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We're NEVER Touching These Dr*gs Again! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Jampa Bay's Best music.
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  Speaker 2: Is nine and welcome to another episode of Scotty and
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  Speaker 2: Abbey Unfiltered. There's been so much that has happened in
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  Speaker 2: the past couple of days that we have a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of catching up to do.
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  Speaker 2: And one of the things that I wanted to bring
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  Speaker 2: up with you, Abby, is just a fascinating thought that
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  Speaker 2: I've experienced in the past couple of days, and it
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  Speaker 2: has to do with my relationship.
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  Speaker 1: You're getting married.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not getting married. Not getting married. There's no invitations
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  Speaker 2: being sent it out just yet. Okay, Well, one of
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  Speaker 2: the things I've never had to experience is like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and how often do you get like random dms from
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  Speaker 2: just random dudes that are just like weird and creepy.
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  Speaker 1: Not as many as one would hope. Are you open
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  Speaker 1: to get them? Right? I'm like, oh, I must lose
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  Speaker 1: my edge. Well, it's very.
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  Speaker 2: Fascinating because like, now that you know, my girlfriend and
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  Speaker 2: I are public and I get to go and see
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  Speaker 2: a lot of her posts that she's put up recently.
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  Speaker 2: I go and I look at the comments. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: who are these random men? Yeah that are going in
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  Speaker 2: there and just like her biggest fans ever.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's like a big TV news thing, like
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  Speaker 3: it's I'm not calling you it a fetish by any means,
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  Speaker 3: but I think when you watch a beautiful woman on
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  Speaker 3: your TV every single day, you start to get a
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  Speaker 3: parasocial relationship with them.
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  Speaker 2: I would say that's very accurate because she's She's definitely
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  Speaker 2: told me about it.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, you know, it's just you get.
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  Speaker 2: On the TV and then all of a sudden, you
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  Speaker 2: got these random men that would just they just feel
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  Speaker 2: like they know you because they see you every day.
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  Speaker 3: You have random men that love you and random women.
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  Speaker 1: That hate you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm seeing it in real time, like I'm seeing the
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  Speaker 2: posts that was just up, and I was like, it's
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  Speaker 2: actually very comical because these guys are like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: you look amazing. You are so beautiful, absolutely gorgeous, firefire, fire,
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  Speaker 2: hard eye heart.
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  Speaker 1: I I'm like, bro, I'm in like picture number four
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  Speaker 1: on the same post, like hey, my groover know hello.
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  Speaker 2: But it is kind of funny because I'm like, I've
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  Speaker 2: never experienced this before, and I think she's also having
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  Speaker 2: to experience it with me, because even I've put up
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  Speaker 2: posts before and I'll get some of them like.
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  Speaker 3: Also random men are like hey.
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  Speaker 2: Literally though, like my crew will be in the comments
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  Speaker 2: like they don't give one f It will be a
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  Speaker 2: picture of me and my girlfriend and it's like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: looking good, like you literally see I'm with the You
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  Speaker 2: know what, I guess that's fine.
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  Speaker 1: Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly what it means you went not scoring on this goal.
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  Speaker 2: But it's been fun, Abby. How is your weekend?
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  Speaker 1: It was good. Friday.
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  Speaker 3: I went out with one of our coworkers to the
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  Speaker 3: twenty three year old bar also known as lower Deck.
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  Speaker 1: Have you been a lower Deck?
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  Speaker 2: I've never been to lower Deck. I was well in
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  Speaker 2: my head, I was too old to go to lower Deck.
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  Speaker 2: But now I get to see it from your eyes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never been because I thought I was too
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  Speaker 3: old to go. But I went with one of our
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  Speaker 3: coworkers who is recently off of a breakup, and she's like, listen,
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  Speaker 3: I just want someone to go out with. So I
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  Speaker 3: with her another friend and I got to feel young again.
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  Speaker 3: We got to feel young and fresh again.
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  Speaker 1: To what is it like? Because the only times I
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  Speaker 1: go out, boy, what is it like?
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  Speaker 2: I mean young again? No, because any time I go out.
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  Speaker 2: It's usually for a work event. Yeah, to like those
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  Speaker 2: kind of younger bars, Like if I go out to Soho,
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  Speaker 2: it's because I'm working, Like I'm usually not going out
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  Speaker 2: to mcdiz.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's does have a drink.
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  Speaker 3: It's definitely the Soho crowd, although I have not been
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  Speaker 3: to Soho in a minute. I mean I've gone to mcgdnt's,
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  Speaker 3: but it's always at like four pm when we're working.
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  Speaker 2: It's not the nine pm crowd where it's just it's
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  Speaker 2: like the gremlins come out.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I feel like they look younger than I remember.
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  Speaker 3: He's getting older and crustier, and I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: have this little radar where I'm like.
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  Speaker 1: Beep beep, fake id beep beep, beep, beep beep.
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  Speaker 3: But I did come across one table of guys that
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I remember feeling kind of envious because
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  Speaker 3: I walk in and I'm like, oh, because I feel
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  Speaker 3: a little bit of sadness over losing my early twenties
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  Speaker 3: to the pandemic. So when I walked in and it's
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  Speaker 3: like all these people that are still kind of in
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  Speaker 3: the same phase of life because after twenty five, that's
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  Speaker 3: when everyone starts to break off with their people. They
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  Speaker 3: grow up, people move, whereas your early twenties are so
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  Speaker 3: kind of like college y, and I never got that
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  Speaker 3: because of the pandemic.
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  Speaker 1: And I saw this group.
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  Speaker 3: Of this table of guys, and I thought they must
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  Speaker 3: be like twenty four, twenty five or whatever. And I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: there's not bars for twenty nine year olds like that anymore,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Like you can go to
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  Speaker 3: bars where people are older, but people are either in
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  Speaker 3: relationships or married, or have kids or all these other
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  Speaker 3: things where I'm like, oh my god, there's just like
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  Speaker 3: a group of fifteen dudes and they're all hot, and
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  Speaker 3: they're all age appropriate for them, and they're all probably single.
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  Speaker 3: And it turns out that they were none of those things.
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  Speaker 3: They were my age at a bachelor party.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so at least one was taken. Yeah, But I
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  Speaker 1: think if I.
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  Speaker 2: Think back, you know, there's things that I wish I
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  Speaker 2: could go back and maybe do more of.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe not regrets, but like that age.
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  Speaker 2: It's like you said, I don't know if I missed
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  Speaker 2: out necessarily because of my early twenties, but I would
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  Speaker 2: go back and do things differently, Like when I got into.
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  Speaker 1: My early one, sloot it up more.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't necessarily say slut it up more, but definitely
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  Speaker 2: have more careless nights or like going out to a
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  Speaker 2: lower deck. I remember at that age, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I gotta be so career driven, I got to be
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  Speaker 2: so locked in with where I'm going that I wasn't
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  Speaker 2: at twenty three.
