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Episode 26 - How Do You Maintain Who You Are Despite Negative People Exposing You? · You Minding Your Own Business

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Speaker 1: I'm a certified recovery life coach, all of he helping
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Speaker 1: people on their paths, their journeys, and their purpose.
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Speaker 2: Too a new and better you through self discovery.
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Speaker 1: I help people when it comes to finding their ways
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Speaker 1: out of the rabbit hole of following behind other people
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Speaker 1: and you finding your own path and your own journey
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Speaker 1: to where you are supposed to be when it comes
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Speaker 1: to your life and what it is.
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Speaker 2: That you're choosing to do now.
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Speaker 1: This episode today is gonna be all about you figuring
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Speaker 1: out what it is as far as what you wanna
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Speaker 1: do and how you want to live your life. Now,
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Speaker 1: a lot of us have lived our lives based upon
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Speaker 1: other people's wants and needs and doing things for everybody else,
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Speaker 1: and not once have we done something in all honesty
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Speaker 1: for ourselves. And it's crazy how we always tries to
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Speaker 1: say we wanna do things a certain way, but yet
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Speaker 1: we don't do it.
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Speaker 2: So a lot of times we hold.
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Speaker 1: Ourselves back because we allow people to hold us back
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Speaker 1: from whatever it is.
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Speaker 2: That we're trying to do and what we're trying to accomplish.
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Speaker 1: You have a lot of people that are trying to
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Speaker 1: be the best versions of themselves and can't be the
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Speaker 1: best version of themselves because people don't want to let
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Speaker 1: go of things that happened twenty thirty years ago and
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Speaker 1: it's still being thrown in your face. Why people are
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Speaker 1: trying to throw stuff in people's faces, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: But I saw something that kind of got my attention,
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Speaker 1: and a lot of people are talking about this thing
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Speaker 1: between Selena Gomez and Benny Blanca and Justin Beaver and
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Speaker 1: his wife Haley Beaver. I have not seen the documentary
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Speaker 1: of the of the Obsession when it comes to Haley
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Speaker 1: Beaver being obsessed with Selena.
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Speaker 2: I have seen it, but I have seen the similarities
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Speaker 2: of her copying her.
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Speaker 1: I've seen it, but I don't really get involved in
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Speaker 1: celebrity news like that. But I'm gonna use this today
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Speaker 1: as an example of why I'm mind my business now,
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Speaker 1: being I'm a life coach and being that I have
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Speaker 1: seen justin Biaver's journey from him being a young kid
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Speaker 1: and Usher finding him tim being this megastar, and to
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Speaker 1: him getting with Selena, being together for ten.
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Speaker 2: Years breaking up.
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Speaker 1: He ends up with Haley, and Selena goes through this
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Speaker 1: really deep thought depression. She goes through having lupis, then
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Speaker 1: she goes to having to have a kidney transplant and
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Speaker 1: now she can't have children, to now she's Benny Bloca
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Speaker 1: and she's happy and she's glowing. A lot of people
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Speaker 1: talk about Selena Gomez's voice, not understanding that she has lupus,
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Speaker 1: not understanding that when something like that happens, it does
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Speaker 1: mess up the way you talk and it can do
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Speaker 1: a lot of damage.
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Speaker 2: One thing about loupus.
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Speaker 1: Lupus is a very dangerous, dangerous illness, and it ain't
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Speaker 1: something to play with it really ain't.
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Speaker 2: It ain't nothing to play with at all, So you
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Speaker 2: got to be very mindful of that.
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Speaker 1: So the fact that everybody is so obsessed with this
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Speaker 1: Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber Haley Beeler situation.
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Speaker 2: I feel like I said, you me and he situation.
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Speaker 1: My thing is I'm happy for her, and I will
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Speaker 1: tell anybody, however you're able to heal, however you're able
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Speaker 1: to relinquish the negativity and the pain and the hurt.
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Speaker 2: And give it a God, then by all means you should.
