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Is Your Generosity Driven by Guilt or God? · Becoming Financially Confident

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  These
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  numbers
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  really
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  surprised
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  me
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  today.
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  Listen
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  to
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  this.
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  40%
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  of
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  Americans
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  feel
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  pressured
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  when
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  giving
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  gifts.
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  Listen
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  to
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  this.
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  That
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  jumps
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  to
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  60%
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  of
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  millennials
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  who
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  are
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  desperately
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  searching
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  for
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  that
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  perfect
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  gift.
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  Does
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  that
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  perfect
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  gift
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  even
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  exist?
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  I'm
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  not
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  sure.
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  But
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  tell
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  you
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  this
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  right
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  now.
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  That's
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  not
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  generosity.
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  That's
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  performance.
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  Listen
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  to
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  this
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  one.
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  73%
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  say
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  financial
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  stress
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  robs
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  them
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  of
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  holiday
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  joy,
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  with
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  65%
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  stressed
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  about
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  their
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  spending.
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  Hey,
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  listen,
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  let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  right
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  now,
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  when
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  giving
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  steals
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  your
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  piece,
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  something's
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  wrong.
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  And
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  listen
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  to
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  this
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  one,
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  man.
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  When
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  Abby
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  brought
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  this
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  one
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  in,
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  this
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  is
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  perfect.
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  Americans
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  waste
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  $9.5
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  billion.
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  That's
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  B
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  billion,
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  every
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  year
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  on
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  unwanted
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  gifts.
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  I
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  think
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  I
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  get
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  most
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  of
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  those.
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  Listen
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  to
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  this.
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  $71
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  per
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  person
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  on
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  things
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  that
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  nobody
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  wanted.
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  What
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  does
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  that
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  tell
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  us?
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  It
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  tells
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  us
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  we're
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  given
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  to
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  feel
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  good,
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  not
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  to
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  meet
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  real
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  needs.
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  Let's
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  jump
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  to
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  today's
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  listener
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  question.
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  Ralph,
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  I've
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  always
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  been
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  a
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  giver,
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  but
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  sometimes
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  I
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  realize
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  I'm
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  giving
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  out
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  of
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  guilt
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  or
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  pressure,
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  not
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  joy.
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  How
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  do
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  I
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  know
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  when
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  generosity
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  crosses
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  the
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  line?
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  Great
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  question.
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  Today,
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  generosity
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  is
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  godly.
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  We'll
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  start
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  with
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  that.
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  But
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  unguarded
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  generosity
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  can
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  drain
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  you
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  joy
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  and
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  it
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  drains
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  you
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  dry.
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  Listen,
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  even
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  good
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  intentions
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  need
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  boundaries.
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  godly
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  boundaries
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  on
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  today's
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  show.
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  This
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  is
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  Financially
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  Confident
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  Christian
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  Daily
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  dose
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  of
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  gospel
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  grounded
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  insight
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  and
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  faith
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  driven
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  tips
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  break
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  the
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  cycle
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  of
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  financial
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  shame
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  with
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  confidence.
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  Welcome
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  to
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  the
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  show.
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  I'm
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  Ralph.
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  Thank
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  you
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  for
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  joining
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  me
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  on
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  our
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  daily
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  show
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  as
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  I
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  help
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  you
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  break
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  that
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  cycle
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  of
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  financial
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  shame
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  with
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  confidence
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  as
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  we
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  continue
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  our
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  series
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  of
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  how
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  to
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  have
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  a
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  joyous
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  holiday
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  without
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  going
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  broke.
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  Now
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  listen,
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  I've
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  been
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  an
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  accountant
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  and
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  a
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  Christian
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  coach
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  for
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  30
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  years
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  and
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  I've
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  seen
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  people
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  wreck
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  their
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  budgets
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  trying
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  to
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  be
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  kind.
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  So
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  many
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  people
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  are
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  trying
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  to
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  be
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  kind.
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  And
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  I've
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  also
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  learned
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  that
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  biblical
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  giving,
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  and
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  that's
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  what
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  we're
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  really
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  going
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  to
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  focus
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  on
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  today,
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  requires
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  both
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  love
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  and
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  wisdom.
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  It's
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  not
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  about
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  guilt
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  or
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  performance.
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  Let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  a
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  story.
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  I
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  once
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  counseled
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  this
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  woman.
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  She
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  became
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  a
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  friend
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  of
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  mine.
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  She
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  had
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  this
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  friend
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  of
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  hers
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  who
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  was
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  really
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  in
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  need.
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  I'm
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  talking
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  about
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  this
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  lady
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  laid
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  it
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  on
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  thick,
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  man.
