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Do narcissists really think they are better than everyone else? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about do narcissists that really
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  think that they are better than everyone else.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammond.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of the Narcissist Coke.
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  So boom, welcome back. Yes.
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  Yeah, That's, that's the question of the day, isn't it?
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  The question of the, the hour, the question of the, the week,
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  month, year. Do narcissists really think that
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  they are better than everyone else?
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  Like, So what do you think? Like seriously, what do you
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  think? I, I know the answer to that
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  question for a lot of people is going to be yes, absolutely Lee
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  with no equivocation, no fight back, nothing else.
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  Narcissists absolutely think that they are better than
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  everyone else and that that has a lot of truth to it because
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  there are, are a lot of narcissistic people out there
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  that absolutely just feel like they are better than everyone
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  else just because they are them. No qualifications, no no
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  reasoning behind it. Just because they have this
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  inner entitlement to feel like they are better than everyone
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  else, like they are just they, they are entitled to being
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  better than everyone else. That happens so much in these
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  spaces, that happens so much within these dynamics and
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  whatnot that they just feel like they are absolutely better than
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  everyone else. And it's hard to deal with.
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  That can be extremely hard to deal with as a person, you know,
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  as a person who who is with this narcissist, right?
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  With this toxic person, right? Because if you have the
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  narcissistic person that thinks that they are better than
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  everyone else, right? No matter what you do, no matter
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  how much you accomplish, they are going to think that they are
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  better than you. And that's, yeah, that's just
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  factual. They are going to think that
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  they are better than you, than you.
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  No matter what you accomplish, no matter how successful you
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  are, it, it doesn't matter. They are always going to find
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  the reasoning or find an excuse as to why their accomplishments
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  are better than yours. They are better than you.
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  And whatever you know, they'll make an they'll make, they'll
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  start the the narcissist that does think that they are better
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  than everyone else always finds an excuse to invalidate what you
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  have going on to invalidate your position in their life.
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  You, you, you know, you're only successful because your mom did
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  this or because your dad did this.
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  You were born with a silver spoon in your mouth.
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  And I had a plastic spoon, you know, I had a plastic, I had AI
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  had a plastic. I was born, you were born with a
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  silver spoon. I was born with a plastic spork.
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  I got AI had a plastic spork in my mouth.
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  You know, it's not, it's not fully a spoon and it's not
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  really a fork. I had one of those where you got
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  a silver spoon, you know, but that's the compare and contrast.
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  They're always comparing and contrasting, but they will find
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  an excuse to invalidate your success while propping up their
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  own, while lifting up their own successes while lifting up the
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  own, the the the things that they themselves have
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  accomplished or have not accomplished or will accomplish.
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  They will always find a reason behind it.
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  They'll also find an excuse to why they are not what they want
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  to be, why they have failed so spectacularly at their life.
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  If it's, if it, if it is a spectacular failure, a lot of
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  them will do that right there. A lot of them will find a reason
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  to why they failed to why they haven't made it as far as they
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  want to go in life. There's always going to be a
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  reasoning behind it. Yeah, that's why I'm just
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  telling you there are a lot of narcissists that absolutely feel
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  like they are better than you just because this inner just
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  delusions. It's it really is like when you
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  hear people say the delusions of grandeur, it doesn't just
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  encompass the regular narcissistic person's mind,
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  right? It doesn't just like it's just
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  not delusions of, you know, fame and fortune.
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  It's the delusions of being better than everyone else.
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  It's the delusions that feel like you are, you are entitled
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  to something in life just because of who you are, just
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  because you are you, just because you were born.
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  You feel like you're entitled to massive success or massive fame
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  or massive money, whatever it is you feel like you're entitled
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  to. That's what happens.
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  It absolutely is what happens a lot of times within the space.
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  That's what I'm telling y'all right now.
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  This is who, this is how you have to go through things.
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  This is how you have to deal with things.
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  This is how you have to process things.
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  Like they're going to be delusional.
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  And like, yeah, you can, you can argue back and forth with them.
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  They try to keep them in check. But what is that going to
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  accomplish other than two people arguing?
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  You already know your truth. Stand in it.
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Sorry you feel that way about,
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  you know, my successes. You know, I don't see it that
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  way. You know, you're entitled to
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  your own opinion. I just don't see it that way.
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  It just ended right there. Don't, don't go back and forth
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  with with them because you don't want to argue for your limit.
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  You don't want to argue for yourself.
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  If you already know who you are, if your, your, your
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  accomplishments speak for themselves, you don't have to
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  speak for them. Their trophy on the wall, your
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  degree, your diploma, whatever, it speaks for itself.
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  That paycheck speaks for itself. You know that mind speaks for
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  itself. The attention you get, the
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  amount of followers you have, a lot of times that speaks for
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  itself. You don't have to defend
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  yourself against somebody that's trying to degrade you because
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  they don't feel like they are what they want to be.
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  It's it's shame. So yes, some of them absolutely
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  think that they're better than you just because they are them.
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  It's Creole. It is absolutely mind boggling
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  how it happens. I'm better than you because I'm
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  me. What?
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  What does that even mean? You you think you're better than
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  me because you are. You got it.
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  What the hell is? Yeah.
