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Almost Famous In Depth: Amanda Stanton’s Growing Family · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous in Depth.
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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome to the Almost Famous podcast special episode
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Speaker 1: because Amanda Stanton is here giving us her first interview
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Speaker 1: since announcing her pregnancy. Hello Amanda, Hello. Unfortunately Ben can't
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Speaker 1: be here today, he's traveling, so I thought we just
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Speaker 1: have some girl talk, of course about pregnancy and kids
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Speaker 1: and all that. So you, you and Michael, how long
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Speaker 1: has it been since you got married? I feel like
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Speaker 1: your anniversary must be coming up.
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Speaker 2: Our anniversary is in September, so almost a year. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: the first year goes by so fast.
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Speaker 1: So fast, but every single one afterwards goes by just
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Speaker 1: as fast, because we just did four years. Can you
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Speaker 1: believe my anniversary four years ago? No, that's crazy, insane time.
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Speaker 2: I swear once you time goes to kids, sir.
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Speaker 1: It is got to be the kids thing. So I
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Speaker 1: know that, I know that you wanted to. You haven't
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Speaker 1: an what the gender is? The sex? Yes, and I
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Speaker 1: won't tell you. I won't ask you now unless you're
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Speaker 1: wanting to give us an exclusive. Not yet.
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Speaker 2: It's funny. We found out a while ago, so we
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Speaker 2: already did like a little gender reveal just for like
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Speaker 2: the family. And I'll probably announce next week. I think, Okay,
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Speaker 2: I'm so excited.
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Speaker 1: You've kind of been not so subtle that you do
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Speaker 1: want a boy since you have the two girls, Kinsey
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Speaker 1: and Charlie, who I can't believe that they are eleven
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Speaker 1: and nine. Wow, and that crazy in sixth grade she.
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Speaker 2: Started middle school, which is so weird. I don't feel
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Speaker 2: like I am old enough to have a middle schooler.
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Speaker 2: Like it's it's crazy.
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Speaker 1: It is you still. I feel like you are like
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Speaker 1: a young mom, but you're not like that. You're like
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Speaker 1: you're thirty three.
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Speaker 2: Thirty three.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like not that weird. Yeah, yeah, you're young,
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Speaker 1: of course, it's not like weird. Right, all right, So
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Speaker 1: I know that you kind of want a boy, but
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Speaker 1: like I'll let you. I'm sure you'll be happy with either.
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Speaker 1: And that the girls do the girls do they have
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Speaker 1: a preference.
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Speaker 2: They honestly don't really care at first, char like Charlie
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Speaker 2: wanted a sister, yeah, and kids wanted a brother. I
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Speaker 2: just think like I wouldn't be disappointed, like if it
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Speaker 2: were a girl. But I think just already having two girls,
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Speaker 2: having a boy would be so much fun. And I
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Speaker 2: feel like I've seen like all my friends have had
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Speaker 2: boys so many and they're so cute, and I feel
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Speaker 2: like they're such mommies boys or mommy yeah, mom's boys.
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Speaker 2: So that was kind of and I honestly, I don't
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Speaker 2: want to say too much actually, like he's getting nervous
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Speaker 2: him and it gives something away because I feel like
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Speaker 2: everyone's already like a detective.
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Speaker 1: But that's awesome.
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Speaker 2: I won't be disappointed either way.
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Speaker 1: So tell us the whole thing. You were trying to
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Speaker 1: have a baby, yes, yes, and no.
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Speaker 2: So we originally were going to start trying like after
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Speaker 2: when You're anniversary in September, but I really really wanted
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Speaker 2: to be pregnant by the end of the year. So
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Speaker 2: and I know, like sometimes it can take a really
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Speaker 2: long time, and we just weren't sure. So we're like, okay,
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Speaker 2: well maybe we just like start not being careful a
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Speaker 2: little a little sooner. So we stopped. We started like
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Speaker 2: not being careful, I want to say, in like April May,
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Speaker 2: and it happened pretty shortly after that.
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Speaker 1: So wow, yeah, congratulations, thank you. When I wasn't feeling
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Speaker 1: good during my pregnancy, I remember texting you. You were
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Speaker 1: one of my few mom friends at the time, and
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Speaker 1: now I feel like there's more mom more friends of
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Speaker 1: becoming moms. And you were like, I was quite awful
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Speaker 1: the first trimester, very sick. How has it been this
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Speaker 1: time around, and especially now that you've taken like a
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Speaker 1: nine year break.
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Speaker 2: Honestly, I was like I had nausea with the girls,
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Speaker 2: but I never really like got sick sick where it
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Speaker 2: was like growing up every day. And honestly, this time,
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Speaker 2: I want to say, like my pregnancy's been the exact
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Speaker 2: same as both kinds in char like, same symptoms, same cravings.
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Speaker 2: I like, kind of meet a version with kid like
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Speaker 2: I couldn't meet anything gross, same thing this time, like
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Speaker 2: I feel the exact same, which is so weird.
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Speaker 1: People say, oh, every pregnancy is different, but I have
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Speaker 1: not found that when talking to people, you know, everybody.
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Speaker 2: Says people say, it's the same.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, if I was really sick, like they're really sick
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Speaker 1: the second time, and then if you're okay, it's usually
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Speaker 1: just like you're an okay pregnant lady, So good for
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Speaker 1: good for everyone who's an okay pregnant lady. And I
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Speaker 1: guess are you past that now now that you I
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Speaker 1: am assuming like you're like four months.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, close to that, close to four months ish, but yeah,
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Speaker 2: I know, I've been feeling really good. I feel like
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Speaker 2: second trimester is the best. I have so much energy.
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Speaker 2: I forget that I'm pregnant sometimes, but yeah, it's right.
