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227. Valentine's Love Language Gift Ideas That Are Sure To Make Your Spouse Happy! · The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You are listening to the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, where we discuss how to find ultimate intimacy in your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: We believe that, no matter how many years you've been married, you can achieve passion, romance, happiness and ultimate intimacy at any stage of your life.
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  Speaker 1: Join us as we talk to not only marriage experts, but couples just like yourself and people who are just flat out fun.
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  Speaker 1: The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast is for couples who have a good relationship but want to make it even better.
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  Speaker 2: It's the Valentine's Love Language gift ideas that are sure to make your spouse happy, with Nick and Amy and the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast today.
• 0:50
  Speaker 2: If you're like me, one of the hardest things to do is figure out what to get your spouse for Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 1: Are you serious?
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  Speaker 2: It's so easy.
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  Speaker 2: I know what you like, but it's the stuff I buy for you all the time, so I'm like, I really like.
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: What do you buy for me all the time?
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  Speaker 2: Raspberries, chocolate flowers, flowers, not all the time.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: I was like all the time I thought once a year, twice a year.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe my definition is different.
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  Speaker 1: Anyways, but in this episode I can tell this is going to be quite a conversation.
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: We're going to talk about, first off, what to get your spouse for Valentine's Day using their love language.
• 1:34
  Speaker 2: And the very most important thing is using their love language, knowing it, knowing it and implementing it.
• 1:43
  Speaker 2: You can go get your spouse.
• 1:45
  Speaker 2: If your spouse's love language is words of affirmation, it doesn't matter if you go buy them a new Lexus.
• 1:52
  Speaker 2: That's not their love language.
• 1:55
  Speaker 2: So if you don't know your spouse's love language, just casually say hey, babe, let's take this fun quiz on the Ultimate Intimacy app it's totally free and just to find out our love language and go take that quiz.
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  Speaker 2: That'll tell you what your love language is, what the dominating love language is, and then you're going to know what to get her for Valentine's Day based upon what we're going to show you.
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  Speaker 1: It literally takes less than 60 seconds to take the quiz.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It literally does.
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  Speaker 1: And the love language is like we always say.
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  Speaker 1: They change all the time within different stages of life.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
• 2:31
  Speaker 1: Before we jump into the GIFs, I'd like to talk about love language just for a minute.
• 2:34
  Speaker 1: I know we've all most people have heard about it.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like and this was like revelation to me like a couple years ago.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, ah, one of those moments, you know it's like duh.
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  Speaker 1: Now I get it.
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  Speaker 1: Nick's like do you even have a love language?
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  Speaker 1: You're like don't need anything in this marriage.
• 2:54
  Speaker 1: I swear right, you said that to me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 2:57
  Speaker 1: And I thought about it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the more high maintenance, one for sure.
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  Speaker 1: I okay, and this is where that sounds like a negative.
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  Speaker 1: But it's actually the negative on me because I've realized you usually are needing the love language of the love language you're not getting.
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  Speaker 1: And so what I'm trying to explain in this is you're saying you're the needy one.
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: That's because I'm not as good at giving Nick his love languages, so he feels more needy.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: And because I'm not needy is probably because he's so good at fulfilling my love languages.
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: That's a, that's a compliment.
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  Speaker 2: That is some deep therapy.
• 3:35
  Speaker 2: That is deep, but that no.
• 3:37
  Speaker 1: But I think that but I think it's accurate and I'm not trying to pretend that I'm smart or anything, I'm just saying.
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  Speaker 1: In our marriage I've realized that he's needy because I'm not as good at fulfilling his love.
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  Speaker 1: Language Languages mostly physical touch have one language.
• 3:55
  Speaker 1: It's just a little touch, just physical touch, 100% physical touch.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm not super good at that because that's not mine, but I don't feel Like that's my love language, probably because you give me that, because it's your love languages.
• 4:08
  Speaker 1: So so Nick has admitted to me like I like massaging your body because that fulfills my love language.
• 4:14
  Speaker 1: That's what he says to me.
• 4:15
  Speaker 1: Correct yeah, so I get a lot of massage and physical touch because he's thinking when he gives it to me, it's fulfilling his for him.
• 4:24
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry this is sounding complicated.
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  Speaker 2: I'm totally selfish, what I'm like.
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  Speaker 2: Hey babe, can I give you a nice intimate massage?
