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#129 It's Finally Caught Up To Me · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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  Speaker 1: Do you know one thing I hate at a kid's
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  Speaker 1: path meth addicts?
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  Speaker 2: No, I like them, they're they're good fun.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, what do I hate? What do you hate? Can
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  Speaker 3: I have one more guess?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? What would Ash hate? Should I just get to it?
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  Speaker 3: Bubblers that don't work?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: I hate the flying fox. When you go to a
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  Speaker 1: park that has a big flying fox. Have you seen those?
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  Speaker 1: They're great, great fun. But I always get roped into
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  Speaker 1: the one parent who keeps going back and forth, but
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  Speaker 1: for not just my kid, all the kids that join in.
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  Speaker 3: What do you mean, how are you getting.
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  Speaker 2: Roped into that?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so I go with Oscar one second.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome back to two doting dads. I'm Maddie Jay and
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  Speaker 3: I'm Ash. This is a podcast all about parenting. It
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  Speaker 3: is the good, it is the bad. And look, we
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  Speaker 3: don't give any advice. But what we do do do
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  Speaker 3: do is talk about flying foxes.
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  Speaker 2: Continue we do do, indeed talk about flying foxes.
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  Speaker 1: So Oscar just bear with me, Oscar, Daddy, I want
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  Speaker 1: to go on the flying fox. No problems, go over,
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  Speaker 1: help him onto the flying fox. It goes down, you've
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  Speaker 1: got to bring it back up. Usually you'd bring it
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  Speaker 1: back up for the next parent to help their child on.
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  Speaker 1: But for some reason, every time I do it with Oscar,
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  Speaker 1: I go to take it back. There's no other parent
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  Speaker 1: and there's like ten kids, and then they all can't
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  Speaker 1: reach it, so I've got to go back and forth
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  Speaker 1: and back and forth.
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  Speaker 3: Feel like the age of a child to use a
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  Speaker 3: flying fox without parental supervision is around about five. Anything
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  Speaker 3: under concerning anything.
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  Speaker 2: Under that, I'm looking for consent from a parent.
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  Speaker 3: Would you hand a four year old a flying fox
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  Speaker 3: unaccompanied by an adult? Yes, you got it, man, you
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  Speaker 3: got it. It's a a harsh world out there, and
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  Speaker 3: these kids need to learn.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but the thing is like, what, like why can't
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  Speaker 1: other parents come over and help me?
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  Speaker 2: They just yeah, they're like it's okay, no do it.
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  Speaker 3: Because they're like, oh my god, look at that good
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  Speaker 3: Samaradan dad out there who's relaying like back and forth.
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  Speaker 3: I hate that you have set this up, you set
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  Speaker 3: the standard.
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  Speaker 1: I hate that so much. You just want to I've
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  Speaker 1: got I had two kids. If I wanted to do
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  Speaker 1: that for ten kids, I would have had ten kids.
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  Speaker 3: Fuck the other kids to stop them, just push them off,
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  Speaker 3: you reckon, just like another parent.
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  Speaker 2: They don't.
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  Speaker 1: I've been starting, like all of Christmas holidays, we would
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  Speaker 1: go to this one park called Flying Fox Park. If
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  Speaker 1: you go to a flying Fox park with your kids,
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  Speaker 1: the expectation is that you have to help your kid
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  Speaker 1: on the flying Fox, not a random other parent.
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  Speaker 3: Right, It's unlike you to be so caring.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: It's just I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't expect you to be the one who being
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  Speaker 3: like that idiot dad helping out all these other kids
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  Speaker 3: who doesn't even know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's me.
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  Speaker 3: It's weird. Why how have you? How has this happened?
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  Speaker 2: It just happened too many times in the heat of summer.
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  Speaker 2: But just tell us, like, that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: Then I have to deprive my kid from going on it.
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  Speaker 1: So now I was like, can we go? I'm like, oh, soon, soon, soon,
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  Speaker 1: we're doing something else because I know as soon as
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  Speaker 1: I go over there, Timmy, Jimmy, Sally and Susie, you're
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  Speaker 1: going to come up and I'm doing laps of the
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  Speaker 1: flying Fox.
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  Speaker 2: Let him, let him be, let him suffer. Well, then
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  Speaker 2: they're just going to stand there. That's life, bro, that
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  Speaker 2: is life.
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  Speaker 3: Flying Fox Park is really just a lesson for what
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  Speaker 3: life is like in the real world.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if you're on my side or not.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know either. I had a little session at
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  Speaker 3: the park. Hang on, I got a sneeze. One second.
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  Speaker 2: You're a plane. That was good. Bless you.
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  Speaker 1: I reckon, it's a cessna. You are autistic. You're a
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  Speaker 1: divergent actually, which.
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  Speaker 3: We'll get into later. Before before we do that, okay,
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  Speaker 3: before we do that. Do you remember Tom Williams from
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  Speaker 3: Benhams and Gardens. Tom Williams very handsome man, what.
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  Speaker 2: I recall, very hand gorgeous. He's a bit older than us.
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  Speaker 3: Right now, he's I think he's let me just check,
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  Speaker 3: can confirm that his age.
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  Speaker 2: He's fifty four.
