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An Unlikely Affair: What the F*** Did We See In Him? · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hi Amber, Hi Lola. Welcome to an Unlikely Affair.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of an
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  Speaker 2: Unlikely Affair.
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  Speaker 1: Hello Lola, Hello gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: I can't I hope you say that every day for
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  Speaker 2: the next fifty years of ours.
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  Speaker 1: It's my most favorite thing. I know. You have to
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  Speaker 1: get the tone right too.
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  Speaker 2: It's so wild. We are here in San Francisco, which
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  Speaker 2: I've only been I think one time.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, but the last time that I was in San
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  Speaker 3: Francisco was when I burned the house down on vander
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  Speaker 3: pump Rules. Oh really, season eleven out in the middle
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  Speaker 3: of like this bay whatever building that was like you
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  Speaker 3: had to take a ferry to get to. And I
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  Speaker 3: was kicking back, relaxing, being like, I won't do it. Alcatraz,
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  Speaker 3: I won't do it.
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  Speaker 2: I Oh my god, were they sending you away? They're like,
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  Speaker 2: we gotta get this Lala off the show. She's We're
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  Speaker 2: gonna send her to Alcatraz.
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  Speaker 1: That shit is so funny.
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  Speaker 3: We brought what it was called we have a jam
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  Speaker 3: Pack a couple of days, I know, but I'm so excited.
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  Speaker 3: I was really hoping that we would end up having
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  Speaker 3: like a rams uh Patriots situation that didn't happen. All
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  Speaker 3: is good, that's fine. I still love football. You're more basketball, though, right,
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  Speaker 3: you like bars.
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  Speaker 2: I love basketball, but I would definitely say I'm probably more.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I.
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  Speaker 2: Should go for the Seahawks. I don't know why I
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  Speaker 2: keep that.
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  Speaker 3: Do that because then we'll have a we'll have a competition.
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  Speaker 3: Oh okay, but we are here for our cute launch
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  Speaker 3: party of an unlikely affair. I figured that this would
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  Speaker 3: be like, well, both of us figured this would be
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  Speaker 3: the perfect place to do it. There's like so many
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  Speaker 3: fun people that are going to be around. The energy
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  Speaker 3: is just like you guys. It's a Wednesday and it's
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  Speaker 3: already popping here. And so many different jerseys. It doesn't
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  Speaker 3: even I'm wishing now instead of wearing red, that I
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  Speaker 3: would have worn my ray Lewish Baltimore jersey.
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  Speaker 2: I know, maybe you could change later. Oh you didn't
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  Speaker 2: bring it, didn't bring it. Maybe you didn't bring it.
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  Speaker 1: I brought my G Unit throwback.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 2: I saw it this morning. I actually really liked that.
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  Speaker 2: I walked in and I was.
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  Speaker 1: Like, gee, Unit, yeah you did in that exact voice.
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  Speaker 3: Tamar Judge is gonna be at the party, you're who
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  Speaker 3: will all introduce you to Amber. She's like a bag
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  Speaker 3: of fun Dolores who was on Real Housewives of New Jersey.
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  Speaker 1: She's like a fucking mob vibe. Oh I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I love a good Jersey mob vibe.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe someone will come to the party who just happens
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  Speaker 3: to have a vape on them and I'll just like
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  Speaker 3: happen to stumble my mouth into it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, and accidentally breathe in.
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  Speaker 2: I can't. You're twitching again.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I want to talk about this one.
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  Speaker 3: Give us more details about how La Lad didn't know
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  Speaker 3: her ex had a We talked about this literally yesterday.
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  Speaker 3: Because there are times where Amber and I will reminisce
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  Speaker 3: about the past and you will bring something up, or
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  Speaker 3: I will bring something up, and I will say to you,
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  Speaker 3: had I not been drinking, I would have known I
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  Speaker 3: was actively trying to ignore. And when I say so, when.
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  Speaker 2: You say I was actively trying to ignore, that means
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  Speaker 2: there's something inside of you that felt off.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, anytime my gut would talk to me, I would
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  Speaker 3: drink more. I do not relate my alcoholism to meeting him.
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  Speaker 3: I think that that's a cop out for me. I
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  Speaker 3: think It's always lived deep within me alcoholism, but I
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  Speaker 3: do I can pinpoint exactly when it spiraled out of control,
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  Speaker 3: which is when I met him, and I would drink
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  Speaker 3: excessively to numb my intuition.