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  She
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  was
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  struggling,
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  having
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  all
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  kinds
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  of
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  financial
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  issues
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  when
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  my
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  friend
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  stepped
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  up
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  and
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  actually
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  took
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  one
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  of
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  her
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  credit
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  cards
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  and
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  ended
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  up
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  maxing
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  it
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  out
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  to
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  help
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  this
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  friend
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  in
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  need.
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  Here's
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  the
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  problem.
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  That
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  friend
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  never
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  repaid
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  her.
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  And
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  my
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  friend
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  even
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  had
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  a
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  situation
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  where
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  she
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  Wasn't
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  able
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  to
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  make
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  her
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  rent
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  payments.
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  Now
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  forget.
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  She
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  looked
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  at
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  me
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  one
• 3:08
  day,
• 3:08
  we
• 3:09
  were
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  out
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  for
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  coffee
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  and
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  she
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  said,
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  ralph,
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  I
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  thought
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  I
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  was
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  being
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  generous.
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  When
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  I
• 3:13
  look
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  back
• 3:13
  at
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  it,
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  I
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  was
• 3:14
  really
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  being
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  impulsive.
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  Talk
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  about
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  pain.
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  Now
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  she
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  told
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  me,
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  she
• 3:18
  says,
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  ralph,
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  I
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  resent
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  that.
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  My
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  friend.
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  We
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  had
• 3:20
  been
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  lifelong
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  friends
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  from
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  when
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  we
• 3:21
  were
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  little
• 3:22
  girls.
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  And
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  unfortunately,
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  this
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  generous
• 3:25
  gift
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  in
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  so
• 3:27
  many
• 3:27
  ways
• 3:27
  became
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  a
• 3:28
  wedge
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  in
• 3:28
  their
• 3:29
  relationship.
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  Because
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  here's
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  the
• 3:31
  truth.
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  Impulsive
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  giving
• 3:33
  isn't
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  faith,
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  it's
• 3:35
  fear.
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  Let's
• 3:36
  talk
• 3:36
  about
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  that
• 3:36
  fear
• 3:37
  for
• 3:37
  a
• 3:37
  second.
• 3:37
  It's
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  that
• 3:38
  fear
• 3:38
  of
• 3:38
  saying
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  no.
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  Someone
• 3:39
  approaches
• 3:40
  you
• 3:40
  and
• 3:40
  says,
• 3:40
  hey,
• 3:40
  can
• 3:40
  you
• 3:41
  help
• 3:41
  me
• 3:41
  out?
• 3:41
  Can
• 3:41
  you
• 3:41
  help
• 3:41
  me
• 3:42
  get
• 3:42
  through
• 3:42
  this
• 3:42
  tough
• 3:43
  season
• 3:43
  set?
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  Fear
• 3:44
  is
• 3:44
  saying
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  no.
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  A
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  lot
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  of
• 3:46
  us
• 3:46
  feel
• 3:46
  this
• 3:46
  fear,
• 3:46
  that
• 3:47
  fear
• 3:47
  looking
• 3:47
  selfish.
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  If
• 3:48
  we
• 3:48
  don't
• 3:49
  do
• 3:49
  this,
• 3:49
  are
• 3:49
  we
• 3:50
  being
• 3:50
  introspective?
• 3:51
  Are
• 3:51
  we
• 3:51
  not
• 3:51
  helping
• 3:52
  somebody
• 3:52
  in
• 3:52
  need?
• 3:53
  Here's
• 3:53
  a
• 3:53
  great
• 3:54
  one.
• 3:54
  A
• 3:54
  lot
• 3:54
  of
• 3:54
  Christian
• 3:55
  people
• 3:55
  feel
• 3:55
  this
• 3:55
  one.
• 3:56
  It's
• 3:56
  the
• 3:56
  feel
• 3:56
  of
• 3:57
  not
• 3:57
  being
• 3:57
  Christian
• 3:58
  enough.
• 3:58
  I'm
• 3:58
  not
• 3:59
  sure
• 3:59
  what
• 3:59
  that
• 3:59
  means,
• 3:59
  but
• 3:59
  it's
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  truth
• 4:00
  is
• 4:00
  so
• 4:01
  many
• 4:01
  of
• 4:01
  us
• 4:01
  feel
• 4:01
  that
• 4:02
  because
• 4:03
  here
• 4:03
  is
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  God
• 4:04
  honest
• 4:04
  truth.
• 4:05
  Generosity
• 4:06
  without
• 4:06
  boundaries
• 4:07
  isn't
• 4:07
  biblical.
• 4:08
  You
• 4:08
  burst
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  bubble
• 4:09
  right
• 4:09
  now.
