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*BONUS Episode* Let's Talk · WRTR Real Talk Radio

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  Speaker 1: WRTR Real Talk Radio guest DJs like digital shows, show
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  Speaker 2: All right, blacks, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to a new week
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  Speaker 2: of both WRTR Real Talk Radio and Talk to Trees
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  Speaker 2: with my guests.
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  Speaker 3: So today, Hey, what's up y'all?
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  Speaker 4: Nothing, Living, life, surviving.
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  Speaker 5: I hear you, I hear you.
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  Speaker 2: So we wanted to do something a little bit different
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  Speaker 2: for the holiday season because you know, it's Thanksgiving. This
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  Speaker 2: this is out here just trying to you know, live,
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  Speaker 2: trying to be well, and political climate and everything that's
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  Speaker 2: happened in this currently happening in the world. Just every
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  Speaker 2: day a new headline, you know, and it's very easy
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  Speaker 2: to uh find yourself lost in the sauce, especially if
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  Speaker 2: you aren't a person that has subscribed to politics or
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  Speaker 2: you know, really current events and things, you know, things
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  Speaker 2: that haven't really impacted your life. You don't really know
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  Speaker 2: what's going on, and you haven't really made you know,
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  Speaker 2: those motions to kind of get it.
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  Speaker 5: Well. Now you don't really have that choice anymore.
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  Speaker 2: So Teresa and I were talking on inbox and stuff,
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  Speaker 2: and we decided to, you know, just put together a
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  Speaker 2: black wellness podcast for just this evening on you know, yeah, yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: absolutely so for my demographic and everything, tell the listeners
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  Speaker 2: a little bit about yourself, Miss Trees.
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  Speaker 4: All right, y'all, Well I Miss Trees. Okay, I have
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  Speaker 4: a podcast called Talk to Trees. It's Instagram based. Come
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  Speaker 4: and see it at the real Miss Trees. You know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm just a woman from the d m B trying
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  Speaker 4: to live this life. Enjoy life, that's all.
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  Speaker 5: You know.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just a working woman. I'm a mom, and I'm
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  Speaker 4: just here to enjoy while i'm here.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And she also does, like she said, she does a
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  Speaker 2: weekly podcast. And one of the things that I like
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  Speaker 2: about your podcast is the fact that you take, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you take the opportunity each week to just come out,
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  Speaker 2: sit down and just you know, sort out wellness tips
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  Speaker 2: for people. And I was like, you know what, I
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  Speaker 2: like that, you know what, let me try something new
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  Speaker 2: this week, you know, yes, absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: Everyone, Well not every Wednesday, guys, but every other Wednesday,
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  Speaker 4: okay at eight pm Eastern time, just join in and
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  Speaker 4: we just talk about life and really just unload. Yeah, unload,
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  Speaker 4: be real with one another, no judgment. That's it here.
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  Speaker 5: So maintaining black wellness in this political climate. So yeah, in.
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  Speaker 2: True WRTR fashion, one of the ways that we usually
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  Speaker 2: start to show is we start with our moods and
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  Speaker 2: we start with, you know, well today, We're gonna do
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  Speaker 2: well when I grow up, and I'm gonna.
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  Speaker 5: Talk about, you know, a black therapist. But in the meantime,
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  Speaker 5: what's your mood like this week? My streets, how you feeling.
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  Speaker 4: My mood this week? I am feeling very happy to
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  Speaker 4: eat No, I am, I am. I'm excited. I'm excited.
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  Speaker 4: You know. I love fall and I love this time
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  Speaker 4: of the year because I'm really a person that loves
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  Speaker 4: to get into themes around the house. So it's just
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  Speaker 4: this week is a feel good week. My nine to
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  Speaker 4: five is thriving, and we're making way at our gental.
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  Speaker 3: Office, yep, and I just feel good.
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  Speaker 4: I feel blessed because things could be worse. So that's
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  Speaker 4: why I'm That's why I'm move this week, happy and thankful.
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely love to hear it.
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  Speaker 2: My mood is kind of all over the place, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm feeling like more so I'm trying to get into.
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  Speaker 5: The holiday spirit.
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  Speaker 2: One thing about holidays, it's not necessarily you know, always
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  Speaker 2: reflective of a fun time for me. So I find myself,
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  Speaker 2: you know, these days, just trying to get back to
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  Speaker 2: myself and kind of just into the groove of the holidays,
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  Speaker 2: not necessarily the undertones all the you know.
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  Speaker 5: Everything that goes on with the holidays, but just you know,
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  Speaker 5: just being in.
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  Speaker 2: A mood to receive you know, the warmth and I
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  Speaker 2: guess overall fellowship and everything.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So yeah, I mean it is what it is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So let's kick off this talk and starting when
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  Speaker 2: I grow up. So when I grow up, I want
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  Speaker 2: to be like doctor Nami Phyllis Clark. So doctor Clark
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  Speaker 2: wasn't just a therapist. She was a pioneer who understood
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  Speaker 2: that mental health is crucial for the well being a
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  Speaker 2: black folk. So she was born in nineteen seventeen, so
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  Speaker 2: that should tell you. And the way that I guess,
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  Speaker 2: do you remember back in the day, they had the
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  Speaker 2: doll test where the children would look at different dolls
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  Speaker 2: and like the kids would go and they would go.
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  Speaker 5: It was like a psychology test. Okay, dolls were laid out.
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  Speaker 2: It was a black doll, white doll, you know, just
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  Speaker 2: it was two dollars of white doll. Most of the
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  Speaker 2: children would pick the white doll, thinking that the white
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  Speaker 2: doll was better, and they would ask them probing questions
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  Speaker 2: like which doll is better, which doll is prettier, and
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  Speaker 2: those kinds of things, and it kind of it kicked off,
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  Speaker 2: well not kicked off, but it at least in my opinion,
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  Speaker 2: and started one of the bigger conversations about what it
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  Speaker 2: is that's forced on us as a community and how
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  Speaker 2: that reflects in how we view ourselves. I mean they
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  Speaker 2: were asking, right, you know this doctor. She started those conversations.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, definitely somebody I want to be like when
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  Speaker 2: I grow up. And as we're talking about mental health
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  Speaker 2: and how to be you know, black today, right, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: it's all the homage to her, because we can't move
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  Speaker 2: forward until we know where we've come from.
