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S-02, Ep-26 - Bulls in making vs Bulls who are faking · The Bull Brotherhood

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It's kind of cool when some of the dope dudes
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are late and flake on you. They're going to get
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mad at me. I'm going to get messages. They're
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going to be angry at what I'm saying. I'm telling
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you the truth. It kind of makes them wet. The
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cool ones, the six, four guys, the popular ones,
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the ones that got flair, some influence, all
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of that. The cool guys, the guys that sling,
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the guys that are really popular in everything.
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And that's just not just our communities. But
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I'm telling you, in kink worlds, in poly worlds,
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I'm telling you, it's cool to show up late. It's
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cool to flake. It makes them mad. Then they get
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excited when you hit them back. And then you
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don't. I'm telling you. But in the beginning,
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show up on time. And when you do, do two things
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at once. Every move should be. I feel safe and
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to all the bulls, hot wives, stags, and open
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-minded explorers, we see you. Let's go. Welcome
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to another episode of the Bull Brotherhood. I
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am one third of your podcast team, Siren, and
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I'm here with my husband, Socrates, and we're
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giving Brian Morgan the evening off tonight.
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And talking about a topic that can be expanded
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upon in many different areas of our lives. So
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we're bringing it into the lifestyle. And that
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is something that I've often heard referred to
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as be, do, have. And we are bringing it to you
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tonight in the essence of bulls in the making
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or bulls who are faking. Socrates, how you doing,
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babe? What's good, mommy? I'm good. I've had
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a great week this week and, you know, Brian wanted
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to have a little time off tonight and I'm happy
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to be here with you. And I always love it when
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we get to podcast together. I always feel closer
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to you. I always feel refreshed mentally and
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physically and emotionally. And so I'm excited
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to dive into this topic. So take it away. Yeah.
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Yeah. So, you know, those are no us personally.
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We are kind of like, you know, I would say. self
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-improvement, self -help, you know, improvement
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junkies, and hopefully in a positive way, we
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think so. And the be, do, have thing is a really
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foundational thing for us. So, for example, in
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this lifestyle, I was taught the be, do, have
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thing a long time ago. It just means if you're
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going about in life and you want to accomplish
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something, first think about it. You know, is
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this something really worth all the hard work
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you're going to have to put into it? How much
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work are you going to put into it? You know,
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and whatever goal you want to have in life, whether
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it is how many play dates you want to have a
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year or how many new people you want to meet
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in the lifestyle or your financial goals or,
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you know, meeting the love of your life or your
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weight goals, whatever it is, you know, you.
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You get clear on those things. And what we recommend
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in the life that we live is instead of saying,
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well, you know, I want to be a CEO. So I'm going
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to start a business and I'm going to have an
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LLC and I'm going to have some accounts. And
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then once I have some accounts, this is what
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I'm going to do. And this is what I'm going to
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do. And then I'll be a boss. I'll be a CEO. I'll
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be an entrepreneur, whatever. And for us, it's
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like, no, it's I want to be an executive. I want
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to be a boss. I want to be an entrepreneur. I
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want to be a business owner. Who is that person?
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Oh, they're disciplined because you cannot wait
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for anybody to tell you to get up. Who are they
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and what qualities do they embody? Exactly. So
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you've got to really figure out, you know, looking
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at other people. So to bring it to the lifestyle,
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it's like, who's an experienced bull that you
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admire? I know when Socrates was first getting
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started, he had different mentors and different
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people that he looked up to and looked up to
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what qualities. And then as he began to expand
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his own bull journey, okay, what does this bull
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have? What does this bull have? And then began
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to study who exactly that would be to get what
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he wanted. It's in essence, you know, you have
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to be that person in order to get into and then
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do certain things. And then you will have it's
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not have to be or, you know, whatever, like he
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was talking about, you know, you don't get the
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business and then become a boss. You'll be in
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a world of trouble. So you have to really study
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other people that have gone before you. And that's
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what the Bull Brotherhood is all about. That's
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what the education. For me, it's no secret when
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I first was in the lifestyle, I kind of just
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ran naked and wild at first. Socrates gave me
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my framework, but face it, I was just out there
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wilding for a little while. And so as the years
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have gone on and the events have gone on, I've
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learned, okay, what is it that I really want
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in the lifestyle? Who do I need to be to get
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those things? And what do I need to do? So I'm
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currently just like in a whole working process
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progress to be to have. So what are some things
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that you'd recommend, babe, for those like what's
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the first step? They're kind of just like, well,
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I I see all these, you know, experiences I want
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to have for bulls. It's like I see all these
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beautiful ladies and hot wives that other men
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are getting. How do they go about that? You know,
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it's more than just flirting. Who do they need
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to become? How do you start? Well, first I want
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to make a distinction between the two. This might
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not be the title of it that you see on the podcast,
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but what got me thinking about this is that I
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was kind of dealing with or hearing about the
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details I forget, but there was a situation where
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there was a bull that I really respect in this
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person. is I think an upstanding person and he
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was making mistakes and it was at the stage where
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he was admitting he made the mistake and he needs
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to make some adjustments and I was like man this
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dude is you know he's a good guy not because
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he's perfect he's a good guy because he acknowledges
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we all have our dark sides we all have our challenges
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we all have our weaknesses we all have the things
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that we need to face no matter how dope you think
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you are no matter how much you're reading your
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own press right so and then i saw a guy who i
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think is faking it and uh look we we don't know
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people 100 okay let's let's put that caveat right
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yeah like you may see like people you know people
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saw siren wilding out and acting one way You
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know, and then you get a reputation for something.
