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133. I Do's & I Dont's... Wedding Edition · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Speaker 1: Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
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Speaker 1: Hawkgirl Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
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Speaker 1: your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
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Speaker 1: a new mindset, and another day if you'd become the
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Speaker 1: hawk Girl energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
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Speaker 1: welcome back to another episode. I have a bit of
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Speaker 1: a different episode for today. Typically I don't usually have
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Speaker 1: Zuck up on the podcast, but Zach and I are
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Speaker 1: celebrating our first wedding anniversary this week, and I thought
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Speaker 1: it would be a fun episode to just kind of
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Speaker 1: talk about some questions that you guys have asked on
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Speaker 1: my Instagram story for things just in terms of like
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Speaker 1: some wedding regrets that we may have had, things about
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Speaker 1: just the wedding in general, along with a couple q
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Speaker 1: and as, so we have a lot of questions year
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Speaker 1: that I thought we could just kind of go through
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Speaker 1: and just answer anything you guys have submitted in. But
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Speaker 1: we were just talking about Zach being on the podcast,
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Speaker 1: and I just don't remember the last time he was
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Speaker 1: on an episode.
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Speaker 2: I think it's been close to a year. I think
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Speaker 2: it was around the wedding last year.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you're right. I think the last time
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Speaker 1: we recorded an episode together was the recap of the
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Speaker 1: wedding of just like everything that happened after the honeymoon.
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Speaker 2: Did I even do that? I don't even remember if
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Speaker 2: I did that or not.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, either that or talking. I don't think we talked before.
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Speaker 1: I think you're too stressed to talk before. I think
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Speaker 1: it was an after thing.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like we didn't have time to record
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Speaker 1: an episode before the wedding. I know. Actually that's a lie,
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Speaker 1: That is a lie. Remember we did a wedding everything
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Speaker 1: about the wedding, and I posted it on the wedding week.
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Speaker 1: I did it two parts.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that we recorded beforehand.
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Speaker 1: Yes, so never mind, we did do that. So on shocks,
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Speaker 1: we actually did that. I think we must have done
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Speaker 1: that a week in advanced or something like that.
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Speaker 2: And there was no way we did while we were
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Speaker 2: in Italy.
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Speaker 1: No, oh no, no, no. I wouldn't have brought my
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Speaker 1: MIC with me, that's for sure. I never bring my
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Speaker 1: MIC with me when I travel, just because I find
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Speaker 1: it always somehow gets damaged. When the last time I
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Speaker 1: brought it, Oh, I left it plugged in in the
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Speaker 1: sense of what you left.
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Speaker 2: The bottom plugged in and that's why it broke.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I see, Okay, Well, anyways, this is why I
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Speaker 1: don't travel with a mic. We're gonna just jump right
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Speaker 1: into the questions because we have a lot of questions here,
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Speaker 1: and I know we're gonna probably explain in depth of
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Speaker 1: like each question that comes in, we'll probably just yap away.
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Speaker 1: Well I'm the yapper, I'm the yappers. So anyways, we're
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Speaker 1: gonna get down to the questions here.
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Speaker 2: It's insane how many questions or followers have.
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Speaker 1: I know, submitted. I know, it's it's insane. The community
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Speaker 1: is so supportive, Like like I had to do a
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Speaker 1: screen recording on the story and I'm just like scrolling
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Speaker 1: through all the questions. We're gonna try and answer as
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Speaker 1: many as we can because like there is a lot here,
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Speaker 1: but there is some that might be repetitive as well,
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Speaker 1: so we're gonna try our best just to yeah, try
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Speaker 1: and be yeah on top of this. All right, we
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Speaker 1: had a few questions about how we found certain things
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Speaker 1: for our wedding. So if you're new here, Zach and
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Speaker 1: I got married in Italy this time last year. We're
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Speaker 1: from Canada, so it was a destination wedding. We did
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Speaker 1: hire a wedding planner that was based in Italy that
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Speaker 1: basically organized everything for us, which I highly recommend doing
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Speaker 1: if you do plan to do a destination wedding, because
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Speaker 1: it's very difficult to find vendors and all that, especially
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Speaker 1: in a destination that you're not familiar with or be
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Speaker 1: in anywhere close proximity to time zone everything, or you
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Speaker 1: don't speak the language or you don't speak the language. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: Like having the planner I think helped us with a
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Speaker 1: lot of like just like getting the best possible rates
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Speaker 1: for like the florals and like just renting like chairs.
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Speaker 2: Welle, the incredible contacts. They knew which companies you go for,
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Speaker 2: which came to stay away from, who provided service in
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Speaker 2: that area, who didn't. It was they were very knowledgeable
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Speaker 2: but the area.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it kind of builds off one question, which
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Speaker 1: was logistics of planning. She's a girl that's considering to
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Speaker 1: do an Italy venue but just doesn't know how to
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Speaker 1: go about it. So I think, honestly the best thing
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Speaker 1: to do is to do some research on honestly Instagram
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Speaker 1: and TikTok and just seeing what other people have used
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Speaker 1: for planners. We used Rosini Weddings. You can actually find
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Speaker 1: a lot of the vendors that we worked with on
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Speaker 1: our wedding picture, which is actually pinned on my Instagram
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Speaker 1: and you'll see, like the photographer, we use the venue
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Speaker 1: that we got married at, along with planners and all that.
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Speaker 1: But that's kind of how I found Rosini was I
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Speaker 1: kind of was just like creeping through Instagram and I
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Speaker 1: came across their Instagram account and I reached out to
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Speaker 1: them and yeah, we just kind of like set up
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Speaker 1: a meeting and it turned out really good.
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Speaker 2: But there we had several meetings.
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Speaker 1: Yes, oh I met with multiple No, I didn't just
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Speaker 1: meet with that.
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Speaker 2: No, don't like, So, don't be don't jump to the
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Speaker 2: first planner because the first Italy planning you find. Don't
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Speaker 2: be afraid to interview multiple planners because you have to
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Speaker 2: ca with them, yes, and you have to feel like
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Speaker 2: they're going to execute what you.
