. Is the the shot at them getting
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  better worth it y'all? Because y'all know if y'all been
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  following me for a while, you understand?
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  Like I don't talk the same as I used to.
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  I used to harp on telling people to leave.
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  Get out of that relationship by right now, where my goal is, is
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  to just give you the information necessary for you to make your
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  own conscientious decision on whether or not you want to leave
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  or you want to stay. Because at the end of the day,
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  it's going to be your choice. I can't make you leave.
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  I can't make you stay. I can't say I'll have no say so
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  in your life, right? You have to be able to do this
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  for yourself. Y'all.
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  It's OK to choose you. It's OK to pick you.
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  It's OK to choose having a healthy, a happy healthy mental
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  health. You know, it really can you only
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  get PTSD, depression, anxiety, you know, hives.
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  It affects your mental health so much.
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  You have these, it affects your mental health so much.
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  You have physical reactions. Your body, your mind, your mind
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  and your heart are so disconnected that your heart
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  might still be in it, but your mind is out of it.
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  So your mind is sending signals to your body.
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  They're like we're, we are not attracted to this person
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  anymore. We are not in love with this
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  person anymore. Your body, body is trying to
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  heal, your body is trying to get out of it, but your heart is
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  just like, no, I'm in love, Goose Fraba.
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