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You see a bull act one way at a party. You know,
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I even had someone say to me, like, I just didn't
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know you were just kind of cold or whatever.
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Well, we might see somebody and not know they
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had a bad day. You know, we have the resting
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bitch face, other things. So we perceive them
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one way. when they may be working on something
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completely different and you may see them a year
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later and they're a completely different person,
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just depending on, you know, how they handle
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that. So we speak boldly here, but you know,
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let me throw these caveats out as much as possible
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that I'm not trying to judge the motherfucker.
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Like for real, it's like, you know, it's not
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that deep. I love this community, but it ain't
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that deep. You know, and it's a worldwide community,
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but. My point is, when you see certain people
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and you feel like they're fake or you authentically
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know you're being fake, the distinction I want
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to make really clear, and then we're going to
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talk about it, the distinction is authenticity.
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Right. Some people lie. Some people don't. Lying
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is different than being inauthentic. Some people
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slick because they grew up slick. Like, I know
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people like... and i tell you one of my brothers
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i was seeing him born slick and i don't i didn't
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think that was possible but he's slick but he's
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slick when he's honest and loving and caring
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he has your back and he's slick when he's slick
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does that make sense like sometimes he's intentionally
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being slick yeah right he's leaning into his
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natural you know but you can be slick and still
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be authentic and real and genuine but be you
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know you gotta kind of Have that banter with
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him, understand what he's really saying, get
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to know him. He's being slick, but he's really
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being authentic and genuine. Well, and that's
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just like getting to know the heart of someone.
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It's, you know, I'm a very sarcastic person.
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So there's a lot of times, too, that I have told
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people in my life, like, hey, if I'm coming across
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a way that bothers you or offends you, remember
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my heart. This is my heart. And ask me, hey,
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what did you mean by that? So that authenticity
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can't always come through in how we speak. So
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it's knowing the heart of somebody, you know,
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and asking them questions about who they are
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and what they meant. And I think that you can
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see over time, you know, people developing if
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you actually care to get to know them. Yeah.
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Yeah. So I just wanted to make that distinction.
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So kind of you were talking about how does one.
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So rephrase the question so I so I can really
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go back to what you were saying. Well, so if
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somebody is on this journey to like be the bull,
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so say they see the things out there, you know,
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they see successful bulls like you and Mr. Morgan,
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maybe Mr. Mocha or, you know, any of the squad.
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And they're like, man, I want to have the ladies
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like they do. You know, I want to have the attention
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of these women. I want to have these experiences.
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How do they start? Oh, with B. Okay. So we're
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going to split it up. Because half's at the end,
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right? Okay, perfect. So we're going to split
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that up. Okay. First B, then do, then half. And
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then, but each one, we're going to do how to
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be a bull in the making and how to be bull that
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be faking. How to recognize. How to recognize
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that. So I'll talk about myself most of this.
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So for me, I grew up with a very varied and intensely
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varied upbringing from culture to race to a socioeconomic
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background, everything. Most of my life, I grew
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up thinking I needed one to shine more than the
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other. That's fake in it. So for example. When
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you start getting into this lifestyle, and let's
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say you're a decent -looking guy with a decent
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-sized dick, and you're chocolate, and you're
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strong, and you just happen to go to the gym,
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whoop -de -whoop -de -whoop -de -wah, and you
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consider yourself humble, and you start getting
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a lot of attention, and you start noticing, well,
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I get more attention because X, Y, and Z of my
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character, of my personality, of what I really
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do. But that's... not the most important or significant
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part of who I am. You start getting pulled in
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the direction of, well, why don't I just lower
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that part of me and highlight the other part?
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Next thing you know, you're in fake land. Yeah.
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You know what I mean? I'll give you a perfect
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example. I'm part Boricua. You know what I'm
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saying? Puerto Rican, a little bit, but I'm proud
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of it. I'm dancing, talking, speaking, eating,
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blah, blah, blah. All of it. I love it. All the
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good and the bad. Right? But I'm black. Understand?
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I said this before on the podcast. I am not saying
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this is a direct connection. And I'm not begging
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for attention. I'm just saying this is going
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on in my head. It's like I was like, I don't
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know. I can't get a Latina. And if they're Puerto
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Rican, I'm batting zero. Like I strike out every
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time. And I was like, I was wondering. I said,
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I wonder if it's because they're at a BBC party
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pretty much. They're at a black men convention.
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They're here to see black men. And my theory
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was, I'm not saying this is true. My theory was,
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you know what? I wouldn't blame them if they're
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like, that's cool. I got that at home. Like,
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oh, you know, that's, you know, that's, you know.
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that's Nieto back at, you know, in the house.
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And I'm like, I was, if that's the theory, then
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I'm feeling that. That makes sense. I'm not tripping
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on that. And I shared this with a guy, two guys.
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One was like, oh, that makes sense. Yeah. And
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the other one was like, yeah, that's exactly
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what it is. So quiet that Puerto Rican shit up
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right away. Now that's my boy. I ain't mad at
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him, but I don't know if I told him or if I didn't,
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but I'm like, oh, you must not have never met.
