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Why Does Anyone Care If I Eat or Don't Eat, or Drink or Don't Drink? · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

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  SPEAKER_00: This is something I didn't expect to run into.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know anything about what I've done, I've torched off 135 pounds of body fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Took me about eight months.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used fasting, got my hormones in line, so all of that stuff worked out.
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  SPEAKER_00: But some of the weird things that happened, you might be able to translate into your life, not realizing, I guess I realized it, how important eating is and eating around friends and family.
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  SPEAKER_00: And part of the enjoyment is the eating and the drinking and spending time with each other over food and over alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people make those a priority in their lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's great, and it serves a lot of people very well, apparently.
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  SPEAKER_00: But to be able to do what I did and what you can do takes a little bit of willpower and discipline, and it takes a reformatting of the way you think of things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Food no longer, for me, is something that I go and spend time with other people enjoying.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not why I'm going to spend time with other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not the food, it's the people.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I don't look at food as being something that makes that meeting because I can meet people on a walking path.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can meet people in a park.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can meet people at a workout place or a gym, going for walks around the beach.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of places to meet people other than around food, but I'm blessed to still have friends that people that still like me, not very many, but I do have a couple.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I get invited.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of the one of the most recent events and meetings was being invited to a very large dinner party.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: And it was fantastic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there was just so much food there, it was amazing, but the food didn't fit with what I normally eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I respect myself enough, and I've learned over time that it's okay for me not to partake in something I don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: The same thing with alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol is a really good indicator of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you quit drinking, for whatever reason, maybe you have a problem with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's usually what people assume whenever somebody says, Well, I don't drink anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then the joke comes in, I don't drink any less.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if they're really serious and they say they don't drink anymore, then of course that curious thought on people's minds, I wonder why John doesn't drink anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe John had a run-in with the law.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe John lost his whole family because of alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe John burned down a city because he was drunk.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of things that John could have potentially have done, the reason why he's not drinking alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, those fit in some circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: For other people, maybe they just battled with it, maybe they're not very good at it, maybe they didn't like the way it made them feel after, maybe they didn't like the effect it had on their body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So people quit.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you do that same thing with food, it's a very interesting dynamic where people now have a problem with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The alcohol thing is enough of a problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you're around people, i.e.
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  SPEAKER_00: at this dinner party, there was so much food, very expensive food, fantastic food, but again, I wasn't eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when a couple came back to the table, a larger couple, and I could appreciate that too, they had their plates full of food.
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  SPEAKER_00: They had mentioned to me, aren't you going to eat?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Well, I ate earlier.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, but not like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, I didn't have all of that fancy high carbohydrate sugar laden combined with fat food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Earlier, I actually ate about a pound of ground turkey.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had with that probably an entire onion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the onion I had mixed with a little bit of apple cider vinegar, salt and pepper, maybe some turmeric.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I also had eight to ten hard-boiled eggs.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a singular meal for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And usually I eat that once per day.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I eat one time and then I hang it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I'm going to indulge in something, if I'm going to cheat, it's a very well-planned out cheat meal.
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  SPEAKER_00: I learned that also because before I was cheating all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would end up in drive-throughs at restaurants and I would be ordering those multiple tacos and lots of French fries and milkshakes and all of these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm away from that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So whenever I'm going to break something or whenever I'm going to change the normal way that I eat now into something else, it's really an event for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's all planned out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't hide in the parking lot at a drive-thru restaurant trying to stuff my face before I get back home.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's something that I really plan out and I respect myself enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we're sitting here at the table, and they said, Why would you deprive yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why, not knowing my history and that much about me, why would you not eat this gorgeous, beautiful, wonderful food?
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  SPEAKER_00: And in my mind, I pulled back for a second thinking, well, I'm not eating it because I like the way I look now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I hated the way I look before.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now when times are hard, they're not as hard because now I don't have the health and the metabolic component that I was had issues with before.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not fat like I was before.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still have stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still want to change my body in particular ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now with a 34-inch waist, I'm nowhere near where I was when I had a 65-inch waist.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, at 270 pounds or thereabouts, between 260 and 270, I was nowhere near as feeling as bad as I was when I was 365.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I I didn't know what to say, but it was very apparent that they thought I was committing the ultimate sin by not eating when I could eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm looking at their bodies and I and of course judgment, and then I'm thinking to myself, my God, how could you deprive yourself of being in better shape?
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  SPEAKER_00: How could you deprive yourself of feeling better at all times?