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  Speaker 3: Still gorgeous, stunning. He's a carpenter. Imagine that rocking up
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  Speaker 3: to your house to fix your back by.
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  Speaker 2: Hire a hubby.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, imagine if I know what sort of person he
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  Speaker 1: would be on a night out.
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  Speaker 2: You know what you're getting right there? What are you getting?
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  Speaker 2: Don't disrespect him? I'm not What are you getting? I
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  Speaker 2: don't want to say, because I'll just respect him. He's
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  Speaker 2: the loveliest, but the haircut.
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  Speaker 1: He's probably really lovely guy. That haircut back in the day,
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  Speaker 1: screamed one thing.
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  Speaker 3: We all had haircuts like that. He has like a
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  Speaker 3: bit for those he has a bit of a mohawk
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  Speaker 3: kind of cut. But he saved my life.
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  Speaker 1: He looks like Ben Cousins, look like Ben Cousins, and
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  Speaker 1: we all know what he was about.
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  Speaker 3: How do you how doare you compare the two? He
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  Speaker 3: saved my life. I was at a park literally or
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  Speaker 3: just literally. I was back back in the od stomping
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  Speaker 3: ground around Bondai. Decided Thursday Daddy day. Take my kid
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  Speaker 3: plus my niece.
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  Speaker 2: From the jungle to the urban jungle. Some might say,
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  Speaker 2: very good from you, Thank you. You should be a copywriter.
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  Speaker 2: That's it for me.
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  Speaker 3: Went to what's called not Flying Fox Park rocket Ship Park.
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  Speaker 2: We have a rocket ship park too.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about you, it's about me. Isn't have a
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  Speaker 1: big rocket in the middle, hence the name it does
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  Speaker 1: you know your rocket ship? It was a chain of
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  Speaker 1: parks called rocket Ship Park.
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  Speaker 3: It's a great park. It's a cracking park. I've just finished.
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  Speaker 3: It's really beautiful. Went there, went there, must have been
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  Speaker 3: there for like I want to say, were there for
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  Speaker 3: about five minutes. What happened started raining.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't have enough. They don't have any cover,
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  Speaker 2: no cover at the rocket Ship Parks. It's the cover.
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  Speaker 2: The rocket ship's too high for cover. It's a nightmare.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's the Achilles heel of the rocket ship.
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  Speaker 2: The rain.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's over, it's over.
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  Speaker 2: So I was, I did.
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  Speaker 3: There's a metal slide and Laola was like, I'm going
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  Speaker 3: on it, and I was like, oh nuts. You know
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  Speaker 3: when metal gets wet, it gets very slippery.
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  Speaker 2: She she flew out of there.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you know when something's happening and it text
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  Speaker 3: you a second to realize, and I was, I was
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  Speaker 3: about three meters away from the slide, but I saw
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  Speaker 3: her flying down.
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  Speaker 2: I just kind of went. I was frozen. She flying
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  Speaker 2: off the end and she it was like long jump.
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  Speaker 1: She must have got four meters straight onto her like
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  Speaker 1: bumps straight onto the back.
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  Speaker 2: Combo were like, was it like? It was?
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  Speaker 3: Thank Heaven, it's the rocket Ship parks. All the new
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  Speaker 3: ones have soft landing. What parks would have been like.
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  Speaker 2: Back in parents. I was like, I went too fast
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  Speaker 2: in the slide.
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  Speaker 3: She would have had a bottom skin. Luckily she was okay.
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  Speaker 3: But then I was like, this is too dangerous. I'm
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  Speaker 3: pulling the pin on the rocket ship park. Okay, problem, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't have a car, it's with him walking. Just nah,
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  Speaker 3: I got the bus there, didn't.
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  Speaker 2: I bustin they've got a bus. I got the basket
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  Speaker 2: of the bus.
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  Speaker 3: But the issue is ash issue is it was a
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  Speaker 3: bit of a walk from the bus stop, so I
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  Speaker 3: couldn't get a bus back home. Tried to call a
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  Speaker 3: TAXI couldn't get my mate.
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  Speaker 2: Why do they even have a phone number anymore?
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  Speaker 1: Like you just sit there on all day to fifteen minutes.
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  Speaker 1: It reminds me of the city to serve.
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  Speaker 3: Remember, yes, can we just allow children, babies and ubers,
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  Speaker 3: like if they're allowed in calves, let them in an
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  Speaker 3: uber without a baby seat.
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  Speaker 2: Canning, Queensland may change the rules.
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  Speaker 3: We're living in the dark ages here in New South Wales.
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  Speaker 2: State state by state laws is a joke.
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  Speaker 3: Isn't there an election coming up? We should campaign the
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  Speaker 3: dad party the dad party no baby seats and ubers?
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  Speaker 2: That could be no, yeah, that could be our.
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  Speaker 1: Main thing, Like any man, woman or child should be
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  Speaker 1: able to ride an uber without discrimination.
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  Speaker 3: And more parental supervision at Flying Fox Parks.
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  Speaker 2: More shade and more cover. Oh, we are onto something.
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  Speaker 2: This is good.
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  Speaker 1: Think of the people that would actually, can you please
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  Speaker 1: look up how to create a political party?