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Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, who do I
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Speaker 1: think is the winner in this situation?
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Speaker 2: I would have to say Selena. And let me explain why.
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Speaker 1: I say that Selena died even though she was with
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Speaker 1: Justin for ten years. She really dodged a bullet, to
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Speaker 1: be honest, And I say that because the fact that
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Speaker 1: she went through what she went through and all of
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Speaker 1: the pain that she has dealt with, the fact that
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Speaker 1: she's had to overcome so many obstacles to get where
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Speaker 1: she is. I'm really happy in all honesty that she
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Speaker 1: is able to, you know, get through the situation. So
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Speaker 1: don't get me, don't get it twisted. I just want
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Speaker 1: people to understand and that you know, whatever it is
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Speaker 1: that's she's dealing with. To be honest, I'm hoping that
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Speaker 1: she gets through it because I've seen the devastation.
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Speaker 2: With Selena and what she went through with Justin, and
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Speaker 2: that's a lot.
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Speaker 1: It's absolutely a lot, and so I completely understand.
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Speaker 2: Why, you know, Selena did this album. Selena did this album.
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Speaker 1: Because it was her way of freeing herself of all
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Speaker 1: the dramas she went through in the past. And I'm
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Speaker 1: not really even mad at her for her expressing what
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Speaker 1: she's been through and as she should, and I think
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Speaker 1: she should express what she's felt throughout the years of
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Speaker 1: this situation. So I'm never gonna sit parents say that
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Speaker 1: Selena should not have the right to do that, because
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Speaker 1: she should have.
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Speaker 2: The right to do that. She has every right to.
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Speaker 1: Express herself in whatever way that she wants to express
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Speaker 1: herself as.
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Speaker 2: Long as she is doing what works for her. Who
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Speaker 2: am I to say something about that.
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to sit up here and say that
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Speaker 1: Selena should not, in any way, shape from fashion express
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Speaker 1: the way she feels, because she has every right to
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Speaker 1: do so, especially considering everything that she has had.
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Speaker 2: To go through in this situation with Justine.
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Speaker 1: She has every right to do so. She has every
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Speaker 1: right to say to herself, I am going to live
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Speaker 1: my life and.
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Speaker 2: Be happy as she should. However she chooses to deal
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Speaker 2: with this situation with Justin is up to her, and
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Speaker 2: I'm not mad at it.
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Speaker 1: I think if this is the way she feels that
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Speaker 1: she needs to address the situation with Justin.
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Speaker 2: Then she should do just that. She has every right
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Speaker 2: to do that.
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Speaker 1: And a lot of people you know who are teams
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Speaker 1: Justin are upset upset for what?
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Speaker 2: What are you upset for?
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Speaker 1: Because this woman is choosing to express how she feels
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Speaker 1: about a situation that happened to her in the way
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Speaker 1: that she's choosing to do so. So I'm not gonna
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Speaker 1: sit up here and say that this woman does not
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Speaker 1: have the right in any capacity to express herself the.
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Speaker 2: Way she chooses to, because she has a right to
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Speaker 2: do so.
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Speaker 1: So, even though a lot of people may say, how
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Speaker 1: is it that she's just gonna sit there and talk
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Speaker 1: about Justin?
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Speaker 2: She can talk about.
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Speaker 1: Justin anyway, and she feels like, no matter what, she
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Speaker 1: has the right to do whatever it is that.
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Speaker 2: Gives her peace.
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Speaker 1: If her talking about Justin in whatever way she choose
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Speaker 1: to do so, she has that right. Nobody can tell
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Speaker 1: her how to go about healing from this situation. Nobody
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Speaker 1: can tell her how to go about.
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Speaker 2: Living her life.
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Speaker 1: She got every right to handle the situation in whatever
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Speaker 1: way that she chooses to handle it. You may not
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Speaker 1: agree with the way that she's handling it, but she
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Speaker 1: has the right to handle it in whatever.