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Speaker 1: Want one hundred percent. That's a good point. We definitely
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Speaker 1: met with a lot of other planners before we went
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Speaker 1: with Rosini. A lot of the planners that we met
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Speaker 1: with were either a one person team or you know,
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Speaker 1: two people in a team. But Rosini had about like
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Speaker 1: four to five people on their planning team, and we
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Speaker 1: just kind of felt more secure with that knowing that
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Speaker 1: there was multiple people that would be taking on different
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Speaker 1: responsibilities for the planning of the wedding days. So highly
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Speaker 1: recommend doing your research and don't just stick to one,
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Speaker 1: you know, talk to multiple and then you can kind
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Speaker 1: of get a feel of their vibe and what kind
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Speaker 1: of suits your preference and like what you think, I
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Speaker 1: don't know, just kind of suits you the best. Someone
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Speaker 1: asks how I found my hair and makeup? Again, literally
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Speaker 1: through Instagram, just scrolling through you know, other photographers that
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Speaker 1: were based in Italy or you know planners. A lot
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Speaker 1: of them actually have the vendors tagged in it, and
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Speaker 1: they had a few hair and makeup options based in
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Speaker 1: on Mafi Coast and that's kind of the one that
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Speaker 1: we decided to go with. And I did a hair
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Speaker 1: and makeup trial when I went to go visit the
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Speaker 1: venue back in May, which was a few months before
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Speaker 1: the wedding. Did you tour your wedding venue before you
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Speaker 1: booked it? So no, no, Well we did go look
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Speaker 1: at wedding venues, which was helpful.
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Speaker 2: We looked at like fifteen. We looked at a lot.
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Speaker 1: So we did technically go down and book the trip
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Speaker 1: and go see the wedding venues, which I highly recommend
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Speaker 1: doing because I think it helped us like narrow it
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Speaker 1: down to what we wanted, because I think we would
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Speaker 1: have just booked some of the ones that we went
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Speaker 1: to and then we saw it in person and we're like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I'm happy we didn't book this.
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Speaker 2: And there was stuff that the venues didn't disclose.
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Speaker 1: Yes, which huge. That's a huge thing when you're booking
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Speaker 1: your venue. There's going to be so many things that
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Speaker 1: you don't even think about, like noise with regulations. I
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Speaker 1: guess they stop music at a certain point outside how
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Speaker 1: many people you can actually fit in the space. Like
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Speaker 1: there were some venues that were actually like smaller, like
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Speaker 1: they couldn't accommodate that many people, and just like random
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Speaker 1: things that you don't really think about.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like there was one it was said we could
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Speaker 2: have one hundred people at the wedding, which is crazy
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Speaker 2: to go over there one hundred people, but I said,
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Speaker 2: you could have one hundred people at the wedding, but
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Speaker 2: for the ceremony it was only twenty. And it was
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Speaker 2: like well, that's kind of a weird thing. It was
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Speaker 2: just because the lawn real they wanted the ceremony to
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Speaker 2: be held can only fit so many people.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, I just know that there's a lot of
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Speaker 1: things to look out for and make sure to communicate
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Speaker 1: all the points that you can with your wedding planner
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Speaker 1: along with the venue and just make sure that it
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Speaker 1: aligns with you. Because there was a lot of Lake
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Speaker 1: Como for an example.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, when you're at La Como U the smaller towns
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Speaker 2: around the lake, they had more regulations at place because
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Speaker 2: it's not such a touristy spot as it is the
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Speaker 2: locals that live there. So I didn't want huge noise,
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Speaker 2: like they didn't want really a loud noise late at night.
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Speaker 2: Everything had to be more tamed and indoors. Yeah, it
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Speaker 2: was very interesting.
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Speaker 1: I think there was only two or three wedding venues
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Speaker 1: in Lake Como that we went to that actually had
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Speaker 1: like the noise maps at like eleven pm or midnight,
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Speaker 1: like all the more eight pm or nine pm, which
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Speaker 1: is crazy to me that you have to keep it quiet.
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Speaker 1: By that point said, some of these.
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Speaker 2: Rules were new, but I'm not really too sure.
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Speaker 1: Anyways, the point is, just make sure to ask all
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Speaker 1: the questions, because it's important when you're putting your money
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Speaker 1: down on a wedding venue that it meets all your requirements.
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Speaker 1: Someone said, I'm having my wedding in October in Italy.
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Speaker 1: Anything last minute advice or tips that you recommend. I think,
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Speaker 1: pack as far in advance as you can. I personally
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Speaker 1: feel like for us, we packed really far in advance
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Speaker 1: in terms of just like little the things that we needed,
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Speaker 1: like our robes that we got customized that we brought down.
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Speaker 1: You know, all the brides made outfits, All the brides
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Speaker 1: made like little details that I did, like their imass
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Speaker 1: and all that. Like, there's so much that we had
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Speaker 1: to pack to bring down, So I'm really happy that
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Speaker 1: I really organized everything, including my honeymoon outfits. Everything, Like,
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Speaker 1: think about how much we packed.
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Speaker 2: Do not be afraid to bring or buy your bag?
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Speaker 1: Yes, oh my gosh, yes we brought.
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Speaker 2: Did we bring an extra suitcase?
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Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, yeah we did.
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Speaker 2: We brought extra suitcase with stuff just for the wedding
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Speaker 2: week for rehearsal, dinner, the events before the wedding close
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Speaker 2: for that outfits, and then we brought that all in
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Speaker 2: a smaller bag, and then when we were over there
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Speaker 2: after the wedding, we transferred all my stuff out of
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Speaker 2: the larger bag into the smaller bag because I still
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Speaker 2: had a suit and other stuff in that big bag,
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Speaker 2: And we actually ended up taking a bunch of the signage.
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Speaker 2: What else do we take?
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Speaker 1: We took a bunch of stuff from the menus on
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Speaker 1: the plates, our vow books.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of stuff. There's a lot of
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Speaker 2: stuff that we took back from the wedding, and we
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Speaker 2: set that bag back with my parents.
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Speaker 1: Including zach suit and my wedding dress. That way, we
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Speaker 1: didn't have it for the honeymoon. So honestly, pay to
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Speaker 1: have the extra bag if you're over there, or buy
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Speaker 1: one when down there.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. I do think that's yeah,
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Speaker 1: really needed, especially since you are doing your wedding in Italy. Yes,
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Speaker 1: this I felt like was such a like it made
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Speaker 1: me feel less stressed knowing that we had the air
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Speaker 1: tag in it, and it just like we were able
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Speaker 1: to track it wherever it was. Keeping constant communication with
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Speaker 1: your planner I think was good. Like we had text chats,
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Speaker 1: we were able to constantly text them. They were kind
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Speaker 1: of good at like reminding us what we had to
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Speaker 1: bring or what they had or what we're still waiting for.
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Speaker 1: So I feel like that was super helpful instead of
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Speaker 1: communicating through email, was just being able to text each
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Speaker 1: other just about you know, last minute things. So if
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Speaker 1: you don't have a text setup with your planners, you
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Speaker 1: can use an app called WhatsApp, so you don't have
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Speaker 1: to worry about you know, destination texting or anything.
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Speaker 2: Oh, do not your if your wedding is October, you're
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Speaker 2: probably okay to still try and get some stuff wrapped up.
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Speaker 2: Don't wait until a week before to finalize your signage.
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Speaker 1: Your men used your Yeah, we did have that issue. Well,
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Speaker 1: we didn't wait a week before. The issue was is
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Speaker 1: that it got shipped to the wrong.