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  Speaker 1: I literally felt old at twenty three to.
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  Speaker 2: Go out to the mc ditton's or in that time
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  Speaker 2: lower deck of what it would have been. But looking
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  Speaker 2: at those groups now, you're like, man, just be crazy,
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  Speaker 2: just wound it up for like, just take a shy,
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  Speaker 2: you know, just go out and stay late. But you
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  Speaker 2: think it's like, oh no, I got to be this
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  Speaker 2: and that I got to have all this figured out,
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  Speaker 2: and maybe it all paid off, you know, maybe it's
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  Speaker 2: the right move. But when I do go out, that
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  Speaker 2: is the thing that I'm envislf, I'm like, that.
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  Speaker 1: Is a care free lifestyle.
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  Speaker 3: I kind of feel the same way, and I think
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  Speaker 3: I've just always been mentally thirty five, except for my
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  Speaker 3: sophomore year of college, I was mentally fifteen. Oh yeah, but
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  Speaker 3: I'm the same way where I remember my early twenties
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  Speaker 3: feeling like I'm good with just like a and this
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  Speaker 3: is a healthy mindset. I'm not even like really hating
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  Speaker 3: on this mindset, but I'm like, oh, I'm good with
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  Speaker 3: three white claws that I can go home, Whereas I'm
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  Speaker 3: looking at only twenty two year olds and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: just rage too cold, could do something crazy. And I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure there's an older version of me out there that's
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  Speaker 3: singing the same thing where it's like, shut up about
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  Speaker 3: wanting to get married, go do like a body shot
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  Speaker 3: of somebody you're twenty nine.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it's exactly if I could look back and learn
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  Speaker 2: from those lessons.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of the lessons I learned.
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  Speaker 2: Now of like wait a second, And I was just
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  Speaker 2: thinking about this as we were out and about and
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  Speaker 2: like Abby and I went out to this place on
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  Speaker 2: Saturday night from my girlfriend's birthday called the Sapphire and
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  Speaker 2: it's this very nice bar and we're out there late.
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  Speaker 2: And before we went out to that bar, the whole
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  Speaker 2: mindset that I went to it with was one day
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  Speaker 2: I will not want to be going out and staying
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  Speaker 2: out this line, or we'll not even have the ability
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  Speaker 2: to like I to stay out till midnight, Like there's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be other priorities, So right now, use this time
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  Speaker 2: to have those experiences.
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  Speaker 1: Not all the time, because I would literally die.
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  Speaker 2: I can't do it like I used to, but every
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  Speaker 2: now and then just to go have a night where
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  Speaker 2: it's like, holy shit, you really don't have the responsibilities
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  Speaker 2: that you might think you do.
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, and your friends don't have the responsibility so
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  Speaker 3: you think they do.
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  Speaker 2: Correct where it's like, not all of us are married
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  Speaker 2: with kids and have like, you know, a mortgage, like
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  Speaker 2: some of us just rent.
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  Speaker 1: An apartment and you gotta wake up for the job
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  Speaker 1: on Monday. Yeah. When you put it in that perspective,
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  Speaker 1: you're like, you know what.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go f around and find out and let's
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  Speaker 2: just see what turns out to be. Luckily, not too
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  Speaker 2: stupid like the college days, yeah, but just enough fun
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  Speaker 2: where it's like I'll look back on that memory very Fun'na.
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  Speaker 1: Be glad that I did that.
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  Speaker 3: I'm glad that I lived that specific year up to
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  Speaker 3: the fullest. I'm glad that I lived like a twenty
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  Speaker 3: nine year old when I was twenty nine?
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  Speaker 1: What do you want to do more of before you
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  Speaker 1: turn thirty? Then, since you feel like, oh we neat
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  Speaker 1: do miskade. Don't do drugs. I don't even really like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't like drugs. I said that the other day.
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  Speaker 2: We're going over the bridge and I was like, I
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  Speaker 2: don't because a friend texted me about my thirtieth birthday,
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  Speaker 2: literally like he said.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want me to bring the drugs? Drugs? And
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  Speaker 1: it's just like electrolytes. I was snorting pink Celtic Kami
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  Speaker 1: and salt.
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  Speaker 2: I literally thought to myself and I said to my girlfriend.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I think I don't want to do
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  Speaker 2: any of that stuff. I think I'm done with that
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  Speaker 2: as in, let me go ahead and clarify, like I'm
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  Speaker 2: not I've never really been into that scene. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: like none of it really even like attracts me anymore.
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  Speaker 1: I went to the isn't alcohol enough? You know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean?
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  Speaker 2: I think so it got a couple of drinks, you
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  Speaker 2: feel okay, But even like every now and then, I
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  Speaker 2: don't even know if I told like the little gummy
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  Speaker 2: story on the podcast yet about like the running gummies.
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  Speaker 1: Like they have these gummies.
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  Speaker 3: I think you did, Yeah, you were high while you're
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  Speaker 3: running it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's like that feeling like it reset for
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  Speaker 2: me where I was like, I don't actually crave that,
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  Speaker 2: I don't enjoy it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't either.
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  Speaker 3: And I learned this about myself when I was in Atlanta,
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  Speaker 3: because I had never done weed until I moved to Atlanta,
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  Speaker 3: or until I went to Chicago for the Tailor Swip concert.
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  Speaker 3: So I was like me naively thinking that'll be such
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  Speaker 3: a fun place to try weed for the first time.
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  Speaker 3: So I remember I went to Sunny and there's Sunnyside
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  Speaker 3: down the street.
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was like a specifical place of Chicago.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm going to Sunnyside in Chicago on River North.
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  Speaker 3: Like I walk in and I'm like so naively, like
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  Speaker 3: talking to the attendant, and it's so dystopian because it's
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  Speaker 3: this crisp white room and there's a police officer and
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  Speaker 3: like a line. It feels like one of those scenes
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  Speaker 3: where people check into heaven in movies. I mean, it's
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  Speaker 3: like pristine white and there's you know, a couple things
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  Speaker 3: on the wall. So I walk in and there's one
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  Speaker 3: attendant with an iPad and she's like, are you here
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  Speaker 3: for heaven?
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, is that where the weed will take me?
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  Speaker 1: And I just look at her, just very.
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  Speaker 3: Nervously, and I go, I've never done the weed before,
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  Speaker 3: and I just want to try, like a gummy, something
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  Speaker 3: really chill, somebody that's gonna help me have a fun
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  Speaker 3: time at the concert tonight. And she gave me these
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  Speaker 3: two point five milligram Sativa gun bank and they had
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  Speaker 3: a little bit of CBD in them. She's like, they
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  Speaker 3: are gonna call me down, but she's like, they'll make
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  Speaker 3: you happy but also calm.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay.