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  Speaker 4: Right. Well, I now, as you say that, I do
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  Speaker 4: remember seeing those the doll sessions, and that's interesting to
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  Speaker 4: hear that children would, I guess, migrate towards the white doll. Right,
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  Speaker 4: That's what I mean. Even in the stores, you know,
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  Speaker 4: you have Barbie or you have the Cabbage Patch doll,
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  Speaker 4: you have the brown one or the white one, and
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  Speaker 4: you know justice, even you know black little girls they
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  Speaker 4: go for the white ones all the time. I think
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  Speaker 4: one year, I remember asking my daughter, why don't you
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  Speaker 4: want the brown one? Just to hear what a response
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  Speaker 4: would be. How come you didn't pick that one? Why
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  Speaker 4: this one? You know?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's always mind blowing to me because you know,
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  Speaker 5: I don't have children, So it's it's mind blowing to
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  Speaker 5: me to be able to ask my peers on you know,
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  Speaker 5: how you know they view or how their experiences with
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  Speaker 5: their kids. Yeah, to see that and wow, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I kind of you know, forced it one time, Like,
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  Speaker 4: of course, my daughter has plenty of dolls that are
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  Speaker 4: tan and that are cream, and there's been times where
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  Speaker 4: I was like, no, we're gonna get the brown one.
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  Speaker 4: Let's get the brown.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
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  Speaker 4: You need to be connecting wow yourself in every moment,
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  Speaker 4: you know.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, So let's talk about this political the
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  Speaker 5: impact of the political climate right now. You want to
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  Speaker 5: get into that.
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  Speaker 2: So everybody knows by now Trump one, we are all
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  Speaker 2: sitting here, there's a lot of talk back and forth,
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot of speculation, nobody really knows what to expect.
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  Speaker 2: Also have some myths versus reality that we can get
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  Speaker 2: into a little bit further into the show. But you know,
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  Speaker 2: with everybody feeling a lot of different types of ways,
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  Speaker 2: it's often it's very hard to find your balance, right.
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  Speaker 2: Us as the community, we've always been told to, you know,
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  Speaker 2: just been taught to in the face of adversity, just
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  Speaker 2: put your best.
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  Speaker 5: Foot forward and just pass through and keep going this,
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  Speaker 5: that and the third.
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  Speaker 2: But now we're in a we're in an era to
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  Speaker 2: where it feels like it almost feels like, uh, everything
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  Speaker 2: that we've worked for is being snatched away like one
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  Speaker 2: big move.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, just like that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, all of the steps right, the bricks.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and for the majority of the community, I mean
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  Speaker 2: the majority of the community actor right, it was ninety
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  Speaker 2: two percent black women. Shout out to y'all because it
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  Speaker 2: was it was twenty two percent of us that couldn't.
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  Speaker 5: Get it right for me and demographic, but you know,
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  Speaker 5: shout out to y'all. Y'all got it right. But even
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  Speaker 5: that being said, it's you know, it can feel like
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  Speaker 5: a lot of this stuff is and taken away from us.
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  Speaker 2: The games that we've made, a lot of the movements
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  Speaker 2: just bam.
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  Speaker 4: Pulled away just like that.
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  Speaker 2: Unbelievable, and it's very hard to keep your head up
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  Speaker 2: and push forward. When you're feeling that way, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's unrealistic almost to think that people will just be
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  Speaker 2: able to turn the other cheek and move forward. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: with you, what have been some of the things that
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  Speaker 2: you've witnessed recently that have kind of made you say hmmm,
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  Speaker 2: kind of made you say what.
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  Speaker 4: Things to make you say hmm?
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  Speaker 5: I honestly, as far as wellness and everything.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I.
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  Speaker 4: You honestly have to grab yourself and not not go
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  Speaker 4: too far out in the water because you will have
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  Speaker 4: high blood pressure, be upset. You know, you be taking
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  Speaker 4: steps backwards in your mind just thinking about where we've
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  Speaker 4: come from. So for me, the first stage, of course,
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  Speaker 4: it's acceptance, you know, and it's hard to accept such
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  Speaker 4: a horrible decision. So and like you said, I think
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  Speaker 4: we all we just don't even know what's gonna happen.
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  Speaker 4: So I think right now it's a little bit on edge.
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  Speaker 4: You know, we're kind of on edge. I'm kind of
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  Speaker 4: on edge, like what's gonna transpire in so many different areas. Education,
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  Speaker 4: you know, government benefits, older people, our senior citizens, so
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  Speaker 4: many concerns, you know, so getting into wellness, you have
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  Speaker 4: now we are in the times where you need to pray,
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  Speaker 4: you need to meditate, you need to push all the
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  Speaker 4: positivity you can, and right in front of you surround.
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  Speaker 5: Yourself with uh huh, No, I was gonna just on
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  Speaker 5: the praying part. So we're talking about black wellness and everything,
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  Speaker 5: and when it comes to like spiritual emotional community, all
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  Speaker 5: of those wellnesses, like, how is it? You know, I've
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  Speaker 5: heard a lot of talk with people saying, oh, you.
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  Speaker 2: Just gotta pray, set and a third And I mean,
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  Speaker 2: while that's a very novel concept, you.
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  Speaker 5: Know, how is it?
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  Speaker 2: I've seen people they're questioning everything right, Oh yeah, oh yes,
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot that has been taught to us in
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  Speaker 2: our community that just simply isn't you know like you said,
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  Speaker 2: like you said, you know, it's like you want to
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  Speaker 2: you want to keep faith, but it's very hard to do.
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  Speaker 3: So it is.
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  Speaker 5: It is.
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  Speaker 4: Even my oldest daughter, she's about to be sixteen, and
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  Speaker 4: when the election night happened, she asked me. She was like, Mom,
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  Speaker 4: how is it that God has allowed so much stuff?
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  Speaker 4: She was like, you know, even from the very beginning,
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  Speaker 4: haven't we gone through the worst? How could this person
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  Speaker 4: that is so powerful, how could you have allowed so
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  Speaker 4: much pain?
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  Speaker 5: On us.
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  Speaker 4: She asked that straight, straight up fifteen about the sixteen.
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  Speaker 5: Wow, yeah, yeah, that's tough. What did you How did
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  Speaker 5: you respond? I mean, what did you say?
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  Speaker 4: I told her, you know, on a on a spiritual
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  Speaker 4: and biblical side that you know, just like there's a God,
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  Speaker 4: there's also a devil, you know, who has power and
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  Speaker 4: had power and flex their forces, and that's shown up
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  Speaker 4: in the most horrible ways, you know, including slavery and
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  Speaker 4: including what you see right now.