• 4:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it really does like I just want to touch her.
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  Speaker 1: I want to see her and feel her and be with her so that makes you feel like your love language Love language is kind of taken care of.
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  Speaker 1: At the same time, I'm not feeling like that's my love language at all because you give me that all the time, because you need that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So let's jump to a different example.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so he's really good at being like baby looks so pretty today, like getting ready for church or something.
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  Speaker 1: He's really good at that.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like I don't really need compliments, babe.
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  Speaker 1: I like I just that's not my my thing, but I think it's not my thing in my mind, because you're really good at giving it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm already getting if I totally cut off and never gave you a compliment, all of a sudden I would probably become my love language right for sure.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: So I always tell Nick actual, my actual love language is acts of service, like I love it when he will take my grocery list and go shopping because I literally am so sick of growing a grocery store after 22 years, right, and he's he's accepted that lately like, oh, I don't mind doing that and I know that means a lot to you.
• 5:35
  Speaker 1: So we have these discussions a lot and they do change with the stages of life.
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  Speaker 1: Like I felt when my kids were little I probably needed more.
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: I Wasn't well, let's see.
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  Speaker 1: Probably more acts of service, more help, right, because I was a stay-at-home mom when they were tiny and then when I started working, I think my love language changed.
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: I think I used to be a gift person, but the older I get, the more I realize like gifts don't really make me happy, unless they're raspberries.
• 6:08
  Speaker 1: It's more Like I just I've looked past lovely which definitely has changed.
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  Speaker 2: Well, and going back to what you were saying, I think that's, I think that's really important to point out a lot of times Our love language might be something that we are not receiving.
• 6:24
  Speaker 2: So and on the flip side, like someone's love language, I Mean, yeah, like Amy.
• 6:32
  Speaker 2: Well, sorry, just I have a lot of thoughts going through my mind.
• 6:36
  Speaker 2: I know yeah like your love language might be something, because maybe you're not receiving it and and it's important, like Amy said, to check your love language often because, again, if if you're being fulfilled with something, then you're not obviously needing that right you're not needing it.
• 6:58
  Speaker 1: So, so every time I take the quiz, sometimes it comes back different.
• 7:02
  Speaker 1: I Do you know what I mean.
• 7:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, based upon what your needs are, really not what I'm not getting.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: So if a spouse is like really just bad at like giving emotional intimacy, which I think emotional intimacy falls under the category of the love languages, Like I think the love languages are.
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: That is what.
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: That's what emotional intimacy is in a marriage, right?
• 7:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like there.
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: I think there's some things that we can add into that, but but words of affirmation or quality time could be that communication, Like all of those, come down to emotional intimacy.
• 7:37
  Speaker 1: Well, great example.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so going back, we were talking last night.
• 7:40
  Speaker 2: If you listened to the previous episode, amy and I had a good conversation the other night, right, a great conversation we're.
• 7:48
  Speaker 2: We're talking about just really diving into like how we're different and things like that.
• 7:56
  Speaker 2: But one of the things that came up is it you know, sometimes we get women contacting us and saying, oh, I just really I'm the high desire spouse sexually in the relationship and I just really crave being intimate with my husband.
• 8:12
  Speaker 2: And the point Amy said is she's probably not a physical touch person, but because there's not any physical touch in the relationship, that is what's coming out as maybe her love language, but it is physical touch.
• 8:27
  Speaker 2: But if her husband was actually giving her the physical touch and her affection that she wanted, she probably would have a different love language.
• 8:36
  Speaker 2: It probably wouldn't be physical touch because she's getting that needment right.
• 8:40
  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: But because she's got no physical touch, because, again, women women in general are not going to be, for the most part, like sexually, you know, sexually needing that or physical touch.
• 8:55
  Speaker 2: Like most of the time, women that's not going to be their love language.
• 8:58
  Speaker 2: But in this case, if a woman's not receiving any physical touch, it might manifest that that's her love language, because that's what she needs at that appropriate time.
• 9:07
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 9:08
  Speaker 1: I think there are a lot of women that have.
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: We have to keep physical touch and sexual intimacy separated, but to Nick, physical intimacy is literally sexual touch.
• 9:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, physical touches.
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: I think in most men that we took the poll said that their love language was physical touch, which actually 95% of them said like literally, it was sexual touch Exactly.
