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How I Found My Voice After Years of Self-Doubt · The Inspired Speaker Network

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  You are listening to The Awakening Woman on the Rise. If you are a woman who is seeking to live
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  a more authentic life but are feeling not enough to step out fully just yet, you are in the right
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  place. If you are a woman who is looking to live your personal truth and make the impact you truly
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  desire, you are in the right place. I'm your host, Wendy Yacboski. Let's step out in this together.
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  Hi, everyone. It's Wendy Yacboski of The Awakening Woman on the Rise.
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  I'm so excited to begin this journey with you. And it really has been a journey already speaking
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  for myself, because I have been an Awakening Woman on the Rise. Throughout my life,
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  I have always been into personal development. I have always been into growing myself,
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  into having richer and better experiences. But most importantly, I've been looking at
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  having a better relationship with myself over my life. And to me, that is the Awakening Woman.
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  Because we can learn all different kinds of skills about how to improve our work, to improve
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  various things in our life. But the truth is, is that until we have a good relationship with
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  ourselves, what I found is the rest is really hard to do. Because our work, our various relationships
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  come from what we believe about ourselves, how much faith we have in ourselves, how much
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  how much what do I want to say here, how much we're willing to show up in our lives.
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  It means everything. So I created this podcast, so that you can recognize as well, that you are
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  an Awakening Woman on the Rise. And if you feel like you've got some challenges, welcome to the
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  Awakening Woman on the Rise group. Because the thing is, it's not about perfection. And it will
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  never be about perfection. I read a quote that I'm going to paraphrase right now. But it said that
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  awakening is not a feeling. It's a practice. And that's what we are going to be doing throughout
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  this series and all series after this, is we are going to be practicing recognizing the truth
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  about ourselves, which I would say is the more essential divine truth of ourselves.
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  And practicing that. Something else that I've done in my life that you may recognize for yourself is
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  that I used to believe that confidence came first. I'm telling you right now, if you don't already
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  know this, it's not how it works. Action creates confidence. Actually, being willing to choose
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  to act, to make a decision to act, and then acting will build confidence. There is no greater way.
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  It doesn't just happen. And like myself, I know that you are looking to do new things.
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  Otherwise, you wouldn't even consider the word reawakening. You wouldn't be listening to this
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  podcast thinking, what might Wendy have to tell me that maybe I haven't thought of or I forgot about
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  or I ignored for a little while, but it's bugging me. You know, it keeps coming back. That's when
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  you know it's true, when it keeps coming back, something to do. So this is my intention for
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  the Awakening Woman on the Rise, because the truth also is, and excuse me if I'm not
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  actually paraphrasing this correctly, what the Dalai Lama said, but he gives women the credit
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  as we continue to awaken, as we continue to show up in this world, that it will change the world.
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  You know, when I was in grade school, which was probably, I'm not sure, grade four, five,
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  six maybe, I remember being in a classroom with the most amazing teacher. His name was Mr. Houghton.
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  I've never, ever forgotten him. And he was asking questions of the class, of course,
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  and I was just kind of like collapsed, which can be so easy to do. I wasn't answering,
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  I wasn't raising my hand. And somehow that blessed teacher realized that she's quite shy
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  for her age. She's quite afraid for her age to give an answer, to make a point,
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  to say something that she thinks. And this teacher, he was so interested and caring about me
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  that he actually came to my home to talk to my parents about why might Wendy be so shy?
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  Why might she not want to share her thoughts, answer questions in a class?
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  To make a long story short, it didn't really end up going anywhere. I wished it would have,
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  because I wanted that teacher to find out how insecure I was, how dominated I felt in various
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  ways in my life, and how not good I felt about myself. Unfortunately, that wasn't the time
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  when I started going into self-development and to learn how can I come out more in my life?
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  How can I become more confident? But I will tell you that many years in my life after that
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  did become involved in trying to become someone that I had lost at a young age.
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  And I know that I am not the only child that has experienced that. I know that I'm not the only
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  woman that still experiences that at times. This is where the awakening calling
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  is coming through. I will share with you, and I'm happy to share with you, that my healing
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  came when I started to become more spiritually learned. It was when I was in my 30s
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  that I came across a program called the Science of Mind and Spirit.
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  It was at a time in my life where I was feeling completely overwhelmed and unequipped in my job,
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  in my relationships. It hurts to think about it, how poorly I felt about myself.
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  And then a friend that I met where I lived at the time sent me a little booklet. She had moved to
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  Vancouver from Penticton, where I was at the time many years ago. And it was a booklet titled The
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  Science of Mind, and it had daily readings. And what I kind of leaned into when I first started
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  reading about God in that magazine, which I had really shut the door on a few years ago,
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  because I had felt that God wasn't there for me in what I was going through.
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  I couldn't read the word God without kind of like a wall showing up. But then it started
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  talking about how God was good, and so am I. And something in me shifted.
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  I wanted to believe that God was good and that I am good. And it caused me to make the biggest
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  change in my life. And that was to find out where there were what they call spiritual centers,
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  not churches. They're more a new thought teaching. You could say more of a metaphysical
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  teaching. And I found out that there was one in Calgary. And I left the job I was in. I left
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  the city that I thought only special people got to be in because Penticton is so beautiful.
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  And I moved to Calgary, and I started many, many, many years of classes and coming to believe
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  that I was at choice. That was the greatest learning I had at that time of my life,
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  because I had grown up believing I did not have a choice. That I had this little lot
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  in my life that is what I had for the rest of my life. And it was the spiritual teaching
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  of the science of mind and spirit that helped me realize that that, in fact, was not the truth.
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  And it wasn't until many years later that I realized that I had believed something
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  that limited me so much, but there was so much more for me. And my life was transformed
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  in that moment. Yes, I continued classes. And then eventually, I moved into being what they
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  call a practitioner of the science of mind and spirit, where I learned about prayer, where I
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  learned to prove God, almost the goodness of God, and then eventually to become a minister.
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  And I look back on my life. And while I hope you know, I'm not plugging for anyone to be
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  taking on a spiritual life in that way, because I believe that spirit is different things to
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  different people. What I am saying is that I look back on my life, and I ask myself,
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  what would my life be like, if that would have never come in? And to be honest,
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  it was not a very big picture. It was not a very happy picture. And so I will be bringing up
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  spiritual principles at times in our episodes together, for the very purpose that there are
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  universal laws that can help us. They're operating already. But there are universal laws that we can
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  actually use to help co-create the life that it is, that we're not only wanting,
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  but that I believe we're called to live. And it all boils down to the qualities that we are
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  looking for in others, most often, are actually in fact, in ourselves. And I want to tell you
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  something that if you're looking for them in someone else, it's because you know what they are.
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  You know what you're looking for, something in you knows. And that is one of the things that I
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  hope to impress upon you, I will plan to impress upon you, that you're not starting from ground
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  zero at all. But this is a process of remembering. If I have read and studied so much, but it wasn't
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  until I started to feel safe to surrender and believe that there is something I have to give
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  someone else, it wouldn't have happened. It's not in the books. It's not in the studying. It's in
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  what I was telling you before, that awakening is not a feeling first. It's a practice. I'm so glad
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  you're here.