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EP 162 God Did · Kennel Talk Podcast

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What's up, What's up? Welcome to another episode of
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Kennel Talk podcast, Your boy cadet, the bowlegged assassin.
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And we have two special returning guests today, 1/2 of
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tequila babies. We got Sarah.
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She's been on the episode a long time ago.
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I was in years. Hi, guys.
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Hello. And then we got returning guests
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Nashi. She was part of an episode that
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got me in so much trouble. Hi, guys.
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Welcome, welcome. How y'all ladies doing?
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Good. How are you?
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Damn, you sound like twins. Great.
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I'm cool, man. You know, working.
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You know surviving. Blessed 2 babies.
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Last time I seen you it was 1. And his own stay too.
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Hell no, it was. A good number.
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It was a great number. I'm cool with too.
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I don't know how people do more than that.
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Hello, I'm gonna be like. I wanted to give y'all flowers
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real quick because y'all been doing y'all thing, you know, I
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pay attention from afar. Thank you, Sarah.
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You've been killing the game with your your podcast with your
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your Co host. Oh yeah, yeah.
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Your partner in crime best friend Gene you know and also
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lock Titian life you know. Respect, respect.
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And then Nashi killing the gang but and both of y'all be in the
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gym OK come. On man trying to stay.
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Right. Listen, got to, got to stay
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looking good. That's something.
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People take for granted just just waking up to do it.
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Even if you don't, you know, always give your all.
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Just going there is an accomplishment itself these
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days. Oh yes, Oh yes, and I said get.
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I'm like, I have to give my girl a shout out because Cassandra V
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energy. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
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She said that baby is not going to stop her from looking good
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and I love that for her. I ain't glad I had to get on her
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ass this this past week, you know?
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Not too much, not. Too much.
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Hey, when the last time you went to the gym?
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Oh, last week. Hold on now, let's get to it.
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You can. Take a break.
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She can take a break. You know, you know, if you take
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a break, it's what. You're right, but but you have
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to give her grace because she just had that baby.
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I do for sure. And she the the bounce back game
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is crazy. I definitely give her grace and
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I applause it, but I also know her when when it starts going
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over that four or five days, I already know what's going to
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happen, so I ain't going. To just slap her on the ass, be
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like, babe, go outside, yeah. For sure.
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But you know, I'm not there. They're still in Florida.
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I'm in Canada. So that's another issue.
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You feel me Like I will happily take care of my kids so, but you
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know, when I'm not there, it's a little different.
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It's our yeah. Yeah, so, you know, I give her a
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little grace, but I also, you got to stay on the ass.
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You got to yeah, facts, facts. All right, man, I just, you
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know, seen, seen some things that have happened on the
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Internet and we'll get into that.
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And I feel like y'all were the perfect guest.
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And now she don't make me get on your ass cuz the last time you
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was on here you let that girl take over the podcast OK?
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I did. You did, you better stay out
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your show cuz this is your friend right here.
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This is your good friend. I got to go.
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UK I had to take it down. That's how much trouble I was
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in. Wow Hey, that episode was yeah,
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we ain't gonna go back to that. But yeah, I got in trouble for
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that man. All right, so OK, First off, I
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got a question for both of y'all and then we don't get into the
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the group topics. This is for you, Sarah.
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So in the two years that you've been doing Tequila Babies, what
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has been the biggest challenge in having your own podcast?
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Oh, the biggest challenge is the time.
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What do you mean the the like having to one make appearances
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like you have to network. You have to So it's just like,
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OK, I'm I'm working a full time job.
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I'm doing here, I'm a mom. Then I have this, you know, new
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hobby and it's just like, OK, wow, I'm putting all of this
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together and I'm having to divide myself into this place
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one day, this place another day. So I would say that just
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managing my time feel like I'm being pulled in so many
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different ways. Have you ever had a guest either
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not show up like say they were so ready to go and then just
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last minute? Oh yeah, I'm nervous.
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I can't do it. I feel like all our guests are
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nervous but we actually it was 1 episode where our guest was
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actually like sick and lost his voice and we ended up like
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canceling the episode. And fun fact is like we don't
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have a, we don't really have like a number six episode.
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We used we used a filler episode from a podcast that we appeared
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on. OK, OK, whatever works.
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Fuck. It it worked because we kind of
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took over that podcast anyways. It was like our show so was like
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okay, whatever, just going to be episode 6.
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So like on YouTube we have 40 episodes, but like on like
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Spotify and other platforms? No, we only have like 39.
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You know, I was listening to the last one you guys did.
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I think her name was Ziggy is that?
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Her name? Yeah, Ziggy.
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That was a great episode. That was I was listening to it
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on Apple podcast and then I was just like, you know what, let me
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let me watch this. It was more entertaining
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watching. I love the video side of of
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podcasting because you get to see, you know, expression.
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Everything. You better put the GET to put
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the face too for the voice, right?
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OK, OK. And now she.
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Yes. What's your biggest pet peeve
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with dealing with people in their hair?
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Oh. My.
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Biggest pet peeve is clients coming with their hair tangled.
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One of my rules is you have to come washed and blow dried.
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But I do understand that not everybody has a blow dryer or
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they can't blow dry everybody. Got a blow dryer?
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Yeah, like, I don't know, some people got a blow dryer.
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Some people don't have the blow dryer with the comb.
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That's fine. OK, But it's nothing to take a
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comb and just untangle it, put in some big twists or something
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and come I will blow dry. But when you come and it's
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untangled, not only does it hurt my hand, but the time.
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Look at this. This is wifey for the baby.
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Yeah, the I already know. It's how I'm so listen.
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I'm all you need. I'm locked in with all the all
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the women products. You feel me?