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  Speaker 5: You know, Taylor Swift, I'm kidding. I'm kidding which you say,
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  Speaker 5: I said, Taylor Swift?
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  Speaker 4: Now, it is a lot, but it has really exposed
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  Speaker 4: where people stand, you know, really a lot of them
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  Speaker 4: have always stood.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's true.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that America, I think that as a
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  Speaker 2: country we've just been I.
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  Speaker 5: Think it's become comfortable for white people.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it's become comfortable for them to just
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  Speaker 2: put it on paper now because it's all of the
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  Speaker 2: things that we've known to be that play out in
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  Speaker 2: our faces all the time that we point that we've
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  Speaker 2: consistently been able to point at and be like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: so just so you know this is going on and
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  Speaker 2: is right here, and here's an example, but see now
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  Speaker 2: with you have like the head bigot run in the country.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and everybody.
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  Speaker 2: It emboldens everyone else to do so much more. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: we look at his first term and all of the
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  Speaker 2: things that have come about.
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  Speaker 5: The Karen thing, that that was literally birth. The idea
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  Speaker 5: of a Karen was birth from that first presidency.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely, I think that the country and I want to
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  Speaker 4: say a good friend of mine, podcast Buddy Kinter, actually
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  Speaker 4: spoke on this. I think that America and a whole
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  Speaker 4: we're under like the most largest narcissistic umbrella.
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  Speaker 3: We have ever seen.
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  Speaker 5: Oh that's perfect, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Because it's like this, it's this weird illusion of oh no,
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  Speaker 4: I don't feel that way. I don't believe that, right,
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  Speaker 4: but fueling it and helping it at the same time.
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  Speaker 5: Or not my tractions, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 4: Crazy?
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  Speaker 5: Strange?
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  Speaker 2: It is strange, and watch it play out. Everybody wants
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  Speaker 2: to use the spirituality. As you know, y'all did not
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  Speaker 2: vote for that black woman because you said for whatever, Like,
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  Speaker 2: you had so many different forces at play. You had misogyny,
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  Speaker 2: you had misinformation, And it is my personal opinion that
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  Speaker 2: a lot of what people are seeing MH like on
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  Speaker 2: social media and stuff like you look at the fact
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  Speaker 2: that elon X or Twitter or whatever, and then you
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  Speaker 2: see how everything now is algorithm. Everything is run by
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  Speaker 2: an algorithm, and so the same things that I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: as a black gay man, you're not going to see
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  Speaker 2: as a straight black woman. However, every now and again
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  Speaker 2: you might see something different. And I think that a
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  Speaker 2: lot of that has been used to you know, I
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  Speaker 2: feel like, you know, a lot of that has been
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  Speaker 2: used to, you know, win the election, because you now
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  Speaker 2: have a lot of people coming out and they're like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know that this was going on, and I
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  Speaker 2: didn't know that that was going to happen.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, yeah, so much maulation and control.
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  Speaker 2: Right, because when you would all watch the news and
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  Speaker 2: we'll be like, I know, white people are seeing this,
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  Speaker 2: and they this, that and the third. But who's to
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  Speaker 2: say that they even saw half of the things that we.
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  Speaker 4: Do, right, And that's where you know, research and caring
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  Speaker 4: enough to look further has to happen. But I definitely
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  Speaker 4: feel like the algorithms are highly controlled. Can you imagine
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  Speaker 4: what a Caucasian person's feed really looks like, Oh.
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  Speaker 5: I don't want yeah, yeah, I honestly, I'm gonna be honest.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I have Caucasian friends, and I feel that
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  Speaker 4: one of them. I literally feel like she has come
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  Speaker 4: off of social media because of what her algorithm has
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  Speaker 4: displayed to her.
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  Speaker 3: M wow, yep.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel that it was so it was so
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  Speaker 4: foul and eye opening, she doesn't even want to see it.
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  Speaker 4: And just like that professor said on that interview, I
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  Speaker 4: forget what college that was. Was it Princeton? He told
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  Speaker 4: that woman at the interview, you don't want to believe it.
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  Speaker 4: You don't want to believe that it's exactly what it is.
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  Speaker 5: There's a lot of that. There's a lot of that.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, a lot. So that's why it's this narcissist, delusional,
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  Speaker 4: unaccountable one thing.
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  Speaker 5: It is weird. Yeah, there are ways to even maintain
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  Speaker 5: your mental health as you go through this. First thing
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  Speaker 5: listeners that I.
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  Speaker 2: Would recommend is a black If you are black and
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  Speaker 2: listening to the sound off my voice right now, get
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  Speaker 2: you're black ass a black therapist, amen, you hear me?
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  Speaker 2: Because there is nothing like now therapy. If you can't
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  Speaker 2: afford a black therapist, one is not available to you.
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  Speaker 5: YadA YadA YadA, Fine, get you a therapist.
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  Speaker 2: But one of the benefits of having a black one
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  Speaker 2: is because a lot of the times you don't have
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  Speaker 2: to then stop and then dissect how you feel as
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  Speaker 2: it relates to being a black Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you don't have to explain the nuances and the
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  Speaker 5: tricks of the trade of being black to somebody that's
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  Speaker 5: not black, that you know, may have a hard harder
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  Speaker 5: time understanding.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't always have that. I mean, you don't
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  Speaker 2: have to deal with that when you have a black therapist.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because he can relate.
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  Speaker 5: They can Definitely.
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  Speaker 2: I can tell you having a black therapist myself, maybe true.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you that I don't have to worry about
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  Speaker 2: the nonsense. It'll be a conversation like, oh, well these
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  Speaker 2: white people did this, that and the third. Yeah, kind
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  Speaker 2: of like it. It catapults over all the bullshit that
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  Speaker 2: you got to go back and explain this, that and
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  Speaker 2: the third and then fight with therapists back and forth
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  Speaker 2: and argue they want to challenge your thoughts.
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  Speaker 5: I've had to deal with all of that with a
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  Speaker 5: black therapist straight.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you have to.
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  Speaker 4: You have to confide in someone that can on this.
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  Speaker 4: When we're talking on this page political that can relate
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  Speaker 4: to you on.
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  Speaker 5: Some level maybe you know.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, I don't.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what that looks like with having a
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: white therapist and expressing these things, right.