• 9:25
  Speaker 2: It was sexual touch, right Exactly.
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: But what we're saying, what he's trying to say here, is that there probably are a lot of women that love physical touch.
• 9:32
  Speaker 1: Probably their love language is non-sexual physical touch, unless they're in a marriage where they have the higher sex drive, and then maybe that's more of a sexual physical touch.
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: Right, but it's usually because of something that you're missing Exactly.
• 9:50
  Speaker 1: So, anyways, that's our entire point on the love languages is and that would be a great.
• 9:56
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying we know what we're talking about, but like if you go talk to your spouse and have this conversation like have a conversation about this, because I think it's interesting if you take the quiz and then you look at it and you're like, okay, this is what it's saying, my love languages is maybe it's because your spouse isn't super good at giving you that naturally right, yeah, or maybe he is good at it and we're just completely wrong.
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: But in our marriage, this is how we've kind of figured it out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 2: So let's dive in and we'll kind of cover each of the areas and then what you can give your spouse, based upon what love language they have.
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  Speaker 2: So let's talk about words of affirmation.
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  Speaker 2: If your spouse, if this is their love language, which is words of affirmation- that would be hold on.
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: That would be compliments expressing your feelings.
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: Words right.
• 10:46
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: Probably appreciation, things like that.
• 10:50
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 10:50
  Speaker 2: One of the things you could do is you could write a very heartfelt love letter expressing your feelings and appreciation towards them and just throwing it down on paper and really expressing how you feel.
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: That would be more meaningful than any gift or anything that you could ever ever give them, because that is their love language.
• 11:09
  Speaker 1: A nice old love note.
• 11:12
  Speaker 2: You could compose a poem or even write a song dedicated to him.
• 11:16
  Speaker 2: I, amy, would laugh if she heard me sing oh my gosh.
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: So I thought, luckily I won't have to do that Actually Nick's pretty hilarious when he writes, tries to write a poem or a song.
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: So I did.
• 11:28
  Speaker 2: I wrote a song for our son that I sang to him.
• 11:32
  Speaker 2: It was pretty funny, it was hilarious, because he's yeah, he's out of the, he's out of the country.
• 11:36
  Speaker 2: You could create a jar filled with love notes or affirmations for them to read, you know, every day or throughout the year.
• 11:44
  Speaker 2: That would be another great gift I've seen those on Pinterest.
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: Like people will get a jar, an empty jar or a bowl or whatever.
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: Make it cute.
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: If you're a guy, do what you do to make it romantic, draw some hearts on it, whatever.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: And then they literally do like 100 reasons why I love you.
• 11:59
  Speaker 1: My kids have actually done this for me.
• 12:01
  Speaker 2: It's like a mom gift for Mother's Day or something and it it meant a ton but like I think a lot of women would love that Like 100 reasons why I love you In fact, in our keep on some printable section of the app, with Valentine's Day coming up, we have some printable cutout hearts that you can cut them out, if I remember right, and you and they're designed to be able to write different things and then spread them throughout the room.
• 12:23
  Speaker 2: That would be a great thing to do.
• 12:26
  Speaker 1: Or cut them out in like.
• 12:27
  Speaker 2: Words of affirmation.
• 12:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, or tape them on the mirror.
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: Or tape them on their car or something like that.
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly All right.
• 12:33
  Speaker 2: If your spouse is quality time, you could plan a romantic getaway or weekend trip together.
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: Um we're just a date night, or even just a special day night.
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: We're just a really nice date night.
• 12:44
  Speaker 2: One of my best memories is and I'm sure there's some previous podcasts so I won't spend much time on this but Amy planned a surprise getaway to Las Vegas for a couple nights.
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: To this day that was the most enjoyable time I've ever had, and we hate Las Vegas.
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: It's just close to us yeah.
• 13:01
  Speaker 2: But and we were only there a couple nights but we literally just like, we just lounged around, we made love a bunch of times.
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: We went to like three movies.
• 13:09
  Speaker 2: There's a theater next to the hotel.
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: It was cold, it was cold.
• 13:12
  Speaker 2: We literally just spent a ton of time together and to this day that was one of the funnest times I've ever had with Amy.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: It was awesome yeah.
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: Because it was, it meant a lot, because we were sacrificing time, we had no distractions, we put our phones away, we had our kids weren't there.