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Speaker 1: That's amazing. I cannot relate. How are you guys preparing
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Speaker 1: for the baby?
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Speaker 2: Like?
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Speaker 1: Is Michael? It's Michael's first, So is he excited nervous?
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Speaker 1: Does he know what kind of life changes ahead? Did
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Speaker 1: the girls kind of the girl's given him training in parenting.
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Speaker 2: I feel like it's so interesting because he's never been
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Speaker 2: around like a baby baby before. He doesn't have any
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Speaker 2: experience with that. But I think, just like having the girls,
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Speaker 2: even though they're older and then more self sufficient, like he's,
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Speaker 2: it's not going to be like that huge life change
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Speaker 2: where like we're used to it just being us and
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Speaker 2: we can do whatever we want and all of a sudden,
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Speaker 2: you know, like we're used to having that responsibility. So
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Speaker 2: I think he's not nervous yet, But I also think
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Speaker 2: he doesn't know what to expect where like I do,
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Speaker 2: like I know how the newborn phase is, and he
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Speaker 2: has no idea. But he he's generally like a lot
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Speaker 2: calmer than I am, so I think he'll be good.
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Speaker 1: How do you imagine those few first months being Are
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Speaker 1: you gonna like split the time waking up? Is he
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Speaker 1: expecting to to switch off diaper duty and all that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's funny because he is very particular with things
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Speaker 2: in the house, like even like doing the dishes or cooking,
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Speaker 2: Like I don't really cook or clean or doing anything,
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Speaker 2: because even if I want to help and like do
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Speaker 2: the dishes, he doesn't like the way I do the dishes,
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Speaker 2: like he likes the way he does the dishes. I'm like, okay,
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Speaker 2: that's fine. And I feel like it's going to be
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Speaker 2: the same with the baby, like he's going to want
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Speaker 2: to have Like he's going to want to change the
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Speaker 2: diaper because you like the way that he does it,
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Speaker 2: which is fine by me. I'll probably get a lot
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Speaker 2: more sleep this time around. I'm sure we'll take the durance.
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Speaker 1: Are you guys playing a baby moon? Because I know
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Speaker 1: that you just spent a good amount of time in Hawaii,
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Speaker 1: and I know that I saw comments under you some
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Speaker 1: of your pictures that were like, just announce the baby already.
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Speaker 1: I didn't think that you were like showing or doing
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Speaker 1: anything specific to pregnancy, did you Okay?
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Speaker 2: No? And I thought it was so weird because so
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Speaker 2: many people like, you're pregnant, you're pregnant, and I'm like,
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Speaker 2: and I was, And I'm just like, how did they know?
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Speaker 2: Like I didn't feel like I looked pregnant that I
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Speaker 2: was posting anything like it. So I was just so confused,
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Speaker 2: and I was, I mean, people started noticing when I
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Speaker 2: was like so early on, and yeah, I mean I'm
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Speaker 2: curious as to like what I was doing that was
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Speaker 2: like giving off this like pregnancy vibe. But as far
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Speaker 2: as the baby moon goes, I mean, I hope. So
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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm doing such like a weird time.
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Speaker 2: I'm doing January, so it's like the holidays. Yeah, Like
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Speaker 2: it's hard to really like even a baby shower, and
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Speaker 2: like I did one in like September October. I don't
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Speaker 2: want to do it when I'm huge at the end
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Speaker 2: and then the holidays are so hectic. So we'll see.
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Speaker 2: If not, maybe we'll do a little trip after the
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Speaker 2: baby's born a few months later.
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Speaker 1: It's probably when you need it most, right, I think. So, well, okay,
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Speaker 1: so baby baby shower, what's the norm, Like, did you
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Speaker 1: have one? For Charlie. Like I know that most people
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Speaker 1: will have it for the first but then if you
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Speaker 1: have such a gap in between your kids, I think
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Speaker 1: it's totally fine to have another one. And if the
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Speaker 1: sex is different, totally you could have another one, right,
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Speaker 1: So I don't want to like assume anything, but like,
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Speaker 1: did you save this stuff from the girls? You have
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Speaker 1: bassinets and no.
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Speaker 2: And it's so funny too, because like everything I went
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Speaker 2: to the like there's a baby List showroom and Beverly.
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Speaker 1: Hills right now where they like everything.
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Speaker 2: It was so much fun. But I went there and
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Speaker 2: I'm like, none of this stuff existed when I had
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Speaker 2: kids in char like all the new like technology, like
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Speaker 2: the little socks they can wear, the track the loved
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Speaker 2: that art. Yeah, it's like it's crazy. So I didn't
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Speaker 2: have any of that stuff. I mean I remember, do
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Speaker 2: you know like what the bob stroller is. It's like
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Speaker 2: a jogging stroller.
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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I don't have that, but I have the Vista,
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Speaker 1: the you know, the the upper baby.
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Speaker 2: See that that Like that didn't exist when I when
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Speaker 2: I had them, like everyone had it was the Bob
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Speaker 2: and that's what like everyone had. It was like the
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Speaker 2: post stroller at the time, but I don't have it anymore.
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Speaker 2: And I had a baby shower for kids, I didn't
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Speaker 2: have one for char this time. I feel like, I mean,
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Speaker 2: so much time is gone by and everything's so new,
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Speaker 2: so I think we might. Yeah, and especially just because
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Speaker 2: like it's Michael's first. His mom's like so excited she
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Speaker 2: wants to do the whole baby shower things, so you
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Speaker 2: probably will.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, And now like not to sound you know,
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Speaker 1: you know you're you're Amanda from The Bachelor. You know,
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Speaker 1: it's just like we have to see your aesthetic baby shower.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god. Wait, speaking of it's kind of crazy,
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Speaker 2: like how did you tell Jared that you were pregnant?
