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Control Yourself to Transform Your Reality: Change Starts Now · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: We live in a world that we want to be
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  Speaker 1: as comfortable as we can, and we wonder why we
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  Speaker 1: have no growth. We wonder why when the smallest thing
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  Speaker 1: in our life gets difficult, we wonder why we cower
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  Speaker 1: every run away. I mean, our whole life is set
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  Speaker 1: that way. Our whole life is a set set up
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  Speaker 1: in the path of least resistance. We don't want to suffer,
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  Speaker 1: we don't want to feel discomfort. So the whole time
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  Speaker 1: we're living our lives in a very comfortable area.
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  Speaker 2: There's no growth in that.
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  Speaker 1: So for me, I realized that the reason I became
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  Speaker 1: two hundred and ninety seven pounds is because that was comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: What was very uncomfortable was running, was very.
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  Speaker 1: Uncomfortable, was being on a diet, was very uncomfortable. Was
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  Speaker 1: trying to face things that I didn't want to face.
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  Speaker 1: And I also realized when I was really big, I
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  Speaker 1: had no growth, why because I was living comfortable. So
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  Speaker 1: I realized for me to find growth, I had to
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  Speaker 1: face all these different things that made me very very uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: One thing I faced was running. I absolutely hated running,
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  Speaker 1: but I knew for me to grow, I had to
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  Speaker 1: do this thing every single day.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to start.
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  Speaker 1: Callous in my mind. I wanted to start becoming a
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  Speaker 1: better person. And how you become a better person, how
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  Speaker 1: you gain mental toughness, how you become a person you
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  Speaker 1: want to be, is constantly facing the things that you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to face. If you constantly run away from
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  Speaker 1: things that you don't want to face, how is their growth?
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  Speaker 1: How is their mental toughness. I can give you a
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  Speaker 1: class all day long about self talk, visualization, eat an
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  Speaker 1: elephant one by a time. But if you're never putting
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  Speaker 1: yourself in a situation to actually practice these things, you're.
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  Speaker 2: Never going to grow.
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  Speaker 1: I can't put you out there in a We're all
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  Speaker 1: going through a battle in our mind. A warrior is
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  Speaker 1: not a person that carries a gun. The biggest warrior
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  Speaker 1: ever go through is wipe between your own ears.
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  Speaker 2: It's in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: We're all going through a war in our mind, and
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  Speaker 1: we have to calash our mind to fight that war
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  Speaker 1: and to win that war. When I first got into
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  Speaker 1: endurance events, I love the breakdown phase because the suffering
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  Speaker 1: made me feel alive and reminded me.
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  Speaker 2: That I'd gone all out this time.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't relish it in the same way, but I
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  Speaker 1: knew that breakdown was a byproduct of an all out effort,
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  Speaker 1: and that if I explored the crevices of my mind,
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  Speaker 1: I would find valuable lessons which tend.
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  Speaker 2: To spill out with any unraveling.
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  Speaker 1: Most people prefer to avoid breakdowns like this because the
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  Speaker 1: suffering can be so overwhelming it just might mark you forever.
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  Speaker 1: I embrace breakdown and welcome the scarring. There is a
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  Speaker 1: hell of a lot of information and scar tissue. Scars
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  Speaker 1: are proof that the past is real. Physical scars never
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  Speaker 1: go away, and when you look at them, they can
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  Speaker 1: bring you right back to a specific place and time.
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  Speaker 1: But the scar tissue that builds up around that old
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  Speaker 1: injury is weak. Professional fighters who've been hit in the
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  Speaker 1: face thousands of times bleed faster than those who have
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  Speaker 1: never been punched. Once you've been cut deep, you are
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  Speaker 1: forever vulnerable to bleeding. The same is true for the
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  Speaker 1: mental and emotional scars that we all carry with us,
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  Speaker 1: the scars.
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  Speaker 2: We cannot see.
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  Speaker 1: They might be invisible, but they affect us much more
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  Speaker 1: severely than physical scars. Mental and emotional scars are our
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  Speaker 1: weak spots, and they can open up just as easily
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  Speaker 1: as physical scars.
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  Speaker 2: Unless we do the work to strengthen them.
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  Speaker 1: If you haven't dealt with your scars, they can alter
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  Speaker 1: your life's path. You will be prone to failure during
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  Speaker 1: difficult physical and emotional situations, whether that's during an athletic event.
