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Yoreh De’ah 239:1-2. Oaths: Similar Laws To Vows, Chilul Hashem, Shaking Hands, Raising One’s Hand, Marriage and Yibum · SHULCHAN ARUCH YOMI: Own the Halacha in 25 minutes a day!

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  Hey, good morning. We are starting with Reesh
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  Lammetet, the last Simon of Hilhat Shavuot, Nishva Aldevarsh
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  Anbum Amish, all about Alha mitzvah, right?
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  To make a show on something that there's no physical item there.
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  It's for you to do something or not to do something or to not do
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  a mitzvah. We're going to see here.
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  We're going to start with the beginning.
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  We're going to see, we know by, if you notice by Hilhos
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  Nidarium, it's quite long. It's more than 30 simanim.
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  Shivas is, I think less. It's about 5, give or take a
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  couple anyways. So there's a big difference.
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  So you're going to see an olive over here.
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  It's a little bit of a review, just telling you most of what
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  applies to Hilhos Nidarium actually applies to Hilhos
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  Shivas, kind of like so we don't have to do 30 more just for
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  Shivas. OK, so let's see it inside.
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  Olive. Dean Hasheva kid Dean Haneder.
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  In general, most of the halakos that apply to a shavua apply to
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  another. Look, hold avar for everything.
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  Well, it's not for everything, but it's for most things.
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  Bing, the Indian should start Shiosi Biswatov.
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  So for the Halakhatov, you have to in order for it to be called
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  to be binding, you have to verbalize it.
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  You can't just mentally think the nether or Chauvoir.
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  And then I mean, there's there's an inion to be Makai in your
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  thoughts, but it's not going to have a din of a Chauvoir or a
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  nether and certainly not to the same right?
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  That's not the same level. It's not the same.
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  There's no, there's no derisa on it.
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  It's not OK, no binding fine. So that's the same Allah hose
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  bail in and is carbulum are Pete a pot heating the amorpat sorium
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  are pot Stam so too that your heart and your mind has to be
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  the same. You have to intend to say what
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  you what's you have to say what you mean to say right.
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  That goes by your intention and has to match if you say, if you
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  think one thing and you by accidentally say something else,
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  so then it's not called. So that's the same halaqa for
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  both of them. Fine, then shahochim BA akhar
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  lacham binay Adam, both of them that the same halaqa that goes
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  by Lacham Binay Adam Bain inn hakama ubitula same halaqa
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  supply for doing to be makayam to uphold or to to nullify.
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  In particular, this is referring to what age it starts if it's a
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  child or bar mitzvah or the year before and for a husband or a a
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  husband or a father to do hafarah baro bat mitzvah.
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  No, but I'm saying OK, the question is a father can only do
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  a fara for a daughter. The what the issue of the year
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  before business is, is is it another is a binding.
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  Normally if a one is bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah, then it will for
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  all halakhas. Generally speaking, until you
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  are a bar or bat mitzvah, a full 12A, full 13 girl or boy,
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  anything you do doesn't count. You're a din of a katan.
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  No difference if you're 6 years old or 12 1/2, well, you're not
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  bar or bat mitzvah, right? Whatever that age is, there's no
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  difference. In general, there's issues of
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  this, but in general it's either a Qatar or a Gado, Hilhos,
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  Nidarian and Shavuas. It's the same thing.
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  The exception is there's a drasha that is even one year
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  before you are. If you know what you're what
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  you're saying, then it already counts on a ARISA level.
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  OK, Bay in the inyan Tanayam, if you make a tanaya for a nether
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  or a Shiva, again, it has it's all based on Tanayam work and
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  it's the same Viesh Omrin. OK, so here there's one
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  deviation from what we're saying and we'll see.
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  There's a couple other things. You know what, let me I'll just
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  quote from here. Where's the best place to put it
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  in? I'm just going to make a little
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  quick little pause over here that you know what, let me read
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  it inside and then I'll say, so let's let's read Vyesh Omrin.
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  So here there's a question mark, Vyesh Omrin.
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  Some say the Kashem Shenidre Zeruzin, the Hawaii unseen,
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  Chicago's Mutareen who are doing the Indian Chavua.
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  So the first opinion says that there's no difference for those
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  4 categories. Remember these 4 categories we
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  say are never called to begin with.
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  Whether it's if it was done just to motivate you or there was a
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  gross exaggeration over here, right?
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  So all the, or you were forced, someone forced you or they're
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  going to put you in jail or kill you.
