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Fall Check-In: Friendship After 40, Female Loneliness & the TIU Fall Challenge · Tone It Down

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  It's fall, right?
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  Back to school, back to work, vacation's over.
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  This is your weekly girlfriend chat, the kind that we all crave, where we can show up exactly as we are, laugh until we cry, get honest about the things we're navigating,
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  And all the private girl talk that we need more of.
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  No pressure, no perfection, just real women like us sharing real stories with real connections.
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  Over the years of Tonidab, I've learned that the most transformative moments don't always happen in a workout.
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  They happen in those conversations before and after.
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  And.
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  when we realize we're all going through something, when we feel seen.
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  And that's what Tone It Down is built on.
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  My intention is simple, to help you tune back into yourself, to quiet the noise, and to remind you that you're allowed to evolve.
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  This is Tone It Down.
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  I don't know about you, but do you remember...
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  way back in the day when we would be going back to school in the fall.
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  And there was like this uncertainty and it was like a new notebook, a new pen, new class schedule, new schedule, this new, new, new, new, new, new, new.
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  And it kind of like was overwhelming.
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  Welcome to Tone It Down.
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  I'm Karina Dahn.
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  I'm your friend.
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  I'm your host.
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  And I'm just having a little sit down with you today and a fall check-in.
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  I got my notes here.
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  I got a few things I want to cheat-chate about.
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  But really, I'm just going to kind of talk and catch up.
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  And yeah, it's fall, right?
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  Back to school, back to work, vacations over.
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  A lot of different transitions, but it's kind of like this interesting...
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  in-between period, like right now, because the holidays haven't quite hit yet and they're coming.
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  But you're like this anticipation, right?
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  Sometimes it can be overwhelming and you're trying to get on a new routine, but you just can't quite get it.
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  So I'm here to help.
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  that's one thing I want to talk to you about today is the fall challenge very quickly.
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  And it ties into one of the other topics that has come across on the podcast, in my DMs, with my friends.
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  And that's like this loneliness epidemic that's still going on.
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  And here's how the two tie together as I was journaling and thinking.
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  And summer is so fun.
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  And then it's back to biz.
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  So Fall Challenge, it does start October 12th in your Tone It Up app.
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  We start signups October 1st, so make sure you head over to ToneItUp.com to sign up for it.
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  And if you're not an app member yet, go to ToneItUp.com slash activate.
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  And here's a little gift for you if you're new to the app and you go to ToneItUp.com slash activate and enter T-I-D 20.
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  It's 20% off your annual membership.
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  All right.
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  So back to the fall challenge and the why and the loneliness.
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  I've sat at this table and had a conversation with a few people on the podcast and talking about how like 40s and 50s, there's this loneliness in women.
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  And we're so used to when we're younger and especially pre-2020.
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  Think about it.
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  A lot of your friendships were formed in the workplace.
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  So that's, you know, you spend eight hours a day with your work buddies and you have these friendships.
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  I mean, it's so incredible, too.
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  I follow all of the old Tone It Up HQ employees on Instagram and they're all in each other's weddings.
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  They're all still together.
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  And it warms my heart so much to know that we were able to make that connection with these women and that they still have that.
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  But in a workplace where it's a lot of remote work, even for myself, I mean, let's use myself as an example.
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  Because I was just talking to Bobby about, I'm like, I don't think I have any friends anymore.
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  But here's why.
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  Let's see.
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  As we get older, we take care of our parents.
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  We, maybe your parents have passed away.
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  There's a lot of grief.
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  For me, I have been in contract negotiations over and over again.
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  Finally bought Tonidot back.
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  And that was a lot of work, but it takes away.
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  I'm so focused on work.
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  And then there's the getting in the back end.
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  And that was eight months of work, just really seeing what was going on in the tech side and everything in the back end.
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  Like.
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  If I'm ever missing, that's where I am.
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  I'm back there.
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  But it's just been so much work and we get so consumed in work.
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  And our spouse, in my case, becomes our best friend and our therapist.
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  So then it's like, okay, I got to figure this out here.
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  So I intentionally was like, women our age...
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  are missing that nostalgia, that time where we all hung out together and had these beautiful friendships and carefree life, pre all these responsibilities and adulting, like really adulting, you know what I mean?
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  So I was like this nostalgia and I felt the community, the Tone Up community was feeling it too.
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  And always wanting to go back to the beach and talking about the old workouts and always having them on repeat.
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  So that's what the fall challenge was.
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  Number one, to heal my own, like, I want to connect.
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  It's like, let's do the fall challenge.
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  And if you've done these workouts before, welcome back.
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  This is your homecoming, right?
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  And if you're new to Tone It Up, this is the perfect way to...
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  feel how the community supports one another through workouts, through friendship, through connection, through non-judgment.
