Latest / Willow Healing Matters Podcast / The Hidden Patterns Controlling Your Life | Shadow Work, Hand Analysis & Healing with Lisa Hedley
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- 0:40it's Catherine Crestani with another episode of Willow Healing
- 0:43Matters and today
- 0:43SPEAKER_03: I'm joined by the beautiful Lisa Headley.
- 0:46SPEAKER_03: So Lisa is a psycho-spiritual counselor,
- 0:48SPEAKER_03: transformation advisor and hand analyst who specializes in uncovering and
- 0:53SPEAKER_03: integrating the shadow side to help clients heal,
- 0:56SPEAKER_03: eradicate negative habits,
- 0:58SPEAKER_03: and liberate consciousness to actualize their higher self.
- 1:01SPEAKER_03: She has an educational background in Fine Arts,
- 1:04SPEAKER_03: Philosophy,
- 1:04SPEAKER_03: Transformative Learning,
- 1:06SPEAKER_03: Ashtanga and Therapeutics,
- 1:11SPEAKER_03: Yoga,
- 1:12SPEAKER_03: Hand Analysis and Thirting
- 1:15Her work is transformation training at the intersection of
- 1:18therapeutic and
- 1:19SPEAKER_03: spiritual frameworks as a science-based and intuitive healer.
- 1:23She's dedicated to guiding clients to discover and trust their
- 1:27own inner wisdom so
- 1:28SPEAKER_03: they can go deeper.
- 1:29SPEAKER_03: foster more meaning and joy and fully actualize their purpose.
- 1:33SPEAKER_03: So a big welcome to the show, Lisa.
- 1:35SPEAKER_03: Hi, thank you for having me.
- 1:36SPEAKER_03: What a pleasure to be here.
- 1:37SPEAKER_03: Straight away, I want to ask, what is a hand analysis?
- 1:41SPEAKER_03: Is it similar to palm reading or is it different?
- 1:44SPEAKER_00: So hand analysis does have its origins in ancient palmistry.
- 1:49SPEAKER_00: But it now has decades of scientific,
- 1:51SPEAKER_00: neuroscientific,
- 1:53SPEAKER_00: and psychological research to back it up.
- 1:55So we now know that there are more connections between the
- 1:59hands and the brain than
- 2:00SPEAKER_00: any other part of the body.
- 2:02SPEAKER_00: And the sensory cortex and the nervous system are sending
- 2:05SPEAKER_00: discernible signals to the hands that we can actually read.
- 2:08And it's really very fascinating because it essentially points
- 2:12to patterns.
- 2:13We find our soul psychology in our fingerprints and then the
- 2:17rest of the hands is
- 2:18SPEAKER_00: where we find the personality psychology.
- 2:20SPEAKER_00: So the fingerprints
- 2:23The soul psychology would be the life schools,
- 2:25your purpose,
- 2:26and the lessons.
- 2:27SPEAKER_00: And the fingerprints are fully formed in utero by 15 weeks.
- 2:32So before you're born,
- 2:34you have already decided these things for your life path.
- 2:38and then the rest of the hand the lines the shape the color the
- 2:42texture all of
- 2:43those things they change over the duration of our lifetime in
- 2:47response to whether
- 2:48we are actualizing that that soul psychology or not so I can
- 2:52see the shadow in the
- 2:53hands I can see the gifts and it's the entry point to my work
- 2:57because it gives me a
- 2:59shortcut essentially I can see very concretely where the shadow
- 3:02patterns are and
- 3:03SPEAKER_00: then it's easily accessible to go straight in and do the work rather than
- 3:07Spending hours and hours of time with a client trying to
- 3:10uncover that through conversation.
- 3:11SPEAKER_00: Fascinating.
- 3:12SPEAKER_03: I love that because it made me think a little bit of astrology,
- 3:16SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 3:16SPEAKER_03: how like if you actually listen to your astrology,
- 3:19SPEAKER_03: you kind of have from that moment that you come in.
- 3:21SPEAKER_03: But this is even before that, right?
- 3:23Like it's already imprinted because you don't know what day
- 3:26you're going to come
- 3:27SPEAKER_03: into this world technically because you could be emergency,
- 3:30SPEAKER_03: you could be,
- 3:30SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 3:31SPEAKER_03: and that sort of thing.
- 3:32SPEAKER_03: But clearly the soul already knows more than we do.
- 3:35SPEAKER_00: The soul has already made choices before it gets here.
- 3:38SPEAKER_00: Yes, it's very, very interesting.
- 3:41SPEAKER_00: In my mind,
- 3:43it definitely gives me a sense of courage and conviction around
- 3:47the choices we make
- 3:48SPEAKER_00: because it tells us,
- 3:49SPEAKER_00: yes,
- 3:49SPEAKER_00: I had a purpose when I came.
- 3:51SPEAKER_00: And I'm here to fulfill, you know, a certain kind of destiny.
- 3:54SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
- 3:54SPEAKER_03: And do you find I'm just looking at my own hand.
- 3:57SPEAKER_03: So obviously your fingerprints tend to stay the same, right?
- 4:01I don't know if your fingerprints stay completely the same for
- 4:04the duration of your life.
- 4:05SPEAKER_00: They're not going to change at all.
- 4:07SPEAKER_00: So yes, that's the soul psychology.
- 4:09SPEAKER_00: That's what you already decided before you were born.
- 4:11SPEAKER_03: And then the rest of your hand,
- 4:13if you make choices to change to go more aligned with your soul
- 4:18psychology,
- 4:18SPEAKER_03: do you find the hand starts to change?
- 4:20SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 4:21So obviously we all have things like a heart line,
- 4:24a life line,
- 4:25a head line.
- 4:26SPEAKER_00: And there are differences in those, obviously.
- 4:31SPEAKER_00: But those lines can also tell us where you've run into trouble.