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There's jokes out there. Yeah, there's no shutting
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that part down. Like, my best girlfriend, you
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know, that was in our wedding, you know, is Puerto
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Rican and Mexican. And you barely hear about
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the Mexican part. Like, she is a proud Puerto
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Rican woman. And I will, I mean, that's probably
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one of the first things I knew about her. You
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know, she's like, I'm Puerto Rican. So there's
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no quieting that part of you. And her lifestyle.
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She's not the typical one. So I love that too.
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You know, she looks like a, you know, she looks
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like a, I don't know, I don't want to describe
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her too much, but she's great about that. That's
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what shines about her. My point is, I might be
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losing opportunities with very beautiful Latin
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women and specifically, maybe, maybe not. There's
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not a call for that. Right. You know, I have
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no problem with that, you know. My issue was,
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in my head, I was like, maybe I was losing opportunities.
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And what I said is, if that's so, fuck it. Who
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cares? Yeah, you want to be authentically you.
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Right. And there's wins and losses in every column
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of life. Right. The way you fake it is be like,
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yeah, I will. Because it's easy. I don't mention
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it to everybody that I meet. Right? I'm not hot,
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LeBron. I'm mostly black, but I'm a little bit
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of Puerto Rican. I don't do that. Right. It comes
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up. I'm like, I could easily have turned it off.
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Or my nerdiness. I know I talk too much. I know
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I be like, I know I'm the nigga. Look, y 'all.
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I'm the nigga when y 'all telling jokes. I'm
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like, well, technically you're like, yeah. And
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you're like, shut up. It's just supposed to be
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funny. Like, like I'll literally look at you
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and be like, I'm just being funny. Cause you're
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like analytically, it reminds me a lot of one
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of my sisters, but, or in the same essence as
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me as a woman, it's like, I'm a very, you know,
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blunt, outgoing woman. And they don't call me
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siren for nothing. And so, you know, sometimes
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I'm like, we're recording with her tits out by
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the way. and this is just normal i have to concentrate
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and stare at those things well i forgot that's
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normal siren i forgot to put on like usually
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i try to put on like a sexy little outfit but
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you know ladies i'm on you know my lady days
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i don't feel quite 100 but i'm like well i want
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to feel sexy while i podcast so i just bring
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the titties out so but there's parts of me you
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know that maybe i'm missing out on certain guys
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because of my personality and how big it is but
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I want to make sure that I'm being authentically
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me and people are loving me for me. But within
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that, there's ways that I can form and create
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that authenticity and hone it and kind of like
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using sandpaper on a block of wood, right? You're
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not changing the block of wood from being a block
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of wood, but you are creating it into something
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more useful, more beautiful. So I think there's,
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you know, different things about both of us that,
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you know, we can work on, but while still being
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authentic. Right. Yeah. Authentic. Yeah. My point
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was, like, I know I push away certain women that
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are like, I want the sultry guy that talks like
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Mr. Morgan and, yeah, so baby. You know, let
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me tell you what I did. And I'm like, no, you're
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going to hear some nerdy fucking. I grow some
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women out because I'm like, you know, anthropologically,
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you know, we're not we're non monogamous. Right.
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Would you like me to tell you about my. And then
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their pussy just like dries up. Right. Listen.
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So I'm going to share. I'm sharing my story,
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guys. I'm being real. I faked it for a while
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because. I tried and tried to fake it with women
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because I knew my nerdy ass, stupid facts about
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life and factoids and nerdy bullshit. And one
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man I'm talking about used to be a gang member.
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The next man I'm talking about scientific facts.
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I knew that pushed a lot of women away. So I
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would fake it. But guess what? When I. Finally
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found the courage to just mold it all together
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and just be all of who I am. All of a sudden,
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people start coming out of the woodworks of,
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oh, I recognize that. Yeah, I grew up in the
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hood and was a nerd in school. I grew up with
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a really religious dad and now I'm just like
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a naughty, crazy, nasty freak. Or, you know,
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I grew up black, but feeling like the white chief
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of the family or, you know what I mean? Like,
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yeah. And those people are starting to pop up
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in my life. Yeah. The authenticity makes you
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more relatable to real people. So it's like,
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OK, well, not every woman that's out there is
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like, oh, you know, and there's nothing wrong
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with that. But not every woman is like that.
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So by me being me, I encourage people to be more
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of their authentic self. Just like you being
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you, your nerdy awesomeness attracts and helps
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other people to come into their authenticity.