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: We literally got to just be together and and somebody who has the love language of quality time just wants you to be focused on them.
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: And that could be two hours, that could be overnight, like you said, like it doesn't have to cost money, it it.
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: They just want you to be there.
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: And I would say, you know, my love language is probably definitely physical touch and probably quality time, because quality time oftentimes like going on a even a night or two vacation or whatever, like I look forward to vacations more than anything else because, number one, we're going to have quality time together, where we can just be together, talk, make love, just really enjoy the time together.
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: And so, again, if you're a quality time person, that's probably the best thing you could do Well, and you're going to have more physical touch, when you are not distracted and you have quality time together right, Exactly.
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: And so quality time would mean no, no, no, no, no, no phones.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: Like I have to hit on that because everyone says that's what's killing intimacy.
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: Quality time means don't take your phone or turn it off, Like you can't be distracted in any way if you're giving your spouse quality time.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: It's.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: It's funny in reading this.
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: The next one is create a coupon book with activities you can do together.
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: This could be movies, picnics, things like this.
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: As I say this all all the time, I ask Amy for Christmas just give me our ultimate intimacy coupon book, right.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: I made it for Nick Literally the coupon the coupon book in our shop I hand created for Nick.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: If you are a man that's like me, then the coupon book is the absolute best product on the face of the earth.
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: It's awesome.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: And you just got to go tell your wife you want it.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly Like I said, quality time also could be just a simple date night or doing a fun activity focusing on each other.
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: Quality time is pretty self-explanatory.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Just doing something that you're spending time together would be more meaningful than anything.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Play a game, cook together, naked movie night, just anything thoughtful?
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Yep, exactly.
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: Right you brace each other, no distractions.
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: Receiving gifts.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: Why don't you?
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: You want me to jump on this one.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: What are you?
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: I'm more of a gift person Receiving gifts.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: The only gift that Nick ever wants, like he said, is literally the coupon book, Right?
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I don't think he's ever asked for anything else, so he's not a gift person, but I've been a gift person.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: I think this one.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: What makes this one special is that and it's probably the hardest one this is probably the hardest one to give it's about giving something thoughtful that reflects something that would mean a lot to them.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: And that can be really tricky unless you're super in tune, it is With what they want, right?
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: It is because I know Amy is a gift person and, like this last Christmas, I'm just like I have no idea what to get her and I was really stressing because I'm like I really wanna do something nice and I know she likes gifts, but I don't know what to get her.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: I really don't Like so.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty easy actually, but so yeah.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: So this one can be tricky and I think this one takes a lot of communication and I don't always think that it's wrong to feel like you should just go talk about it, Because if someone loves gifts and you stress about that because this is not your love language, like Nick is saying I think it comes down to what do you want, what would be meaningful for you, and then stepping out of the box and making that, Even if they told you what they want, making that special in some way.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: So maybe they're like I like roses.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's just literally simple I like flowers.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: Maybe go out of your way to go to a flower place that's actually really special.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Find out what their favorite flower is.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: Go a little bit deeper.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Find a beautiful vase for it.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: Or maybe they want a necklace.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: Find something it doesn't have to be expensive.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Find out what kind of necklace.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: What do they like?
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: Do they like gold, do they like silver?
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: But then, make it special, find some kind of way to make it meaningful or a meaningful way to give them that gift.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: It doesn't even have to be the gift, more so, make it meaningful, like go on a hike and deliver the present or put a really special note with the gift.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I just feel like if you really put thought into the gifts, it doesn't have to be as hard as you make it and hopefully your spouse is thankful and mature enough to just be so grateful that you tried.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I mean, this is what that's really about, right, like our last episode.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Maturing and showing love is just about trying and I think, like Nick's never given me anything that I haven't been like that was so thoughtful that you tried, like even if it wasn't something that was like A pair of shoes.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean, though?
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: But like, if they know that you love gifts and they're trying to give you a nice gift, be appreciative about it.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: It's not gonna be the perfect gift you can.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: If you're at our stage, you just buy what you want usually, anyways, right.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if I need it, I get it.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: You need it, you get it, but be appreciative, what else can?
