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Discipline Is EVERYTHING: The Ultimate Motivational Video to Inspire Action · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I found that nothing in life is worthwhile unless you
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  Speaker 1: take risks. Nothing Nelson Mandela said, there is no passion
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  Speaker 1: to be found playing small, in settling for a life
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  Speaker 1: that's less than the one you're capable of living now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure in your experiences in school and applying to
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  Speaker 1: college and picking your major and deciding what you want
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  Speaker 1: to do with life, I'm sure people have told you
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  Speaker 1: to make sure you have something to fall back on,
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  Speaker 1: make sure you got something to fall back on, honey.
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  Speaker 1: But I never understood that concept having something to fall
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  Speaker 1: back on if I'm going to fall I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to fall back on anything.
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  Speaker 2: I want to fall forward.
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  Speaker 3: I figure, at least this way i'll.
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  Speaker 4: See what I'm going to hit.
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  Speaker 5: With our consistency, you'll never finish.
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  Speaker 3: So do what you feel passionate about, passionate about chances.
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  Speaker 1: Don't be afraid to fail. It is in old IQ test.
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  Speaker 6: Was nine docs and you had to.
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  Speaker 3: Draw five lines with a pencil within these nine dogs
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  Speaker 3: without lifting the pencil. The only way to do it
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  Speaker 3: was to go outside the box. So don't be afraid
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  Speaker 3: to go outside the box. Don't be afraid to think
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  Speaker 3: outside the box. Don't be afraid to fail.
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  Speaker 2: Big to dream big.
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  Speaker 1: But remember, dreams without goals.
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  Speaker 5: Are just dreams. You can either live your dreams or
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  Speaker 5: live your fears. And I think the majority of people
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  Speaker 5: actually are not living their dreams, but are living their fills.
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  Speaker 5: So I want to ask.
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  Speaker 2: You a question, what are your fears?
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  Speaker 7: What are you afraid of?
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  Speaker 2: What are you scared of?
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  Speaker 5: Because we all have fears done, we all have something
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  Speaker 5: that's blocking us, that's holding us back. And as we
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  Speaker 5: begin to look at life, what we realize is that
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  Speaker 5: the reason that most people are not living out their
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  Speaker 5: true potential and not doing all of the things that they.
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  Speaker 8: Would really like to do, it's because of fear.
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  Speaker 5: When you face your fears, it's not as bad as
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  Speaker 5: you think it is. When people tell you I just
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  Speaker 5: can't do it, I can't handle it, I.
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  Speaker 8: Mean really, really really I can't handle it.
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  Speaker 5: What they're envisioning is that they're not going to be
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  Speaker 5: if they're gonna clock out like you're going to die.
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  Speaker 8: Guess what we.
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  Speaker 5: All had occasions when we confronted our fears.
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  Speaker 2: We had to do.
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  Speaker 5: Something we thought uncomfortable with, we didn't want to do it,
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  Speaker 5: and we did not die.
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  Speaker 8: What you gotta do to get to life that you
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  Speaker 8: want you to have. You got to put more ad
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  Speaker 8: your bubble. You got to blow your bubble up, expand yourself,
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  Speaker 8: take yourself out your comfort zone. Do not live in
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  Speaker 8: your bubble.
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  Speaker 9: If you stay in.
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  Speaker 8: Your comfort zone, that's why you will fail.
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  Speaker 2: So don't be afraid. You have nothing to fear. Gods,
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  Speaker 2: you already overcame all.
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  Speaker 7: Kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Get that gold, get that dream. And so I'm telling y'all,
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  Speaker 2: you have come too far to quit now. You have
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  Speaker 2: invested too much to quit. Naw, you have lost too
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  Speaker 2: much to quit. Naw. Get a reward for your pain.
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  Speaker 2: Don't cry about it, don't whine about it, get a
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  Speaker 2: reward for it.
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  Speaker 10: I am constantly trying to find my new one hundred percent,
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  Speaker 10: even though life gets at you, age gets at you,
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  Speaker 10: sickness may get at you.