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And I encourage women to reject me. I encourage
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women to say, I heard you on a podcast and I
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don't like that mess. Or, you know, I think you're
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stupid. Whatever you think. Because what I've
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learned is like once you're just authentically
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that way. there's a tribe there. Now, I'm not
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going to lie to you. Everything being requires
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courage. Faking requires sometimes it makes sense
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to fake things because your life is in danger
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or it has to do with your money. That's between
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you and God. My point is you don't have to fake
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it in the lifestyle. People are going to because
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of insecurities, because we don't know ourselves,
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but you don't have to. That's the great thing
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about it. In the monogamous world, there's a
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pressure to kind of mold into what you need to
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look like and be and act in order to have a happy
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monogamous life. But in lifestyle, and I'm saying
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if you take all the three umbrellas, you take
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kink and the side of the pool we swim in a little
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bit the most is still swinging in, but then there's
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poly. We're involved in all three, but all of
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those. That's where there's no judgment. There's
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not supposed to be. And at least you can philosophically
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defend yourself if people judge you. If it's
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ethical, people can consent, and things are safe
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and sane and all that kind of stuff, then have
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at it, right? Being yourself in lifestyle is
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easier because, trust me, I know nerdy... kingsters
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that are monogamous and they dress up in leather
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and they're black all day long they love to be
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black they're proud of being black and they're
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kingsters than a motherfucker and they are all
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into the master slave stuff they're all into
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all kind of dynamics and i know polyamorous people
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that think it's a frat damn religion and and
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and but and they're weird or strange or whatever
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the point being is once you start being your
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authentic self you might lose some friends not
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because they were fake or because your vibe is
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being real and all of a sudden realize well our
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vibe doesn't match right now sometimes you realize
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some people are fake sometimes you realize oh
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this motherfucker wasn't a real friend but the
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authentic journey also attracts people that are
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actually really your vibe right right i I'm with
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my wife because she is nowhere near nerdy, nowhere
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near deep in a lot of things. Wisest person I
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know. But I need her sex, sex, sex, sex, sex,
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sex, sex, sex more. I need all of that because
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it shuts my crazy ass analytical mind. I have
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analyzations about analyzing the analyzation
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process of analyzing principles. Yeah. And the
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best way to describe it is like if you think
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of a swimming pool. Like I'm in the shallow end
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on a floaty with my margarita and sunglasses,
24:29
just happy as can be. The world is like the sun
24:33
is shining. I'm just like floating around down
24:35
there, not a care in the world. And then my husband's
24:38
in the deep end with like the goggles and the
24:40
mask, like. look at the cool shit in the bottom
24:44
of the pool like all these you know cool dive
24:46
toys and different things like come on and I'm
24:49
just like you know so we meet in the middle sometimes
24:51
I go diving with him and sometimes he comes to
24:53
the shallow end and has a margarita and sometimes
24:56
we float in the middle so it really balances
24:58
each other out of like who we are because you
25:02
know that's what's so great about the lifestyle
25:04
too is like sometimes I'm like I can't think
25:07
about any more nerdy shit today please go talk
25:10
to someone who loves talking to nerdy shit whether
25:12
that's a a man or a play partner or anything
25:15
and then the same i'll go visit play partners
25:18
and i'll just be like and they they just go uh
25:23
-huh uh -huh uh -huh while they're eating my
25:24
pussy right so it works both ways um you know
25:29
but you can both be authentic and That's on our
25:32
best days. On our worst days, I'm in the bottom
25:35
of a deep sea ocean with a team of 25 scientists
25:38
researching, and you're at the top on a one -inch
25:42
puddle, acting like you're drowning and kicking
25:44
and screaming. and neither one of us are fucking
25:53
getting along or understanding each other yeah
25:56
but you know we in the lifestyle we have different
25:59
people that we can go and talk to and take that
26:01
reprieve from each other i honestly don't know
26:04
how i ever did monogamy i mean that's probably
26:07
that's why i'm divorced you know like you know
26:09
was only relying on one person and one source
26:12
to get you know all of my mental emotional and
26:15
physical needs met um So it's just beautiful
26:19
to be able to be authentic, be authentically
26:22
yourself, and know that there's different people
26:25
in your tribe that can meet your needs on the
26:29
different days that you have. And we want to
26:33
say this before we go on to the do and the have
26:35
about it. You know, the Bull Brotherhood is establishing
26:41
itself as an authority. You know, and we have
26:45
ideas and plans that we're excited about that
26:49
you guys might hear in the future about it. But
26:52
we can't say this doesn't make us the authority.
26:59
There's going to be bulls out there to tell you
27:01
to do the exact opposite of what we're saying.
27:03
Great. Please listen to them. Please try it out
27:07
and find the one that works best for you. We
27:09
know guys who do things. I would say in principle
27:12
the same, but in dramatically, radically different
27:16
ways than we do it. And they have huge success.
27:20
I mean, I proud myself in being the gentleman
27:25
in a china shop. I really do. With a willingness
27:29
to pull out whatever I need to if I need to break
27:31
some things up. I know some bulls that literally
27:34
are like, I am a bull in the china shop. And
27:37
they're barely surviving. you know uh telegram
27:42
and and and social media groups because they're
27:45
so freaking like bold and telling it like it
27:49
is and mean and brash and but guess what there's
27:55
some cut are there some women out there that
28:01
while they're on social media talking about you
28:05
know feminine rights sexually in their own kink
28:10
and fantasies, they're getting with the most
28:12
chauvinistic, fucking mean -ass, selfish -ass
28:17
nigga bull out there, and they fuck it. Right?
28:24
Now, there are healthy ways to do that and unhealthy
28:28
ways to do that. Right? So we're just saying,
28:32
here's our standard. Doesn't mean it's the standard.
28:35
So moving on. doing i think is the part that
28:44
i think you should talk about because i want
28:48
to explain something about siren guys i look
28:51
at things three -dimensionally i really do and
28:53
my head is always in the clouds and i think we're
28:56
perfect because my head is always in the clouds
28:59
meaning i'm floating most of the time but i married
29:04
an anchor No, I married a rocker Gibraltar. Like,
29:09
see, she is like, what are we doing now? What's
29:13
going on now? What do we have in front of us?