• 4:10
  It's
• 4:10
  not
• 4:10
  biblical
• 4:10
  at
• 4:10
  all.
• 4:11
  What
• 4:11
  it
• 4:11
  really
• 4:11
  is
• 4:12
  is
• 4:12
  exhausting.
• 4:13
  And
• 4:13
  I
• 4:14
  love
• 4:14
  what
• 4:14
  author
• 4:14
  Bob
• 4:15
  Goff
• 4:15
  once
• 4:15
  said.
• 4:16
  He
• 4:16
  said
• 4:16
  love
• 4:16
  does,
• 4:18
  but
• 4:18
  it
• 4:18
  also
• 4:18
  discerns.
• 4:20
  What
• 4:20
  he's
• 4:20
  getting
• 4:21
  at.
• 4:21
  There
• 4:21
  is
• 4:21
  we,
• 4:21
  we
• 4:22
  have
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  love.
• 4:22
  That's
• 4:22
  what
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  Bible
• 4:23
  commands
• 4:24
  us
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  do.
• 4:25
  But
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  also
• 4:25
  commands
• 4:26
  us
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  discern
• 4:27
  and
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  understand
• 4:27
  what
• 4:28
  we're
• 4:28
  getting
• 4:28
  into.
• 4:28
  So
• 4:29
  let's
• 4:29
  restate
• 4:29
  our
• 4:30
  question
• 4:30
  today.
• 4:30
  And
• 4:31
  I
• 4:31
  love
• 4:31
  this
• 4:31
  question.
• 4:32
  How
• 4:32
  do
• 4:32
  we
• 4:32
  know
• 4:32
  when
• 4:32
  generosity
• 4:33
  crosses
• 4:33
  the
• 4:34
  line?
• 4:34
  Well,
• 4:34
  I've
• 4:34
  got
• 4:34
  five
• 4:35
  ways
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  really
• 4:36
  believe
• 4:36
  are
• 4:36
  ways
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  know
• 4:37
  that.
• 4:37
  Number
• 4:37
  one,
• 4:38
  if
• 4:38
  it's
• 4:39
  guilt
• 4:39
  driven
• 4:39
  giving.
• 4:40
  If
• 4:40
  your
• 4:41
  giving
• 4:41
  brings
• 4:41
  anxiety,
• 4:42
  just
• 4:42
  stop
• 4:43
  right
• 4:43
  there.
• 4:43
  If
• 4:43
  it
• 4:43
  brings
• 4:44
  anxiety
• 4:44
  at
• 4:44
  all,
• 4:45
  instead
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  peace,
• 4:47
  it's
• 4:47
  likely
• 4:47
  motivated
• 4:48
  by
• 4:48
  emotion
• 4:49
  and
• 4:49
  not
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  spirit.
• 4:50
  So
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  first
• 4:51
  thing
• 4:51
  I'm
• 4:51
  going
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  encourage
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  to
• 4:52
  do
• 4:52
  is
• 4:52
  check
• 4:52
  your
• 4:52
  motivation.
• 4:53
  What
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  motivating
• 4:54
  you
• 4:55
  do
• 4:55
  this?
• 4:55
  Is
• 4:55
  it
• 4:55
  a
• 4:55
  fear
• 4:55
  thing?
• 4:56
  Is
• 4:56
  it,
• 4:56
  I
• 4:56
  want
• 4:56
  to
• 4:57
  be
• 4:57
  Christian
• 4:57
  enough?
• 4:57
  Or
• 4:58
  is
• 4:58
  it,
• 4:58
  I'm
• 4:58
  afraid
• 4:59
  that
• 4:59
  if
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  don't
• 4:59
  do
• 4:59
  this,
• 5:00
  someone's
• 5:00
  going
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  think
• 5:01
  less
• 5:01
  of
• 5:01
  me.
• 5:01
  See,
• 5:01
  it's
• 5:01
  all
• 5:01
  about
• 5:02
  your
• 5:02
  mindset.
• 5:03
  So
• 5:03
  it
• 5:03
  starts
• 5:03
  there.
• 5:04
  If
• 5:04
  this
• 5:04
  is
• 5:04
  a
• 5:04
  feeling
• 5:05
  of
• 5:05
  guilt,
• 5:06
  chances
• 5:06
  are
• 5:07
  it's
• 5:07
  not
• 5:07
  a
• 5:07
  good
• 5:07
  thing
• 5:07
  to
• 5:08
  do.
• 5:08
  Second
• 5:08
  thing,
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  my
• 5:10
  friend
• 5:10
  learned
• 5:10
  this
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  hard
• 5:11
  way,
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  can't
• 5:13
  give
• 5:13
  what
• 5:13
  you
• 5:13
  don't
• 5:13
  have.