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Like I gotta pay attention. You got a.
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House full of girls you gonna have.
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All that I I shop for tampons. All that too.
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We're not gonna talk about that. Oh, I'll be getting manipulated
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by that little 2 year old man. Good Lord, she's getting very
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good at it. I ain't gonna lie.
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But I'm going, man. All right, so we're gonna go
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ahead and jump into the topic here for you ladies recently,
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Sarah, I've seen that you got baptized and I applaud that.
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You know, let me make. Sure.
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I will get my. Oh, there you go.
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I hit the right button. Yeah, and then I think now she
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was that last year or two years ago you got baptized.
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Two years ago. OK.
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And I applaud you as well. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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yeah, yeah, yeah. These are big steps.
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Big steps. Alright, So that's one thing I
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wanted to talk about. So I'm gonna let Nashi answer
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this first. So for you, right, what was the
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moment that led you to the conclusion of wanting to get
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baptized? Like, was there a moment?
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Was it over time? Like what was it?
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OK, so it was. So I actually was baptized
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before I think, but when I got baptized it didn't go through
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JKJK. They put the wrong water.
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So I got baptized when I was younger, going to like my
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Haitian church, right? But that was more so like just
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doing stuff because, you know, your Haitian parents, you see
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people doing it at the church. I didn't have an understanding
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or anything like that. So for me personally, I didn't
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count it, right? Right.
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The second time I got baptized, which to me was like the real
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time I was led to it because I was in a really dark place in my
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life. Like a lot of people don't know
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my testimony, but I was like a pothead.
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I smoked weed for like 7 years straight morning, night,
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evening, afternoon. And I knew that I needed a
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change and getting baptized for me was that first step.
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And now I am almost three years without it.
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OK. Yeah, and how you feeling
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without it? I.
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Feel great. I feel great.
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I feel more clear. Like smoking fades your How
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should I put it? It takes you away from the real
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world. I think that's the point.
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That's the point, you know, a lot of people smoke it for
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different reasons, you know, to deal with what?
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Not to deal with things, you know, socially.
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I used to smoke, but my, my smoking literally lasted like a
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six month period. I started and then I stopped
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once I had got my job with TSA because, yeah, they were drug
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testing and stuff. So I ain't smoking like 15
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years. I ain't gonna lie, it's been a
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minute. But it was very easy for me
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because money and smoking, yeah, I'm going to choose making
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money. But people still don't choose
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making money. Either way, they're going to
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find a fake pee. They're going to find ways to
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get a job. But see I know you know with the
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weed smoking, I never understood how *** is always broke but they
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always got money for some damn weed.
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I'm telling you in that somebody in that situation, I always had
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just enough to give me some weed in the.
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But. You go, you go, you go do some
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things correct. You going to make it?
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Make it right? Yeah.
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Just like a crackhead, they always got the money for it.
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Yeah, one way or another. OK.
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And then, alright now Sarah, what was what was your moment,
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your guiding force towards it? I think I went through a lot
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that, you know, I kind of just been adding more things to my
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plate instead of, you know, just facing things head on and in my
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engagement bought a home. Oh, you bought a home, Girl, You
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saying that like that? Ain't nothing.
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Congratulations. Come on.
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It's a lot like I, you know, I've been, I worked, I, you
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know, quit my job, bet it on myself, then I'm like, OK, well,
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shit, this ain't really as easy as y'all made entrepreneurship
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to be this shit kind of crazy. So just like, you know, even
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dating, navigating date dating, that's how we kind of like
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started the podcast. Same same.
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Just all those things that kind of make your life change.
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It got overwhelming, You know, it got very overwhelming.
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And I'm like, OK, I need to find a church home.
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I need to really dive back into who, you know, who God is.
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And for me, it was kind of like he told me to do it.
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Like, you know, I heard him say do it.
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And it's so crazy because the guy that I was talking to kept,
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you know, he kept trying to hint at us again, baptized.
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And I'm just like, oh, that ain't that ain't for me like
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that. Sound like a keeper that ain't a
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normal *** right now. OK, but no, it was kind of scary
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because I was like, I'm not ready to get baptized.
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Like, do you know, like if you get baptized like you, you, you
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said in the commitment to God and I, I really, you know,
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really I put it at this point in my life, I'm like, OK, I can't
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play no more games. So I was always like, no, no,
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I'm not ready. I'm not ready.
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But I think as I got more into the church and started learning
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more of his work, I was just like, OK, like, I can do this.
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And it's so funny because I was just scrolling through my e-mail
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and I got an e-mail from the church about like, you know,
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Sunday service and, and I never Scroll down.
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I just be like, whatever. But I'm scrolling through it
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all. And it was like, oh, Sunday
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baptisms on this day. OK.
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And I'm like, OK. How far out was that that you
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signed up for it? Maybe like a month in advance?
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OK, OK. Were you nervous that whole
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month or like how was? That the whole up until they
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dumped me into that water. I think you, I think you kind of
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hinted at it on your episode. I think you did.
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You said something. I was just like, oh, she's
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talking about. OK, Yeah.
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All right. Up until I when I say nervous,
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I'm like, Lord, I didn't even tell my family until Friday
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night that Friday before. So it was kind of like, I'm
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scared, like I was so scared to do it, but I just heard him tell
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me do it this day and I signed up and you know, the rest is
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history. History.
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You were officially what, 3 days in right now?
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The Holy St. The Holy Sarah St. for I.
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Feel like putting that look for? Halloween she was.
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I love the Saint. That's crazy.
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Yeah. See, it was, it was, it was
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happening. It had to happen.
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It was. Divine.