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  Speaker 2: Please? Thank you? Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Also, just to put another spanner in the works, I
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  Speaker 3: had my knees.
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  Speaker 2: I had Lola. Guess who else I had?
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  Speaker 3: Nana had Nana. You know what nana's are like in
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  Speaker 3: the wet Yeah, I don't know who. I was more
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  Speaker 3: worried about Lola.
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  Speaker 2: On Nana. I was like, don't touch that. It's OK.
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  Speaker 3: You're fine, And I'm like, how the hell am I
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  Speaker 3: going to get home? And then out of nowhere, Tom Williams,
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  Speaker 3: Tom Williams comes walking through the park. He's just finished
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  Speaker 3: a meeting. Walking Yeah, he don't tell me. He piggybacked
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  Speaker 3: you all and he said what are you doing? And
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  Speaker 3: I said I'm trying to get home, and he goes,
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  Speaker 3: don't worry. You can hop in my car.
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  Speaker 2: And Lola was like, who is this guy? Not a stranger?
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  Speaker 2: Nana was very happy to get the car of time.
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  Speaker 2: Was she in front seat? No? I put her in
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  Speaker 2: the back. Smart Tom Williams saved my life.
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  Speaker 1: That it's just dad's looking out for each other, just
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  Speaker 1: one dad to another, one dad to another.
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  Speaker 2: So vote one the political the dad political party. We
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  Speaker 2: look out. We call it the party for the Dad party,
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  Speaker 2: Like it's I.
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  Speaker 3: Now have to like with that good deed. You know,
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  Speaker 3: I'm now looking to give my good deed to another parent.
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  Speaker 3: You don't need any good deeds.
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  Speaker 2: You're fine. Well I'm not, actually, and I have a
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  Speaker 2: story about that. Not fine.
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  Speaker 1: Hemorrhoids, hemorrhoids about the hemorrhoids were vicious while you were gone,
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  Speaker 1: And that was from stress because stressed about you. I
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  Speaker 1: was worried about you, not about me or my terrible
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  Speaker 1: lifestyle and my horrible habits had nothing to do with that.
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  Speaker 2: It's all stress. But we have some answers Matthew to
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  Speaker 2: why I am like the way that I am? Okay,
• 9:43
  Speaker 2: it's formal, so we always joke. We joke a lot
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  Speaker 2: on these podcasts about the poster boy for a particular.
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  Speaker 3: It's a disorder disorder.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's got enough d's in there to add of disorder.
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  Speaker 2: It's a disorder.
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  Speaker 1: I have formerly been diagnosed bias like high triss as
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  Speaker 1: a severe I am let me finish a severe case
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  Speaker 1: of adult ADHD.
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  Speaker 2: Do we class? Look, I didn't know what to do.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I can't say I'm surprised. I'm not surprised.
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  Speaker 2: We all knew. Now that I know, it's it's way worse.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just like, I found myself yesterday. Better. It's better
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  Speaker 2: the disorder. You don't know, Yeah, I found myself yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: We're at the PM's house for that thing you're doing,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like staring off into the like into
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  Speaker 1: no man's landlight, and then I'd be like, oh, oh shit.
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  Speaker 2: If someone's like talking, was.
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  Speaker 1: Like ash, just this echo, like yeah, it's quite a
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  Speaker 1: long process. I thought Matt's scaring at the jungle and
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  Speaker 1: pulled my finger out and do something for myself.
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  Speaker 3: Off here, And can I ask, Can I ask what
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  Speaker 3: made you want to get tested? Because you've you're now
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  Speaker 3: in your.
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  Speaker 2: About one hundred and seventeen episodes of this podcast. I
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  Speaker 2: listened back to all them. I was like, Fuck, that
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  Speaker 2: guy needs some help.
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  Speaker 3: Because you kind of think you've come this far. You're
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  Speaker 3: in your mid thirties, you come this far, you know surely,
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  Speaker 3: surely you know you're fine.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's getting worse. It's getting progressively worse.
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  Speaker 2: Really in what way? Look, I know I know that
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  Speaker 2: I've always had problems focusing.
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  Speaker 1: I know that I always I'm real scattery, I'm real
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  Speaker 1: up and down, I move everything.
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  Speaker 3: Are you.
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  Speaker 2: Don't? I'm happy? Shut up?
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  Speaker 1: And honestly it was I knew it was getting worse.
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  Speaker 1: And then I started to pay attention to some things
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  Speaker 1: that Oscar would do and how okay, and you know
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  Speaker 1: he's five, he's he's you know not. He just reminded
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  Speaker 1: me so much of what of what I what like
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  Speaker 1: my brain and like what the mannerisms and things like
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  Speaker 1: he cannot focus on anything?
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  Speaker 2: What was Oscar doing that? He can't focus on.
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  Speaker 1: Me, but he can hyper focus on a small on
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  Speaker 1: a one small task and like for me, I used
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  Speaker 1: to be able to hyper focus on things. And then
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  Speaker 1: can I just refresh your memory? And I you know this,
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  Speaker 1: But for the listeners, Ash, I don't know what it was.
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  Speaker 1: But he was like, I'm really into Pokemon cards and.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, what do you mean?
