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Ep 3 | New Moon Clearing: Sensitivity, Truth, and the Waters Within · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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our sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. So this recording is about 10 plus hours
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before the new moon. So it certainly has brought
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up a lot for me personally in the past 40 hours
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or so. I speak about The moon, you know, I have
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my rise and realign lunar letter, which is a
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weekly offering. You know, and I touch on, you
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know, what the phase of the moon is at that moment
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and how it may be affecting us as sensitive women.
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I think it's just something that as sensitive
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women. We may not be aware. I know I didn't used
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to be aware. And I wasn't always interested in
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astrology. It never made sense to me in my younger
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years. But about 12 and a half years ago, the
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human design system was brought to my attention.
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And that was probably the first time that I started
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being curious, like, oh. So I do have like this
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natal chart that gives me some idea of how I'm
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designed to be in the world, you know. But it
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definitely didn't speak in positive terms when
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I first heard mine because, you know, one of
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the things I recall is that she said, you have
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this channel of struggle. And I was just like,
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I do not need to hear that. I mean, I had just
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welcomed my third child into the world at 42.
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And I was thinking like, oh, this is pretty rough.
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I have, you know, a six month old and I have,
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you know, pre teens. So, um, but why I mentioned
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it is because, uh, my moon sign in my human design
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chart is actually the gate of the fighter. But
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more recently, the phases of the moon have really
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piqued my interest because, you know, as I delve
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deeply into quantum biology health training and
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really started to understand more about my body
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and, you know, how it's designed, I mean, I was
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aware. you know, that it had an innate intelligence,
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but there was so much that I had never learned
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in, you know, conventional public schools in,
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in Massachusetts. And so as I, you know, understood
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more of like, okay, well, our bodies are comprised
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of you know, the majority is water, right? Like
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70 % water. And the planet is covered in like
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70 % water. And we know that the moon influences
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the waters, right? So why wouldn't we acknowledge
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that the moon also is influencing our human form
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because of the water that's comprised within
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our cells, within our brain, our heart, right?
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So... This is something that I share weekly because
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as sensitive women, we are the ones who can tap
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into this understanding often before we even
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are aware that it's speaking to us. But this
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is something that's really important to understand.
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If you're a sensitive woman, and again, I'm speaking
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to the roughly 20 % of the population, right?
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equal between males and females, but I'm primarily
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speaking to women because that's my path as a
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career woman and a mom and someone who just cares
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very deeply about the human experience and understanding
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ourselves so that we can really love ourselves
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and love our life and live as healthy and happy
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as is possible moment to moment. And so for sensitive
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women to understand what does influence us, right?
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Like if you were raised. being told you're a
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crybaby or you're too emotional or you're too
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intense or you're too much, right? Like that's
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something that we tend to then take on as a wound
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of our own, right? Like we believe what these
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other people are telling us. That's something
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that, again, I'm really passionate about raising
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awareness for sensitive women, that having a
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more finely tuned central nervous system, right,
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and a unique neuroanatomy, one that has a higher
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access to awareness and empathy, right, reflection,
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insight, creativity, you know, that. often goes
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unrecognized because these old beliefs that we
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took on about ourselves. And so the more I share
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for sensitive women to understand their unique
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anatomy, right, and also how the cosmos are influencing
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us and our experiences and how even our relationships
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right and the different um uh circumstances that
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our life presents us with like that's all part
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of how we um refine our understanding of who
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we are as sensitive women and what our gifts
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are you know what our talents are what our strengths
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are and being able to release those old patterns
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and beliefs and conditioning that do not allow
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us to really thrive and speak our authentic voice
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and you know expression So I was sharing that,
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you know, this past, you know, 40 plus hours
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has really been bringing up something for me
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and my personal journey and, you know, what I've
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encountered in a relationship. And I just. I
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really love that as we wake up more, right, as
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we rise up out of the old beliefs, the old conditioning,
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the old wounds, like we actually have the ability
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to feel and heal because You know, through our
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emotions, you know, that's energy in motion.
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That's often our silenced, right, voice, our
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suppressed voice, those old beliefs that just
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are still lingering, you know, that get activated.
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And they get activated not for our judgment,
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but for our ability to be with ourself, to be
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with. okay, what is arising? Like, why did what
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that person say have me respond in that way?
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You know, like to be curious about what it all
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means. You know, I know for me, a pattern I would
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have is, well, I just want to shut it down then.
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I don't want that person in my life. They're
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causing, you know, discomfort. But once you become
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a mom, you realize like, well, that's not healthy
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or helpful, right? I mean, this is not talking
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about setting boundaries as far as if somebody
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is being abusive to you, or things like that.
