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Spot What’s Holding You Back Before You Set Goals (S5) S2:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey guys, and welcome to Inspirations for
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Then for the new year, starting as we've
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been on the air four years now, the
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fifth year, which we're now starting a couple
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one and day three, which is today, January
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3rd, is actually show number two.
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So without any further ado, guys, let's kick
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this show off.
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So what's been holding you back before you
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actually set your goals?
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Hey, I'm John Seymour, serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist.
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I'm a video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate
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student, and yes, guys, a passionate lifelong learner.
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And it is my privilege and pleasure to
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be here with you guys today or this
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evening to help inspire you with more insights
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to become just a little better than you
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are right now.
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By the way, if I have not said
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it to you, I want to say Happy
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New Year to you.
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I hope by this time you've at least
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started on your 2026 resolutions.
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I know I haven't finished mine, but I
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have started them and my vow is to
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have them all done before Monday so that
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I'm right on track.
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One of them being to start writing my
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new book and every day just writing like
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a page.
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So again, it's great to have you here.
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And so my question is, when is the
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last time, guys?
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When is that last time you stopped to
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ask why your goals stall out before you
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start?
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You and I are about to find out.
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So welcome once again to the Inspirations for
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Your Life podcast show, the Daily Motivational Show.
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Here I show you what helps you spark
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awareness, build better habits, and live with more
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intention.
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And so it is a privilege to be
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your host here and help you dive into
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what's really blocking your progress before your goals
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even take shape.
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Because you can't hit the gas if you're
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still stuck in the same old patterns.
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Let's uncover together those signals, those real life
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signals that tell you exactly what needs changing
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before you set another goal.
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I think a lot of people get frustrated
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about what's in their goals and what they
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have and what they don't have.
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But I want you to let you know
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it's not about you.
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It's about the behaviors that you're eliciting.
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All right, guys, so let's start with number
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one.
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Number one is name the moment your day
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usually starts going downhill.
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We all have one of these times, that
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precise time or that trigger point that shifts
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our energy.
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Maybe it's a text message, it's a traffic
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jam or a project notification that steals your
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focus or maybe even a client saying something,
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right?
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So when you can name that moment, you
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take back control from your autopilot reactions.
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And so I'm going to name one right
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now.
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So you guys know I run a charity
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and also run some other organizations.
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And my moment was when I was expecting
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this one group to be supportive and to
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come to my event that I put on.
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And when I wasn't getting the support, I
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kept pushing and pushing through Facebook.
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But I realized that in January, I'm not
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going to do that anymore.
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I'm still going to post things on our
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own Facebook page, but I'm not going to
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post to all these other Facebook groups anymore.
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I'm still going to tag people and things
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like that, but I'm just not going to
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do this anymore because I'm done kissing up.
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I'm done trying to convince people.
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I don't need to convince people.
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If they don't want to come to my
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event, well, then that's fine.
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But the reason I say this is I
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have now taken back my power, my power
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to become a person on intention.
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And that intention, I feel, is going to
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make a big difference for me and for
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others.
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But you can't let other people let you
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feel a certain way.
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If you don't like it, then detach from
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the situation.
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That's all you need to do.
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It's very easy.
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So awareness isn't blame, guys.
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It's the start of power.
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And when we can understand what our power
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is, we get it back.
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It's not a nasty thing.
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That's important to understand.
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I think sometimes we feel a certain way
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because of what's going on in our life.
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But what happens in our life is because
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of a perception we create.
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And when we attach to something, then we
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drain ourselves.
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If it's something that is draining us.
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If it's something good, then it obviously boosts
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our energy.
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But I don't want you to think that
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just because you're with someone that you
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can't go somewhere.
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And by going somewhere, I mean the intention
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to move forward in your life.
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You guys can do this in your life.
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But it starts by you identifying and by
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you detaching from the things that are controlling
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you every single day in your life.
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That's how it works, guys.
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So if you detach from something you don't
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like, it's nowhere going to disempower you.
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It's nowhere going to control you.
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It's that simple.
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Number two, guys.
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If your stress had a warning light, what
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would it flash?
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Imagine your body as your dashboard.
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The red lights, the tight shoulders, the shallow
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breathing.
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They're all data.
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They're not there to punish you, but to
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inform you.
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When your body sends stress signals, that's the
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moment to pause, to breathe, and to reset
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before emotion takes the wheel.
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Let's do that breathing exercise again.
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So the way it works is it goes
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4, 2, 6.
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So you inhale for 4.
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You hold for 2.
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And you exhale for 6.
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Inhale for 4.
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Hold for 2.
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Exhale for 6.
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One more time.
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Inhale for 4.
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Hold for 2.
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Exhale for 6.
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And you already feel, I'm sure, like much,
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much better.
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And hopefully that means something to you guys.
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It should.
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It should put you back in the driver's
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seat.
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Number three, notice what you always say yes
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to.
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Even when you mean no, a single habit
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can completely derail your focus like that.
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Saying yes when your body screams no is
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people-pleasing, disguised as ambition.
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And I know we all want to do
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things to please people, but if pleasing people
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is going to make our cup be empty,
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then we can't do that.
