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Season 3 - Episode 130 - We all make excuses · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So I want to ask you a question
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  about making excuses, because for me, this is something that I
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  know inherently. I do it myself.
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  We all do it. We're all trained to do it.
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  From the time where kids, there are certain triggers in the
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  world that caused this to come up.
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  And making excuses is a black hole.
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  It's a vortex that you can't get out of.
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  You become, you know, sucked into it regularly because you're
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  nobody wants to take accountability.
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  God forbid we actually take accountability for our actions,
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  But even more than our actions, Ooh, it sucks when we have to
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  take accountability for the outcomes we have in our life
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  because we don't want to say, hey, it's because of me, hey,
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  it's because I showed how I showed up.
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  Hey, it's because of the choices I've made.
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  We just say, hey, this is because I I did this, I did
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  this, I did this. And then that was the result of
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  it. And we look at it like, yeah, I
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  made the decision to move to the new company.
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  But you know they told me XY and Z.
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  And the truth is that that that probably is very accurate.
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  That's what happened. And maybe you were lied to and
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  maybe somebody told you information that was not
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  accurate, maybe somebody LED you to believe something was going
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  to be different. But ultimately, ultimately, they
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  are not responsible. You are responsible because at
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  any point in time when you saw things coming, when you heard
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  the shifts, when you maybe didn't do the due diligence, you
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  should have when you didn't, look at the people in the
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  company individually, do the research, see who you would be
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  working with and for. And I'm using that as an
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  example, but this goes across the board.
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  It doesn't matter if it's a personal relationship or a
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  business relationship. Ultimately, we have the
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  responsibility of accountability.
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  And it's not just for our actions, but it's for the
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  outcomes of the actions. So if you are in a position
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  right now in your life where you're looking at the conditions
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  around you and you're like, I don't like them, it's really
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  easy to turn around and say, well, it's because of this or
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  it's because of this external factor.
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  It's really difficult to stop and pause and say, Nope, this is
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  because of me. This is because of something I
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  did. This is because of how I show
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  up. Let's say that you find yourself
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  in a position where you're not as healthy as you want to be and
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  you know you're not healthy, but you don't do anything about it.
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  And every day, day after day after day after day, you make
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  excuses for not going to the gym or not eating better or making
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  unhealthy choices when you do eat.
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  And those unhealthy choices really start to show up in your
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  body and then all of a sudden you find yourself with something
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  simple like high blood pressure. And you know, high blood
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  pressure can be controlled with a pill.
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  But the reality is if you have high blood pressure, there are
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  underlying conditions that 90% of the time you are responsible
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  for because it's has to do with weight and diet.
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  That is a fact. Weight, diet and exercise, those
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  three things are really the driving factor.
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  So then you do, you know, you're too busy during the week to work
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  out. You're too busy to even walk.
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  You're too busy to put on a Fitbit and try to figure out how
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  many steps you're taking. You're too busy to go and
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  actually make shakes for lunch or pack them ahead of time.
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  So you just end up eating whatever is there, whatever is
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  available anywhere you go. And before you know it, that
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  high blood pressure leads to having a heart attack.
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  And then you say, oh, I don't know what happened.
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  I had a heart attack. Well, no, you did.
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  You had the warnings all along. You just didn't want to heed
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  them. And this is where the black hole
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  comes in. This is where it just sucks you
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  in and in this society the way we are right now.
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  I will tell you, accountability is something that is so missing.
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  Nobody wants to take responsibility for anything.
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  Everybody wants to pass the buck and put it out there and say,
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  hey, you know, it's not me, it's something else.
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  And it's so conditioned. Even I find it easy to say I can
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  make an excuse and get away with it right now because society has
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  made it that simple and it takes really, really hard mental work
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  to say I will not participate in that reality.
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  We create a reality. We create our reality.
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  Hear me say that. We create our reality.
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  So if we want to create a better reality, we have to have better
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  thoughts, we have to have better actions.
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  We have to have better beliefs. We have to act into it
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  differently. And if you are creating excuses
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  anywhere in your life, and I know you are because I do it
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  too. Everybody does.
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  This is not a oh I'm so I'm beyond that.
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  No, you don't understand. I don't make excuses.
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  Bullshit. Everybody does it.
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  I do it myself and it doesn't make, it doesn't make a
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  difference if you believe it or you don't believe it.
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  It's a reality. And we have to monitor it and
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  say, OK, sure, a few excuses here and there.
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  I get it. It's just part of the human
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  condition. It's part of being human.
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  It's our humanness coming through.
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  But the truth is we have to look at it and we have to hold the
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  line and we have to stop ourselves because if we don't,
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  nobody else will. And if we don't take
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  responsibility for what we have going on and we don't take
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  responsibility for what we are creating on a consistent basis
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  and look at it and say no, you know, I'm not OK with this.
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  I'm not OK with being treated by like this by my partner.
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  I'm not OK being treated like this by my family.
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  I'm I'm not OK doing all this. And the reason it's all
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  happening is because you're letting it happen.
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  You're the one that's letting it happen, you know, Maya Angelou
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  is has a quote about, you know, we teach people how to treat us.
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  Yes, we do. Yes, we do.
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  By our actions, by what we allow.
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  Well, by what we disallow, by how we show up in those moments,
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  everything in this human experience that we are having.
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  Because I truly believe that we are spiritual beings, having a
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  human experience to teach us things.
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  It is all about that. It is all about that.
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  We create it all. So you have to stop and pause
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  and put a a sense of reality around it and tell yourself I'm
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  going to have a real good come to Jesus meeting with myself
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  about where this is showing up and don't lie to yourself
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  because it happens. It happens to me.
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  I made an excuse the other day saying oh I I didn't get a
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  chance to take care of that dealing with all the stuff that
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  I need to for paperwork because I hate doing paperwork.
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  I know you guys have heard that before.
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  When I've told you that on the podcast before.
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  I don't like doing paperwork. It's just not my thing to sit
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  still and in front of a computer.
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  And I made an excuse and you know, I would.
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  I'm aware of it. I I'm here to admit it.
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  I made an excuse. I just said, you know, it's not.
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  I'm not in the mood to do it. I feel like I have a headache.
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  My back hurts. I just don't.
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  I can't concentrate. No, it wasn't that I couldn't
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  concentrate. I didn't want to.
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  I just didn't want to. So tell the truth, don't make
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  the excuse. Be honest with yourself and then
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  shift because that's the only way we're all going to make
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  headway. So I know this was a kick ass
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  one today, but I need you to pay attention to this piece because
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  if you're ever going to get yourselves to a place you want
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  to be and thrive, you got to be honest with yourself about this
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  stuff. So no more going down this
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  excuse route without being aware of it.
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  Sure, you're going to do it anyway.
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  And I know you're going to make excuses because I'm going to do
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  it because that's just the human condition.
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  But it's do it and be aware of it, OK?
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  I adore you guys. I hope you have a fabulous day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.