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Segun Johnson Dumped Me After 13 Years of Dating - Debra Kin Cries Out · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Bantu Lorenzi.
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  How are you all doing if you're doing great?
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  For today's episode I want to talk about Deborah Keane.
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  Deborah Keane, the alleged ex-girlfriend to Shegel Johnson,
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  Singer Shegel Johnson. Now we're just isn't our minding
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  our business. Deborah released a three-part
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  video. Deborah said that she dated
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  singer Shegel Johnson for 13 years.
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  People were like 13 years. Hello, Is, is you all right?
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  Is you OK? What happened?
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  According to Deborah, they dated for 13 years.
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  But during that, you know, 13 years there were ups and downs,
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  you know, how relationship goes. Maybe they dated for five years,
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  broke up, dated for another year, broke up.
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  But the total time that they have been in relationship or
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  they have known each other, she said, was 13 years.
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  So during one of those their breakups, she relocated to the
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  UK. She started her life, she was
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  doing well. And then she said Shegel
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  travelled to the UK, came to see her and told her, oh, my story
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  will not be complete without you.
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  You knew me when I had nothing. I want you.
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  I want to be in a relationship with you.
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  He kind of sweet talked her back into a relationship.
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  She said he went back to Nigeria.
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  Then he started pestering her to relocate back to Nigeria, to
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  Jacquard that basically so that they could start their life
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  because he said According to him, he wants to, you know,
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  start his life. So she he never gave her the
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  impression that he wants to marry her.
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  He never told her, he never proposed.
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  He just told her to come back to Nigeria or he will pay her off.
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  Now instead of Anti to choose payment, Anti packed her bags
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  and relocated back to Nigeria. According to her, she had
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  started building her life in the UK.
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  She got a job. I don't know if she has started
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  the job but she said she's got a job and she didn't even inform
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  friends that she was relocating to Nigeria.
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  She didn't tell her family or her her employer that she would
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  not. She just stopped working and
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  relocated back to Nigeria. She said before then she had
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  told Cheryl Johnson that she wouldn't want to depend on him
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  because he told her to just come back, he will take care of her.
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  She said OK, she came back, she learnt how to make hairs.
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  So he helped her to kind of advertise the products, paid
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  some influencers to advertise her, her products.
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  So she thought OK, everything was going fine.
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  December, I think this December, November, she said she relocated
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  back. He picked her from the airport,
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  They did Valentine, they did celebrated his birthday
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  relationship was going on fine. She was in her business.
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  They were they were influence a couple.
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  They were peppering people online, you know, kind of that
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  kind of relationship. But he wasn't posting.
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  She was done posting basically now she said she she they were
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  together. She started seeing messages on
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  his phone and then he travelled to the UK.
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  He came back with something. She asked where the whole thing.
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  Listen, the point is that this auntie left her job and I am
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  very sure he never paid for her to go to the UK.
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  She probably household families contributed money for her to do
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  to go to the UK and a son of Adam who did not propose to you,
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  who did not see your family, who did not make any promise, lured
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  you back to Nigeria. Let me just play that video for
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  you to hear from the horse's mouth what Deborah Keane had to
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  say about singer Sherwood Johnson and their thirteen years
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  relationship. Story time guys.
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  Let me tell you guys how my 13 years relationship ended.
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  Yes, you heard me right, 13 years.
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  So basically I've been with this person for 13 years, although
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  they were upside down in the relationship and you know, and I
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  will look at it with the UK as a point then we can do it in the
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  UK. When he came, I said then he
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  already became popular and became ways right now and you
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  know, he was like, oh, we should be back together.
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  The story will not be sweet without me being there.
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  I was there when he had nothing and all of that.
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  So, you know, we continued when we stopped, like we continue
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  like nothing ever happened and all that.
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  So, yeah. And you know, I always come to
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  Lagos. So this time I was in Lagos
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  around November and I went back to the UK in January.