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  Speaker 11: I have friends of mine who lost legs, you lost arms,
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  Speaker 11: you lost all kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 10: And they called me and said, hey, man, what am
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  Speaker 10: I going to do now?
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  Speaker 11: I said, well, you to find your new norm is
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  Speaker 11: to find your new hundred percent. No, you cannot do
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  Speaker 11: some of the things you used to do, But what
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  Speaker 11: can you do today?
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  Speaker 6: What can you do now with what you have?
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  Speaker 7: And you must find your new norm. As you all know,
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  Speaker 7: your mom has a cookie jar, and sometimes you might
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  Speaker 7: have an oreo. Sometimes you might have a chipsyhoy, sometimes
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  Speaker 7: you might have an open raisin cookie.
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  Speaker 2: You never know.
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  Speaker 7: Just in there, my cookie jar has every single failure
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  Speaker 7: and success of my life. Something I overcame. So what
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  Speaker 7: happens in time of life when you're stressed out and
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  Speaker 7: things get bad? Even the hardest guy in the world me,
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  Speaker 7: everybody thinks, and I think.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the hardest guy in the world.
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  Speaker 6: You've got to believe that.
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  Speaker 9: You gotta believe you are something.
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  Speaker 7: I will in my mind reach into my cookie jar,
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  Speaker 7: and sometimes you forget how hard you are in times
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  Speaker 7: of need. You because you're you're stressed, but you forget.
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  Speaker 7: I'm a navy sea so I'm arranged on this and that,
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  Speaker 7: but you forget all that because your life sucks. I
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  Speaker 7: calm down, take that one second, get.
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  Speaker 10: Control of my life.
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  Speaker 7: Reaching the cookie jar, Well, you gotta called nigger your
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  Speaker 7: whole life and you're now the only person in history
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  Speaker 7: you just this and this put it back in the
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  Speaker 7: cookie jar. Reset in my mind, you have to remind
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  Speaker 7: yourself of how.
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  Speaker 2: Badass you really are. In times of meat, that's the
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  Speaker 2: cookie jar.
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  Speaker 6: No one has the most of everything, So when you
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  Speaker 6: measure yourself by numbers, you'd always be second, third, four
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  Speaker 6: fifth in something.
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  Speaker 12: And I think by measuring yourself by needing to have
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  Speaker 12: the most of anything, it's probably a recipe for unhappiness.
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  Speaker 12: I'm like, well, okay, I'm not gonna have the most
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  Speaker 12: of anything, but I'm gonna have the most money. You're
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  Speaker 12: still gonna be unhappy totally. Even if you have the
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  Speaker 12: most of something doesn't mean you're.
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  Speaker 6: Gonna be happy totally. I think it was Albert Einstein.
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  Speaker 6: You said it best that not everything that can be
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  Speaker 6: counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.
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  Speaker 6: And I love that because it removes this belief that
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  Speaker 6: things are finite and limited, and they're not. If you
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  Speaker 6: want to be happy and successful, if no matter that
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  Speaker 6: there are seven hundred thousand podcasts, if that is your darma,
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  Speaker 6: if that's your calling, if that's your purpose, like you
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  Speaker 6: can do that. There's no cap on how many successful
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  Speaker 6: soccer players that can exist at the same time, or
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  Speaker 6: how many books are out in the world. There's no
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  Speaker 6: cap there's no one stopping you. And that's the mindset
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  Speaker 6: that we're educated for that scarcity. Agreed.
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  Speaker 12: And what's the difference between the monkey mind and the
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  Speaker 12: monk mind.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm glad you brought that out. So the monkey
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  Speaker 6: mind is what we experience on a day to day basis.
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  Speaker 6: The monkey mind is restless. The monkey mind is jumping
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  Speaker 6: from branch to branch. The monkey mind is trying to
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  Speaker 6: find a bigger banana. The monkey mind is constantly just
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  Speaker 6: like feeling flustered, dissatisfied, scarce, and overthinking everything. The monk
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  Speaker 6: mind is the exact opposite. The monk mind is calm
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  Speaker 6: and composed. The monk mind knows to be focused and aware.
