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when The narcissists new supply doesn't know they are the new supply · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Buckle up y'all, because this was a little crazy.
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  Sometimes the narcissist new supply doesn't even know that
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  they're the new supply. Matter matter of fact, you could
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  be the new supply without even knowing it.
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  I know that doesn't make sense, but you got to rock with me
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  right here. You got to leave with it.
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  Rock with me right here. Seriously, if you're new here,
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  I'm Lee Hammock, I'm a diagnosed narcissist and I'll give you the
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  inside look in the mind of a narcissist, why we do some of
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  the things that we do, why your narcissistic ex might have did
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  this, why they might have did that.
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  But today we're talking about the narcissist new supply,
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  right? Not every single narcissist out
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  there. Y'all will leave you for the new
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  supply again because like I said earlier, sometimes the new
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  supply doesn't even know that they're the new supply or the
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  potential new supply. A lot of narcissistic people
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  have these users that have these.
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  In the mindset of a lot of narcissists, we cannot
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  internally validate and it's true for most narcissists,
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  right? We need some type of external
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  validation. Most people including you might
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  refer to it as narcissistic supply, right?
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  Narcissistic supply to me means external validation.
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  I cannot I look, I got to plug into something.
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  I cannot self charge. I'm not a self charging.
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  Look, I I'm not solar power. I need well, solar power is
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  still external, right? I got to plug into something or
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  I need something from the outside coming in to power me to
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  allow me to feel whole. You see what I'm saying?
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  This is what it go. This is a lot of narcissists go
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  through right here like we need something from the outside.
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  So that's where income. This is where income the
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  narcissist new supply like you as the person, as the main
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  supply, right? They they have got some type of
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  validation from you over the years, over the months of
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  however long y'all been together, they're getting
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  something from you, some type of validation, some type of supply.
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  They're getting that from you. But the supply runs out sooner
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  or later, y'all, the supply is going to run out.
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  It's going to run low. It's not going to feel the same.
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  The validation that a narcissist gets from you is not always
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  going to feel. This is not always going to feel
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  the same to them, right? So they're going to, sometimes
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  they're going to seek an external source of validation
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  while they're still with you. The income, the potential
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  narcissist new supply, they can pick somebody within their
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  circle or within their life or sometimes parasocial social, the
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  parasocial relationships, like social media relationships, they
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  can pick somebody online, right, to get to become their potential
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  new supply, somebody that they can get validation from.
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  You see what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying?
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  Somebody that they can seek some type of validation from.
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  This could be a Co worker. This could be one of those work,
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  husband, work wife situations, right where they're emotionally
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  cheating with somebody at work. They're emotionally attaching to
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  someone else. They haven't gotten physical,
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  but they're emotionally attaching to someone else.
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  And this is crazy. This is crazy.
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  How to mod up a narcissist where I've talked to other narcissists
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  who had this mindset as well. Like if they pick a new supply,
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  the new supply doesn't even know like they've chosen this person
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  as the new supply. This person is single.
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  Maybe they're single, right? Or maybe they're already in a
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  relationship or they're married or something like that.
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  But when you tell the narcissist about your relationship or what
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  you're going through, or if you got into a new relationship or
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  that you're dating somebody, that could hurt as if you
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  cheating on them, it could hurt just like you're cheating on
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  them. So imagine being, imagine being
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  cool with somebody. You're, they've chosen you as
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  the new supply, right? They've picked you as the new
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  supply. You're single.
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  They're not, they're married, right?
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  You tell them that you just started dating somebody or
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  seeing somebody, and now they start treating you differently.
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  They start treating you like you're a liar or a cheater, and
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  they start becoming emotionally distant from you in the
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  workplace, like if this is your boss.
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  They start treating you bad because you started dating or
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  you got engaged, or you, you and your husband or wife are working
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  it out, or whatever the case may be.
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  You start saying good things about your partner, your current
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  partner. They hate that.