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  Speaker 3: So I took them, and I remember I had like
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  Speaker 3: four and I didn't feel a single thing, and so
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I must be immune to the weed.
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  Speaker 1: My god, so on the bird.
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  Speaker 3: So I told them this, and of course, you know,
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  Speaker 3: they all enjoy having a gummy, and they're like, this
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  Speaker 3: is a challenge.
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  Speaker 1: So they made me take one up. They didn't make me.
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  Speaker 3: They had me take one on air, which was horrifying
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  Speaker 3: in hindsight, horrifying just based off some of the entertainment
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  Speaker 3: stories I had to report on that day. I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: oh my god, if I slip up or stutter or
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  Speaker 3: say the wrong thing, or if I accidentally read that
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  Speaker 3: and I don't mean too, I'm like panicking and my
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  Speaker 3: mouth gets so dry when I take weed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was like the worst day of work ever.
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  Speaker 1: And then like a week later.
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  Speaker 3: They're like, let's do gummy Roulette and then I got
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  Speaker 3: the one and I'm like, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: I supposed to.
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  Speaker 3: Meet like Riley Green that night, and I was like,
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  Speaker 3: I cannot be because it makes me so nervous and
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  Speaker 3: so shaky and so paranoid. I cannot be like this.
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  Speaker 3: My mom is coming into down.
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  Speaker 1: No no weed for me, No weed for me. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I've noticed, though. It makes me so anxious.
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  Speaker 2: Or some people take it because it's like, oh it
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  Speaker 2: mellows me out, and you know, I just could chill
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  Speaker 2: with it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't get it. I wish it did.
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  Speaker 3: I would rather have one delicious little gummy snack then take.
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  Speaker 1: Four shots of tequila. Oh god, but respectfully, I just
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  Speaker 1: feel better after the four shots of tequila. I feel better.
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  Speaker 1: Are isn't that crazy?
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  Speaker 3: I feel better after the four shots of literal poison
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  Speaker 3: than I do for the woo woo gummy. Yeah, medicinal
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  Speaker 3: medicinal treat from heaven.
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  Speaker 2: And I know some people probably, well this is what
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  Speaker 2: a you know what I hopefully don't get in trouble
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  Speaker 2: for this. But like some people have told me, like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, when you go up and like you start
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  Speaker 2: doing like what is it like, Like let's say shrooms,
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  Speaker 2: okay for.
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  Speaker 1: Example, I've never done that. I do have no idea.
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  Speaker 3: I like micros before, and I didn't think anything of it.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, this was normal.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Well that's why people are like, it's such a
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  Speaker 2: different feeling.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna love it.
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  Speaker 2: Like I have friends that are like, dude, you got
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  Speaker 2: a trip, It's gonna be great. It's and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't even like really a gummy. They're like, it's
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  Speaker 2: not even close to the same. Yeah, it's such a
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  Speaker 2: different feeling, you're gonna love it.
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  Speaker 1: I think you'd really love it.
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  Speaker 2: And based off of like what I've experienced just with
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  Speaker 2: like a gummy, I'm like I'm good. Like I feel
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  Speaker 2: like with alcohol, I could have a drink and be
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  Speaker 2: like all right, I could catch myself on the rise up. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: where it's like once you take that, that's what you're
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  Speaker 2: on the ride.
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  Speaker 3: That's what sucks about it. So when I I took
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  Speaker 3: too much of a gummy, I had like a a
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  Speaker 3: a CBD drink maybe or a TAHD drink and then
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  Speaker 3: I had a gummy because it wasn't kicking in, and
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  Speaker 3: I knew that was the mistake, Like it wasn't kicking in.
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  Speaker 3: And then all of a sudden, I remember I was
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  Speaker 3: having Mexican food and I could just feel.
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  Speaker 1: It kick in.
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  Speaker 3: And it makes you feel like you were about to
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  Speaker 3: throw out from alcohol, like you know that feeling. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: but you won't throw up, like your body is nothing
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  Speaker 3: to throw up. So you're just sitting there and.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, I feel like crap, what do I do?
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  Speaker 1: This is that the Taylor Swift Show.
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  Speaker 3: No, this was at a This was at a place
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  Speaker 3: I cannot reveal, but I was surrounded by people who
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  Speaker 3: also partake, and they knew what to do in this situation,
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  Speaker 3: Thank god, because I don't know what would have happened myself.
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  Speaker 3: It was really scary. Actually, Yeah, so anyway, don't do drugs.
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  Speaker 1: There you go, and that's suff we do drugs.
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  Speaker 2: This whole podcast brought to you by Drug Free No. Yeah, like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: dare see, when we did.
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  Speaker 3: Red Ribbon Reek in high school, Red Red Women Week
• 11:45
  Speaker 3: in high school, I took that literally, I took that
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  Speaker 3: oath and I said, I'm never going to do that
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  Speaker 3: unless it sounds like a squeaky killing fun times.
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  Speaker 1: See, I did not.
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  Speaker 2: I listened to it in fifth grade and then it
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  Speaker 2: changed in later grades.
• 11:57
  Speaker 1: But I remember in like younger years, you.
• 11:59
  Speaker 3: Were like tripping acid in highth school.
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: Okay, you know, maybe not should have been acid, but
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: I did. And that explains a lot when you find
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: that out.
• 12:04
  Speaker 2: My god, the holes in my brain that that you
• 12:06
  Speaker 2: say you get probably, but I remember those times it
• 12:09
  Speaker 2: was like so much more fun. But I think it
• 12:10
  Speaker 2: was because of the care freeness of it. Like when
• 12:13
  Speaker 2: you're a teenager. There's literally like what am I stressing
• 12:16
  Speaker 2: about my toxic relationship that I was in? Yeah, like
• 12:18
  Speaker 2: I have no bills to pay.
• 12:19
  Speaker 3: Well, I was stressing about a lot in high school.
• 12:21
  Speaker 2: I guess the only literally the only stress I had
• 12:23
  Speaker 2: in high school was just a horrible relationship I was in.
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: And I say that not as like, oh she was.
• 12:27
  Speaker 2: Horrible, said we were horrible for each other? Y, yes,
• 12:29
  Speaker 2: that would been the only thing.
• 12:30
  Speaker 1: That's why I didn't date in high school.
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: That the fact that men didn't like me until like
• 12:34
  Speaker 3: twenty four.
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: But if I could go again, not regrets, but like,
• 12:37
  Speaker 2: if I could go back and you know, one day
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: when I have kids, they could do what they want
• 12:41
  Speaker 2: and they could test out a couple relationships, but I
• 12:43
  Speaker 2: would advise them.
