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Season 3 - Episode 71 - Sticky emotions! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Well, I'm actually outside of the coop area.
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  The girls have already run out because we had quite the weather
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  event with more rain than I have ever seen come down for a length
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  of time. And when I tell you as I'm
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  walking around out here and squishing everywhere, it's like
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  everything is squishing and we have a a lake more than a pond
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  right now, and every other area is filled up with water gardens.
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  Thank goodness we didn't put any vegetables out at all, yet they
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  would have drowned. It just has been an epic amount
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  of water coming out and girls are quite enjoying going around
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  and digging in all the mud. They are filthy, disgusting and
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  happy as little larks running around here looking for bugs.
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  But that is not the point of the story.
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  The point of the water story is that as I was watching it come
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  down and I was completely stressed out about the fact that
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  this water was coming down in such torrential amounts, it was
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  just, you just couldn't even imagine how hard it was raining.
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  And I kept saying to myself, this has to stop.
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  I mean, like, what is going on? I can't believe how much water
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  there is. And I hear myself in my head
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  telling myself, this has to stop telling myself as if I have any
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  control over this. And it goes on for most of the
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  day that I can. I hear myself doing this.
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  And I'm just shocked that I keep saying it over and over, knowing
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  full well that I have 0 control over anything that's happening,
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  like 0 control. But that really is irrelevant
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  because no matter what, I'm just going to keep going.
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  My certainty girl is in full charge.
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  And I'm watching it and it's filling up with water and
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  filling up with water. And I'm thinking to myself,
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  where's it going to go? And I start to my my certainty
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  is now kicking into anxiety. And then the anxiety piece of it
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  is also kicking in because I'm supposed to be having some
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  irrigation put in for the farm. And I'm like, he's never going
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  to get here. And I'm catastrophizing
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  everything that I possibly can and I'm not stopping myself.
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  That's the crazy thing Now as much as I know, and this is the
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  reason why I'm telling you the story.
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  As much as I know, and as much as I can talk about this and do
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  this 90% of the time for myself, there are certain subjects that
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  really still are buttons for me. That one of them would be this
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  stuff happening on the farm, things I cannot control.
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  Being in a relationship with another person, you can't
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  control that, so those are always hot buttons.
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  There are just certain times that you have to recognize that
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  you are at the mercy of the situation and you have to decide
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  how you want to handle it. But mind you, all this is going
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  on. I'm already in a heightened
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  state of a mix of excitement and frustration.
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  Believe it or not, those two were driving because I was
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  redesigning the new website. I can't stand the platform we
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  have and very fortunate for us, we found another platform that
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  allows me to do it the way I really want to do it.
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  They did not offer this service when we built the new one out
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  and now here we are working on this.
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  So now I'm also sitting there in this driven mode because can't
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  go anywhere, can't do anything, roads are flooded.
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  I mean, it was bad. I couldn't even really want to
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  go out in the truck anything because it was just too much.
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  So I'm already in this heightened state of emotion is
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  the point. And then all of a sudden now
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  here I am in this have to surrender situation.
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  So there's one piece of this where I can take charge these
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  two emotions where I'm like oh, I'm excited and I'm so
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  frustrated at the same time because I'm doing this website
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  more excited than frustrated, really happy and blessed for the
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  solution, but still frustrated that all this money, time,
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  effort between myself, my team, everything has like is being
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  essentially torn apart and put into a new frame and I have to
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  tell them where I want things. So I'm excited and I'm
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  frustrated. Those are the two drivers.
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  Now comes in certainty, which is, you know, my girl, the one
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  who will freak me out. Always love her, make sure I'm
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  always on time. Make sure I does this every I do
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  this every morning. She's the girl.
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  But at this point I'm like, I don't need her to show up when
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  it comes to the weather. So now I've got these group,
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  this group at the front of the bus, these five drivers that are
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  making me insane because I can't stop the rain and I feel myself
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  getting more and more anxious. Water's going up and the girls
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  are like out in the rain, can't get them to come back in no
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  matter what I do. They're chickens.
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  They don't care. They're not listening to me.
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  I can't command them around. They're.
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  I think that's probably why I love them so much, because
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  they're not like dogs. I can bribe them with food, but
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  then they do their own thing. And I was just, I spent the
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  whole day with my head spinning, spinning.
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  And I thought to myself, you know, I have to talk about this
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  because by the time I recognized it, it was night time.
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  And I went to make popcorn to watch the Batman movie before it
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  leaves Netflix. And all of a sudden I had this
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  whole thing about, Oh my gosh, it's a 3 hour movie.
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  What about this? And my son looks me as mom
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  Saturday. Why do you care?
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  And I'm like, I don't know. The clocks are going back.
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  And I felt all five of those emotions still present in my
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  choices and everything I was doing.
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  And when I caught it, I went, whoa, whoa, wait a second.
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  I'm completely blindsided by this because I wasn't aware of
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  how they were still sticky. They were stuck to me.
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  So I'm telling you all this because I want you to know no
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  matter what you are doing, you have to make sure you are not
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  being, you know, being in that state of having sticky emotions
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  still with you. Because if you do, they will
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  influence everything you're about to do.
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  And I had such a great reminder with it.
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  And I'm like, you know what? We're going to start off this
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  week with a great reminder about this for everybody else because
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  being sticky is no bueno. OK, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.