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  Speaker 2: At work or in your home life.
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  Speaker 1: And eventually you will land back in front of your
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  Speaker 1: mirror that never lies. Breakdown is its own kind of mirror.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever you're made of is laid out in front.
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  Speaker 2: Of you, clear and playing.
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  Speaker 1: Your history and mindset become a weather old map, ridged
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  Speaker 1: with your scars, and if you read them like an
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  Speaker 1: archaeologist on a dig, you might uncover the code you
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  Speaker 1: need to rise again and become better and stronger, because
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  Speaker 1: there is no transformation without breakdown, and there is always
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  Speaker 1: another evolution, another skin to shed, a better or deeper
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  Speaker 1: version of ourselves waiting to be revealed.
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  Speaker 2: Every morning I wake up.
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  Speaker 1: It's not just about working out, But for me, working
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  Speaker 1: out has been a very big part of my mental growth.
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  Speaker 1: So for me, if I am not challenging myself every day,
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  Speaker 1: and that's where to God, people will not believe it.
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  Speaker 1: I was over almost three hundred pounds twice in my life.
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  Speaker 1: A person that does that twice in his life does
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  Speaker 1: not enjoy Cardiovascus Like, okay, So people can put anything
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  Speaker 1: they want to in their head. I did realize one thing,
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  Speaker 1: the things I don't enjoy that I still do. That's
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  Speaker 1: where growth is at. And that's for me. The only
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  Speaker 1: place growth is at is in that very uncomfortable you know,
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  Speaker 1: in that uncomfortable zone. So for instance, today I woke
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  Speaker 1: up and I just got to London and I don't
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  Speaker 1: know where to run here. It's very difficult to run
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  Speaker 1: around this place. So someone said, hey, you can run
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  Speaker 1: around out here, like around this one mile block, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, I'm not doing that.
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  Speaker 1: So I went down to the gym and there's this
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  Speaker 1: like crazy elliptical trainer, but it's not a normal elliptical trainer.
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  Speaker 1: It's one that you like, almost self power. So I
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  Speaker 1: got on that thing and I realized, man sucks, and
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  Speaker 1: that's like two minutes. Like I don't want to do this.
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  Speaker 1: So then I realized it looks like we're gonna be
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  Speaker 1: here for a while. So I did that for two
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  Speaker 1: hours and forty five minutes. So I'm not saying do that,
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  Speaker 1: but that's something I did today. Once my mind's you know,
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  Speaker 1: let's not do this today. I said, well, since my
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  Speaker 1: mind went there, I redirected it and said, just for
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  Speaker 1: having that weak thought, we're gonna be on here for
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  Speaker 1: a while. For many people, the haunting begins the minute
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  Speaker 1: they wake up.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe they are fat or disabled, feel ugly, or are.
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  Speaker 1: Failing and overwhelmed at school or work, and it consumes them.
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  Speaker 1: Their obsession with their own imperfections and faults suffocate self
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  Speaker 1: respect and submarines progress, and from the time they get
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  Speaker 1: out of bed until they're able to crawl back in
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  Speaker 1: that night, the only thing on their agenda is avoiding
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  Speaker 1: exposure and surviving another day in hell. When that's how
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  Speaker 1: you feel about yourself, it's impossible to see possibilities or
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  Speaker 1: seize opportunities. We have to learn to stop looking for
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  Speaker 1: a sign that the hard time will end. When the
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  Speaker 1: distance is unknown, it is even more critical that you
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  Speaker 1: stay locked in so the unknown factor doesn't steal your focus.
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  Speaker 1: The end will come when it comes, and anticipation will
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  Speaker 1: only distract you from completing the task in front of
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  Speaker 1: you to the best of your ability.
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  Speaker 2: Remember, the struggle is the whole journey.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're out there it's why you signed up
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  Speaker 1: for this race, or that class, or took the damn job.
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  Speaker 1: There is great beauty when you're involved in something that
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  Speaker 1: is so hard most people want it to end. We
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  Speaker 1: can make any obstacle as big or small as we like.
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  Speaker 1: When you're climbing a mountain, or involved in any other
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  Speaker 1: difficult task, the only way to free yourself from the
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  Speaker 1: struggle is.