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Speaker 1: Okay? Oh I love this story. Okay, so like weird,
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Speaker 1: weird details, but like my cycle was a little weird
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Speaker 1: that month, so we I imagined that I had skipped my
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Speaker 1: fertile window because it came earlier than expected, and we
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Speaker 1: had like one day where it would have worked, okay,
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Speaker 1: and it happened to have been the one day, and
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Speaker 1: I was like, just out of curiosity. When we were trying,
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Speaker 1: I'd always take a pregnancy test and then this one
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Speaker 1: time there was like the faintest line, and I was like,
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Speaker 1: that's I was like, Jared, this is so crazy, but
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Speaker 1: like there's a fake, there's a faint second line. And
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Speaker 1: he was like, you're not pregnant. And you know this
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Speaker 1: after like seven months of trying, and then we had
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Speaker 1: like one day, right.
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Speaker 2: And then.
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Speaker 1: One day in the fertile window out of like the
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Speaker 1: four fertile windows, guys, four fertile days, and then he
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Speaker 1: was like, we'll try again tomorrow. And then the next
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Speaker 1: day it was we were waiting for it and waiting
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Speaker 1: for it, and then there was like a blank test,
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Speaker 1: like the screen after the whole like minute swirly, it
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Speaker 1: was blank and we were like, okay, well, I guess
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Speaker 1: we'll go back to CBS tomorrow. And then we got
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Speaker 1: one in that one day and we just watched it
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Speaker 1: together and we were like recording and he was like,
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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna look at the camera. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: keep playing with video game because you're still not pregnant.
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Speaker 1: And then I was like, Jared, look at this. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: So we found out together. How did you How did
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Speaker 1: you tell Michael?
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Speaker 2: Well, it's funny because I was gonna say, like I
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Speaker 2: feel like now with like every single step, like we'll
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Speaker 2: just go all out. And it's so funny because I
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Speaker 2: just I guess I don't have the energy. But like
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Speaker 2: when I found out, people always ask me like, how
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Speaker 2: did you tell Michael, And I'm like, well, he was
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Speaker 2: at work and my friend actually it was like six
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Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning, she was like, I had a
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Speaker 2: dream you were pregnant. Yeah, and I was like kind
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Speaker 2: of the same as you. It was like, that's so funny,
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Speaker 2: like you know.
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Speaker 1: It's weird, but it's weird and dark because you know,
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Speaker 1: Jade lost the baby. But I texted Jade about like
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Speaker 1: two and a half months ago and I said, I
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Speaker 1: had a dream you're pregnant. You're pregnant, aren't you? And
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Speaker 1: she didn't respond to that, so I like kind of
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Speaker 1: thin now she told.
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Speaker 2: Me, yeah, yeah, it's so crazy though, like how I
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Speaker 2: think some some women just like no. But my friend
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Speaker 2: was like, oh, I had a dream and I was
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Speaker 2: like no, like I'm not, and she was like are
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Speaker 2: you sure. I was like yeah, like almost, like you know,
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Speaker 2: it was like early in the morning. I was probably
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Speaker 2: a little grumpy and I was just like, no, I'm
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Speaker 2: not pregnant. Stop anyways, But.
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Speaker 1: Why would you be so sure, Amanda, you were like
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Speaker 1: being not careful.
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Speaker 2: I had taken a test before that, Like I was
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Speaker 2: kind of off too, where like I took a test
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Speaker 2: a few days before, yeah, and it was negative. So
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Speaker 2: I and I okay, yeah, and she's like, she's like,
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Speaker 2: just take a test and be sure, because like I
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Speaker 2: have this really weird feeling and like I've been right
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Speaker 2: about these things before, just like take a test. So
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Speaker 2: I went and I took a test. It was like
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Speaker 2: probably eight o'clock in the morning at this point, and
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Speaker 2: like you, I saw like the tiniest faint line, and
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Speaker 2: so I just took a picture of it and I
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Speaker 2: sent it to Michael at work and I was like,
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Speaker 2: is that a line that looks like a line? And
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Speaker 2: he's like, I think so. So then I ended up
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Speaker 2: like taking three more tests and it was so weird.
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Speaker 2: I found out so early. So some of them did
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Speaker 2: not have a line, and some of them did. But
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Speaker 2: that's like, I mean how I told him, Like there
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Speaker 2: wasn't any like cute way or anything special. I just
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Speaker 2: sent him a picture of the test at work.
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Speaker 3: I don't know how people could keep this secret, maybe
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Speaker 3: especially because it was his first child, Like maybe if
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Speaker 3: you've had like three kids, like say the third, okay,
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Speaker 3: maybe you can surprise on the third.
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Speaker 1: But I don't know. I had to have him in
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Speaker 1: on like the curiosity.
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Speaker 2: Same and like ever since then too. It's like I
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Speaker 2: tell him everything that's going on, like every little detail.
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Speaker 2: I'm like always texting him and he's at work, I'm like,
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Speaker 2: this is what's happening today. So yeah, there's really no
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Speaker 2: surprises with us.
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Speaker 1: So let's talk about like your your nausea and like
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Speaker 1: your aversions because everybody loved This is what people asked
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Speaker 1: me when I was pregnant. They're like, what are you craving?
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, listen to me. I don't have cravings, guys.
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Speaker 1: I have things that I can eat, things that I
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm okay eating. So do you have cravings?
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Speaker 2: No, I don't have any cravings. It was I mean
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Speaker 2: same with the girls. The first trimester. I wanted like
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Speaker 2: so much fruit. I threw all the time.
