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Ep 27 | Disruptions as Invitations: Seeing the Gift in the Unplanned · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive self. So last week, I talked
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about the Hopi people and the two paths. So pretty
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much, you know, head versus heart guidance. And
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today, I just want to expand on that lens, you
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know, outward and speak about how, you know,
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we often have blinders on that. we don't even
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necessarily realize. I know I didn't. I just
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thought those are, you know, my confinements,
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right? Like I had limited views on certain times
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of my life and that's just how it is, right?
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But as I continue to support amazing, you know,
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sensitive and strong women, through both, you
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know, therapeutic relationships and as a spiral
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guide. It's really something that's beautiful
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when we have the opportunity to see things in
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a more expanded view. And I'm really honored
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because, again, I did not always have this expanded
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view. I definitely lived in a lot of, well, had
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a lot of blinders on, right? Had a lot of programming
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myself and conditioning that I was unaware of.
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And what came up for me in not only a session,
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but in my own life, you know, was that there
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are so many things that happen on a day to day
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basis that we might just brush off, like we have
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no idea how the unplanned or the disruptive experiences
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that we perceive in life, right, are actually
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part of the journey, right? Like it's part of
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what's unfolding. And it really is part of our
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highest and greatest good. Now, I know, because
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I've been, you know, a fan of Louise Hay's work
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since my awakening in 2008. But it's not always
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easy to see that everything is working out for
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your highest and greatest good, because sometimes
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things are very uncomfortable, right? And some
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things can be very irritating. And I mean, when
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I think back to when my kids were younger and
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I didn't know what I now know, right? Like I
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could feel an emotional reaction to, you know,
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them needing something, right? And me feeling
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like I got to get out the door, you know, I have,
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I've worked to get to, or, you know, I'm in the
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middle of cooking, you know? And again, our nervous
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system response is what's important to understand
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about being a highly sensitive individual, because
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what may feel like no big deal to the roughly
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80 % of the population, right, who don't have
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this trait does feel like a big deal to those
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of us in the minority who have a more finely
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tuned nervous system. And for a while, you know,
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I could start to understand like, oh, okay, you
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know, this feels really big to me because of
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my nervous system response, you know, but that's
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okay. You know, let me just get myself calm and
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I'll still get out the door, right? So for a
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while it became, oh, let me just, again, honor
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that I'm a highly sensitive person and this reaction
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is feeling big because I feel things deeply.
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But as my own journey unfolded, you know, I started
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to realize like this is happening for a reason.
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Like whatever just upset in a sense the apple
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cart, right? Like whatever just disrupted the
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plans or, you know, what was happening in that
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moment is not a detour in a sense. It's part
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of what's unfolding. And it's what we do with
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that, that really changes everything. You know,
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I actually joked recently with my former husband,
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you know, because he's really good about, he's
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a very routine oriented gentleman. He, you know,
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has his schedule of when he, you know, does his
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whatever, organizing, watering plants, right?
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Like cleaning. I really appreciated that type
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of stability and routine that he had, but that
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was never my nature. You know, and I didn't always
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understand that. Of course, human design has
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helped me understand a whole lot more about why
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I do things the way I do things in addition to
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being a highly sensitive person. But I joked
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with him recently because I was like, you know
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what? When I'm inspired to clean, it's because
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something broke, something spilled, something
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fell, you know, and it was like, that was really
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like light and freeing to realize, like, there's
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no need to compare myself to him, right? Like,
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that's his way. That's his nature. It works for
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him. It feels natural, right? And for me, I like
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to clean, you know, and do a really thorough
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job, but I'm not somebody who can stick to a
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rigid type of schedule. That's just not my nature.
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My nature is to feel more into, you know, moment
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by moment what's going on for me. And so. I've
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come to see that those disruptions like, you
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know, recently something fell out of a cabinet
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and it broke and it shattered into a gazillion
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tiny pieces, you know. And it was like, oh no,
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right? And I remember my son just, you know,
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wondering like, why did this happen? Because
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the next day, some glass didn't get cleaned up
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and he got some really small pieces on his toe.
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And I noticed how he, you know, was quick to
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like use his phone in a sense to just distract
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himself. And it brought me back to my own childhood
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where I was like, you know, I didn't have all
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these distractions, right? I fell a lot. You
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know, I was in the hospital a lot. I had surgeries,
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right? Like I had all these different experiences,
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but that's not his reality, right? He's very
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healthy and happy. this to him was like well
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how do I just you know wait until this piece
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of glass you know is ready to come out and I
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was like no like let's just be present with you
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know how to care for your foot you know and it
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turned into this beautiful opportunity for me
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and my son to connect in ways that you know we
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just hadn't right like he didn't hear about all
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of my, you know, childhood ailments, because
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it didn't serve a purpose before. But in that
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moment, all of a sudden, it did. And it was like,
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he was able to see how, wow, you know, he really
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has lived a very healthy and happy life. And
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how his mom me who's lived through so much right
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um disruption in health has changed so much right
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like as an integrative mental health and a quantum
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biology for health professional like I understand
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things about how to care for my body that I didn't
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know, you know, before. I didn't certainly learn
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it when I, you know, was going to college in
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the 90s. So this is what I'm speaking of, right?