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  I continued my work. I even recently got a new job as
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  a that generally. And all of a sudden this guy was
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  like, come back to Nigeria and you know, I'm gonna sponsor you
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  and fund whatever you need. But I told you that I'm not
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  ready to come back to Nigeria freely.
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  I need to save more money. Don't want to like depend on
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  anybody. And was like, you know, that I
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  should come now. Like it was literally pestering
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  me to come like right now. Like come right now.
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  If you don't come now, then that's it.
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  I'm just gonna give you whatever I wanna give you whenever you
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  are ready. Like I thought I OK this one,
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  this man is armouring me to come back home.
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  Probably. You know, it's it's not getting
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  younger. I'm also not getting any
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  younger. So probably does not want his
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  woman to be in the UK and him is in Nigeria.
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  And I listened to him like I literally had to like, you know,
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  cut off my friends. Like there are some that I
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  didn't even tell I was relocating back to Lagos.
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  You know, even the new job I go, I had to like disappoint the
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  company and relocated back to Lagos all because I listened to
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  this man. Yeah.
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  Then I came back to Lagos. He even came to pick me at the
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  airport. Like this was the, you know,
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  chain he gave to me and we went to the house.
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  The next day was his birthday, February 14th, Valentine's Day.
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  And I did my little surprise, my gifts and all of that and that
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  was it. Then I think the second week or
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  that same week of his birthday, he went to the UK.
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  So apparently when he came back from the UK, he came with money
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  counting machine. And I was so surprised that in
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  the UK, nobody would ever give you that because I had planned
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  to buy him this same money counting machine for his
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  business course. He makes money whenever he goes
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  for an event, but I just changed my gift and I'm like, who got
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  you this machine? Because obviously it's not
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  enough. But he didn't know.
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  Reply my like, yes, somebody. And like somebody who like, is
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  the person a woman? I was like, yes, I'm like, OK,
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  cool. Like I kept on asking him that.
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  Who gave you this money counting machine?
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  But no response from him whatsoever.
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  Then I just kept quiet. But in my head, I was like my
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  answer will be on his phone. Fortunately for me, I was able
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  to get into his phone low and beyond.
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  A girl actually got him that money counting machine.
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  A guy met up with after his birthday that I went to the UK.
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  Mind you, I was already in Lagos in his house and he left me in
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  his house to go to the UK to meet up with another person.
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  He has been with his babes since last year.
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  I did not even know because there was a time we're together
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  in December because I was in Nigeria November, I came to
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  upgrade my skills. I make her in store and I also
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  sell weeks, right? And you know, we planned this
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  whole thing together, even like paid some influencers for me.
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  Do you understand? I went back to the UK in
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  general. Do you do you guys get what I'm
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  saying? Somebody called and I was like,
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  who is this person calling by this time was like, oh, is sure
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  is a client. The person is a client and she's
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  she's probably not in Nigeria. That was why she thought she
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  could call by this time. I was like, OK, cool, but it was
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  the same lady that got him this money counting machine from
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  London on his last trip, whereas I was in his house in Nigeria.
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  I was not going to say anything about it, but one day we're just
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  having a conversation. I just chip it and I was like,
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  since you have a new catch, I was like, oh, new catch like she
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  catfish. Then I proceeded that we left
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  him in Lagos in your house. We went to go and meet up with
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  another woman in London now. Wow, Esha Milo protection for
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  one hour. Like he was thinking of what to
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  say after an hour. I just replied with laughing
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  emojis. We're gonna attach the chats
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  here. And he said OK, to get my
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  reputation. I didn't see anything.
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  The messages were coming in on my phone.
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  I was saying it. I didn't say anything.
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  And I said now is the time. Like now is the time that what?
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  So I saw the message. I didn't reply, called me.
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  I didn't pick the call. Then he was like, let's see,
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  let's talk, let's see, let's talk.
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  So eventually I said yes, I'm ready to let's see and talk.
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  And I was like, OK, he has no couple of things to do.
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  When he's done he would come around.