• 5:14
  So
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  Got
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  start
• 5:15
  with
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  own
• 5:15
  stewardship
• 5:15
  first.
• 5:16
  See,
• 5:16
  God
• 5:16
  never
• 5:16
  asked
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  harm
• 5:17
  your
• 5:18
  family
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  help
• 5:19
  another.
• 5:19
  When
• 5:20
  I
• 5:20
  work
• 5:20
  with
• 5:20
  people,
• 5:21
  when
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  do
• 5:21
  counseling
• 5:21
  work,
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  they
• 5:22
  say,
• 5:22
  ralph,
• 5:22
  I
• 5:23
  really
• 5:23
  want
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  lean
• 5:23
  into
• 5:23
  your
• 5:24
  generosity.
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  said,
• 5:25
  that's
• 5:25
  great.
• 5:25
  Well,
• 5:25
  you've
• 5:26
  got
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  get
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  own
• 5:27
  financial
• 5:27
  house
• 5:27
  in
• 5:28
  order
• 5:28
  first.
• 5:29
  So
• 5:29
  check.
• 5:30
  Hey,
• 5:30
  listen,
• 5:30
  if
• 5:30
  someone
• 5:30
  approaches
• 5:31
  you
• 5:31
  for
• 5:31
  help,
• 5:32
  ask
• 5:32
  yourself,
• 5:33
  are
• 5:33
  my
• 5:33
  finances
• 5:34
  in
• 5:34
  order?
• 5:34
  Because
• 5:35
  if
• 5:35
  your
• 5:35
  finances
• 5:36
  are
• 5:36
  in
• 5:36
  order,
• 5:36
  you're
• 5:36
  going
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  wreck
• 5:37
  two
• 5:37
  people's
• 5:37
  finances,
• 5:38
  and
• 5:38
  that's
• 5:38
  not
• 5:38
  a
• 5:39
  good
• 5:39
  place
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  be.
• 5:40
  Third
• 5:40
  thing,
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  today's
• 5:42
  listener
• 5:42
  really
• 5:42
  alluded
• 5:43
  to
• 5:43
  this,
• 5:43
  that
• 5:44
  emotional
• 5:44
  generosity,
• 5:46
  because
• 5:46
  sometimes
• 5:47
  in
• 5:47
  our
• 5:47
  heart
• 5:48
  we
• 5:48
  feel
• 5:48
  this
• 5:49
  need
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  give.
• 5:50
  And
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  might
• 5:50
  ask
• 5:50
  yourself,
• 5:51
  well,
• 5:51
  why
• 5:51
  do
• 5:51
  we
• 5:51
  do
• 5:51
  that?
• 5:52
  Well,
• 5:52
  honestly,
• 5:53
  I
• 5:53
  think
• 5:53
  it's
• 5:53
  because
• 5:53
  we
• 5:54
  have
• 5:54
  this
• 5:54
  feel
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  be
• 5:55
  needed.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  think
• 5:56
  that's
• 5:56
  a
• 5:56
  human
• 5:56
  emotion.
• 5:58
  We
• 5:58
  want
• 5:58
  people
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  need
• 5:59
  us.
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  think
• 6:00
  of
• 6:01
  my
• 6:01
  mom
• 6:01
  when
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  was
• 6:01
  a
• 6:01
  young
• 6:02
  baby.
• 6:02
  She
• 6:02
  needed
• 6:03
  me.
• 6:03
  She
• 6:03
  needed
• 6:04
  me
• 6:04
  to
• 6:04
  take
• 6:04
  care
• 6:04
  of
• 6:04
  me
• 6:05
  because
• 6:05
  she
• 6:05
  needed
• 6:05
  to
• 6:05
  feed
• 6:06
  me,
• 6:06
  she
• 6:06
  needed
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  clothe
• 6:07
  me
• 6:07
  and
• 6:07
  all
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  sort
• 6:07
  of
• 6:07
  thing.
• 6:08
  And
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  think
• 6:08
  as
• 6:09
  we
• 6:09
  grow
• 6:09
  into
• 6:09
  adults,
• 6:10
  we
• 6:10
  want
• 6:10
  that
• 6:10
  feeling
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  being
• 6:11
  needed.
• 6:12
  But
• 6:12
  if
• 6:12
  you're
• 6:13
  being
• 6:13
  honest
• 6:13
  with
• 6:13
  yourself,
• 6:14
  recognize
• 6:15
  that's
• 6:15
  an
• 6:15
  impulse.
• 6:16
  And
• 6:16
  one
• 6:17
  of
• 6:17
  the
• 6:17
  greatest
• 6:17
  things
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  can
• 6:17
  do
• 6:18
  is
• 6:18
  pray
• 6:18
  about
• 6:18
  it.