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Speaker 2: Or no, it got shipped to the planners. It got
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Speaker 2: shipped to the plan they got held.
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Speaker 1: X yes, and then FedEx decided to keep it and
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Speaker 1: not like attempt to deliver it again. So then the
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Speaker 1: planners had to well we had to pay for a
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Speaker 1: new train for them to come basically and they had
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Speaker 1: to go pick it up.
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Speaker 2: If you're getting anything shipped to your venue, your planner
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Speaker 2: get it done well before two days before or.
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Speaker 1: Pay for express, like do something, because yeah, we were
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Speaker 1: pretty stressed. I don't know what happened there though it
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Speaker 1: is still to this date.
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Speaker 2: We ordered late, I think really for in advance.
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Speaker 1: The girl was in England and I guess there was
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Speaker 1: just an issue. I don't really remember. I didn't order
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Speaker 1: it that list, I can remember.
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Speaker 2: I just remember being on the phone driving to Rebella.
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Speaker 1: Oh, it was so stressful. That was probably the most
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Speaker 1: stressful thing we had throughout the wedding. Everything else was fine.
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Speaker 1: That was the only thing. It somehow made it. So
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Speaker 1: that's all I care about because it did actually make
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Speaker 1: a huge difference in the visual aspect. So I'm really
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Speaker 1: happy that it ended up all coming in. But I
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Speaker 1: think that's probably the best advice. I mean, October, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: October is going to be the perfect month because it's
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Speaker 1: not going to be too hot. We unfortunately had a
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Speaker 1: very hot wedding day. I was sweating my freaking ass off,
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Speaker 1: like literally. Oh anyways, I don't regret it at all.
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Speaker 1: In terms of like wearing my hair down. I'm really
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Speaker 1: happy that I did that because I personally feel the
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Speaker 1: most confident with my hair down, especially for pictures and such,
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Speaker 1: so I felt like if I put my hair up
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Speaker 1: in a slick back, butun I think I would have
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Speaker 1: regretted it just because it's not my favorite hairstyle on myself.
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Speaker 1: I love a high ponytail, but you can't rock a
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Speaker 1: pony with the veil, Like, it just wasn't happening. So
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Speaker 1: I'm happy that I went with that decision because I'm
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Speaker 1: really happy with how the photos turned out, especially with
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Speaker 1: my dress. But pack an Amazon fan, Like, if you
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Speaker 1: are doing a wedding in the summer, either in Italy
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Speaker 1: or wherever, or somewhere that's going to be really hot,
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Speaker 1: you can literally get those cheap mini fans from Amazon.
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Speaker 1: And my two mative honors had a fan on me.
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Speaker 1: I think you had a fan on me at one point,
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Speaker 1: Like we were constantly just fanning me, just because I
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Speaker 1: had obviously a really heavy dress on. But yeah, those
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Speaker 1: are some tips that we would recommend for your wedding.
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Speaker 1: What was the most memorable thing of the entire experience?
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Speaker 1: What would you say your favorite part was. I guess
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Speaker 1: maybe from the start of the wedding planning to the
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Speaker 1: actual wedding day.
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Speaker 2: Is it bad? My favorite? Is it actually the wedding
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Speaker 2: day oh what is it ABNB.
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Speaker 1: Oh okay, well that's TECTI for the wedding, but.
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Speaker 2: It was something we planned afterwards, like com clearly afterwards
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Speaker 2: on our own.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. So we did a whole wedding event
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Speaker 1: where it was multiple days instead of just like the
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Speaker 1: wedding day. We did a welcome party, a rehearsal dinner,
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Speaker 1: and then the wedding day. So Zach's referring to the
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Speaker 1: welcome party. We got this beautiful airbnb in Ravello that
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Speaker 1: literally overlooked the mountains. It was the most insane ARABNBA
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Speaker 1: I think I've ever heard.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, a big rooftop patio, big courtyard patio.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, slept I think twenty three.
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Speaker 2: Twenty maybe, Yeah, it was big except a lot of people. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: so wedding parties and friends.
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Speaker 1: And then like everyone else in the wedding, they had
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Speaker 1: to find their own accommodation. Yeah, which was fine because
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Speaker 1: Revella was a really small town, which is why we
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Speaker 1: kind of went that direction. I know some of you
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Speaker 1: guys actually asked how we dealt with accommodations and such,
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Speaker 1: and we ended up booking the airbnb for the bridesmaids
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Speaker 1: and the parents. But everyone else. We got them to
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Speaker 1: find their own accommodation. So yeah, because it was a
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Speaker 1: small town, it was very easy for people to find
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Speaker 1: things in like walking distance, no issues in terms of
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Speaker 1: getting to the wedding venue and anything, which we obviously
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Speaker 1: were really grateful for. I think we probably gave some
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Speaker 1: guidance in terms of like, hey, try and book near
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Speaker 1: this vicinity. That way, people knew that they weren't like
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Speaker 1: having to take a taxi over to Ravello just because
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Speaker 1: Ravelo is a really small town up in the mountains.
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Speaker 1: But anyways, this airbnb insane and we actually decided pretty
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Speaker 1: last minute to hire a DJ for this airbnb terrorist,
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Speaker 1: which then we started to get stressed because we found
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Speaker 1: out that the town I guess had strict music policies
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Speaker 1: for like where we were.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of we read something about oh, no noise
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Speaker 2: up to this time, blah blah blah. And this was
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Speaker 2: while after we booked.
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Speaker 1: The djone someone was like, oh, the neighbors are pretty strict.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, the hosts of the neighbors are pretty strict. And
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Speaker 2: then DJ showed up and he happened to be from
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Speaker 2: the town, so we were like, hey, well, thankfully your
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Speaker 2: mom also speaks Italian, so it's super easy. Your mom
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Speaker 2: went over, explained the situation. The neighbor walked over and goes,
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Speaker 2: I know everybody, I know everybody Rebella, We're fine, don't
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Speaker 2: worry about it. And he just played all night.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so my mom's for the Italian, So for her,
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Speaker 1: she was able to kind of like communicate and just
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Speaker 1: make sure that you know, we weren't disrespecting anyone in
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Speaker 1: terms of like the music being too loud or anything.
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Speaker 1: The DJ was better than our wedding dj. Like, he
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Speaker 1: was incredible. We were so shocked how good he was.
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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, I think we just requests.