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe don't get into the long ones.
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: Like you know, yeah, in high school, it's really just
• 12:49
  Speaker 3: not it's not worth it. Even in college, Like I mean,
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: I was just talking to our coworker who's just got
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: a out of a college relationship. I'm like, that's hard too,
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: Like you either have to really make the decision that
• 12:59
  Speaker 3: we're going to live our lives together postgrad, like when
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: you're seniors, you gotta like make that decision, or otherwise
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: you got to break up. And the same thing with
• 13:06
  Speaker 3: high school, like if you guys are going to different schools, you.
• 13:08
  Speaker 2: Gotta break up. Just call it because I did. I
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: literally did both or tried to keep well, we kind
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: of broke up and then got together again the first semester,
• 13:15
  Speaker 2: and I was like, what a stupid idea. Yeah, you
• 13:18
  Speaker 2: just like you're literally holding yourselves back from experiencing the
• 13:22
  Speaker 2: full greatness of what that next chapter of life could
• 13:24
  Speaker 2: look like.
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: And then same with college. I did the same thing.
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: I got in a college relationship and then afterwards tried
• 13:29
  Speaker 2: to make it work as we are distances away, and
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: you learned really quick that you're like, yoh, we should
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: just look at this and call it what it is like,
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: this is not going to work.
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: We are just going up against.
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: The highest grade of a hill and we both realize
• 13:42
  Speaker 2: that it's nah, this is not in our cards.
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: But at the time it's so hard to say that though,
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: because at the time.
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: You're like, no, we could do it, and you're like,
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: look in ninds that You're like, there were so many
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: signs that it wasn't gonna work.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: Could have saved ourselves an entire year. But no regrets,
• 13:54
  Speaker 1: no regrets, no.
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: Regrets, Everything's fine in that department. It gives you experience,
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: and that's what I've kind of learned is okay, those
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: experiences have helped me get to where I am now
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: and hopefully give me the perspective to continuously learn and
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: then advise and help along the journey.
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: Advise and help advise.
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: And what did you learn from your sixteen year old
• 14:12
  Speaker 3: relationship that if I was looking for advice, you would
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: you would what's the right word?
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: I literally can't put two words together today.
• 14:20
  Speaker 3: I don't know what the fugs. No, I slept great
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: last night. My nutrition has been on point.
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if I took acid
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: and there's holes in my brain.
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: But I literally cannot put your sentences together.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: I think I'm meaning dumber.
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: I think maybe the parasite that attacks your intestines is
• 14:34
  Speaker 3: attacking my brain.
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: Something was wrong.
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: I was telling Abby. I was like, I risked it all.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: I had taco bell and I risked it for the parasite.
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: I was like, we ordered it, and are you risking
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: anything though? What are you risking?
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: A snatched waistline. Oh, I don't want to be sick
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: for a week.
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: Could you imagine, like it's so great, the sympathy you
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: would get, Like around the office, I'm my god.
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: Scott got the parasite? Hashtag have to hashtag survivor they
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: come in.
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: I come into the studio a week later, there's like
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: flowers all around there, gifts like you.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: Did it in medium diapers.
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: That would be so bad. And it's honestly, you've had
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: food poisoning before.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it is the worst.
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: It's like the first time I got it. I remember
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: I was in college and that was an experience. I
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: will never forget.
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: Like we went.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: I took the fraternity out to watch the Super Bowl
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: at one of the little places that like, I rented out.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: A movie theater and you could order food at the
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: movie theater. Fun. It was so great. It was.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: It was not as nice as sin abstro It was
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: another one that was by the usf air Senta tavern.
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: I guess I was trying to be healthy at the time,
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: but I did have some salad and I had some
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: like beef salad or something, and it, like, my god.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: The whole night it was. It was like a horror movie. God.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: I climbed out of my bunk bed and I just
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: I literally slept on the bathroom floor in a fraternity house.
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: It's the worst.
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: You don't want to be laying on that floor, and
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: especially after I was done. Absolutely horrible.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: So for that parasite, if you've got it, you had
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: it and you got it, flown it. Yeah you better fallot.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: That's right over here, get yourself on a curve to
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: my house and enjoy yourself. So anyway back to the
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: no drugs, So with all that to be said, no drugs.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: Will be passed around on my thirtieth birthday? Drugs? No drugs?
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: Are you going to Key West on the catamaran?
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: Have you made that decision?
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: I've did put it on a down payment for it,
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: Like it's so far it's paid for. This is actually
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: this is where it gets a little awkward. I've put
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: it down on my credit card. That's obviously a big payment.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, it's a lot of money.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: It's say twenty six dollars, so a lot of money.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: And I put it all down. I'm in charge of
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: that now until people pay me for it. But when
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: do you put that ask in? Do I have to
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: set a date with my friends to say you need
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: to confirm by this time?
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: Well, when can you cancel? Like, when's the last date
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: you can cancel the catamaran?
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: September? So give me like a randomating September sty September twentieth.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: So if it's September twentieth, I would do it two
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: weeks before that, Okay, So you have a one day
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: to ask them and then everyone's gonna wait till last minute,
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: So then you have seven days around them and then
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: if it's a week before then just cancel it.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: See I think Okay, that sounds about right, because I
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: was going to say, like by September first, like you
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: should have an answer.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Like I started putting the ask out this.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Week and I was like, yeah, you talk to your partner,
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: you guys in and if you're in money money I
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: need the money because my credit card bill is high
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: because of this damn catamaran.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well, when's your credit card statement too? You
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: could just do that, do like a week before the
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: credit card statements due.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: That would make way too much sense. I need a
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: financial too logical. Too logical. Well, I mean you're talking
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: to an expert.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: I do this for not a living, but I'm I
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: have a side hustle running in girls trips.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I want to know, because I'm like,
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: wait a second. It's just an awkward ask of like,
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: oh my god, can't wait to see you. And oh,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: by the way, you guys are both gonna owe me, Like.
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: You know, I know, but you know it's annoying to them,
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: even though it's logically totally fine like pay me, but
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: like you also know what it's annoying.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, where I'm like, look, you might be in your
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: own financial thing and I'm asking you to do this
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: for me. But then on my side of it, I'm like,
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I literally found the cheapest thing.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: That we could do.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: It's a trip for all of us. Yeah, it's gonna
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: be super fun. And I need that money right now
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: so I can pay off my credit card bill. Thank you,
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: love you.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Love you mean it. I think that's reasonable right before
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: your credit card payment.
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, well I'm gonna make it even shorter than because
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: I want the payment by the end of August.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: So end of August is when your credit card's due. Yeah,
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: like they do it like three days before. Then just
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: be like, hey, my credit card statements, do are you
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: coming or not?
