Why Emotionally Unavailable People Attract Each Other: The emotional skills we were never taught about intimacy

What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors · Jun 3, 2026 · 40m

This is my Episode #3 of my new relationship show podcast. Why Emotionally Unavailable People Attract Each Other: The emotional skills we were never taught about intimacy

Emotionally unavailable people often attract each other because the relationship feels familiar, safe, and validating of their existing beliefs about intimacy.

Familiarity feels like chemistry

Neither person has to face deep vulnerability

They reinforce each other's core beliefs

The pursuit creates intensity

Available partners can initially feel boring

Intimacy requires the following five emotional skills:

Emotional…