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Speaker 1: Good for you because all I could have was cheese
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Speaker 1: and plain prota Like it was just all the plain
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Speaker 1: carbs and cheese.
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Speaker 2: Well fruit and plane carbs for me because I would
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Speaker 2: make like sour doaugh toast with butter and jam every day. Okay,
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Speaker 2: it's like my favorite. Like I would literally eat that
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Speaker 2: for dinner because that's all I could eat. I couldn't
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Speaker 2: do anything with me and honestly, I couldn't eat any vegetables.
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Speaker 2: I don't think I ate a single vegetable for like
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Speaker 2: the first three months, but a lot of fruit, and
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Speaker 2: then now I'm finally it's like the opposite. Now I
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Speaker 2: just want like all the vegetables and like salads. I'm
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Speaker 2: thankful that that's what I want.
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Speaker 1: Good for you, that's amazing.
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Speaker 2: I no weird cravings yet though.
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Speaker 1: So nice. Oh, how did you tell the girls?
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Speaker 2: So for the girls, we made them like a little
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Speaker 2: cake that said big Sisters. I posted a little video
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Speaker 2: on my stories I haven't posted on my actual page,
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Speaker 2: which I probably should have because it was so cute.
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Speaker 2: But we made them a cake that said big sisters,
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Speaker 2: and we gave it to them and they had no idea.
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Speaker 2: I mean, they knew we had talked about trying, and
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Speaker 2: they knew they were going to get a baby brother
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Speaker 2: sister soon, but they didn't obviously know when we started
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Speaker 2: trying and all that, so they were super surprised and honestly,
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Speaker 2: like so confused. At first, they're like big sisters, what
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Speaker 2: does that mean? And then obviously they figured it out
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Speaker 2: and they're so excited.
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Speaker 1: Oh so adorable. Do you have like a birth plan
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Speaker 1: right now? Because I like, how was the delivery? Like
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Speaker 1: what was your plan? Like how did it go with
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Speaker 1: kinson Jar? And do you hope it goes the same or.
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Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean I was very lucky with them. I
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Speaker 2: feel like it went it was easy. I mean I
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Speaker 2: got the epidural. I was in labor for a really
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Speaker 2: long time with both of them, but I had like
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Speaker 2: fairly easy berths with both of them. So I'm kind
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Speaker 2: of just hoping for the same same thing again.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah I did. I did a whole I Don't
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Speaker 1: Get It podcast episode last night with my dad about
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Speaker 1: epidurals because I had just heard so many women just
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Speaker 1: did not wanting them, and I was I was like,
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Speaker 1: why is this like a thing? Not that like I'm
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Speaker 1: not I'm supportive if either way you want it just
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Speaker 1: is a little it's so not me that like it
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Speaker 1: makes me curious as to other people's mindsets and all.
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Speaker 1: And when I asked my Instagram audience, I was like,
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Speaker 1: do you have epidural questions, like I can ask my
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Speaker 1: dad because he's an antasyciologist, and like I had people
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Speaker 1: like asking a lot of the same stuff, but like
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Speaker 1: so many people are worried about them, and it's just
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Speaker 1: like the complications of them are so so infrequent. Yea,
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Speaker 1: And yeah, I had a great pregnancy. I had a
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Speaker 1: great birth experience after an awful pregnancy. I was like,
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Speaker 1: the delivery was a nice relief to just barely you know,
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Speaker 1: just feel just a little bit of pressure.
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Speaker 2: Right. Well, I mean I'm still in the easy part
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Speaker 2: of pregnancy, but I always say, like towards the end,
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Speaker 2: like it gets kind of brutal, like you're ready, And
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Speaker 2: I always say, I'm like the birth, I mean for
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Speaker 2: me and I've been very lucky, but I'm like, i
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Speaker 2: think birth is like the easy, the fun part. I
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Speaker 2: feel like being pregnant, especially like the last couple of
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Speaker 2: months that is much harder, was harder for me than
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Speaker 2: like the actual labor experience. So yeah, I'm hoping for
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Speaker 2: that again.
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Speaker 1: But we were definitely both lucky that everything went stunningly.
17:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, but with the epidural yeah, I mean, I also
17:24
Speaker 2: think there's like, and this is just from people that
17:28
Speaker 2: I know who don't want it. There's like a level
17:30
Speaker 2: of like curiosity from like a mom being like I
17:33
Speaker 2: want to actually like experience what it feels like to
17:36
Speaker 2: give birth. I don't have that curiosity, and like I
17:39
Speaker 2: don't want to.
17:39
Speaker 1: Do I've had enough, like the hour and a half
17:43
Speaker 1: that I could feel the contractions. I was like, that
17:45
Speaker 1: was plenty, and if it was supposed to get worse
17:47
Speaker 1: than that, like apps of freaking lutely not and then
17:51
Speaker 1: another thing that I am just mind boggled by, but
17:56
Speaker 1: like I don't. I try not to. I don't mean
17:57
Speaker 1: it in like a negative way, but like once you've
18:00
Speaker 1: had one birth that's unmedicated, I'm like, okay, well you
18:04
Speaker 1: experienced it, and then the second one, don't you just
18:06
Speaker 1: not want to feel it?
18:08
Speaker 2: That's actually like a good question though that I would
18:10
Speaker 2: want to ask people, Like for people who had a
18:12
Speaker 2: natural birth the first time, did you end up getting
18:14
Speaker 2: an epideral the second time? Or did you, like, did
18:16
Speaker 2: you do it again?
18:17
Speaker 1: I think a lot do it again. I think maybe
18:20
Speaker 1: there's just some high they get and like a power,
18:23
Speaker 1: you know that they feel they can conquer anything, and
18:26
Speaker 1: they're going to do it all over again.