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This is more speaking to, you know, how we want
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to rise up out of our old conditioning so we
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can see the wound that was activated and how
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we responded. Because that's an honoring, right?
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That's an honoring of what is ready to be released,
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what is ready to be heard, you know, expressed,
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felt. And this is really important to understand
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because that's how we complete cycles and patterns
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that do not serve us. That is how we release
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what we carry that just creates some chaos in
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our frequency, right? At times, some interruption.
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And so I just want to speak to you know if you're
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experiencing some heightened sensitivity you
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know around this new moon you know that it's
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a call for you to tune in to really be curious
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like okay what is this about, right? Like if
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it's with a person, like I kind of described,
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just kind of being with yourself and okay, what
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moment did I feel that sensation? What moment
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did I say those words, right? And to be curious
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about what is coming up with this, what is being
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cleared through this, because that's the beauty
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of the new moon, right? If we can understand
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that you know we're not being negatively influenced
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in the sense of oh the new moon like what's it
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going to stir up you know that's a problem and
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see it more as ah what am I ready to face right
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what is ready to arise and to be released because
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again the new moon is about realigning with your
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truth, your authentic voice, your authentic expression,
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right? The wholeness of who you are. And so when
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we can really embrace like, okay, this new moon
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is assisting me, right? It's moving the waters
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within me, right? To again, get clearer about
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something that's been creating some interference.
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in your authentic expression. And I'm really,
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really grateful that, you know, my journey has
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brought me to this place to have this understanding,
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to have this space, to really honor myself and
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my journey and the people in my journey that,
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again, I may have these uncomfortable exchanges
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with from time to time, but It's really amazing
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how certain people have that capacity to really
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activate those old beliefs or patterns that are
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ready to be released. So I invite you to pause
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and connect with your breath. Like, be curious
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about what is this new moon clearing for you?
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Like, what is coming up for you? You know, and
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it can be in a whole variety of ways. You know,
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whether it's, you know, being triggered in a
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relationship, right? Something that you've...
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felt disempowered or felt like you had to prove
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yourself you know for me I'm unconventional and
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you know that's been something that I acknowledge
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not everybody can meet me where I am but there's
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certain times when you know I sense Like the
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possibility that somebody else could be judging
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the way I'm living my life because it's so different.
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But that doesn't make it wrong just because someone
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else may not be able to see it. And that's something
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that's really important for each of us to understand
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is anyone else's judgment is about them, right?
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I say, what someone else thinks of me is none
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of my business. But what I think of me, that's
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my business. So if I become aware that I responded
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to something someone said, I'm like, okay, where
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do I need to meet myself in this exchange? Because
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something came up within me. That means it's
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within me. And again, this isn't about making
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ourselves wrong. We're not wrong in our experiences.
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We really need to honor ourselves, honor our
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truth, and understand that what we feel is valid.
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You know, what we're experiencing is valid. But
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it's to be able to be with ourself and meet ourself.
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So something else that has come up. that I additionally
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wanted to just touch on is, you know, many of
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us, especially those of us who have gone to public
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schools, perhaps private schools as well. I went
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to public schools. But, you know, we're raised
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in a culture oftentimes to, you know, give our
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authority off to someone else, right? And early
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on, that's understandable. Our parents, our caregivers,
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you know, they're providing for us and they're
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also conditioning us. But as we get older in
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our development, you know, it's a time to really
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recognize like, yeah, where am I giving my authority
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to? And is that really what's in my highest and
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greatest good? Because, I mean, I... I support
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women of all ages, from their early 20s to really
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into 80s. You know, all of us are waking up at
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different times to our past conditioning and
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how it's prevented us from really living our
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most fulfilling life. And it's important. to
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pay attention to when are we giving our power
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away? And, and why? Why do we continue to give
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our power away to others? Right? And again, those
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early programs that we picked up, which is, you
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know, obey your parents, right? You go to school,
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well, the teacher knows we need to listen to
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the teacher, right? And we're taught about other
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authority figures, right? And so we're not typically
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raised to really honor our, ourself, our own
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internal voice, right? We're, we're really, um,
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that's just not the culture that most of our
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parents were raised in. So how could they provide
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that upbringing for us and so many times in adulthood
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right and again it can be all the way to to to
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their 80s and some people don't even question
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it in their lifetime so i honor wherever each
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woman is on her journey whatever stage or age
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she's at because the point is we want to wake
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up to our own you know, authentic voice and our
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own inner guidance and authority. And that can
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come through many different ways. The human design
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system is one that, you know, I've certainly
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trained in, and I'm a consultant on the business
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side. But there are other ways that just help
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us understand the importance of tuning in. And
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that's really what you know, prompted me to create
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the Realigned Journey, which it's a spiral of
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healing and remembrance to, again, help people
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remember their voice, you know, release what
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they carry, right? And reclaim their rhythm.
