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How to Attract Divine Masculine Energy · Mindful Success Path

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  If you're wondering how to attract healthy masculine energy into your life because you're totally tired of the guys who are making you pay for half a date.
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  Split bills breadcrumb you and basically act like they're the prize Then this video is for you because I'm gonna be sharing how I began to attract that healthy Masculine energy and actually manifested my husband in four months after I started understanding the concepts That I'm going to be explaining in this video today.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Abayo.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest the life that you desire without all the extra stress, drama, and chaos that most people are accustomed to.
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  We talk about.
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  Manifestation.
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  We talk about neuroscience.
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  Uh, we talk and lately we're talking a lot about relationships because we've been in the season of love around here.
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  So we've been talking a lot about, uh, masculine and feminine energy dynamics and how that works based on my 15 years of experience coaching women, mostly women, and some men with money and their businesses, and inevitably, Hearing all the relationship drama that came along with it So if that's something that you're interested in make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell So you don't miss a single video that you have we have coming out On this channel make sure to give it a like because it helps us get it in front of more people and lord knows Women need this content because they all keep negotiating against themselves in relationships And hell, maybe we can have some dudes watching this too so they can understand what it is that women actually want and what makes a polarized relationship so that both parties are happy.
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  And of course, if you want to work with me, if you want to buy our courses, free resources, all that stuff is in the description below.
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  All right, let's get into it.
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  How to attract healthy, masculine energy.
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  First, I want to talk about why you keep attracting wounded, masculine energy.
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  And what I'm about to say is going to hurt, right?
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  So a lot of women don't like what I'm about to say, but I don't care.
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  I'm going to say it anyway, cause I'm like your big sis.
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  And I need to tell you number one, If you are in a situation where you keep attracting men who are asking you dumb questions Like what do you bring to the table or demanding that you pay half the bills or not in their protective energy?
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  You need to understand something the common denominator is you And we are going to talk about how to stop attracting that energy and start attracting more of the healthy masculine stuff But you have to take responsibility and realize something's going on with you That keeps attracting These type of men.
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  I remember, uh, before my, I met my husband, I was dating someone and this was when I was starting to get really into this topic a few years ago and I kept hearing about this.
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  What do you bring to the table conversation?
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  And I, I, we weren't dating anymore, but I went back to this person I had dated and we were friends.
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  And I said, you never asked me that question.
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  I don't think I've ever had a man asked me that question.
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  And he's like, yeah, that's because when we were dating, I didn't have to ask you that question.
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  If a man needs to ask the question, something's already wrong.
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  I was like, Okay, fair point.
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  All right.
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  So realizing the common denominator is you that you keep pulling these kinds of dudes in.
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  And then the second thing that I have to say here, well, there's three things that women don't like when I say it.
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  The second thing is that if you keep attracting it, there is something that In you that is attracted to it.
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  So a lot of times when it comes to relationships, but it also applies to the types of clients and employees and any relationship whatsoever that we attract.
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  But in this case, we're talking romantic relationships.
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  A lot of times what ends up happening is.
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  Most people did not come from households with very healthy relationships and no one taught anybody how to be in relationship, similar to how no one taught anybody about money and nobody taught anybody about their own bodies.
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  So we're just running around like a crazy dysfunctional mess that's been going on in our lineage for decades.
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  So a lot of times, right, whatever you grew up is what you're going to think is normal as an adult until you realize That maybe what you grew up with wasn't necessarily healthy.
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  So, for example, I know people who grew up with a lot of drama, chaos, addiction, uh, codependency, uh, in the household, and they just thought it was totally normal to date crazy people.
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  They just did.
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  They thought it was totally normal because that is what they had seen growing up.
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  Or I will see women end up in situations because of how they've been conditioned that it's normal that they pay half the bills, not realizing that they are negotiating against themselves.
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  And as my husband says, because he loves to negotiate, never negotiate against yourself.
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  Ever because it's never going to end well and women are negotiating against themselves in relationships all the live long day.
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  So you have to realize that because of your conditioning, because of what you grew up with, uh, because of what society told you, you might be attracted to things that are not necessarily.
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  healthy.
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  It's kind of like that paradox where a woman will have a guy that treats her like a queen but then she thinks he's boring and instead will go after like the dramatic crazy narcissist guy because that's what turns her on.
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  And as one of my friends who talks a lot about this subject, her name is Katie Anya Carey, And I interviewed her back when I was still doing my business podcast.
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  She talks about this subject a lot and she says women need to learn how to be turned on by what is good for them and to them.
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  A lot of women are turned on by what is totally horrible for them based on chemistry rather than being turned on by men who treat them like queens.
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  So that is the subject.
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  A situation as well that women need to take responsibility for And the last thing that i'm going to say about this that a lot of women don't like to hear is yes You are going to have to change first before a man Changes a lot of women don't like to hear that.
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  I did not like to hear that Many years ago when I started learning about This subject because it really interested me.
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  I didn't like it either So I understand if you don't like it, but I can tell you now as a married woman that Men respond to your energy men respond to women granted We're constantly responding to each other, but oftentimes women are the keeper of the relationships.