18:28
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, I mean probably.
18:32
Speaker 1: To them, right, they are stronger living than I was
18:37
Speaker 1: like pushing the button the whole time.
18:39
Speaker 2: I was like, give me more.
18:40
Speaker 1: They didn't give me the button. I was talking this
18:42
Speaker 1: about Dad other day. I was like, Dad, why don't
18:43
Speaker 1: you guys have the button at Firefax And He's like,
18:46
Speaker 1: it's just not in our practice. But like whatever you'd
18:48
Speaker 1: ask for more, they give you more.
18:50
Speaker 2: Right. Oh so funny?
18:52
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, So let's move on a little bit
18:54
Speaker 1: from the pregnancy and talk about your fam you went
18:59
Speaker 1: to with Taylor Swift. You went to like so many
19:01
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift concerts. I'm you know, Gray, that's also good
19:06
Speaker 1: for you, Like which one did you do? Is there
19:08
Speaker 1: a certain night that was the best for me? Watching
19:11
Speaker 1: you take the girls to the one in Tampa was
19:13
Speaker 1: really fun to watch on Instagram?
19:16
Speaker 2: That was that was my favorite one. That was my
19:18
Speaker 2: favorite night. And it's so funny. I was lucky I
19:21
Speaker 2: got to go with a couple of brands when I
19:22
Speaker 2: was in LA but I had Charlie is like the
19:24
Speaker 2: biggest Taylor Swift fan in the entire world, like obsessed,
19:28
Speaker 2: Like her and her friends at school like they just
19:31
Speaker 2: are obsessed with Taylor, so I had to take her
19:33
Speaker 2: in LA, but then I ended up going with a
19:35
Speaker 2: couple of brands, so I ended up going three times
19:37
Speaker 2: in La.
19:38
Speaker 1: No way.
19:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, I think Tampa was probably my favorite
19:42
Speaker 2: night because they had both the girls and we just
19:44
Speaker 2: had so much fun. And then I went, yeah three
19:47
Speaker 2: times in La, which was fun, but it like was
19:49
Speaker 2: kind of a lot.
19:51
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was Did it feel like any different every night?
19:54
Speaker 2: I mean yes and no, because I was with different people.
19:57
Speaker 2: I went with like friends, one night, I went with
19:59
Speaker 2: my sister one, which was like so fun because me
20:01
Speaker 2: and my sister are like have loved Taylor forever. And
20:04
Speaker 2: then I went with Charlie the third time, so it's
20:06
Speaker 2: it's different every time.
20:08
Speaker 1: So cute. And you you let her say at the Patriarchy,
20:12
Speaker 1: which you document on Instagram, but you say that like
20:15
Speaker 1: you allow her to kind of quote it in the song,
20:19
Speaker 1: but like you would never let her say it in conversation, right, Yeah.
20:22
Speaker 2: Like I also let her say like one, two, three,
20:24
Speaker 2: let's go bitch, which everyone says with the Taylor concerts,
20:27
Speaker 2: but you like, and I've said this before in like
20:30
Speaker 2: A Q and A, and I'm like, if my kids
20:33
Speaker 2: like grow up and they curse. They don't really care
20:35
Speaker 2: that much, like I curse, Like I know, it's fine, right,
20:39
Speaker 2: I mean, as long as they like aren't cursing at people,
20:42
Speaker 2: and obviously now like they're so young, like there's no
20:45
Speaker 2: reason for them they don't, they don't curse. But it's
20:47
Speaker 2: not the worst thing in the world to Honestly.
20:50
Speaker 1: I think that you said something on your Instagram story
20:52
Speaker 1: that I've always felt, Like my sister says it all
20:54
Speaker 1: the time. She's like, like, it's just a word. It's
20:57
Speaker 1: just a word, and as long as it's not like
20:59
Speaker 1: directed at somebody in a really negative, awful, yacky connotation,
21:03
Speaker 1: like if you stub your toe and say shit, it's
21:05
Speaker 1: not Yeah, it's not a big deal in my house
21:07
Speaker 1: and in my personal opinion, but like I also totally
21:11
Speaker 1: respect other families that don't want it set at.
21:13
Speaker 2: All totally, and that's just like how I am with it.
21:16
Speaker 2: And like if I teach them that like cursing so
21:18
Speaker 2: bad and they get older and see that like everyone
21:21
Speaker 2: does it, like I'd rather teach them like the things
21:24
Speaker 2: that I believe are bad or bad, and cursing's not
21:27
Speaker 2: that bad.
21:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Okay, So what are you and Michael doing
21:32
Speaker 1: like how do you show us about your life? You know,
21:35
Speaker 1: like the girls are with you? Is it fifty percent
21:38
Speaker 1: of the time or is it on weekends they go
21:39
Speaker 1: to their dad's Like just like paint a week in
21:42
Speaker 1: Amanda Stan's life for us.
21:45
Speaker 2: So, uh, we have the kids like pretty much all
21:48
Speaker 2: the time these days, which is great. But yeah, I
21:52
Speaker 2: mean it's now that the girls are back in school.
21:56
Speaker 2: Michael goes to work. It's crazy because he moved down
21:58
Speaker 2: to Orange County a little before we get married, and
22:01
Speaker 2: he still works in La so he commutes like a week,
22:06
Speaker 2: yeah far, and he travels a lot. But yeah, I
22:11
Speaker 2: mean we have the kids and majority of the time
22:13
Speaker 2: they are in so many like activities and stuff. Now
22:16
Speaker 2: it's so different because I feel like the newborn phase
22:18
Speaker 2: is so hard and it gets easier in certain ways.