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It was divine. So for the people that don't
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know what is the process to get baptized besides just like
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signing up, because I'm pretty sure like some churches they
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have, you know, they, they are pretty in depth and serious
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about it where they like this is what you got to do and da, da,
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da, da. But what was your?
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What was your two processes? So for me, yeah, for me, my
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church, they are. They're not the type to just
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say, oh, OK, you want to get that time show up at 10:00 on
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Sunday. They did make me go through like
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a class just to understand what baptism is because I think
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people have this stigma where baptism is OK, you got to be
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perfect, you got to be this, you got to be that.
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So they did a class to ensure that I understood what I was
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doing and all of that and then of.
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Course prior to it, they did a refresher just to make sure my
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mind was still there and I was still OK with it.
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So that was my process. My process was totally
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different. Like, I literally just signed up
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and they sent e-mail communication.
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Come on, bring this. Bring that.
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Come as you are. Yeah.
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That's why I asked. They said what?
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What was y'all dress code? They just told us like, not to
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wear certain bottoms because, you know, once you get in the
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water and you get, yeah, everything is.
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Going to show. So they said wear modest shorts.
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I'm like, I don't even have modest shorts.
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I wore some gym pants. I'm like, look, nothing modest.
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Man, listen, alright, so now she actually kind of into that.
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The next part I wanted to ask was like, do you guys feel like
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there's a pressure added to you guys to be perfect after you get
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baptized? Of course, yeah, I when I first
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got baptized, I remember that same Sunday, a few people from
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the church was like, Oh yeah, we going to go hang out here.
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And I felt like, Dang, I can't go because I don't want nobody
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to be like, did you just get? Outside, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Like, that's the common phrase. As soon as you get baptized,
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everybody's watching you. They want you to be Mormon.
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Everybody wants you to be Mormon.
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Put up in the house. Don't you even look at any type
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of scenes. And that's so unreal realistic.
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That's so unrealistic. And I get, I think I used to
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even look at people like that too.
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And that's why I was so scared. I.
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Have to, I have to. I ain't gonna lie.
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I ain't gonna. Lie, I was scared to, you know,
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do it. I think that's the beauty in it.
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It's like you don't have to be perfect.
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You don't have to have it all together to surrender.
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You know what I mean? To give your life, you know, to
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God. So it was it.
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That's, you know, I guess I'm not, I don't, I'm not thinking
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about it right now. Because I don't.
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Even do a lot anyways, like, OK, yeah, I host a podcast.
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Yeah, you know, all that is cool.
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But outside of that, I'm at home like 9 times out of 10.
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Like if I'm hosting, that's because I'm getting paid.
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So I look at it as work. Ain't nothing wrong with that.
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OK boss. Shit ain't mad it, man, OK
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'cause I ain't gonna lie. So I, I think I said on one
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episode, one time it OK, I understand when you get
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baptized, right? But it is kind of crazy to see
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someone get baptized and then like that same week they they
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down in shots. That's a little crazy.
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I ain't gonna lie. I might give it a little time
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'cause I was baptized early in my 20s, my personal choice.
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A lot of shit was going on. I was on some bullshit.
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You just. Have to.
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Give it to God. You have to give it to God.
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Facts. You wake up and you just like
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Lord. I don't know what I'm doing.
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Please help me. Yeah, man, you know, But I feel
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like as long as you still have that relationship with God, man,
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you know, people that chase perfection are usually the
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people that's imperfect, man. This is an imperfect world.
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You can't be perfect in this world at all.
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I don't. I don't even think it's it's
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possible. I don't think it's possible.
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Who's perfect? Who would you think is perfect
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in this world? But yeah, I mean, we, we always
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want to strive to be like the best versions of ourselves.
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So I think, you know, that alone adds pressure.
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So for me to be like, oh, people watching me, I, I, I honestly, I
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wouldn't give a damn could. They Yeah, I was just about to
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say that they've been watching. They've been watching.
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And I got to talk to you about that too, because listening to
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that episode, I got to apologize.
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I'm apologize off air, you know, OK, OK.
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No apologize on air. No, man, we'll put people on
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blast. I can apology I.
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Don't put people on blast, boy. OK, so let me see.
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Let me see. Diana lost my.
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OK. All right, So you think so?
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We already established it's not. It's not realistic to to say
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after you get baptized to, like, cold Turkey stop everything,
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like drinking, partying. I mean, these things, you got to
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probably dwindle them down. Yeah.
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You know, but do you think it's even realistic that cold Turkey
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stop everything after you get baptized?
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No. Did you try Nashika?
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I feel like you probably tried to do that.
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So for me, like I said, smoking weed, it was cold Turkey for me,
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but it wasn't right after I got baptized.
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It did take some time but didn't happen.
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It was cold Turkey, OK? But I it was a lot of praying
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and begging God to remove this addiction from my life.
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And then one day I realized, oh, shoot, it's been 14 hours.
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I did smoke weed and I was like, let's see how long I can go up
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until till to like till today. So, OK, yeah, it was cold
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Turkey. Oh, and steady low key.
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You know. Wrong.
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And I think people just don't challenge themselves enough,
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honestly. Like, why are you so dependent
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on this? Like, you know, like it's just.
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Yeah. OK.
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Challenge yourself some. People do that, right?
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But then do you guys 'cause I see both of y'all, you know, in
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your workout tip, do you feel like that kind of filled the
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space for certain? Like bad habits?
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No. Not for me, no.
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OK. Not for me, I've been working.
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For a very long time. So yeah, it it did.
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OK, OK, alright, not mad at that 'cause I ain't a lot.
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I like running. What not let me take that back.
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I don't like running, but if I have a lot on my brain, running
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is the best therapy for me 'cause like I'm thinking more
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about what's going on as opposed to the pain of running because I
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hate running, so I just push through.