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  Your life's on the line. So you make this Shihuah or
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  Chicago's you totally. The whole shivua was made by
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  mistake. It was a total misunderstanding.
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  And so all these cases we say are not even called to begin
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  with, right? Generally we're saying whenever
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  it applies generally for all those things, we say you don't
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  make that. You're not supposed to make that
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  Shiva la Katrila, but if you did, then you don't have to do
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  Hatara. OK?
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  So that's the general rule for Nader we learned.
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  And so we're saying the first opinion over here says this is
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  the same by Hilka Shivaos. OK, However, Well, the following
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  caveat applies also to Hilkaas Nadarim.
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  So whether it's would would everyone include it or not?
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  OK, depends on if you were writing it or not because it's a
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  it's the same by Uncle Snadar. But anyways, we'll just stay it
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  over here. This is the words of the when
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  you made the Shwat Havai Loya Imam idwar vomar Shavada, but
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  also Derek Hayote Mitzrayim. What we said a normal if you say
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  a norm if you normally just say a gross exaggeration.
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  We learned this already. A gross exaggeration.
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  We assume you don't mean it seriously.
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  It's not a shavua and it's not a nether.
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  But if you say no, no, I mean exactly what I say, and I'm
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  making a nether shavua, so then it is actually binding.
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  OK, But there's no difference. And we learned that already.
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  Deborah Pasha. It's fine.
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  Here's the Mahlokis VA Shomrin. And this is what most akronium
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  say is the halacha. So we'll go, we'll go with it.
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  Vyesh Omrim that this is the opinion Mahalaka the Shavuot
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  Havai. Behold, Governor Asuras that
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  it's us, Sir, to make a Shavua Havai.
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  And and it's called that you need to do Hatara even after you
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  make it. OK?
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  So that's that's an exception. Yeah.
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  I don't think you'd be high of kurban.
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  Maybe if you use a sham's name. OK, leave that as a it's a
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  question mark. Fine fine, let's go on Umidivri
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  Harambam then. He just quotes the diviri, the
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  Rambam, which the post game say is not the halakha.
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  And it's clearly not according to the Lakha as the Shokanar and
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  the Rama wrote. And normally if the Ram if the
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  Shokanar quotes the Rambam, it's usually not the Ikar halakha OK
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  near it. Otherwise you would just say it
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  neeraj shivous deruzin asuras gamba shahar shivous urine
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  misvasha alpha Pisa patermi korban isura Mia ika.
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  He says that all of them are actually asur, but the only one
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  2nd and and the way if you see the shock, he quotes a portion
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  of the Rambam and he says like this, if it's on scene, it's
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  mother. But if it's a shivat Havai in
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  Chicago's so then it's it's ASA de Raisa, but patoor MI Korba.
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  OK, so that's that's the opinion of Rambam.
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  And yeah, I just wanted to point out there's a what's different
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  about Shavuas Hawaii, because we said nidre, we said everyone of,
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  I mean Lahalaka, we all agree Zeruzin, Onsin and Chicago's are
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  you don't have to do any hatara for it.
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  Even if you make it, you don't have to do atara.
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  It's not binding at all. Doesn't need Atari.
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  Doesn't need Mutaras, assuming we're right doesn't mean you can
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  say it like I mean it depends. Usually if it's an onus when
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  you're in that situation, it's like Akila for you to say it.
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  So that's what we did. We said going, we mentioned, OK,
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  so anyways, let's go. Let's I just wanted to point out
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  that by Shivaas Hawaii is the one exception that we're mahamar
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  and we say that's you need to do Hatara even after the fact.
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  Why? That's the exaggeration.
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  One's the Hawaii because the Gomara said, the Pasak says, and
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  this is a, it's discussed really among the Rishoni and the
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  Gomara's the Gomara the Pasak says and Shmos kaf Zain
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  loyenake. That's on the Pasak of Lotisa.
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  You're not allowed to make a, to say Hashem's name in vain.
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  And that's referring to a Shiva. Lotisa is a lushan of a, a
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  lushan of a Shiva. So there it says Loyanaka and a
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  couple gamaras over there. I'll just .2 the gumarin Shiva
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  slama tet what Allah says Koh Alam, the whole world needs
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  nazao. They they trembled fear when
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  they heard that. Because normally we say Nakaya
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  sham is going to forgive you. But when it comes to shavuas
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  saying a shavua in vain, especially with Hashem's name,
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  Hashem says Leah Nakaya, I'm not going to forgive you.