22:21
Speaker 2: But when they get older, just be prepared to be
22:24
Speaker 2: like a human taxiicab because that's how I spend a
22:28
Speaker 2: majority of my days, driving them to tennis and golf
22:30
Speaker 2: and dance and all these different things. So that's pretty
22:34
Speaker 2: much my life these days, honestly, just driving the kids around,
22:38
Speaker 2: which I don't mind. I love it.
22:40
Speaker 1: No, that's that sounds pretty good to me. Well kind
22:43
Speaker 1: of music do they like? Like, what do you listen
22:44
Speaker 1: to in the car with them?
22:45
Speaker 2: Besides Taylor, Charlie is like strictly Taylor Swift. Ken's Ken's likes.
22:51
Speaker 2: She likes everything. She likes country, she likes. Who is
22:55
Speaker 2: the guy that she likes? It's like so funny to me,
22:57
Speaker 2: machine Gun Kelly. Yeah, she likes loves him. We listen
23:04
Speaker 2: to a little bit of everything, all the popular TikTok
23:07
Speaker 2: songs they're in too.
23:08
Speaker 1: Also, yeah, yeah, how's the new Bernese Mountain dog.
23:22
Speaker 2: He's good. He's so sweet. He's going through like his
23:24
Speaker 2: little teenager phase right now. He just turned one. But
23:28
Speaker 2: he's like the sweetest cuddliest thing ever. He like his
23:31
Speaker 2: thing is like he always leans on us. So like
23:34
Speaker 2: if we're standing around in the kitchen or something, he
23:36
Speaker 2: comes up and he just leans on us. That's the
23:39
Speaker 2: sweetest thing ever. But we love him. He's good.
23:43
Speaker 1: Name Moose Moose. Yeah, those those dogs are just like
23:48
Speaker 1: so amazing. Why is their lifespan so short?
23:51
Speaker 2: It's so sad, I mean, and that's something I think,
23:53
Speaker 2: like everyone knows before you get them. But there, I mean,
23:57
Speaker 2: they have to have one of the shortest lives of
24:00
Speaker 2: like any dog breed, but they're so cute, like they're.
24:04
Speaker 1: Eight years and there, you wouldn't think so, you know,
24:06
Speaker 1: they have like the body of a Golden Retriever, maybe
24:09
Speaker 1: a little bit bigger than that.
24:10
Speaker 2: Usually a little bigger. Most is like on the smaller side.
24:13
Speaker 2: I want to say, he's like, he's kind of built
24:16
Speaker 2: like a Golden Retriever. So I'm hoping a lot of
24:18
Speaker 2: the health problems that a lot of them have are
24:20
Speaker 2: because they're so big. I think, like their hearts are
24:21
Speaker 2: too small for their bodies. So hoping that like, because
24:24
Speaker 2: he's smaller, maybe I'll live longer. I don't know. It
24:27
Speaker 2: makes me so sad to think about.
24:30
Speaker 1: I don't want to, Like, I know it's not it's
24:31
Speaker 1: a source subject because you just talked about on Instagram
24:34
Speaker 1: the other day, because people are asking you about George
24:36
Speaker 1: the Golden Retriever all the time, saying that he lives
24:39
Speaker 1: with with Michael's family.
24:41
Speaker 2: Yes, so George was actually I'll talk about it again,
24:46
Speaker 2: but George was actually Michael's mom's dog. His his aunt
24:53
Speaker 2: got his mom George is a birthday gift, and they
24:58
Speaker 2: used to live in New York and they moved to California.
25:01
Speaker 2: So anyways, somewhere along in that time, Michael took George
25:05
Speaker 2: while they were moving and all that, and just like
25:07
Speaker 2: kind of never gave him back and kind of just
25:09
Speaker 2: kept him long story short, and I I'll explain too
25:13
Speaker 2: after this, but they another one of their dogs passed
25:17
Speaker 2: and Marie wanted Michael's mom wanted George back, so we
25:20
Speaker 2: gave George back, and people just like looked out over it.
25:26
Speaker 2: And for a while, I didn't feel comfortable because you
25:29
Speaker 2: know how it is, like it's fine if I want
25:31
Speaker 2: to tell people what's going on with me, but when
25:32
Speaker 2: it involves like Michael and his mom, I just didn't
25:35
Speaker 2: want to have one Instagram for all my followers and
25:37
Speaker 2: be like, this is what's going on. And it was
25:40
Speaker 2: really tough. We were like, we still are very sad
25:42
Speaker 2: and miss having George here, but we still get to
25:43
Speaker 2: see him. But it took me a while to kind
25:46
Speaker 2: of address it on social media, and I feel like
25:48
Speaker 2: just no one believed me. I don't know why, Like
25:53
Speaker 2: people keep saying it's not true, and I'm like, it
25:55
Speaker 2: is true, Like.
25:56
Speaker 1: It's probably because you didn't say it earlier, do you
26:00
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, I think if you were
26:01
Speaker 1: to warm people, then people wouldn't come and be like
26:04
Speaker 1: so nosy about it. If you're just like, oh, by
26:06
Speaker 1: the way, I don't know.
26:08
Speaker 2: It's so strange though, but like there's been a good
26:10
Speaker 2: amount of people that are like always scrolled back on
26:13
Speaker 2: Michael's Instagram and we saw that, like you're telling the
26:16
Speaker 2: truth and like it was Michael's mom's dog, because I
26:19
Speaker 2: think if you scroll back on my business room you
26:21
Speaker 2: can see when his mom got George. Oh and anyways,
26:26
Speaker 2: obviously it's the truth and that's what happened. But yeah,
26:31
Speaker 2: it probably have to like this whole thing.