29:16
What are we doing? And it fucking makes it perfect
29:19
for us because I'm like, oh, I guess we need
29:22
to think about what we're doing right today.
29:24
Yeah. It's kind of like, you know, Socrates will
29:29
make. 18 different ways to make the grocery list
29:32
perfect and i'm like when we go in the store
29:34
when we go in the store when we go in the store
29:36
when we go in the store when we go in the store
29:37
let's go to the store let's buy the stuff let's
29:39
buy the stuff for to make the dinner you know
29:40
and he's like well you know let's alphabetize
29:43
the list and we need to maybe research these
29:46
ingredients to make sure they're you know like
29:48
no gmos no we're not really like that with food
29:51
but you know that's just an example of like how
29:53
nerdy he gets on things is like he's always reminding
29:56
me like let's let's have the spirit of things
29:58
before we take the action of things you know
30:00
he's very much on the beat he will be bbbb and
30:03
i'm like okay but i need to get to moving because
30:07
i'm like sitting there twitching because i need
30:09
to get to the action part so once we're in the
30:11
action part i am like yes you know that's where
30:14
i'm hitting my stride you know and he comes along
30:17
you know and we start doing the action part so
30:20
i love that part that's my favorite part is to
30:23
get moving so let me ask you a question let me
30:30
see if i can ask this the right way I want you
30:32
to talk about four things, but I'm going to break
30:34
it up. I want you to talk about the do and the
30:37
don'ts of faking and talk about the do's and
30:41
the don'ts of bulls in the making that you've
30:43
seen. So these are bulls you've seen over the
30:46
years actually improve. Okay. Right. Talk about
30:50
the ones that actually got worse. So the bulls
30:54
in the faking, what do they do and didn't do?
31:00
An example. try not to be specific we're not
31:04
we're not throwing anybody under the bus no we're
31:07
all we all could be in this stage of life right
31:10
well let me say you know i think that bulls that
31:13
have gotten worse they in the doing is like they
31:18
just jump in and think they have it figured out
31:20
they don't listen to anyone else you know they
31:24
might come to a big event and be like oh yeah
31:27
yeah like i just you know they're they're they're
31:30
maybe fucking all these women in their hometown.
31:33
They're big in their town because there's only
31:35
10 black men there. And then they come to a big
31:38
event, a big interracial event, think they got
31:41
it figured out. They don't want to listen to
31:43
any advice because, you know, there's at Splash
31:46
Mocha, the men's meeting, they really try to
31:48
work with you guys on like how to move through
31:50
the event. And these guys are just like, yeah,
31:52
yeah, I got it figured out. I got it figured
31:53
out. Well, those are the ones that end up crashing
31:55
and burning. And, you know, if they, would humble
32:00
themselves and be willing to be teachable, then,
32:04
you know, they would have better success. So
32:06
I feel like they get a bad reputation. And then
32:11
the bulls in the making are the ones that they
32:14
come to the men's meeting and they're like, yeah,
32:16
yeah, okay. So -and -so said this. And then maybe
32:19
they're even telling me about, oh, I learned
32:21
this in the men's meeting. This is only my second
32:23
splash. I can tell because they're hungry, not
32:26
just for pussy, but for improving. their experience
32:30
and improving the experience of the ladies. So
32:33
maybe the first time, um, I think of, well, I
32:38
won't, I can use him cause he will, he will love
32:40
it. I think of my boy East coast Q, like the
32:43
first time I met him and the first splash that
32:45
we were at together, he was kind of having a
32:47
hard time navigating, you know? Um, he wasn't
32:51
on time. He was, he's like, Oh yeah, be right
32:54
up. And then an hour later, you know, um, he
32:58
smelled like smoke there was a few different
33:00
things and I talked to him about those things
33:04
and I was like hey listen I know you're new to
33:06
this event I was like something the ladies will
33:07
appreciate you being on time you're smelling
33:10
better making sure you do these certain things
33:13
and he's like he took it to heart and several
33:16
splashes later he was the talk of the ladies
33:19
chat oh he's so respectful and moved so well
33:22
we made plans and he showed up and he gave me
33:26
a great time and he did all these things so he
33:29
was an example of a bull in the making because
33:31
he took you know the advice of not just me but
33:34
other bulls as well like socrates and he made
33:39
himself better and he made his reputation what
33:43
what it has turned out to be there so does that
33:47
answer your question for that yeah yeah yeah
33:50
i like it okay what's the next part um I like
33:54
how you're breaking it down. I like bite -sized
33:55
pieces. I'm like a step -by -step kind of person.
33:59
I like to experience things. I can't just read
34:04
something. I learned how to sew, and I could
34:08
not read a pattern for anything. But if someone
34:11
shows me and then breaks things down, then I
34:14
can achieve. So that's how I learned. So Socrates
34:17
knows that. I want to say this, and I'm always
34:20
kind of pointing the direction towards even vanilla
34:23
people. If you are, let me, again, qualify again.
34:30
If you are a cisgendered masculine man, that
34:33
means you got a dick and you consider yourself
34:35
a masculine man. That means you consider yourself
34:37
a provider, a protector, the aggressor, or at
34:41
least be assertive, leader, things of those nature,
34:46
right? I think the thing you should do. is always
34:53
take an action that does two things at once.
