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DONKEY: Charlamagne Calls Out Toxic Singles On Valentine's Day · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Charlotte, Jake, some donkey today is just sudy, Charlie, man, ready,
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  Speaker 1: I never heard them donkey say it again? Charley, you
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  Speaker 1: are child woe. Yes, it is donkey today for Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: February fourteenth.
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  Speaker 2: Is you okay? If the puma fits, you're gonna wear
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  Speaker 2: it today?
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  Speaker 1: See Valentine's Day to day that is for the loving you,
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  Speaker 1: the day that is for you and your lover.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Salute to everyone out there who has a Valentine Drop
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  Speaker 1: on a clues mom for you.
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  Speaker 2: All right? How do you feel about Valentine's Day?
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  Speaker 1: On Thirteen percent of people say it's their favorite holiday,
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  Speaker 1: six percent of people say they hate it, five percent
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  Speaker 1: say it's the most depressing day of the year, four
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  Speaker 1: percent say they are more into Singles Awareness Day. Ten
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  Speaker 1: percent of people say they are single and loving it.
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  Speaker 1: Nine percent of people buy candy and flowers for themselves
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  Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 2: That's self love, I respect it, okay.
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  Speaker 1: Twenty three percent of single women would rather spend Valentine's
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  Speaker 1: Day with their pet than their romantic partner. Only seven
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  Speaker 1: percent of men say the same. Forty nine percent of
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  Speaker 1: Americans treat their pets on Valentine's treat their pets the
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  Speaker 1: what all right? We gotta watch those people because they
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  Speaker 1: might be taking doggy style. Literally, I'm riding you all least.
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  Speaker 1: That's because God really for the word.
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  Speaker 2: On my heart this morning, and I must deliver.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know just hilarious that Valentine'sday is less popular
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  Speaker 1: among men than women. Thirteen percent of men say Valentine's
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  Speaker 1: There is their favorite holiday.
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  Speaker 2: Eight percent of men absolutely hated.
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  Speaker 1: Meanwhile, thirteen percent of women claim Valentine's There is their
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  Speaker 1: favorite holiday, compared to just five percent who hated. Women
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  Speaker 1: enjoy the single life more than men do. Only nine
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  Speaker 1: percent of women are single and actively searching for a boyfriend,
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  Speaker 1: compared to thirteen percent of men who say they are
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  Speaker 1: single and warn a girlfriend. I want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: y'all today, and I want you to know that what
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  Speaker 1: I'm about to say is coming up a place to love. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: it's rooted in love. If you've been listening to the
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  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club for years, then you know. Historically on Valentine's Day,
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  Speaker 1: I have given donkey to people.
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  Speaker 2: Who don't have nobody.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not that I was shaming people for not
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  Speaker 1: having nobody plenty of people don't have nobody and they're happy.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, it's by choice. The people I would.
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  Speaker 1: Give donkey of the Day two is the folks who
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  Speaker 1: didn't have nobody and will try.
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  Speaker 2: To downplay those of us that do.
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  Speaker 1: Don't buy humbug on Valentine's Day because you single, don't
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  Speaker 1: be the grinch that stole Valentine's Day. You mad because
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  Speaker 1: at some point in your life you fell in love
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  Speaker 1: with somebody and then found out they pronounced Valentine's Valentine's.
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  Speaker 2: And now you mad. Okay, now you mad, all right?
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  Speaker 2: You mad at everybody who got a bull.
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  Speaker 1: You mad at the eighty five percent of women that
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  Speaker 1: will be purchasing Valentine Day cards. You mad at the
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  Speaker 1: seventy three percent of flowers that will be purchased by men. Today,
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  Speaker 1: Sit your heart shaped, candy hating ass down and let
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  Speaker 1: me talk to you, because I have a word that
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  Speaker 1: you may not want.
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  Speaker 2: To hear, but it's going to change your life.
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  Speaker 1: God told me to tell you that the reason you
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  Speaker 1: don't have a Valentine, the reason you don't have a
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  Speaker 1: significant of a husband or wife or life partner, whatever
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  Speaker 1: you want to call it, the reason you don't have
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  Speaker 1: any of those things.
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  Speaker 2: Is simply because you're a terrible toxic person.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, all right, It is Valentine for you to acknowledge
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  Speaker 1: that there is a problem, and the problem is you, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: As is the case with most problems, the first step
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  Speaker 1: is acknowledging that your behavior is harmful.
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  Speaker 2: The people. See, we're so accustomed.
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  Speaker 1: To directing our attention outward that it's hard to go inward.
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  Speaker 2: And admit we the problem.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, men, women, They folks got all these reasons why
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  Speaker 1: they're single, all right. Not finding the right person, chasing
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  Speaker 1: the wrong person, choosing the wrong partners. Have you ever
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  Speaker 1: stopped to think that you're not the right person, that
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  Speaker 1: you are the wrong partner?
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  Speaker 2: Huh?
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  Speaker 1: You the wrong partner somebody chose. See, so many of
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  Speaker 1: us have done zero work on ourselves. We're not going
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  Speaker 1: to no therapy. We haven't even thought about going on
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  Speaker 1: a journey of healing. We have all this unhealed trauma,
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  Speaker 1: all this baggage, and God is protecting people from you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, they don't want to hear this this morning. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: They don't want to hear what I'm telling them on
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day. Okay, your relationships don't work because you haven't.
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  Speaker 1: It is time to identify your toxic traits. And once
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  Speaker 1: you identify your toxic traits, it is important to take
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  Speaker 1: responsibility for your actions and.
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  Speaker 2: Make a commitment to change.
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  Speaker 1: It's that unhealed trauma that you haven't dealt with that
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  Speaker 1: got you absolutely refusing to go on.