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Because so far it's just the ask like you guys,
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: you're in, and then they say yeah the next question,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: I went, well, then Venmo.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Venmo pay me up please.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: You can always just send a Venmo request and be like, hey,
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: can you send this to me by August twenty fifth
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: or what?
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Oh that's true. I should probably have the numbers kind.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: Of like, and then you can remind them and be
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: like ding ding me.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Like I need the money where you could zell like
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: an adult, I do so I sell my dad.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: I love Zell The only thing that stresses me out
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: about Zell is I hate that I have to log
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: into my banking app, Like I wish I could just
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: go to like a different app, Like I wish.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Zell had a Venmo app, Do you know what I mean?
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: Like, I love that with Venmo, I can just go
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: on to Venmo, whereas Zel I have to log in
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: and then like all my bank account statements up there
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: and like Abby saved four dollars.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: People don't need to know that. Then they're like, why
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: you Venmo with me? It makes me want to get
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: one of those screen privacy thing.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you have one of these, but
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: like where it turns your phone, it's crazy, turn it
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: sideways and it's whole thing's black.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: I want to get one of those two purely because
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: I was sitting next to one of our coworkers in
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: the sales meeting yesterday and normally Scotty and I stand
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: in the back and we just sit on our phones.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm here, this is enough. Yeah, you see
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: my face, you see my face. I'm here.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: I sat with one of our coworkers, so it's going
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: to the breakup, and I wanted to.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Go on my phone.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: I'm I can't get on my phone because they're all
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: just going to see them on Instagram.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, but you're allowed to be Well I guess
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: you're not because you decided to sit.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: But I know the weirdos behind me are going to
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: be like, oh what I be looking at? And it's
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: gonna be like Belmont Caamelli fan.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: At it's and they're like, which is Dan By? He's
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: a perb? I know.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah. The thing is Dan would Roastby though, Yeah, yeah,
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: Dam would say something.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: You know What's cool?
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, so we have this coworker Dan, Dan does like
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: all the events.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: He's a super chill guy. I didn't talk to Dan
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: for like that. I don't know.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: The first four years I worked here, didn't really know much,
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: didn't really talk to Dan really rude extremely on me.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I'll put that on my shoulders.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: I suck.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: However, once you start talking to Dan and I'm realizing
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: he sucks, No, let me again.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Actually, Dan's probably a big fan of this podcast, do
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: you think so? Probably? Also, you know who's also a
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: big fan of this podcast?
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: Were you there when our director of sales says his
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: girlfriend listens to this, Yes.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: Should we wave to her the insider of it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: It is fun though, when you learn like the people
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: that you work near actually listen.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: It is because I'm always shocked at who listens and
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: who doesn't listen, and also who's says they don't listen.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: But I know that they listen because they'll bring up things.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: I'm like, you would only know that if you listen
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: to the podcast.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, don't lie details.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: Don't be like going and listen to the podcast and
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: I'll listen usually like your friends, Yeah, like I know
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: that you listen.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: That's stupid.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: Well, that's I was talking, and I do want to
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: share a little bit of the details that went down
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: this weekend with the birthday celebrations.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: But I was talking to my girlfriend.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I was like, it was very refreshing when we first
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: met because you know, we didn't really know anything about
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: each other. But in the industries that we work, it's
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: so common that you go out and it's like, oh,
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: I already know everything about you, and I'm just waiting
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: to see like when I could reveal.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: That's how I felt in Atlanta. For sure, you go
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: out with somebody and you're like, you already listen.
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: Well, they would like I remember right after I went
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: to Ireland. It was the middle of summer and I
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: went out with a guy and he ordered a Guinness
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: and it was like ninety five degrees and I'm like,
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: it is a little weird, but I just clocked it
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: and didn't say anything, and then he just kept finding
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: excuses to bring up Ireland, and I'm like, Okay, now
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: it's a little obvious.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: So would that be the right move to just bring
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: it up immediately instead.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: Of like, well, I'd rather well, I mean, take it
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: from my perspective, like if I went out with the
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: guy and I just started being like, oh my god,
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: I went on your Instagram and I saw that you
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: went to Ireland with your aunt Kathy and your mom
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: and your dad.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: How was that.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: You'd be like a little weird at out right. It's
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: a little bit different since we do that, but I
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: think they would have to fess up immediately, be like,
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: Oh'm a big fan of your TikTok, I actually follow you.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: And then it's yeah, I guess you just you have
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: to bite the bullet. You can hide it.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: That's like when I've gone out with people and it's like, oh,
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: I already know this story about you, but I just
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: didn't want.
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: To say who did you go out with because you
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: were in a long term relationship for like four years.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean that last relationship, like listen to
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: the show pretty much.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Every day, A fan, Yeah, kind of, but I would
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: say she would say she was not a fan of me.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: She liked the show, and I came on the show, okay,
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: So then it was like, oh, well, I'm already kind
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: of part of it. And then that kind of led
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: to the start of like we should go out.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Did she bring up anything that you had set on
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: air while you guys were in the early stages of dating.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I honestly don't remember.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: I think it was one of those situations where it's like,
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: you know, but you don't bring up Yeah, It's like
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: you probably did because I shared everything. I shared the
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: breakups that I went through, the hardships of my family,
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: the graduating of like littlething, and so I guess anybody
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: that listens and people still remember those stories now and
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, I rather you, honestly just bring it
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: up this way. I don't have to wait till I
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: tell you something yeah, because then it's like, oh, wait,
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: you alreadyknew the whole time.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: You've got to skip the whole bunch of this, Like
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: that would have helped.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would rather than just be like, oh, I
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: see you on my Instagram all the time.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think they think it's.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: Weird yeah to bring up because then you kind of
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: feel like you're creeping on.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: But it's not because I'm like, if you don't see
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: me on your timeline, I'm not doing my job right.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: That's how I feel.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: If you like have no idea, not that I need
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: to date somebody who's seen my Instagram or my TikTok,
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: but if you have seen me organically on your four
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: you page, I'm like, oh, I'm doing something right.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: I wonder if it hurts now because it's so cool. Honestly,
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: kudos to you, Abby, because everyone I was talking to
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: over the weekend was like, oh my god, yeah I
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: know Abby, Like I've seen all over my feed with
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Bais on Bayshore.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: I'm like, are you talking to that saying that? Why
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: are they saying that to me? I don't.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Literally the whole bar that I was sitting with, everyone
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: that you saw me talking to, they.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: All I was like, oh yeah, that's my co host.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: And they're like, oh yeah, I see here all the
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: time on Instagram. Because I was talking to one of
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: the reporters for one of the actually they're both reporters
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: for new stations here, and I was like, as single.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: They're like, yeah, weird question to kind of bring up.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, brought it up because they're like, oh yeah, I
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: see it all the time on my feet.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: I'm like, that's so dope. I was literally like I
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: can get you all on.