- 4:34SPEAKER_00: There are various markers in those lines that
- 4:36SPEAKER_00: can tell us that there has been difficulty along the way.
- 4:40SPEAKER_00: A guarded heart line,
- 4:41SPEAKER_00: for example,
- 4:41is someone who probably had a really difficult time expressing
- 4:45emotions in their
- 4:46SPEAKER_00: family of origin and then learned to guard their heart.
- 4:49SPEAKER_00: And so that's a direct response to
- 4:52The Experiences That They Had In Their Childhood Other Things
- 4:56Like A Gift Marker
- 4:58For Example So There Are Lines That Are Gift Markers There Are
- 5:01Stars That Are Gift
- 5:03Markers Those Can Develop In Response To How We Are Actualizing
- 5:08Our Purpose Or Not
- 5:10There Are Also Challenge Markers That Will Also They Will Start
- 5:14To Form In Response
- 5:15To Whether We Are Usually Not In Alignment With Our Soul
- 5:19Psychology Because
- 5:20SPEAKER_00: Essentially
- 5:21If you're living your purpose,
- 5:22you're living in your zone of self-actualization.
- 5:25So you shouldn't necessarily have challenges in there if you
- 5:29are in alignment,
- 5:31correct?
- 5:32So if you're out of alignment,
- 5:34then you're starting to form challenges that are showing
- 5:36SPEAKER_00: And so on
- 5:53So it can be both something that is a gift or it can be
- 5:56something that is a challenge.
- 5:58SPEAKER_00: So the concentration says, you have a lot of this kind of energy.
- 6:01SPEAKER_00: What kind of marker is this?
- 6:03SPEAKER_00: Is it a challenge marker?
- 6:04SPEAKER_00: In which case, maybe there's some area
- 6:06SPEAKER_00: This is the thing about the gifts.
- 6:07SPEAKER_00: When you have a consolidation of energy
- 6:21SPEAKER_00: Those gifts will help
- 6:42Propel Your Gift Your Purpose Rather Those Gifts Will Help
- 6:46Bolster Your Purpose
- 6:48Those Gifts Are Really Exactly That They're Gifts Right They're
- 6:51Supposed To Be Used
- 6:52In Service And So Whatever Your Purpose Is Your Purpose Is Also
- 6:55Here In Service
- 6:57whatever that may be some people are here my best friend
- 7:00happens to be a love
- 7:01master she is here to live a life of her passions she's all
- 7:05about just loving the
- 7:06things that she does and following that and so it's less
- 7:09specific to her she gets
- 7:11to kind of design her life around the things that she loves we
- 7:15should all be doing
- 7:15that right but her purpose is to do that essentially so that
- 7:19she gets to lead by
- 7:20SPEAKER_00: example she gets to shine that light in the world by leading
- 7:24SPEAKER_00: through example.
- 7:25SPEAKER_00: Other people have much more specific purposes,
- 7:27SPEAKER_00: but we don't know that until we look at the hands.
- 7:29SPEAKER_03: That's so fascinating.
- 7:31And I love that you brought up that if you don't use your
- 7:34gifts,
- 7:34there are consequences.
- 7:36So a very concrete example I had happened to me where when my
- 7:39psychic gifts started
- 7:40SPEAKER_03: to come online,
- 7:41SPEAKER_03: I could hear things through my left ear.
- 7:43SPEAKER_03: So I would get these messages,
- 7:45SPEAKER_03: but then they started coming through for people that I love,
- 7:48SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 7:48SPEAKER_03: like family.
- 7:50and one of them was my grandmother who had passed and I could
- 7:53feel her coming
- 7:54through and I'm like I don't want to give that message to my
- 7:56dad I don't even know
- 7:57how to have that conversation because I was going through this
- 8:01and I just wasn't
- 8:02ready and I actually lost the hearing in my ear like for that
- 8:06week because I wasn't
- 8:07SPEAKER_03: listening and I knew oh wait okay
- 8:10I'm not I'm ignoring this I need to listen I just need to write
- 8:13down whatever's
- 8:14coming through and so then I rang my dad and he's like oh was
- 8:18this a dream it's
- 8:19like nope because I knew I couldn't try and discount it or put
- 8:23it to the side and
- 8:24SPEAKER_03: then when I read for him what came through
- 8:27he was actually incredibly accepting but then went into
- 8:30defensive dad mode and went
- 8:32okay but don't tell anyone about this and I'm like there is a
- 8:35line for clairvoyance
- 8:36in the hands there is a very distinct line for someone who has
- 8:39that gift yeah and
- 8:40SPEAKER_00: I've seen it I love it when I see it because then
- 8:43Someone feels less shy perhaps about having that gift when it
- 8:47gets confirmed for them.
- 8:48SPEAKER_03: Yeah,
- 8:49SPEAKER_03: but that's the thing too,
- 8:50SPEAKER_03: like we have these gifts and we can choose to keep pushing it down,
- 8:54but then there's always that niggling that we're missing out on
- 8:56something in life.
- 8:57I know for me that was me,
- 8:58like I didn't feel fulfilled,
- 9:00you know,
- 9:00on the outside I looked okay.
- 9:02but it was there's something more and when we start to dig upon
- 9:05that and I know I'm
- 9:06not there yet but I'm taking steps to get there and that feels
- 9:10more fulfilling than
- 9:11trying to find that purpose and trying to figure out why you're
- 9:14here yes yes I have
- 9:15some very challenging penalties in my gifts in fact some of the
- 9:20hardest penalties
- 9:21and all of the gifts and for me it's like it becomes like
- 9:25psychologically heavy
- 9:27SPEAKER_00: depression despair you know all the really
- 9:31The worst possible things you can experience emotionally and
- 9:34that it becomes
- 9:36SPEAKER_00: motivation to enact those gifts.