35:01
One, makes her feel safe, and at the same time,
35:07
makes her feel drawn into you. So that's my philosophical
35:12
approach to doing. I know it's a thought process,
35:14
but... That's as far as a guy that's always in
35:17
the clouds. Besides, wash your ass. I'm always
35:20
saying, wash your ass. We still get people. I
35:22
mean, we still hear people complaining about
35:25
y 'all brothers out there, really. But I don't
35:28
want to talk about that no more. Anyway, I'll
35:31
say this again. It is a real issue. It is a real.
35:33
Oh, my goodness. It boggles the mind. Anyway,
35:37
show up on time. Believe it or not, in the beginning
35:43
is not a flex. To be late. That's what you should
35:49
do. Because look, I study this stuff, brothers.
35:53
I'm going to tell you this. I'm going to tell
35:54
you a little secret. The ladies aren't going
35:55
to like this. I'm going to tell y 'all anyway
35:57
because I love you. It's kind of cool when some
36:01
of the dope dudes are late and flake on you.
36:04
They're going to get mad at me. I'm going to
36:06
get messages. They're going to be angry at what
36:09
I'm saying. I'm telling you the truth. It kind
36:11
of makes them wet. That thing. Cool ones. The
36:16
six, four guys. The popular ones. The ones that
36:19
got flair. You know, some influence. All of that.
36:23
The cool guys. The guys that sling. The guys
36:26
that are really popular in everything. And that's
36:29
just not just our communities. But I'm telling
36:31
you, in kink worlds, in poly worlds, I'm telling
36:35
you, it's cool to show up late. It's cool to
36:40
flake. It makes them mad. Then they get excited
36:43
when you hit them back. And then you don't. I'm
36:45
telling you. But. In the beginning, show up on
36:49
time. And when you do, do two things at once.
36:55
Every move should be, I feel safe and not judged,
37:01
mentally safe, emotionally safe, physically safe,
37:05
but drawn in. It could be drawn in from danger,
37:09
safe but dangerous, safe but curious, safe but
37:14
mysterious. Let me kind of round that up a little
37:16
bit. Um, so when you show up on time that establishes
37:21
that safe feeling, okay, this is someone I can
37:23
trust. He said he's going to be here at seven.
37:25
He's here at seven. Then once you've established
37:28
that rapport with them, they have experienced
37:32
you and all you have to offer. That's when I
37:37
think it comes around to what you're talking
37:38
about. Socrates is. Being a little late, you
37:41
know, creating a different kind of experience
37:44
and a different kind of reaction from that woman.
37:46
No, I'm saying like, you know, some dudes just
37:49
don't, you know, it's I'm saying in reality,
37:55
I think you should be on time all the time. Right.
37:59
That's the bull brotherhood standard. I would
38:02
love to hear what Mr. Morgan has to say about
38:04
it. I think you should be punctual in your communication.
38:07
I don't think there's ever a need to leave people
38:09
on read. But I couldn't be an honest researcher
38:15
and tell you I don't know the science behind
38:18
the fact that it works. Right. Well, that's what
38:21
I'm saying is it creates something in us like
38:23
once you gave somebody, that's why they give
38:28
you a little taste of the drugs at the playground,
38:30
you know, and then as when, you know, you can
38:35
kind of get them hooked. That's what I'm saying.
38:37
That's why it works is because then essentially.
38:41
The experience is like a drug for us, you know,
38:44
and then we're like, oh, you know, I saw this
38:46
in an example of like, you know, when I've done
38:51
different play things and seen other women give
38:54
a hotter, better experienced guy more leeway
38:59
in different things versus someone else. Because,
39:03
I mean, it's pretty privileged for men in that
39:06
in that regard, you know, where we make it pretty
39:09
privileged in a certain way. That's how men get
39:12
it, if that makes sense. We may put up with a
39:15
little bit more that maybe we wouldn't from everyone
39:18
because of the experience and because of how
39:20
they look. So I want to talk about the half part.
39:29
Well, we didn't really even talk about the do
39:30
part very much yet. Oh, you want to talk about
39:32
what else you got more about it? We can talk
39:34
all week about it, you know what I mean? Well,
39:36
you said you had like four parts to it, and that
39:38
was kind of only two. No, we covered them. It
39:40
was like... It was like, it's the difference
39:44
between a bull in the making and the bull that
39:47
be faking. Oh, okay. And then that's like just
39:51
one line, right? And then if you have another
39:53
line across it, it's the difference between doing
39:56
and don't do, right? And what does a bull in
40:02
the faking do? And what does a bull in the faking
40:04
doesn't do? And what is a bull? And you answered
40:06
all of that. Oh, okay. Got it. I mean, we can
40:09
talk more about it. And then I listed a few things
40:11
like show up on time. Right, because I like the
40:13
action stuff. Do things. Yeah, so. I think maybe
40:16
a little more from the female's perspective.