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: I'm looking I'm actually looking for a therapist online right now.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: What you said, you're looking for it now, it's one
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: that I know.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: I'm looking for his credentials.
• 21:19
  Speaker 5: Ah, gotcha, relady.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, so do you know of any organizations or
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: initiatives right now focused on black mental health or wellness?
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: Ah?
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I mean other than the you know, lines that we
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: already have with you know, therapists otherwise, because I want
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: I've heard of different groups organizing, but I haven't heard
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: anything concrete yet because everything's just still you know, everything's
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: developed every day.
• 21:46
  Speaker 5: It's a different headline.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Walmart just rolled back their d programs and stuff like.
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: What y'all rolling back crisis and equality? Go Walmart.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: No, I don't know of any groups. Oh here he
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: is right there. I don't know any groups. But I
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: do know a black male therapist who is based in Virginia,
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: a short care therapeutic services. He not only is he
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: a therapist, he actually so he specializes in family restoration,
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: marriages and family bringing, you know, blended families, everything that
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: falls under the family umbrella. But he also does something separate.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: He does a male group several times a month and
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: he travels I have to get the areas. I know
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: it's Virginia. But he does virtual sessions. He is very
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: passionate about the black community and the wellness of black males.
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: When I tell you, when I listen to him, just
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: express what he's seen for the past few years and
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: the relationship of women and black men, but also black
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: men and what they go through. He we need like
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  Speaker 4: ten million of him. You know. He is there for
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: men that are going through all types of things, right,
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: all types of things from childhood to relationship to family.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: You know. So I highly recommend him to all black
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: people and especially black men, right.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: And I'll tell you what like, as a black man,
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: there are you know, really the only community outreach that
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: I know them personally are usually the churches.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: The churches.
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's usually the churches.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: Like when I was growing up, they had so many
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: different kinds of clubs and maybe they still have.
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: Them, like mentorship group, maybe retreating, but yeah, we had we.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Had boys and girls club, growing up. That was always
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: given the negative connotation because you know, you had that,
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: but they.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: Brother, my little brother had the big brother.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: That was so good.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but those are things where you need. You need healthy,
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: thriving black men that are willing and able to reach back.
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: You know, right right now we're in a we're in
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: a world where men have hurt and have suffered so bad.
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: I don't even know if big brother how much that's
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: around right now. That's just sad. But that's a needed
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: that's a needed entity there.
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah, definitely. So I'm gonna pull up some groups and
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: everything happening right now.
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, different groups.
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: Absolutely. We'll take a quick break and be right back
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: with that info.
• 25:03
  Speaker 6: All right, it's come to my attention that some of
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: you ladies are out here running on fumes, not getting
• 25:11
  Speaker 6: proper rest, exhausted and teetering on the edge of burnout.
• 25:16
  Speaker 6: So let's talk about the seven types of rest that
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: every Black woman needs. Rest is non negotiable, repeat after me.
• 25:24
  Speaker 6: Rest is non negotiable. And once you start incorporating these
• 25:28
  Speaker 6: seven types of rest into your lifestyle, I promise you
• 25:32
  Speaker 6: you will feel better. Number one is physical rest, most
• 25:36
  Speaker 6: commonly thought of as sleeping and napping. And while that
• 25:40
  Speaker 6: is physical rest, that is just one form of physical rest,
• 25:43
  Speaker 6: known as passive physical rest. There's also active physical rest,
• 25:48
  Speaker 6: which includes things like yoga, meditation, massages, and things of
• 25:53
  Speaker 6: that nature. Number two is mental rest. I want you
• 25:56
  Speaker 6: to think about mental rest as anything that allows you
• 25:59
  Speaker 6: to under pack the rigors of the day, So things
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: like meditation, mindfulness activities, deep breathing, and even regular therapy
• 26:09
  Speaker 6: sessions with your mental health professional. Number three is emotional rest,
• 26:13
  Speaker 6: and this allows us to rid ourselves of any excess anxiety, worry,
• 26:18
  Speaker 6: and self doubt. It also allows us to feel our
• 26:21
  Speaker 6: feelings and then release and move on. Emotional rest also
• 26:27
  Speaker 6: helps us gain clarity on our environment, when who's in it,
• 26:31
  Speaker 6: how we need to create boundaries and teach people how
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: to treat us. Number four is spiritual rest. Now don't
• 26:38
  Speaker 6: confuse this with religious practices or rituals. Spiritual rest is
• 26:42
  Speaker 6: really about allowing our selves time and space to connect
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: with something greater than ourselves and hone in on our
• 26:49
  Speaker 6: purpose and our destiny. Number five is social rest, and
• 26:53
  Speaker 6: while it's number five, it's equally as important as all
• 26:57
  Speaker 6: of the others. Social rest is when we take an
• 26:59
  Speaker 6: opportunity to detach ourselves from people in real life and
• 27:04
  Speaker 6: in digital spaces. So that can include something like a
• 27:07
  Speaker 6: social media detox, or even planning a solo vacation, and
• 27:11
  Speaker 6: if push comes to shove, sitting in your car for
• 27:14
  Speaker 6: thirty minutes alone can definitely be a form of social rest.
• 27:18
  Speaker 6: Number six is sensory rest, because sensory overload is real.
• 27:22
  Speaker 6: Some ways to get good sensory rest is by dimming
• 27:25
  Speaker 6: the lights, reading a book, putting on soft music, or
• 27:28
  Speaker 6: even indulging in listening to white noise. And finally we
• 27:31
  Speaker 6: come to number seven, which is creative rest, and for
• 27:34
  Speaker 6: some people this one can be hard to wrap your
• 27:37
  Speaker 6: mind around. Creative rest is essentially you taking a break
• 27:41
  Speaker 6: from always being the producer, the one who is manufacturing
• 27:44
  Speaker 6: or conjuring energy, and stepping into a space that allows
• 27:48
  Speaker 6: you to indulge in the creative energy of others. So
• 27:52
  Speaker 6: that could look like going to an art gallery, a museum,
• 27:56
  Speaker 6: a walking tour of your neighborhood or the neighborhood or
• 27:59
  Speaker 6: city next door, or even doing the nature walk or hike.
• 28:03
  Speaker 6: Black women, please start indulging in rest as an act
• 28:06
  Speaker 6: of self preservation.
• 28:08
  Speaker 7: So it appears that the ku Klux. Americans have added
• 28:10
  Speaker 7: a new code word to the dog whistle glossary.