- 9:38SPEAKER_00: It really does because you don't feel good if you're not doing it.
- 9:41SPEAKER_03: And it also becomes a feedback, right?
- 9:43SPEAKER_03: Where it's like,
- 9:44SPEAKER_03: actually,
- 9:44SPEAKER_03: I'm not utilizing myself,
- 9:46SPEAKER_03: utilizing myself,
- 9:47but actually listening to my highest potential and what brings
- 9:51me to where I am
- 9:52SPEAKER_00: here as well.
- 9:53SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes.
- 9:54SPEAKER_00: It's a constant reminder to get out there and do it.
- 9:57SPEAKER_00: Go for it, right?
- 9:59And so a question that keeps popping in my head is what are
- 10:02some examples of gifts?
- 10:03SPEAKER_03: So obviously we just shared clairvoyance,
- 10:05but what are some other examples of gifts that you might see in
- 10:08people's hands?
- 10:09SPEAKER_00: Well, there's the star of Jupiter, for example, Jupiter being leadership.
- 10:15SPEAKER_00: So we use the Roman mythological gods as our archetypes in hand analysis.
- 10:21SPEAKER_00: So for example, Jupiter being Jupiter being the leadership star.
- 10:26SPEAKER_00: So that is a gift that is
- 10:28Developed because you show aptitude for the kinds of high
- 10:33achievement and influence
- 10:35SPEAKER_00: that would be utilized in a leadership role.
- 10:38SPEAKER_00: I have what we call the Star of Neptune.
- 10:40SPEAKER_00: So that is a gift for deep empathy and spirituality.
- 10:46SPEAKER_00: It's also a penalty of depression if you're not using it.
- 10:50SPEAKER_00: So empathy has to be very much a part of my, it's a part of my existence.
- 10:55SPEAKER_00: It's not even a part of the work that I do.
- 10:57SPEAKER_00: It's
- 10:58SPEAKER_00: It's a wealth marker.
- 10:59SPEAKER_00: It tells us that you are very good with resources and
- 11:28SPEAKER_00: And you can build wealth.
- 11:29SPEAKER_00: The star of Apollo,
- 11:30SPEAKER_00: Apollo being the sun god,
- 11:32SPEAKER_00: so that's shining your light brightly in the world.
- 11:36And not necessarily being a performer,
- 11:38but there is a creative aspect to that.
- 11:40So having a certain kind of presence in the spotlight would be
- 11:45the gift of Apollo.
- 11:47SPEAKER_00: Of course,
- 11:48on the flip side of that is there can be a measure of apathy
- 11:53and lethargy for a
- 11:54SPEAKER_00: penalty.
- 11:55SPEAKER_00: If you're not using it,
- 11:56you can start to feel very diminished if you're not putting
- 12:00that effort into being
- 12:02SPEAKER_00: in the spotlight.
- 12:03SPEAKER_00: But it also comes with caveats, right?
- 12:05SPEAKER_00: You have to
- 12:06SPEAKER_00: Move in the direction of all of these gifts with a measure of humility.
- 12:10SPEAKER_00: Remember that they are in fact here for service.
- 12:13Even those who shine brightly in the world have a service
- 12:16component to what they're doing.
- 12:17SPEAKER_00: They should.
- 12:18SPEAKER_00: If they're doing their jobs right, they should.
- 12:20SPEAKER_00: I love that caveat just there.
- 12:22SPEAKER_03: They should be doing it.
- 12:24SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 12:25I just want to remind everyone that there's always that
- 12:28spiritual component,
- 12:29right?
- 12:31SPEAKER_00: To us fulfilling our own life path,
- 12:33there's always that aspect of the spiritual component in that
- 12:37we're always serving
- 12:38SPEAKER_00: the whole,
- 12:38SPEAKER_00: right?
- 12:39Every contribution that we are making that is unique to us
- 12:42serves the collective
- 12:44SPEAKER_00: expansion of consciousness.
- 12:46And I guess it comes back to,
- 12:47like,
- 12:48first of all,
- 12:49we have free choice,
- 12:50right?
- 12:50SPEAKER_03: You can utilize your gifts or you can choose to ignore them.
- 12:54and some people rather put up with the penalty than embrace who
- 12:57they are.
- 12:58SPEAKER_03: That's just their choice.
- 13:00SPEAKER_03: And then the other aspect of that is that we are all connected.
- 13:04So our choices can have a positive ripple effect or a negative,
- 13:08but at the same time,
- 13:10You know,
- 13:11stepping into our purpose can influence others to step into
- 13:14their purpose too.
- 13:15SPEAKER_00: Yes, for sure.
- 13:17SPEAKER_00: Many people are here to be examples,
- 13:19SPEAKER_00: right,
- 13:19SPEAKER_00: of open heartedness and grace and ease and alignment.
- 13:24SPEAKER_00: And they show others or they give others permission to do the same.
- 13:28SPEAKER_00: But I have known people who've had many,
- 13:31many gifts in their hands and they can spiral into a measure of
- 13:34overwhelm.
- 13:35SPEAKER_00: And so it does become crucial the more burdened you are,
- 13:39SPEAKER_00: in a sense,
- 13:40SPEAKER_00: by gifts and a life purpose that has a very specific undertaking,
- 13:46SPEAKER_00: that you do the work,
- 13:47SPEAKER_00: the inner work,
- 13:48SPEAKER_00: that you can get out of your own way,
- 13:51SPEAKER_00: in a sense,
- 13:52SPEAKER_00: because it can really start to feel heavy if
- 13:54SPEAKER_00: You say have five gifts and all of them are in the penalty stage,
- 13:58SPEAKER_00: then that can be very painful,
- 14:00SPEAKER_00: right?