40:18
Yeah, I was going to. You know, and don't. Here's,
40:23
let me tell you some big do's and don'ts for
40:26
women. It's like, you know, you can tell a bull
40:28
is faking. He talks about what he's going to
40:31
do to you and the experience he's going to bring
40:34
to you in detail. And I will tell women 95 %
40:38
of the time when a guy says this, the experience
40:40
does not turn out anything like he talked. So
40:43
that's a bull that is faking is someone who's
40:45
like, oh, yeah, and I'm just going to sling this
40:48
big dick in there and I'm going to like make
40:50
you come and then I'm going to eat you out. And
40:52
like he tells you basically the whole physical
40:54
experience that he's going to give you like he's
40:57
got it like like every woman can just be this
40:59
preplanned recipe like, you know, baking a cake
41:03
or something. But women aren't like that. You
41:06
know, it's more like cooking a steak. You got
41:09
to watch the temperature. You got to like, what
41:11
kind of meat cut is it? Is it need seasoning?
41:14
You know, that's how women are more like a steak,
41:16
not like a listing the box of, well, that was
41:20
a nice picture that someone just sent you. I
41:25
just got distracted by his giant ass watch is
41:27
like big as an iPad on his wrist. And then he's
41:29
like, don't look at my watch, but it's right
41:31
there. He just got a beautiful photo from someone.
41:34
So, um, Anyways, but then a bull in the making
41:39
will be someone who is focused on getting to
41:42
know you and, hey, you put it out there and,
41:47
you know, then you get pictures. Is focused on
41:51
getting to know you and reading your body in
41:54
the moment. That's a bull in the making. So that's
41:58
a do. You know, don't tell a woman a bunch of
42:01
stuff that you're going to do to her. Don't make
42:03
promises that you might not be able to live up
42:06
to. You know, that's fake. That's faking it.
42:10
Like I've only had maybe two guys that described
42:12
exactly what they were going to do and actually
42:15
were able to follow through with that. But I
42:18
know it's going to be a good time when a guy
42:20
just keeps talking about me, gets to know me
42:23
and ask about like what I like to experience.
42:27
And they don't say, what do you like in bed?
42:29
They talk to me about me and then they read my
42:32
body in the moment. Those are some do's and don'ts
42:36
for me for faking and making. So now go ahead
42:39
to the half. Now I'm like, oh, I want to see
42:44
those close up. He don't like it when I look
42:50
over his shoulder, so to speak. But sometimes
42:53
I just want to see titties, too. So, oh, yeah.
42:57
I was like, here, take the phone. We have an
43:02
open door, Paula. I can grab his phone anytime
43:05
and look at all of it. She has her face in my
43:06
phone, the code. It don't matter. Yeah, and vice
43:09
versa. But he's not really interested in looking
43:11
at the dick pics I have. But women, we always
43:14
want to see titties. So anyways, something to
43:19
look forward to after you podcast. Do you want
43:21
to stop and look at them right now? You know,
43:23
give it a little attention. she's writing you
43:30
a novel um okay have b2 what's the half part
43:36
you wanted to talk about that yeah so it's like
43:42
the half part it's a little kind of you know
43:49
this is an intangible thing right because you
43:52
want people to do things to you and if you're
43:54
if you're in kink you might want to see what
43:56
i want to have these kind of rope i want to have
43:59
um you know this kind of leather suit this kind
44:03
of impact play thing, you know, this dungeon
44:06
room. Those are cool. But, you know, I recommend
44:10
having a list of experiences. Mm -hmm. That you
44:15
want to have? Yeah. Mm -hmm. Now, here's the
44:18
nerdy shit. Happiness studies have been going
44:21
on for a long time, and they stopped studying
44:24
them for one reason. They came up with two to
44:28
three major reasons why people are happy. One
44:31
is called self -actualization. We won't get into
44:34
that on this one. You might be able to talk about
44:36
it in Socrates' philosophies and hypotheses,
44:39
but it really just means, you know, knowing yourself
44:42
and understanding, you know, yourself and all
44:45
that kind of stuff. It's deeper than that, but
44:47
we'll just boil it down. Secondly is having loving,
44:52
caring people in your life, friends, right? Someone
44:57
you can turn to, you know, look back and say,
45:00
man, look at these memories and all of this,
45:03
right? And so the third thing is the experiences.
45:12
And for me, one of the things that really has
45:19
brought a lot of joy to me was all the experiences
45:28
we've been able to have because you're such a
45:30
travel hacker. Like I was talking to somebody
45:35
today and I was just listing out. The trips that
45:39
I can remember we have from now until December.
45:42
And I'm sure I forgot. And how many we've been
45:46
on in the last five years. But I was being a
45:50
travel hacker and doing the things it took to
45:53
get here. But people are like, well, how do you
45:55
do that? Because they expect me to just give
45:57
them some three part formula and then they can
45:59
just go online and do it. But you have to build
46:02
it. And I've been building it since 2015. So,
46:08
you know, I can't just get on there and tell
46:09
you, oh, yeah, you're going to get these buy
46:11
one free tickets and do all these things because
46:14
I've been being then doing and now we're having.
46:19
So but I bet you and I have been on. I know I've
46:23
been on at least 50 trips in the last five years.
46:28
Me, myself, you don't travel quite as much as
46:30
I do. So that means you've probably been at least
46:33
on half that many, at least five to five or more
46:36
a year. Easily. And then this year, I know I've
46:40
got five more starting tomorrow. I've already
46:44
been on ten this year. And I have a lovely couple
46:46
that I drive to. And then I have trips where
46:52
I'm driving and just out of town. But for me,
47:00
do you. Like if you like the things and the stuff
47:06
and the, you know, the pussy and the, you know.
