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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Are You Lying to Yourself? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Avadi here coming to you from my
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  Speaker 1: hotel room in Germany.
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  Speaker 2: Not an every day it sentence for me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm out here this weekend visiting Adidas headquarters, joining in
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  Speaker 1: on some fund surrounding.
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  Speaker 2: Their Roads to Records event.
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  Speaker 1: Essentially what that is if you didn't know, their global
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  Speaker 1: headquarters is located here in Herzel, Germany.
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  Speaker 2: They are holding this event which.
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  Speaker 1: The whole goal is to break records with athletes in
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  Speaker 1: the five kilometer, ten kilometer and half marathon. Tons of
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  Speaker 1: running talent out here. Really exciting to be able to
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity to witness it and to join in
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  Speaker 1: on a little five k run they're having on Saturday
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  Speaker 1: for us normal humans and really get to experience all
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  Speaker 1: that is their headquarters. I've been here once before, in
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  Speaker 1: twenty sixteen, and that experience this is like a really
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  Speaker 1: full circle moment for me. When I came here in
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  Speaker 1: twenty sixteen, I hadn't started the show yet. I was
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  Speaker 1: recently laid off from my job at self when the
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  Speaker 1: magazine folded, and I remember coming here and feeling so
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  Speaker 1: self conscious and nervous about who I was like when
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  Speaker 1: I introduced myself to other people that I was meeting,
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  Speaker 1: whether they were other editors in the health and wellness space,
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  Speaker 1: if they were perhaps new influencers. At the time, Adidas
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  Speaker 1: was just opening up and really working on and investing
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  Speaker 1: in their global Ambassador program, and I came on the
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  Speaker 1: trip with a ton of their original global ambassadors, and
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  Speaker 1: so I felt really really nervous and like unsettled about, like, Hi,
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  Speaker 1: my name is Emily Body And what follows that? Now
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  Speaker 1: again a really full circle moment. So many years later,
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  Speaker 1: I am in a completely different place, both personally and professionally,
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  Speaker 1: and so to be back here and you know you're
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  Speaker 1: listening to this show, to have my own thing, to
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  Speaker 1: have done so much work on myself as well, to
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  Speaker 1: be really firm in who I am, what my foundations are,
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  Speaker 1: what my values are. It feels really special and I'm
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  Speaker 1: really really proud of that. That's not necessarily what this
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  Speaker 1: five minute Friday episode is about today. What I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk today about is the idea of and I
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  Speaker 1: talk about this regularly on the show, but it's been
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  Speaker 1: really really relevant lately, fact versus fiction and the stories
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  Speaker 1: that we're telling ourselves. I forever have said the sentence
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  Speaker 1: I am not good at napping. This is like kind
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  Speaker 1: of comical now that I'm saying it out loud, but
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  Speaker 1: I always have wanted to be the kind of person
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  Speaker 1: that was good at just like taking thirty minutes. I,
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  Speaker 1: as you know, and by nature an early morning human.
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  Speaker 1: I love getting up and getting stuff done first thing
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  Speaker 1: in the day, but sometimes that brings about a fair
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  Speaker 1: amount of tiredness, as one could expect as the hours
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  Speaker 1: go on, and especially coming out here completely swapping a
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  Speaker 1: sleep schedule, if only for a few days.
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  Speaker 2: I got a couple of hours of sleep on the flight.
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  Speaker 1: Thankfully, I got in and I knew that I needed
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  Speaker 1: to definitely catch at least an hour nap in the
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  Speaker 1: break I had before heading over.
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  Speaker 2: To their global headquarters.
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  Speaker 1: And this would be, I would say, the second or
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  Speaker 1: third quote unquote successful nap that I have taken this year.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like laughing at myself because this just sounds so ridiculous.