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Speaker 1: I think we just literally asked our planner, It's like, oh,
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Speaker 1: what do you recommend for a DJ? And Ravello and
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Speaker 1: they recommended this guy and he was so fun. He
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Speaker 1: played all the music that we would love. Yeah, he
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Speaker 1: was really good. I don't know. I think that was
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Speaker 1: just like the best way to kick off the start
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Speaker 1: to the wedding weekend for sure. I think for me,
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Speaker 1: obviously the wedding day I think was my favorite. But
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Speaker 1: I loved doing our first look and our vows. That
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Speaker 1: truly was the most memorable part for me. That I
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Speaker 1: think being with everybody that was probably the best part,
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Speaker 1: Like being with all the guests and the bridesmaids and
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Speaker 1: all that. I would say that night was the best
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Speaker 1: by far. I agree with that, But I think like between,
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Speaker 1: like the moment between you and I think that was
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Speaker 1: like my favorite part of the entire experience, was just
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Speaker 1: being able to have that moment of seeing you in
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Speaker 1: your suit for the first time and you seeing me
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Speaker 1: in my dress and having just like pouring out our
16:49
Speaker 1: feelings and I don't know, obviously we have a lot
16:54
Speaker 1: of history, so being able to have that moment of
16:56
Speaker 1: just like spilling everything was just truly the most amazing
17:00
Speaker 1: moment and that was probably my fart of my favorite moment.
17:03
Speaker 1: How did you handle the stress of spending money? I
17:07
Speaker 1: think what's important is to save before you decided to
17:11
Speaker 1: start planning wedding, because I don't think I would have
17:15
Speaker 1: executed the wedding had I not had any Like if
17:18
Speaker 1: I had no savings in my account, I definitely wouldn't
17:20
Speaker 1: have done the wedding, you know what I mean, Like
17:22
Speaker 1: you need to create the start of something for the wedding.
17:26
Speaker 1: That way you can go into it feeling a little
17:27
Speaker 1: bit stressed. I mean, obviously, regardless, it's stressful, like you're
17:31
Speaker 1: spending a lot of money. It is what it is.
17:32
Speaker 1: But I think if, like you know that you saved
17:34
Speaker 1: all this money for this moment, that it feels a
17:37
Speaker 1: little less stressful knowing that.
17:38
Speaker 2: Leng Yeah, but it didn't matter how much money we
17:41
Speaker 2: had saved, it just kept getting more and more.
17:44
Speaker 1: Yeah for you, Yeah, because you see the money coming
17:47
Speaker 1: out of the account and you're like, oh god, that's
17:48
Speaker 1: a lot.
17:49
Speaker 2: Well, and our budget might have changed a couple of times.
17:52
Speaker 1: Yeah, the budget did change a few times. To be
17:54
Speaker 1: fully transparent, we're not going to disclose what we spent
17:56
Speaker 1: just because I think that's a very personal question. I
17:58
Speaker 1: know some of you guys actually asked that. I think
18:01
Speaker 1: if you are currently planning a wedding, I'm sure you
18:04
Speaker 1: get an understanding of what venues typically cost along with
18:08
Speaker 1: some blates, and it's just it's not cheap. It's it's
18:11
Speaker 1: very very expensive. And as Zach said, of course our
18:14
Speaker 1: budget changed a few times, but I still think we've
18:17
Speaker 1: still kept it in a pretty appropriate amount from what
18:20
Speaker 1: it's actually gonna be. Like, it was not appropriate. He's
18:22
Speaker 1: not happy with it, but do you regret anything exactly?
18:26
Speaker 1: I don't exactly, So you say that, but yeah, no,
18:31
Speaker 1: it definitely was. Yeah, I don't regret anything.
18:34
Speaker 2: Don't go. Don't go above your means. Yeah, don't go.
18:38
Speaker 2: It's like buying a house. You don't want to end
18:39
Speaker 2: up house poor. You don't end up mortgage poor. You
18:42
Speaker 2: don't want to end up wedding for you don't want
18:44
Speaker 2: to save all this money for you know, for us
18:48
Speaker 2: it was three days plus a plus a three week
18:51
Speaker 2: trip after all this stuff, right, but you don't want
18:53
Speaker 2: to spend money on realistic one day. Yeah, and it
18:58
Speaker 2: affect the next three years of your life because you
19:00
Speaker 2: went above and beyond what you could afford.
19:02
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, actually there was one thing that we had
19:05
Speaker 1: to cut out of our wedding budget that I really wanted,
19:09
Speaker 1: but financially it just didn't make sense to do so.
19:12
Speaker 1: But essentially, Zach and I did this white runway on
19:15
Speaker 1: the grass that you know, what would you call it
19:19
Speaker 1: the wedding aisle there with the floral arrangements and all that,
19:22
Speaker 1: And our wedding venue was on grass. So in order
19:27
Speaker 1: to have that like flat white surface for the wedding aisle,
19:31
Speaker 1: we were gonna have to pay. I think it was
19:33
Speaker 1: like twenty thousand dollars euro? Was it euro?
19:36
Speaker 2: It was a euro?
19:37
Speaker 1: Okay, it was twenty thousand euro, which.
19:40
Speaker 2: Is what's wild for a platform.
19:42
Speaker 1: For a platform, because they would have had to customize
19:45
Speaker 1: it and they would have had to bring it up
19:47
Speaker 1: in Revello with with trucks and everything. That just would
19:50
Speaker 1: have cost so much money. So I'm like, there's no
19:53
Speaker 1: freaking way I'm paying that kind of money for a
19:55
Speaker 1: wedding aisle essentially, So then we decided to just do
19:58
Speaker 1: the white rug, and I think it it still turned
20:00
Speaker 1: out great in the photos. I just I think in
20:02
Speaker 1: terms of a regret, I didn't like how like it
20:05
Speaker 1: kind of looked a little like wonky when people stepped
20:08
Speaker 1: a little bit, you know what I mean. That was
20:09
Speaker 1: the only thing that I didn't love about that. But
20:12
Speaker 1: I don't regret doing it because I personally didn't love
20:15
Speaker 1: the grass because I remember when we saw the grass,
20:17
Speaker 1: the grass was also kind of semi dead, so it
20:19
Speaker 1: kind of would have looked like you know what I mean, yeah,
20:23
Speaker 1: the other day once they have. So anyways, I'm still
20:27
Speaker 1: happy we did the white runner. I just think like, obviously,
20:30
Speaker 1: if I had the budget to pay that much. I
20:32
Speaker 1: would have, but I didn't, so I don't regret it.
20:36
Speaker 1: If you guys hear Freddy breathing or licking or whatever,
20:40
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. We're trying so hard to record this episode
20:43
Speaker 1: right now, and I'm sure if you're a dog owner
20:45
Speaker 1: you probably get it. Yeah, that's definitely people can hear
20:48
Speaker 1: him doing that. I love this question. How did you
20:53
Speaker 1: stay present during the big day? I think one thing
20:55
Speaker 1: that Zach and I talked about the entire like, well
20:59
Speaker 1: not the the first few days leading up to the wedding.