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Speaker 2: Way she wants to.
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Speaker 1: I tell people, who are you to tell somebody how
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Speaker 1: they're supposed to live their life. If they're living their
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Speaker 1: life and they're speaking on their experience of what they
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Speaker 1: went through, then they have every right to do it
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Speaker 1: in the way they choose do it. You may not
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Speaker 1: agree with it, but it ain't for you to decide.
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Speaker 1: So if she decides that she wants to handle this
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Speaker 1: in whatever way I she want to handle it, I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna get mad at her for handling her situation
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Speaker 1: the way she choose fit.
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Speaker 2: To handle.
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Speaker 1: This is her, This is her life, and she can
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Speaker 1: do it in whatever way that she wants to. I'm
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Speaker 1: not the one that's got to live it, but I
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Speaker 1: commend Benny because Bennie is doing something a lot of
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Speaker 1: men could never do. Allowing your allowing allowing your current
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Speaker 1: to basically, you know what I'm saying, go ahead and
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Speaker 1: you know, do what she feels is what works for her. Now,
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Speaker 1: some people are not gonna be thrilled about it. Some
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Speaker 1: people are gonna be pissed about it. Me burthlying, If
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Speaker 1: this is her way of healing and her way of
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Speaker 1: getting better, her way of expressing her pain, who am
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Speaker 1: I to say something about it, because I'm not going
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Speaker 1: to at the end of the day, If anything, I
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Speaker 1: want people to have exactly what it.
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Speaker 2: Is that you won't point blame period.
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Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna sit here and tell somebody they
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Speaker 1: don't have the right to feel the way they feel,
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Speaker 1: They don't have the right to handle their situations the
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Speaker 1: way they see fit that they want to handle it.
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Speaker 2: I'm never gonna do that. You ain't never gonna hear
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Speaker 2: me do that.
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Speaker 1: You're never gonna hear me say, oh this this person
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Speaker 1: got that got to do things this way that way. No,
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Speaker 1: after everything Selena has went through, and like I said,
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Speaker 1: I'm not here to judge. I need y'all to understand
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Speaker 1: I am not here to judge nobody. At the end
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Speaker 1: of a guy for second day, who am I to
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Speaker 1: judge somebody, I'm not judging nobody at the end of
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Speaker 1: the day. At the end of the day, everybody has
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Speaker 1: the right to live. They truth the way they won't
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Speaker 1: leave it. And I'm not going to tell somebody personally
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Speaker 1: how they shoot to heal. If music is how you
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Speaker 1: gonna get it out and how you are going to
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Speaker 1: express how you're feeling, what you're going through, and if
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Speaker 1: it's going to help you by being able to do that,
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Speaker 1: then by all means you should.
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Speaker 2: If that is what works for you. I tell you
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Speaker 2: all the time.
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Speaker 1: If what works for you is gonna make things easier
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Speaker 1: for you and make things better for you, then I say, hey,
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Speaker 1: go ahead.
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Speaker 2: If that's what's gonna work.
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Speaker 1: If you telling your story is gonna make things better
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Speaker 1: for you, then I say, hey, go for it. Do
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Speaker 1: whatever works for you, whatever is going to help you
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Speaker 1: to heal, then by all means you should. But you're
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Speaker 1: never gonna hear me say that a person should not
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Speaker 1: heal the way they choose to, whether it's journaling, whether
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Speaker 1: it be writing a book. If that is what's going
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Speaker 1: to help you to be the best version of yourself,
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Speaker 1: I say, go for it.
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Speaker 2: And that's just me being real.
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Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna sit up here and tell somebody
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Speaker 1: you shouldn't do this or shouldn't do that.
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Speaker 2: I tell people straight out, do what makes.
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Speaker 1: You happy, express whatever you wanna express in the way.
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Speaker 2: That you choose to express. So no, I'm not gonna
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Speaker 2: hold nobody back.