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: No, literally, I mean and please by all means, like,
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: come on, because I am still uncomfortable approaching people like
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: on Base ORKCS.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: I don't want to ruin their workout.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: It's not that I'm afraid to approach them, because I'll
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: approach people if we're at a bar and be like,
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: oh my god, a you're single, Like.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: I have the show.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: I don't know if you know this, but I don't
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: want to like ruin someone's workout. So I'd rather than
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: just be like, oh yeah, I'd be interested in coming
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: on because then they can pre prepare, they can think
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: of stories, and it's overall just a better situation for everybody.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I think that's the better.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: I think that shows like and this is the behind
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: the scenes of it, Like it should be that, it
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: should be prepared, it should be somebody that's accepting. And
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: I don't think you should just be randomly approaching people
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: on base short.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, cause I think it would just I'd become like
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: one of those people that people make fun of. They'd
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: be like, oh, that cringey Tampa TikToker who's constantly like
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: ruining people's workouts, Like I just wanted to be like
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: a fun, fun little dating show.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: He yeah, or it looks like you're just grabbing people
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: off of Bay Shore. Yeah, but no, it doesn't need
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: to be like that because people wuldn't sign up.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: For it there.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: And then if you're not good and I don't know
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: who's really good at rejection, but like to just constantly
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: get rejected constantly, I would be probably twenty to one.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I do think one day.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: W'd be fun to challenge myself to like day drink
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: a little and then go out there and then just
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: because I think on like a Saturday afternoon, people would
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: be down. But if it's like a Tuesday night and
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: someone's like getting their run in, I don't want to
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: be like, hey.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: You wanna come ure. I have a little Instagram show.
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: But it's been fun and it is crazy that this
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: is the one thing out of all all the things
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: I put incredible hard work into.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: It's like the one thing I get noticed for. Yeah,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: where it's like this out of everything. I know you've
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: done multiple shows. You the BA Short Girl. Yeah, I
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: guess I am.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: But it just shows how much people have been craving
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: that I was talking to on the show that we
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: do for Fox thirteen Florida for Real. We talked to
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: these guys that started a dating show in Tampa and
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: it's literally kind of like your idea where they find
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: two singles and then they literally go to a restaurant
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: and film it like a dating show. I love that
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: they film their first encounters, they film the conversation, and
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: then they see if it's a match.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: I haven't seen these people. What do they call it?
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I don't remember.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Based off at the top is they're not very memorable.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: It's very news.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: See that would never happen on Base on beijhre Well
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: that people always call it baser bays, So I'm like,
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: do I just need to change it now?
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: I'm like it's base because they're or there. It's based
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: on beshore because they're bays on what do they call
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: it bare base, which is not not basehor bass, because
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: that's the ad, but it's that's because.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: It was short. That might be because yeah, if that's
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: the one that pops up.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: Quickly, yeah, I guess it's fine, that works whatever, but.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: You could probably get in time. If I find their name,
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I'll send it your way. But I think your stem
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: of a show has kind of kicked off theirs, but
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: they're turning it into like TV style where it's like
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: long form content instead of the sixty seconds on Instagram.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Now, the dating scene here is really bad. Did I
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: tell you?
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: Did I talk on the podcast already that I did,
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: Jocko's running podcast.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: No, you didn't talk about any anything that you guys
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: talked about. So last week I.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: Got interviewed by our friend Jocko. If you heard the
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: Italian Influencer episode Feel Like Cool, I remember him. He
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: asked me to come on his running podcast, so he
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: like films and runs with you and asks you questions
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: and I lied on one of my answers just for
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: the same of not wanting to get into a dissertation
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: because I've seen his show before, so I'm like, oh,
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: it needs to be quick concise, and I've got to
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: like land the plane quickly. He said, Oh, why do
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: you think dating and Tampa's so bad? And I genuinely
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: think dating and Tampa is objectively horrible compared to other
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: places that I've lived, Like Jacksonville wasn't great because there
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: wasn't a huge dating pool. Atlanta wasn't great because a
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: lot of the people get married at twenty four, But
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't say Atlanta was like horrible. Like the dates
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: that I did go on on in Atlanta were fine,
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: but the dates that I've gone on in Tampa.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Are like objectively really bad. Not all of them.
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: I've been on like one or two fine ones, but
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: like some of the ones that I've been on have
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: been really really bad, like really bad.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: It blows my mind.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: And I don't know if it's you say it's Tampa's
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: and I have no saying this because gosh, dang, I
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: found a goal.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I have fine, and it's not everyone in Allow,
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: scot No.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Life is just thank god.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: But I did see recently, like I have friends that
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: live in different parts of the country and like, I
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: have a friend that's in Texas right now, and I've
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: been following her sag of dating and it's literally like
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: the same of the guys she goes on dates on
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: are just it's not even like you, we're not a match.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: It's like genuinely horrible.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: It's like coming bad.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, it's like you're questioning every decision. You're judging me.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: For my past. Uh huh.
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Like in Atlanta it felt like, Okay, this guy's just
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: not my person, like totally fine, dude, just not working.
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: Where sometimes I'll go up with these guys in Tampa,
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: I'm like, what's wrong with you? What did I tell
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: the stake story on here?
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: I think I did. I went to steel Back and
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: he wanted to.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: Feed me steak, and I'm like, that's a crazy thing
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: to say to me. And if you don't believe me,
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: I've been preaching the fact that married at first sight
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: is like the perfect temperature check for what dating is
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: like right now. And I'm not saying those women are
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: perfect and there's nothing wrong with them, but I'm saying, like,
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: look at Niki, and you haven't seen the show, look
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: at NICKI versus Sean. The matchmakers paired her up with
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: a man.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: That man is gay. That man is gay, and.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: She's like a successful hr exactly makes like two hundred
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: fifty thousand dollars a year. She's fit, she's beautiful, she's successful,
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: and then they pair her up with a man who
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: I do not think likes women. Right.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I feel like, literally, I have to watch the show
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: just to see what you're talking about.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: You need to watch it.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: There's another guy who's just obsessed with himself. He got
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: mad at his wife, who didn't know him at the time.
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: They give them gifts before the wedding, and she gifted
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: him like a fireball shot and he goes, well, I
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: don't drink and just complained about that. I'm like, she
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: doesn't know you, bro literally, and she made a joke
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: about wanting to make mac and cheese with him, and
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: he goes, wo, that's carcinogens and that's gonna give you cancer.
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: And meanwhile it's this objectively beautiful, again, employed woman, fit.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: He even finds her attractive, and he's he's like, I'll
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: train her, I'll train her to be an athlete.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: It's just crazy.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: That's insane to me because that's the thing that I
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: see constantly, and that's I don't know, maybe it's getting
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: out of the Tampa scene and then going to like,
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: I don't know, a Wesley Chapel scene.