26:33
Speaker 1: Probably it's timing too, because like George was always around
26:36
Speaker 1: when you guys were dating, and he probably had him,
26:39
Speaker 1: you know, you'd just gotten him probably when you guys
26:42
Speaker 1: first started dating and then you get married and then
26:45
Speaker 1: there's a new dog and all that.
26:47
Speaker 2: So totally yeah, but yeah, that's what happened. And yeah,
26:53
Speaker 2: I mean I told this story I think, I want
26:56
Speaker 2: to say, like six months ago. But it's just like
26:59
Speaker 2: co need to be a thing and I get so
27:02
Speaker 2: annoyed sometimes, but it's okay, I understand. Like most people,
27:06
Speaker 2: I think are just curious.
27:07
Speaker 1: So I know they're both such cuties. Do they get along?
27:11
Speaker 2: I'm so cute? Yeah, they do. And his parents live
27:14
Speaker 2: in La so we still get to see George all
27:16
Speaker 2: the time, which is nice.
27:17
Speaker 1: Well that's good. And if you know the other dog died,
27:20
Speaker 1: then that's sad that she needed another dog.
27:22
Speaker 2: Back, you know. Yeah, and George is like her favorite.
27:25
Speaker 2: She's obsessed with him, So it all worked out. George
27:28
Speaker 2: is really happy.
27:29
Speaker 1: Oh good. Yeah, what is your favorite thing to watch
27:36
Speaker 1: Michael do with the girls, and like what do you
27:39
Speaker 1: look forward to seeing him do with your future child?
27:42
Speaker 2: It's really cute because and I think this is like
27:45
Speaker 2: one of my favorite parts of being a mom is
27:47
Speaker 2: like showing your kids like all the stuff that you
27:50
Speaker 2: like to do when you were a kid.
27:52
Speaker 1: Yes, I've been doing that lately. It's awesome.
27:55
Speaker 2: It's so fun. So he like grew up skiing and
27:58
Speaker 2: loves to ski and he loves to golf, and so
28:01
Speaker 2: he's like gotten the kids in on like his hobbies.
28:03
Speaker 2: Like we went to ask them last winter and he
28:05
Speaker 2: taught them how to ski. And he's just like so cute.
28:08
Speaker 2: You could just tell it like makes him so happy
28:10
Speaker 2: to like teach the kids how to ski. So I'm excited,
28:13
Speaker 2: Like the new baby, I'm sure it's going to be
28:15
Speaker 2: on skis when it's like one, but skiing and golfing
28:19
Speaker 2: and just like all that kind of stuff. He's like
28:22
Speaker 2: so good with the girls. I'm excited.
28:24
Speaker 1: So cute. Now I think I know the answer to
28:26
Speaker 1: this question. Your favorite thing to do with Michael is
28:28
Speaker 1: stay home and snuggle and watch TV.
28:31
Speaker 2: Yes, we're the biggest home bodies ever. We don't leave
28:34
Speaker 2: the house unless we have to. We like stay home,
28:37
Speaker 2: We cook, we watch TV, we like play Mario Kart.
28:40
Speaker 2: We're the biggest nerds ever.
28:41
Speaker 1: So and when you do go out, what do you do?
28:44
Speaker 1: What's your favorite thing to do with them?
28:46
Speaker 2: We usually just we're so boring. Oh my god, it's
28:50
Speaker 2: so sad. Yeah, we just like go to dinner.
28:53
Speaker 1: Yeah too, same.
28:55
Speaker 2: Yeah.
28:56
Speaker 1: The girls, like, how do you see them taking care
28:58
Speaker 1: of the new baby? You're gonna allow them to babysit
29:02
Speaker 1: like with you out of the house.
29:04
Speaker 2: Not yet. I am like, I'm like, I'm so crazy.
29:08
Speaker 2: I don't even let the girls like kids is eleven
29:10
Speaker 2: almost twelve?
29:11
Speaker 1: Yeah, so maybe thirteen, maybe.
29:13
Speaker 2: Like thirteen fourteen, Yeah, but I know, like already they're
29:18
Speaker 2: so excited. Like I went in Kin's room the other
29:21
Speaker 2: day and like she already has like the baby carrier,
29:24
Speaker 2: Like she keeps sneaking in your room. I think she's
29:26
Speaker 2: like trying it on. So I bet you I'm not
29:29
Speaker 2: even going to be able to hold the baby. They're
29:30
Speaker 2: gonna want it all the time. But yeah, they're so excited.
29:34
Speaker 1: You're gonna get a lot of help, which is so
29:36
Speaker 1: so nice. That's the that's definitely one of the assets
29:39
Speaker 1: of having that age difference.
29:41
Speaker 2: Yeah, they've already told me. They're like, we're gonna hold
29:43
Speaker 2: the baby. We're gonna I keep almost saying like him
29:46
Speaker 2: or her, So I have to be so careful when.
29:48
Speaker 1: I say, well, what kind of announcement do you have
29:52
Speaker 1: next week? Is they're this big Instagram creative No.
29:55
Speaker 2: Do you want to know? I literally have no idea, OK.
29:59
Speaker 1: So just fill it here on the as.
30:03
Speaker 2: I need to come up with something. But they're like, well,
30:06
Speaker 2: walk the baby, we'll hold it. But like when we're
30:08
Speaker 2: not changing a diaper, and I'm like, yeah, you are,
30:11
Speaker 2: We're going to teach you how to change a diaper.
30:13
Speaker 2: So hopefully I'll have some help with that. Too.
30:16
Speaker 1: Definitely, you're definitely it's gonna be so nice. Oh yeah,
30:19
Speaker 1: last question, names, Know that you were going through it
30:22
Speaker 1: on Instagram the other day. You had a list that
30:24
Speaker 1: even Michael had kind of come up with throughout the year,
30:27
Speaker 1: but those that you revealed were all scratched off the list.