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  Speaker 1: And when I say I made a deal with the devil.
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  Speaker 3: I put importance on not only numbing my gut, but
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  Speaker 3: importance on things. And it's not something I'm proud of.
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  Speaker 3: If I could go back and change it, I would.
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  Speaker 1: It is what it is. I don't recommend that at
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  Speaker 1: all because.
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  Speaker 3: I was getting a lot of things, but I have
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  Speaker 3: never been more sad and depressed and empty in my
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  Speaker 3: entire life.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, the things and alcohol are. It's like the same,
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  Speaker 2: it's feeding the same beast.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it really is.
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  Speaker 3: But when people say, how could you not have known,
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  Speaker 3: It's like, I understand. I understand why you would ask that,
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  Speaker 3: because when I'm telling stories, I too, go bitch, you
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  Speaker 3: did know, but you drank to make that feeling go away.
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  Speaker 3: And then cut to when I get sober and it
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  Speaker 3: was still weighing very heavy on me. I need to
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  Speaker 3: know that I did not ruin this home. That is
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  Speaker 3: very important for me. It's very important for my sobriety
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  Speaker 3: I need to fucking know to fly to Arizona and
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  Speaker 3: meet with this therapist who then confirmed everything he said
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  Speaker 3: I let everything go. I was like, wow, okay, I
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  Speaker 3: really didn't. I really didn't. I didn't do anything wrong. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: which was obviously very much a lot not true. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: very not true. Because then I called you after I
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  Speaker 3: had parted ways from him, and you were like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I know that woman.
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  Speaker 1: She was our couple's therapists.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was an interesting time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, I should have known. I chose to drink
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  Speaker 1: that feeling away.
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  Speaker 2: Well I've said this before and I will say it again.
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  Speaker 2: You saved my life. I could not save my own
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  Speaker 2: life at the time. I was in too much pain
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  Speaker 2: and I did not know how to get out, even
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  Speaker 2: though it had happened fifteen times prior to that. I
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  Speaker 2: really needed the last straw, for whatever reason, to see
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  Speaker 2: what I saw and to say, Okay, that's it, because
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  Speaker 2: if you don't leave, you're not going to live another
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  Speaker 2: day to see your kids. It was the emotional pain
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  Speaker 2: and the emotional the emotional abuse was too much, and
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  Speaker 2: it's probably hard for anyone who is out there going
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  Speaker 2: like you just fucking leave. It's like No, it's not
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  Speaker 2: that easy. And when there's kids involved, and I will
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  Speaker 2: you know, my job is to clean my side of
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  Speaker 2: the street. I take responsibility for not leaving. It was
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  Speaker 2: really hard. But I don't want to look in the
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  Speaker 2: room of your mirror, like I want to look forward
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  Speaker 2: and move forward in my life. And I'm really proud
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  Speaker 2: of the person that I'm becoming.
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  Speaker 1: Not perfect.
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  Speaker 2: There's still a lot of work, and I'm doing the
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  Speaker 2: work every day, but I'm in a much much better
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  Speaker 2: headspace where I could think clearer and I know that
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  Speaker 2: my choices, not just in my romantic life, but as
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  Speaker 2: a mom, as a friend, as a sister in my
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  Speaker 2: career are Everything's a little bit clear. There's no more fog.
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  Speaker 2: The fog has been lifted.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that.
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  Speaker 2: So next question, Oh, this is really interesting. This is
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  Speaker 2: a great one for you. Would Amber get eaten alive
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  Speaker 2: if she joined the Valley?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't think.
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  Speaker 3: No, because you guys have to remember that Amber and
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  Speaker 3: I at one point in time had toxicity within our relationship,
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  Speaker 3: and Amber can get fucking Scarrappi and it comes out
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  Speaker 3: of nowhere.
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  Speaker 1: It comes out of nowhere.
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  Speaker 3: Got You're like just this, like beautiful face with these
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  Speaker 3: like eyes that you feel like you're stealing my soul
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  Speaker 3: in the best way possible.
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  Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden, No, you would not
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  Speaker 1: get eating alive. I think you'd eat alive and you'd
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  Speaker 1: side swipe.
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  Speaker 2: You're a side sep, I'm a side Oh okay, you're
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  Speaker 2: like the you're the You're the.