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  Speaker 1: The thing is is that, again, I used to tell
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  Speaker 1: myself that I wasn't good at napping, And what I
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  Speaker 1: realized when I told myself that was that I started
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  Speaker 1: to believe it and I wasn't even giving myself the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to rest when I really desired it because I
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  Speaker 1: was resistant to the idea in my head it was
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  Speaker 1: just something that I could not do again. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: talking about like climbing Mount Everest. I would say that
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  Speaker 1: right now it is a fact I probably can't climb
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  Speaker 1: Mount Everest.
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  Speaker 3: But napping, like laying down, taking a break. I was
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  Speaker 3: so resistant to the idea of like allowing myself this reprieve.
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  Speaker 3: And so when I stopped believing the story that I
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  Speaker 3: was telling myself, this story you are incapable of napping,
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  Speaker 3: You're bad at napping, And I allowed myself to simply
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  Speaker 3: lay and rest and accept whatever result happened. I am
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  Speaker 3: getting better at not believing my own bs, if that
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  Speaker 3: makes sense, at getting too a place where I am
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  Speaker 3: not just accepting the stories. And of course this takeaway
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  Speaker 3: that I'm sharing with you is bigger than just napping.
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  Speaker 3: It's like the sentence I'm not a runner or I
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  Speaker 3: can't run. It's like, okay, maybe right now you don't
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  Speaker 3: enjoy running, or you don't feel as though you're good
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  Speaker 3: at it. But what happens if you reshift, reframe, better
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  Speaker 3: word that narrative. What happens if you stop running? How
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  Speaker 3: you feel as though you should be running and running
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  Speaker 3: for a minute and walking for a minute, and running
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  Speaker 3: for a minute and walking for a minute, and not
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  Speaker 3: comparing that activity to that of someone else who maybe
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  Speaker 3: has different feelings on running.
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  Speaker 2: You see where I'm going with this.
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  Speaker 1: When you can separate fact from fiction, you have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of opportunity, and you can separate the stories you're
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  Speaker 1: telling yourself versus what is actually reality. So I am
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  Speaker 1: allowing myself the grace to get better at taking a
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  Speaker 1: nap every once in a while, and that grace enabled
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  Speaker 1: me to accumulate, over a wonky travel day about five
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  Speaker 1: and a half hours of sleep total, which, hey, it's
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  Speaker 1: better than no hours of sleep total. I will take it.
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  Speaker 1: My question to you this week, my thought problem for
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  Speaker 1: you this week? What is something in your life a
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  Speaker 1: fact from fiction moment? What's a story that you're telling
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  Speaker 1: yourself that you can break, something that you can have
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  Speaker 1: some grease with? Again, how can you separate fact from
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  Speaker 1: fiction in your life?
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  Speaker 2: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, Emily, this is Sarah from Boss. I've been listening
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  Speaker 4: for a while and I'm not a runner at all,
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  Speaker 4: but I love the interviews that you give with inspiring people.
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  Speaker 4: My question to you is how are you navigating the
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  Speaker 4: world of investing. I am in the boat right now
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  Speaker 4: where I'm trying to organize my finances and I remember
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  Speaker 4: seeing on your Instagram stories that you.
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  Speaker 5: Also started investing. So what's your strategy? Here are you
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  Speaker 5: meeting with the financial advisor? How is your investing journey going.
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  Speaker 5: I'd love to hear some feedback and some tips.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: I love going back to the listener questions after having
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to travel and knowing who the hurdlers are
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  Speaker 1: that are calling in and asking them. I met Sarah
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  Speaker 1: up in Boston. She is fabulous and I am just
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy to hear your voice, Sarah investing. It's I'm
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  Speaker 1: working on it right So as of now, I work
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  Speaker 1: with an accountant. I was referred to an accountant that
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  Speaker 1: specializes working with individuals who are contractors.
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  Speaker 2: They have a lot of ten onion nines.