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Because you have your own inner guidance. We
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all do. And some of us come into this world with
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a real deep connection to our own inner guidance.
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And I would say, you know, my firstborn son,
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he's now 24. He was probably one of the ones
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that I noticed that he would not sway from what
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he wanted. And as a parent, you know, we kind
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of saw it as... or i'll just speak for myself
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i saw it as okay like he's he's difficult right
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i mean i can't remember even putting him in a
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car seat and him just being so clear that that's
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not what he wanted you know and he is what prompted
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me to even first hear anything about this high
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sensitivity trait. It was a book called Raising
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a Spirited Child. And that's when I first learned,
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you know, about this high sensitivity. And I
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didn't realize that it was also me until maybe
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four or five years later. And then it was like,
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a huge aha moment. Like it just made everything
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make sense because now I was approaching it more
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from my perspective, not as parenting a sensitive
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child, right? But it was more of understanding
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who I am as a sensitive being. And so this is
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why I, I'm really, again, passionate about raising
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awareness to what it means to be a highly sensitive.
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woman in particular um because we are different
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we have some different qualities and we're in
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the minority um but we really need to be tuning
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in and trusting our own inner guidance and trusting
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what's coming up for us because not everyone
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can see and feel and sense what we can. I mean,
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we literally take in more stimuli than people
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who don't have this trait. So, I mean, that's
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in all senses, right? I mean, most of us here
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about we have five senses, but we have over 30.
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And the more as... We become aware of being a
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highly sensitive person and how to tune in and
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listen to ourself. You know, that's when we really
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get to live more in alignment with our authentic
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self, right? And honor our authentic experiences
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and voice. So I really invite you to pause more
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to connect with your breath. Because your breath
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is your bridge. And it is what creates that space
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and that opportunity for coherence to arise between
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your heart and your brain. You know, let's do
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that together right now. Let's do that double
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inhale through the nose. Nice little exhale out
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your mouth. Just feel the shift with even one
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breath, right? And as you continue, I encourage
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you to keep doing this breath while I'm speaking
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to you so that you can create more space in every
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day for yourself to start recognizing some of
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the old patterns that are happening without your
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awareness because they're under the surface.
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And the more you create space by connecting with
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your breath, the more you can become curious
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about yourself, about your journey, about your
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emotions, about your thoughts, right? And to
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see how there is enormous power within you. But
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it's not something you were likely raised to
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recognize, to truly connect with, to really honor
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what was coming up within you. And so I really
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invite you in this new moon to, you know, take
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some time to really reflect on where can you
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create the space to get to know you. your heart,
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what truly matters to you, what you value, what's
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worth fighting for, for you. When I say fighting,
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I'm speaking from my, you know, my moon in my
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human design is the gate of the fighter. So it's
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what you find meaning in, you know, what you
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value. What's truly important to you? You know,
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how can you honor yourself, your path, your heart,
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what you care about more in each day? Because
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the more space you create to honor yourself,
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the more you're going to experience that in your
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life with others in your circumstances. Okay,
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because it's a gift of high sensitivity. But
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when we do not understand it, we often experience
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what I called being high strung. You know, it
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didn't matter how many people did validate me
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for being a good parent or, you know, whatever
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relationship it was in or whatever I was doing,
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right? Like if I was In that stress response,
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if my sympathetic nervous system was activated
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chronically and I did not have enough time in
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that relaxation response, right? Like that's
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where your true gifts are not fully being embraced.
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They're not fully being reclaimed because there's
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so much overstimulation going on. So I really
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invite you to pause, connect with your breath.
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Connect with your own inner compass, right? That
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inner guidance. Connect with your heart, what
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matters to you. And know that there's absolutely
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nothing wrong with you. There is nothing broken.
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But there's a lot that you can realign with that
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is more authentic and true for you. And again,
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if you're not receiving my weekly Rise and Realign
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page, which is realignwithmelissa .com slash
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links. You can see all of my science sensitivity
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that's released on Wednesdays. So I wish for
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you a new start, a new connection with your breath
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and new intentions that align more with who you
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truly are and what truly matters to you because
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you matter.