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Speaker 1: That's not something i'm'a do because the number one that
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Speaker 1: would be unfair of me to do that, It would
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Speaker 1: be it would be really unfair for me to say
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Speaker 1: to Selena, oh, you're wrong for the fact of the
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Speaker 1: way you're going about expressing yourself.
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Speaker 2: I I'm not gonna do that.
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Speaker 1: That would be stupid. So no, I'm not gonna do that.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell her she's wrong for the way
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Speaker 1: that she is choosing to express herself.
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Speaker 2: You're never, You're never.
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Speaker 1: You're never gonna hear me say that, because I feel
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Speaker 1: like that if a person is going through something and
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Speaker 1: they're trying to heal, their healing process ain't the same
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Speaker 1: as everybody else. So whatever you feel work for you
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Speaker 1: when it comes to how you ch choose to heal,
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Speaker 1: I'm not mad at it.
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Speaker 2: As long as.
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Speaker 1: You are healing the way that you want to heal,
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Speaker 1: then I'm not gonna say too much and nothing. If
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Speaker 1: the way you're healing is gonna make you feel better
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Speaker 1: and make you feel you know, and make you get ready,
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Speaker 1: you know, let it go. Then who am I to
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Speaker 1: sit up here and say that you shouldn't. So again,
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Speaker 1: I'm not telling nobody what they need to do as
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Speaker 1: far as their life is concerned.
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Speaker 2: As long as they're doing.
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Speaker 1: What they feel is what's best for them, it don't matter.
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Speaker 2: I mean, I had to tell this.
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Speaker 1: One girl as a matter of fact, about her writing
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Speaker 1: a book, and she was scared of what her family
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Speaker 1: was gonna say about it. And I said to her,
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Speaker 1: you know, this isn't about everybody else. This is about you,
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Speaker 1: and you're writing this book for yourself. This is not
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Speaker 1: about everybody else and how everybody else gonna feel about it.
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Speaker 1: This is your story, and nobody can tell you.
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Speaker 2: How to write your own story.
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Speaker 1: You know, this is your story and you have to
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Speaker 1: write it the way.
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Speaker 2: That you see fit, that you decide you.
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Speaker 1: Want to tell it. And it's not for me to
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Speaker 1: sit up here and say to you you're wrong for
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Speaker 1: writing this book. Now, mind you, there are gonna be
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Speaker 1: people that's gonna be extremely pissed off because you're writing
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Speaker 1: this story, and I'm like, first of all, who is
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Speaker 1: who's gonna tell you how to run write a story
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Speaker 1: that you're choosing to write. This is your story, and
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Speaker 1: in the end, you're the one who got to stand
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Speaker 1: on it. Nobody else got to stand on it but you.
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Speaker 1: So if this is your story and this is the
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Speaker 1: way you want to write it, then I can't really
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Speaker 1: say anything to anybody about the story that they choose
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Speaker 1: to write. So if somebody says, well, I want to
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Speaker 1: write my story this way, I want to tell my
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Speaker 1: story this way, you have every right to tell it
17:12
Speaker 1: that it's however you choose to tell the story. So
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Speaker 1: for me to sit up here and tell somebody, oh,
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Speaker 1: you can't tell your story this way, you can't tell
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Speaker 1: your story.
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Speaker 2: I can't do that, and that would be wrong with me.
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Speaker 1: I can't sit here and tell somebody, oh, you can't
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Speaker 1: write your story the way you see fit that you
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Speaker 1: want to do it.
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Speaker 2: I can't do that. I just can't.
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Speaker 1: So she did end up, she did end up telling
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Speaker 1: the story. She did end up telling the story. She did,
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Speaker 1: and I don't know how it went because I haven't
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Speaker 1: talked to her. Since then, but she did tell her
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Speaker 1: story and a lot of people were very you know,
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Speaker 1: interested the story, so hopefully it did go well.
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Speaker 2: Least I hope it did.