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  Speaker 1: I am one of those type of humans, and I obviously,
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  Speaker 1: well not obviously, but I have my own LLC that
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  Speaker 1: I do all of my work under, and so I
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  Speaker 1: work with an accountant when it comes to navigating my
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  Speaker 1: taxes and everything like that, and also talk to him
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  Speaker 1: a little bit about strategic where I could play some
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  Speaker 1: of my money. Last year I opened up an earnest
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  Speaker 1: in earnest and interest earning savings account, so now I'm
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  Speaker 1: earning money on my money over there. I also put
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of money in cryptocurrency. I felt like
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  Speaker 1: it was like the thing that I was open to
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  Speaker 1: experimenting with not a ton and I just did that
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  Speaker 1: using Coinbase, the app. I don't open it regularly because
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  Speaker 1: it just fluctuates so much, so that's kind of a
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  Speaker 1: long term thing. I have a four to oh one
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  Speaker 1: K from when I worked in house at Conde Nast
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  Speaker 1: and Rodale. I also have an IRA that I do
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  Speaker 1: the mac contrib max contribution every year, which I believe
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  Speaker 1: at this point is six thousand dollars. And beyond that,
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  Speaker 1: I am really interested in getting involved in investing in stocks,
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  Speaker 1: and especially after my conversation with Jacqueline Johnson, I'll link
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  Speaker 1: that in the show notes. She's the co founder of
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  Speaker 1: Creating Cultivate and now has a fund called New Money Ventures.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like really excited about learning more about doing that,
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  Speaker 1: about putting my money places. Not that I have like
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  Speaker 1: copious amounts of extra money laying around, but I do
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  Speaker 1: know that long term investing in stocks and maybe companies,
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  Speaker 1: and maybe one day I can be a person that
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  Speaker 1: Angel invests somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: What I've learned about that specifically.
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  Speaker 1: Is that it doesn't need to be like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: need to say like I have one hundred thousand dollars
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  Speaker 1: to give you, because I certainly do not.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes Angel and are.
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  Speaker 1: Just like a much lower barrier to entry. Maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: a thousand or five thousand or ten thousand. Again, this
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  Speaker 1: is a lot of money, so I'm not saying it lightly,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm just having a fun time learning more about.
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  Speaker 2: The whole space.
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  Speaker 1: And I'd like to keep having conversations, and I think
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  Speaker 1: that's important that we have open conversations about how to
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  Speaker 1: do that. And I know that money can be like
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  Speaker 1: a really taboo thing. Everyone is in a different place
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  Speaker 1: and has different priorities on how they want to use it,
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  Speaker 1: spend it, save it. But I think that we can
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  Speaker 1: all agree that financial wellness and financial health is super important,
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  Speaker 1: So the more open we can be about it, the better.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, I think that kind of sums up where
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  Speaker 1: I'm at with my money, just trying to make smarter decisions.
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  Speaker 1: I put a certain amount in my savings every month,
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  Speaker 1: put a certain amount and a separate bank account that
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  Speaker 1: I have for rent.
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  Speaker 2: Every month.
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  Speaker 1: I put a certain amount in a separate account that
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  Speaker 1: I have for travel every month, and obviously my regular
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  Speaker 1: expenses and everything.
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  Speaker 2: So just try to be more diligent.
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  Speaker 1: With this as I get older, with the goal of
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  Speaker 1: one day, hopefully you know, owning something, not just renting forever.
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  Speaker 2: And That's where I'm at. And that's it for this week.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks so much for listening, Thanks for following along with Hurdle.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not doing so yet, head on over to
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  Speaker 1: social follow us at Hurdle podcast. I'm over at Emily
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  Speaker 1: a Body and I'm gonna make this call out again.
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  Speaker 1: I do it regularly, but listener questions, I want yours,
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  Speaker 1: I need yours. I want to answer more questions, so
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  Speaker 1: please call in with one. I'd love to answer it
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  Speaker 1: on the show. The link to do that is in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes. Another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.
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