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Tanya Rad Shares Sage (Seriously!) Relationship Advice For Your Next Fight · On Air with Ryan Seacrest

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  Speaker 1: Now, Tanya has I don't know why this came up,
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  Speaker 1: but Tanya, is it a question about when you argue?
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  Speaker 1: Is it a position about arguments? What is it about
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  Speaker 1: arguments that you want to address?
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  Speaker 2: It's a question to ask your partner when you're in
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  Speaker 2: an argument.
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  Speaker 1: George, listen to this, Okay, go ahead, Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So this is something that I think I read it
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  Speaker 2: in my therapy book. But it's basically, if you're arguing
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  Speaker 2: with your partner, ask them this one question, then they
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  Speaker 2: should ask it to you. How important is this to you?
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  Speaker 2: Because sometimes when you argue, one of the two might
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  Speaker 2: just be like, this is so silly, I don't care,
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  Speaker 2: but it might really deeply mean something to the other person.
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  Speaker 2: So I think you have to check in how important
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  Speaker 2: is this to you. If you both say it's not
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  Speaker 2: that important, you can just move on. But if one
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  Speaker 2: person says this is really important to me, then you
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  Speaker 2: take the time and you hash it out and you
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  Speaker 2: figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's a very good approach to not waste
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  Speaker 1: time arguing about things that don't really matter. You know,
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  Speaker 1: because arguments, you know, difference of opinion, you know, it's
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  Speaker 1: not about winning or losing. It's really about making sure
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  Speaker 1: the other person feels hurt or is not threatened. It
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  Speaker 1: is I think, well, I don't argue. I like to
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  Speaker 1: de escalate, but I think that you know, sometimes based
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  Speaker 1: on where you are in the day, it's the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, you haven't eaten. Little things become arguments
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  Speaker 1: and they just shouldn't. They're waste of time, energy, and
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  Speaker 1: they're toxic and you need to move on. I love
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  Speaker 1: this approach.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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