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: Someone on Twitter made a list.
• 28:14
  Speaker 7: A few of them are woke, affirmative action, critical race theory, Chicago,
• 28:20
  Speaker 7: urban thug, you people, and the latest one is DEI.
• 28:24
  Speaker 7: In twenty twenty three, the Colonize, a collective drafted at
• 28:27
  Speaker 7: least sixty five laws targeting diversity, equity and inclusion programs,
• 28:31
  Speaker 7: and the argument is that Americans should get jobs and
• 28:34
  Speaker 7: education based on merit rather than race or any other
• 28:37
  Speaker 7: marginalized identity, which is ironic because if not for this
• 28:40
  Speaker 7: country's long standing reputation of systemic discrimination, there would not
• 28:44
  Speaker 7: be such an emphasis on diversity, equity or inclusion. And
• 28:48
  Speaker 7: if there are any doubts that the gripes about DEI
• 28:51
  Speaker 7: are rooted in racism, that term is now being weaponized
• 28:54
  Speaker 7: against any black person that the lynching lizards want to invalidate.
• 28:57
  Speaker 7: Last year, former president of Harvard Claudine resigned from her
• 29:01
  Speaker 7: position after being attacked by an anti DEI activist who
• 29:05
  Speaker 7: used exaggerated claims of plagiarism to push her out. Earlier
• 29:09
  Speaker 7: this year, commentator and racist Charlie Kirk made headlines for
• 29:13
  Speaker 7: saying that if he saw a black pilot on an airplane,
• 29:16
  Speaker 7: he would immediately question their qualifications. As you all know, recently,
• 29:20
  Speaker 7: the Key Bridge in Baltimore collapsed, killing six people.
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: Which somehow ignited a fury.
• 29:26
  Speaker 7: Of racist tweets towards the mayor of Baltimore, Brandon Scott.
• 29:30
  Speaker 7: They labeled him a dei mayor and blamed him for
• 29:34
  Speaker 7: the bridge collapsing. Y'all, these are the motherfuckers who are
• 29:37
  Speaker 7: allowed to vote and have driver's licenses. And lastly, I
• 29:42
  Speaker 7: proposed a new term that is actually very fitting when
• 29:45
  Speaker 7: you think about it, supremacy.
• 29:47
  Speaker 5: Higher were back blacks, and I got that in folio.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: So there are several impactful programs, all right, uh yeah
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: through my mind. So uh they focused on the wellness
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: of black men, focusing on mental health, community support, and
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: personal development. So here are the more notable ones that
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: I've been able to pull up.
• 30:12
  Speaker 5: So there's the Black Men's Health Initiative.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: This program aims to improve the health and wellness of
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: black men through education, outreach, and advocacy. It focuses on
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: addressing health disparities and encourages black men to.
• 30:29
  Speaker 5: Engage in primitive health measures. So that's more so healthy,
• 30:33
  Speaker 5: you know, for the body kind of Okay, you have
• 30:38
  Speaker 5: the Brotherhood slash Sister Soul.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Now, this organization serves both young men and women, and
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: it has a strong focus on empowering black and Latino males.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: So they provide that kind of holistic support through mentors, mentorship, education,
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: looks like wellness, and some programs that even address mental
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: health and you know, mental health and leadership and personal development.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: So you know for black for looks like just marginalized
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: groups moment mainly.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Okay, what was the first one called?
• 31:13
  Speaker 5: It was called the Black Men's Health Initiative.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, another one that I'm am looking up.
• 31:21
  Speaker 5: It's a Black Men's Lab.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: So this initiative looks like it focuses on pretty much
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: like creating safe spaces for black men to kind of
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: discuss their experiences, their challenges, their successes.
• 31:34
  Speaker 5: Looks like it offers, Oh.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: This one offers workshops, supports and events, events and mental
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: health and community connections.
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: Should know what There's a page on Instagram. I wish
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: I should have written that down, guys. That reminds me
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: of that they it seems like it's a safe space
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: for men and it's a group of men sit around
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: and they share so many things. It's been nice to
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: just sit back and watch it. I gotta get the
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: name of that. Get the name of that.
• 32:06
  Speaker 5: Yep, there's one the one hundred Black Men of America.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: This organization focuses on mentoring younger, young Black males and
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: providing them with positive role models. Okay, yeah, but I
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: mean it's not just all about males. I mean, like
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: I said, there are there are programs about women too,
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: or for women.
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: Okay, let's see, I am looking up in its sister circles.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: So yeah, it's these are community based support groups created
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: for black women's safe spaces and everything. It's the Black
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: Women's Health Imperative, much like the ones.
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: That I just spoke about with the brothers. It's the
• 32:50
  Speaker 5: same for the sisters.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: But one of the things that pulled up for me
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: for the women is this initiative called Sisters Taking Action.
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  Speaker 4: Sisters taking Action.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, sisters taking action. Like So, this program focuses on
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: empowering Black women through health education, advocacy, and community organizing,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: and it aims to address health disparities to promote wellness,
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: particularly an underrepresented community. So if you guys want this
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: info hit us up at w R t R Real
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: Talk Radio or at trees at the Real Mistreat.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Yes, I just want to tell everyone that.
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: I follow someone on Instagram mm hmm that I believe
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: is great for male leadership and women as well. His
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: page name is I Am Isaac Carry.
• 33:53
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: I just think he's very insightful and he has a
• 33:59
  Speaker 4: great skill and breaking down one thought process on many
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: different things in such a relatable way. And I just
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: feel like all people, people you listening to us, our
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: black people, please follow I am Isaac Carry.
• 34:21
  Speaker 5: Yes, he just speaks and gives.
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: You answers on things without a debate.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: Love that.
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: So another thing that I kind of wanted.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: To touch on. It's like perception versus reality. I talked
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: about it a little bit earlier. Given what we actually
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: know as of today, like our time of recording November
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: twenty six, it's a lot of questions. It's a lot
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: of perception versus actual realities. A couple of them that
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about, uh, is like the perception
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: first economic economic growth for everybody. M some may highlight,
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: like you know, from Trump's previous terms, low employed rates.
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: It's important to recogniz yes, they are. They really are.
• 35:26
  Speaker 5: You're kind of like, you gotta.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: Look at what what's actually happening here.
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: So this person that we you know is now the president.