• 6:19
  Check.
• 6:19
  Impulses.
• 6:20
  This
• 6:20
  is
• 6:20
  one
• 6:20
  of
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  big
• 6:21
  things
• 6:21
  they
• 6:21
  talk
• 6:21
  about
• 6:21
  in
• 6:22
  psychology
• 6:22
  called
• 6:22
  codependency.
• 6:23
  And
• 6:23
  I
• 6:24
  really
• 6:24
  think
• 6:24
  it
• 6:24
  leans
• 6:24
  into
• 6:25
  this,
• 6:25
  that
• 6:25
  emotional
• 6:26
  generosity
• 6:27
  that
• 6:27
  you
• 6:27
  have,
• 6:28
  this
• 6:28
  desire
• 6:28
  that
• 6:28
  you
• 6:29
  have,
• 6:29
  this
• 6:29
  codependent
• 6:30
  need
• 6:30
  that
• 6:30
  you've
• 6:31
  absolutely
• 6:31
  got
• 6:31
  to
• 6:32
  do
• 6:32
  it.
• 6:32
  So
• 6:32
  that's
• 6:32
  another
• 6:32
  one.
• 6:33
  If
• 6:33
  it's
• 6:33
  emotional,
• 6:34
  number
• 6:34
  four,
• 6:35
  let's
• 6:36
  lean
• 6:36
  into
• 6:36
  something
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  can
• 6:37
  help
• 6:37
  you,
• 6:37
  and
• 6:38
  that's
• 6:38
  boundaries.
• 6:39
  Saying
• 6:40
  no
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  unhealthy
• 6:41
  giving
• 6:41
  allows
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  to
• 6:42
  say
• 6:42
  yes
• 6:42
  when
• 6:42
  it
• 6:42
  truly
• 6:43
  matters.
• 6:44
  I'll
• 6:44
  give
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  great
• 6:44
  example
• 6:45
  as
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  do
• 6:45
  a
• 6:45
  weekly
• 6:45
  show.
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  don't
• 6:46
  know
• 6:46
  if
• 6:46
  you
• 6:46
  know
• 6:46
  about
• 6:46
  this
• 6:47
  or
• 6:47
  not.
• 6:47
  It's
• 6:47
  called
• 6:47
  Truth
• 6:47
  Unveiled
• 6:48
  with
• 6:48
  Ralph.
• 6:48
  And
• 6:49
  we're
• 6:49
  going
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  put
• 6:49
  some
• 6:49
  links
• 6:50
  in
• 6:50
  the
• 6:50
  show
• 6:50
  notes
• 6:51
  today.
• 6:51
  But
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  did
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  show
• 6:52
  all
• 6:52
  about
• 6:52
  boundaries.
• 6:53
  You
• 6:54
  have
• 6:54
  to
• 6:54
  understand
• 6:55
  that
• 6:55
  when
• 6:55
  you
• 6:56
  say
• 6:56
  no
• 6:56
  to
• 6:56
  somebody,
• 6:57
  it
• 6:57
  opens
• 6:58
  up
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  yes
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  somebody
• 6:59
  else.
• 6:59
  It's
• 7:00
  that
• 7:00
  discernment.
• 7:00
  It's
• 7:00
  that
• 7:01
  idea
• 7:01
  in
• 7:01
  your
• 7:01
  head
• 7:01
  about
• 7:02
  what
• 7:02
  can
• 7:02
  I
• 7:02
  really
• 7:03
  help
• 7:03
  them
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  do?
• 7:03
  And
• 7:03
  you've
• 7:04
  got
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  set
• 7:04
  those
• 7:04
  boundaries.
• 7:05
  Because,
• 7:05
  listen,
• 7:05
  people
• 7:06
  will
• 7:06
  test
• 7:06
  those
• 7:06
  boundaries.
• 7:07
  People
• 7:08
  will
• 7:08
  allow
• 7:08
  that
• 7:09
  to
• 7:09
  go
• 7:09
  over
• 7:09
  and
• 7:10
  above
• 7:10
  those
• 7:10
  boundaries.
• 7:10
  But
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  got
• 7:10
  to
• 7:11
  set
• 7:11
  those
• 7:11
  things.
• 7:12
  And
• 7:12
  finally,
• 7:13
  let
• 7:13
  prayer
• 7:14
  be
• 7:14
  your
• 7:14
  guide.
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  probably
• 7:15
  should
• 7:15
  have
• 7:15
  started
• 7:15
  with
• 7:15
  that
• 7:16
  first.