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  We're the ones who are more relational um And if we change our energy in relationships the men respond You To that change of energy.
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  So that is why oftentimes women have to go first and let's be real.
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  There's a lot more women Googling this information than maybe men are.
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  So take some responsibility and start learning how to shift and change your energy and your reality when it comes to the kind of men that you are attracting.
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  Okay, disclaimer out of the way.
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  Now let's talk about what healthy masculine energy versus unhealthy masculine energy looks like, right?
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  So the divine masculine versus the dusty masculine for lack of a better term, I'll have to come up with another term to not steal, steal that one, but, um, healthy masculine energy, divine masculine energy, it's provision and money is a part of that provision.
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  Provision, masculine men like to provide.
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  They do and and one of the things to keep in mind is that most men are masculine, right?
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  Most of them are but a lot of times women don't allow them to be in their masculine So you could have a totally great guy who is very healthy masculine in every other way But it's still making you pay half the bills, right?
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  So and again, that is societal programming that is societal conditioning That is maybe what you saw at home, the messaging that you got as a kid.
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  Like I said, women have been taught to negotiate against themselves in relationships constantly for the last few decades in the name of empowerment and equality, not realizing that they are shooting themselves in the foot or the repercussions that that would cause in their romantic relationships.
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  And we can see it.
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  It's a mess in the West.
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  So I'm not saying anything.
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  Nobody watching this video doesn't already know.
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  So healthy, masculine energy, divine, masculine energy, provision, protection, huge, right?
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  Do they protect you?
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  And usually they are the one pursuing you.
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  You are the prize.
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  When you're talking about unhealthy, masculine energy, a lot of the times that those dudes think they are the prize and that they don't have to do any work at all, right?
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  And that you should be paying half the bills.
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  Because you are a grown woman and they're asking dumb questions.
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  Like, what do you bring to the table?
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  And what I find so interesting about this whole conversation is that a lot of those guys who do that, like the red pill guys.
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  Let's call them that.
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  Keep attracting the very women that they are bitching against and the women who are in their hyper masculine only fangirls era, whatever, keep attracting the red pill guys.
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  These guys are attracted to each other like magnets.
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  They keep ending up together and the crazy part is they don't realize that they keep ending up together because the masculine women keep attracting the feminized men and Vice versa, right?
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  So That's so you understand the difference between like healthy masculine behavior and unhealthy masculine behavior.
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  An area where there's a lot of nuance is control.
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  So healthy masculine men want to have control, of course.
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  An example of that might be I want to have control of the environment because I want to make sure everyone is safe, right?
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  That's very different than controlling, which is manipulating you.
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  Huge difference.
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  FYI.
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  So now that we've established where the women need to take responsibility, sorry, yes, it does lie on you, but I promise that if you decide to take on that responsibility and you start playing with these energies, you're going to start seeing results and you're going to be shocked by how men respond differently to you.
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  And now that we've also established what is healthy masculine energy versus unhealthy masculine energy.
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  Let's talk about how to attract that divine.
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  Masculine energy.
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  So number one y'all need to learn how to slow down ladies, right?
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  Especially those of you who are very high achieving very much in your heads Hyper vigilant sometimes hyper independent.
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  I know because I was one of those You need to learn how to slow down and when I had a mentor tell me this many years ago I wanted to strangle her to death Through my computer screen.
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  I was like, what do you mean slow down?
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  Why can't they just catch up?
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  That that's where my brain was going at the time.
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  Now I understand what she was saying.
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  I needed to slow down, not because I was achieving too much quote unquote, but because I was way too much in my head.
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  All my energy was up here, not down here.
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  And if you want to attract a divine masculine energy, man, you have to start embodying a divine.
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  Feminine energy woman and the feminine is about the body and the masculine is about the head and you have women running around Ragged with all their energy up here.
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  I could talk to women and feel it I've done thousands of coaching hours over the last 15 years and I can tell the difference between a woman who has all her energy Up here, she's like frantic up here and over complicating everything and over analyzing everything and ruminating on a conversation for three hours And asking 15 different people for their opinion And going nuts up here in the head versus a woman who is slowed down and relaxed You need to learn how to slow down and relax And start coming back into your body, lots of different ways to do that.
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  That's why you see people saying, go get manis, go get pedis, go get facials, uh, go, because all that stuff helps you, uh, feel sensation in your body and relaxes you into your body.
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  There's also breath work, uh, certain types of movements that you can do, like hip circles and all that kind of stuff.
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  It's a really great way to slow down and move that energy.
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  Back into your body.
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  There's also lots of meditations and activations You can do that focus on the body itself and moving that energy down and some of you and this was the case for me You're gonna have to stop working So much because there's no space for a man So That's for some of you.
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  Okay.
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  Next one is you have to start learning how to Receive, uh, and this is receiving in all areas of your life.
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  It could be receiving money.
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  It could be receiving support It could be receiving a damn compliment because some of you don't even like to receive a compliment It makes you very uncomfortable to even receive a compliment from anybody You'll be like, oh, that's a cute dress and you'll be like, oh, no, it's nothing I got it like secondhand.