21:02
Speaker 1: I think the first thing that we said to each
21:03
Speaker 1: other was let's try and make this day about us,
21:07
Speaker 1: not about our guests. Like we kept telling each other that,
21:09
Speaker 1: like we really wanted to be like obviously present in
21:11
Speaker 1: the moment, but like remember what we kept saying, We're like,
21:14
Speaker 1: of course, like our guests were a huge priority. But
21:16
Speaker 1: I think because we had the two events leading up
21:19
Speaker 1: to the wedding, and.
21:19
Speaker 2: Because it was a smaller wedding people it's easier to
21:23
Speaker 2: talk to everybody before the wedding. Yes, with the two events,
21:26
Speaker 2: but it was people who are directly people who we
21:31
Speaker 2: see all the time, immediate family, there was no, oh,
21:36
Speaker 2: you're my mom's third cousin, twice removed like yeah, this
21:40
Speaker 2: is what I'm doing for work now, and then not
21:42
Speaker 2: knowing who you are on your wedding day.
21:43
Speaker 1: Everyone that was invited to our wedding was people that
21:46
Speaker 1: we would talk to within like a few weeks, a
21:48
Speaker 1: few months. Like it was people that we had you know,
21:50
Speaker 1: continuous communication with. But having the two events, like with
21:54
Speaker 1: the welcome dinner and the rehearsal dinner, like we were
21:56
Speaker 1: spending time with everybody. I wouldn't really say we were
21:58
Speaker 1: like spending too much time you I like we were trying,
22:01
Speaker 1: but the wedding day specifically, because we dedicated the two
22:04
Speaker 1: other days of trying to like you know, socialized everybody connect.
22:09
Speaker 1: I feel like the wedding day we were fully just
22:11
Speaker 1: like make sure this is about us. And so I
22:14
Speaker 1: think we kind of like made that clear to people
22:17
Speaker 1: too that we wanted to be you know, we want
22:20
Speaker 1: to be alone. But like that we were very much
22:22
Speaker 1: like there for each other in a sense, you know
22:25
Speaker 1: what I mean. Were you both involved in the decision
22:27
Speaker 1: making or was it mainly you? We were very both involved.
22:30
Speaker 1: I would say I definitely didn't make the decisions without
22:33
Speaker 1: Zach's approval. I think I kind of just said, hey,
22:36
Speaker 1: this is what I'm thinking. Are you okay with that?
22:38
Speaker 1: Are you not okay with that?
22:40
Speaker 2: I think this is how we do everything though, because
22:43
Speaker 2: you have a vision and then I'm the realistic one
22:45
Speaker 2: and I got to kind of crush your vision sometimes
22:47
Speaker 2: and bring it backyard.
22:48
Speaker 1: Yeah. I guess a situation that's very relevant right now
22:51
Speaker 1: is our backyard. I have a vision. Zach was basically
22:54
Speaker 1: able to execute it in the sense of, like you know,
22:56
Speaker 1: kind of building it, bringing it to life. So when
22:59
Speaker 1: you think about the wedding, I have a vision, but
23:01
Speaker 1: Zach kind of talks about the logistics and the money
23:04
Speaker 1: and the costs associated to doing those things, and he's like, okay, realistically,
23:08
Speaker 1: like we could do this floral arrangement, but I don't
23:11
Speaker 1: think we should be doing this floral arrangement that you
23:13
Speaker 1: really want. Like, let's think of you know what I mean,
23:15
Speaker 1: the legit.
23:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you would say all these are the flowers
23:18
Speaker 2: I want completely, and then you would you would isolate, right.
23:22
Speaker 2: I think it's important that both parties involved in, you know,
23:25
Speaker 2: making decisions on the wedding, because it's not just I
23:30
Speaker 2: guess it's it's your wedding day, but we're both involved.
23:32
Speaker 2: It's money that we are both spending on this. Yeah,
23:35
Speaker 2: and you know the floral arrangement. Like you, you you
23:38
Speaker 2: get your mind fixed on which is great. You have
23:41
Speaker 2: a specific detail for one thing, but you're like, okay,
23:44
Speaker 2: here's option one through five for the flowers. I like
23:47
Speaker 2: option to the best. This is the best one. This
23:50
Speaker 2: one looks most beautiful. And then you flip your mind
23:53
Speaker 2: over to the next day. You get something for the
23:55
Speaker 2: drapery and you're like, okay, well I like drapery option
23:58
Speaker 2: number one, and it's also the most expensive. And then
24:00
Speaker 2: you look at the table setting like this. He goes, okay, well,
24:03
Speaker 2: we can't keep picking the most expensive thing. Yes, obviously
24:06
Speaker 2: we're going with the most expensive thing, but now we
24:08
Speaker 2: need to pick. Would you rather the flowers be a wow,
24:11
Speaker 2: the drapery to be okay, that's nice, and the table
24:14
Speaker 2: setting and the average or do you want all three
24:17
Speaker 2: of them to be like wow, that's nice? Or do
24:19
Speaker 2: you want to blow your budget and go way over
24:22
Speaker 2: and then be wedding poor and have everything back? Oh
24:24
Speaker 2: my god, yeah, I think yeah.
24:26
Speaker 1: To build off Sack's point, I think no matter what,
24:29
Speaker 1: it's a team effort, and I think I had the vision.
24:33
Speaker 1: Zach had the brains behind how can we execute the
24:35
Speaker 1: vision but within the budget? Right, So he was kind
24:37
Speaker 1: of like the finance guy along with Okay, let's rank
24:40
Speaker 1: this stuff that we're getting right, like as you said, like, okay,
24:43
Speaker 1: is the floral arrangement the most important? Is the drapery
24:46
Speaker 1: the most important? And then we kind of allocated, Okay, well,
24:49
Speaker 1: let's put more money towards the flowers and less money
24:51
Speaker 1: towards the drapes.
24:52
Speaker 2: It's good to work as a team, one person of
24:55
Speaker 2: the vision, one person know how to execute that vision
24:58
Speaker 2: or try to get the best vision for the best price,
25:00
Speaker 2: and try and negotiate things and go back to the
25:04
Speaker 2: a new Kala specific vision. So it was very important
25:06
Speaker 2: for me to hammer home to the planners that hey, look,
25:09
Speaker 2: this is what we want, but this is our price.
25:11
Speaker 2: This is where we have to get everything under here,
25:14
Speaker 2: and it's very important to work with your planners at
25:16
Speaker 2: the same time.
25:17
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then the planners will most likely like offer
25:20
Speaker 1: two different options or three different options, and then you
25:22
Speaker 1: and I kind of like work with It.
25:24
Speaker 2: Would be also very easy for a planner to take
25:25
Speaker 2: advantage of one person if it was just one person
25:27
Speaker 2: making a decision.