- 14:00SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 14:01SPEAKER_00: in my mind,
- 14:02SPEAKER_00: I think,
- 14:02SPEAKER_00: okay,
- 14:03SPEAKER_00: if you have five gifts and you're in the penalty zone on those gifts,
- 14:07SPEAKER_00: that is super motivating to
- 14:09SPEAKER_00: Take some action to clean up your life.
- 14:11SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 14:11that's kind of how it happened for me was that I just had I
- 14:15have numerous lessons
- 14:17and two schools and a lot of different challenges in my gifts
- 14:21that I it was all
- 14:22SPEAKER_00: just too much.
- 14:23You know,
- 14:24it I think that's why I started this journey at such a young
- 14:27age.
- 14:27SPEAKER_00: I didn't know all of these things as a kid because,
- 14:30SPEAKER_00: of course,
- 14:31SPEAKER_00: I didn't come to hand analysis until much later in my life.
- 14:34SPEAKER_00: But I knew as a kid that that
- 14:37SPEAKER_00: Without doing work on myself, I was not going to make it.
- 14:41And I feel that's such a powerful reminder to everyone
- 14:44listening that you're the
- 14:46SPEAKER_03: only one that can choose to do work on yourself as well.
- 14:49SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 14:50SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 14:50SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 14:51we obviously have people that mirror to us in our lives the
- 14:54ways that we might not
- 14:55SPEAKER_00: be showing up for ourselves,
- 14:57SPEAKER_00: right?
- 14:57I made a fair amount of bad choices when I was younger and
- 15:01those were reflected
- 15:02SPEAKER_00: back to me through the people that I harmed or
- 15:05not necessarily consciously but you get you get examples and
- 15:09they say oh yeah this
- 15:10isn't good this this doesn't look good doesn't look good on me
- 15:13doesn't look good on
- 15:14you right time to change my direction somewhat yeah and I feel
- 15:18too when people get
- 15:19to that point and they just throw their hands up and they're
- 15:21like I can't do this
- 15:22anymore you know I can't keep staying in this cycle yeah that
- 15:27is when people often
- 15:28SPEAKER_03: reach out
- 15:29SPEAKER_03: But I like to say,
- 15:30SPEAKER_03: maybe if you're in an okay place,
- 15:33maybe start investigating now so you don't have to get to that
- 15:37rock bottom.
- 15:38SPEAKER_03: But that's part of the human experience in our story too.
- 15:41Like sometimes we have to get to that point that we realize
- 15:44something needs to
- 15:44SPEAKER_03: change before it actually will.
- 15:46SPEAKER_00: A lot of people don't necessarily take conscious action, right?
- 15:51They usually have to be bumped around by life circumstances to
- 15:54a certain extent to
- 15:55SPEAKER_00: at least begin the work.
- 15:57And then it becomes obvious as the work is undertaken and you
- 16:01start to feel better
- 16:02and your life starts to expand in positive ways exponentially
- 16:06that doing the work
- 16:07SPEAKER_00: is much easier than not doing the work.
- 16:09But it usually does take some sort of initial catalyzer to get
- 16:13you moving.
- 16:14SPEAKER_00: And then you can, as you face challenges down the road, right?
- 16:19SPEAKER_00: Doing the work doesn't mean you're not going to have challenges.
- 16:21It just means that when the challenges come up,
- 16:24you greet them consciously.
- 16:25SPEAKER_00: You have the awareness to say, oh, look, here we are in this.
- 16:29SPEAKER_00: You're back in your lesson again.
- 16:30And then taking proactive measures before you go down in that
- 16:36downward spiral and
- 16:37SPEAKER_00: find yourself miserable or stuck or both,
- 16:40SPEAKER_03: right?
- 16:40Yeah,
- 16:40and I guess this is where it taps into the shadow work that you
- 16:43do with people,
- 16:44right?
- 16:44SPEAKER_03: Because
- 16:45SPEAKER_03: Your shadows kind of are there,
- 16:47SPEAKER_03: but the more you get to know them,
- 16:49SPEAKER_03: the less they kind of are in darkness,
- 16:52SPEAKER_03: I guess,
- 16:53SPEAKER_00: more than a better way to explain that.
- 16:56I always like to remind people that the shadow aspects are not
- 17:00necessarily negative,
- 17:02right?
- 17:02They might have been perceived negatively by those people who
- 17:07were sources of
- 17:08SPEAKER_00: outside indoctrination in our childhood,
- 17:10SPEAKER_00: right?
- 17:10SPEAKER_00: Parents, teachers, siblings.
- 17:13The people that have influence on our lives are the ones who
- 17:16have a tendency to
- 17:17SPEAKER_00: dictate what is and isn't acceptable in us.
- 17:20SPEAKER_00: And so those shadow patterns are started usually not at our discretion,
- 17:26SPEAKER_00: but at the discretion of others.
- 17:28And so we can relegate positive aspects of ourselves to the
- 17:33shadow side if they're
- 17:34SPEAKER_00: deemed unacceptable by others.
- 17:37SPEAKER_00: But that doesn't mean that they're deemed unacceptable by us.
- 17:40SPEAKER_00: There can be lots of positive things happening in the shadow.
- 17:44SPEAKER_00: And when you open all of that up,
- 17:46you might find yourself getting in touch with parts of yourself
- 17:49that you really
- 17:50SPEAKER_00: like and you can find positive outlets for.
- 17:53The other thing is when you start to bring all of those
- 17:56contents back into your conscious frame
- 17:58SPEAKER_00: framework.
- 18:00SPEAKER_00: You start to feel whole again, right?
- 18:01SPEAKER_00: There's no part of you that's off limits.
- 18:04You start to feel into those aspects that can be very useful in
- 18:09certain circumstances.
- 18:10Let's say you're someone who's always been a bit of a pushover
- 18:13and you discover
- 18:14that there's a part of you that's just a bit more assertive and
- 18:17aggressive.
- 18:18SPEAKER_00: And that could serve you very well under certain circumstances.