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As much as we're a good person, and
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this has nothing to do about you being
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good or not being good, you don't need
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to deplete all your energy so you have
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nothing left for yourself.
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Remember, you have to have a little bit
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in your cup, because if you don't, you
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can't help yourself and you can't help others.
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Reclaiming your no helps you create space for
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what actually matters.
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And eliminates the resentment that often kills motivation.
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Now, again, this does not happen overnight.
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I want to be very, very clear about
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saying that.
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It doesn't happen overnight.
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But it will happen in time if you
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pay attention to the signals.
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Now, the signals generally get louder the more
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in danger you are.
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So, if you can pick up, let me
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give an example.
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Let's say, one example I would use is
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a wire trace and toner.
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If the wire is here, okay, and the
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toner is at the other end, and you're
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touching it, and if you're away from the
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wire, maybe a few feet you hear something,
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but the closer you get to the wire
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that has the tone on it, the louder
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it gets.
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But in our life, when things get louder,
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we need to see that as the situation
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is becoming more serious.
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So, we should be listening to those soft
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sounds first.
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Number four, guys, your calendar exposes your real
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priorities.
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More than your mouth does.
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So, what you do daily speaks louder than
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the goals you say you have.
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Look at where your hours go.
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That's the true reflection of your priorities.
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Are they aligned with your vision or perhaps
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someone else's?
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Number five, pay attention to what you reach
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for when you're overwhelmed.
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We all have coping mechanisms.
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Scrolling, snacking, zoning out.
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These aren't random.
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They're patterns built over time that we develop.
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Instead of judging them, observe them.
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Each one reveals the emotion you're avoiding and
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the habit that's quietly shaping your days.
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And I know that sounds like something that
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you can't do, but I want to tell
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you that it is something you can do.
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And that's an important thing to realize.
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Number six, your coping isn't random.
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It's rehearsed.
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Ever notice how you respond to frustration in
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exactly the same way every time?
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That's not weakness.
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It's scripting.
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The great news, you wrote that script once,
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which means you can rewrite it anytime you
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choose.
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Number seven, guys, the way you talk to
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yourself before bed is your true baseline.
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Forget positive affirmations for just a second.
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Listen to the truth you whisper to yourself.
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Before sleep, is it frustration or is it
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forgiveness, worry or gratitude?
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That nightly self-talk sets the rhythm for
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tomorrow's attitude.
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So be careful what you tell yourself before
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you go to sleep.
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Number eight, track one habit today.
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Instead of judging it for one day, just
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notice no shame, no guilt, no fixes.
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Track one behavior, maybe how often you interrupt
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yourself or how often you check your phone.
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Awareness alone increases self-respect and momentum.
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Number nine, what thought shows up right before
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you quit?
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That one thought, it's pointless.
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This isn't working.
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Maybe later is the voice of self-sabotage.
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And it comes out of frustration.
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The moment you learn to name that thought,
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you rob it of its authority.
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And you recognize it and then move past
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it.
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That's what's important to classify things.
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You're not flaky, guys.
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Number 10, you're just over-committed to things
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that don't matter.
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You don't need more motivation.
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You need more elimination.
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Every yes doesn't serve your growth, unfortunately.
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Quietly, it drains your creative energy.
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Focus is built through subtraction, not more to
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-do lists.
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Number 11, your room is a reflection, not
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an accident, guys.
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Take a look around.
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Clutter, chaos, or calmness, it's a mirror of
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your current mental load.
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The state of your space often echoes the
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state of your mindset.
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Start small.
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Clear one corner, one drawer.
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Momentum begins with a single act of order.
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Number 12, scroll patterns equal mindset patterns.
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How do you scroll?
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Mindlessly or meaningfully?
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Are you using it to connect or compare?
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The content you consume becomes the content of
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your mind.
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That's key.
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Number 13, guys, you repeat what you don't
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repair.
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Cycles don't break themselves, but they do reveal
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themselves.
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Every emotional rerun is an invitation to heal,
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not to hide things.
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Number 14, old you reacts, new you observes.
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This one thing about evolution, the next time
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you feel triggered, pause and ask, who just
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showed up?
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The old me or the new me?
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Observation shifts identity faster than force ever will.
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So pay attention to that, guys.
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I think that's going to be something that
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really is going to shape who you are
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as a person.
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Number 15, catch the tiny excuse that always
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sounds reasonable.
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Excuses often wear convincing disguises, so we believe
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them.
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The key is to catch them in their
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quietest form, right when they sound reasonable.
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That's where real growth begins, and you can
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do this, guys.
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Number 16, your body keeps telling you the
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truth every day.
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Why don't you listen?
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Where are you tense right now?
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Your body records every emotion your mind ignores.
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Tune in.
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It's not just about mindfulness we've talked about
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before.
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It's about decoding your personal data stream, because
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everything in life, guys, is all just data.
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So we need to be understanding of what
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data is and how we respond to that
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data.
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That is very key, guys.
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Number 17, your triggers are road signs.
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They're not character flaws.
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Every trigger is a teacher.