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  What does that mean? That doesn't mean anything.
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  It's it's it's psycho talks. It's psycho Babble.
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  It doesn't mean anything. It's just them talking on the
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  side of their neck, literally talking about the side of that
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  neck because it really had me crazy.
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  So that's what I'm telling y'all.
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  If you're dealing with a person with this mindset, don't go back
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  and forth. You don't have to argue with the
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  fuzzing fight. I know you feel like you have to
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  because they want that's, that's what they want to do.
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  You know, that's what they want to do.
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  They want the fussing fight. They want to argue so they can
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  hurt your affiliates, so they can invalidate you even more.
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  They've like before you argue with a narcissist, just know
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  that they've already had they already, I'm going to do a
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  longer video on this, but just know that they already have a
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  plan of action they're going to take with this argument and
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  whatnot. Like I said, I'm going to go
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  into the greater detail of that. I'm writing it down right now
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  before you argue, I'm going to go into arguing with the
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  narcissist. It's going to be a good video
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  coming up. But yeah, but on the flip side
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  of things, there are some narcissists that don't think
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  that they are better than you. But this is the flip side of
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  things. They're like in this category of
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  narcissist who don't think that they're better than you.
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  It doesn't mean like they, they won't project like they think
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  they are. Narcissistic people lie.
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  That's just a fact. They a lot of them are
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  pathological or compulsive liars.
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  They will just lie. They asses off when the truth
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  will work. They will lie when they don't
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  have to. Y'all like when they don't have
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  to hype up their success because it's unnecessary.
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  They will because it's the, it's the feelings of being
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  insignificant. It's the fear of insignificance
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  that makes them this way. A lot of times it's also the
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  that it's also the delusions of grandeur, but it's also the fear
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  of insignificance. I want to be, I want to make, I
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  want to know that I matter. I want to know that I matter.
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  I want to know that I'm valid. So they will do and say a lot of
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  different things in order to try to validate themselves, in order
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  to try to prop themselves up. Even if they don't believe it,
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  they will just lie their asses off.
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  Even if they don't believe that they're actually better than
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  you, they will tell you that they're better than you.
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  You know, you can dunk a basketball off of, you know, off
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  of your vertical leap. They can't even touch the
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  backboard. But somehow, you know, you just,
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  you just taller and you just, you know, you had every
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  opportunity to do this, do that. I used to, I used to get dumped
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  when I was in high school, but I can't do it anymore because
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  these legs, these old knees have been older.
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  They could be 19 years old. They could, they could literally
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  have just graduated from high school and still present you
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  with that excuse. So that's what I'm saying.
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  Like not all of them will actually believe that they're
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  better than you, but they will say it, you know, they will say
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  that they're better than you because they don't want to feel
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  bad about themselves. It's the like I say, it's the
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  fear of insignificance. They want to matter.
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  They really do want to matter. So they just will lie their
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  asses off. They will hype up their
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  accomplishments in the same way the the people who actually
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  believe that they're better than you are.
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  They're still entitled, but it's a different type of entitlement.
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  It's the entitlement to not feel ashamed.
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  I'm entitled to not be ashamed of myself.
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  I'm entitled to not feel this way.
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  I'm entitled to not do this, to not do that.
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  There are so many different ways that narcissistic people can
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  navigate this spectrum right here, y'all.
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  So when you're dealing with a narcissistic person with his
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  mindset, just understand it like the word like, yeah, this is
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  where they're coming from. It's they're coming from a place
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  of feeling insignificant, you know?
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  But I said there are, I will end it with this like last little
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  section right here, y'all. There are the narcissists who
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  don't believe that they are better than you and who will
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  absolutely play the victim. You know, there are the
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  narcissists, like I said, who, who don't believe that they're
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  better than you, but will pretend to be better than you,
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  will project it. But they're also the like the
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  vulnerable, more covert narcissist, you know, that think
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  that they are, you know, not that they don't believe that
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  they're better than you. And they, they project that out
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  too. They've just like the, the
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  perpetual victim narcissist, they're always in perpetual
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  victim mode. Like they will find a way if
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  there's a will, there's a way, if there's a will to play the
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  victim, there's a way to play the victim.
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  They will absolutely discover how in the hell that they can
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  play victims to some circumstances that they
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  themselves might even have created.
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  They play victims to circumstances that they
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  themselves might have had a hand in.
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  So that's something you have to consider as well when you're
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  dealing with a toxic narcissistic person who's just
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  who's out to serve themselves, who's out to do this for
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  themselves. Like some of them will actually
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  try to get elicit empathy and sympathy from people that they
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  don't, that they believe that they're inferior to in order to
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  try to build themselves up. They play the victim because
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  they won't help. You know what I mean?
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  They, they don't want to ask for help, but they'll play the
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  victim in order to get it. And when they get it, they can,
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  they can use their help if it's, if it's monetarily, if it's a
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  job, it's a career, it's sponsoring them to go back to
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  school, whatever it is, they will use that to try to be
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  better than you. And then they'll come back and
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  rub that on your face because now they actually believe that
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  they're better than you and they won't thank you for it.
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  You know, they'll use you, abuse you, and then just get rid of
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  you. That's what typically what
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  happens right there in these places.
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