25:28
Speaker 1: But we were making all the spreadsheets like you were
25:30
Speaker 1: doing out all that. So that was really helpful because
25:32
Speaker 1: I do not like doing that kind of stuff, So
25:34
Speaker 1: that was really helpful. What was something that you did
25:37
Speaker 1: to help ease any stress? Anything? Very simple? Okay, here's
25:41
Speaker 1: one example. I had one thing that I thought I
25:45
Speaker 1: was going to be stressed about. But I don't know
25:47
Speaker 1: if this is a good thing or not. But in
25:49
Speaker 1: order for me to like eliminate that stress, I personally
25:52
Speaker 1: just like didn't even think about it. So the weather
25:56
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I literally didn't look at the weather appitt all.
26:00
Speaker 1: I made it. I literally made it a priority to
26:02
Speaker 1: not look at the weather app because I knew it
26:04
Speaker 1: was going to stress me out, and I wanted with
26:06
Speaker 1: the intention of that whether it rains or it's the
26:08
Speaker 1: most you know, beautiful day ever, it's going to be
26:11
Speaker 1: the best day ever, regardless. So I kind of like
26:13
Speaker 1: went with that mindset that it didn't you know, it
26:17
Speaker 1: didn't matter at the end of the day. I personally
26:18
Speaker 1: felt like if I was constantly checking the weather app,
26:20
Speaker 1: that was going to create more stress for me, and
26:23
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to have to think about that
26:25
Speaker 1: one component that was going to bother me, you know
26:27
Speaker 1: what I mean. So I kind of avoided it. And
26:29
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's something like to recommend or all,
26:33
Speaker 1: but like it. It did end up being a beautiful day,
26:35
Speaker 1: and I think I had three people come up to
26:36
Speaker 1: me saying that it technically was supposed to rain that
26:39
Speaker 1: day and it didn't, so.
26:40
Speaker 2: I kind of forgot about that. Yeah, yeah, stressed without
26:42
Speaker 2: the weather. I really I was thinking more about like
26:45
Speaker 2: the day of stuff and leading up, like, right, you
26:47
Speaker 2: didn't you didn't know about the signage all that stuff
26:50
Speaker 2: not being in the mail until it got down to
26:54
Speaker 2: the tenth hour. I'm like, Hi, by the way, I'm
26:55
Speaker 2: paying for a train ticket for them to go this stuff.
26:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, because so AKA the husband kind of deal with there.
27:01
Speaker 2: And then I'm thankful. I had some really good groomsmen
27:05
Speaker 2: and my best man. They were great. The bridesmaids as well,
27:10
Speaker 2: but like the groomsmen and best man, they were very
27:13
Speaker 2: much like anything you need delegate to us, and I
27:16
Speaker 2: think it's I.
27:17
Speaker 1: Think at one point the planners like we also, like
27:19
Speaker 1: the my maid of honors stepped up in terms of
27:21
Speaker 1: like they said to the planners, like if there's anything
27:23
Speaker 1: that seems stressful, tell us, not the bride, like are
27:26
Speaker 1: my maid of honors? Kind of stepped up in that
27:28
Speaker 1: sense where you know, they would go handle a situation
27:31
Speaker 1: without me even knowing. If I'm getting my makeup done
27:33
Speaker 1: and something was happening, you know with the way things
27:37
Speaker 1: were going on the venue, they would get out of
27:39
Speaker 1: the room and they would deal with it that way.
27:40
Speaker 1: I didn't have to think twice about it, right.
27:42
Speaker 2: So I think delegation, Yeah, delegation was huge, and I
27:45
Speaker 2: think it pays off the way it's some really good
27:47
Speaker 2: people on our wedding party who knew enough to you know,
27:50
Speaker 2: come to me and say what can I do? Even
27:52
Speaker 2: the bridesmaids were comany, hey what can I do? Take
27:54
Speaker 2: you off Kayley's place? What can I do to help
27:55
Speaker 2: ease her stress? And it made a very yeah that
27:59
Speaker 2: our wedding party really wanted to help out.
28:01
Speaker 1: It wasn't even like us asking like some of them
28:04
Speaker 1: like as you said, like they would straight up just
28:06
Speaker 1: ask us saying like hey, what can I do? Like
28:08
Speaker 1: I want to do something. I don't want to just
28:09
Speaker 1: sit here like I want to be able to help
28:10
Speaker 1: any way that I can, which was, yeah, made it
28:13
Speaker 1: less stressful, obviously knowing that they were willing to do that. Okay,
28:16
Speaker 1: this next question was, I'm a month post wedding. Any
28:19
Speaker 1: tips for not falling into the post wedding depression?
28:23
Speaker 2: That's a questioned because I feel like you fell right in.
28:26
Speaker 1: I fell right into it. I'm not gonna lie. I
28:29
Speaker 1: was so sad after the honeymoon for like a month.
28:33
Speaker 1: I think the best thing that kept me, you know,
28:37
Speaker 1: I guess happy moving on to the next like trying
28:40
Speaker 1: to think of like the next thing, right, and not
28:42
Speaker 1: feeling that depression. Of course, I definitely was really sad
28:46
Speaker 1: for a month, as I said, was really emotional, just
28:48
Speaker 1: because it literally was the best month of my entire life.
28:51
Speaker 2: That and because you put so much effort into much.
28:54
Speaker 1: Effort, so much energy for yeah, as you said, like
28:57
Speaker 1: for fourteen months, like it literally that's all I would
28:59
Speaker 1: think about, right, And then right after the wedding Day's
29:01
Speaker 1: over and the honeymoon's over, It's like, now, what, like
29:04
Speaker 1: all my energy has just disappeared, right in terms of
29:07
Speaker 1: like what I'm putting the effort towards. I personally think
29:10
Speaker 1: just kind of honestly keeping yourself busy, like doing things
29:15
Speaker 1: like just to kind of get your mind off of
29:17
Speaker 1: it a little bit, and then over time, I do
29:18
Speaker 1: think it just kind of eventually goes away. Like of
29:21
Speaker 1: course I look back at our photos and I'm like, oh,
29:23
Speaker 1: that was the best day ever. But I don't think
29:25
Speaker 1: of like, oh my god, like I have nothing to
29:28
Speaker 1: do now, like I have nothing to prepare for. I
29:30
Speaker 1: think it's more so like think about the next exciting
29:33
Speaker 1: part of your life, Like there's so many other things
29:35
Speaker 1: to look forward to, like starting a family with your husband,
29:38
Speaker 1: or buying another house, or you know, there's always another
29:42
Speaker 1: step that's going to be happening. Maybe it's getting a
29:44
Speaker 1: new job or a new career, like promotion at work
29:47
Speaker 1: at work, or you know, for me, I was really
29:48
Speaker 1: excited about coming back and like, you know, really putting
29:51
Speaker 1: my energy towards work again and like getting back into
29:54
Speaker 1: the podcast, and you know, looking at starting my brand.