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Speaker 1: So I just want people to understand everybody has the
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Speaker 1: right to tell their story in whatever way they want
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Speaker 1: to tell it. But understand what telling your story, You're
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Speaker 1: gonna have to worry about. A bunch of backlash, maybe lawsuits,
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Speaker 1: These are things you're gonna have to deal with, unfortunately,
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Speaker 1: even though it may not be what you want to
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Speaker 1: got to go through. But somebody telling their their story
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Speaker 1: is for them to tell it, it ain't for everybody else.
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Speaker 1: So the fact that people think they have the right
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Speaker 1: to sit here and say, well, this person doesn't have
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Speaker 1: the right to tell their story.
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Speaker 2: Everybody got the right to tell their story.
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Speaker 1: What's crazy is when everybody else try to tell your
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Speaker 1: story and they try to tell you what your life is,
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Speaker 1: and I tell other people, who are you to tell
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Speaker 1: somebody what somebody else's life story is? Like you know
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Speaker 1: what they went through or what they've had to endure.
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Speaker 1: You don't know what somebody else had to endure, what
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Speaker 1: somebody else's.
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Speaker 2: Life look like, you don't even know.
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Speaker 1: And yet and still you wanna sit up there and
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Speaker 1: tell somebody, they that you're gonna tell them how they
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Speaker 1: live their lives. I tell you all the time, you
19:17
Speaker 1: don't know what somebody has had to endure or what
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Speaker 1: they've had to deal with.
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Speaker 2: You don't know.
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Speaker 1: But the fact that you think that you have the
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Speaker 1: right to tell somebody what their story is, you have
19:34
Speaker 1: the right to tell somebody that whether or not they
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Speaker 1: deserve to have happiness or not, you don't have that
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Speaker 1: right to do nothing none of that. You don't have
19:43
Speaker 1: the right to sit there and tell somebody how their
19:47
Speaker 1: life is going to be. You won't there, so being
19:52
Speaker 1: that you weren't there, you don't know else what somebody
19:56
Speaker 1: else has had to endure. It's not your story, it's
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Speaker 1: and however they.
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Speaker 2: Choose to tell the story.
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Speaker 1: It is really pretty much on them how they choose
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Speaker 1: to tell the story. So they want to tell the story,
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Speaker 1: and whatever way that they want to tell it, they
20:15
Speaker 1: have the right to do that. Everybody has the right
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Speaker 1: to tell their story and whatever way they want to
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Speaker 1: do it. And you may not like the way they're
20:26
Speaker 1: telling their story, but again, it's not your story to.
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Speaker 2: Tell, it's theirs.
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Speaker 1: So you can't tell somebody, Oh my god, you know
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Speaker 1: you're telling your story this way? Once we heard, it's
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Speaker 1: not for you to decide. It's their decision as far
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Speaker 1: as whatever it is they choose to do, it's not
20:51
Speaker 1: my decision in a short decision, it's their decision. If
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Speaker 1: that person decides to live their truth whatever way they
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Speaker 1: want to live it, they can. If they want to
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Speaker 1: tell their story in whatever way they want.
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Speaker 2: To tell it, they have the right to do it.
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Speaker 1: But you can't tell somebody else that they can't tell
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Speaker 1: their story the way they want to tell it.
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Speaker 2: You wrong for that. You can't do that.
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Speaker 1: So again, everybody has the right to tell their story
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Speaker 1: in whatever way that they want to. It's not for
21:31
Speaker 1: you to make that decision. You may not agree whatever
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Speaker 1: their decision is, but again, their decision is theirs. So
21:42
Speaker 1: you may not agree to whatever the situation is. But
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Speaker 1: in the end, that person got every right to talk
21:51
Speaker 1: about whatever it is. If it's going to make their
21:55
Speaker 1: lives better, they got every right to do so. Like
21:58
Speaker 1: I said, again, you may not agree with it, but
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Speaker 1: again it ain't for you to decide. So I need
22:07
Speaker 1: people to stop worrying about what other people are gonna
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Speaker 1: say about the story that you're choosing to tell. Mind you,
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Speaker 1: your story is for you to tell. It's not for
22:19
Speaker 1: anybody else. It's for you.
