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- 0:11Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
- 0:17Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
- 0:21Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design.
- 0:24Nicole Laino: Everyone, I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I think this will be a quick one.
- 0:29Nicole Laino: This was actually something that came up on.
- 0:32Nicole Laino: We did a Masterclass on the 2027 Change, Humanities, Evolution, and how to lead through that change.
- 0:37Nicole Laino: And then we did.
- 0:38Nicole Laino: We had a VIP Q&A.
- 0:40Nicole Laino: And I was talking with one of the members of our human Sign Authority lab, and she was asking me a question, and I was like, this is actually such a fundamental thing that happens with people, and it happens all the time.
- 0:52Nicole Laino: And this is why so many really talented, truly worthy people get stuck in this whole business thing in the putting yourself out there.
- 1:01Nicole Laino: And there's a couple of things that I want to say about this.
- 1:03Nicole Laino: So I'm going to.
- 1:04Nicole Laino: I'm riffing mostly.
- 1:05Nicole Laino: I don't have a lot of structure behind this episode, but what I'm going to break down is this basically this big problem that I see.
- 1:12Nicole Laino: I'll give you a few examples of how it shows up with the different type.
- 1:16Nicole Laino: And because it stretches across types, it just.
- 1:19Nicole Laino: The way that you find your way through it with human design is a little bit different, but they all kind of boil down to the same thing.
- 1:26Nicole Laino: We're getting stuck just for different reasons.
- 1:29Nicole Laino: And I want to break that down, and I just kind of want to share why your work is so important and why it's so important that you overcome this.
- 1:38Nicole Laino: So first, let's just say what this is about.
- 1:41Nicole Laino: This is most people are misdiagnosing fear for misalignment, and they never learn the difference between these two things.
- 1:50Nicole Laino: And this is such a core element to why people stay stuck, whether you're stuck at square one or you are stuck going to the next level.
- 1:58Nicole Laino: And like, that's millions and millions of dollars, whatever it is we have.
- 2:03Nicole Laino: Sometimes human design can become a crutch for people where they'll say something like, I misaligned.
- 2:08Nicole Laino: So let me.
- 2:09Nicole Laino: I'll break down a little bit about how this started with the client who came with this problem.
- 2:15Nicole Laino: So in the 2027 change masterclass, I outlined what's going to happen in 2027 as we understand it, as it was, you know, as the knowledge was given to us.
- 2:25Nicole Laino: And really emphasized why it's so important for everybody who maybe was classified as woo or weird or out there or too spiritual or too esoteric.
- 2:36Nicole Laino: Why our time very well may be coming, because I think this work is going to be very needed.
- 2:42Nicole Laino: I think we're already seeing people, accept me, more alternative ways of dealing with things and approaching life now than we did certainly 10 years ago.
- 2:53Nicole Laino: But even five years ago.
- 2:55Nicole Laino: I have friends who are asking me about human design that I never thought would ever be interested in what I do.
- 3:03Nicole Laino: And now they are, because these things are making their way into the mainstream.
- 3:07Nicole Laino: Why?
- 3:08Nicole Laino: Because the old ways aren't working and people are really feeling that.
- 3:11Nicole Laino: So that was the 2027 Change Workshop.
- 3:13Nicole Laino: I got into the nitty gritty of why these changes are happening and what it will look like and why certain elements are going to be even more important in the future.
- 3:22Nicole Laino: If you want that workshop, you can still get it.
- 3:24Nicole Laino: That's for sale.
- 3:25Nicole Laino: All you have to do is just DM me the word Phoenix on Instagram.
- 3:28Nicole Laino: I'm at Nicole Lanofficial.
- 3:29Nicole Laino: We'll send you the link and you buy the recording.
- 3:31Nicole Laino: It's just as good.
- 3:32Nicole Laino: But in this Q and A, the client came to me and they were saying, well, what if we're not ready?
- 3:37Nicole Laino: Like, I feel like I have.
- 3:38Nicole Laino: I've written these things, I have it all there, but what if they're not ready till 2027?
- 3:44Nicole Laino: Like, I still feel like I'm not ready.
- 3:47Nicole Laino: Like, I go to put it out there and I can't do it.