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  Speaker 6: The monk my nose. So everything in this book and
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  Speaker 6: everything that we're talking about is the transformation from the
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  Speaker 6: monkey mind that we experience to the monk mind. The
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  Speaker 6: monkey mind is almost the enemy to the monk mind.
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  Speaker 6: It's the opposite.
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  Speaker 12: And how does someone who is living in a sense
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  Speaker 12: of scarcity, Because there are people living in scarcity where
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  Speaker 12: they're only able to pay their bills, they're unable to
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  Speaker 12: provide food for their kids, their single moms, they're they're stressed,
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  Speaker 12: they're stressed, they're overwhelmed. It's hard to get into a
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  Speaker 12: sense of abundance when you're in scarcity and stress. So
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  Speaker 12: how does someone find purpose and chaos when they can't
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  Speaker 12: even get out of the thinking because they're just trying
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  Speaker 12: to survive.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, so beautiful question. My biggest answer is, first of all,
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  Speaker 6: I empathize with anyone who's been in that situation. Having
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  Speaker 6: I can't ever say I've been in that situation in
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  Speaker 6: the same but I've experienced similar things life, yeah, in
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  Speaker 6: my own way, and I've seen my mom go through
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  Speaker 6: stuff like that. I know that my mom worked really
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  Speaker 6: hard to raise me and my sister while working, you know,
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  Speaker 6: while running around, and I've seen my mom be that
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  Speaker 6: incredible powerhouse of a person. And the main thing I
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  Speaker 6: would say is what you can do right now is
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  Speaker 6: find meaning in what you do. Make what you do
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  Speaker 6: your meaningful, passionate and purposeful. You don't need to suddenly
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  Speaker 6: look to become an entrepreneur or start a side hustle
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  Speaker 6: or find some more time. Find meaning and the way
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  Speaker 6: you find meaning as you genuinely stop, press pause for
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  Speaker 6: a second and go what am I living for?
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  Speaker 7: Like?
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  Speaker 6: What am I living for right now? And if you're
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  Speaker 6: living for your child and if you're living to provide
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  Speaker 6: and put food on the table, that is a beautiful
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  Speaker 6: thing that we should celebrate more. And sometimes it takes
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  Speaker 6: us a moment to stop and celebrate that. And so
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  Speaker 6: I would say find meaning because you can't always find happiness,
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  Speaker 6: you can't always find positivity, but you can always find
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  Speaker 6: meaning in that position. I'll give an example, like I
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  Speaker 6: lost someone really important to me a mentor a few
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  Speaker 6: days back. I can't be positive about that. You can't
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  Speaker 6: be happy or sad.
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  Speaker 12: Yes, it's hurtful, you feel.
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  Speaker 6: Sad, you feel lost, But guess what, I can find
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  Speaker 6: meaning in it because I can make a list of
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  Speaker 6: every lesson he taught me and make a plan to
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  Speaker 6: try and live every one of those lessons. That's beautiful.
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  Speaker 6: And so if you're in a really tough situation right now,
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  Speaker 6: don't look for positivity, don't look for happiness, look for meaning.
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  Speaker 12: That's a good one. Not trying to and not trying
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  Speaker 12: to get yourself out of pain too quickly or discomfort
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  Speaker 12: or frustration, which I've been a guilt of being, like,
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  Speaker 12: you know, just be positive, yeah or whatever to people.
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  Speaker 12: But I think it's like, you know, have your experience, yes,
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  Speaker 12: live your experience and find meaning as quickly as possible,
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  Speaker 12: and create a commitment to how you want to use
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  Speaker 12: that meaning going forward. Okay, I may not be great tomorrow,
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  Speaker 12: maybe not next week, next month, but I'm going to
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  Speaker 12: use this meaning to serve other people, to continue to
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  Speaker 12: do what I love, continue to be great to my friends,
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  Speaker 12: my family the best way possible.
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  Speaker 9: I think there are people who would be born with
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  Speaker 9: what I would call leadership leanings. They would have a
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  Speaker 9: tendency to lean or be gifted in that area, just
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  Speaker 9: like somebody's gifted in music or whatever. So I think
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  Speaker 9: that that starts it, and I think I have that.