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Speaker 2: So even though people may not agree with what you're doing,
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Speaker 2: who cares.
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Speaker 1: This is your life and you have to do it
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Speaker 1: in a way that works for you. It ain't about
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Speaker 1: everybody else and what they got going on. It is
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Speaker 1: what you're choosing to do as far as your life
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Speaker 1: is concerned, because in the end, you're the one that
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Speaker 1: in the end it's gonna be the person that's gonna
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Speaker 1: have to live with whatever it is that you do.
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Speaker 1: So I can't sit here and tell somebody or be
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Speaker 1: made if somebody wrote the story and their story is
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Speaker 1: something that everybody's gonna be mad about, of course you're
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Speaker 1: gonna be mad about it.
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Speaker 2: But again, it's not your story.
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Speaker 1: And yeah, you're gonna have some parents that are gonna
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Speaker 1: be mad because this person told their story. But that
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Speaker 1: person got ever a single solitary right to tell their
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Speaker 1: story the way they see fits that they want to
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Speaker 1: tell it. Whether you agree or disagree, it is their story.
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Speaker 1: So even though you may say to yourself, well, you know,
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Speaker 1: I don't maybe you shouldn't tell the story why shouldn't
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Speaker 1: they tell their story?
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Speaker 2: Why not? Why shouldn't they tell it?
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Speaker 1: They're the ones that went through it, and not only that,
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Speaker 1: it will also help a lot of people, So why
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Speaker 1: shouldn't they tell the story?
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Speaker 2: That's the part of irritates me.
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Speaker 1: People still can't explain to me why somebody can't tell
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Speaker 1: their story about their own life.
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Speaker 2: So in the end, I don't like stuff like that.
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Speaker 2: I don't. I like the fact that.
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Speaker 1: People are able to tell their stories in their own
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Speaker 1: way and telling it in the way that they see fit,
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Speaker 1: that they choose to tell it, whether you agree or disagree.
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Speaker 2: So I don't like stuff like that. I don't. I
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Speaker 2: don't like stuff like that at all.
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Speaker 1: I just feel like people have the right to do
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Speaker 1: things in a way that they choose to do it,
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Speaker 1: and handle things the way they choose to handle it.
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Speaker 1: Whether you agree or disagree, it's not for you to
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Speaker 1: say so. At the end of the day, however you
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Speaker 1: choose to tell your story, however you choose to help people,
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Speaker 1: however you choose to.
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Speaker 2: Live your life.
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Speaker 1: That is not for anybody else but for you, is
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Speaker 1: what I would say to that. So as long as
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Speaker 1: you are living your truth the way you see fit
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Speaker 1: that you wanna live it. Hey, do you do what
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Speaker 1: makes you happy?
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Speaker 2: Do what bring your joey.
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Speaker 1: That's all I can tell you about that, because in
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Speaker 1: the end, everybody has a different way of handling their scenarios,
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Speaker 1: and whether I agree or not, it is not for
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Speaker 1: me to really decide on that. So I'm not gonna
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Speaker 1: sit up here and say to somebody you don't deserve
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Speaker 1: to live your truth, your your Your truth is your truth.
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Speaker 1: It's the way I I mean, I I can't how
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Speaker 1: can I would this? I I can't really, you know,
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Speaker 1: honestly say too much about it.
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Speaker 2: You know, everybody's gonna live their truth the way they.
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Speaker 1: See it, and even even if I don't agree with it.
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Speaker 1: But in the end, you know, I just want people
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Speaker 1: to understand this is your life and I'm gonna need
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Speaker 1: you to live it the way you want to live it.