• 7:17
  But
• 7:17
  God's
• 7:17
  direction
• 7:18
  brings
• 7:18
  peace
• 7:19
  Just.
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  want
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  sit
• 7:21
  there
• 7:21
  for
• 7:21
  a
• 7:21
  second.
• 7:21
  Just
• 7:21
  think
• 7:21
  about
• 7:22
  that.
• 7:23
  If
• 7:23
  it's
• 7:24
  really
• 7:24
  God's
• 7:24
  direction,
• 7:25
  you
• 7:25
  will
• 7:26
  feel
• 7:26
  at
• 7:26
  peace
• 7:26
  with
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  decision.
• 7:27
  The
• 7:27
  problem
• 7:27
  is
• 7:27
  human
• 7:28
  pressure.
• 7:28
  Human
• 7:29
  usually
• 7:29
  brings
• 7:29
  stress.
• 7:30
  We
• 7:31
  all
• 7:31
  have
• 7:31
  those
• 7:31
  situations
• 7:32
  where
• 7:32
  somebody
• 7:32
  is
• 7:33
  leaning
• 7:33
  into
• 7:33
  us
• 7:33
  or
• 7:34
  maybe
• 7:34
  over
• 7:34
  the.
• 7:35
  Over
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  lunch
• 7:35
  or
• 7:36
  something.
• 7:36
  Oh,
• 7:36
  I'm
• 7:37
  really
• 7:37
  having
• 7:37
  a
• 7:37
  tough
• 7:37
  time.
• 7:37
  You
• 7:38
  ever
• 7:38
  been
• 7:38
  around
• 7:38
  that
• 7:38
  person?
• 7:39
  It's
• 7:39
  always
• 7:39
  bellyaching
• 7:40
  about
• 7:40
  how
• 7:40
  bad
• 7:41
  they
• 7:41
  have
• 7:41
  it.
• 7:42
  Well,
• 7:42
  that's
• 7:42
  emotional
• 7:43
  stuff,
• 7:43
  and
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  got
• 7:43
  to
• 7:44
  steer
• 7:44
  clear
• 7:44
  that.
• 7:44
  And
• 7:44
  maybe
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  need
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  help
• 7:45
  them,
• 7:46
  but
• 7:46
  pray
• 7:46
  about
• 7:47
  it.
• 7:47
  Which
• 7:47
  leads
• 7:47
  me
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  our
• 7:48
  Bible
• 7:48
  verse
• 7:48
  today.
• 7:48
  This
• 7:49
  one
• 7:49
  comes
• 7:49
  from
• 7:49
  the
• 7:49
  book
• 7:50
  of
• 7:50
  Proverbs,
• 7:50
  chapter
• 7:51
  11,
• 7:51
  verse
• 7:52
  25.
• 7:52
  And
• 7:52
  I
• 7:53
  just
• 7:53
  absolutely
• 7:53
  love
• 7:53
  this.
• 7:54
  It
• 7:54
  fits
• 7:54
  perfectly
• 7:55
  with
• 7:55
  what
• 7:55
  we're
• 7:55
  talking
• 7:55
  about
• 7:56
  today.
• 7:56
  And
• 7:56
  it
• 7:56
  says
• 7:56
  this
• 7:56
  again,
• 7:57
  Proverbs
• 7:58
  11:25.
• 7:59
  A
• 7:59
  generous
• 8:00
  person
• 8:00
  will
• 8:00
  prosper.
• 8:01
  Whoever
• 8:02
  refreshes
• 8:02
  others
• 8:03
  will
• 8:03
  be
• 8:03
  refreshed.
• 8:05
  They
• 8:05
  might
• 8:05
  say,
• 8:05
  wait
• 8:05
  a
• 8:06
  second,
• 8:06
  Ralph,
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  just
• 8:06
  spent
• 8:07
  the
• 8:07
  last
• 8:07
  five
• 8:07
  or
• 8:07
  six
• 8:08
  minutes
• 8:08
  talking
• 8:08
  about
• 8:08
  not
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  give.
• 8:09
  That's
• 8:09
  not
• 8:09
  at
• 8:09
  all
• 8:09
  what
• 8:10
  I
• 8:10
  said.
• 8:10
  If
• 8:10
  that's
• 8:10
  what
• 8:10
  you
• 8:10
  heard,
• 8:11
  you
• 8:11
  didn't
• 8:11
  hear
• 8:11
  me.
• 8:12
  What
• 8:12
  I
• 8:12
  said
• 8:13
  is
• 8:13
  understand.
• 8:14
  Is
• 8:14
  your
• 8:14
  house
• 8:15
  in
• 8:15
  order?
• 8:16
  Is
• 8:16
  this
• 8:16
  the
• 8:16
  right
• 8:17
  thing
• 8:17
  to
• 8:17
  do?