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  Speaker 3: Lethal weapon that I would want on my team.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone knows, like, I have no tricks.
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  Speaker 3: I never sideswipe anybody because everybody knows exactly how I move.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, you're lethal.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I've I'm pretty calm and like level headed
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  Speaker 2: until someone I'm cross the wrong way, and then I
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  Speaker 2: will go ape shit on your ass.
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  Speaker 1: Are they ever jealous of each other?
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  Speaker 2: Well I know the answer to that.
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  Speaker 1: No. I was jealous of you back in the day.
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  Speaker 3: Did you have like talent and you are like really
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  Speaker 3: pretty naturally? Oh stop, no, I'm being serious being vulnerable
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  Speaker 3: right now. Oh okay, Yeah, I would be envious, and
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  Speaker 3: I think that's why I would act in a certain
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  Speaker 3: way out of like jealousy, which is very ugsy. But
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  Speaker 3: since we've become friends, No, like, I'm really jealous of
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  Speaker 3: your jawline. But that's like a really nice I'm jealous
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  Speaker 3: of your leg. Okay, next one, that's so funny.
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  Speaker 2: Why the hell did you both want to be with
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  Speaker 2: your ex? What did you find so intriguing? H I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if I found it.
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  Speaker 3: And this is a good This is a good question
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  Speaker 3: because it allows us to toot his horn, which never
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  Speaker 3: freaking happens. You guys, he is so much fun when
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  Speaker 3: you first meet him. Yes, absolutely, And that's how he
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  Speaker 3: gets you so fun. It is funny, great and so funny,
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  Speaker 3: and it it's all good until it's fucking.
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  Speaker 1: Hell and it happens very very quickly.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, how did I go from heaven to hell so quickly?
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  Speaker 2: Well, we just talked about it. There was a lot
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  Speaker 2: of isms going on.
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  Speaker 1: Isms, that's what it is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, he's very funny. He's a good storyteller and
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  Speaker 2: he knows how to have a good time. And for
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  Speaker 2: me when I was I met him when I was
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  Speaker 2: seventeen turning eighteen the next month.
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  Speaker 1: Such a baby.
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  Speaker 2: I was such a baby. Listen anyone at that age.
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  Speaker 3: It was like.
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  Speaker 2: Larger than life. And he was fun. I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: that's it. He was fun all right. Next one, how
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  Speaker 2: long have you tube been on good terms and how
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  Speaker 2: many years? And I've been thinking about that.
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  Speaker 3: I called Amber shortly after I had left my ex,
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  Speaker 3: and I called to make amend. Yes, and that was
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  Speaker 3: about a little over four and a half years ago.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean we've been in each other's lives.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think once that phone call finally happened, I
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  Speaker 2: still think that there was a lot of healing between
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  Speaker 2: that phone call and where we are today. Of course,
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  Speaker 2: and it's only getting better, right, Like you're learning to
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  Speaker 2: trust me, I'm learning to trust you and consistency.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I just think it's really beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: Like I.
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  Speaker 2: It's been not an easy journey. It's definitely not linear,
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  Speaker 2: and I think we're doing a pretty good job. I
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  Speaker 2: think we're doing an amazing job. Yeah, And there's not
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people that I would take criticism from.
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  Speaker 2: But when you say something, you're like, dude, you're done,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh got it?
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  Speaker 1: Really?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that that's because we feel protected by
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  Speaker 3: each other?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, we feel protected and I respect you.
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  Speaker 1: I respect you too. That's so you said that that's.
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  Speaker 3: What you're looking for in like a partnership too, Like
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  Speaker 3: you have to respect the person. Do you find that
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  Speaker 3: as you go through life you realize that, Oh, my
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  Speaker 3: circle's getting smaller as well, because I'm realizing I don't
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  Speaker 3: respect a.
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  Speaker 1: Lot of people.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I would say so, absolutely. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Wow, a lot of profound shit happening on this
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  Speaker 3: stage today.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's all the fucking hot athletes that I'm
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: making that I'm making baby makeing eyes with Hello.
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: Hello? Do you see Cam Newton? Just pass No, with
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  Speaker 1: this big hat that's so fucking sexy.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Wait, who's that Cam Newton?
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: You don't know who Cam Newton is? He has fallen?
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  Speaker 2: Is he?