- 3:49Nicole Laino: And after digging into it a little bit, this person was a manifesting generator.
- 3:53Nicole Laino: And after digging into it a little bit, what we determined and how you can determine this for yourself is what is the core driver here?
- 4:03Nicole Laino: And for her, she was.
- 4:05Nicole Laino: In response to the things that she was getting, she took action.
- 4:09Nicole Laino: She wrote something, did the thing, but then putting it out there, the outside world, she was worried whether they would accept it, whether it would be blessed or it would be met with ridicule, critique and all of that, and.
- 4:22Nicole Laino: Or criticism rather than critique.
- 4:24Nicole Laino: I think we can handle criticism.
- 4:26Nicole Laino: Feels a little bit different, right?
- 4:27Nicole Laino: But she was worried about that.
- 4:29Nicole Laino: So she did not take action.
- 4:31Nicole Laino: So she's like, you know, I feel like there's a misalignment there.
- 4:33Nicole Laino: And this is such a core thing, because people are now, because we have gotten so into finding our alignment and not doing the things that are misaligned.
- 4:42Nicole Laino: So for generators and manifesting generators, we're not supposed to do things out of obligation.
- 4:46Nicole Laino: We're not supposed to do things because we have to.
- 4:48Nicole Laino: We're not supposed to do things and force it.
- 4:51Nicole Laino: It should feel easy.
- 4:53Nicole Laino: A really common misconception is that if you're aligned, it's easy.
- 4:58Nicole Laino: It's not.
- 4:59Nicole Laino: That's not guaranteed.
- 5:01Nicole Laino: Because really what was happening here is she was just scared.
- 5:05Nicole Laino: She was scared of putting the stuff out there.
- 5:07Nicole Laino: That's not misalignment.
- 5:09Nicole Laino: Fear is not misalignment.
- 5:11Nicole Laino: Fear is fear of stretching yourself beyond.
- 5:14Nicole Laino: And that's conditioning.
- 5:17Nicole Laino: So if she gets this response and she follows the response and she creates from it and she does the thing and she's like, oh, it's all there.
- 5:23Nicole Laino: It's all there.
- 5:24Nicole Laino: Like, I. I got it.
- 5:25Nicole Laino: But then she goes to put it out and she's like, wait, will they like it?
- 5:28Nicole Laino: Will they think I'm crazy?
- 5:30Nicole Laino: Will it be too weird for people?
- 5:31Nicole Laino: Will they all run away from me?
- 5:33Nicole Laino: That's conditioning.
- 5:34Nicole Laino: That is the outside world influencing you and stopping you from doing what is correct according to your strategy and authority.
- 5:41Nicole Laino: Right?
- 5:41Nicole Laino: That's Human Design 101.
- 5:44Nicole Laino: And so many people come to me looking for the authority matrix and the genius brand stuff and all of that.
- 5:50Nicole Laino: And that's amazing work.
- 5:52Nicole Laino: I'm not at all.
- 5:53Nicole Laino: I get it.
- 5:53Nicole Laino: I do it, you know, created this little cocktail of things and have been teaching it for so long because I believe in it.
- 5:59Nicole Laino: But if you're not following the fundamentals, then that just becomes window dressing.
- 6:03Nicole Laino: If you're not in alignment and you're not doing the things that feel right, you are throttling yourself.
- 6:09Nicole Laino: You are holding yourself back from your ultimate purpose and potential, which is what human design is supposed to be keeping you from.
- 6:18Nicole Laino: Because what that person did and what I see so many people do.
- 6:21Nicole Laino: We have projectors.
- 6:22Nicole Laino: I'm not getting recognized for something.
- 6:23Nicole Laino: I'm not getting invitations.
- 6:24Nicole Laino: I'm not getting this.
- 6:25Nicole Laino: They are.
- 6:26Nicole Laino: They're just too scared to really see it.
- 6:29Nicole Laino: So they come up with excuses for why they're not getting them.
- 6:32Nicole Laino: They're not the ones that they wanted.
- 6:35Nicole Laino: They're looking for a certain type of invitation, and they're not paying attention to the ones that they're getting.
- 6:40Nicole Laino: Why?