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: Elect mm hmm, and he's already cutting out, like he
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: has not even been given the keys yet, girl, and
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: he is already cut Like again, I would use walmart
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: In as an example. They've now cut out their DEI program.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: How many jobs off break are like from jump, how
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: many jobs did that cut? That's before he even gets
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: or before they even get into the intricacies of everything.
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah, law and order policies, like you.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: Know, you know, he's going to improve safety, and the
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: reality is the narrative of law and order is often
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: a champion during Trump's previous presidency. It's it disproportionately affects
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: us as black people because.
• 36:25
  Speaker 5: Now this guy has put into play like.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: He does not believe that police officers should be punished
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: or penalized for like if I if they go out
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: and you go to raise your hand and you got
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: your keys in your hand and they think it's a
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: gun and they then they shoot you. At that point,
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: he doesn't should be charged, right, not because he was
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: just doing his job.
• 36:54
  Speaker 5: Yep.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: So the Brionna Taylor's the just the George Lloyd's the
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: number like the growing and ever, like there's so many
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: hashtags of people that have been wrongfully unallied by police
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: and officers that have based convictions. Now there's like, oh, well,
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: Trump's gonna bring lawn oil and he's just that the
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: third We're already over police in our community.
• 37:24
  Speaker 5: But ye are well.
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: I want to say first, starting with Walmart, honestly, black
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: people should boycott Walt Walmart.
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: I've been saying that, but go ahead, black.
• 37:35
  Speaker 4: People built Walmart. I noticed that maybe if started off suburbs,
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: and but that's so disrespectful.
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: It is all the money that.
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: Has been spent from the black dollar in Walmart. And
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: we we have seen where Walmart stands.
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: Before. Again before Trump even gets the keys, Walmart was like.
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: Oh okay, yeah, that is wild. Yeah. And with the police,
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: what do you call it? What is it called the police?
• 38:17
  Speaker 5: Uh?
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, the same thing that they're doing for him and
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: his charges immune immunity. Yeah. I mean we saw back
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: when he was president before how empowered they felt and
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: how and what they were doing. It was at an
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: all time high. I was saying it honestly kind of
• 38:38
  Speaker 4: went down. I think maybe if we need to pull
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: up the statistics and see did it kind of decrease
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: under Biden. I believe it did because when he was
• 38:49
  Speaker 4: in it was at an all time high police brutality.
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: And now it's going to.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: Go right back that way.
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: It really is.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: And I do not I can't.
• 39:01
  Speaker 4: Even say I don't understand how a country can vote
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: someone in that says something like that, because I do understand.
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: But not only has he spoken our little crazy universe
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: in world has spoken that they are okay with police
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: getting away with killing others. Like like you said, the
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: KKK has been put in uniforms and empowered all over again.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Right, And to what you said, you said you.
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: You do understand. I don't now I can. I can
• 39:34
  Speaker 5: accept the reality.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's right here in our faces and it's
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: and don't like I'm not shocked. Don't like that statement
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: doesn't mean that I'm shocked. I'm saying I don't understand
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: the logic behind it, because you're talking about, oh, well,
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: we're going to just make this whole country better. You know,
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: first it was the terror. It's like people want.
• 40:00
  Speaker 5: To dance around the truth. Instead of actually tackling what
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: the issue is.
• 40:07
  Speaker 8: Potentially a real big problem with racism. We've got a
• 40:12
  Speaker 8: real big problem with drugs. We've got a real big
• 40:16
  Speaker 8: problem with alcohol.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: We have a really big problem with under educated people
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: in high places. We have let under educated people literally
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: run this country. Leon Leon Elon can't run a goddamn
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: he can't run a hot dog stand.
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: And a reality TV entertainer is what Donald Trump what is?
• 40:47
  Speaker 5: And now we're all want survivor like exactly, it's like, you.
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: Know what, it's so crazy when he first was elected
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: in just that alone showed you where we were in
• 41:03
  Speaker 4: a hole, not us them that You people come off like.
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: You are so educated and you're so bougie and.
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: You require so much when really you don't require anything.
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: You require some really, and you guys are the thugs
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: you always have been and started with slavery. You all
• 41:24
  Speaker 4: are the bad ones up the street because where you
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: are willing to let a clown and a destructive person
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: lead you because you don't require better.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: The rhetoric like the nationalism, come on, now, y'all nationalism.
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: This is a man that had a show called The Apprentice.
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: You know he's made some hotel decisions, with dad helping
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: him from the very beginning, allowed to run a country
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: without a degree in any law, any anything.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: I just it's so funny watching this clown show and
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: everything that plays out. But it's disheartening because like earlier
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: in the show, you don't know where you stand with
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: you know, you mean, while them that get assistance or
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: some of those programs, you don't know where you stand
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: with your disabled cousin that maybe gets food stamps, like
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: you don't know, Like there's a lot at stake, and that's.
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: A black person, don't you Just Sometimes I am just
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: in awe at what life really has been and what
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: it has become. Okay, how does how do things get
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: this much out of control? And I have to keep
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: going back to the beginning. Clearly the foundation was out
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: of control from the very beginning, But how does one millions,
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: one millions let something just happen like this? To me,
• 43:12
  Speaker 4: it speaks to who everyone is, it really is, and
• 43:21
  Speaker 4: they are willing to lie about their own selves. Oh
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: I don't. I don't stand for the bad stuff. I
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: don't stand for the bad stuff. I just want to
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: be able to purchase my home and get tax cuts.
• 43:33
  Speaker 4: And have eggs cheap. That's really.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: You sold out your neighbor for some cheap eggs, like
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: and you want the rest of us to believe that.
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: It's like they are what he is.
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: You know, we watched Trump kind of just lie and
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: then he will say, oh, I didn't say that, I
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: didn't do that. His followers are the same, they voted
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: for him. Oh, but we don't stand for bad. We
• 43:59
  Speaker 4: don't stand for what he's doing.
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: Oh we don't know what that is. Right. Let me
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: ask you this. Have you know when it comes to
• 44:10
  Speaker 5: the black community.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: I know that around that time that Kamala first said
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: that he was running.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of our.
• 44:20
  Speaker 5: Community kind of disappointed me a little angry on I
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: came off with a little angry on quite a few
• 44:27
  Speaker 5: podcast episodes of this show. So we came hate us list. Thanks,
• 44:37
  Speaker 5: But I want to know, have you personally.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: Had to roll back some friendships or maybe some relationships
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: or you know, even with family ties, have you had
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: like people that were around you, because I mean, I
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: know that as we enter this Thanksgiving week, it's a
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: couple of days away, so a lot of us will
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: that we're being thrown into that time where we gonna
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: see them aunties and uncles.