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  Speaker 3: What is?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: It just passed this way anyway, moving on, Okay, you're
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  Speaker 3: a sister, No are you?
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  Speaker 2: I've asked two questions.
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  Speaker 1: You're up.
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  Speaker 3: What was it like the first time you met in person?
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  Speaker 3: I was like a drunk back then. Do you remember
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  Speaker 3: the first time we met in person? Was it at one?
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  Speaker 1: It was like at his game? Right?
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  Speaker 2: I actually don't recall. That's still like a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of a blurry time for me.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I think it was? You came over
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  Speaker 1: to the house for a birthday.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you're right.
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  Speaker 3: It was either London or Riley's birthday. The house was
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  Speaker 3: not The house was the same way it was.
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  Speaker 1: Before the renovation.
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  Speaker 3: I remember feeling like, oh my god, I was going
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  Speaker 3: to throw up. I remember your person at the time.
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  Speaker 3: Your boyfriend was like, let me get a picture of you,
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  Speaker 3: our ax and the kids, and I wanted to light
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  Speaker 3: all of you on fire. I was like, this is
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  Speaker 3: so inappropriate. Even though it's not inappropriate, that's normal. Now
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  Speaker 3: that I have children, I know that that is like
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  Speaker 3: a normal thing. R Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it is
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  Speaker 3: in film healthy, a healthy thing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I shouldn't say normal healthy. That was the first
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  Speaker 1: time we met.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I actually recall now. I wonder how to what
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  Speaker 2: year was that. I don't even know what year that was,
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  Speaker 2: long time ago, probably like eighteen, no, eighteen, yeah, two,
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  Speaker 2: probably twenty eighteen.
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  Speaker 3: I it could have been eighteen, yeah, right before I
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  Speaker 3: got sober. I think what you're doing, say it was
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  Speaker 3: before then. I think I was living in the house
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  Speaker 3: in eighteen. I got sober in twenty eighteen.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, Amber, Okay, imagine if you both got together in
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  Speaker 2: the end of all you have been through. Listen, my
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  Speaker 2: life has taken many twists and turns.
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  Speaker 3: Well, we now know that you've never had a female experience.
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  Speaker 3: I have had a many female experience in my day.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean? I will I have had fun
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  Speaker 1: with women.
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  Speaker 3: But I think I am finally in the place of wanting.
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  Speaker 3: This sounds so weird and how did it change so quickly?
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  Speaker 3: I really want to find my person and I think
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  Speaker 3: I see myself with a man. Yeah, I don't picture
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  Speaker 3: myself now. Get like, physical attraction with a woman I'm
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  Speaker 3: down for, but I just don't picture myself in an
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  Speaker 3: intimate partnership with a woman. I don't know how people
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: want to label that, but I love you as my friend,
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  Speaker 3: and the moment I go down on.
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  Speaker 1: You, it's gonna make things awkward and very.
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  Speaker 2: Complicated, and I'm gonna be really confused.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want a complication.
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  Speaker 2: We're good, No, I'm very However, Oh, here we go.
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  Speaker 3: How someone would have said back in the day, before
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  Speaker 3: I knew you or a homeboy, you're gonna end up
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  Speaker 3: with one of these people.
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  Speaker 1: I would have put my life that I would have
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  Speaker 1: ended up with you before I ended up with him.
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  Speaker 1: Were talking physical appearance.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you guys, I had such a heyday
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  Speaker 3: talking with all of you, especially in the environment that
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  Speaker 3: we're in.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a kid in a candy store for me.
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  Speaker 2: For me, I'm gonna there's no vape today.
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  Speaker 1: It's no vape.
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  Speaker 3: All of these fine men around, I'm tweaking out, no
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  Speaker 3: vape vagina ready for it all. Something needs to puff
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: on something. Someone shove a stick looking device.
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  Speaker 2: I have some I have some mints in my purse.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be giving you a lott of mins. All right,
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  Speaker 2: look at your itching.
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  Speaker 1: You're itching. You're like not at it because I'm like
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  Speaker 1: excited to go and see and be seen.
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  Speaker 3: And there's nothing better, you guys than puffing on the
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  Speaker 3: vape while you see and be seen.
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  Speaker 1: Oh your good. If you want to sign a saw Famber.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you everybody for joining another episode of An Unlikely
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  Speaker 2: Affair from San Francisco. We will see you guys next time.
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  Speaker 1: Bye nights.