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  Speaker 9: But then I grew up in a leader's home. In fact,
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  Speaker 9: my father is ninety eight, still living Whoa and in fact,
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  Speaker 9: until two years ago, was still working full time and
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  Speaker 9: was a terrific leader. So I grew up in a
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  Speaker 9: culture and environment of leadership. And so when I look
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  Speaker 9: at myself where I am today, so much of it
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  Speaker 9: was caught from not only my father, but I've had
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  Speaker 9: great mentors throughout my life. In fact, while we're out
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  Speaker 9: here in Los Angeles, you know, every time I come
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  Speaker 9: out here, I think of John Wooden, who mentored me
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  Speaker 9: for the last probably eleven years of his life. And
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  Speaker 9: in fact, when you talked about this, sometimes you win,
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  Speaker 9: sometimes you learn. He did the forward on that book
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  Speaker 9: and he just loved the idea of how to get
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  Speaker 9: back up after you fail. So when you look at
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  Speaker 9: my home background, the leadership experiences that I had, because
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  Speaker 9: a person learns to lead by practicing leadership, and at
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  Speaker 9: a very early age, I was practicing leadership, and so
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  Speaker 9: it all comes together. And then when I began to
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  Speaker 9: realize everything rises and falls on leadership, I became really
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  Speaker 9: intentional to of developing my leadership skills. So I can remember,
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  Speaker 9: for example, I was probably I don't know, maybe twenty
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  Speaker 9: six I heard Earl Nightingale say on a tape that
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  Speaker 9: if you had spent one hour a day every day
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  Speaker 9: on one subject for five years, you could become an
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  Speaker 9: expert on that subject. So I said, wow, I want
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  Speaker 9: to become an expert in leadership. So for the next
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  Speaker 9: five years, you know, I spent an hour every day
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  Speaker 9: reading about leadership, talking to leaders, asking leaders questions, practicing leadership.
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  Speaker 9: But really was consistent. And when I started that process,
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  Speaker 9: I was thinking five years Earl Mike Elp, so I
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  Speaker 9: could become an expert in five years. Okay, Wow, I
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  Speaker 9: leaves it expert.
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  Speaker 7: Hello.
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  Speaker 9: And so I kept, you know, I was kind of
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  Speaker 9: like doing countdown five years, four years, three years. I'm
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  Speaker 9: thinking I'm cape canaveral Okay. But something happened to me
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  Speaker 9: about halfway through that five year process. Instead of cap
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  Speaker 9: being asking myself, how long will it take? How long
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  Speaker 9: will it take? How long will it take? One day
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  Speaker 9: I began to realize how I was growing as a
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  Speaker 9: leader and the change that was happening within me, and
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  Speaker 9: I stopped asking the question how long will it take?
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  Speaker 9: And I started asking the question how far can I go?
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  Speaker 9: And everything changed that day. I realized that you can
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  Speaker 9: set goals and have five year goals whatever. But I
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  Speaker 9: changed from a goal mindset to a growth mindset and
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  Speaker 9: the fact that if I would be intentional in the
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  Speaker 9: areas of growth that would have the return and would
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  Speaker 9: fit who I was, that I could really be successful
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  Speaker 9: and help a lot of people. And that was a
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  Speaker 9: kind of a shift for me. And so when I
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  Speaker 9: wrote my first leadership book, I thought I would write
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  Speaker 9: one leadership book that.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be done.
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  Speaker 9: You know, I didn't think A hundred books later, I
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  Speaker 9: had a leader. They said, You've written more books than
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  Speaker 9: I've ever read in my life. You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 9: But I didn't have any intention to write a lot
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  Speaker 9: of books. But growth allows you to continue to expand
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  Speaker 9: yourself and your world until there's just you know, so
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  Speaker 9: much more that you know and so much more that
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  Speaker 9: you want to share. So you know, my journey has
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  Speaker 9: been really one of understanding that if I every day
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  Speaker 9: intentionally grow, the question is just you know, how far
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  Speaker 9: can I go? And I don't know that answer. I'm
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  Speaker 9: still growing, I'm still I'm still moving towards that finish line.