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  Speaker 2: To finish it. So why bitch about it when it
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  Speaker 2: gets hard?
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  Speaker 1: I hope it will end soon, and you know it
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  Speaker 1: will end eventually.
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  Speaker 2: When you complain and your mind.
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  Speaker 1: Starts groping for the eject button, you are not bring
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  Speaker 1: your best self to the task, which means you are
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  Speaker 1: actually prolonging the pain. The hard chargers keep their heads
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  Speaker 1: down and hammer away. They have trained their minds to
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  Speaker 1: stay hard in those hard moments. They recognize the false
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  Speaker 1: summit for what it is and will always act as
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  Speaker 1: if they are nowhere near the top. Most people slow
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  Speaker 1: down and suffer on a steep trail, but slope and
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  Speaker 1: elevation are of no consequence to the hard charger. They
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  Speaker 1: keep their mind in attack mode until there are no
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  Speaker 1: more mountains to climb, and when they actually reach the top,
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  Speaker 1: they wish it had lasted a little bit longer. If
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  Speaker 1: you want to maximize minimal potential and become great in
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  Speaker 1: any field, you must embrace your savage side and become imbalanced,
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  Speaker 1: at least for a period of time. You'll need to
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  Speaker 1: funnel every minute of every single day into the pursuit
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  Speaker 1: of that degree, that starting spot, that job, that edge.
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  Speaker 2: Your mind must never.
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  Speaker 1: Leave the cockpit, sleep at the library or the office,
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  Speaker 1: hoop long past sundown, and fall asleep watching film of
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  Speaker 1: your next opponent.
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  Speaker 2: There are no days off, and there is.
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  Speaker 1: No downtime when you're obsessed with being great. That is
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  Speaker 1: what it takes to be the baddest mother ever. At
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  Speaker 1: what you do, know that your dedication will be misunderstood,
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  Speaker 1: some relationships may break down. The savage is not a
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  Speaker 1: socialized beast, and an imbalanced lifestyle often appears selfish from
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  Speaker 1: the outside.
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  Speaker 2: But the reason I've been able to help so many
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  Speaker 2: people with my.
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  Speaker 1: Life story is precisely because I embraced being that imbalanced
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  Speaker 1: while I pursue the impossible dream of becoming the hardest
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  Speaker 1: mother ever. That's a mythical title, but it became my
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  Speaker 1: compass bearing my north star. When you observe highly successful individuals,
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  Speaker 1: it may seem timid to conclude that they were inherently
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  Speaker 1: born with their capabilities, that they possess innate talent and
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  Speaker 1: that's the end of the story. However, talent, while undoubtedly
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  Speaker 1: making life more straightforward, is just one piece of the puzzle.
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  Speaker 1: Reflecting back, I was once a shy and fearful person. Ironically,
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  Speaker 1: this apparent misfortune turned into a source of strength, igniting
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  Speaker 1: significant changes.
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  Speaker 2: In my life.
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  Speaker 1: By consistently stepping out of my comfort zone, I not
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  Speaker 1: only conquered social shyness and improved my communication skills, but
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  Speaker 1: also nurtured robust self confidence and overcame other fears in
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  Speaker 1: my life. I might not have been naturally inclined to
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  Speaker 1: excel in social settings. I still prefer solitude over crowds. However,
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  Speaker 1: with self discipline and persistent effort, I attained remarkable results.
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  Speaker 1: So the next time you think you lack talent in
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  Speaker 1: a particular area or believe you weren't born with inherent ability,
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself that in many situations, self discipline can compensate
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  Speaker 1: for the absence of inborn traits. Living life seems easy
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  Speaker 1: when you take the hard path and challenging when opting
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  Speaker 1: for the easy way out self disciplined demands, traversing the
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  Speaker 1: difficult group, resisting temptations and immediate gratification in exchange for
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  Speaker 1: more substantial and superior.
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  Speaker 2: Rewards in the future.
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  Speaker 1: It might seem simpler to avoid discomfort and indulge in
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  Speaker 1: immediate pleasures, but eventually this approach only offers fleeting pleasure
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  Speaker 1: at the cost of a potentially.
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  Speaker 2: Much improved future.