• 45:10
  Speaker 5: You don't like, what do you do with that relative
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: that voted for Trump?
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: It's like that, I don't have one that's gonna be
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: immediately in my home first one. I can't even imagine
• 45:22
  Speaker 4: what some families are going through right now.
• 45:24
  Speaker 5: Hold on, it be low key, somebody reaching for a
• 45:27
  Speaker 5: turkey wing and as they pick up the turkey wing,
• 45:30
  Speaker 5: they say, well, you know, I go to Trump. I
• 45:33
  Speaker 5: don't give it.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna vote no woman as they bit into
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: their turkey leg and then everybody's just sitting there with
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: their mouth a gate.
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: So that's when.
• 45:45
  Speaker 4: That's when you offer your amazing strawberry dessert with peped
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: on this moment.
• 45:50
  Speaker 5: It uh.
• 45:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's cut off for you know. It's so funny
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: because when you go on Facebook, you know, Facebook is
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: kind of like the cookout family reunion where everybody everybody's
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: there and everyone's whispering in their own little groups at
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: the cookout. I saw someone's post and say, you know,
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: I have found myself cutting off people that I've known
• 46:25
  Speaker 4: for years, and I stand behind that. I have, you know,
• 46:32
  Speaker 4: unfollowed people there wasn't really friends with. I have unfollowed
• 46:34
  Speaker 4: some people when I saw where they stamm and those
• 46:39
  Speaker 4: were just like acquaintances, family members. I don't have any
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: immediate family. Oh wait a minute, Wait a minute. I
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: have a close family member that refused to vote either
• 46:53
  Speaker 4: way because he just couldn't vote for a woman.
• 46:58
  Speaker 5: Okay, so I haven't.
• 47:00
  Speaker 4: Cut him off, but we don't talk a lot. But
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: he knows that I know that, he knows he's a clown.
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: And I won't speak on what my relation is with him.
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: I have some friends who have not said who they
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: voted for. Actually, it's disheartening, and it's it's like when
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: when Steve Harvey said, back on the back in the
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: day going, I was at Kings of Comedy, you just
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: let me further know where you stood, even with your silence.
• 47:42
  Speaker 4: I have a friend where yeah, it speaks volumes. I
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: attempted to talk about it with a friend. She told
• 47:48
  Speaker 4: me I'll be right back. Never came back.
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: Never came back, and.
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: Let me say that, let me back that up. Days.
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: It was days, and when she came back, she did
• 48:01
  Speaker 4: not pick up the conversation where we left. I asked her,
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: never answer, never answer, yep. And it's so unfortunate but
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: the decision has to be made. I do believe that
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: black people have taken it on a chin enough. I
• 48:21
  Speaker 4: think that we smile in the face of our enemies
• 48:23
  Speaker 4: enough that being Hollywood, you know, you see all those
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: celebrities mixed in, and hey, it's my brother, it's my sister,
• 48:31
  Speaker 4: and it's mixed. It's white and black. Prove it. You
• 48:34
  Speaker 4: my brother, you my sister, prove it. So I'm all
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: for cutting them off. I am. I will cut my
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: mama off if she vote for Trump. No.
• 48:45
  Speaker 8: And you know what, it's very, very real because this
• 48:52
  Speaker 8: election unlike any of the past.
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: Like I want people to have these real conversations because
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: a thing, for a very long time, we've you know,
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: it's always been you know.
• 49:05
  Speaker 5: It has been the price of eggs or.
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: You know whatever that has you know, kind of been
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: I guess the deciding point on people in an election.
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: But this particular election was simply, in my opinion, about morals.
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: Morals they sell you on point yep.
• 49:25
  Speaker 5: You you're voting against who I am. You're voting against
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: my well being. You're voting for the person that then
• 49:35
  Speaker 5: believes me to not be equal to you as a person.
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: You're voting for a person that wants to see my
• 49:44
  Speaker 5: life be either or very very hard.
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not just one of those things to where
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: you can I voted for Trump and pass the you know,
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: past the grapes or the cranberry sauce or whatever like
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: it's very.
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 50:09
  Speaker 5: I want to say, No, it's a deal breaker.
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: It's a deal.
• 50:13
  Speaker 5: Breaker for both family friends. Yeah, I don't like. You
• 50:19
  Speaker 5: are dangerous to me.
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm, you're dangerous to me. You know. People say
• 50:24
  Speaker 4: if a person can't take you for their word, they
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: can't take you for nothing. They can't believe you for nothing.
• 50:29
  Speaker 4: My dad always says that. But in this, when it
• 50:32
  Speaker 4: comes to this, if I can't, if I cannot see
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: the moral compass in you, then I can't see you
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: in any way. And your lack of moral compass is
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: a complete uh insult and execution of my moral compass.
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: And we can't we can no longer be very true,
• 51:07
  Speaker 4: and we have to stand somewhere. If you don't stand
• 51:10
  Speaker 4: up somewhere, then you will never stand. And that's what
• 51:15
  Speaker 4: you know, black people have to learn even until today,
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: and that's what they had a little bit more back
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: in the day. That's why a civil rights movement happened.
• 51:22
  Speaker 4: It has to be a unison solid movement and as
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: well as white people that know right from wrong got exactly.
• 51:34
  Speaker 5: But in order to get there, you have to a
• 51:37
  Speaker 5: lot of us have to heal ourselves.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: And as we get back into talking about therapy and everything,
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: you have to work on you first before you do
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: anything else. You have to put on your mask before
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: it's just the other passengers in the cab, right, because
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: it literally that's how it works. And a lot of us,
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: a lot of us have been force fed a lot
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: of our belief systems.
• 52:07
  Speaker 5: We've been force fed religion.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: We've been force fed our education, We've been told what
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: to like, what's hot, what's not, and nobody like everything
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: about individuality has kind of been blurred throughout throughout the past, uh, at.
• 52:27
  Speaker 5: Least I don't want to say ship.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: At least my lifetime, it's been increasingly more blurred to
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: blur out the individual and to kind of force you
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: into this box.
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: Mm.
• 52:40
  Speaker 5: And I think for a lot of people.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: Like the purpose of going to therapy is to reconnect
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: to your sense of self.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
• 52:50
  Speaker 5: I think that's missing for a lot of people.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: People don't know what they people don't know what they
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: sand for anymore. Simply now I keep clearing my voice
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: or clearing my throat because my voice is acting up,
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: but no worries.