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  Speaker 3: And you would watch you would watch people live stream
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  Speaker 3: opening Pokemon cards and then you started collecting Pokemon cards.
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  Speaker 2: And now I'm in severe debt.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and just you were like locked into Pokemon caring,
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  Speaker 3: locked in.
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  Speaker 1: Still bro, I am locked in. Actually I guess I
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  Speaker 1: can harp a focus on that. But like I would
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  Speaker 1: find that, I was like, Okay, well I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't. I'm starting to become as.
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  Speaker 1: Focused as Oscar is, and I'm an adult who like
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  Speaker 1: should be able to focus on. I can't read an email.
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  Speaker 1: I can read like a head of an email. I
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: could learn a new skill like Rubik's cube. Took me
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  Speaker 1: one day to learn the Rubik's cube, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean.
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  Speaker 2: But I can't. I can't form a new habit. I
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  Speaker 2: can't build a new habit, like just shit like that.
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  Speaker 1: And it's progressively getting worse to the point where like
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  Speaker 1: I'm unmotivated to do anything, like I'm unmotivated to get
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  Speaker 1: out of bed, all this sort of stuff. That it
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  Speaker 1: was like, all right, probably need to do something about it.
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  Speaker 3: Do you remember and tell me if this is the
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  Speaker 3: case or not.
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  Speaker 2: Do you remember?
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  Speaker 3: It must have been like six months ago we had
• 13:43
  Speaker 3: a conversation about potentially getting diagnosed, and you said something
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  Speaker 3: along the lines of you don't want to get medicated
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  Speaker 3: because it's going to change who you are.
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  Speaker 1: That's a common concern they say it because it's like
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  Speaker 1: we talk about ADHD as you know, like a disorder
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  Speaker 1: like a it's really bad, but it's also a superpowerful.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people, Like the psychiatrist said to me,
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  Speaker 1: he said, you've gotten as far as you have done
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  Speaker 1: now with what's going on in your head, but you're
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  Speaker 1: obviously at a point in your life where you need
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  Speaker 1: you need. I need to be able to create a routine,
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  Speaker 1: have some sort of structure. I need to be able
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  Speaker 1: to sleep properly. Like this's so like it takes me
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  Speaker 1: on four hours.
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  Speaker 2: To go to sleep. I'll just lay there bro and
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  Speaker 2: my head will just just run the whole time, the
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  Speaker 2: biggest one.
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  Speaker 1: And you'll notice it when and you probably already notice
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  Speaker 1: it when that I noticed when I come on the
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  Speaker 1: phone to someone and I'm invested in our conversation and
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  Speaker 1: something so minute will get my attention and I'll pull
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  Speaker 1: on that piece of string and the complete conversation changes
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  Speaker 1: to me just I'm not there anymore. And I've gotten
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  Speaker 1: to the point where I'm doing that to family and
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  Speaker 1: stuff like that, and I'll get off the phone and
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  Speaker 1: I'll go, fuck, I just did that again. I'll have
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: to ring, Like I rang my sister back up yesterday
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm so sorry. You would having
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  Speaker 1: an actual important conversation.
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  Speaker 2: With me, and I didn't digest him.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't digest the back end of I don't even
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  Speaker 1: know what happened because something had caught my eye and
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  Speaker 1: I cannot refocus on that conversation.
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  Speaker 3: And it's tough because obviously your sister's going to be
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  Speaker 3: very sympathetic because she understands you and you and who
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  Speaker 3: you are. But I guess other people might be like
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  Speaker 3: fuck ash, like that's.
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  Speaker 1: Rude so many people, and I feel really bad. So
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  Speaker 1: if you are on the phone to me and I
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  Speaker 1: do tune out, it's a disorder now, okay, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's Yeah, it just was getting to the point where
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  Speaker 1: I have that's just put yourself in my shoes for
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  Speaker 1: a moment. No motivation, no routine, no structure, no goals,
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  Speaker 1: no interests.
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  Speaker 2: Like I was just like a blob. Yeah, pretty much.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like I can't.
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: It really really hit me when I surfed the wavepool
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: before you it was before you left or during your left,
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I did hurt my back on the
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: same session, but I literally paddled out and I was like,
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: I fucking hate this.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: And it was like why though, why is that?
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Like why is your brain now associating this with something
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: that you hate, Like, yeah, is it because maybe that
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: I put too much pressure on myself to be the
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: best that I can be, but I don't have the
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: patience to work.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: To be the best I could be.
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: So what was the process? Because I remember you saying
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: it was hard. I know you were kind of like
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: tiptoeing around getting tested. But it's not just a simple
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: make an appointment. Oh yeah, you like do this test?
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: You have it? What does it look like? Step by step?