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: But I mean, to be fair, the show is taking
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: place in Seattle right now, so it might not just
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: be Tampa.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: It might just be dudes.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: And more women are choosing to be single because we're like,
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: why would I date somebody who doesn't make.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: My life better? Absolutely, which is.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: So annoying because it's like we're not supposed to be alone.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: You're supposed to find companionship.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: Do you think it's always been like this though? And
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: now it's just amplified because we see it all the time,
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: kind of like with everything, Like we had a call
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: the other day, like you know, crime has always been there,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: but now we see it all the time because it's
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: on Instagram.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: And I said, sir, I agree.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I do think we see things way
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: more than we ever have, so it makes it feel
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: like it's always happening. But I do wonder like if
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: we went back to like our grandparents' age, and are
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: they going on dates with just like horrible guys?
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: But was the dating pool so small that eventually you're
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: just like shit.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: I gotta pick old John because John's not that bad
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: compared to like Jerry that I went out.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: With last week. I did just see this on Instagram.
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: Somebody just wrote an essay on have people been settling
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: up until now?
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: That's a good essay.
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: Let me pull it up because I did like it
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: on Instagram. But I do have a theory, and I
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: don't think there's just one answer for it. I think
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: if there was one answer for it, we could just
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: figure out a solution and then move forward. Of course,
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: I think it's way more convoluted, but let me see,
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: let me pull it up.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Gosh, Okay, maybe gen Z isn't bad at love.
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: Maybe everyone before us just settled. We were raised to
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: believe in soulmates, but we we're taught by modern dating
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: not to settle.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: New York Times best selling.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: Author, philosopher and social critic Bell Hooks explores the notion
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: of love in her two thousand and one book All
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: about Love, New Visions, as she states that love saves
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: us only if we want.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: To be saved.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: But blah blah blah blah, we have unrealistic expectations. Members
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: of gen Z cite the male loneliness epidemic, the rise
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: of far right politics, and increasing educational and career achievements
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: among women as some of the reasons behind the so
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: called love crisis. Nearly every gen X and boomer marriage
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: I have witness hasn't strictly followed the traditional image of
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: love often portrayed in films and media, With trends such
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: as I Hate my Boyfriend and swag get couple taking
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: over social media, some members of gen Z appear to
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: hold negative views towards their partners despite being in committed relationships.
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: People are no longer willing to settle, instead searching for
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: someone who truly aligns with their experiences.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: In world view.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: I don't know if any of that made sense, but
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: it's by at Row magazine if you want to.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Look it up.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: I definitely want to check it out, because I do
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: think that's a big part of it where you shouldn't settle.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: If there's something that you're going after, you should go
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: and try to find it, because if I could look
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: and be honest, I have so many people I'm not
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: even gonna say friends, I'll just say acquaintances that if
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: you go on your feed, you kind of wonder yourself
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: either are you settling or you have friends now, like
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: about to be thirty, I've already have a half of
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: my friends that have been divorced. And I'm like, my god,
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: did you just get so excited or infatuated by the
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: idea of being married that you just thought, this is
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: what I'm supposed to do.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Let's just go ahead and do it.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: That was shocking to me when I realized some people
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: are just choosing people.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Yes, we're like, oh, this is good enough, and that
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: for me, that phrase this is just good enough, that's
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: the phrase that scares the shit out of me, like
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: literally with everything with like career relationships, friendships.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: That I don't know. For me, my personal belief is
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like, we got one life. That's how I feel.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: When people are like, why are you single, I'm like
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: why I don't want to just like pick some dude.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: And like you should.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I don't know why it's so hard to be wooed,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: like be wooed, have the person that goes above and beyond,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: do the extra steps.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: So my theories to why dating is hard now is twofold.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: The first is that I don't think men were taught
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: the artic courtship because it wasn't a requirement. Like I
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: think sixty years ago, you knew, okay, I'm at some
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: point going to be societally accepted, at some point, get
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: married and have kids. So I feel like the parents
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: were teaching them the art of courtship, ask a girl
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: to go on a date, to a dance or take
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: her to movies, whereas they are generation of men were
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: raised by women who didn't have to court, or who
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: weren't raised in an environment where courtship was necessary. Like
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: my mom was the first generation of women that grew
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: up knowing that they could get a credit card and
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: start a.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: Business or get alone.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: And so those same women that were raising my mom
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: or raising sons who are growing up with the mindset that, yeah,
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: women can be independent. So there wasn't like a need
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: to get into some kind of relationship. And so because
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: no one's being taught how to date, you have this
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: whole generation of men who don't feel the need to
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: start courting women, and instead a lot of their first
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: romantic situations are usually in college or postgrad in high school,
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: where a lot of people aren't willing to put themselves
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: out there romantically because I don't think the risk necessarily
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: matches the reward, because like, what am I gonna do
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: get married at twenty one?
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: So it's just this hookup culture.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: So men are being taught that, you know, they should
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: just start hooking up with girls and those are their
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: first romantic liaisons, and women are finding that if they
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: want romantic attention, you've got to go into a casual
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: relationship first.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: And so we kind of fucked up there.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: And then also then I think people are just kind
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: of like, well, let me just like choose someone, like
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: I've been hooking up with this person for two years.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: Why not? Yeah, like we seem compatible enough.
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: And then you also have a generation of women who
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: maybe weren't willing to settle for that are incredibly financially
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: independent and realize, okay, well I've been sold this idea
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: that if I just wait long enough for the right person,
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: they're gonna come along, and so I'm just going to
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: continue to financially support myself until then.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: This is so hard.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: Does that make any sense?
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Yes, it does.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: I think one guy's being you know, not being taught
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: how to properly like, yeah, let's just say I'm gonna
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: say woo again.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Like like did your dad over? Did your dad or
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: your mom teach you how to date?
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: They didn't teach me how to date, but they did
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: teach me proper manners. Like I learned a lot watching them.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: And I also again like my mom gave me great
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: lessons on how to properly respect someone. That was something
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: I just took anywhere I went. And then I also,
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: like just I realized in my later twenties even like recently,
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: because no one taught me how to date or how
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: relationships would function. I literally just look back at my
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: previous history and I was like, where did I mess up?
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Like what happened here? Why did these fights happen?
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: And that's literally like the past couple year, I've just
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: been studying relationships. Yeah, because I just nobody teaches you.
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: But when you were in high school, did your dad
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: ever look at you and say, well, there's a dance
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: coming up.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Who you're gonna ask? Correct? Yes, that's what I'm asking?