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  It was only like five bucks.
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  That's what you do Learn how to receive or you'll go to first dates and offer to pay half You For a grown man.
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  He invited you out.
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  He should be paying.
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  Why are we offering to do that?
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  Why why are we negotiating against ourselves in these situations or you tolerate a man making you pay half the bills?
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  Why why why?
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  We don't need to be doing that because it cuts off his masculine energy totally and if there's any hope of like, let's say you're in a relationship already and the You the polarity and the dynamic is kind of off.
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  If there's any hope at all of him becoming more masculine, you have to become more feminine first.
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  And fair warning, you may start becoming more feminine and realize that he doesn't respond to you.
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  And then we're going to be having another conversation about whether or not that relationship is going to keep going.
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  Working for you or not that does happen.
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  So learning how to receive I've said this a million times when I was ready to manifest my husband, one of the experiments that I did is I practice receiving from the masculine all around me.
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  So if a male colleague wanted to help me solve a problem, I let him do it.
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  That's actually how I met my husband.
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  Um, you know, if I'm at a coffee shop by myself reading a book and a guy wanted to buy me a coffee, I let him do it.
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  Uh, I remember a colleague took me out to dinner one time, uh, just to like talk shop and stuff like that.
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  And he's like, order whatever you want off the menu.
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  It was like a French restaurant.
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  He paid for everything.
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  I let him do it.
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  Right.
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  So, uh, learning how to receive and learning how to receive.
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  In particular, I know that a lot of women struggle with this because a lot of times they'll think like, oh, if a guy gives me something, there's strings attached, I'm gonna have to give him something.
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  If he pays for my dinner, I'm gonna have to give him sex.
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  No, you don't have to give him anything, right?
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  He's just being masculine.
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  Man, that's what he's doing.
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  The masculine is meant to give and you are meant to receive.
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  It does not mean that you need to go tit for tat because that's how we end up in very transactional relationships that don't work.
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  Okay, so that's number two is receiving.
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  And then the third one is Learning how to lean back, surrender and let go, right?
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  So if you do these three things, you'll start more easily attracting divine masculine men.
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  At first, what this might look like if you are single is just surrendering to whatever cycle of life you're in right now.
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  Surrendering to the unknown.
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  I know that when I was ready to manifest my husband, um, and I was ready to just create this whole new life for myself based on more feminine principles, my previous life fell apart.
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  And I had to be okay with that and go through the unknown and surrender to that process.
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  I would end up meeting my husband in four months.
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  So it might look like that.
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  Uh, if you are single, uh, learning how to surrender instead of controlling everything all the time.
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  If you're dating, it might look like, how about I don't text the guy 15 times sending paragraphs.
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  About how I feel, how about I don't do that.
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  Um, it might look like not sending anything and shutting up and letting him pursue you rather than you pursuing, pursuing him because you're trying to control the whole situation and trying to get some sort of an outcome, which is a very masculine thing to do and will only attract feminine men who think they are the prize, right?
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  If you keep doing that.
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  And then.
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  In my, in relationship, right?
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  That's an example of what it looks like.
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  It also looks like not solving men's problems for them.
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  Um, you know, uh, those of you who are, I've heard this happen a lot, maybe you're married or you're already in a relationship and you're the one used to solving all the problems.
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  He's basically become for lack of a better term, lazy, um, which is.
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  The terminology that a lot of you are using.
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  Well, the way to get him out of lazy, uh, and out, you out of solving all the problems is to stop solving problems and letting things go.
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  And eventually, if he's a healthy masculine guy, he's going to step up and start solving problems.
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  All those problems for you again, and you will restore the polarity in the relationship.
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  This might look like, um, refusing to go 50 50 on bills.
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  So this might look like maybe you've been married for a while.
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  You thought that was normal.
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  You thought that was the thing.
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  And now you feel like roommates because you basically are roommates, not husband and wife.
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  And then going to your husband and expressing your feelings about it, about how you want him to start being more of a provider and then allowing him the space to do it without jumping in and trying to solve the problem.
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  So that would be an example of letting go and leaning back.
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  In relationships, um, and again, it's the same thing with, you know, having them solve problems or do stuff around the house.
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  The one that comes up all the time is the trope about taking the trash out.
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  He doesn't take the trash out.
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  Okay, leave it there.
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  And eventually he's going to take it out, right?
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  Rather than you controlling and manipulating and commanding and bitching and nagging for him to do it, because then you become his mom and he becomes your child.
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  And then the polarity dies.
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  He is a grown man.
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  Treat him like a grown man.
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  And eventually it does start to shift, right?
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  And that divine masculine energy will start to come up.
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  And if it doesn't, right, cause like I said, that could happen.
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  You may need to have a conversation about whether or not that is the type of relationship that you would like to stay in.
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  And if you're watching this video, thank you.
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  I'm going to take a stab at it and venture and say it's probably not or else you would not be looking at this video but you have to do the experiment and give it the time first to know.
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  I'll catch you guys on the next one.