- 18:23SPEAKER_00: So having access to the ability to step into that
- 18:26SPEAKER_00: is very vital, right?
- 18:27It helps us move through life with a bit more ease when we have
- 18:31access to the full
- 18:32SPEAKER_00: breadth of who we are.
- 18:33Yeah,
- 18:33and I feel you summarized it so beautifully,
- 18:36Lisa,
- 18:36because it is still part of you.
- 18:38SPEAKER_03: It's not like it's a bad part of you.
- 18:40SPEAKER_03: It's just a part of you.
- 18:42And if you can't love the shadows,
- 18:44then how can you say you love all parts of you?
- 18:47SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
- 18:48SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
- 18:48SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 18:48SPEAKER_00: we all want to be loved and seen for who we are in relationships,
- 18:54but we can't get there until we can love and accept who we are
- 18:57for ourselves.
- 18:59I love this because I was just on a podcast and they're like oh
- 19:02you know if
- 19:02someone's like in feeling lonely what can you say I said go
- 19:07take yourself on a date
- 19:09you know go take yourself out and get to know yourself more and
- 19:13it sounds it's
- 19:14amazing how many people I meet who who have never had like a
- 19:18meal with themselves
- 19:19or taking themselves to the movies or um because they're like
- 19:23oh you don't do that
- 19:24SPEAKER_03: by yourself I'm like why not
- 19:26SPEAKER_03: Why wouldn't you just go spend time with you?
- 19:28Like,
- 19:28how's it different from if you just want a coffee and you go
- 19:31have a coffee in the cafe?
- 19:33SPEAKER_03: So,
- 19:33SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 19:34SPEAKER_03: if you can't even have a date with yourself,
- 19:35SPEAKER_03: how are you going to date somebody else?
- 19:37SPEAKER_00: I love my company.
- 19:39In fact,
- 19:39I love my company so much that I'm actually quite guarded about
- 19:43who I give my time to.
- 19:45SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I'm a perfectly good company.
- 19:47I don't actually need to spend time with other people unless I
- 19:50really want to.
- 19:52SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 19:52SPEAKER_03: And I feel that's such a nice standard to have.
- 19:56SPEAKER_03: Not even nice,
- 19:57an amazing standard to have because your time and your energy
- 20:00is your greatest
- 20:01SPEAKER_03: currency.
- 20:02SPEAKER_03: And I feel a lot of us forget that.
- 20:04SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes.
- 20:05But I think we also don't know how to show up for others unless
- 20:08we know how to show
- 20:08SPEAKER_00: up for ourselves.
- 20:09SPEAKER_00: I really think the older I get,
- 20:11the more I see that I can't get the love and the care that I
- 20:16want from others until
- 20:18SPEAKER_00: I can show others how I want to be cared for by caring for myself.
- 20:22SPEAKER_00: Right?
- 20:23If I treat myself poorly,
- 20:24I'm giving other people permission to do the same.
- 20:26SPEAKER_03: Yeah,
- 20:27SPEAKER_03: my old coach used to say,
- 20:28sometimes people need to know how to love you because they
- 20:33don't always understand.
- 20:34But I don't think you can tell anyone how you want to be loved
- 20:38if you don't know that.
- 20:39SPEAKER_00: I know a lot of people,
- 20:41I see a lot of people come through my practice that they have
- 20:44no idea how to love
- 20:44SPEAKER_00: themselves.
- 20:45I'm like,
- 20:45well,
- 20:45then how can you expect anyone else to know how to love you?
- 20:48SPEAKER_00: Right.
- 20:48SPEAKER_00: It's important to get in touch with what's happening inside.
- 20:52My other favorite question I used to ask my staff and I'd be
- 20:55like,
- 20:55OK,
- 20:55well,
- 20:55what do you want?
- 20:56SPEAKER_03: And they're like, what?
- 20:57SPEAKER_03: I said, well, you're telling me you're unhappy.
- 21:00SPEAKER_03: What do you want?
- 21:01I can't actually fix that until you tell me what you want or
- 21:04you need for me to
- 21:06SPEAKER_03: support you to get to where apparently is a better place.
- 21:10SPEAKER_03: But they just could never answer that.
- 21:12SPEAKER_03: And then they go find another job.
- 21:13SPEAKER_03: And I'm like,
- 21:13you're just going to keep searching for the same thing in every
- 21:16job because you
- 21:16SPEAKER_03: don't actually know what you want in the first place.
- 21:19SPEAKER_00: My question is always, well, what are you curious about?
- 21:22SPEAKER_00: What piques your curiosity?
- 21:23Because if there's something that's piquing your curiosity,
- 21:26then that's likely what you want.
- 21:27SPEAKER_00: Or at least that will lead to what you want.
- 21:30SPEAKER_00: If you're willing to go down the rabbit hole just a little bit,
- 21:34SPEAKER_00: you might discover things that will pique your curiosity and furthermore,
- 21:39SPEAKER_00: your passion.
- 21:40SPEAKER_00: Right?
- 21:41SPEAKER_03: And then your fingerprints come into play.
- 21:43SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 21:43SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 21:44SPEAKER_00: I mean, I went in search of this tool.
- 21:46SPEAKER_00: I didn't even know I was looking for this tool.
- 21:50SPEAKER_00: And it took many years.
- 21:52What I was looking for originally were tools to expedite my own
- 21:57healing process
- 21:58because I had a lot of work to do on myself and I knew that
- 22:01early and I started
- 22:02SPEAKER_00: therapy very early in my life when I was still a kid even.
- 22:08But I went back to therapy repeatedly and it wasn't until I was
- 22:12in psychotherapy twice a week
- 22:14SPEAKER_00: and sitting there thinking,
- 22:16SPEAKER_00: and this went on for a year,
- 22:17SPEAKER_00: thinking,
- 22:18SPEAKER_00: okay,
- 22:19SPEAKER_00: why do I constantly feel like I'm not getting very far?