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember having to buy clothes from the XXL place and wearing a lot of sweatpants and a lot of sweat clothes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course they got elastic waistbands, and when you're wearing regular jeans, good luck with jeans.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hadn't put a pair of jeans on in many years because I had been fat a majority of my childhood, adolescent, teen, and then adult life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here we are getting into my 50s, and I figured out the right way, the right way for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it really was about putting the fork down and not eating for extended periods of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I ran into a friend of mine yesterday, and he's talking about some health battles he has, high blood pressure and other things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Well, all you have to do is just quit eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just don't eat for a little bit, not don't indulge.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I don't think being 2365 was easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, it sucked.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was very difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was more difficult being that way because then you have all that other emotional crap from life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got the depression, things are going your way, the deal, somebody else accuses somebody else over you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Friends aren't friends anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: People fall away, you have issues at home, you have issues in business.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is life, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And some of the folks out there, because of the presidential election, now they got even more trauma in theirs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even with that, it seems to me it's much easier to go through this life being thinner than it is fatter.
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  SPEAKER_00: At least that was in my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I sat down and they mentioned to me, how could I deprive myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why would I do that to myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: I look at them, feeding their faces, and I think, my God, how could you deprive yourself of something that's relatively easy to do?
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  SPEAKER_00: It just does require, it's very easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the willpower that's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's ourselves that are hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the sabotage that we have ingrained in us that's difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the addiction to food that's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: These foods that are filled with sugar and filled with fat, you're not going to find that mirrored in nature.
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  SPEAKER_00: People often asked, what are the things I should eat?
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  SPEAKER_00: And Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: or Andrew Huberman says very eloquently, eat meat, eat fish, eat eggs, eat vegetables, and eat fruit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just eat that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then don't worry about anything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that seems to fit the bill rather perfectly for people that are looking to torch it off.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, with that, if you eat too much of anything, which of those foods, without all the other stuff added in, those natural foods, I would agree, probably not easy to eat a whole lot of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when it comes with pizza, pizza has is very easy to eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can eat a lot of pizza and still be hungry a couple hours later.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can eat the sugar-laden carbohydrate-rich foods, rice and pasta and those things and still be hungry later.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pastries, cakes, all of those things, you know that those things aren't the best for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can go back in time and ask your great-great-grandmother the best way to stay in shape and not to be fat, and they're going to say, Well, don't eat between meals, don't snack, and eat the things that aren't processed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eat the things that are coming from nature.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you do that, it actually works out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then if you've been fat for a while, eating all the bad stuff for a while, I would bet there's probably some kind of other issue that's come up in your system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you are insulin resistant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe when your body makes insulin, it's just not enough to deal with the sugar that's floating around in your blood.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because you've abused it so long, you've eaten so much sugar for so long, not giving your body a break, because the general consensus is eat many times a day, lots of small meals.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't good at the many times.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was good at the many times a day, but I wasn't good at the small meals many times a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: But come to find out, that seems to be where insulin becomes more active because now you're eating every couple hours.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my issue, of course, was with the volume.
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  SPEAKER_00: The volume of that food.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I'm eating eight eggs, eight eggs aren't easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hard-boiled eggs aren't easy to eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you combine that with the turkey, and I'm okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying to eat a dozen donuts?
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  SPEAKER_00: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Krispy Kreme, absolutely, why not?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, after I eat that, being in the state I'm at, I don't feel great.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at 365, after polishing off a dozen donuts, I probably didn't feel great either.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I convinced myself because then the food gave me some kind of emotional support, and that's a whole nother rabbit hole to crawl down.
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  SPEAKER_00: But right now, just realize that if you start right at this moment and say, you know what, I'm going to miss the next meal, and then I'll pick it up later.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then start with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe displace breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe save your breakfast, which does translate to break fast.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's two words.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the meal that breaks your fast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: People don't really put those two things together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're going to embark on breakfast, and maybe your strong point is the morning, maybe most times you get up and you eat in the morning after you sleep just out of pure habit, delay that meal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Move breakfast to lunch and make your lunch your breakfast meal and play with that for a week or two.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll be all right.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going to be okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're taking medicines, I would ask your doctor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guess the most important thing would be to ask your doctor before you change any kind of dietary strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So ask them on all levels if you should be missing a meal or two.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you have some kind of metabolic issue, you're fat, then probably they're going to say, but follow up with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's what worked for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I started this very slow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then after a little while, I realized I feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: The numbers on the scale were reducing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have more energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then lo and behold, I start really researching, not eating, which is of course free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't cost you anything.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: I know a lot of people are writing books, and you can get some fantastic books.