29:58
Speaker 1: Like there were so many other things that I could
29:59
Speaker 1: put my mind and energy towards, which kind of helped.
30:02
Speaker 1: So having that distraction of knowing that there's more things
30:06
Speaker 1: to come that are going to be really exciting in
30:09
Speaker 1: the next chapter and in your life, I think made
30:11
Speaker 1: it easier to kind of get through it. And obviously
30:14
Speaker 1: now we're a year out and I don't have the
30:16
Speaker 1: depression anymore. But I think, honestly, everybody goes through wedding blues,
30:20
Speaker 1: and some people it might take them a week or two,
30:22
Speaker 1: some people might deal with it for a month, like
30:24
Speaker 1: it really just depends on the person. But I truly
30:26
Speaker 1: do think that everybody goes through a little bit of
30:28
Speaker 1: a depression, especially when you plan it for so long.
30:31
Speaker 1: One thing that I feel like I always did was
30:34
Speaker 1: I always tried to make our relationship a priority, but
30:37
Speaker 1: also like being able to still have fun with my
30:39
Speaker 1: friends and have the college experience along with, you know,
30:43
Speaker 1: obviously furthering my career of you know, going through schooling
30:49
Speaker 1: and being able to get a job after college and
30:51
Speaker 1: all that. But I did get a scholarship in high
30:54
Speaker 1: school to go play in West Virginia Tech. So it
30:58
Speaker 1: is a call in West Virginia, and I decided to
31:03
Speaker 1: turn it down because there was multiple factors. I personally
31:07
Speaker 1: didn't want to play soccer at that high of a
31:10
Speaker 1: level anymore. I kind of wanted to die down my
31:12
Speaker 1: sports once I got to college, I had friends that
31:15
Speaker 1: were also staying in Ottawa. Like one of my best friends,
31:18
Speaker 1: she was going to Ottawa you and I don't know.
31:21
Speaker 1: I kind of was like, you know, I would rather say,
31:23
Speaker 1: like where my friends are, which a lot of them
31:25
Speaker 1: were staying in Ottawa. Another one of my good friends
31:27
Speaker 1: went to Carlton University and then I knew Zach was
31:31
Speaker 1: also staying. So I don't know. I kind of like
31:33
Speaker 1: made my decision on that. And I will be fully transparent.
31:36
Speaker 1: I am a homebody, Like I didn't ever want to
31:40
Speaker 1: like move to another city and I still don't to
31:42
Speaker 1: this day. Like I really do love being near my
31:45
Speaker 1: family and friends. So I feel like that kind of
31:47
Speaker 1: helped our relationship a lot is knowing that neither of
31:49
Speaker 1: us were moving away. But as I said, like we
31:52
Speaker 1: both are very driven individuals, so it was nice because like,
31:56
Speaker 1: of course, like we made our relationship our priority, but
31:59
Speaker 1: we both like respected that we wanted to focus on
32:02
Speaker 1: our careers and our school. And I don't know, I
32:05
Speaker 1: just feel like nothing really, I would say, obviously things change,
32:09
Speaker 1: but in a good way.
32:11
Speaker 2: I agree. I think get the nail on the head.
32:13
Speaker 2: There was a little bit of a not even a
32:15
Speaker 2: growing curve. But it was just you know me and
32:19
Speaker 2: you met new friends through college. I met new friends
32:21
Speaker 2: through work. It was just a different adaptation to our
32:25
Speaker 2: lives and it was more about us being open with
32:28
Speaker 2: what you know, new people, your experiences, that kind of stuff.
32:32
Speaker 1: I felt like I was hanging a lot with like
32:34
Speaker 1: your new friends. You were hanging a lot with my
32:36
Speaker 1: new friends. I think we both were always like willing
32:38
Speaker 1: to try different things for each other, which again is
32:42
Speaker 1: very important. You need to be able to allow each
32:45
Speaker 1: other to like adapt into your lifestyle or into your
32:49
Speaker 1: lives with you know, the people you care about, the
32:51
Speaker 1: people that you want to introduce each other to. All that.
32:54
Speaker 1: So I think that answers the question in terms of
32:58
Speaker 1: like that. So yeah, another couple question is how did
33:02
Speaker 1: you know your partner was the one? I go back
33:04
Speaker 1: and forth all the time with my BF of three years.
33:07
Speaker 2: I knew answer. We're just staring at you.
33:11
Speaker 1: Was gonna say, I I'll go first.
33:14
Speaker 2: You always go first, Okay, so then you yeah, because
33:16
Speaker 2: I'm worried I'm not gonna match your better than mine? Sorry,
33:21
Speaker 2: what is it? How did you know they were the one?
33:23
Speaker 1: How did you know I was the one that.
33:27
Speaker 2: How did I know you were the one? Kelly? You
33:30
Speaker 2: just one day I just looked at you from across
33:32
Speaker 2: the kitchen and it just hit me and I just
33:35
Speaker 2: I just knew it was gonna be you. No our
33:38
Speaker 2: our you know. Open communication was very important for us
33:42
Speaker 2: about wants and you know, goals in our life and
33:49
Speaker 2: making sure your what you what you want the lines
33:51
Speaker 2: of your partner. Kelly and I were both we've touched
33:54
Speaker 2: on it. Both very work driven. You know, we both
33:59
Speaker 2: wanted big things far as for our careers and for ourselves,
34:02
Speaker 2: and it aligned with each other. You know. We wanted
34:03
Speaker 2: to you know, same sized family, We wanted to live
34:05
Speaker 2: in the same area, didn't want to move by the city. Yeah,
34:10
Speaker 2: it just seemed like everything just lined up for us.
34:12
Speaker 2: And you know, I got along well with I get
34:15
Speaker 2: along well with her family, She gets along well with
34:17
Speaker 2: my family. All these things just kind of worked and it,
34:22
Speaker 2: I don't know, it was accumulation of a lot of things,
34:24
Speaker 2: and then you know, just spending time with you, it
34:26
Speaker 2: felt felt natural, It felt right. It felt like, Okay,
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Speaker 2: this is you know, this is what I want for
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Speaker 2: the rest of my life. That's kind of how I
34:34
Speaker 2: was able to figure it out.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was. My answer would be very similar to that.
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Speaker 1: I really like how we were very open and honest
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Speaker 1: since the beginning of our relationship of what we wanted
34:43
Speaker 1: for our future, Like we both agreed that you know, oh,
34:46
Speaker 1: we both want two kids. You know, as you said,
34:49
Speaker 1: we both see each other like growing up here in Ottawa.