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  I'm going to pay you back. There's also a Myanmar Khazal
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  that I'll say that in a moment. Yeah, no, it's over there that
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  Hashem not only when it comes to Shiva's in particular, Hashem
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  punishes not only you like by generally, by most of Averos is
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  going to even punish your family because Silko Shiva's is very,
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  very Hummer. And it's, it's your D board,
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  it's your essence and it's with Hashem's name and it's, it's
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  very, very Hummer. So that's why by a Shrewa we're
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  more Mahmer by Hawaii than we are by Nidarian.
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  Why? Let's see, there's a difference.
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  Well, Tisa's going on a Shrewa and it's Alya Khaldivaro.
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  OK, It's a lot, it's important and it's also it's D board.
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  But it's not the same level of a Shrewa that that's it's in the
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  now Sarah Siddiros, the Kurdish bar who made pointed it out how
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  that it's more severe. And Nidarian Yurkhat Amarala
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  just points out that Shivous is more just a statement that
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  Shivous oh, Shivous are more Khamur than Nidarim in general.
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  So just a couple examples. So we see over here by Havai
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  exaggeration ones, we know that we're going to see it, we're
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  going to see it, we're going to read it inside.
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  I'll just point it out right now in Bomamesh, if you have a, it's
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  kind of Shiva bihal on a davasha Yehbomamesh or in Bomamesh.
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  So now there's only a Fieshbomamesh, but then there's
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  an A Shiva also applies, it's more hammer, but it applies on
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  Davasha in Bomamesh and it's on the person on the action.
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  OK, we only say mushba, the Omed baharsini, that principle by a
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  shavuas. We don't say that by Nadarn.
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  So that's why that's another way, another area where shavuas
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  is more an example where it's more khamar.
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  And so therefore a shavua can't is not khalan, A shavua, but a
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  nether. But a shavua can't be called
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  nether or in a mitzvah. Anyways, one more thing.
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  Malchus normally we say you get well this might be the same, but
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  but as we see it's common because malchus normally you
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  don't get malchus unless there is a misa by Chervuis.
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  You can you can get malchus even without any kind of a misa.
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  Should beto it and shall be learned.
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  But darn, I believe if there's no misa, there's no there's no
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  malchus. And what else did I need to want
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  to point out? We're going to see this.
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  I think the Araka Shulkhan also points this out.
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  What's interesting to note that Shirua Shimba malkus.
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  No, no, but I wanted to point them out.
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  And Nader can be called on a on a mitzvah.
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  So at your first glance, you might think, oh, Nadarim or more
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  hammer, but it's really just the opposite.
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  Because of the humor of Mushba, the omen Behar Sinai, it can't
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  be Hall. So because Chivas is more humor,
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  so it can't be Hall. The end result, it comes out
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  that in a way, Nadaram has a Homer to it, but it's only
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  because Chivas is more Hummer than Adaram.
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  OK, And we're going to see that inside.
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  So let's maybe that's included in between.
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  Or you should be master sure. Right.
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  So Shokanara holds that there's no difference.
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  And then you do atara the same. We learnt about it.
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  Maybe it's under bitula. OK, OK, Hagar, let's read the
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  Hagar. If a non if a Jew steals from a
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  goi. OK, This is not an issue of
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  helkos maminas, any of us. A Sir, you stama.
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  You have to. You have to, they pay it back.
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  But the story is the Yehudi we're talking about Hilka
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  shivuahs over here. A Jew stole from Magoy.
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  Now the goyim in their in their courts, they made him make a
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  shivuah if he stole or not stole.
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  OK, Vio deim shanish Bala shekhar.
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  So the Jews are there and they're seeing what's going on.
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  And you see the guy's about to make a shivuah and it's going to
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  be a shakur. So yeah, Kufuhu sheet Pascherian
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  Magoyum. So you force as much as you can
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  to the Jew to stop him from making a shivua.
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  That's a lie, right? And just pay the money or make a
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  pshara. Figure it out.
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  Don't make the shivua the loyeshavala shekhar.
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  I feel I am haya anus aleshvua even though you're an anus.
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  Now we know if it's an anus, the shivu is not really Khal Hoyel
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  Viyeshala Shambhi Shwatov. The problem is not a Shiva,
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  that's you're going to violate it because you're an onus.
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  The guy's going to throw you in jail or kill you.
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  So you have no choice to make the Shiva.