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Shin's hurting, knee hurting. I just be like, yeah, I.
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Gotta try that because I hate running.
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But I run outdoors. I hate treadmills.
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I can't. Be heavy, I'm gonna go for a
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run. It might.
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I'm telling it's gonna help. Ain't on my it's gonna help for
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sure. It's.
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Well it's just hard bro, like you're.
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Not a runner either. Free.
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No, not really. I'll be trying but like, I went
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to the run club and yeah, I was stopping every.
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Have you ever done a run club Sarah?
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How do y'all feel about the run club?
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I got my own opinion about this. Year, it's not for me.
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I don't like all the people around me.
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Bro, it's it, it, it really gives like what's the little
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dating apps bro? Tinder in person because that's
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what *** be on out there, man. They ain't really trying to run.
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They be running, they be running, they be running.
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I don't like, I'm not, you know, like I'm not someone.
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So I don't sit there and try to be in everybody face right.
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I'll say how do people I know, blah, blah, blah, but I'm just
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I'm ready to go when I'm ready to go.
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You know what I mean? Like I, I did it, I came, I
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conquered, let me get home because I don't even I don't
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know y'all like I don't want to be around y'all people.
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It's too much. Are you one of the people that
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when you run and you'll do like the the camera thing?
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No. I hate them people.
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I'm not even trying to be in my phone I'm trying to get done.
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Feel me like, how do you have time to be like, hey guys, I'm
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running right now? Like what are we doing right
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now? You're not focused.
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I don't like that. Are they just showing off Like
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OK, who? Cares.
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OK, You got good cardio. OK alright.
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So we're gonna switch. We're gonna switch gears real
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quick. So both of you had children.
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Nash, 11, child, one daughter. Big big diva, big diva Energy on
22:56
her. And then Sarah.
22:58
Yeah, you have two children, right?
23:00
Yes. And what are the ages for your
23:03
child, Nashi? Is 9.
23:08
She's nine. OK.
23:08
And then, Sarah, what are the ages for your kids?
23:11
I have a 16 year old and a 8 year old.
23:13
OK. Alright so now if you guys want
23:17
to answer this question, you don't, but how old were you guys
23:20
when you first had your first child?
23:24
I got pregnant my 21st birthday. Happy birthday Dane.
23:29
Hey. I'm.
23:32
Yeah, my 21st birthday. OK.
23:34
Was that 20? No, I wasn't 22 yet.
23:36
Yeah. OK, OK.
23:37
So I was 21. Alright, and it's there.
23:40
I was 18 when I had my child. OK.
23:43
Were you still in high school or out of high school already?
23:44
I was in high school. What high school you went to?
23:48
Oak Ridge? OK, a word.
23:50
Alright, now she went. What you went to.
23:52
Hi, baby. Man, listen, I could have walked
23:55
Evan. My mom did not let me go there.
23:56
I went to Olympia, bro. I went to.
23:59
Jones and then I went to a doctor Phillips but.
24:01
No one moment not let me go there bro.
24:02
It was. Just easier to go to Evan.
24:05
OK, so for both of you, like whoever, whoever wants to answer
24:08
this first, the first child was, was that a planned pregnancy or
24:12
was it just like, let's figure it out?
24:15
Is a less figured out. Nice.
24:18
Mines was not planned at all. I actually took a Plan B.
24:23
Failed like a. Six weeks later I was still
24:29
pregnant. But I think that was my first
24:31
time taking a Plan B, and I didn't know you had like a time
24:34
limit. Oh, it's like the first 72
24:36
hours. I'm not.
24:37
Going to be doing this all week. Let me just wait to the end and
24:40
then I'll take it. But.
24:42
You know, you know, you only have two days.
24:45
Yeah. After.
24:47
After. So yeah, she wasn't planned at
24:49
all. OK.
24:51
Yeah, I was. I was 18.
24:53
Well, I was 17. Being grown in high school,
24:58
just, you know, getting all caught up.
25:01
Getting all caught up What? Is the reaction because I
25:03
remember I had like a girl hit me with a fake pregnancy text,
25:07
right? And I was like probably 19 or 20
25:10
and that motherfucker shook my world up as opposed to now being
25:14
a grown ass adult. And my wife tells me she's
25:15
pregnant. It's just like, you know, Joy,
25:18
OK? Let's.
25:19
Do it right. But what's the reaction of you
25:20
guys though? Like when you when it hit you
25:22
like oh shit I'm about to have a baby or whatever.
25:26
It was depression. You laughing but you dead
25:30
serious though. No, seriously, for me, because I
25:32
was still in high school, I and you know, like this is my senior
25:36
year supposed. To be lit, yeah.
25:39
Yeah, mind you, me and him going, I got pregnant going into
25:43
my 9th, my 12th grade year. So I'm like, oh, this is my 12th
25:48
grade year. I'm about to live life.
25:49
I'm going to go off to college. I'm, you know, think of all of
25:52
this, Then I'm, I'm in summer school waiting for my cycle to
25:55
come and they don't come. So I'm like, what the hell, What
25:58
the hell is really going on? And we broke up too.
26:02
We have broke up too. So it was kind of like great
26:05
timing guy. So me being me being 18, I don't
26:10
think I told my parents. I don't think they found out
26:13
until I I was probably like three months pregnant because I
26:20
I didn't even know what to do. One year I had someone saying
26:23
get rid of it. Then I had someone else in my
26:25
ear saying keep it, keep it. And it's just like, bro, I
26:29
really don't. Not forgetting I love my child,
26:32
but I'm 18. I got.
26:34
Nothing to do with my baby right now.