34:51
Speaker 1: I think it's important to communicate at an early stage
34:55
Speaker 1: in your relationship what your goals and aspirations are in life,
34:58
Speaker 1: because I think if they don't line, that makes it
35:01
Speaker 1: really difficult to be with someone that just doesn't have
35:04
Speaker 1: the same future as you. And I think obviously that
35:07
Speaker 1: motivates you guys to continue the relationship. But I think
35:11
Speaker 1: for Zach, for me personally, I don't know, there's something
35:14
Speaker 1: about his personality that just like really clicks well with me.
35:18
Speaker 1: I think he's like my perfect He's my perfect partner
35:22
Speaker 1: in crime. For sure. Zach is always there for me
35:26
Speaker 1: in the sense where I just feel like he's always
35:27
Speaker 1: been like the best supportive partner and I just don't
35:31
Speaker 1: think anyone would would be able to tolerate me. No,
35:36
Speaker 1: I just think like we just had the perfect pair.
35:39
Speaker 1: I really don't know how to explain it, Like I
35:41
Speaker 1: don't know what I would do without him. I truly don't.
35:43
Speaker 1: Like he literally just always corrects me in the best way,
35:47
Speaker 1: or you know, whenever I'm trying to build up a point,
35:49
Speaker 1: like he's he knows exactly what I'm trying to say,
35:51
Speaker 1: so he's able to build me off. Like You're just
35:53
Speaker 1: always like that person that I just know you're gonna
35:55
Speaker 1: be able to like be there for me and anything,
35:58
Speaker 1: like literally in anything, like not even like when I communicate,
36:01
Speaker 1: but just like sure, but even just like when we're
36:05
Speaker 1: playing sports, like you're always there to kind of just
36:08
Speaker 1: like okay, yeah, like do this, tweak this, You'll be good.
36:10
Speaker 1: Like you're always trying to make me a better person,
36:12
Speaker 1: I guess in a way. And I think that's like
36:14
Speaker 1: really good to have that in a partner, because if
36:16
Speaker 1: they're trying to make you better, I think that's so special.
36:23
Speaker 1: I think they would based some of your answer. So
36:27
Speaker 1: that concludes our episode for today. We kind of just
36:30
Speaker 1: threw in a lot more wedding questions than a couple questions,
36:32
Speaker 1: just because I feel like a lot of the questions
36:34
Speaker 1: were more so wedding related, which I hope that kind
36:37
Speaker 1: of got the point across for people who might be
36:39
Speaker 1: planning a wedding, or are thinking about planning a wedding
36:42
Speaker 1: in Italy, or just who had questions about wedding planning
36:46
Speaker 1: in general. But I still can't believe.
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Speaker 2: We're celebrating crazy.
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Speaker 1: That's literally crazy. What are we doing for our one year?
36:54
Speaker 1: We can tell them that act like, what are we
36:58
Speaker 1: doing for our one year? We're going over dinner. I
37:04
Speaker 1: haven't booked the restaurant.
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Speaker 2: Yet, but I'm going to wet. It's Wednesday, and we
37:09
Speaker 2: don't have a reservation for Friday.
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Speaker 1: It's actually Tuesday, first off, but podcast comes out Wednesday. Yeah,
37:16
Speaker 1: that's true, but I'll book it tomorrow when night, when.
37:19
Speaker 2: The when the podcast is out, we should have a
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Speaker 2: dinner reservation.
37:23
Speaker 1: But it's also Ottawa's. You don't need to have a
37:26
Speaker 1: reservation bunked two.
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Speaker 2: Weeks the day before.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I actually have a few places that I
37:32
Speaker 1: wanted to show you before, Ben, because we're gonna fall
37:34
Speaker 1: asleep here Zach's yawning. So but anyways, Yeah, we definitely
37:38
Speaker 1: need to book a restaurant, and then what's the big
37:40
Speaker 1: thing we're doing.
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Speaker 2: I can't believe you didn't think about that we are
37:43
Speaker 2: watching our wedding video.
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Speaker 1: Finally, Yes, and we are we watching it.
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Speaker 2: We're gonna watch it in our brand new backyard with
37:51
Speaker 2: the projector.
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Speaker 1: Yes, Zach set up a projector outside in our backyard
37:57
Speaker 1: on the fence. We have like this big actor screen
38:01
Speaker 1: and it's foldable so you can, you know, put it
38:03
Speaker 1: in a storage you know, or in the house. Sorry.
38:06
Speaker 1: And then we got a smart projector where it actually
38:09
Speaker 1: projects Netflix YouTube, I.
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Speaker 2: Thing, yeah, Prime Video, Yeah, I can. You can download
38:14
Speaker 2: other apps so we can watch actual TV out there. Yeah.
38:16
Speaker 1: It connects to Wi Fi and anyways. I'll link everything
38:19
Speaker 1: if people are interested in it. But we're gonna watch
38:21
Speaker 1: our wedding video one night as well this weekend, which
38:24
Speaker 1: I think is gonna be so special because we have
38:26
Speaker 1: not seen it. Everyone wants me to film the reaction
38:28
Speaker 1: of us seeing it for the Yeah, we're gonna ballze.
38:32
Speaker 1: We're literally both just gonna sit there and ball perfect.
38:34
Speaker 1: It's gonna be awesome. It's not gonna be awesome. I
38:37
Speaker 1: hate crying, but it will be. It'll be nice. So
38:39
Speaker 1: that's kind of how we're spending our weekend, super low key.
38:42
Speaker 1: But a few days after that we'll be heading somewhere.
38:47
Speaker 1: We booked something. We're getting on a plane in how
38:51
Speaker 1: many days, like eighteen days we're gonna be on a plane. Yeah,
38:56
Speaker 1: eighteen days. We're gonna be somewhere. So stay tuned on
38:59
Speaker 1: our instagram if you want to see us travel again
39:03
Speaker 1: to a very special place that we will not say.
39:05
Speaker 1: But anyways, I love you guys. Also much, thank you
39:07
Speaker 1: guys for listening to another episode. If you guys are new,
39:09
Speaker 1: definitely make sure to follow at the hawkgirl Energy Instagram page.
39:13
Speaker 1: You can also follow the host Kaylei, which is me.
39:15
Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. But I love you guys.
39:18
Speaker 1: Also much, thank you guys for listening to this very
39:20
Speaker 1: special episode. Zach, thank you for being here. Thanks for
39:23
Speaker 1: having me and spending your Tuesday night recording this episode
39:29
Speaker 1: even though you're very tired from work. But yeah, we're
39:32
Speaker 1: celebrating anniversary and yeah, excited to celebrate another hopefully sixty
39:39
Speaker 1: years with you.
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Speaker 2: Sixty years is that enough? Yeah?
39:42
Speaker 1: Eighty years.
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Speaker 2: It will be eight nine, Yeah, it will.
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Speaker 1: Be eighty nine, so maybe more. But I pray that
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Speaker 1: we have a long, healthy marriage. So I love you,
39:52
Speaker 1: Love you guys, Thanks for listening,