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  Speaker 2: A first date.
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  Speaker 1: The cheesecake factory, applebeasts, olive garden, the movies, coffee dates,
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  Speaker 1: ice cream dates, a bar just for drinks. You remember
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  Speaker 1: that stupid ass list when they surveyed every single hurt
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  Speaker 1: human in America and they didn't want to go anywhere
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  Speaker 1: on a first date. You know why that was because
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  Speaker 1: those people aren't happy with themselves. One of the main
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  Speaker 1: symptoms of unresolved trauma is lack of trust and difficulty
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  Speaker 1: opening up to other people.
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  Speaker 2: The reason you don't want to go anywhere.
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  Speaker 1: Is because it scares you to death to have to
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  Speaker 1: sit with somebody and have a conversation.
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  Speaker 2: You're afraid you're gonna get found out.
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  Speaker 1: You are afraid you're gonna have to look someone in
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  Speaker 1: the eyes, and when they look you in the eyes,
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  Speaker 1: they gonna see something you don't want them to see.
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  Speaker 2: Don't try to act, you know, like.
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  Speaker 1: Buffalo Wild Wings, Red Lobster, waffle House and sporting events
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  Speaker 1: did something to you.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, this is on you.
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  Speaker 1: This is why they say your trauma may not be
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  Speaker 1: your fault, but healing your trauma is absolutely your responsibility
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  Speaker 1: because in life, we attract what we are, and if
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  Speaker 1: you're not about nothing, you're not gonna attract nothing. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's not focus on just the trauma of it all,
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  Speaker 1: right now, let's just focus on the fact you might
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  Speaker 1: just be.
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  Speaker 2: A horrible person.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know why you horrible. Some of y'all
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  Speaker 1: just not good people. Some of y'all just have piss
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  Speaker 1: poor character. And a strong indicator of piss poor character
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  Speaker 1: is how someone behaves when they are shown to be
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  Speaker 1: wrong about something. Folks who always deflect or blame others
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  Speaker 1: or change the subject or lass out. That's just a display, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's just a display of an absence of a personal responsibility,
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  Speaker 1: which is definitely a sign of being less than a
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  Speaker 1: good person. So when you talk to yourself about being
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  Speaker 1: a on Valentine's Day, don't go blaming other people. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: stop acting like there's no good partners out there, because
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  Speaker 1: if you see the world that way.
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  Speaker 2: I promise it's you.
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  Speaker 1: Some of y'all too self senate, okay, And there's nothing
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  Speaker 1: wrong with putting your needs for self care. Putting yourself
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  Speaker 1: first is crucial because you can't help nobody if you're
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  Speaker 1: need to help yourself. But if you're always thinking about
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  Speaker 1: yourself and your own needs and you never consider the
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  Speaker 1: feelings of other people, then you might.
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  Speaker 2: Have some issues you need to address. If you neglect
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  Speaker 2: the needs of the people you are closest to.
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  Speaker 1: Such as your children and other family members and friends,
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  Speaker 1: then why or why would you get blessed with a Valentine?
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  Speaker 2: Are a Valentine? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Donkey of today today is you. It's your fault. You
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  Speaker 1: the reason this is happening to you. Terrible men get
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  Speaker 1: with terrible women and have terrible relationships.
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  Speaker 2: Fix youall.
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  Speaker 1: Please Let Ringy magive all the single because they are
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  Speaker 1: terrible humans the biggest he ha.
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  Speaker 3: He huh ah, you stupid mind?
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  Speaker 2: Are you dumb?
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  Speaker 4: It's you got security today You're gonna get punched in
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  Speaker 4: the head again.
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  Speaker 2: They're gonna get slapped.
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  Speaker 4: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: He don't even know, He don't even know who he
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  Speaker 2: worked with. You don't know all the single people you
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  Speaker 2: work with, crazy, I was talking to all of them.
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  Speaker 2: I was selling all of them.
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  Speaker 1: See all the producers pissed off at you right now, Well,
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  Speaker 1: they need to look in the mirror.
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  Speaker 2: Damn I'm not talking. I'm not saying I'm talking to them.
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  Speaker 2: I said that.
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  Speaker 4: Damn Well, accountability is something that people should take.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 4: I remember being in a relationship. I was being in relationships.
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  Speaker 4: I was one of those people. I wasn't a good
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  Speaker 4: person for a long time. But I also didn't know
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  Speaker 4: who I was and what I wanted. This is when
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  Speaker 4: I was young, I was dating older guys. I was
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  Speaker 4: just dating for the money. Didn't dating up for the money.
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  Speaker 4: I was getting whatever I could for me and my son.
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  Speaker 4: Believe that had lights was off?
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  Speaker 1: What's up a thousand dollars?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like all that everything.
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  Speaker 4: And then I was with I had relationships, one relationship.
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  Speaker 2: With a good guy, cheated on them all that. So
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  Speaker 2: I definitely you understand what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 4: I do understand.
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  Speaker 2: I was once a bad person. That's right.
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  Speaker 1: Let's let's look you a good person and you blessed.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, just the realist I heard
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  Speaker 1: just say in the meeting the other day. I don't
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  Speaker 1: even know why she volunteered this information. She was like,
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  Speaker 1: I've been quit honing, Like what.
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  Speaker 3: First of all, I'm like, what she did, executive, don't
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  Speaker 3: I just like that?
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  Speaker 4: No, we was talking about my journey.
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  Speaker 2: I said at the beginning, Yeah, I was.
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  Speaker 4: I was going, you know, but then I stopped.
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  Speaker 2: Then I stopped because I grew into who I was.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, I evolved. There you go.
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