• 53:11
  Speaker 5: I apologize. But the sense of self is.
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: It's missing, and it shows you have people out there
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: that don't know their ass from a hole in the wall, right,
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: and all down for people trying to find themselves. I'm
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: all down for people, you know, trying new things and
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: just trying to develop a better sense of life for themselves,
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: but not at the expense of someone else's life.
• 53:47
  Speaker 5: Right, that's right, we are right now.
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you believe differently from me, so I feel like
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: you should not be here.
• 53:58
  Speaker 4: Everything seems like it balled down to morals and then
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: it showed who was selfish. It just so shows who
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: is selfish. And so you have some people, many people,
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: as we're seeing that, their stance is how was this
• 54:18
  Speaker 4: going to benefit me?
• 54:20
  Speaker 3: And that was it?
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: That was their only thought process. They didn't they didn't
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: consider anyone else in that, And that's just you shouldn't
• 54:33
  Speaker 4: do that. I can't say that's not how it works,
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: because clearly that's how it's working.
• 54:38
  Speaker 5: But you shouldn't do that.
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, the very thing that they are so excited about America,
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: Oh our America, Oh the great oh the place of
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: the free, and the place that's so different and eloquently
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: set apart from other places. Is the exact opposite, really is,
• 55:05
  Speaker 4: which is why, which is why they don't want to
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: stand at the football games. Yeah, I said, big, but
• 55:19
  Speaker 4: big narcissistic coat we're wearing.
• 55:23
  Speaker 5: It really is so as the draw the show a
• 55:27
  Speaker 5: little bit too close and towards the end, I know.
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: But do you have any kind of what advice do
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: you think that you would give to somebody who was
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: searching for a therapist that kind of understands you know,
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: I'm black trying to find somebody that's for me. Like,
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: what kinds of things can you offer from your personal
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: experiences that have helped you kick the right therapist?
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: My advice would be, you know people always say sometimes
• 56:00
  Speaker 4: you do have to shop around, you know, you have
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: to try and see who you mess with, of course,
• 56:04
  Speaker 4: see what feels right.
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: But in my people, I'm here and if they don't
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: like them, they just up and stop, They just stop nore.
• 56:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would say in my experience, and I and
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: I do think I left up because I think I
• 56:23
  Speaker 4: have the most best therapist ever.
• 56:27
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 56:28
  Speaker 4: I don't know how I did life without them before medium,
• 56:32
  Speaker 4: but he is he does have a spiritual base in him,
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: and he is not just preaching to me like a
• 56:40
  Speaker 4: you know, a preacher wood, but it is for me
• 56:44
  Speaker 4: comforting and knowing there's another foundation there in him and
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: it just peaks in here and there in our sessions,
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: not all the time, and that's that's only that works
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: for me. But for people that are looking keep all
• 56:59
  Speaker 4: of that in mind. Is that something that you're open to,
• 57:01
  Speaker 4: Is that something that would help things or give you
• 57:06
  Speaker 4: more clarity or confirmation. I suggest you find a black therapist.
• 57:14
  Speaker 4: And there's plenty of amazing female therapists. Shout out to
• 57:19
  Speaker 4: doctor Brian. I think she's doing a really good job.
• 57:21
  Speaker 4: She's new, like just a sensation on Instagram and everywhere else.
• 57:26
  Speaker 4: But I have a male therapist, and I think that
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: the male leadership is so needed.
• 57:34
  Speaker 5: Yeah, for me, I used to have a lot. I
• 57:38
  Speaker 5: used to do black women therapists, only gay and black.
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: So it's just like I wanted a black female therapist.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: But as I'm working through some more of my deeper
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: family issues, I find that, you know, my current male
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: therapist is a lot more impactful in where I'm going.
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: Some of the avenues I would offer you guys are
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: beetterhelp dot com.
• 58:04
  Speaker 5: They they have and talk space because then you.
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: Go on and depending on when you go, you may find,
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: you know, you'll get a gauge of different therapists, so
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: you may not have the same one depending on what
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: issues you're dealing with. So it gives you an opportunity
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: to kind of shop around and decide what it is
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: that you like, see what things you like, what things
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: you don't, and you know what ultimately works for you.
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: I have a gay by a friend that you know
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: has a white woman therapist for god knows what, but
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: it works for him.
• 58:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so you know, it is what it is.
• 58:45
  Speaker 4: It is what it is. And I just want to
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: let everyone know if if you're looking for a therapist,
• 58:50
  Speaker 4: then I can recommend one. You can go to his
• 58:53
  Speaker 4: website and just check everything out, uh, request a consultation.
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: The web page is acts to to one that services
• 59:03
  Speaker 4: and acts as acts and then the number two to
• 59:07
  Speaker 4: one that services Okay, yes, and that's the acts from
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: the Bible.
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: Get it's all right, work, yes, thank you so much
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: for you know, sitting down and talking with me today.
• 59:24
  Speaker 5: Thank you making me feel all good and everything.
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: So yes, once again, I wanted to float your information
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• 59:35
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• 59:38
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• 59:55
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• 1:00:05
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• 1:00:10
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• 1:00:14
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  Speaker 4: e okay. And I just want to stay on the
• 1:00:23
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• 1:00:28
  Speaker 4: You have to pour into you at any level. For me,
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 4: I want flowers in my bedroom every day. I want
• 1:00:34
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• 1:00:38
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• 1:00:41
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• 1:00:46
  Speaker 4: the little things.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah, because on the TV five minutes then you ready.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: To ready to set that on fire?
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 5: You are?
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: You are? You don't find you?
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• 1:01:06
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  Speaker 2: Check out her show because you know she ain't rape
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: like you know I tend to be. But she you know,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: it's good, it's wholesome fun. I've never heard you cuss
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: on your show.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, could hear that you say that?
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 5: Well, you don't cuss to us.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: I'm trying.
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  Speaker 4: I'm trying to stop. I'm trying to stop.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 5: And that's a good habit to her, that's a good
• 1:01:32
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• 1:01:48
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• 1:01:51
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• 1:01:55
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• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: the weekends now, just see if we appeal to a
• 1:02:01
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• 1:02:03
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• 1:02:09
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• 1:02:11
  Speaker 5: Every Yeah, we.
• 1:02:13
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• 1:02:15
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