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: So this is the second time I've been down it
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: because we spoke about it last year. But it was
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: the referral I got then was to a particular clinic
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: that feel like they were quite big. So you sort
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: of get you sort of go into the conveyor belt
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: of process, if you will. And I felt like the
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: information was like the step was like it felt like
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: the test, you know what I mean? It was like,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to get through all this shit. I
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: can't focus on one thing. How do you want me
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: to focus on fifteen different things before I can see
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: a psychiatrist who to say, Okay, what's going on, which
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: probably deters a lot of people. I got really lucky
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: because a Kisha. Keisha's such an advocate for it.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: For people who don't know. It's Keisha from Life Uncut.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: She created Cloud, which is on the Life on Cut network,
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: which is a podcast all about ADHD, and she was
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: able to point me in the right direction of how
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: she went through it where it wasn't as painful, which look,
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: the steps are essentially the same, but there was more
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: guidance instead of just being like, here go, this is
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: what you need to do because you're one of a
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: million people in this in the in the start of
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: this clinic here where.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: You need to go do this, do that? Do this?
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: Do that?
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: What do they make you do?
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: So stuff Like there's a lot of like cognitive testing,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Like when you go through a new job in a
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: corporate situation ago, you go through.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: An online questionnaire. Yeah, but it's long.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: Again you feel like this is the ADHD test, but
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: it's just to find out what sort of person you are.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Like what what makes you tick? What doesn't make you tick?
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Are you depressed? Are you sad? You do that?
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: You do that test, and then what happens after that?
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: You've got to.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: They say that you need to provide some like character references.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Why I wasn't I called up? Uh, what do you
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: think it was? Like?
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Thankfully you don't necessarily have to I think there is
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: you do enough cognitive testing about your character, and then
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: they're also asked for like penis. I don't know, I
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: haven't seen it in ages, and it's like like old
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: school reports and stuff like that, because there's no way
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: you would have had that. No no, definitely not no,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: no no. And thankfully through this channel, I didn't have
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: to do any of that.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: So like your reports would have said, easily distracted.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Bam, Yeah, losers focus bam, cannot focus on tasks bam.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: My advice to anyone who's.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Who wants to go down the track and looks at
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: it and goes, fuck, it looks like a long thing.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Just do your due diligence on where you do it.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: Because this was really quick opposed to it.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Being really really long.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: So this was like a couple of week wait to
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: see a psychiatrist off the back of your testing.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: It was telehealth.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: We spent an hour together. So just so I know,
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: so you've done your online online test, I'll go from.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Stuff GP to with your concerns as you should do
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: with everything. Really, go and see your GP. Just tell
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: them what's going on and what makes you think, and
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: they'll ask you some general questions there too, because they're
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: trained to do so as well. But then they'll go,
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: do you have a clinic in mind, which, thankfully from Keisha,
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: I did, and then you essentially the referel goes to them,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: They reach out to you. They essentially give you all
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: the information about what comes next.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: I'm really dumb here, but is a clinic like an
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: ADHD clinic?
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like an ADHD clinic and like like brain neurodiversion,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: they specialize and all that sort of stuff.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: And then you know, you do the online. Yeah, they
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: sort of give what's going to happen next. And the cost.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: That's another thing too. It's because how much does it costs?
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: Oh look, it's like.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: It's upwards as three grands. Oh it's not cheap, it's
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: not cheap. Wow, it's for me. I was at a
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: point where I felt like I needed to invest it
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: so that I don't essentially become you know, depressed really
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: because it's where it was headed.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was headed to like impacting you that much.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: It was impacting you to the point where there was
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: thoughts of suicide, like just completely honest, like very minor.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: But I've felt that before, but I thought, this is
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: getting worse and this is the trigger for that.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: It was sort of like for me, that was my
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: how I felt because I had no motivation, no, no structure,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: no sorry, no no, no, no, no, don't don't don't
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: at all. Like I've I've sort of stuffered with this
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: sort of stuff for long and a half that I'm like, okay, well,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: but what was getting me down was that I couldn't.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: I would do the thing.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: You know, here's an example, like you would go, okay,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: I want to do this, right. See what you do
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: is you put the steps in place to get to there.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I would go, I want to do this, get to
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: the first step in my brain and go this is
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: all too hard and that's it, you know, Like here's
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: a good one.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: I started doing laps at the pool. So what did
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: I bought? Like one hundred dollars pair of goggles. They're
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: still in the packet And that was two weeks ago. Yeah, yeah,
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: Like, so after after you do your you went to
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: the clinic, did are you testing there? And is that
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: off the back of that, do they say you like
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: you have it or yeah.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: So you do the testing and then you have your
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: consultation with with a psychiatrist, and there's a lot. They
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: dive into a lot like childhood, family life, both your
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: immediate family and then obviously my wife and kids, and
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: you know, school and hobbies and habits like alcohol.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Drug or they do into everything in a family loss.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Look, if you're not at a position where you want
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: to talk about all that stuff, then maybe it's not
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: worth going down there.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Front. It's really confronted. It's like exhausting.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: At the end of it, you're like fuck like like
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: it's like a it's a proper therapy session, which thankfully
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I've got some experience in so I wasn't, but I
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: can imagine if that's your first Oh yeah, you'd be
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: like holy Like I had to take it in the
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: car because it's just like I needed zero distractions. I
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: just needed to I was like, if I'm going to
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: spend all this money and do it to improve my life,
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: I need to just lock myself away and get it done.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: And then, based off that in the conversation, he said, look.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: In my professional opinion, you do have adult ADHD along
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: with there's a couple other things that's in the They
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: give you a diagnosis, which is the diagnosis goes back
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: to my GP for next steps, which is next steps
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: is blood work ECG and for me, blood work and
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: ECG is really important because I've got heart disease.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Out for medication, for medication.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because he openly says, hey, we can treat this
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: with medication whatever that's going to look like, I don't
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: know yet, or we can. You can look at you unpacking.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: It's like a fast way or slow like that's the
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: way they put it. And I was like, look, I'm
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: open to being medicated, but that's what I was worried about,
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: losing my spark, right, I was losing like I didn't
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: want to lose my personality and will lose how my
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: brain works in certain ways.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: And he was like, no, no, I will.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: But then at the same time you talk about your spark,
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: it's like, I don't I look think about that moment
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: where you say you're thinking about self harm and you're like, well,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: that's not it's not helping it. It's it's not a
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: spark that you think it is.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, there's always like the negative side to my
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: brain and the personality that I have. But he said
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: to me, no, no, no, He's like, look, what we
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: can do is we can look to just make it
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: easier for you to focus on tasks and and and
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: achieve smaller goals than just being like, here's something kind
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: of completely dull who you are as a person for
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: the rest of your life. And that's a big stigma
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: around medication. When I'm medicated already now and I have
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: been for years, but it's like before that, I was like,
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to be medicated because I didn't want
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: to be seen as that person who's medicated.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: Right, it's like he's had like a lobotomy, yeah.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Essentially, and like but then once I went down the
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: process the first time with you know, with that, it's like,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: it's not that bad.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: Do they when you say severe? Is there like a scale?