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  Speaker 1: Imagine a person lacking determination, who, when faced with a challenge,
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  Speaker 1: chooses to withdraw immediately. How likely is such an individual
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  Speaker 1: to achieve something significant in life when their primary value
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  Speaker 1: lies and seeking comfort. Contrast this with someone who voluntarily
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  Speaker 1: embraces difficultness. They actively seek and welcome challenges as opportunities
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  Speaker 1: for personal growth. Each self imposed trial toughens them, making
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  Speaker 1: them less susceptible to being overwhelmed by life's adversitess, they
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  Speaker 1: become more resilient as they face difficulties head on. When
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  Speaker 1: life throws unexpected challenges at them, they are prepared to
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  Speaker 1: handle them because, due to living their lives through perseverance,
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  Speaker 1: they've developed reediness for hardships. Our decisions are made in
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  Speaker 1: a moment, but their repercussions can extend throughout a lifetime.
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  Speaker 1: Humans possess the ability to resist impulses in exchange for
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  Speaker 1: a brighter future. Unfortunately, many people live by the principle
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  Speaker 1: of if it feels good, do it, and if it doesn't,
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  Speaker 1: don't do it. Yielding to temptations whenever they arise is
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  Speaker 1: akin to surrendering your humanity in certain ways. As intelligent beings,
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  Speaker 1: we have the capacity, and I would venture to say
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  Speaker 1: the obligation to base our decisions on rational thinking, not
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  Speaker 1: just on instinct alone. Strive to be a better human
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  Speaker 1: by embracing your humanity. Exercise your willpower muscle instead of
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  Speaker 1: surrendering to the.
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  Speaker 2: Most primal and least beneficial part of your brain for
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  Speaker 2: long term goals.
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  Speaker 1: While primal instincts may provide immediate comfort, they rarely serve
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  Speaker 1: well in the long run. No, don't take it like
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  Speaker 1: go out there and run through a brick wall as
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  Speaker 1: many times you can. No, I'm not saying be me,
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  Speaker 1: don't run towards them five miles at one time.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying do that. I'm saying start to learn.
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  Speaker 1: The mind is powerful. It's powerful, man, It's it's unbelievable.
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  Speaker 3: But if people need, they need a thing to get
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  Speaker 3: them going right. They need a thing, they need a goal,
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  Speaker 3: they need they need a like. It's well, sometimes the
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  Speaker 3: first step is the hardest, Like it's hard to take
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  Speaker 3: that one million step too, But sometimes the first step
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  Speaker 3: is the most There's something about the gosh they start
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  Speaker 3: going over their phone and they start calling people, they
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  Speaker 3: don't get out of the house. And there's something about procrastination.
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  Speaker 3: It's like, you know, it's painful, you know you should
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  Speaker 3: be doing things, but you just.
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  Speaker 2: Keep doing it. You keep itching that scab. I procrastinate, like, man,
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  Speaker 2: every day I want That's that's what's so funny.
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  Speaker 1: Man. People looking like I'm some damn superhero that came
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  Speaker 1: down from the gods, from the heavens of earth.
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  Speaker 2: No, man, I don't want to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my shoes for thirty minutes sometimes thinking. Man, man,
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  Speaker 1: people people look up to your goggins.
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  Speaker 2: Damn I want to I'm like, I want to do
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  Speaker 2: this shit, man, but guess what you do it. I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to do it as long as you do it.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what I know about it.
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  Speaker 1: Man, That's why I stopped doing I'm thinking, Oh man,
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  Speaker 1: you sit here, you look at your shoes for thirty
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  Speaker 1: four minutes, you go go.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta think about it all day long. You go
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  Speaker 2: do it.
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  Speaker 3: Anyway, and sometimes you don't have the time and look
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  Speaker 3: at issues for thirty minutes.
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  Speaker 2: No, those are those are the beautiful days, yes, because you.
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  Speaker 3: Know you just have to go, that's right, and so
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  Speaker 3: like there's no room for procrastination.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when I when I was in the military,
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  Speaker 1: I loved my schedule because I knew how to be
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  Speaker 1: work at seven o'clock. So you gotta get your ass
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  Speaker 1: up at four o'clock many brother, because I had to
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  Speaker 1: go before, right, you know.
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  Speaker 2: So that was my mentality back then.
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  Speaker 1: Man. You know, like I had to get the miles
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  Speaker 1: and get everything in man and get to work. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm competing with the alpha males.