- 6:41Nicole Laino: Because they're bitter and they feel like they're not being recognized.
- 6:45Nicole Laino: So they're not even seeing all the ways that they are deal with that.
- 6:50Nicole Laino: And everything else will start to take care of itself.
- 6:53Nicole Laino: But this fear, the fear is if you are afraid.
- 6:58Nicole Laino: Fear is something we move through, period.
- 7:01Nicole Laino: We are meant to move through fear.
- 7:03Nicole Laino: It's how we grow misalignment.
- 7:06Nicole Laino: Is something we move away from.
- 7:08Nicole Laino: This is discomfort is not a sign to stop discomfort when something feels like a no in your body, like, I don't want to do that's different.
- 7:23Nicole Laino: But I'm scared to do it.
- 7:25Nicole Laino: That is something to overcome and I understand this.
- 7:28Nicole Laino: That something can be correct for you and still be uncomfortable.
- 7:32Nicole Laino: And I understand how scary that can be, especially when we're pushing boundaries.
- 7:36Nicole Laino: I talk about like 2027 and I talk about out there stuff and I had a trust that I would find my audience.
- 7:42Nicole Laino: There was a time where I didn't have one.
- 7:44Nicole Laino: I think people look at me now and I mean, I'm not nearly as big as some people, but I have a successful business.
- 7:50Nicole Laino: I have a.
- 7:51Nicole Laino: You know, thousands of people listen to this show.
- 7:53Nicole Laino: I'm very grateful.
- 7:55Nicole Laino: But there was a time when 50 people listened to this show and they didn't do it all the time.
- 8:01Nicole Laino: There was a time when nobody paid attention to my social media posts.
- 8:06Nicole Laino: There was a time when all of that.
- 8:08Nicole Laino: So I get it.
- 8:08Nicole Laino: I understand how scary it can be to put yourself out there and to do that consistently.
- 8:14Nicole Laino: And I understand how difficult it can be, especially when we're challenging our identity, our conditioning, our external expectations of ourselves or that others have put on us.
- 8:27Nicole Laino: I understand that this can be difficult and really uncomfortable, but we have to remember that's how we grow.
- 8:36Nicole Laino: Because a lot of people will feel the fear.
- 8:38Nicole Laino: They'll stop.
- 8:39Nicole Laino: They will interpret that stopping that fear as like their intuition telling them that something is incorrect for them.
- 8:47Nicole Laino: They decide that it's not aligned and they actually move away from their purpose rather than toward it.
- 8:52Nicole Laino: And that's not what we want.
- 8:54Nicole Laino: And that's not following human design.
- 8:56Nicole Laino: Human design can bring you back to it.
- 8:58Nicole Laino: You just keep coming back to your strategy and authority, your place.
- 9:04Nicole Laino: Reflectors will get scared that if they don't grab something now, nothing, you know, everything changes all the time.
- 9:11Nicole Laino: I just have to decide because I'm running out of time.
- 9:14Nicole Laino: Not your way.
- 9:15Nicole Laino: It's not your way.
- 9:16Nicole Laino: And you're letting fear drive the car.
- 9:17Nicole Laino: And that's not the way you have to push through that fear.
- 9:20Nicole Laino: And that's where you find your grounding.
- 9:22Nicole Laino: That's where you become unshakable, is by walking through the fear, walking with it.
- 9:28Nicole Laino: So fear is often just signaling to you that the conditioning of the outside world is being challenged.
- 9:36Nicole Laino: And this is where growth is calling us.
- 9:38Nicole Laino: It's not a sign to stop.
- 9:40Nicole Laino: It's just friction.
- 9:42Nicole Laino: So that feeling like that misconception that because it's aligned, it will be easy.
- 9:47Nicole Laino: No, in fact, because it's aligned, it's calling you to a higher level of yourself.
- 9:52Nicole Laino: It can almost guarantee you that it will be scary big moves that stretch us, that move us toward what is meant for us.
- 10:02Nicole Laino: Especially when we have big dreams and we feel like we have a big purpose on our heart.
- 10:06Nicole Laino: It's.
- 10:07Nicole Laino: It's going to be uncomfortable.