- 22:21SPEAKER_00: I feel like I'm treading water here.
- 22:23There has to be a more expeditious way to get to what I'm
- 22:27trying to uncover here.
- 22:29And it was that realization that led me to different tools like
- 22:33astrology,
- 22:34SPEAKER_00: like the Myers-Briggs,
- 22:35SPEAKER_00: the Enneagram,
- 22:36SPEAKER_00: the Gene Keys.
- 22:38SPEAKER_00: I was just trying to figure out some of the tools that would lead to
- 22:41SPEAKER_00: But all of those tools are
- 22:56SPEAKER_00: They're archetypally predictive rather than concretely predictive.
- 23:00SPEAKER_00: So you can be running some of them, but not necessarily all of them.
- 23:04But you don't necessarily know what you're running to a certain
- 23:09measure unless you
- 23:10SPEAKER_00: are very self-aware.
- 23:13And then I found hand analysis and I discovered,
- 23:15lo and behold,
- 23:16it is concretely predictive.
- 23:17SPEAKER_00: It does show me exactly where those patterns are running.
- 23:21SPEAKER_00: And by that point, I'd already done all this work on myself.
- 23:25SPEAKER_00: I had a couple of hand analysis readings and walked away
- 23:29with the courage and conviction that I was absolutely living my
- 23:34purpose because I
- 23:35SPEAKER_00: was before I had the hand analysis reading.
- 23:37SPEAKER_00: But it was nice to have it,
- 23:39SPEAKER_00: you know,
- 23:40finally confirmed for me that I was doing exactly what I was
- 23:43supposed to be doing.
- 23:44SPEAKER_00: What it did tell me was that I wasn't going big enough, that I needed
- 23:47SPEAKER_00: I needed to take my work much bigger.
- 23:49SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, well, incremental steps, right?
- 23:52SPEAKER_00: In that regard, incremental steps.
- 23:54But I knew that I wanted to learn how to do hand analysis
- 23:58because by this point,
- 23:59SPEAKER_00: I was already working as a healer,
- 24:01SPEAKER_00: which is my purpose.
- 24:02SPEAKER_00: And I thought,
- 24:04SPEAKER_00: if I can see this,
- 24:05SPEAKER_00: then I could really help clients move through this process faster,
- 24:09SPEAKER_00: right?
- 24:10SPEAKER_00: And that was the,
- 24:11it was like a promise I made to the universe some time ago that
- 24:15I would help wake
- 24:16SPEAKER_00: up as many people as I could as quickly as I could.
- 24:19And I thought,
- 24:21okay,
- 24:21well,
- 24:21and now I found a tool that will really help me do that.
- 24:23SPEAKER_00: And then you're like, when those moments come together.
- 24:26SPEAKER_00: Hallelujah.
- 24:29SPEAKER_03: Yeah,
- 24:29SPEAKER_03: because I always find it interesting,
- 24:31SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 24:32SPEAKER_03: when you get these little,
- 24:33SPEAKER_03: for me,
- 24:34like I'll get these little pieces of the puzzle and then it'll
- 24:37suddenly all come
- 24:38SPEAKER_03: together and you're like,
- 24:39SPEAKER_03: oh,
- 24:40SPEAKER_03: now I understand.
- 24:41SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I used to say I was acquiring keys for doorways I had yet to reach.
- 24:46SPEAKER_03: Yes, beautiful analysis.
- 24:48SPEAKER_03: Yes.
- 24:48SPEAKER_00: Yeah,
- 24:49SPEAKER_00: well,
- 24:49SPEAKER_00: eventually I reached the door and it had many locks and I thought,
- 24:52SPEAKER_00: wow,
- 24:52SPEAKER_00: look at this.
- 24:53SPEAKER_00: I'm well equipped.
- 24:54SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 24:58SPEAKER_03: When you started doing hand analysis,
- 25:01SPEAKER_03: was it like that aha moment and it was just a remembering of like,
- 25:06SPEAKER_03: yes,
- 25:07SPEAKER_03: this is what I was looking for or this is,
- 25:09SPEAKER_03: you know,
- 25:10SPEAKER_00: did it feel like you'd done it before?
- 25:12SPEAKER_00: It's funny.
- 25:13SPEAKER_00: I didn't think that I had done it before, actually.
- 25:16SPEAKER_00: I continue to be fascinated with it.
- 25:18I think the thing that I love about it more than anything else
- 25:21is that I fall in
- 25:22SPEAKER_00: love with everyone who I read for.
- 25:25you know it's impossible not to because I get to see how
- 25:28exquisitely beautiful
- 25:29everyone is and so that to me feels more like a remembrance
- 25:34it's like hi old friend
- 25:36I see you we've crossed paths before I just have it just wasn't
- 25:40this lifetime right
- 25:41so there's something really beautiful about oh yeah my heart
- 25:45remembers this my
- 25:46heart feels this so that's the thing that I really love about
- 25:49it but I think for me
- 25:50SPEAKER_00: it really feels like a new tool in this lifetime whereas
- 25:54SPEAKER_00: I had other tools prior to hand analysis,
- 25:57SPEAKER_00: things I still use in my practice that were gifts from my mother.
- 26:02So my mother was a spiritual teacher and she started teaching
- 26:06me some of the tools
- 26:07SPEAKER_00: that I used when I was still a teenager.
- 26:09But my mother talks about our soul contract relationship in the
- 26:13first chapter of her first book.
- 26:16And one of the things that she talks about in there is that I
- 26:19had given her a bunch
- 26:20of information when I first told her about our sole contract
- 26:23relationship and that
- 26:24I was going to be born as her daughter and that we had spent
- 26:28many lifetimes passing
- 26:30SPEAKER_00: valuable information about waking up back and forth to each other.