30:30
Speaker 1: They're ones you like, but they're not ones that you're
30:33
Speaker 1: married to. So yeah, how long is the married to list?
30:36
Speaker 1: Have we set the name?
30:38
Speaker 2: We do have a name. Uh, it's a name even
30:42
Speaker 2: before I was pregnant, we like both really liked this
30:45
Speaker 2: name and we ended up going with it and it
30:49
Speaker 2: just kind of stuck. So we do have a name.
30:51
Speaker 2: And then I feel like it's hard though, like you know,
30:54
Speaker 2: you pick a name from the beginning and you start
30:56
Speaker 2: calling the baby by the name, like during your pregnancy.
30:59
Speaker 2: So even if we like found another name because we
31:02
Speaker 2: we didn't want to like solidify the decision, but it's
31:05
Speaker 2: kind of just happened. So, yes, we have a name.
31:08
Speaker 1: I have to say that while I did refer to
31:10
Speaker 1: Dawson as Dawson while he was in utero, it's after
31:14
Speaker 1: that still it wasn't going to but it still like
31:17
Speaker 1: made me feel weird to refer to something in my
31:20
Speaker 1: body by name. Is that weird? Like I was like,
31:25
Speaker 1: I like I said him, you know and all that,
31:28
Speaker 1: and I would say Dawson sometimes, but it was just
31:30
Speaker 1: like until you meet them, it's like it is. It
31:33
Speaker 1: is like, I.
31:33
Speaker 2: Don't know, it's so weird. Wait, and I have a
31:36
Speaker 2: question too, when do you like when did it start
31:38
Speaker 2: feeling like, oh, there's actually a baby in there? Because
31:41
Speaker 2: I can't really feel the baby like moving yet. Sometimes
31:46
Speaker 2: I think I feel it, but.
31:48
Speaker 1: It was twenty weeks. Maybe I felt a flutter. I'm
31:53
Speaker 1: close to the teen weeks, and I was like, was
31:55
Speaker 1: that just like my stomach gurgling or was that you know,
31:59
Speaker 1: like a little bit kick. And I think that really
32:02
Speaker 1: was a kick, because within that week I started to
32:04
Speaker 1: feel a little bit more. But yeah, it's they say
32:06
Speaker 1: between eighteen and twenty weeks. But you know, I knew
32:10
Speaker 1: there was a baby, and they're torturing me from.
32:12
Speaker 2: Them right from the beginning.
32:14
Speaker 1: Six So funny. Now I look at Dawson and I'm
32:19
Speaker 1: just like, well, your face, like I know why you
32:21
Speaker 1: made me so sick, just like you just so sucked
32:24
Speaker 1: everything out of me. And it's okay, Like it's all
32:28
Speaker 1: worth it. It really is all worth it, even though when
32:29
Speaker 1: they're telling you that it's all worth it when you're suffering,
32:32
Speaker 1: it doesn't make you feel better now. And they're going
32:36
Speaker 1: to say that then to me, I'm sure again at
32:37
Speaker 1: some point, hopefully soon, and I'll be like, yeah, I know,
32:41
Speaker 1: but those words still don't comfort me.
32:45
Speaker 2: Dawson is so cute. You said you're going to start
32:47
Speaker 2: trying again soon.
32:49
Speaker 1: Yeah, very soon.
32:50
Speaker 2: Do you want to a boy? Another boy? Girl?
32:53
Speaker 1: It's weird? I mean, I was so I had such
32:55
Speaker 1: gender disappointment with Dawson. I had a feeling it was
32:58
Speaker 1: going to be a boy. But I think there was
33:01
Speaker 1: just like that to me that like loss of one.
33:05
Speaker 1: I don't think that I'd ever really consider three, especially
33:07
Speaker 1: when I was feeling I was already feeling so sick
33:09
Speaker 1: when we found out I was a boy, so I
33:11
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not doing this three times. We're we're
33:13
Speaker 1: going to do it twice. So I think for me
33:14
Speaker 1: it was like, oh, I'm not going to have like
33:16
Speaker 1: the sister sister bond that you have with your sister
33:18
Speaker 1: and that ken Zin Chara, so like that was really
33:20
Speaker 1: sad for me. It didn't last very long, and then
33:24
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking like, oh, like if I don't have
33:26
Speaker 1: a girl after this, then like who am I going
33:28
Speaker 1: to go and bring to Taylor Swift concerts and bring
33:30
Speaker 1: to boy band concerts and like go to the American
33:33
Speaker 1: girl to ball store with? And now that I have
33:36
Speaker 1: a boy, I really I know it sounds like, oh,
33:39
Speaker 1: she's just saying that, Like I really don't care as much.
33:41
Speaker 1: I'd be happy if we had a boy too, because
33:44
Speaker 1: then I'd want them to have that hopefully brother bond.
33:47
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Having two of like the same sex is
33:50
Speaker 2: so much fun. Yeah, little besties.
33:53
Speaker 1: Totally, especially girls. I feel like girls become more besties
33:57
Speaker 1: than boys become besties. But I don't really know a lot.
34:00
Speaker 1: So girls fight a lot?
34:02
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like every day, close everything, it's constant fighting.
34:08
Speaker 2: But they love each other all right.
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Speaker 1: Linda, thanks so much for joining us. The next time
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Speaker 1: we talk to you will probably be a post baby,
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Speaker 1: so I hope it goes as smoothly as it did
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Speaker 1: last time, and that the rest of your pregnancy is
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Speaker 1: also as awesome as it is right now.
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Speaker 2: Perfect. Thank you so much.
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Speaker 1: Thank you. Bye.
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