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  So it's not a real Shiva, right? You have a mind that you don't
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  want to make the Shiva, but there's a kilo sham involved.
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  So therefore you have to avoid the Shiva.
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  And if there's no onus, I mean, if you are onus and there's no
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  kilo sham, so then just have a mind.
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  This is it's not a real Shiva. You have no choice.
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  It's not speech for us since it's not a since you're honest
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  and it's not going to be call or binding to you.
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  And this is just, I believe, even with the shame Hashem, but
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  again, but using a shame Hashem might make it more likely to be
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  a hulashem. So it might be a problem that we
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  said shuwa. There's no shuwa.
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  It's just not a shuwa. Sorry.
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  I know because it's in front. Of the other Jews who know that
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  he's lost. Or in front of the goyim Jews or
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  goyim it's a khulasham. Khulasham happens in front of
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  Jews and non Jews but it's. Because the Jews know that he's
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  lost. That makes it the Phil Hashem.
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  You'll be found out, I guess. I think it's because you'll be
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  found out. That's not if no one knows about
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  it. That's not Khul Hashem.
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  There is an element in life. If you remove a Kurish bar from
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  the halal of any space in the universe, there is an element of
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  khilosham. But in halacha when we use the
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  word khilosham that usually does not refer to your personal
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  heart. OK, base takiyat kaf deena kadin
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  shahar shivas vyeshlahatara. OK, so this is important.
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  The concept. We touched upon it before a
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  couple times, but we never really addressed it inside.
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  There's a halacha of giving. When you shake hands on
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  something and you're when you do it, you're basically saying that
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  what you're saying is true Ki ilu.
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  You're using the words a Shiva. It's like a Shiva Mama.
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  It's like, is it or isn't? We'll mention in a second.
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  Fine, Ava at taket kaf Dina kadin shahara, Shiva's VA shala
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  hatara. So therefore it's binding.
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  If a person makes a takiyat kaf with a statement, you shake on
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  it with someone that you're saying something is true or
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  something happened or whatever it is.
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  It has a din of a shivua, and if you want to go back on your
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  word, then you need to do hatara.
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  Let's qualify that a little bit. And as the Rama is a little more
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  Mahman and Shakhanara, we generally don't do hatara on the
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  shivuah unless you need to. OK, that's partially true.
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  By Al Nadarian summary shown, you are more Mahama by Shivuah.
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  It has to be even a bigger Tsarah.
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  And that's the Rama says like Hathila.
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  OK, the honey Miley Kashi Derek Shivuah.
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  Now this is where it becomes a little bit of a Gray area
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  perhaps in our society, the mice and nowadays, but it has to only
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  be it's only counted as a shivua if it's understood that you're
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  making a serious statement with, you know, sincerity and you're
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  making a you're shaking on it like you mean it like a shivua
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  about Kashidhar kapam zela zela Kiyuma Mecca.
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  But if you're you're, you're shaking on a business deal.
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  So you're not shake, you're shaking that you're going to pay
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  the guy and stick to the price, but you're not making a shivua.
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  It's a business deal. Now you have to keep your word.
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  You meant it as a Geneva's does since it's a little bit of a
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  Geneva issue. That's a separate topic, but it
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  doesn't have a din of a Shiva. That's a real assignment.
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  Fine, let me just finish the line.
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  Ayla din Shivua Kal. That's akima Mecca.
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  Khomemka certainly has no din of Shivua.
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  Maybe it will stop or pass, I don't know.
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  Let's read the Rama and kiet kaf.
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  Great lama Ted bet Hagar. He could be a Yadav person.
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  Raises his hands via Amar Anita kya kapai la shamayam.
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  I'm raising my hands to or I'm shaking hilu hands with the
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  shaman to the shamayam or to my my, my rock.
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  I've got a sparkle, that's all. That's sorry Katara.
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  You have to do atara on such a Shiva Hanotin kya kafa havero
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  person shakes with his hands Vitala vedaito and he says
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  basically again, it depends what's the nature of the Shiva.
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  But you shake on that Jamaican hymn, deciding if you know if
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  the Shiva is going to be hall or not, whatever the situation is
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  Yahoo limko lo. So then your friends, since you
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  told him it's Talo by him, if it's binding or not, he can just
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  undo it and then you don't have to do Hatara because it's he's
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  The Tonight. But if it's not dependent upon
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  him, I saw Derrick Shavua. But if it's done like shaking
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  hands, like a Derrick of a Shavua blow you, then you can't
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  he can't forgive you because it wasn't Taloi by him.