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  Then later on I think the next day was like, oh he can't make
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  it anymore. And he sent a break up voice
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  note. He literally broke up our
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  thirteen years relationship through voice notes after asking
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  me to come back to Nigeria. Like I really do not even know
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  what his plan was. Like what did you have been
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  planned for me in the 1st place for you to like tell me to
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  abandon what I was doing in the UK and we look plan for me in
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  the 1st place for you to like tell me to abandon what I was
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  doing in the UK and relocate back to Nigeria.
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  I really even do not understand what his plan was 'cause I left
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  my life, like I was building my life by myself and he asked me
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  to relocate back to Lagos just to break up with me telling me
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  that you want to move on with somebody else.
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  Like make it make sense. Like after 13 years, is this
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  what I deserve? Honestly guys, I don't know that
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  I'm tripping right now but I'm just like it's really sad to be
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  very honest. But why did you bring me back
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  home when you know that you don't have genuine plans for me?
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  Why did you ask me to be coming back right away when you know
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  that you already plan to settle with someone else?
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  You already plan, you know you already have another woman in
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  the UK. Do you understand?
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  Why did you ask me to come back? Why did you leave me on?
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  That was like a full deceit. Like why did you ask me like
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  you? You literally you literally gave
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  me a green light that OK babe, come back home, come and start
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  your business property here in Nigeria whereas we are building
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  a new life with another person entirely without my knowledge
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  until I checked your phone and when I even asked you, you
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  didn't even like feel remorseful about it.
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  You were like, yes, uh huh. Now is the time.
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  I'm not getting any younger. What do you mean by, you know,
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  getting any younger? So what happened to my own age?
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  Am I getting younger for 13 years?
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  Like for 13 years? What was your plan?
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  Do you understand, guys? So And immediately he sent my
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  things back to me 'cause remember when I came back to
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  Nigeria, he came to pick me at the airport and we went straight
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  to his house. So I did like, you know, give me
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  that option to like, OK, when are you?
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  Can I come and take my things? He sent them to me that same
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  day. True.
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  But I was like, don't worry, I will pay for the Uber.
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  And that was it like thing that I disappointed the new company
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  that just employed me. Like I literally, I didn't even
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  like give them any notice. I just literally stopped working
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  because my man asked me to be located back to Lagos.
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  So this is and this was just last month, within a month, you
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  broke things up with me after asking me to come to Lagos.
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  You broke up with me through voice notes.
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  Then now is the time you want to move on.
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  Like so your plan was to like clone me back to Nigeria and pay
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  me off course. I mean, that should be the open
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  like pay me off and move on. Like guys, it's really sad.
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  But everyone should just learn from my story because staying
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  with a man for 13 years is just when I leave you out for
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  opponent, you know, emotionally disturbed.
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  I actually feel sorry for her because she looks and sounds
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  like a lover girl. She looks like somebody who she
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  wants to be in love, she wants to be in a relationship, she
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  wants to get married. And because he was saying, oh,
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  just move back, I would have taken the money, still be in the
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  UK because he gave her that option.
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  He said can I pay you off? I would have taken the money,
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  continue my job and continue my life.
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  But I think she felt he was genuinely interested in her.
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  One thing I've learned is that long term relationship, marriage
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  after long term relationship usually doesn't work because
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  there's a reason why that person did not marry you for a very
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  long time. People can say, oh, it's, it's
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  about money. They don't have the money at
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  that time. People marry when they don't
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  have money. So that's not an excuse.
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  People say, OK, maybe he was not ready.
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  OK, You were his Peck at that time when he was not ready.
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  Shegel Johnson now has money. He has access.
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  Women are throwing themselves at him.
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  He could easily pick whoever he wants.
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  Maybe right now she doesn't fit into that.
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  You know, the spec that he wanted.
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  And probably he actually wanted to marry her.
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  She went through his phone. He was thinking, maybe, I don't
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  know. In my opinion he was thinking
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  that he would just need a wife to be at home, have the
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  children, take care of the children whilst he's flying
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  around doing whatever. Somebody who would who would
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  allow him do anything he wants to do.