• 8:17
  Have
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  prayed
• 8:18
  about
• 8:18
  it?
• 8:18
  But
• 8:19
  listen,
• 8:19
  being
• 8:19
  generous
• 8:20
  is
• 8:20
  a
• 8:20
  wonderful
• 8:21
  thing.
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  think
• 8:21
  it's
• 8:22
  great.
• 8:22
  If
• 8:22
  you
• 8:22
  want
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  give
• 8:22
  gifts
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  people
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  help
• 8:23
  people,
• 8:24
  the
• 8:24
  Bible
• 8:24
  says
• 8:25
  it
• 8:25
  right
• 8:25
  here,
• 8:25
  a
• 8:25
  generous
• 8:26
  person
• 8:26
  will
• 8:26
  prosper.
• 8:27
  If
• 8:27
  you
• 8:27
  want
• 8:28
  to
• 8:28
  prosper,
• 8:28
  be
• 8:28
  generous.
• 8:29
  But
• 8:29
  be
• 8:29
  wise
• 8:30
  in
• 8:30
  how
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  do
• 8:30
  it.
• 8:31
  How
• 8:31
  about
• 8:31
  we
• 8:31
  pray
• 8:31
  together
• 8:32
  right
• 8:32
  now,
• 8:32
  Lord,
• 8:33
  we
• 8:33
  come
• 8:33
  to
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  now,
• 8:34
  and
• 8:34
  we
• 8:34
  want
• 8:34
  to
• 8:34
  be
• 8:34
  generous
• 8:35
  people.
• 8:36
  So,
• 8:36
  Lord,
• 8:36
  we
• 8:36
  start
• 8:37
  by
• 8:37
  asking
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  to
• 8:38
  help
• 8:38
  us
• 8:38
  see
• 8:38
  when
• 8:39
  it's
• 8:39
  time
• 8:39
  to
• 8:39
  say
• 8:39
  yes.
• 8:40
  Lord,
• 8:40
  help
• 8:40
  us
• 8:41
  to
• 8:41
  see
• 8:41
  those
• 8:41
  opportunities
• 8:42
  when
• 8:43
  it's
• 8:43
  truly
• 8:43
  your
• 8:43
  will
• 8:44
  for
• 8:44
  us
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  do
• 8:44
  this.
• 8:44
  But
• 8:45
  at
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  same
• 8:45
  time,
• 8:45
  Lord,
• 8:46
  help
• 8:46
  us
• 8:46
  to
• 8:46
  understand
• 8:47
  when
• 8:47
  it's
• 8:47
  okay
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  say
• 8:48
  no,
• 8:48
  let's
• 8:49
  not
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  feel
• 8:49
  that
• 8:49
  Christian
• 8:50
  guilt
• 8:50
  or
• 8:50
  that
• 8:51
  feeling
• 8:51
  of
• 8:51
  frustration
• 8:52
  or
• 8:53
  anxiety
• 8:53
  about
• 8:53
  it.
• 8:54
  Lord,
• 8:54
  help
• 8:54
  us
• 8:55
  to
• 8:55
  see
• 8:55
  wisdom
• 8:56
  in
• 8:56
  this
• 8:56
  and
• 8:56
  not
• 8:56
  guilt.
• 8:57
  And
• 8:57
  teach
• 8:57
  us
• 8:58
  the
• 8:58
  healthy
• 8:58
  stewardship
• 8:59
  honors
• 9:00
  you,
• 9:00
  Lord.
• 9:00
  Help
• 9:00
  us
• 9:00
  to
• 9:01
  always
• 9:01
  be
• 9:01
  locked
• 9:02
  into
• 9:02
  that
• 9:02
  in
• 9:02
  a
• 9:02
  prayerful
• 9:03
  way.
• 9:03
  And,
• 9:03
  Lord,
• 9:03
  we
• 9:04
  ask
• 9:04
  this
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  name
• 9:05
  of
• 9:05
  Jesus.
• 9:06
  Amen.
• 9:06
  Okay,
• 9:07
  well,
• 9:07
  here's
• 9:07
  your
• 9:07
  action
• 9:07
  item
• 9:08
  for
• 9:08
  today.
• 9:08
  Before
• 9:09
  giving
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  any
• 9:10
  person
• 9:10
  or
• 9:10
  cost,
• 9:10
  I'm
• 9:10
  talking
• 9:11
  about
• 9:11
  any
• 9:11
  of
• 9:11
  them.
• 9:12
  Take
• 9:12
  24
• 9:13
  hours
• 9:13
  and
• 9:13
  pray
• 9:13
  about
• 9:14
  it.