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Instead of fighting, why don't you think about
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them and mark the exact areas you're ready
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to grow through?
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Number 18, the thing you joke about might
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be the thing you need to heal.
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Humor is often camouflage for pain.
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Notice what you dismiss with laughter.
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It might be the very place your heart
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needs honesty.
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Number 19, you're incredibly consistent, just maybe at
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the wrong things.
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What you repeat daily defines you.
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Consistency isn't the enemy.
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Wrong focus is, guys, channel that same discipline
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toward things that expand you, not drain you
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and disempower you.
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Number 20, guys, you're not stuck.
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You're in an endless loop, and every loop
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can be broken once it's named.
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Rewrite the cycle by spotting the pattern, not
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blaming the person.
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So in computers, we have loops, and if
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we have endless loops that never finish or
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that never start, that could be a problem.
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But if we name the loop and we're
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able to comment out the loop, we can
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stop that, okay?
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And then we have to create a new
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loop, obviously.
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So you see, guys, awareness is your greatest
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upgrade.
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You can't change what you refuse to face.
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But once you shine a light on your
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patterns, your habits, and your hidden scripts, transformation
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becomes inevitable.
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That's what happens.
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Remember, today's job isn't to fix.
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It's to notice, because every change starts with,
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well, one moment of awareness.
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That's right.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, I think a lot of people,
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like, they get stuck with this.
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They really do.
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Number 18, guys, as I said, the thing
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you joke about might be the thing you
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need to heal.
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And I think sometimes in our life, we
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just get stuck.
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We get so stuck in our lives, not
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because we want to be stuck, but because
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we are stuck.
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And people think, just like a four-wheeler,
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if we get stuck, there's no way to
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get unstuck.
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But I want to tell you something.
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Everybody can get unstuck if we apply the
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right things, okay?
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These are keys, guys.
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Really, really keys.
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Remember that if you're on autopilot, you probably
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should pay attention to that.
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If your life had a before-sabotage moment,
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when is it?
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Remember, your complaints are data.
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Who taught me this pattern, and do I
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still agree with it?
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Why am I still running this program in
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my head?
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You know, the first time, guys, that I
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learned these patterns are in my head and
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that I didn't put them there.
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Somebody else did, okay?
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Somebody else did.
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Somebody else put them there.
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And you can remove them if we put
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the attention on it.
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If we put the attention on it.
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If we don't put the attention on it,
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then that could be a problem.
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So we've got to focus on what it
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is that's drawing our attention, okay?
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What is drawing our attention, okay?
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And this is important, very
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important to understand, to be mindful of.
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Hopefully, that means something to you.
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Hopefully, it means that you can make a
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difference in your life.
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But I'm not going to tell you that
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this is going to happen today.
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I'm not going to tell you, like, how
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it's going to happen, okay?
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I'm going to tell you that this is
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something that you need to be aware of.
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Awareness, okay?
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I know this sounds hard, but remember I
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said to you, we had to practice getting
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comfortable being uncomfortable, okay?
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That's important, guys, to know what that is,
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okay?
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And I think sometimes it can be hard
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to realize.
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It can be hard.
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But that doesn't mean we should not pay
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attention to it.
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And I think as we roll into 2026,
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or in 2026, I want to tell you
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that this whole year should be about intention.
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It should be about the things that you
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want.
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And I've said this before, if you fail
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to plan, you have planned to fail.
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Now, today is January 3rd, depending on when
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you're watching this.
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If you're watching it later, or sometimes our
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partners play it a week later, it's still
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not too late.
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But we really got to make sure that
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we get your goals solidified in January so
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that you don't keep putting it off and
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putting it off.
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It's okay to have a later date, but
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you don't want to keep saying, oh, tomorrow,
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tomorrow, tomorrow.
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You get my point, guys, right?
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We need to do something.
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So, ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, and this has been Inspirations for Your
24:46
Life.
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And by the way, this is your daily
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other social media, which I'd be very grateful
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for.
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And you can check out more of my
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daily tools and my insights to help you
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guys master both your mindset and your day.
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying, I don't know how to master my
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day.
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I know that sounds like a tall task.
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It's not.
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Think about mastering one part of your day,
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not the entire day.
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Let's just say one thing.
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And you can listen to me anytime, guys,
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by visiting BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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There you can learn about my direct podcast.
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You can download.
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You can even go to other places to
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get just the audio version.
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Because my goal, ladies and gentlemen, if you
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haven't already guessed it, is to elevate your
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life.
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Your mindset matters, ladies and gentlemen.
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And I'm all about telling you the inspirational
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stories that will get you to make positive
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change and to get you to tell those
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stories that help you make positive change.
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I know this is hard for some people,
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but I've said we have to practice getting
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comfortable being uncomfortable because that's where success breeds.
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I want you to have leadership success.
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I want you to gain a lot of
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this podcast wisdom that I share every single
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day here on Inspirations for Your Life.
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If you could take just one nugget of
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information that I give you each day and
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apply it, your life will do a 180.
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Just one thing.
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You may be taking my concept about being
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grateful for things, but you got to be
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consistent about it.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, a serial
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entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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And again, Happy New Year to everyone.