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  She went through his phone and she confronted him so and she
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  said for like 1 hour he did not reply and then he sent him
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  laughing emoji. He was probably thinking this
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  was not a plan. You were supposed to be
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  obedient. You were supposed to be
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  submissive. You were supposed to not look at
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  my cheating. You were supposed to just be the
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  Yahoo. Men know what they're looking
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  for. Men know exactly what they want,
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  whether rich, whether poor. They do.
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  Women sometimes have to dumb themselves down to fit into a
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  man's world. She was in the UK.
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  Do you know how much it is to jackpot?
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  Do you know how how hard it is to get a job in the UK at the
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  moment? She got a job.
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  And then I think that was where the wickedness is because or
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  maybe not wicked. He did what he wanted to do.
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  He he probably just wanted her to come back and break, you
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  know, to break up with her at home because he was not maybe
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  man enough to do that in the UK. So which was why he was
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  pestering her to come back home. She should have protected
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  herself. She should have, you know, told
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  her workplace that she there's an emergency.
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  She's going, you know, and she did not tell friends.
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  Somebody could have talked some sense into her.
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  She did not say anything because her man, her man is making
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  money. He's making money.
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  Sis. According to what you said, he,
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  he paid you off. Men are ruthless.
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  So men are ruthless. So men are ruthless.
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  So just carry your money. Book a flight ticket if your
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  visa is still valid because that's, that's another thing.
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  There was this guy who was dating a girl and then for
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  whatever reason, he, he stopped loving her and they were
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  planning marriage. Maybe also she went through his
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  phone. I don't know, I don't know the
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  details of what happened, but he told her to go back home and
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  plan for their their marriage. Her visa was about to expire.
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  So he said, listen, I'm British, you know, just go back home.
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  I can easily file for you all those kind of things.
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  So she had confidence. She said, oh, let me just file
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  for, you know, after masters, you get the two years work
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  permit. He said, no, you, you're going
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  to be a spouse, you're going to be a spouse.
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  Just go back home, be planning the wedding.
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  I'll come back, I'll marry you. It's it wouldn't even take much
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  time. You'll be back here and, you
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  know, enjoying. She trusted this man.
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  At that point, they were engaged.
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  So she, she, it wasn't even like a boyfriend situation.
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  This man allowed her visa to expire and then told her he is
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  no longer interested. She left everything in the UK.
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  She left like, you know why you're relocating back.
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  At least she was able to pack things.
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  She just went home to plan for a wedding.
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  So some men can be ruthless, which is why sometimes when I
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  see women dealing with men, eye tit for tat, you know?
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  But please, my brothers, if you no longer like a girl, don't
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  spoil her life. Don't do it sometimes.
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  Put those girls in your sister's shoes.
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  If somebody does that to your sister, would you be happy?
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  Would you be happy if this was your sister?
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  How would you feel? And ladies, ladies, put yourself
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  first. This is 2026, 2026 anyway people
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  that want to get married would do anything to get married.
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  Those pygmies would do anything to be picked.
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  So wasting advice on them is is is is just people are going to
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  do what they what they want to do.
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  But do that have a Plan B Regardless of what you're doing,
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  make sure you have a Plan B so that when things happen, you
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  would not come and be making videos complaining about 13
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  years relationship. I just hope that she still have
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  have a valid visa for her to come back to the UK with that, I
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  think she'll be fine. Anyway, let me know what you
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  think. Do you think that singer
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  Sherwood Johnson did well by bringing her back to Nigeria
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  with the pretence of continuing her relationship just to break
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  up with her and paid her off? Or do you think that she was
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  naive to have believed that somebody who hadn't proposed to
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  you, who did not out outrightly tell you, I want you to be my
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  wife. I want you to come back home for
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  us to plan a wedding. Would you blame him or would you
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  blame her? Let me know what you think.
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