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: Is it like between?
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: I guess it's just his medical opinion, right, He's like, Okay, well,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: I've heard you, I've heard what you're like, what your
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: brain's like, and they're very good at like drawing stuff
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: out of you that they are trained to do, right if.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: They could, But it's kind of, I guess. On the
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: one hand, it's kind of daunting to know, like, Okay,
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I've actually got this thing now, But then at the
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: same time, it must be nice in a sense to know, like, hey,
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: it's you know, I've been living with this thing which
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: has been hindering me for so long.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: It's not you, it's it's like, you know, it makes sense. Yeah,
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: it's like now that I'm aware of it.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: And there's certain things that the certain behaviors that I do,
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: like like Mike, my doom scrolling is on a fucking
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: another level. It's because it's ADHD paralysis. I'm just there
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: searching for open mean search, and that's the easiest way
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: for me to get it without you know, racking up
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like in that I'm just
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: like consistently searching. And it's like it's a known thing
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: that you go into a paralysis where you're like, I'm
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: just gonna sit here all day in.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: A vortex, and I have done that. You know what.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: The first day both kids went back to school, I
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: think you were away and I think we had nothing
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: on or whatever. I literally sat there till the kids
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: got home. He got nothing achieved that day, and it
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: was like, I don't have the motivation, nor do I
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: have this drive the strength to move off his couch
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: and other than just sit there and doom scroll Yeah,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: maybe joke off.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So that's where we're at.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Okay, so you haven't had any medication.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Gotta do blood test ECGs.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Then you go and do another psych appointment to talk
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: about medications, the pros, the con all that sort of stuff.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Like another hour, and then they see you again, just
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: make any adjustments, and then it's up to you how
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: often you want to see them, like check in. So
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: like I think Keish was saying that she did the
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: first initial appointments and they adjusted the medication and everything
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: seems to be working fine. But if her if her
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: brain chemistry changes or something changes, like maybe she falls
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: pregnant and hormones changed things that maybe she might need
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: to change.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: It came again.
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's gone through the harder process. Well, dude,
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm proud of you. Thank you, very proud of you.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: That's the most serious conversation I've had in a very
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: long time.
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: I think it would have been so easy to kick
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: this bucket down the road a little bit longer, a
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: little bit longer, knowing how hard the process is. I think,
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: well done, thank you, well done. I feel better about
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: it already.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: It's like you said, there's no surprises like it was.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: You know, I can I can have a large red
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Bull and go straight to sleep, like you know, you know,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: it's just yeah, it just got to the point where
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: it was like and then I was doing I was
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: doing this thing where I was like.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: Wish I'd known this before I started a podcast with you.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Sorry, it's two years, I'm kidding, kidding, But it was
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: getting to the point where I was like, you know,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not yeah, like I definitely have a problem with alcohol,
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: Like well, that's no fucking secret. But it was getting
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: to the point where it was like I was just
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: drinking because I was just depressed about it. And it
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: was like, if I'm gonna be unmotivated to do things,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: I might as well do the things that's like, the
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: the easy things that give me some sort of chemical
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: in my.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Brain to make me feel a bit better.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: Anyway, here we are and I'll keep you I'll keep
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: you updated when I get back from Vegas.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: Keep us posting.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: I guess if anyone has any questions specific to your
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: process of getting diagnosed, hit us up, let us.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Know, yeah, for sure, Facebook, Instagram, whatever do you damn me?
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: I don't mind.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I'll ignore it. Matt, Yes, back from the Jungle. But
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: you did miss quite a key moment in Marley's life.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: You did make a little heart symbol on TV. You
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: did wish her well from the Jungle, which she loved.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: The heart loved her And I felt guilty a few times.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I'd forget to do it and I'd be like laying
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: there and be the first day, like.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: The first recording, first episode, we're all here now, like
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: when's he got to do it?