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  It was a Shavua with him. Oh, by Hatara and then you have
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  to do Hatara. So I just want to point out
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  what's the nature of the Kia cough.
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  So is it exactly the same or not?
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  So some say it has the same din mamish of a Shiva, it's a
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  Mahloka din, the rishonium. Some say it's less, it's less
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  powerful. Just I'll point you to the
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  Rebikiva Agar. For example, he quotes from the
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  Dharke Moshe who leaves it with a Tsarakhi.
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  And exactly what's the nature? So he quotes 2 opinions.
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  One is the Mordachi who writes that Kietkaf.
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  It's a Mamish like a Shiva, and he's parshest.
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  It's even if it you make a shivuah to somebody else about
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  somebody else, like you're making a shivuah like I make a
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  shivuah or you make me make a shivuah.
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  The two of us, whether it's me and Gershon to each other about,
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  I don't know, giving a gift to, to Moshe or doing a favor, going
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  to the market for Ruvain, whatever the story might be,
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  we're making the shivua to each other about doing me makai and
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  the shivua to somebody else. Is that also binding?
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  So he quotes from the Mahari veil that there it's not really
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  binding. It's not, it's not Kiev Kaf has
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  to be on a level of a Shivua. It's me din or mishum kritus
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  bris. There's this, it's some form of
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  a derisa where there's you make a covenant between two people,
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  but it only is binding as a Shiva, maybe probably a little
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  bit lower than a Shiva, especially with the with
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  Hashem's name. But it's Kit Koff is binding on
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  some level, but only when it's mutual or done between the two
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  parties, not regarding a third party.
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  And so therefore, if I mean, that's the, I basically said the
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  example. So that's a Mahoka in the
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  Rishonium. How far do you take it?
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  I do want to just share 1 real quick, an interesting Shiloh
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  regarding ibum here I'll quote from the well, there's two quick
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  things I just wanted to quote. One is the Arakashoghan says if
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  you, a person makes a shivua straight out, not to make, not
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  to do ibum and not to do khalitza.
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  So certainly if you mention both make a shivua, I'm not going to
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  do enough. That should be again a shivua
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  against mashikasu Batara. Mushava Harsenai should not be
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  khal, although he does say it depends.
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  He says maybe it is khal if there's a brother involved
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  because you can always say that there's another one.
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  Any quotes from the Rivash that it seems like if you're the
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  oldest brother, it's not khal because what you're saying is
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  mamash asir in the tarah. But if you're the younger
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  brother it is khal because it first has to go through the
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  older brother Anyway, it's the khakira.
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  Not 100% clear. That's just an interesting
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  thought. And then here, this is
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  interesting that some of us are familiar.
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  Most of us are maybe not many, certainly in the past, but many
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  Svartik weddings when the they're in have this Herman
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  Derebeno Gershom, they get up at the Khopa and under the Khopa
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  the he makes or at least at some point at the Hassana, he makes a
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  Shiva to the father-in-law that he's not going to take another
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  husband, another wife, thank you, another wife on to the one
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  he's marrying right now. Your daughter, right?
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  So we learned this, this is a shua from this khatan to the
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  father-in-law regarding the third party.
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  So the question is so right, one's not allowed to no
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  question, right? However, what happens if to get
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  another wife he made a shua question is what happens if the
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  Hubom situation happens? Let's say his brother, he passes
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  away, has a wife, No, no children.
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  Is he allowed to do Yee boom? So there in your beer Omer it's
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  an Evaneser. He'll look a Zion where he
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  discusses it and he says he's allowed to do Yee boom because a
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  few reasons. Number one, it's Kias kaf.
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  Well, it's it's a Shiva with Kias kaf.
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  It's not a Shiva with Hashem's name, it's a he says you're
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  shaking hands, you're not going to take another one, That's
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  what's done. So the kids cough, you're not
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  going to take another wife. So first of all, it's less
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  binding than a real shavua and it's regarding a third person
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  and a person. When he makes this shavua, he's
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  not thinking about ebum. So he doesn't have in mind a
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  ebum situation for that. He never made the shavua.
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  These are all the different studies and puts together.
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  And he says 1 can also. Yeah, so that's that's really
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  what it is. And it's also done.
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  Oh, also one other side why it's more Mako is it's not even done
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  with. Well, similar to what we said,
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  normally the Ketkov is done with the, let's say the officiating
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  rabbi and the son and and the khatan not directly to the kala.
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  OK.