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: I say about gifts.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: If your wife or husband is a gift person, make sure you buy him a gift.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Especially for Valentine's and Christmas.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you cannot drop the ball on those holidays or anniversary if your spouse is a gift person.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: And we have a lot of gifts in the ultimate intimacy shop that will benefit both of you.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: And if your wife's like I don't want a sexual gift, get her date night coupon book Conversation starter.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: There's other things that are not sexual.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: And I can promise you most, 99% of the husbands will love anything in the shop.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: Acts of service.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: You could prepare a really nice meal for him that evening.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: I would freaking love that.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: If you're an active yeah, I'm a if you're an active, service type of person.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: Another thing you could do is say you know what, sweetie, you've got the day off.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: I'm going to handle all the chores, the house, stuff.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: If kids have activities tonight, I'm going to handle everything and give you a complete day off.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: That would be, and if you work full time, do it on the Saturdays.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: They had like to.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I'd like you to treat you this for Valentine's, but we're going to do it Saturday.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: Take care of the errands, any responsibilities, acts of service, doing kind things.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: I mean that's pretty self-explanatory.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Now let's get into the really difficult.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: One is physical touch.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: So difficult, so difficult.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: This might be the easiest one, so this is self-explanatory, right.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: To all the women out there listening your husband is probably 95% physical touch.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: So here, speaking to the wives, here's what you can do for your husband.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: I can tell you the number one answer Initiate.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Initiate.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: If you, I'm sorry.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is not just for the women.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: If you are married, if you are a married, loving couple, it is a day to celebrate your love.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: It is for both of you.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: Your husband shouldn't be whining and dining you and he gets nothing in return.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: If you can't make love to him after he's just catered and made your Valentine's special, what is going on?
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: Shame on you.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: Do you agree with me?
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Valentine's Day is yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I look at that as a day of love, like marriage.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: If you're married, it's about both of you.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: I feel like men are like oh, it's her day.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I think we need to change that.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: I think if you've made her day special or your husband's made your day special, if you've gone to dinner, if you had a nice date or if you got a nice present, how do you make a special for him.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: He needs a nice massage.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Maybe he just wants you to make love to him.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Ladies, come on.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Naked Movie Night N-M-N.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Three letters, that's all you need to know.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: That will make your husband's whole entire month.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Do a Naked Movie Night with him.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: He will love it, he will love it.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: He will love it, you're gonna get him a coupon book.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: We've got some great coupons.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Like I said, he will love that.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: You can plan a relaxing couples massage or spa day, or you can plan your own intimate massage as well.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Just touch him more.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Just touch him more.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Physical touch is about touch.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: It's not about sex, it's about touch.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: If he just wants you to touch him, cuddle with him, rub his back, there's tons, I mean, this one's so easy.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: It is this one's so easy.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: It should be easy.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Amy, amy.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: A lot of times is like all right, what do you want for Christmas, or what do you want for this, or what do you want for this?
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: I'm like babe, Initiate, honestly, just let's make love and connect.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: For most men, I think we really are that simple.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: I think you are that simple.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: You could simplify things in life around Valentine's Day, the holidays, it would be so easy.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you that most husbands out there just want to be with you.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: They just want to connect with you.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: That's more meaningful than anything you could ever buy them, unless they're a gift person.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: But again, most of the time they're not.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Go take the quiz together.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: If you have one challenge that we give you today, there's no excuse for it.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: Take 60 seconds tonight.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: Take the quiz on the app.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Go download the app if you don't have it.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Ultimate intimacy app on Apple, now on Amazon for Android users.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Take the quiz Together.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: You take it, he takes it.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: Talk about it.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: What does this mean to you?
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: This is what physical touch means to you.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: This is the kind of gifts that I like.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Access service that would mean a lot to me, would look like this Quality time.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Hey babe, I would just love you to plan a nice date that night or for that weekend.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I would like a nice card with something nice written on it.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: Talk about it.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: If you have expectations but you don't talk about them, they're not going to get met.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: And that's where resentment comes in, right.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: So if you are a wife, we just gave you the easiest gift you can give your husband Go to shopultimateintimacycom, buy him the scratch off cards or a romance and sexy coupon book.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Or the position book or the intimate box.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, basically buy him anything Just point to something that will be the greatest gift you can give him this Valentine's Day.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: If you only got five bucks, go get him intimate coupons.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: It's just that easy right.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: Yep, exactly.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: So we hope you enjoyed the podcast and until next time, we hope all of you find ultimate intimacy in your relationship.