47:09
Blew you like 100%. Who cares what the science
47:12
says, for reals. You know, but that's what I
47:15
love. And that's what I'm passionate about. I
47:18
get to meet so many interesting people and I
47:20
get to be, I never would have met the kind of
47:25
people that I wanted to meet professionally,
47:26
philosophically. Their lifestyle backgrounds,
47:32
their looks, their... religious beliefs you know
47:36
their level of kink and and their challenges
47:39
or you know the fucked up things about them it's
47:43
like i love it all and you know i collect experiences
47:48
you know but if you're gonna have my advice is
47:53
to really be clear on what you want to have experiences
47:56
or things or um you know memories on the wall
48:03
You know what I'm saying? The tangible things
48:05
that you get from this life, that's what it's
48:08
all about. Because it's like, when you can narrow
48:16
that down to what really matters to you, and
48:20
not in judgment, like, oh, well, Socrates says
48:22
you should get memories. No, fuck that. I'm telling
48:25
you, those are the factors of happiness. But
48:28
that doesn't mean that people don't have, you
48:30
can have one of those and not have the two. And
48:33
there's a list of several. My point being is
48:37
that's my case for it. But you really know what
48:40
you want to have in this lifestyle, dating and
48:43
lifestyle. And that really helps guide you because
48:48
it can be an anchor. Like I was saying with my
48:51
wife, with her, she is a very tangible person.
48:56
And I have come to love for the first time. No,
49:02
I'm sorry. For the second time in my life. love
49:06
that I've lived in so many different places.
49:08
It's a shame. I've moved more time than movers
49:10
moved. And I love this house because she made
49:16
me fall in love with stuff here and just being
49:20
here because my heads are always in the cloud.
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I'm usually not that sentimental to a lot of
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things. Now the things I am sentimental, I'm
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crazy about and I keep them with me forever,
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but nine times out of 10, I'm not attached to
49:32
anything tangible, but. she's helped me see the
49:36
value of that and so whatever it is if it's the
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memories and pictures on the wall if it's the
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journal you wrote about if it's the pictures
49:45
that you you you have in your in your you know
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hidden folders that's my thing you know or you
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know because i don't i don't have pictures i
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can't keep pictures in my head yeah and if i
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look at a picture i have it in my head forever
49:58
so i don't often look at a lot of pictures because
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i don't do it to show anybody yeah i do it for
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my own like memories And so whatever you're going
50:08
to have, know what it is that the thing that
50:11
really affects you. You know, some people it's
50:15
that dungeon. It's like, no, you don't understand.
50:17
I have these, you know, floggers. I have this
50:20
rope and I have this thing for suspension and
50:22
I have this kind of torture chamber or whatever.
50:25
You know, some people it's their playhouse. Like
50:28
they take pride in the fact that people come
50:31
here and my house is dope and we have a great
50:33
time and it's. For some people, it's their database,
50:36
their promoters. For you, it might be memories.
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For me, it's memories and travel. You know, for
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other people in pain sluts, it's the bruises.
50:46
That were the cathartic nights. That's a constant
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reminder of, you know, that transformational
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time in their lives or whatever. You know, have
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something tangible in your being. Don't be like
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me too much when you're like. too much in the
51:06
clouds or too much like my wife sometimes i think
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she's so in the go go go and do do do she doesn't
51:15
stop and take uh take stock in what she has and
51:22
this is not a criticism of her this is something
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that as her husband i'm in her life to help her
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remind me because she's in her my life to help
51:29
me remind me that take action consistently be
51:31
disciplined you got a lot of great ideas so Work
51:35
on them daily, have your schedule, take action,
51:39
be disciplined with your schedule. Like she taught
51:41
me that by being on me and I teach, you know,
51:44
I'm pushing her to stop and smell the roses,
51:47
but also plan ahead sometimes, you know, and
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we make an insane team because we're always giving
51:53
each other what each other needs. And so in the
51:56
having, keep your mind focused on, well, this
52:01
is an anchor to something that really matters,
52:03
which is in the being. you know and meaning be
52:07
a bull man be a cuck like be your author if you're
52:11
a cuck be it you know if you have if you can
52:14
shine it out to the world shine it if you need
52:16
to keep it private don't hide but keep it private
52:19
you know but you know do the things you got to
52:22
do to get what you want in life don't be a faker
52:24
be a maker but when you're having things make
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sure it's connected it's aligned with who you're
52:30
being and who you're doing and what you're doing
52:33
And then having comes easier. It comes to you.
52:37
You don't have to believe in WUSA manifestation
52:39
to know that. I'm telling you, I know people
52:41
that live this. They're bulls that just say,
52:44
I'm a bull. And they identify with it. And they
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do the things that whatever they think a bull
52:49
should do. And then they have a lot of great
52:52
experience and have a lot of things in their
52:54
life. I think that's a great wrap up. So, well,
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again, on behalf of. Brian Morgan, Socrates and
53:09
myself, we thank you all for listening to another
53:11
episode of the Bull Brotherhood podcast. And
53:17
Brian, he's got his fancy ending, but, you know,
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I just hope everyone has a great and sexy night,
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a great and sexy weekend. If you're listening
53:25
to this on Thursdays, we usually drop our episodes
53:28
and get out there, be who you should be, do what
53:34
you need to do, and having will come easy. Have
53:38
a good night.