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  Speaker 4: We spend a lot of time talking about mindset from
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  Speaker 4: the standpoint of think positives to positive things happen. And
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  Speaker 4: I do believe in having a positive mindset. Obviously, I
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  Speaker 4: think that the actions that you take are way more
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  Speaker 4: important in terms of developing that mindset. But we don't
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  Speaker 4: spend enough time on what you were just talking about,
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  Speaker 4: which is understanding how the automatic nature of worrying about
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  Speaker 4: stuff all day long, how that is making you less money,
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  Speaker 4: how it is making you less happy, how it is
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  Speaker 4: disconnecting you from your spouse, how it is keeping you unhealthy,
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  Speaker 4: and how it is a habit that robs you of
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  Speaker 4: joy and opportunity and power, and it is one of
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  Speaker 4: the easiest habits to break. Number one, Your life happens
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  Speaker 4: in five second windows number two. In five seconds, you
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  Speaker 4: can control what you think, you can decide what you're
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  Speaker 4: going to do, and you can change absolutely anything, which
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  Speaker 4: changes absolutely everything. And so the five second rule is
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  Speaker 4: a mindrick.
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  Speaker 6: That's all that.
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  Speaker 4: It is a fancy way to call it as a
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's a form of metacognition, but it's basically
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  Speaker 4: a hack.
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  Speaker 6: It's a cheat code.
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  Speaker 4: And the way that it works, and this is the
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  Speaker 4: challenge with getting it out there is that it sounds
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  Speaker 4: so profoundly stupid, like a gimmick, that it took a
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  Speaker 4: while for people to actually take it seriously, get that
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  Speaker 4: and to really stack up the science to make, you know,
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  Speaker 4: anybody that interacts with it go holy, like this actually works.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So here's what it is. Basically, the moment you catch
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  Speaker 4: yourself hesitating or doubting or starting to worry or about
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  Speaker 4: to chicken out or shrink or shut up or whatever
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  Speaker 4: it is that you're about to do that is shrinking
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  Speaker 4: your power, you just go five four, three two one.
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  Speaker 4: You count backwards five four three two one. What happens
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  Speaker 4: when you do that? Don't do it out loud because
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  Speaker 4: it'll scare somebody's going to I'm talking, yes exactly, my turn,
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  Speaker 4: yes exactly. Although you know we I say it's it's
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  Speaker 4: so simple that people.
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  Speaker 10: Use it with that.
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  Speaker 4: I would love that because that means I've really made
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  Speaker 4: it true. Uh, your kids will use it on you,
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  Speaker 4: So my kids will use it on me. So if
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  Speaker 4: I have a certain tone that comes out, I'll hear
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  Speaker 4: my chill go five four through.
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  Speaker 6: Watch that tone, mom, you know, just.
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  Speaker 4: Or mom five four three two and I thought you're
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  Speaker 4: gonna go to the gym? Yes, so, Uh, by counting backwards,
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  Speaker 4: the kind of cheat code that you're doing in your
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  Speaker 4: mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops
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  Speaker 4: that get encoded in the central part of your brain,
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  Speaker 4: and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex. It's a
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  Speaker 4: little trick that causes focus and it's it's a lot
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  Speaker 4: like having a mantra because you're shifting gears. But the
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  Speaker 4: thing about having mantras, and I suppose that as you
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  Speaker 4: count backwards more and more and more you become used
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  Speaker 4: to it. But it becomes a habit that triggers action.
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  Speaker 4: So what you do is go five four three two one,
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  Speaker 4: cut off this part of the brain, awaken this part
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  Speaker 4: of the brain, and then move. And what happens with
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  Speaker 4: the counting backwards is there's nowhere to go after one,
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  Speaker 4: and your mind is socialized in a count down situation
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  Speaker 4: to go and so counting up won't work because you
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  Speaker 4: can keep going for wherever, and you do it in
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  Speaker 4: many aspects of your life, so it's actually not something
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  Speaker 4: that requires any focus