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  So we've got fall back to the beach, 21 days to change your ways, because number one, 21 days to create a habit, which let me talk about that too, and why fall challenge is like the challenge that always like kind of slips away.
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  Because we're always like, oh, I'll wait till January.
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  I'll wait till January.
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  But why wait till January?
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  Why not prepare yourself for the holiday season so you have your routine?
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  So if the family get together throws you off, you're good.
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  Your mental health, your physical health, you are feeling grounded.
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  You have been meditating in your toned up app.
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  Nothing's going to take you down.
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  So...
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  That is why I think the fall challenge is so important.
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  But also the connection.
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  Let's go back to the connection here.
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  I really want us to all come together.
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  Hashtag TIU team.
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  Find someone.
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  Reach out to someone in the Tone It Up community or bring in somebody new who wants the support for their physical fitness, for their health, and come together and support each other through this season.
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  And we can talk about all the nostalgia when I programmed it in the app.
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  I didn't use any of the workouts from vacation mode, which was like super, super fun.
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  Those were like really OG ones in there too.
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  But when I was programming, I have the workout and then I did my best to find out like what year it was.
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  I had like deep dive, deep search way back in the interweb a decade ago or so.
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  So you can see the year.
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  So I really want to like reminisce with you.
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  Like, what were we doing in 2016?
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  What was I wearing at that workout?
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  Was it low rise flare pants?
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  Was it a Mahi bikini top?
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  Was it avocado?
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  I don't know.
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  I just, I've had fun like going through all the workouts on the app and choosing this programming.
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  So I think you're going to have a lot of fun.
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  I think you're going to
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  I know you're going to feel good and get stronger and be ready.
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  Be ready for January because that's just the next step because you are always ready.
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  That's my spiel on that part.
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  I haven't even picked up my notes here.
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  So...
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  The other thing is, let's go talking about friendships.
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  So we know we have the Tone It Up community.
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  If you don't know what to do, again, it's hashtag TIU team.
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  You can go hashtag TIU Austin, hashtag TIU Chicago.
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  You can find your city within there.
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  So I really encourage anyone just for this fall challenge, let's do it for three weeks, like having that reconnection, thinking about like, how can I be there for a girl or a woman who maybe needs someone, reach out to someone.
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  So here's a few little things too.
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  Obviously, meeting people now and friendships.
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  There's a lot of fitness communities, wellness communities, like Tone It Up at the Tone It Up community.
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  But also going to yoga studios, Pilates studios.
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  There's run clubs in your neighborhood.
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  I've actually gotten really confident lately where I get invited to...
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  a party, a birthday party or something.
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  And I'm going by myself, which in the OG toned up days, girls came by themselves everywhere.
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  And I'm a shy person, but I have gotten over that shyness and I go and I'm just putting myself out there to meet people in real life.
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  And some other things, too, is, you know, I encourage you maybe once a week do something like have a walking date with a girlfriend, a coffee date, like really put yourself out there.
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  Find out if there's like a comedy club or maybe there's a concert in town and you buy two tickets.
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  You don't know who's going to go with you.
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  You got two tickets.
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  And I have a friend who actually does this.
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  She's like, I got two tickets to this concert.
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  Who wants to go with me?
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  And she puts on Instagram and she always has a new friend coming with her.
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  So there's really fun ways to meet people.
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  And I think it's, you know, friendships, especially as we get older in this loneliness epidemic that we are still in.
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  Really, you really have to put yourself out there to be social and get together.
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  And, you know, and myself and a lot of other female entrepreneurs that I'm friends with, if we're not at a work event, we're working.
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  So it's also finding that balance of how to separate people.
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  work from actual just life, you know, life, life, life.
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  All right.
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  I am bypassing all of my notes here.
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  So voice notes.
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  Okay.
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  I love leaving voice notes.
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  For some reason, it sounds, it's just more personal than a voicemail.
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  So sometimes you want to reach out to somebody and you don't necessarily need them to pick up the phone, but just send a voice note and say, Hey, I'm thinking about you.
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  I hope you're having a beautiful day.
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  Just something really kind and encouraging.
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  When I get those, it really like perks me up.
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  So I definitely highly suggest voice notes.
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  I like this text a new friend every Sunday.
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  Yeah.
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  And then the walk and talks, you know, it's a great way.
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  I love like if I've just met somebody and you want to get together, I love doing a walk and talk because you're getting your workout in, you get your steps in and the endorphins are going and it's, it's just like a lot easier to like break the ice and get to know someone.
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  All right.
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  So next, let me see here.
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  I want to.
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  Okay.
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  play some messages.
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  I have speak pipe here.
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  So you can go to Karina Dawn.com slash message.
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  You can leave me a voicemail.
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  It can be anonymous.
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  And then I play them on air when I do little solo apps.
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  So I'm going to randomly choose two that were left.