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like okay, I would be taught like how to
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: ask out a girl. You should go above and beyond
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: for it, get the little presage for it.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: You dress up nicely and show up at the door.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: And I've even said it before, like I had the
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: dad that opened the door with a shotgun in his
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: hand multiple times, where it's like, you're won't respect my
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: daughter and you're gonna have her home boy ten And
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: I said, yes, sir, I will uh huh. And I
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: was taught the proper ways of respect, I think because
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: of those parents that stepped in. Yeah, but that wasn't
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: like a lesson.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: It was just like little bits and pieces that I
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: just started adding together.
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I'm just trying to figure out the
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: difference between you who started dating in high school, like
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: you had girlfriends in high school. I did, And I
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  Speaker 3: think there's a big chunk of just sort of the
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: average in between her dude who And I'm thinking about
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: like people like my brother. And my brother's perfectly successful
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  Speaker 3: and fine and eventually got married. But I don't think
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: he ever asked out a girl in high school. And
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  Speaker 3: I don't think it was ever made to be like
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: a requirement like, oh, there's a dance coming up, you
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: should ask out a girl, And so you're just kind
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: of copying out of that until you get to college,
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: when the stakes are a little bit lower, when you
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: can just kind of like make out with a girl
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: and then maybe you just make out long enough that
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: one day she becomes a girlfriend.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: That's such an interesting thought because I don't even know
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: why it started for me.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: I think, is you all grew It's like, how small
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: was your town? I mean it wasn't.
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  Speaker 3: My graduating class is maybe five hundred kids, Okay, so
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: a high school of two thousand kids.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: Okay, like ours was the same.
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: Like I'm not saying I lived in a small small town,
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: but it was definitely maybe because the families were so
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: rooted and it was a little because you also was
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: still Southern leaning. Yeah, I'm trying to compare it because
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: I had my first ever girlfriend was like literally in
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: elementary school, like fifth grade.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I had a straight up quote unquote girlfriend. It's crazy crazy.
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  Speaker 2: And then through middle school you have a couple of
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: different little like girlfriends. I would last like I don't know,
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: a month, three months.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that happened in my middle school. Like they
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: would you know, there was a girlfriend boyfriend. They would
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: last like two months and then they break up. Yeah,
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Like there was that happening for sure. And I'm not
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: even saying that people didn't do that at my high school.
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: I think I represent the literal average of like the
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: typical experience of growing up and a sh medium sized
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: city with the sort of average.
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: Gen Z gen Z millennial.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: And I remember like it wasn't cool to ask people
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: out to dances, like that didn't really happen until Mabe,
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: you were a junior or senior in high school.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: That's okay, because that's what I remember, Like I would
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: get the whole sign. I would do the things the
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: flowers in the hallway.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you would only Typically the people that were
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: asking people out were either like the band kids because
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: they were already fucking er.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: It was like the popular kids.
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: So if you weren't one of the popular kids, if
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: you were just an in between or just kind of
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: like a normal, run of the mill person, those guys
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: weren't asking Now people like me who were just also
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: in between. So you have this generation of like average
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: normal guys who are probably going to grow up and
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: be normally successful, and they've all these women who are
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: growing up with this idea that they aren't romantically compatible
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: because no one showed them attention until college. And then
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: you realize the only romantic attention I'm getting is if
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: I put out or do something that maybe I wouldn't
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: do until like date three or whatever.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy to think because that only the pendulum
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: will swing back. It will have to like that literally
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: how history has to go. I think so, But it's
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: very tough if guys are going in it and thinking
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: this is going to be an interesting statement. But like
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: how stakes are just equal, Like you need to woo
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: me as much as I'm gonna woo you.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like women I don't think are willing to just
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: be like, Okay, we I'm going to date this guy
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: because you don't have to.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I don't have to date somebody if I don't want to.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: I have my own businesses, I support myself financially, I
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: can travel, I have friendships that are meaningful. I want somebody.
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: I don't think you're supposed to be alone. Like I
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: reject the idea that I'm going to be single for
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: the rest of my life correct, because I think at
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: some point I will settle. I love being an independent woman,
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: being financially independent.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: I love getting to do.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: Whatever I want my life, Like this is such an
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: incredible thing. But now dating isn't a mandatory skill that
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: people are taught. And we have so many areas where
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: people can cop out, like dating apps too. So again,
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: like you, like I said, you have this entire generation
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: of guys who are like just leaning straight in hookup culture,
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: and then they leave hookup culture and go straight in
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: dating app culture to where they don't have any incentive
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: to see a girl at a bar and go hot,
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: let me ask her out?
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let me just go start a conversation with it.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: It's so crazy because if guys hear that and they
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: could just realize, like you want to stand out, one
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: just don't be a shitty guy, but two literally just
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: be brave enough to go and have the ask.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Just go talk to a.
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: Girl like it doesn't have to be like, hey, you
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: think you're pretty, gonna go sc youme out? Just like
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: go see a girl at a bar and be like,
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: oh my god, are you drinking? Yeah, that looks really good.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: Have a conversation like you would with anybody. But that
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: does spill over into friendships too. Yeah, it's not just
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: the relationship side of things, it's also people are struggling
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: to create those spaces for friendships to bloom of saying
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: hello to someone new, going out to a new organization,
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: testing out something where because we didn't have to necessarily
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: do it growing up, that skill wasn't developed. Yeah, I'm like,
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: that's literally when I went into college, one of the
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: thoughts I had is, man, this is just so scott
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: of me. But I was like, every time I get
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: in an elevator, I'm gonna start a conversation.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: First side, don't do that. I'm promoting that on this podcast.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: I wanted to just challenge myself to say, you know what,
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: why are these situations always awkward? I'm going to push
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: the limits and see how I can make them not awkward. Yeah,
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: and just show myself that those little conversations are not
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: as scary as your mind tries to make them out
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: to be. They're going to turn against you, they're going
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: to reject you, they're going to think you're weird and
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: all these things, and maybe some will, yeah, but for
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: the most part, if you just go based off of history,
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: a lot of them have worked out in your favor.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: Friendships have formed, relationships have started, but it always took
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: that little bit of like, ooh, I feel awkward, I'm
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: gonna try, though, and I just wish more people would
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: take that chance.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying even I was perfectly at I'm not.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: I'd still battle every single day to say, all right,
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: go be the guy, start the conversation.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: And it's hard, but damn it.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: If you want a relationship, that's exactly what you have
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: to do well. And this is not the relationship of
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: conversation to go into what I did over the weekend
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: because it goes completely against that conversation.
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: Well, moral of the story. Put yourself out there, women,
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: don't settle he paying your.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: Bills and watch that show and watch Marda first sight.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: So excited to talk about it. Okay, I'll watch Its
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: very entertaining. Thanks for listening to the podcast. We'll be
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: back tomorrow