26:36
I. Want to know what 18?
26:37
But when you look back you probably thought you was grown
26:39
at that time. But looking back at what 18 and
26:42
20s was, bro we were kids and I didn't.
26:45
Even think, I didn't even think I was grown.
26:47
I just thought I was grown enough to do what I was doing.
26:50
You know that's. That's what it was, but it it
26:54
was scary. It was scary as hell because you
26:58
don't know the like, people don't know how hard it is to be
27:00
a parent. And this is if you truly come,
27:04
come, you know, like, invest in being a parent.
27:08
It's not easy. It's not a walk in the park
27:11
like. If you really care about being a
27:12
parent, it's definitely not a easy thing at all.
27:16
But you want to make sure you raise your children right.
27:18
It's it's just something you, you have to care about.
27:21
So it was kind of like, OK, well, now I know I got to work.
27:25
Now I can't, I can't go without having money.
27:28
I can't go without taking care of you.
27:30
But again, it takes 2. And when you're young and
27:34
navigating, trying to make it work because I'm Haitian, so you
27:37
know, and I'm 18 at the time, so my parents are telling me.
27:40
Don't do it. No.
27:41
We gonna go to that though. I will cut you off real quick.
27:43
I will get to that where I now she cookies.
27:46
I want to know that. I already know that went crazy
27:48
with the parents. Well, my, my story is similar
27:52
that so we had a long distance situation.
27:54
He was in North Carolina and I was in Florida.
27:57
OK. And that morning he actually
28:00
called me and was like, yeah, this ain't it.
28:03
I like that. Cool.
28:03
I respect it. Damn.
28:05
That night. That time is crazy.
28:09
Yeah, so I was like this, man, You gonna think that I'm just.
28:12
I was just about to say that, yeah, he probably think he's
28:15
trying to trap him or something. Yeah.
28:17
Yeah, but, and I was not. So I took tests or whatever and
28:21
I told him I was pregnant and he was like.
28:23
What you going to do? So what you going to do?
28:25
That sound like a big guy? I battled.
28:28
With that, until it was too late.
28:30
I literally went to try to get an abortion, but it was too
28:35
late. They were like, yeah, you like
28:37
after 30 mile weeks. We don't because that baby is.
28:41
Full grown. Now it's full and grown I'm.
28:45
Grateful for her. Yeah, shout out to them.
28:46
Blessings, man. Yeah.
28:47
OK. I got beautiful kids, man.
28:52
OK, so now how was that OK? I don't know.
28:56
Nashville. You at home at the time?
28:59
No, I have my own place. You was like, OK, so it's a
29:01
little different for you. OK, so that's more Sarah.
29:03
How was that one? You can still answer it
29:05
actually. You still got to tell your mom
29:06
and your daddy, Sarah. How was that when when you
29:11
finally told the rents? Bruh, Funny story.
29:15
Yeah. Funny story, he actually told my
29:21
parents because my sister, one of my sisters was like, you're
29:25
not having this baby, you're not having this baby.
29:27
So he was trying to tell my parents that we were trying to
29:30
get an abortion. So what she ended up telling and
29:34
they were like, no, you're not getting an abortion.
29:36
Is he Americans bro? Is he American?
29:39
He's Haitian. Well that's not like some
29:41
American ass shit. And an Aquarius might have had.
29:44
Just chill, just chill. Just chill.
29:46
Just chill. Just chill, just chill.
29:49
Just a north. Wait, wait, what month?
29:50
February. Say February, Please say
29:52
February. Yeah, See that don't count.
29:54
That don't count. Shout out to the January that
29:56
you All right, go ahead though. But yeah, so he ended up like,
30:03
you know, telling them or whatever that I was thinking
30:06
about getting an abortion and. From the.
30:10
Whatever, like if you grown, you're going to be grown, you're
30:12
going to take care of your baby. So I had to take care of my baby
30:15
and then they were like, well, y'all grown, y'all going to make
30:18
it work. Y'all going to stick together
30:20
and raise that baby. And I'm like, bro, I'm in high
30:22
school. Like what do y'all want from me?
30:24
And then like we, we tried, but I think we were just, it was so
30:28
toxic. It was just, it was just no, we
30:31
you have to leave. So your parents were like calm
30:35
about the situation. They were just like all.
30:37
Right. I think, I think they were they
30:39
weren't like enraged because one, my oldest sister had a baby
30:42
at a young age. Who?
30:45
Is the oldest. To it Farrah OK OK all right so
30:50
she she had a baby when she was I think 17.
30:53
So she had a baby in high school.
30:55
And I think for me, you know, like I'm the baby.
30:59
So it's kind of like I'm the last child.
31:03
So they're like. Oh, y'all all grown now, you
31:06
know, like our hands are our hands are free.
31:08
We can we can live our lives again.
31:10
So I think they had AAI mean, of course they were hurt because
31:14
nobody want their kids to be, you know, having a baby in high
31:17
school. But I think they were OK with it
31:20
because they've been through it and.
31:22
They love you at the end of the day.
31:24
Exactly. OK.
31:26
And then not so for you, but she was out the house.
31:28
So how was that like when you had to tell your parents like,
31:30
hey. About, you know, regardless, in
31:33
the house, out the house, you know, Haitian parents.
31:35
So I was scared. I made my sister.
31:37
Call them on three-way, I said. Now she's pregnant.
31:40
My mom was like, you know, Haitian, she said a little slick
31:43
comment and that was into the conversation.
31:46
What? Can they do?
31:46
What can they? At that point, right, Yeah.
31:49
I never told my dad I he just he.
31:52
Just found out. Growing, you know.
31:59
That was shit all day, but at the end of the day, I'm here,
32:03
the baby here. What's up Grandma?