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: And then like eventually you did it, like a little
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: like I think when you got the opportunity because it
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: was hard. You don't know what's going to air, what's
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: not going to air. Yeah, but the first day of school,
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: primary school, You've you've been back a week or so.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Now now.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: She's doing she's done really well. You've been doing drop
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: offs and stuff like I've been doing drop offs only
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: at the New Daycad with Lola, so I've kind of
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: been missing school.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: I haven't seen the late great Mandy j come through.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: I went to We actually had a parent teacher night
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: where we have this three kindergarten classes and you and
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: all the parents go.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: Along and it's not one on one, it's.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: Like the curriculum, and they kind of say like, this
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: is what the kids learning, and they made it sound
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: really complicated. They were like, so we're going to be
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: learning about maths and social studies. And I was kind
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: of like, what do you learn about maths? They're like, oh,
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: just like they count to ten, Timmy has seven oranges,
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: twelves and twelve plum But I was thinking, oh, wow,
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: they're teaching some pretty full on stuff here. But no, no, no, no, no, no,
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: it's all it's all like, it's all fun times.
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I mean these days, they've obviously got iPads in class.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: They've got like a you know, we have like a
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: chalkboard or a fucking whiteboard. They've got like a TV
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: screen board. They've got TV scoos at your school. Yeah, dude.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: The whole thing is it's like interactive what I don't know,
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: wild public school.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: We're living in the dark ages over here in Bonda.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: We've got whiteboards. Still, you've still got BONDI beach. I
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: was like, what is this what is this rubbish? Yeah,
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: it's funny how you forget how much kids.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: Wrath on a little merit award.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: They had these badge system, so if you are seen
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: to be doing something that's like in line with school rules,
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: you can get ethics yeah yeah, yeah, and then you
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: get these little badges like little tokens, and then if
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: you get three tokens, you get a merit award.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: Then if you get two merrit awards, you get.
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: Like a Blue Award or something, and it's then you
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: get four Blue wards, you get a rid of Week. Yeah,
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: and you're like, who cares? But the kids they lose
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: their ship. Mully's had one badge so far, like little token,
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: and she's like, you're never going to believe what happened.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: And I was like, well what did you get?
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: And she's like, I got the token. I amost that
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: always in a run run the world god and losing
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: her mind. But she's she's taken a school Yeah fine, yeah.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: Same with Oscar.
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: I mean the thing for us like that he's frothing
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: on is who's the fastest. That's that's what boys do, right,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: They're like, who's the fastest in the school, And every
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: week it's different.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: He's very quick.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: He's very quick, but he was like this kid was
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: faster than me last week, but this week was definitely
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: faster than him.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: Or like this is so basic. Who's I know? I
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: know who's the fastest is the best, but all the
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: girls like, oh my god, there's that.
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  Speaker 1: It was really funny, like we've got like a really
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: long track to get to school. Yeah, one entrance, one exit,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: and you know, we walk all the way down with
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: him and I was like, what you do today, you know?
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: And he was like, oh, we did rhyming words and
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh yeah, like what words and he
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: was like like truck and I was like, okay, don't
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: do it.
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: Don't do it. Don't do it rhymes with truck and
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: he was like fuck. I was like, and there's a
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: little girl in front of us that was in her
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: grade too, and she was like, oh yeah, does wrong
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: with that? And you're like my work. I was just like, oh,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: this is good year. So it's how fast you are.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: The running is definitely a big who's the fastest? And
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: another one is that I wanted to ask you about
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: is obviously lunches. All kids want Canteen food. They just
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: they just want on a Friday. Yeah, so we haven't
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: done it at all, but the kids are trying to
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: manipulate all the parents by saying every oh, this kid
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: gets it every day, like everyone gets it but me,
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: And so we've figured them out.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: Lenny and Oscar obviously in the same cli wat trying
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: to playoff.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: They're trying to play each other, but they don't realize that.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: We talked to his parents.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: It's so dumb.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: And apparently Lenny went home and was like, uh, everyone
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: gets Canteen food every day except for me, and they
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: were like everyone everyone gets Oscar. They're like, hang on
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: a moment rings April on lad Speak and He's like,
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: does os get Canteen food? And I was like, na,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: not yet, and they were like, see, Lenny, I'm just
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: trying to We were all like showing him like that
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: because it's all on apps and stuff.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: Now that's that's a that's a crazy thing.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: Like Laura was like, hey, you got to put in
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: eight am is a deadline in the morning of put
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: your order in, and she's like, just do it on the.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: App and I was like, what, where's the brown paper bag?
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: You just ride on like sausage roll dollars sixty. Put
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: the money in the sausage roll twelve dollars sixty. Very expensive.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: But they have apps now. They have apps for canti.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Any app called I have a really good name for
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: that app. It's called the app should be called brown paperbag.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: Just saying the app right, no good, it's.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: Not your best. I'll put it down to yet I.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: I just thought of it.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: I'll put it down to your ADHD.
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I'm not going to tell you things if
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: you're going to use it against me. So I also
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: have a massive penis.