• 9:14
  Check
• 9:15
  your
• 9:15
  budget.
• 9:15
  Is
• 9:16
  your
• 9:16
  financial
• 9:16
  house
• 9:17
  in
• 9:17
  order?
• 9:18
  Because
• 9:18
  if
• 9:18
  you
• 9:18
  do
• 9:18
  those
• 9:18
  two
• 9:19
  things,
• 9:19
  guess
• 9:19
  what?
• 9:20
  Peace
• 9:20
  is
• 9:20
  going
• 9:21
  to
• 9:21
  come
• 9:21
  and
• 9:21
  it's
• 9:21
  going
• 9:21
  to
• 9:22
  confirm
• 9:22
  your
• 9:22
  decision.
• 9:22
  Because
• 9:23
  we
• 9:23
  should
• 9:23
  always
• 9:23
  pause
• 9:24
  before
• 9:24
  giving
• 9:25
  or
• 9:25
  deciding
• 9:25
  to
• 9:26
  help
• 9:26
  someone
• 9:26
  else.
• 9:27
  And
• 9:28
  listen
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  this.
• 9:28
  If
• 9:29
  today's
• 9:29
  message
• 9:29
  hit
• 9:29
  home,
• 9:30
  I
• 9:30
  want
• 9:30
  to
• 9:30
  talk.
• 9:31
  We
• 9:31
  talked
• 9:31
  about
• 9:31
  this
• 9:31
  show
• 9:31
  earlier.
• 9:32
  I
• 9:32
  would
• 9:32
  love
• 9:32
  for
• 9:33
  you
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  come
• 9:33
  and
• 9:33
  listen
• 9:33
  to
• 9:34
  my
• 9:34
  weekly
• 9:34
  show.
• 9:34
  It's
• 9:34
  called
• 9:35
  Truth
• 9:35
  Unveiled
• 9:35
  with
• 9:35
  Ralph.
• 9:36
  We
• 9:37
  ask
• 9:37
  one
• 9:37
  simple
• 9:38
  question.
• 9:38
  We
• 9:38
  talk
• 9:38
  about
• 9:39
  culture's
• 9:39
  way
• 9:39
  or
• 9:40
  God's
• 9:40
  way.
• 9:41
  See,
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  world
• 9:41
  gives
• 9:42
  us
• 9:42
  until
• 9:43
  we're
• 9:43
  empty.
• 9:44
  God
• 9:44
  says
• 9:45
  give
• 9:45
  from
• 9:45
  the
• 9:45
  overflow.
• 9:46
  So
• 9:46
  if
• 9:46
  you're
• 9:46
  interested
• 9:47
  in
• 9:47
  that
• 9:47
  show,
• 9:47
  I
• 9:47
  would
• 9:48
  love
• 9:48
  to
• 9:48
  see
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  over
• 9:48
  there.
• 9:48
  It's
• 9:49
  called
• 9:49
  truthunveiledwithRalph.com.
• 9:51
  let's
• 9:51
  stop
• 9:51
  living
• 9:52
  by
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  world
• 9:52
  standards
• 9:53
  and
• 9:53
  start
• 9:53
  living
• 9:54
  by
• 9:54
  the
• 9:54
  word
• 9:54
  of
• 9:54
  God.
• 9:54
  Well,
• 9:55
  thank
• 9:55
  you
• 9:55
  for
• 9:55
  joining
• 9:55
  me
• 9:55
  on
• 9:55
  the
• 9:56
  show
• 9:56
  today.
• 9:56
  Remember,
• 9:57
  generosity
• 9:58
  needs
• 9:58
  wisdom
• 9:58
  and
• 9:59
  those
• 9:59
  boundaries
• 9:59
  honor
• 10:00
  God.
• 10:00
  So
• 10:00
  go
• 10:00
  out
• 10:01
  there
• 10:01
  today
• 10:01
  and
• 10:01
  give
• 10:01
  with
• 10:02
  joy,
• 10:02
  give
• 10:03
  with
• 10:03
  peace,
• 10:04
  but
• 10:04
  give
• 10:04
  with
• 10:04
  a
• 10:05
  purpose.
• 10:05
  Be
• 10:05
  a
• 10:05
  financially
• 10:06
  confident
• 10:06
  Christian.
• 10:07
  Stay
• 10:07
  financially
• 10:08
  savvy.
• 10:08
  God
• 10:08
  bless
• 10:09
  you.
• 10:09
  And
• 10:09
  and
• 10:09
  I'll
• 10:09
  see
• 10:10
  you
• 10:10
  again
• 10:10
  next
• 10:10
  time
• 10:10
  on
• 10:10
  the
• 10:11
  show.