32:05
What's up? Closest to your mom or your dad.
32:09
My mom OK 'cause my dad is my stepdad.
32:13
OK, OK. Oh shit.
32:14
Damn. You don't deal with it. *** The
32:16
fuck? My mom's easier, my dad is very
32:20
churchy and old school. So.
32:22
Married by the book. So yeah.
32:25
But of course, you know once their grandkid is here, all
32:28
that. Yeah, yeah, even with even with
32:31
pets. What is it my mom used to say?
32:35
Listen, I used to say, hey, I want a dog when I was a little
32:38
kid. Now little little our little
32:41
Yorkie comes to the house. Oh, Creed, Creed, come on, man,
32:43
you have a dog. They so fake.
32:48
They fake as fuck. Bro fake as fuck dog.
32:53
Once we out of their hands they so fake.
32:55
Sarah, how many siblings you got me?
32:58
Yeah. A total of like, you know, mom
33:03
and dad are outside. Oh, we got all that going on
33:07
too. Yeah, Shout out, shout out to
33:08
that just. My my my dad has 10 kids, my mom
33:11
has 6. Oh, OK, big family.
33:15
Oh my goodness. Huge.
33:16
Love them now. Well, I don't.
33:18
I don't know which ones I know. Then 'cause you have a designer
33:21
you. Probably just know.
33:22
You probably just know my my parents, like my mom and my
33:25
dad's kids. OK, OK.
33:26
It's six of us. OK, so shout out to the
33:28
genetics. That's what I wanted to do.
33:30
Shout out to the genetics for mommy and daddy because.
33:32
Yeah. I got no ugly goddamn sip, bruh.
33:35
Not one ugly motherfucker. Because my older brother.
33:38
My older brother, ugly as shit. He ugly than a motherfucker.
33:43
I ain't gonna hold you man. Man.
33:46
Man shout out to him and my my niece and nephew.
33:48
Thanks for bringing them into the world, you ugly ass *** Bro
33:51
Yo. But now yo bro, thank.
33:53
You babies. They're just yo, hey, listen,
33:55
hey, I'm killing the game right now.
33:56
I got 2, but I ain't going for the third Wifey be like, oh,
34:00
babe, if we knew we was going to have a boy for the third one, I
34:02
would try. I'm like you trying by your gut
34:05
now, suckers. I ain't doing it.
34:06
I'm done. There's two undone. 2 is too
34:09
many, yeah. Listen, I didn't feel none of
34:13
this fatigue and tiredness I feel right now on.
34:15
This you got 2. What, Sarah, can you attest?
34:19
I can attest and it's so crazy because my kids are 8 years
34:23
apart but it's it was starting over at this age.
34:30
Hey, listen, I mean, I did it older.
34:33
I feel like I'm like, and this is one thing I want to talk
34:35
about too, right? Do you guys feel like having the
34:39
children a little younger? Do you feel like you could
34:42
maneuver a lot better now? Yeah.
34:45
'Cause I feel like this is low key the prime of our time, of
34:48
our our my. Daughter can watch my son, I can
34:49
get up and go whenever. It's nothing.
34:52
I love that for me. That's beautiful.
34:54
That's. Beautiful.
34:54
Yeah, my daughter can make her own noodles.
34:57
And girls, I'll tell you one thing about girls.
34:59
Girls are way more independent than boys.
35:01
My son is today. I really had to teach him how to
35:04
make eggs. I'm like, you're 8 and you don't
35:05
know how to make eggs. That's.
35:07
Her deal? Well, my defense, my daughter's
35:09
nine and she don't know how to make eggs.
35:11
But Taylor. Was making Taylor was making me
35:13
breakfast at. These boys, these boys are
35:17
different because I was like 6-7 years old making soup for my mom
35:21
with hey one of these old ass things I work with at my job
35:27
bro. I said something, he was like
35:29
6-7. I said how the fuck you know
35:31
this shit bro like a 45 year old Filipino bro.
35:35
Bro and. She had me rolling dog, but now
35:39
I was cooking early in the game with like the green onions and
35:41
everything. So I don't know these these
35:43
boys. That's why I'm team girls.
35:44
Like I've been rooting for the women obviously, but I just see
35:49
the difference. The girls are more independent.
35:51
They smarter. They, I don't know, boys just be
35:55
chaos. They be chaotic.
35:58
They're they're busy, they're busy, but I would say they love
36:01
you like they love their mommies down so.
36:04
Yeah, that's why I'm I'm cool because I'm teen girls.
36:06
I'm a boy, so. Exactly, so you know how it is
36:10
when it comes to your mommy, you don't play about her.
36:12
So like my son, he don't play about me and I don't play about
36:14
him. So I I get it.
36:16
But my daughter, you know, she she she'd be favoring her to her
36:19
dad and you know, it's, it's cool.
36:22
She's cool. She's tall to me too, huh?
36:26
She Yeah, she's taller than me. I'm shorter.
36:27
I'm about shorter than everybody than.
36:29
You had. Listen, I was about to say, you
36:30
had to think about that. Come on now, man.
36:33
How tall are you, Sarah? I'm 51 and a.
36:36
Half Well, you got to put the half where I so OK, what's one
36:51
thing you guys think about from like when you are raising your
36:56
children early on, right that when you were younger?
36:59
What's one thing you look back and think and say, I wish I did
37:04
this differently raising a child.
37:08
OK, I would say I wish I would have not spoiled her so much.
37:15
OK. Because it's just like now you,
37:17
you think you deserve the world just for living.
37:19
You know what I mean? Like, hold on.
37:22
Fine line. Like come on, Like the way I had
37:26
like, it's because we come from like hardship.
37:29
Like I had six kids, my mom had six kids.