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: But Marley today has her first exam, first example, see
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: already first test they have. They do these reading tests
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: to figure out what books you get, So you get
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: different books depending on your ability to the library at.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: The library or do you guys have a library or school? Yeah?
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: I think so. I don't know school.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: I zoned out during the parent teaching. There is some
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: kind of a library.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: I think I don't know.
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: It was a forty five minute meeting about school curriculum.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Like so I was twenty.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: Can I just say to the teacher it was great.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: Try and do it with ADHD. It's not a competition broke.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: It's but Maria's going to find it. Maria's going to
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: find out what level her reading is. That she's so good,
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: she's very good. She's freakishly good. Like breeds better than me.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: Doing a running test today, mondays Marley's doing a reading.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: She's like, what's this?
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: But Lola hates it. Lola's like, why is she going
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: to a separate school? So now we're debating. We were
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: going to hold back Lola for one more year of
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: daycare next year, but now we're like, do you know what,
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: Let's just send them both.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: That's a fair baby. So I think I think she'll
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: be five when she starts. Yeah, fine, right, I don't know.
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: Send her Yes, the draft, Yeah this one, fine, give
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: this one. But it's so fast and good, so fast good,
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: and the parents that we've met are lovely.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: I really love it.
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: And the most exciting part ash I'm going to get
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: my electric bike this weekend so I can start doing
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: drop offs.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: In my bike.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: I've been doing the drop offs on a bike because
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: it's carnage down there.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: It's an nightmare. Absolute.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: I would rather spend an afternoon in Hell than do
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: a drop off in the car trying to find.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: A part, and I'm like five hundred meters from the school.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: But the problem is it's like all uphill on the
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: way back, which to walk. It's like, oh, but the
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: electric bike. You just mosey back up because Oscar must
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: love it.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Loves it every day, even April and I rode the
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: bike to parent teacher interviews were April together. Yeah, man,
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: everyone's trying to get parks. I rode all the way
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: down to the front of the school. Where was she
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: sitting on the back.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: She's sitting, bitch, baby, what's that the seat behind where
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: you grab like that? There's plenty of grab onto at
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: the moment, that's for sure. She was like all this,
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: you look great, thank you, But yeah, did you get
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: the bucket one?
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: A little buck at the front, double seat at the back?
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: I got the real I got the dad Mode one.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: You got the cool one I've got, you got the
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: cool surf one.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: I've got a new one coming.
• 37:18
  Speaker 4: Oh jeez, must be nice. This one's just a freebie.
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: This one just someone who wants to with the odd one. Ah,
• 37:27
  Speaker 4: I don't know, that's mine. How many how many electric
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: bikes do you need?
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: I needed a new one because the one I've got
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: is not powerful enough for all the hill.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: Hey, we have a little update. A little while ago
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: would have been last year, the end of November.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: Can you believe it's nearly the end of fair? But
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: I can't. I cannot, I cannot. Where does the time go?
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Where did it go? Lost it? I'm thirty five this year. Yeah, okay,
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: you're forty. I'm thirty eight. Yeah, your wife's forty though
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: these gray hairs.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: Bro Anyway, we did the calendar, the raaunchry raunge calendar.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: He did.
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: You may be wondering, Ash, how much money did we raise?
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: Because we were donating all proceeds to a great charity
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: called rise Up. They support victims of domestic violence. Ash,
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: have a guess how much money we will be donating.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: Fifty bucks, A little bit more than that. It is
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: three thousand, five hundred and fourteen dollars will be donated
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: to rise Up.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: That is outstanding, and that is because of the listeners.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: So thank you so much for your support. That is
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: a roundom applause.
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's worth a round the clause.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: Are we are a clapping podcast?
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: Now?
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Now where's two doting clappers?
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I really appreciate the support. We do have
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: some calendars left, so if you would like to hit
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: your hands. I know we talked about the year going
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: so far, but.
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: There's plenty of time. We'll had two extra months at
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: the year. He got nine months to enjoy the calendar.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: That's all they have to do is put the two
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: front months at the end. Just roll it on into
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty six. Yes, March twentieth.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: This guy is good a business. We will put a
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: link in the shows. We will put the link in
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: the show notes where you can buy the calendar. But
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: a huge thanks for all your support.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: And we obviously need to do like March twentieth as
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: a two doing Dad Day or something. Why is that
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: again because we did twice cops.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that is. That is quality control on that
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: calendar seems to.
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: But but if you haven't bought one, it's a great calendar. Yeah,
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: there's a couple of mistakes in there, but ignore it
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: doesn't matter.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: Now it still rolls on. I think if it didn't
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: roll on, if it threw every other day, it's just numbers,
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: just numbers.
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: It doesn't it doesn't make any major impact.
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's the calendar exactly?
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: No one.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: You should buy one way to buy in the calendar
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: for the dates to the pictures. That's for the days anyway,
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: that's good. That's good gear.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: And on that note, we will get out of here.
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: You've got to drive home. I'm going to pick up
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: the kids.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: Ashy. If you've enjoyed this episode, what.
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: Should you do?
• 39:58
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• 40:02
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• 40:09
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• 40:10
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• 40:15
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• 40:21
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• 40:32
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• 40:36
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