- 10:09Nicole Laino: And if you stop every time it gets uncomfortable, that's why you're not growing.
- 10:12Nicole Laino: It's not because you're misaligned now.
- 10:15Nicole Laino: You want to be very careful.
- 10:16Nicole Laino: You want to make sure that you want these things, that they feel aligned.
- 10:18Nicole Laino: And that's exactly the discernment that we want to create within ourselves, is to really understand what your body feels like, what your strategy and authority feels like, what it feels like to be in alignment.
- 10:30Nicole Laino: And a lot of times we find alignment through the misalignment.
- 10:34Nicole Laino: We find, you know, when we make the wrong turn, we're like, oh, wait, this is the wrong way.
- 10:38Nicole Laino: And that's okay.
- 10:39Nicole Laino: People, a lot of times are very afraid to make the wrong turn.
- 10:42Nicole Laino: I still make wrong turns.
- 10:43Nicole Laino: I tell that to people all the time.
- 10:45Nicole Laino: I'm like, I'm not perfect at this.
- 10:47Nicole Laino: I make wrong turns all the time.
- 10:49Nicole Laino: I've just gotten really good at noticing almost right away when I've made a wrong turn and I correct course very quickly.
- 10:57Nicole Laino: So.
- 10:58Nicole Laino: So I'm not taken off course.
- 10:59Nicole Laino: I am not draining myself, moving further away from alignment.
- 11:04Nicole Laino: I notice I feel it immediately, or pretty close to immediately, and I redirect and I come back to where I belong.
- 11:13Nicole Laino: That's possible for all of you.
- 11:15Nicole Laino: It just takes practice and it takes actually living this and not just learning about it, not just listening to podcasts, not just.
- 11:23Nicole Laino: It's really about applying this and really digging into it.
- 11:28Nicole Laino: So if you are interested in this, if this is something that you are committed to, about living your purpose and stretching yourself beyond your fears, beyond the conditioning, beyond what you thought was possible before, and really reaching for your purpose and you feel like you have a big one on your heart, then I really encourage you to check out the Human Design Authority Lab.
- 11:48Nicole Laino: This is a really cool place.
- 11:49Nicole Laino: We have such an amazing community already.
- 11:51Nicole Laino: We're so excited about what's happening in there.
- 11:54Nicole Laino: You get free masterclasses every month with your membership.
- 11:57Nicole Laino: You get the VIP and the regular masterclass, so you get the two levels of it.
- 12:01Nicole Laino: So you're always getting those whatever extra lessons I do or Q&As and things that I add on to the masterclasses that are just for the lab members or you get it with your membership.
- 12:12Nicole Laino: You also get there's core content in there that gets you started with.
- 12:15Nicole Laino: The whole point behind the Human Design Lab is getting you in alignment with yourself, in action with it and getting you more visible and putting out your authentic message.
- 12:26Nicole Laino: This, this is about authenticity in motion.
- 12:28Nicole Laino: This is about getting yourself out there.
- 12:30Nicole Laino: So whether you are a human design enthusiast and you're like I'm really just about my path, you can find a home in there and be really in love with what we do in there.
- 12:37Nicole Laino: But if you are also growing a business and you want to start incorporating human design, you're sort of curious about how that works, check it out.
- 12:44Nicole Laino: It's definitely that is the place for you as well.
- 12:47Nicole Laino: We do co working sessions every month where we build on what we are learning and what we are doing to get you into action around it again.
- 12:53Nicole Laino: That's the whole point.
- 12:54Nicole Laino: We have guest speakers come in.
- 12:55Nicole Laino: It's really cool.
- 12:57Nicole Laino: And then of course you get a whole community of people who are doing this to support you and to give you ideas, inspiration for how you can through their journey, how you can amplify yours as well.
- 13:09Nicole Laino: If you want information on that, just DM me the word Lab on Instagram.
- 13:12Nicole Laino: I'm icolenofficial.
- 13:13Nicole Laino: We'll send you the links or go to nicolelaino.com lab and we'll send it to you over there.
- 13:19Nicole Laino: Thank you so much for being here.
- 13:21Nicole Laino: I appreciate you.
- 13:22Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
- 13:27Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
- 13:30Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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