- 26:34So one of the things that she did finally tell me at some point
- 26:38along the way was
- 26:39SPEAKER_00: that I was the original teacher.
- 26:41And this is what spirit has confirmed for me a number of times
- 26:44is that I was the
- 26:45SPEAKER_00: original teacher.
- 26:46SPEAKER_00: So the information that my mother imparted,
- 26:49she often felt like she was giving me new information where I
- 26:53did just know.
- 26:54And often she would say something and think it was going to be
- 26:56so revelatory to me.
- 26:57SPEAKER_00: And I'd say, I know.
- 26:59SPEAKER_00: And she'd say, how do you know?
- 27:00SPEAKER_00: And I'd say, I don't know how I know.
- 27:01SPEAKER_00: I just know.
- 27:03SPEAKER_00: I just know.
- 27:04So there was a lot of stuff I gathered along the way that I did
- 27:08just know.
- 27:08SPEAKER_00: But hand analysis was really new.
- 27:10SPEAKER_00: And I love it for that reason.
- 27:12SPEAKER_00: It still feels so novel and interesting to me.
- 27:15SPEAKER_03: Love that.
- 27:15SPEAKER_03: Like I have this client at the moment.
- 27:18and we have both learned so much because she's very spiritual
- 27:21and things but we've
- 27:23been unpacking all these things that are going on in her life
- 27:26and I'm like oh my
- 27:27goodness I didn't even know I could do this and then like there
- 27:30was this new thing
- 27:30and they're like oh no this is a new way you can do that and I
- 27:33was like what you
- 27:34know and it's just that curiosity and excitement right and
- 27:38you're like yeah and
- 27:39they're like you guys are going to teach this and write books
- 27:41on it like we already
- 27:42SPEAKER_03: have three weeks of content
- 27:45Wow that's wonderful yeah but at the same time it's like wow
- 27:50like it's again like
- 27:51you said that curiosity right it's like oh okay well what if we
- 27:55can't we just do
- 27:55this or you know like even we were talking about oh I wonder if
- 28:00there's a place in
- 28:01the Akashic Records that all your curses and karmic contracts
- 28:04are kept and then
- 28:05SPEAKER_03: they're like yeah there is and I was like oh
- 28:08can we like burn that room and I said oh hang on hang on we
- 28:12don't want to burn
- 28:13everything because we don't want to have to do it again and
- 28:16they're like just asked
- 28:18for this white god flame to come in and I was like oh and it's
- 28:22like it will burn
- 28:23what's done and it will be done and all things that you have
- 28:26declared done and I
- 28:27was like oh that's so simple whereas my client's like can we
- 28:31bomb it and blow it up
- 28:32I'm like whoa whoa whoa hang on hang on hang on like it's
- 28:35useful exactly it's
- 28:36useful yeah and we still had to go through those karmic
- 28:39contracts to figure out to
- 28:41get to where we are right now you know and and that sort of
- 28:44thing too but it was
- 28:45SPEAKER_03: really interesting I'm like oh
- 28:46SPEAKER_03: Look, I've learned something else.
- 28:48SPEAKER_03: This is really cool.
- 28:49SPEAKER_03: And they're my favorite clients that expand you as much as you expand.
- 28:53SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
- 28:54SPEAKER_00: I think that we're all coming online more and more, right?
- 28:59I think parts of ourselves that have been hidden away or access
- 29:05to skills that we have...
- 29:07that maybe we've carried through many lifetimes are starting to
- 29:10show up more and more.
- 29:11SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 29:11I hear about all of this quite often from friends who do
- 29:15healing work or I've sat
- 29:17with clients where they've suddenly had energy coming through
- 29:20their hands and they
- 29:21SPEAKER_00: had never had that happen before.
- 29:23SPEAKER_00: I've had experiences of my own where,
- 29:26SPEAKER_00: I mean,
- 29:26SPEAKER_00: I remember the first time the guides talked through me to people
- 29:31SPEAKER_00: Share information with a client and they hadn't shown up before.
- 29:34I mean,
- 29:35I was aware that my guides were present,
- 29:37but I was suddenly hearing things.
- 29:39SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, wait, they're chiming in now.
- 29:42SPEAKER_00: This is new.
- 29:43SPEAKER_00: They want to participate.
- 29:44SPEAKER_00: And it was that moment that I thought,
- 29:46SPEAKER_00: oh,
- 29:47maybe what I should do before each and every session is sit in
- 29:50meditation and
- 29:51SPEAKER_00: invite my guides and the client's guides to be present and participate.
- 29:56SPEAKER_00: And I've done that.
- 29:58SPEAKER_00: before sessions with clients for years now.
- 30:01SPEAKER_00: But at the time, it seemed crazy to me.
- 30:03SPEAKER_00: And then, nope, they wanted to participate.
- 30:06SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, okay.
- 30:07SPEAKER_00: Everyone's here.
- 30:08SPEAKER_00: Let's go.
- 30:09SPEAKER_00: No, because there's information coming through.
- 30:12SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
- 30:12SPEAKER_03: It's like a party.
- 30:13SPEAKER_03: That's how I describe it to my clients.
- 30:15SPEAKER_03: I say,
- 30:15your guides come over to my guides and they're just having a
- 30:18party and I'm just
- 30:19SPEAKER_03: translating what's coming through because that's why I'm here.
- 30:23SPEAKER_03: I'm just the bridge right now until you can do it yourself.
- 30:26SPEAKER_03: And they're like, oh, right.
- 30:28SPEAKER_03: But it never ceases to amaze me by how the client's guides,
- 30:34SPEAKER_03: the information they give you is always perfect for them,
- 30:37SPEAKER_03: even the wording and the humor and everything and they'll go,
- 30:41SPEAKER_03: oh yeah,
- 30:42SPEAKER_03: that sounds like me.