37:32
So, you know, food scarce, you know, like a lot of stuff we
37:35
have like, I ain't have a lot of, I ain't have no Jordans.
37:38
I ain't have no. Can't get the retros man what
37:40
I'm. Going to wait to get a job so I
37:43
can buy my. Own stuff, Save.
37:46
So it, you know, it's just, they're so dependent on us
37:49
because I, I'm someone putting her in gymnastics, I'm putting
37:53
her in this. I'm you're doing all these
37:55
wonderful things that you get to do that I didn't even get to do.
37:58
So it's kind of like, you know, you, you, they have a sense of
38:03
entitlement like she does. I'm not going to say it, all of
38:05
them. And so I'm like with my son, I
38:08
just tread a little different with him, like I've learned and
38:11
she'll be like, oh, you treat him better.
38:13
And this is like, no, I don't. It's just I learned from you.
38:17
Yeah. You were the test.
38:18
Yeah, yeah. Facts.
38:22
Hell yeah. OK, now how how you feel about
38:24
that? What you got to say about that?
38:26
I guess for me, my kid is still young, so one thing I would So
38:34
the question was, what is something that you've done that
38:36
you wish you didn't do? Like something that you feel
38:39
like you've done, you could have done differently.
38:46
Putting her on to fruits and vegetables early and it's so
38:52
critical. My daughter is 9 and I struggle
38:55
with that, but that's important. I'm 30 and I'm just getting to
39:00
that point so. Wait for yourself or for her.
39:04
For me, eating veggies. Yeah, now I eat veggies, I eat
39:08
all that stuff, free vegetables. But for a long time I was
39:12
picking out my food. I now you can give me food and
39:16
I'll probably eat 90% of everything on my plate, but I
39:19
would say that so any. Parent out there.
39:22
Is so critical put them on early because my daughter will not eat
39:28
anything. Yeah, that's that is true.
39:30
That is true. And cooking more like I wish I
39:32
would have cooked for my daughter.
39:34
You was doing the McDonald's runs.
39:36
McDonald's run and then like that.
39:37
Easy stuff too, like the stove top Velveeta like you.
39:41
Know like like come on, I. Ain't gonna lie though bro, it
39:46
was 1 morning I woke up because I usually wake up early when
39:49
when the family was here in Canada I usually wake up before
39:51
everybody. So I'm like, you know what I'm
39:53
I'm good spirits. Let me wake up and make these
39:56
little tiny pancakes and eggs for my daughter.
39:59
Took my time made eat a little small.
40:00
That *** looked at that shit and was like, I'm straight.
40:04
She's such a picky eater, bro. Like if, if the chicken has
40:07
sauce on it, she's mad. She's not trying to eat it like
40:11
the girl. She's such a bland eater, bro.
40:13
I don't I don't understand it. It's.
40:14
Crazy as long as she's eating. Bro, you feel me?
40:17
That's. Like that's a struggle at that
40:19
age. Too, Because my son is a saucy
40:21
eater. Like he'll get Chick-fil-A sauce
40:24
and put it on cinnamon. He he just wants some sauce.
40:28
I don't even go together. Very different, very different.
40:31
Like Pedia, Shore is keeping our daughter alive because.
40:34
Hello, as long as you eat baby, I'm good.
40:36
God, someday she gonna eat this. You be like, okay, she likes it,
40:39
let me get it tomorrow. Nah, Nah.
40:42
Wasting food, wasting money. Like, you eat that?
40:45
Yeah. She's like, Oh yeah, I don't eat
40:46
that no more. Yeah, they love to not eat stuff
40:49
'cause I just. Bought lunch because I'm like,
40:51
OK, I found something she likes. Yeah.
40:53
Oh yeah, that no more. Yeah, they taste buds change,
40:56
but never for the good. I got a curveball for y'all.
40:59
So being OK, would would y'all consider when?
41:03
When, when the kids were born? Would you consider yourself
41:05
single mothers? At the time?
41:07
Yeah. OK.
41:08
So how was it like? No trying to.
41:12
You said no. No.
41:14
You were with your. I was.
41:15
I wasn't a single mother. You were with your baby's
41:17
father. OK.
41:19
So at what point? How how old was your daughter
41:22
when you guys, like, were like, yeah, I'm not, I'm not trying to
41:24
fuck with you. No.
41:25
More she was 3. Three OK, still young.
41:27
OK, so this question still goes to you.
41:30
How was it trying to navigate dating while having a child
41:33
honestly. I thought it wasn't hard.
41:39
Yeah, it wasn't hard. No, I never like they never met
41:45
my daughter or anything. You know, I feel like it's
41:48
recently, like right now she's met the one person, but.
41:52
The one from the podcast. Yeah.
41:56
Shout out to him. Shout out to him.
41:58
OK, He lasted. OK then.
42:00
Yeah, going strong. But yeah, that's the only
42:03
person. But it wasn't hard.
42:06
I have my own place, so whenever I needed to hang out with
42:09
somebody, she's going to my Mama house.
42:11
OK, OK. So it wasn't, it really wasn't
42:13
hard, OK. I feel like men don't care these
42:16
days. They're going to still pull up.
42:18
They're going to still do what they.
42:18
Got to do if you bad enough. Oh yeah, I love kids.
42:21
I don't care about that. I.
42:23
Love kids eating the kids snacks and all of that.
42:26
Yeah. So no, it really wasn't hard.
42:29
I feel like people make it seem like it's hard.
42:32
It's not hard to find. They be like, Oh yeah, if you
42:35
got multiple kids, you ain't going to find nobody.
42:36
Yeah, I see people with four kids meeting people and you
42:41
know. Love their dirty draws.