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Speaker 1: So I can't really say too much. So everybody has
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Speaker 1: a different way of a lot of things. But you know,
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Speaker 1: minding your own business is about you not worrying about
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Speaker 1: what everybody else got to say about the life that
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Speaker 1: you are choosing to live. Because again, just saying everybody's life,
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Speaker 1: this is yours, and people may not like the way
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Speaker 1: you go about things. Who cares in all honesty, because
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Speaker 1: in the end, once you tell your story their belief
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Speaker 1: that you're gonna feel when your story is told, the
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Speaker 1: happier you're gonna be. In the fact that you're telling
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Speaker 1: your story the way that you want to live it,
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Speaker 1: then you should. So I'm not gonna sit here and
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Speaker 1: say to somebody, don't live your life, don't live your truth,
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Speaker 1: don't do things the way.
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Speaker 2: You want to do it. You're never gonna hear me
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Speaker 2: say that. Ever.
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Speaker 1: You're never ever gonna hear me say that you shouldn't
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Speaker 1: tell things. You have every right to tell things, and
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Speaker 1: whatever way that you want to tell it, I'm not
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Speaker 1: gonna say nothing because the way you choes tell it
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Speaker 1: is your way. But whatever your healing process is, whatever
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Speaker 1: way you want to heal, then at the end of
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Speaker 1: the day, you got every right to heal the way
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Speaker 1: you choose and the way you want to heal. And
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Speaker 1: that's cool with me as long as it's the way
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Speaker 1: that you want to heal. So as long as you're
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Speaker 1: healing the way you see fit that you want to heal,
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Speaker 1: who am I said something up because of a life coach,
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Speaker 1: That's the one thing I'm gonna do is tell you
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Speaker 1: live your life the way that you feel comfortable and
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Speaker 1: the way you see fit that.
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Speaker 2: You want to you want to live.
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Speaker 1: So who am I to sit up here and tell somebody, oh,
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Speaker 1: you can't live your life the way you want to?
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Speaker 1: How am I what right? What right do I have
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Speaker 1: to do that? I don't have a right to do that.
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Speaker 1: So in the end, I want people to be happy.
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Speaker 1: Do whatever it is that you see fit that deems
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Speaker 1: that works for you. So if you feel like that
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Speaker 1: the life that you're choosing to live is what you
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Speaker 1: wanna live.
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Speaker 2: Hey, do you see hurt?
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Speaker 1: That's all that matter to me is that you're living
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Speaker 1: your life the based on the way you're choosing to
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Speaker 1: live your life.
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Speaker 2: So I can tell so I can say to you
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Speaker 2: on that.
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Speaker 1: So nobody should stand in the way of your greatness
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Speaker 1: or whatever it is that you're trying to do.
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Speaker 2: Don't let nobody make you feel less than what you are.
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Speaker 1: Continue to grow, evolve and elevate to the best version
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Speaker 1: of yourself, and continue to do what works for you.
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Speaker 1: So as long as you are doing what worked for
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Speaker 1: you and what you feel is best for you. Hey,
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say nothing about nothing just cause I
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Speaker 1: don't have that right and lively unfair to even go there.
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Speaker 2: So to conclude this, I would just.
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Speaker 1: Say that whatever it is that you choose to do,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is that make you happen, whatever it is
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Speaker 1: that brings you joy, I want you to go ahead
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Speaker 1: on and do so, because it's not for me to
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Speaker 1: make that decision is really up to you. So if
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Speaker 1: the decision you making works for you and it's something
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Speaker 1: that's gonna help you through your journey, then hey, I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna say too much anything.
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Speaker 2: Because you have the right to whatever it.
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Speaker 1: Is you want them seriously do whatever you choose to.
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Speaker 2: So I'm gonna end it there because my mother's calling.
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Speaker 2: So I love y'all. I thank y'all for joining me
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Speaker 2: for this episode.
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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Goddess Osha Mariyama, and until next time,
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Speaker 1: we'll talk later, by y'all,