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  I'll do more recent ones that were left in the past week.
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  Hi, Karina.
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  This is Allie.
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  I'm used to Palm Springs, California.
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  Love what you're doing.
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  Thank you.
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  I was wondering, who are some of your favorite creators right now on social media?
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  Okay.
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  Bye.
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  Bye.
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  Creators.
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  Okay.
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  I'm not, I don't really like...
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  Think of myself as like, I don't really follow creators a lot.
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  I mean, I scroll.
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  Let me think like top of mind, like who makes me laugh, right?
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  Like that's what I like.
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  Valeria.
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  Well, hold on.
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  I don't know her.
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  I'm going to say it wrong.
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  Let me look it up.
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  Valeria Lipovsky.
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  Valeria Lipovsky.
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  Okay.
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  She's so funny.
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  Her and her husband.
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  Go follow her.
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  She's just quirky and lighthearted.
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  And then the other one is this woman, Jordan.
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  She's a comedian and I love her standup.
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  Jordan Jensen is a comedian, a creator.
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  Yeah.
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  Right.
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  That's the creator.
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  Yeah.
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  But yeah, that's that.
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  Thanks, Allie.
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  I don't know.
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  Why don't you DM me out there?
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  Like what creators should I be following?
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  Should they come on Tone It Down?
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  Actually, you can message or email toneitdown at toneitup for a few things, suggestions on who you want on the podcast.
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  If you want to come on for a community conversation and share your story, you can email me there.
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  And then I want to know what creators I should be following because clearly I don't know enough.
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  You can also DM me personally at Karina Dawn.
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  Okay, one more.
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  We're going to go with anonymous.
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  That's always scary.
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  Hi, Karina.
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  Loving the refresh, all the new content, and the new path forward with you at the helm.
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  And I'm curious as Tone It Up goes through this refresh, rebrand,
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  and expansion, will you be looking for new talent?
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  Will Tone It Up ever be open to hiring remote talent in the U?
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  And is Tone It Up ever open to collaborations with other wellness coaches in all different modalities, including self-care, self-love, and more?
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  I love that.
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  Number one, thank you.
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  We are currently slowly moving through a tiny little mini brand refresh just to like freshen it up a bit.
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  Nothing drastic, trust me.
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  But yeah, I guess it's just bringing back what you're seeing now is just me getting back into being able to be creative director again.
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  And yeah,
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  making decisions on my own, which is also very scary, by the way, big decisions.
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  And I'm, you know, the sole owner.
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  And I'm like, what if I mess up?
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  What if I do this?
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  Don't do it.
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  Stop.
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  You just I try to talk.
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  I try to talk myself out of so many different things.
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  But I, I usually just push through it, do it and close my eyes and
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  And we're here.
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  I'm really proud of everything that has happened in less than a year.
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  What is it?
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  Maybe nine months and everything.
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  I mean, I could, if you want, let me know if you want me to do a whole podcast on what the process has been from my perspective of the business side over the past few years and all these different transitions.
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  I'm happy to talk about it.
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  Podcasts dedicated to that if you want me to.
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  But back to your question for anonymous talent.
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  Yeah.
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  So after
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  You know, we had the Tone It Up office in Manhattan Beach.
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  And then eventually we just, everyone became remote and we stopped using the office.
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  So we haven't had an office space.
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  And I totally, I miss that.
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  So currently everybody at Tone It Up is remote.
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  I just hired someone locally here in Austin.
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  And that is my goal is to be back in person.
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  So I did post a listing on LinkedIn on my personal profile.
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  Yeah.
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  There's an email address on there.
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  You can see what it's for and you can email there or you can email hello at tonedup.com as well.
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  But if you wanna see the listing, go to my LinkedIn.
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  Did I answer that?
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  And yeah, other trainers, yes, I'm always looking.
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  I have always had my eyes peeled.
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  So yes, the answer is yes.
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  I'm yes to everything.
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  All right, what else?
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  I feel like this has been a good catch up.
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  I hope you are doing amazing.
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  Again, email me, DM me topics, people you want on the podcast.
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  If you want to be a part of the podcast and share your community conversation with me.
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  And if you're going to be in Austin, Texas, and you want to sit right here, even better, I'm trying to do all of the Tone It Down podcasts.
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  In person.
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  That's it.
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  Next week, we are launching the signups for the fall challenge.
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  And seriously, I am really excited about this one.
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  So please join me.
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  We're going to have fun.
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  We're going to bring back those good memories, those good vibes.
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  We're not going to wait till January to feel good.
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  We're going to feel good all of the time because you're worth it.
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  We're worth it.
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  I'm so happy you're here.
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  And share this episode with someone who wants to hang out with us and needs to hear it.
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  And make sure you leave a review however you listen to these podcasts.
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  All right.
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  I love you.
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  See you at the mat.