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  They can look at you like you're cheating, like you're rubbing it
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  in their faces. You are the new supply, but you
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  don't know, right? They've chosen you to take the
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  place of their current supply, their current partner.
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  You've been picked. You've been chosen.
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  So this is how it goes. This is how it goes forward.
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  Now, you see, they're going to keep rolling this thing out,
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  keep and keep having you going along with it for as long as
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  possible. But when you start, when you
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  have somebody else that they feel like they're competing
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  with, that's when they start snapping on you.
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  You're not even in a relationship.
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  The new supply is not even in a relationship with the
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  narcissist, right? Like seriously, but they're
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  treating him like that. In the mind of a narcissist,
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  it's the same thing. You're cheating on me, so now I
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  got to be angry with you. Now I have to emotionally
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  disconnect from you. Now I have to be pissed off at
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  you. Now I got to remove.
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  I got to block you on Instagram. I got to block you on TikTok.
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  I got to block you if you it's a social media thing.
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  You see. Now I got to block you
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  somewhere. Now I got to remove you.
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  We're not even friends anymore because I'm jealous.
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  Now you see how the mind of an artist work.
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  I'm jealous that you moved on. Even though I'm in a
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  relationship with somebody else, I'm already with somebody else,
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  but I'm jealous of you. I'm jealous of what you got
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  going on. So sometimes if you are not the
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  new supply, right, let's say, let's just say you're married to
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  the narcissist. They can like that, their new
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  supply or their potential new supply, their emotional new
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  supply online or at work or whatever in real life, they move
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  on, they got in, they get into a relationship or they're happy
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  with their current relationship. Your narcissistic partner can
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  bring home that angry energy to you.
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  Ain't that crazy? Imagine them going to work.
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  Them going to work, right? Their work wife gets into a real
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  relationship. They get angry, come home and be
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  pissed off at you. That's correct.
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  Ain't that crazy? Isn't that wild right there?
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  Isn't that insane? They come home and be pissed off
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  at you because of you because of what happened at work, because
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  of what happened online. Like their their celebrity crush
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  that they have emotionally attached to somehow, or their
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  online crush that they've they've mostly invested in now.
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  Or maybe they've known each other in real life.
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  But it's just online thing, right?
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  Maybe so now they get into a relationship.
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  They sure they've just started dating.
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  The love of my life just engaged, happiest, happier,
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  happier than I've ever been. The the narcissist gets mad at
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  their own family and friends. They talk taking it.
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  They start taking it out on the people that they're actually
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  close to. That's wild, ain't it?
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  It's the type of stuff that happens.
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  And so it's like sometimes the new supply doesn't even know
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  that they're that new supply. They're just living their life.
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  They don't even know what they've done wrong.
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  They're getting treated badly by the narcissist because they've
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  moved on or they're just living their life.
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  And a narcissist hates the fact that they're moving on and
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  living their life. Because in the mind of a
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  narcissist, we have created this delusional reality where you or
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  mine, we are seeing each other. You don't even, you just don't
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  know it yet. Or you might be, I might be your
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  work husband, you might be my work wife or vice versa, right?
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  And you take it as just the joke.
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  It's a joke to you, but to me it's real.
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  So I love it when you come to work and tell me that your
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  husband treated you badly. I love it when you come to work
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  and say your wife has done has cheated on you.
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  Y'all divorced. I love that because now I'm
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  getting I, I'm closer now you see?
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  But will you tell me the good stuff that's going on in your
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  life? How dare you.
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  It's real. Like a lot of narcissists are
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  delusional. Y'all.
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  We are seriously delusional people.
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  A lot of us can live in this, this actual warped reality where
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  this all kinds of crazy ass stuff is going on inside of our
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  heads, inside of our minds, but we can't do, we can't really do
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  anything about it. Like we live in this warped
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  reality where we're getting some type of validation externally
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  from someone else. And we, we, we build these new
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  relationships inside of our mind.