42:43
Yeah, it's it's not hard the way society makes it soon.
42:47
Like they shun, they shun single moms and it it shouldn't be like
42:50
that like, but like Josh, you said, I don't think it's hard at
42:52
all. Like especially when you have a
42:54
village that can watch your children most important.
42:59
Part it's. You know, it's whatever.
43:01
Navigate OK, I'm gonna end it with this, 'cause you have said
43:05
something on your podcast, Sarah, what I said you had said
43:13
so when when you had your second child, right?
43:17
And then you you were engaged. You got proposed to like what?
43:22
What about the the engagement made you feel like it was
43:25
because of the child 'cause that's what I wanted to touch on
43:28
real quick. And then we gonna let y'all go
43:31
on about your lives tonight. OK, so I feel like like I do
43:36
feel like he, he loved me, right?
43:39
But I felt like because of his own situation where he had his
43:46
first child and it was all a mess to say the least.
43:53
This this. Is the person I know right?
43:56
Yeah, I don't even know you're. The most kid.
43:59
OK, well don't work. Go ahead and continue.
44:03
You know, you know, he, he had another child, but it was like
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the situation was he was messing with a girl, she had a man.
44:12
And so he really didn't know who, who could have been the
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father, right? And essentially it was his.
44:21
But the other person signed a certificate.
44:23
So technically he liked the daddy, right?
44:24
Because when she signed that birth certificate, that's your
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child, unfortunately, right? You got to establish fraternity
44:32
and all that. It's, it's a, it's a lot because
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I, you know, I was, I witnessed it, right, Right, right.
44:36
But that part, my ex would always be like, oh, and that's
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how God is so humbling because he'll usually be like, Oh, my
44:43
first child is going to come from my wife.
44:45
And you know, and it so happened that his first child didn't come
44:49
from his wife. So I think him getting me
44:52
pregnant, you know, and you know, my phone was planned.
44:56
I didn't want him. I did want a child at the time.
44:59
So I think he just had to, you know, make sure he did it right
45:05
this time. I always say that you didn't do
45:08
it right. There's no right way.
45:09
I always say right, yeah, cuz people be like cuz I had went on
45:12
a podcast when I was in Orlando and they was like, yeah man,
45:15
I'll come in. You did the right way.
45:16
I'm like I hate hearing that cuz I'm like there's no right way in
45:19
this bro like. If you wanted to work.
45:21
As well. Exactly cuz like people can get
45:24
married and like they living on two sides of the house.
45:26
Like we know that in the Haitian community people do that all the
45:28
time with their parents, but there's no right way.
45:30
As long as you know kids happy, they healthy.
45:33
Fuck it, that's the right way. Yeah, and I think if you, The
45:36
thing is when a marriage, I feel like you guys should be on the
45:39
same page 100%. And that's essentially why the,
45:44
you know, the marriage never happened because we weren't on
45:46
the same page. Because you know, deep down the
45:48
side that what you did was just for the for the people.
45:54
It was for the audience. It wasn't for but you.
45:58
It wasn't for marriage because if it was for marriage, we would
46:01
have been married. Right, right, all right, all
46:04
right, all right. That's what I'm gonna apologize
46:09
about anyway. OK, man, this was actually very
46:13
informative. It was short, but it was
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informative. I had fun for sure man.
46:18
I appreciate y'all man. So, you know, this is the time
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we on my podcast, we we give the the guest the time to plug what
46:25
they got going on. So who wants to go first?
46:29
Well, I'll go first. I don't have a lot going on end
46:33
of the year. I'm so happy that it's winding
46:35
down for me. Not too many events going on,
46:39
but you can always TuneIn to Tequila Babies podcast, 40
46:43
episodes in now at Tequila Babies on all social media
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platforms. You know, look out for us.
46:51
Yeah. All right, Nash.
46:55
You guys already know I'm a braider here in Orlando, FL
46:59
where I service kids, men and women.
47:03
You can follow me on Instagram at Braids by Nashi as well as my
47:07
personal page Nashi Pair and Yeah, where you see all type of
47:11
content from lifestyle, gym, hair, a little bit of
47:16
everything. Yes, yes.
47:19
And by the time this episode comes out, we will be in 2026.
47:21
So happy New Year to everybody. Man, I hope.
47:23
Yeah, this year is full of blessings, peace, prosperity and
47:28
plenty of money, man, you know, leave all the.
47:30
Toxicity by the name of Jesus. You guys got a few hours to
47:33
leave all this toxicity that that you know, held you down in
47:36
2025. You got a few hours to leave it
47:37
behind, guys. All right.
47:38
We've been to me and I should go get some seafood, OK?
47:43
Yeah, once again, shout out to Sarah and Ashman.
47:45
I appreciate y'all coming on the episode today.
47:48
Oh, let me plug in my personal. Oh yeah, go ahead.
47:50
Instagram I'm I'm put it on the profile.
47:53
Yeah, no, I sometimes I'm so forgetful, but my hat name is
47:56
Sarah Juliana under score, under score.
47:59
And also my business page for locks is Sarah Juliana Artistry,
48:03
Sarah Juliana Artistry and check me out if you want your locks
48:06
done OK. I have all of that in the
48:08
profile guys. Y'all make sure y'all, y'all
48:10
click the link and and check them out.
48:12
You know, follow them, plug the pages, all that good shit before
48:17
we gonna end it. But don't hang up because I say
48:19
what I was gonna say. So yeah, All right, man.
48:21
What's the game man? Is the boy good at the bowl
48:23
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48:28
Man, y'all have a blessed year. My Yanks like what the fuck
48:46
going on? Don't worry about it.
48:51
That's what is those and I feel like a South Florida DJ.