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Season 4 - Episode 80 - The change factor · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Do you believe that it's
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  possible to change? I think it's an important
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  question to ask ourselves is are we capable of change as human
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  beings? And here's what's really
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  interesting about this. If I ask individual people, are
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  they capable of changing their mindset, the way they think, the
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  way they look at the world, they always say yes.
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  But if I ask them if people in their lives are capable of
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  changing, they often say I don't think so.
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  I think that that person is stuck.
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  I think that this this situation is stuck.
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  And they'll talk about how that that is true, but if they asked
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  it about themselves, they would have a different answer.
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  Don't you find that curious? Because they believe in
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  themselves, but they don't believe in other people.
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  So that puts the question back to what does it say when you're
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  in the spot and change needs to happen?
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  I mean, honestly, when change needs to happen, it, it requires
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  humans changing. It's not just other situations,
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  it's what we're doing it it's, it's we control those other
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  things that are around us. And we have to make sure that
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  we're tapped in to the change factor.
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  And the change factor is allowing the belief to not only
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  permeate your yourself that you can change, but that other
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  people can change. And it all always comes back to
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  do they want to change? And asking that very critical
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  question, well, does this person want to change or are they happy
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  the way they are? Because sometimes that's the,
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  that's the key to the every single tough situation that
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  you're working through is does this person want to change?
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  And if they do, fantastic because then they can shift.
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  But if they're just giving Idlib service and they're not willing
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  to do the work, then it's just that it's lip service.
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  They're not willing to do the work and they're not going to
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  get where they want to go. So as you, as you try to
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  delineate this for yourself, you have to first start by asking
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  yourself what's, what's the state of the union for you, not
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  for anybody else. Start with yourself and say, OK,
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  where are the parts that I'm really strong and that I feel
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  are good on? They're on the lighter side of
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  things. These add value to it.
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  And then you do the opposite. Where am I on the darker side
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  and where do the my things take away from the situation?
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  So get really clear on your deficits so you know where you
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  need to change first because again, you can't expect someone
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  else to change if you're not willing to work on yourself.
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  And in that process, you have to say, am I really committed to
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  this? Am I willing to know I did all
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  the work? Am I willing to know that I've
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  stepped up and this works for personal or professional?
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  So you ask that first always of yourself.
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  It's put the mask on yourself first.
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  Then you can go to the other side and say, OK, where do I
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  believe that this person is good?
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  Start with where this person or this situation is good and then
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  go, where do I believe that this person could be better?
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  Where the shifts could take place?
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  Where is their dark side? And you're not going to share
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  that with them. And not unless that you have the
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  relationship or even the situation.
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  You're not going to go into your boss's office and say, hey, this
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  is where I see us having a deficit.
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  If he doesn't want to know it. But you're doing it for your own
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  clarity to see. What am I really upset at?
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  Because oftentimes what happens is we start to conflate issues
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  and everything becomes part of one nasty big hairball stuck in
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  a drain. And then the water will go
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  through, but slowly. And it's not good.
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  And that's where emotion gets clogged up as well.
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  So it's important to discern with that in mind, understanding
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  both sides, your side, their side, or your, your
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  interpretation of a situation and the actual situation itself.
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  You have to say, I've got to break it out.
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  I've got to delineate it. Otherwise you're going to
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  continue to stay in that swirling water and get and drown
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  because you're just keep seeing it and conflating all the issues
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  and separate the issues. Understand this falls in this
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  category and this falls in this category so that you can really
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  work through it because otherwise you will be building
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  frustration, irritation. You know, we go back to all the
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  shuns and that that is not a way to stay.
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  Can you do it? Of course, but it's not a way to
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  get yourself out of it. Remember, those emotions show up
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  to help us know what has to take place for change.
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  But they should not be in charge.
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  Keeping them in charge is dangerous.
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  It's like leaving children unattended with a bunch of sugar
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  around. So hopefully that's helpful.
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  And I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will talk to
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  you tomorrow. Bye.