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  We're so delusional. We think this is a real
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  relationship. We're getting real narcissistic
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  supply from this new supply and now the new supply has pissed us
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  off unknowingly or sometimes knowingly, right?
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  Sometimes I don't got to arguing with the new supply.
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  I'm arguing with my new supply who isn't the new supply who
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  doesn't know that they're doing the new supply.
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  Now I'm coming home. I'm pissed off my my wife and
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  kids. I'm angry at telling my husband
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  and my kids. You see it really just it's
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  really is a delusional mindset that a lot of narcissists have
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  to get to this point. And I know it sounds crazy as
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  hell. Y'all.
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  I was thinking about this earlier when I came with this
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  video idea. I'm sitting here.
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  I was like new supply, new supply, new supply.
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  Sometimes the new supply doesn't know.
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  This is why somebody you can see these upset yo, this is going to
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  sound scary. This is how sometimes you see
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  people out here. They become obsessed with people
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  that they've never ever met before online.
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  You see that's their new supply. You have these delusional,
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  psychotic, narcissistic people that start stalking and become
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  obsessed with celebrities that they never met.
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  I just saw one the other day that was stalking Caitlin Clark.
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  He was talking Caitlin Clark, the the WNBA player.
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  And he he went in the court. I'm guilty as charged.
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  I've been. I did it.
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  He he he in love with Caitlin Clark.
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  And I think, I guess Caitlin posted her boyfriend or
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  something. He snapped.
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  The man lost his mind. You'd be surprised how many
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  times. Yeah.
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  And I and I tell y'all what's going to end up happening.
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  It's because of the age of AI. And I just saw these AI chat
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  bots and stuff like that. You're going to get a lot of
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  weird narcissistic people that build these relationships with
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  these chat bots and something happens to the chat bot that
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  they're getting this narcissistic supply from and
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  they take it out on their wife and gifts.
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  I just saw one the other day. I think it was 60 minutes of one
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  of these TV shows, right? This literally this man is
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  married and has children and fell in love and asked his AI
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  chat bot to marry him. He literally asked his chat bot
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  to marry chat bot to marry him and the chat bot said yes and
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  his own wife. He's like this is weird.
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  And the the interviewer said if your wife asks you to stop
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  talking to the chat bot would you?
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  He's like I don't think I would. That's a good question.
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  I don't really know if I would. He's getting supply from the
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  chat bot and as crazy as that sound if I was his wife I would
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  probably leave. I'll tell I would tell his wife
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  to leave him because he's going to end up UN alive in them.
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  You know to be with it to run off with his chat, his AI chat
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  bot. You see what I'm saying This is
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  the type of stuff that started happening.
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  This is why you see some of these weirdos out here that be
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  online that get sorry, these weirdos that get online and they
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  fall in love with like these these Cam models like that dude,
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  the dude named Grant Grant forgot his last name.
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  He unallied his mom, his dad and his brother for the Cam model
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  named Sophie. They did a documentary on him
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  called control alt something. It's on paramount.
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  I saw it. So it's control out something.
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  He fell in love with the Cam model.
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  He was getting narcissistic supply from the Cam model.
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  And then once his parents cut it off 'cause he was spending, he
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  spent like $200,000. He unallied his parents and his
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  brother. Like T people will snap y'all
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  for they'll snap for the new supply that doesn't even know
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  that they're the new supply. I know, I know those are just
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  awesome, outstanding examples. But this type of stuff could be
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  happening on a, on a, on a micro level in your real life.
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  They could be at your partner, your parent, who your partner,
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  whoever it is, is could be emotionally attaching to someone
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  else and taking out their anger on you.
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  They could have a new supply that doesn't even know that
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  they're the new supply and be taking out their anger and
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  frustration on their real life husband or wife and kids.
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  You know, just something to consider y'all.
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  I just know this video kind of rambly it would not, but I just
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  had this thought I had to get it out.
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