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Like, we can understand our nervous system response,
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right? That big reaction to things, right? And
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we can certainly... acknowledge that, you know,
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our sensitivity is an intelligent design, right?
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But to see how everything is connected in the
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sense of even that glass shattering all over
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the place that required us to stop everything
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that we were doing, right? Like we couldn't,
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we couldn't not stop. It was just full on stop,
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you know? Okay, put shoes on. Okay, put the cat
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in the other room, right? Like we had to protect
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everything first. And then, right, we could clean
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up. And then we could notice, you know, oh, like
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this isn't something that we want to disconnect
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from, right, when he was on his phone. This is
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something we want to stay connected with through
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the experience. And it was really a wonderful
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experience because the glass came out easily
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with some raw honey and a bandaid, you know,
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for a couple hours. And, you know, he recovered
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perfectly. We were out walking, no problem. So
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again, bringing it back to how... Many of us
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can look at what seems like a disruption in our
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plans, right? What seems like unplanned, you
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know, intrusions, right? Whether that's somebody
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needing something, right? Or there being a delay
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in traffic, like whatever it is, right? It's
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an invitation for us to really be present with
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ourself, right? To pay attention and notice like,
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Well, how am I feeling as this happens? What's
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my go -to, you know? And again, I know in my
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past, I could go to like, oh, really? Does this
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have to happen now? Like, I don't have time for
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this. I can't tell you how many times I probably
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said that. I don't have time for this. It makes
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me laugh because it's like, There's so many limitations
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that we don't necessarily recognize with these
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blinders, right? But I assure you, the more that
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we take a break and breathe love, as I like to
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say, which we can do right now, the easier it
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is for us to see the deeper layers. We can see
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the gifts. in it all. So let's do that. Let's
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inhale deeply in through the nose. Second inhale,
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and then nice long and slow exhale out your mouth,
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whether you want to make a sound. or just blow
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out a candle silently. It's totally up to you.
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You know yourself best. You know what is going
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to help you realign with you, right? But again,
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inhaling deeply. And again, as you're inhaling,
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it's like you are, you're breathing in love.
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You're opening up your heart, right? Filling
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the lungs. You're connecting with you. If you
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haven't already, exhale out your mouth. Again,
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follow your own pace, your own rhythm. But I
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always encourage at least three, inhaling deeply,
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second inhale, and then exhaling. Because that's
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what it's all about. You know, we can notice
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our nervous system response. that some may call
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an overreaction which doesn't mean that it is
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because you feel something more deeply than someone
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else or because your experience of something
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that just occurred looks or feels or just is
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bigger than somebody else, doesn't mean there's
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something wrong with you. The point is, is that
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you recognize it. Because when you recognize
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it and stay with it, to breathe with it, you
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create the space for your nervous system to relax.
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Just a little bit. That's why it's so important
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that we connect with our breath. Because that
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is an instant gateway to creating more calmness
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and more coherence. And really centering you
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in your heart. So... I invite you to even, you
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know, like consider, look at how your day has
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unfolded already. You know, has there anything
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today that showed up unexpected, unplanned, something
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that disrupted you and what you were doing? What
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was that like for you? How did you feel? When
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it happened. That's the most important part.
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Tuning in to how we feel about something. Noticing
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that that's sensory intelligence, right? Like,
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what are the sensations? Did you feel a tightening
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in your muscles, right? A contracting in your
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chest, right? Did your shoulders cave inward?
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Did your fists tighten? Did your voice raise?
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Being aware of these are what helps us to realign
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throughout our entire day. Now I'm someone who's
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very curious. As I continue on my own journey,
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I realize there's so many things I notice now
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that I certainly didn't in my younger years.
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I certainly didn't relate or have interest in
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astrology when I was younger. But 13 years ago,
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when the human design system was presented to
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me, that was the first time I started to begin
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being curious about. the planets and how they
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aligned when I was born and what did that mean
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for me and my experiences. And now at this stage
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of my life, you know, we're hearing about the
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different planetary shifts that are happening
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that, you know, are really talking about a big
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change on the planet. And so perhaps you're noticing
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too, you know, that Either you're responding
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differently to situations than you used to, things
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that you're interested in has been shifting,
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right? Perhaps things are getting quieter in
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your life. Maybe that's disrupting as well, right?
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And I invite you to breathe into that. And open
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up to the curiosity around what is this opening
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up for me? Or what is this showing me? Right?
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What is this revealing for my highest and greatest
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good? You know, I've been a meditator for...
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Well, my youngest son is almost 13 and a half,
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so definitely probably been a meditator for at
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least 14 years, probably more, probably since
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my awakening, but more consistently in probably
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the past 14 years. I had an amazing meditation
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just the other day and the symbol that came up
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for me was a fly and I was just like okay interesting
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um and that was that and that was a few days
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ago and then earlier today a fly landed on my
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leg and I was just like interesting and it hung
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out for quite a while while I did what I was
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doing you know reading and chatting and um It
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just kept making circles and walking up my leg.