- 30:45yeah I once once got a word from a client's guides and it was
- 30:49harsher than I would
- 30:50have used and I pushed back and I said I'm not sure that fits
- 30:55and then I asked the
- 30:56client I said they're telling me this and she said oh yeah
- 31:00that's right on and I
- 31:01thought oh okay well they're being a little more forceful with
- 31:05you than I would
- 31:05SPEAKER_03: have been just so you know
- 31:07Sometimes that's exactly what they need to hear because even I
- 31:10do the same thing
- 31:11I'm like you want me to say that you want me to say that their
- 31:15relationship and the
- 31:16person's acting like a piece of boop you know and they're like
- 31:19yes we want you to
- 31:20use that exact wording I'm like okay now these are their words
- 31:24not mine I prefaced
- 31:26that and as we start to finish your time together Lisa I asked
- 31:30the guests that come
- 31:31on the show if you could heal or change something in the world
- 31:34what would it be?
- 31:35SPEAKER_00: Our receptivity to receiving the truth
- 31:37The Truth About Ourselves and The Truth About The World That We
- 31:40Inhabit Because I
- 31:42Think It Would Create A Measure Of Softening Around Being
- 31:47Vulnerable And Being Real
- 31:51And Being Accountable I Frequently Think What Would It Take To
- 31:56Wake Up The Whole
- 31:57Planet And That Would Be The Thing That I Think We Have To Be
- 32:01Able To Receive Truth
- 32:02SPEAKER_00: With Grace
- 32:03SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes.
- 32:05SPEAKER_03: There's been a big thing coming up for me,
- 32:07SPEAKER_03: just to reflect that back to,
- 32:08SPEAKER_03: like,
- 32:09SPEAKER_03: because I tune in and go,
- 32:11SPEAKER_03: how do I need to do today?
- 32:12SPEAKER_03: Find your truth.
- 32:13SPEAKER_03: Find the truth.
- 32:14SPEAKER_03: Find the truth.
- 32:15SPEAKER_03: Just speak your truth.
- 32:16SPEAKER_03: You know, just whatever that needs to be for you for the day.
- 32:20SPEAKER_03: Because when we're living in our truth,
- 32:22SPEAKER_03: well,
- 32:22we can't really make any wrong decisions because we're honoring
- 32:25us in that moment
- 32:26SPEAKER_03: too.
- 32:27SPEAKER_00: Yes.
- 32:27SPEAKER_00: Well,
- 32:28it seems that the world we are inhabiting gets further and
- 32:30further from the truth
- 32:32SPEAKER_00: every day,
- 32:33SPEAKER_00: right?
- 32:34I mean technology is beautiful for connecting us but it is also
- 32:37horrific in how far
- 32:39it can divide us agreed 100% and Lisa if people want to come
- 32:44and find you or get a
- 32:46handle analysis where can they go I am on Substack they can find
- 32:50me at my website
- 32:51SPEAKER_00: lisahedley.com they can book hand analysis from there
- 32:54SPEAKER_00: under the Work With Me tab.
- 32:56And I am offering a $50 discount on hand analysis readings with
- 33:01the code podcast
- 33:02SPEAKER_00: for anyone who wants to,
- 33:04SPEAKER_00: any listeners who want to follow up on that.
- 33:06SPEAKER_00: And yeah,
- 33:07Substack's probably the easiest place to find me just because
- 33:09I'm more consistently
- 33:11SPEAKER_00: there,
- 33:11SPEAKER_00: although
- 33:12SPEAKER_00: I am by no means consistent.
- 33:14I like to write when I feel inspired rather than every week or,
- 33:18you know,
- 33:18every other week.
- 33:19SPEAKER_00: I understand, Lisa.
- 33:21SPEAKER_03: When I'm inspired,
- 33:22SPEAKER_03: I will just go like article,
- 33:23SPEAKER_03: article,
- 33:23SPEAKER_03: article,
- 33:24SPEAKER_03: and then I'll just schedule them.
- 33:26SPEAKER_03: So it looks like I'm consistent, but I'm not.
- 33:31the power of scheduling that's a technological tool I do like
- 33:34yes yes agreed well
- 33:36thank you so much for being on the show Lisa and sharing more
- 33:40about hand analysis
- 33:41and also the importance of embracing your gifts and if you are
- 33:45being penalized for
- 33:46whatever reason and feeling very low this might be a sign for
- 33:50you to be curious and
- 33:51SPEAKER_03: reach out or go check out Lisa's work
- 33:54so if you like this episode please feel free to like share or
- 33:58subscribe if you know
- 33:59someone who would be curious about hand analysis share this
- 34:02episode to them and
- 34:04make sure to check out Lisa's details in the show notes and
- 34:07thank you everyone for
- 34:08tuning in and thank you again Lisa for being on the show thank
- 34:12you Catherine it was
- 34:12so fun hey beautiful souls I wanted to have a chat with you
- 34:16about a really amazing
- 34:18SPEAKER_03: Cacao that I drink to help me get in ceremony,
- 34:21SPEAKER_03: to help me ground,
- 34:22SPEAKER_03: but also just because it tastes freaking good.
- 34:24So if you're curious and want to know about drinking something
- 34:27other than coffee or
- 34:29SPEAKER_03: your standard tea,
- 34:31SPEAKER_03: why not check out Creation Cacao?
- 34:33I love this with a bit of honey and cinnamon sprinkled in and
- 34:38just letting it brew
- 34:39SPEAKER_03: and having that whole intention as you create this cup.
- 34:43SPEAKER_03: So if you're curious and want to know more,
- 34:45SPEAKER_02: check out the link in the show notes and enjoy your cup of cacao.
- 34:50SPEAKER_02: Thank you for listening to Willow Healing Matters the podcast.
- 34:53We have so much love and gratitude that you are taking the time
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