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What if you don’t trust people? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the In Coop, so in our week of building up
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  gratitude, because of Thanksgiving, we're talking
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  today about what happens. If you don't trust people, this
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  comes up a lot in my sessions and we all have these issues
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  where we've had people in our Lives who have just I'm going to
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  say taught us but it really it's I would say, it goes deeper than
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  that because trust is true. Thing that you give to somebody
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  and you feel like well if I trust you then you're never
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  going to have you know, you're not going to break that trust
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  and we all get so violated when it happens and it can happen in
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  a variety of different ways. Why?
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  Because we are all very, very human and we all have different
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  ways that we understand trust and that we Define trust.
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  I mean, like if I actually said to you, if we were sitting down
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  having coffee and I said well how do you define trust?
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  You would probably pause and say, geez, I I don't know
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  because that's a legitimate question.
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  Most of us don't know how we Define trust.
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  We either trust someone or we don't we get a feeling and we
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  say yes, some of us have very very strict rules for it.
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  Like you have to be XY and z or you have to do X, Y and Z but
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  the truth is even those are not something that you consciously
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  think about a lot of the time. It's just something that kind
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  of, organically takes place. So when we feel like we don't
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  trust somebody Ourselves into a lot of trouble right away
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  because we're violating rules or somebody's violating rules that
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  we're not clear on. I mean, think about how crazy
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  that is. We're just not clear on the
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  rules but yet we know you violated them.
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  It's kind of like, I'm angry with you.
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  And I'm not even sure why I'm angry with you.
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  I just know something happened or we have Clarity on the
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  incident that happened. But we didn't even know there
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  were rules in place around those things because we never voiced
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  them, we kept them inside. We said, okay.
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  This is it. So this is how I feel trust for
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  you, but I'm not defining it, and this gets us into so much
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  trouble and when we sit and think about gratitude and all
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  the people we want to be grateful for and we run through
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  this stuff in our head. Oftentimes it'll be like well
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  you know I had a great relationship with this person
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  but they, you know, they put me in a position where I don't
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  trust them anymore or just in general.
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  Even deeper. I just don't trust people.
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  And that's what this one is really about.
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  Like I can't tell you how many times I hear people say, well,
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  you know, you can't trust people and this is a global belief.
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  Its meaning we make statements that are to our entire world's
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  Global but not necessarily clear on why it's become such a global
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  belief. So if somebody said to me do you
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  have a global belief that you can't trust people?
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  I would say absolutely not in my world I truly Believe in the
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  theory of you get what you put out there so I believe in the
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  good of people I genuinely believe in the good of people.
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  I I 100% have faith in the fact that most people walking around
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  us want to do good. They want to be good, they want
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  to do the right thing and sometimes their circumstances
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  leads them in different directions than the right thing
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  or the good thing, but I believe in the heart of people and I
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  always will, I cannot allow myself to Become jaded, because
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  if I become jaded then, everything else around me around
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  me. Surrounding Me In Me, Through Me
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  becomes that filter, it goes through that filter and it
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  becomes convoluted and difficult.
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  So, the reason this is so important is that you have to
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  protect yourself from the core harsh beliefs.
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  That might be ruminating in your head because if you don't, they
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  start to penetrate your entire world and then guess what
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  happens? You start to.
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  Act things that are not trustworthy or people that are
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  not trustworthy or things. Just start showing up to give
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  you proof that this is you're right, you're absolutely right.
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  It's the same things. When someone says to me, you
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  know what, I just knew it was going to go south.
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  I knew it wasn't going to work out and boom.
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  It didn't work out, so we could say that's our intuition and it
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  might be if it was, truly a moment of like, okay, don't go
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  down that road but then you never thought about it again, or
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  Could be that you manifested it. And the here's the thing about
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  energy and Law of Attraction and human beings, we never know.
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  So I always will air on the side of trust, and I will also say
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  that, you know, many years ago, when Ronald Reagan was
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  negotiating with Mikhail Gorbachev.
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  He always used to say, trust with verification and it doesn't
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  mean that you go into it and you just are completely absolute in
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  your trust and your ignorant to what some of the signs.
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  Maybe B. But it does mean that you can
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  go, and you can be very clear about certain things, you can be
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  clear about your expectations. You can be clear with, if you
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  have issues with trust, you can say, to somebody listened in the
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  past, this has happened and it has put me in a position where I
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  need to be a little clearer on my trust.
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  And so I'm going to ask for x y&z, and if you say it in a
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  non-emotional way, you put it right up front.
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  Most people understand because most people have that same
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  feeling It's all subject to conversation, it's all subject
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  to being open and it's all subject to not being overly
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  emotional about it. It's just being clear.
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  So in this time of giving, thanks for everyone around us,
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  it does involve trust. Again, it does involve first,
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  trusting yourself to say, I can communicate clearly, I can no
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  longer have Global beliefs. I can have situational beliefs
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  where I'm going to look at each situation and I'm not going to
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  judge. Everybody based on one
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  particular person's incident or two particular.
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  People's incidents, pull yourself back.
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  Collectively start to be grateful for all the wonderful
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  honest. Trusting people in your life and
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  they will start to show up my friends.
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  So, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.