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I had about three different experiences with
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flies today. Different flies, some very colorful,
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vibrant, and then a bunch of flies that got really
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annoying. So this is, again, the invitation is...
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when we're starting to be more open and curious
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about, like, why is this happening? Right? And
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instead of seeing it as, why is this happening
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to me, right, that we can get like that, like,
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why? You know, why now? Why this? Whatever it
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may be. you know, to open up to the curiosity
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and be like, what is this about? You know, what
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is this revealing for me? Right? Because again,
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my own spiritual awakening showed me that we're
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all connected. Doesn't mean we always understand
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how we're connected in what ways we're connected,
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right? When we can, again, open those blinders
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a little bit to curiosity and be like, okay,
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why is this happening for me? Right? Because
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again, everything that's happening is for our
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highest and greatest good, because we're here
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to live and learn and grow in love, in light,
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in truth, you know? And so, Yeah, I just wanted
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to share a little bit about how those disruptions
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are all part of the plan. But we in our humanness
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often are looking outward and putting things
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on a schedule, right? It's time to do this chore
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or that task, or I need to go here and I need
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to go there. And we put it in our schedule. And
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I know for me, you know, and from a human design
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perspective, I'm a manifesting generator type.
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And so I'm multi passionate, I, you know, can
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do things quickly and efficiently. And so I often,
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you know, just would have so much going on because
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of my multi -passionate interests, you know,
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but that meant I was really filling my schedule.
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So when the unexpected, when the unplanned showed
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up, which it always does, I didn't have the time
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or space right in my calendar, literally. And
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so that's why I frequently would say, I don't
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have time for this. Because again, I was fitting
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more than I could comfortably navigate in my
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day -to -day planner. And again, I see that so
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often with the amazing, highly sensitive women
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that I support, because these women are doing
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amazing things for their their career, their
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families, right? They're really doing so many
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different things. And, you know, my invitation
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is always return to your breath, return to your
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body, you know, be here now. You know, this is
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where you're going to experience that connection,
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that calmness, right? And from that space, you
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can welcome the unplanned and the unexpected
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because it's going to show you something if you
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take the blinders off just a little, right? And
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open to that curiosity of what is this revealing
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for me? Because I'm always going to speak from
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my heart and I'm always going to speak to your
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heart because I know that, again, our heart and
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soul's desires are there for a reason, right?
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They're there for us to keep moving along our
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path, you know, knowing that there's possibilities,
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right? And when we create the space to keep aligning
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with our heart keep coming back to our heart
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center right again the largest electromagnetic
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field is our hearts you know that's how we can
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be true to ourself that's how we can again use
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that sensory intelligence that we've been you
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know gifted with to notice sooner Where do I
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need more space in my day? You know, where can
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I connect more with that sense of calmness and
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centeredness and coherence, right? So that I
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can meet every apparent disruption, right? As
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an unexpected visitor, where then We're welcoming
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it, right? Because we know that that's just part
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of the journey. We have what we see outwardly
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and what we schedule and plan. That's what we
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call right in the scene and what we can see.
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But there's also the unseen. So making more space,
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more room for the unseen so that you can use
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your gifts, right? To discover. the patterns
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in your life where you can discover more of what
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your heart and soul is leading you towards. So
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this is really an invitation for you to be true
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to you. So if you're recognizing yourself as
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a sensitive woman, and if any of this is speaking
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to you deeply where you'd like to learn more,
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the best place to begin with me is my essentials
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course called Your Sensitivity Is Intelligent
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Design. It's a science -informed course for sensitive
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and strong women who are ready to start exploring,
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right? to expand that sense of curiosity into
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what it means to have a sensitive nervous system
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as an intentional design and not a flaw to fix,
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right? Stop trying to put your round peg in a
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square hole. So this is where you can learn how
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to rise up out of these old patterns that don't
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serve you and realign with your authentic and
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wise self. And throughout this essentials course,
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you would, you know, learn about both the brain,
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the unique neuroanatomy of highly sensitive individuals,
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you know, your sensitive nervous system, ages
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and stages of life as a woman, you know, 20s,
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30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. Pregnancy motherhood
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covers all of that. And then you'll create your
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own personal realignment map as well. And then
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we walk together across the year in the sensitivity
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realignment spiral, which are seasonal threshold
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gatherings at the solstice and equinox. And our
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first gathering is at the summer solstice. So
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yeah, you're invited to explore that on my website,
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realignwithmelissa .com. I'd love to support
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you and walk this journey together. And before
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we close, I invite you to return to your breath,
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your body. to what feels true for you right now.
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There's nothing you need to fix. Just notice
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what's here. Where the heart leads, the body
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remembers, and the soul awakens. As a reminder,
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we are here together to rise, reclaim, remember.
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And as always, I'm so grateful you're here. And
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if you'd like to walk this sensitive and strong
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path more intimately with me, I do write a weekly
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Rise and Realign Lunar Letter. But you can find
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all of that at realignwithmelissa .com. So take
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good care of you. Much love and light.