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  SPEAKER_00: I use those as willpower drivers and basically fortifications.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll read more about fasting, the things that really help me, the books that are in support of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I read those things, digest those things, and commit those things to memory because that's my fortification.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's my armor.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I get to a weak point where I say, gosh, it really could tear something up because I haven't eaten for three or four days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, and that's a thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I still do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Haven't eaten for three or four days, really want to eat something bad, or I want to eat a lot of something else, then I'm able to fall back on all of the knowledge that I've gathered.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you should do the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of great channels on YouTube of people that talk about intermittent fasting, multiple-day fasting, there's a lot of different types.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you crawl down that rabbit hole, you start looking at those, you start reading those justifications, and I do believe it helps strengthen you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you do start to feel hungry, and hunger really happens usually at the times you most ate.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you were a seven and a noon and a 5 p.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: eater, your hunger hormone is going to be up at seven ghrelin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body's going to say, hey, where's the food?
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  SPEAKER_00: But what's great about that is after you fight it for about an hour, hour and a half, two hours, it goes away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it drops off.
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  SPEAKER_00: It goes back to where it was before.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're not hungry.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure you've noticed that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it was continuous in your bloodstream, you wouldn't be able to fight it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might be able to give it two hours.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if it was in your, in your if that hormone was active, ghrelin, the hunger hormone, you would remain hungry all the rest of the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if making a multiple-day fast impossible, let alone missing a meal, and then let alone having a simple refeed at lunch, it would really destroy you, but that's not how the body works.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a wave.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hunger is a wave, it comes in, it peaks, you're really hungry, you fight it out a little bit, the wave starts to reduce, and now everything's calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it stays that way till you get to that next hourly time, whenever you're used to eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then ghrelin goes up again, and then you're going to deal with it and it goes down, depending on how many days you're going to put into this.
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  SPEAKER_00: What ends up happening is people say that this approach is difficult and it's hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I tried caloric restriction.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went with some of these medically supervised weight loss programs, and they recommend 1,000 or 800 calories a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: They put you on an appetite suppressor fentermine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then from that, they say that you need to restrict carbohydrates and sugar and stick with proteins.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, they sell you their food, and then they give you options for other food as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you go back and you do these daily checks.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's accountability, so that's not bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what happens over time in that environment, in most cases, it actually slows down the body's metabolism.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see these shows out there that they've done where these people that are super fat, they go and they do all this workout and they're in these controlled environments and they shed off all this weight, and then they put them on stage at the end, they get this fantastic reward, everybody's clapping.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't have repeat shows of those broadcasts.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is no repeat show because those people in that circumstance is a majority, from what I've studied and read, they've crashed the metabolism to a point that even if you now eat a thousand calories a day, which if you know as well as I it's not a lot, you start eating even a thousand or twelve hundred calories, you're gonna start putting on weight and you're not gonna be able to control it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it caloric caloric restriction tends to reduce your metabolic burn, the rate that you burn calories.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fasting, on the other hand, increases it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just good to research on your own as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: See how that works.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: This is an experience that I thought I would never talk about because I never realized it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol, people say, oh, you don't drink?
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  SPEAKER_00: What happened?
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't fall off the earth, I didn't get arrested, I didn't have to hit bottom to get rid of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just really didn't fit in with the lifestyle that I have, that I've chosen to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the other one, folks, you might be addicted to processed food and the stuff that they make so good, but that also is a choice, and I believe you can fight through it for I have.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just gonna take some time and it's gonna take you wanting to.
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  SPEAKER_00: So try it, see what happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't eat breakfast, save breakfast till noon and see what that's like.
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  SPEAKER_00: That way, if you ate your last meal at 5 p.m., you've had quite a while.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you go till noon the next day, you've had quite a while not having anything in your system.
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  SPEAKER_00: And believe it or not, if you can fight through the morning because you're busy or something else, more than likely this is going to catch and it's gonna stick, and then you just repeat that process.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I really truly believe that the people in the world that are still eating the processed food, that are still eating the sugary food, that aren't doing anything to try to cut back on their diet, they might get out there and try to work out, but good luck trying to shave off all your body fat and do those sorts of things by just working out or increasing your energy expenditure throughout the day.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: Realistically, they always said it, abs are made in the kitchen.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really needs to start with the food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those other things are very good supportive mechanisms, very healthy for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I mean just simple walking and lifting some water bottles and maybe doing some movements with a couple water bottles, two 16-ounce water bottles while you're at your desk, if that's how you happen to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, moving those around a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be difficult at first.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might even make you sore, but that's something that you're doing for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that you can recapture your health, and it's really going to start with you just gently not eating for a bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then studying on it, learning about it, and continuing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Understanding, folks, we're most of us were addicted or are addicted to processed food.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can still hear the calling of a beautiful pizza.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I was at this event, I can still hear the calling of all that wonderful food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Same with alcohol, same with tobacco when I quit cigarettes and chewing years ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of those things, I hear the calling, but I know where I'm at now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know now is where I would rather be than getting involved in those things that were so difficult to give up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor and Joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll talk to you on the next one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be well.